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Off and on for the first couple of years, they conceived their daughter one night during a casual hook up. Charles did not think the baby was his and was absent the entire pregnancy. After the baby was born, a DNA test proved HE is in fact Maddie’s father. Since then, Jasmine and Charles have grown progressively closer and are now living as a family with their baby. Charles has since proposed, but no wedding date has been set.
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[@dawnjeffers2009]

There is a difference between individual attending Church and been a Christian. A lot of people goes to church as tradition. Being a Christian is having a personal relationship with God

[@wendyann3333]

Exactly !

[@lovinmycurvescurls3842]

And living ur life according to how God wants u to

[@sexypeach1891]

I agree.

[@zurislaughter8722]

Amen

[@tashawilliams8093]

True but you're not exempt from problems and mistakes.

[@HTAnderson76]

He abandoned her during her pregnancy and then returned to be a part of his daughter's life AFTER the results of the paternity test. He literally does NOT seem to want to marry this woman, but he DOES want his daughter to have a 2 parent home. He's not going to stand in Judge Toler's court and admit that he ONLY wants to co-parent, but that's exactly what his body language said.

[@peepfan1436]

And he met her at church? Lol

[@asabifatosin1150]

He loves her but he can fall in love with her _ if she and her feminine ego allow for it to happen. Really, the judge should be glad that he couldn’t stand up there and lie. But, to his credit, he wants to make a sincere effort to make an honest woman out of her and assuage the hurt and embarrassment she went through. He also was honest in wanting a DNA test. If she’s smart, and isn’t looking to take revenge on him (because she looks very capable of that behavior), she can have a very happy life with him and their offspring. If she’s wise...

[@PuffinPsychologist]

Asabi Fatosin Haha you blaming her totally? So it was her fault that he disappeared for her pregnancy? Carrying his baby? Didn’t even bring up a paternity test with baby in the tummy? Yeah but SHE needs to be made into an honest woman?? From what... HIM? He’s about as far from an honest man as they come. Talking about “WE MET IN CHURCH” 😂 🤣

[@hienienguyen6766]

Exactly p

[@ennenoire]

@@PuffinPsychologist idk if he didn't want the baby, it was her decision to keep it overruling him. If he wasn't ready to be a dad then I can't really blame him, she was way wrong for that. I think it's cos she liked him and cos of her "faith" she didnt wanna get rid of the child so🤷🏾‍♀️

[@JoeyDamocles]

Met in church, became "friends with benefits", then fell in love AFTER they had a baby. Lord, have mercy. What exactly are they learning at church? Well, at least they are considering being a married couple and doin' right.

[@queenteireigns6212]

I was like what??.Lol

[@bryanbeeman5256]

😂 😂 😂 apparently they weren’t learning anything in church about order. Hope things work out for them though

[@AshleyAshleyAshley395]

Tee Po me too. I have my headphones on and walked away from my phone. I had to rewind it and come see what was going on. Whatever church they going to I don’t wanna go if this is what’s going on. I think they confused the church with the club. That has to be it 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@queenteireigns6212]

@@AshleyAshleyAshley395 lol right.

[@amaranthinevision3450]

I had to replay....and listen again... say what?!? 🤣🤣🤣

[@gracemorganspeaks]

Whoever is reading this never give up. You are a fighter and a winner. There is greatness within you. You ares so close to victory.

[@queenteireigns6212]

Thanks same to you!!

[@prodigaldaughter6732]

Thank you I needed to hear that. God bless you ✨

[@tiffanywilson6420]

Thank you!! God Bless you🙏🏽

[@princessmajeedabanda5287]

😍😍be bless

[@nbkg487]

Thank you. Many blesses to you!

[@misslauren6798]

They got together the "wrong" way. I see why she's worried about the depth of his feelings. I wish they had an update on this couple.

[@beautyishername503]

I mean correct me if I’m wrong but she keeps calling him a ladies man and saying he can have anybody he wants. And I just don’t see that at all

[@naturallytajy973]

🤣🤣 I thought the same thing

[@clowannashoulars5937]

😂😂 Yeah I was scratching my head with that statement!

[@positiveelegance286]

Lmao!!! 5 mins in and im like i dont see it either! No shade but....seriously?

[@egyptsun3258]

Right, cause I was like “he couldn’t get me” 😂😂

[@denezebootle]

I was wondering too 🤔

[@brandancharles3292]

I just think she's more into him than he's into her

[@Selflove_1-g4e]

I got that from both of them body language

[@gwenettethacker9533]

He actually said that she fell in love with first. That seems to be the case still.

