Divorce and Toxic Relationships Suck; This is How I Try to Help

[@dreamofmine]

I just started listening to your book. As I get my "chores" done, I am out-loudedly agreeing with every point you are making. My husband cannot stop letting me know that he is a "good guy". Halfway into chapter 2, I'm getting physical anxiety because I know, or assume, based on history of his actions, that my husband will never understand the content of this chapter as it relates to our marriage. Today is our 19th anniversary. My plan is to buy him this book and leave it on the couch with a note as I take off to a few days' retreat for myself so he will have time to read it. My hope is that it opens his eyes. My expectation is that he will be angry and defensive, and I will have to continue with my game plan for leaving. I hope that you have found at least some healing in helping others. Matthew, thank you for your book. Thank you for your videos. Please keep doing what you are doing!

[@dd-ey9xp]

Don't forget to invalidate any of your husband's concerns. As Matthew teaches, you're the empowered partner and any concern your husband may have with you or your actions are to be invalidated. And be honest; you were going to leave him anyway.

[@ahmieyeung5812]

Follow-up?

[@lindsay3793]

Update?

[@channingtaylor9323]

Ty so much for ur help, I couldn’t explain or point to our issues

[@Asfgxff]

Yes!

[@syncstudy8792]

Keep sharing your incredible story! It is going to save uncountable lives! Thank you so much 👍👍👍😍💞

[@dd-ey9xp]

More crickets from Fray because he likely realizes that he is destroying relationships by validating every concern of one spouse and invalidating every concern of the other.

[@ahmieyeung5812]

Woah wait - you're wearing a Cleveland Cavs shirt and that looks likely to be midcentury Greater Cleveland area architecture behind you meaning we may be local to one another. I want to collab on in-person speaking/workshop gigs, I have several venues locally I would like to amplify your voice. Look for contact re that please.

[@dd-ey9xp]

Matthew doesn't help by empowering one partner over the other. The only thing to do is to leave your partner before they leave you. That way, you control some of your trauma.