[@shereekern6801]

Seems like that I hate seeing that. 😔

[@stephaniewilliams3460]

I do too

[@FangyDoesArt]

Well duh

[@Singlehood2Marriage]

They met in “CHURCH” but then became “Friends w/ Benefits” ...... then had a baby 🍼 ...NOW are considering MARRIAGE?!?!! How backwards is this?!?!?! 😩😩😩

[@sugarplum2467]

You missed the part where he wanted her to have a ABORTION lol. IDK what sect of Christian they are supposed to be *eyeroll*

[@EnubeeStyle]

🤷 and I thought that wasn't what church was pho!

[@ISayToMyself]

These are them new kinda church folk. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@asabifatosin1150]

Sugar Plum People need to stop pretending that this doesn’t happen often. A whole lot of marriages of Christians happened just this way_shotgun or marriage after baby was born. That doesn’t make them not be Christian. Furthermore, no culture or religion that I know of, and I study, approves of or encourages having babies without being married. Christians (or Jews or Muslims) didn’t invent or institute marriage. The concept and societal more existed long before any of them came into existence. And many married women had abortions before finally bring married, if they were to be honest. Unfortunately, most people worry more about how society sees them than how their god views them.

[@manij1913]

ISayToMyself oh no sweetie they just more open about it . Ain’t nothing new 😂😂😂😂😂

[@itsme3k]

He's full of crap. Sis leave him alone. Someone will come along who loves you and your daughter unconditionally.

[@TriaMaxwell]

Hey, the man can take care of his daughter without any obligation to stay with her mother

[@pottnosticator3907]

Oh God.. Lady, why would you want this woman to be a lonely single mother? Marriages aren't perfect, but the grass IS NOT greener on the other side. This woman is grossly overweight, getting old with an average face. Men aren't checking for old, overweight single mothers, okay? Her man isn't perfect but she should make the best of her relationship. She should start by eating right and hitting the gym.

[@koribanks3641]

Doesn't sound like the daughter needs love though... It's HER that's looking in the wrong places for it... She is the one that's more into him than he is with her... Sure they had a child, but he seems to care for his kid... She has just as much blame because she fell for him and had his seed... I'm pretty sure he didn't rape her, so that's how the kid got here... She just needs to make better decisions... And maybe STOP looking for love, and focus on working on herself to be a better role model for her child... Instead of pointing the finger and playing victim... His only wrong was having a kid with someone that was just "benefits"... It was a mistake on his part that should've never happened because of the destruction it's causing now... But SHE chose to do the rest...

[@TriaMaxwell]

@@koribanks3641 She could have aborted or given it up for adoption.

[@shaniharris4343]

@@pottnosticator3907 this lady 25!! No way she's old. Very harsh comments, she definitely doesn't have to settle

[@crystalunique9732]

She went way deep when describing how she felt about him, but when it was his turn, describing her was .... Ehhh.... it was short & sweet. Such an emotional detachment displayed by him. No deep feelings. Her motivating him is all he seems to like and being a great mother to their daughter. Girl, I don't think he wants to be on an island alone with just you & him tho. Nah, that wasn't a mutual feeling hun. Not at all. 😬

[@ninadrake2167]

Dude you weren’t scared when you were “using” her like a “Drive Thru,” but your hesitant now? 🤔

[@beautyishername503]

Nina Drake okay 👌🏽

[@beautyishername503]

Nina Drake 🎯

[@zenabadjei2991]

They agreed to have a mutual sexual relationship but he’s taking advantage/using her? I don’t understand that form of thinking from women you want to have a FWB relationship with someone. Then if you have feelings for the other you expect the person feel the same or want more. If the person doesn’t have mutual feelings now the other person is advantage or hurting you. No you put yourself in a situation and you just don’t like that the other person doesn’t want you more past sex.

[@scream1237]

“Using”.....Classic!

[@ninadrake2167]

Ladies stop letting these “Males” derail your destiny through lack of wisdom. You lose your power and choices by laying up with “Benefit” Boys! Let him “ride-someone-else’s-thighs-to-hell” until he’s ready for a real relationship that includes marriage! 💯

[@positiveelegance286]

Soooo true!!!

[@ukbluebell09]

I don't think this dude is all the way in. If someone better comes along he would be gone.

[@kj3887]

I may be wrong but isn't that how most relationships work.

[@itsme3k]

@@kj3887 No.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Lionbabe Lolo - Man, what does that say about us as people? Is there a such thing as “ better?” Like what? No kids? Beautiful? Intelligent? Articulate? Someone that won’t sleep with me right off the cuff? You really said something that’s got me thinking. I appreciate it.. 👍🏾

[@aw8119]

Lionbabe Lolo exactly! This guy would be gone in a flash. Along with his smiles, grins, and giggles.

[@AshleyAshleyAshley395]

KjGotBeatz no lol. If I wasn’t happy with my mate I would leave, heal, date and move on. I have never and would never leave one person for another. I do know people who has done that but it’s wrong in my opinion. To leave for another person that means your cheating. It could be emotionally or sleeping with someone else.

[@meirarosendahl9019]

He likes her friendship and wants to be a dad to their child, but he's interested to find another love interest into his life.

[@keepingupwithliberianteete6971]

The relationship started from a rocky foundation... that guy is not ready at all🙃🙃

[@noyb9895]

Why so backwards have a child then fall in love 🤷‍♀️Met in church smh🤣🤣

[@iamnicole303]

She definitely cares just a “tad bit” more than him. Guess that’s one of the consequences that can come from FWB

[@TriaMaxwell]

10 years FWB, I never fell in love and told him he better not

[@aw8119]

I see co-parenting in their future.

[@patt2486]

See the same. He will always be there for her, not he will always love her.

[@ivyalston7277]

Me too, they are not on the same page with their feelings

[@devonholmes8213]

This man showed his teeth more than he showed & expressed how he really feels about her 😒

[@sevenmoore9208]

Lmao

[@coriesmith2633]

Met in church as friends with benefits🤔

[@quomiekolewis971]

🤔🤔🤔

[@patt2486]

🤔🤔🤔🇨🇮

[@kilo9439]

It seems that she must follow her instincts because having a low relationship on sex that is followed by a child does not mean that he is in love and wants to become a spouse

[@ComicBooksandVideoGameNerd96]

Friends with Benefits what kind kind of church y'all go to

[@meirarosendahl9019]

Perhaps "the Church of the Friends of the Benefits".

[@asabifatosin1150]

Meira Varjus Funny 😂

[@ComicBooksandVideoGameNerd96]

@@meirarosendahl9019 more like the Church of f******

[@Beetwate305]

I want to be a member

[@carlissasmith1908]

Everybody in a "church" isn't staunch and devote...thus the purpose of church...to seek and save the lost! Jesus came to seek and save the lost--not perfect people!

[@bryanbeeman5256]

He’s not enamored with her, nor do I see him look at her during the session. Just like others have stated, he loves her, but not in love with her. He may not be that into her....🙁 PS- TO ME, she is a gorgeous young lady. I hope it works out for them.

[@Suzyfromtheblock]

You right Bryan, she’s beautiful, I hope it works out for them they should really look back on the tape and digest exactly what judge toler has said

[@divineapology818]

I'm not sure how any woman could even consider a relationship with a man who even recommends an abortion. Sad. **I see a lot of comments bashing them for being Christian and making bad choices. Spiritually is just one aspect of humanity. Going to church doesn't fix poor self-esteem or automatically instill the values that should've been taught by parents. Becoming a whole person takes work and effort...counseling for some.

[@maddamdearest1]

Thank you ma'am 👏🏿

[@shereekern6801]

Yes

[@kyvministries]

Bingo!

[@StreetVibezTVOwolabi]

I think his really afraid to say what´s on his mind, he does not love her but he appreciates her and he is afraid of losing the only thing that gives him true love which is his daughter. he loves his child not her but he is willing to sacrifice his true feelings just to make sure his daughter does not go through the same thing he went through by growing up in a single parenting home.

[@simiqueen5700]

When your situation is "Friends with Benefits" protect yourself o...

[@blessed1b306]

Yes o

[@ck.5218]

He’s lacking on the emotional level, lacking strong love , geez any type of love .. any woman can take care of the business of paying bills and house hold things.. he doesn’t get it.. she’s right to worry..

[@hangtyme765]

@Kathy Marie -- Question for one of my favorite DC commenters (you). What can he do to show his love? Better yet, what specific thing did his fiancé say he's doing wrong? Should he give her more time? Maybe listen more? Tell her he loves her more? Be a better father? I watched the whole show, and her fears seemed to revolve around things that could hypothetically happen in the future. She bragged on him all throughout the show, but everyone in the comment section talk like he's trash.

[@ck.5218]

@Hang Tyme I’m afraid he damaged the relationship..with his desertion while she was pregnant.. so all of what you said might suffice , and then some..do you not listen to the judge ? She even said he needs to do more, give her passion.. what ever it takes .. I agree with the judge he sees the child as part of himself so he has no problem showing it love .. Toller said if he can love his partner and not see her just as a mother and filling the partner roll things would be better ( add libbing here ).. he didn’t even understand what is partner was saying even the judge said he doesn’t get it..it’s not what she was saying .. not saying he’s trash ..but he is a worry .. she said she’s worried that in 5-10 years after a few more kids , a bit more weight would he move on .. all he did was sing his “ I pay the bills etc” that’s not what concerns her.. his fidelity.. him loving her no matter what happens .. he left her when she was pregnant..didn’t want the child .. he has a lot of repairing to do..I can understand her fear .. if he can leave at a most important time in a woman’s life ..pregnancy and birth .. what other boundaries is he willing to cross. Even the judge told him to woo her ..that’s what she needs as well.

[@hangtyme765]

@Kathy Marie -- I'm hearing you as best as I can, but you still didn't give a tangible, concrete answer as to what he can do. If you listen to the whole video, the girlfriend never even said he was doing anything wrong. As a matter of fact, she gave him 100% praise. "Proving" that he'd still love her and the family life in 5 years is akin to "proving" to a potential employer that he won't shoot up the place in the future if they give him a job. I could comment on his absence during the pregnancy (in which he was wrong), but it would delve too much into the different ways men deal with unwanted pregnancies (abandonment) vs how women deal with them (abortion, adoption). We'll agree to disagree, but I luv ya still.

[@ck.5218]

@Hang Tyme thank you .. again agree to disagree .. thanks for the luv :)

[@asabifatosin1150]

Hang Tyme No, I didn’t. I don’t think he’s trash. If that were the case, his heart wouldn’t have yielded in the reality of his baby girl. The rub for the woman is that she feels that not only does he love their baby more than he loves her, but that he loves her BECAUSE of the baby, that without the reality of the child, he would have never chosen her. Perhaps that’s true; but he wants to put his all in. She has the chance to be with the love of her life and have him fall in love her or go on to find another man and just co-parent. She has to be honest about the situation. And not use marriage to punish him...

[@tellnolies8530]

So the preacher didn’t teach y’all that a man that finds a “wife” finds a good thing! NOT friends with benefits, sex always complicates things soul ties.. Never shack, have babies and give up the cookies 🍪 until he puts a ring on it!!

[@TriaMaxwell]

She talked about how she knew how he was and still went along with it

[@asabifatosin1150]

Tria Maxwell EXACTLY!

[@TriaMaxwell]

@@asabifatosin1150 Tired of my fellow women acting like the victims

[@iriatanee386]

Not me pulling my phone closer to my face to try to figure out where this ladies man part is... lmao

[@Breakfastwithmo]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Bruh, I am screaming 😭

[@fionadarlingb]

I don't think he's in love with her like she is with him...😞

[@tallunicorn7986]

He can get any woman he wants?!?!?!!!! Uhhhhhhh......no

[@julietbrown3906]

Tall Unicorn Exactly what I said, No!

[@Ais-eb9bk]

That guy is despicable. What is he doing acting Christian in church and then abandoning his pregnant woman in her main time of need? He does NOT love her. He loves her as a mother to his child and thats it.

[@bambidaydreamer3]

His body language and dry responses said it all. Take a hint woman! He's insecure, but frankly I don't understand why when he makes it so easy for his partner to leave and seek affection elsewhere.

[@JuanitaMichelle]

He ain’t ready.

[@tashanapink7688]

Im taking into consideration that they were young. I hate to break it to y’all but there are a bunch of young people doing the nasty in church they just haven’t been found out yet. When you mix being young, in church, not married and the pressures of bringing life into the world, ANYBODY would be scared. The difference is the men have time to process their feelings since they aren’t the ones bearing the physical consequences whereas the women have no choice but to deal with it as soon as the pregnancy test come back positive and they are being reminded of their sin every month for 10 whole months. Maybe she has right to be concerned but if I were her, I would count my blessings that I have a baby daddy who stepped up to the plate and would do anything for his daughter. Many women all over won’t ever have that testimony.

[@asabifatosin1150]

Tashana Pink 👏🏻

[@cymbolichuman433]

Christians do not flaunt sexuality. The live a moral life. These people are not being educated. And they don't care.

[@jenniferballou9010]

Boy! she loves her some him! Him, he still wants to charm the ladies with that beautiful smile.

[@kayt4564]

I think she should be very worried, the man stopped talking to her while she was pregnant. She seem more into him. Mostly likely he married her bc of the church. I hope they work but don’t see it working.

[@asabifatosin1150]

Kay T They’re not married. He wants to get married because they have a child. This makes her unhappy because she wants him to marry her simply because he’s madly in love with her.

[@Bayouma777]

@@asabifatosin1150 That's exactly right. They both are responsible for the mess they are in, but their daughter is a blessing. Prayerfully they will both be a blessing to their daughter. They are not in love with each other. The judge was right, it still could work out for them, IF they BOTH want it to work. She said she feels he is ready and stepping up to be in the father role, now that he knows he IS the father, but she doesn't feel the he is 100% into her, so she already knows that. She wants assurances of what he might do 5 or 10 years down the road. No marriage is guaranteed of what might happen 10 years down the road. But if she has that much doubt NOW and in her heart of hearts, she does not feel secure now, then the judge is right; it's not the time for her to consider marrying him. She said herself, he seems more in love with "the idea of marriage and the perfect family" than he seem in love with her! Some men do think that way. More often women think that way, back in the day we were taught as little girls that we would get married, have children, be the perfect little wife and mother, and to just wait until our Prince Charming comes along, and boom everything falls in place. As the judge said, back in the day, a lot of times (even in the US) people were "put together" or it was assumed that this young man and young woman would "end up getting married" because maybe they grew up together, their parents were friends, they went to the same little church or school, or whatever, and respected each other, and maybe loved each other; and if they were lucky they even fell "in love" somewhere down the road, and if not, at least they had some level of mutual love for each other and they raised their family and that was that! Back them some women purposely got pregnant by a guy they liked because if their parents found out they ended up having a "shotgun wedding" and they could "trap" the man they wanted. But being forced to marry someone does NOT suddenly make them love and be in love with you! It never did and it never will. If this lady does not feel the love and respect she needs and deserves (he abandoned her while she was carrying HIS child, really??), then she is better off just co-parenting her daughter and waiting for the man that will truly love her for who she is and is the husband she deserves.

[@Suzyfromtheblock]

I would have liked to be at the cookout he took a whooping 🤣😂

[@prodigaldaughter6732]

It never fails premarital sex breads miss trust because if you know you and your mate are not being faithful to God when you know you’re supposed, how can you trust they’ll be faithful to you.

[@Rooted_Locs]

yea he is not in love with her, but at least he wants to be a good father to his daughter!

[@wresltgal]

I don’t understand why people mainly women say they want their baby to grow up in a two parent household but yet they don’t get married first before they have the baby

[@odessa1011]

What church you going to?! Formication, Abortion, Unforgiving ... y’all need a different church! They need to be speaking the truth to you.

[@carlissasmith1908]

It's obvious he isn't into the relationship as she is; however I love the fact that he is willing to be responsible. Man up and taking care of his child thus making the mindfulness of family! Hopefully they will succeed❤! Many have married out of obligation and thus fail in love. Once all the lust dies down...in majority of marriages...it back to knowledge and mindfulness of one's behavior in life!

[@annplushbunnyarthur6958]

......then fell in love. That's shade idc what no one said but I'm here for it lol

[@cynthiakila1161]

😄

[@shayla1270]

He abandoned her when she was pregnant. That should of awoken her brain and take care of her baby and no relationship at all with him. He wants casual relationship no strings attached. She should of known that before getting back with him after he abandoned her when she needs him the most.

[@foxyboop4164]

I think he may not be the one for her... he's giving me .... other vibes but carry on! 🤷🏾‍♀️ She's sweet and extremely forgiving!

[@Chanelrobinsonfaus]

Foxy Boop gay vibes...sorry that's what I'm getting 🤷‍♀️🏾

[@eltinand1321]

From the moment I saw him that's the vibes I got.

[@LadySuchiko]

I don't care what you have: a baby, a mansion, a small loan of a million dollars, you CAN NOT keep a man that doesn't love you. That dog just don't hunt.

[@eltinand1321]

I don't know what she sees in him she's beautiful!! He's definitely a closet case.

[@natashamwangi4890]

Her profession of love is the best I've ever heard on divorce court

[@shaianndenton4668]

Same thing I said

[@joymosley8997]

I said the same thing.

[@suerichards47]

There is one sensible person in this relationship and she is spot on

[@chrisbriscoe7138]

Ain’t nothing wrong with friends with benefits but COVER 👏🏾IT 👏🏾UP 👏🏾

[@Passion85031]

Chris Briscoe 💯

[@essence4life23]

She better listen to her intuition. He abandoned her during pregnancy thats a big red flag. He knew it was his baby and left. WTH. She wants to keep him but he wants to coparent. He is a great father but not a great boyfriend. Red flag again.

[@Bubbles-fw2ps]

I think he is still young ,got scared and ran away ,which was wrong! But he came back ,and is trying so I wish them the best of luck! Also I applaud her for being a strong woman, and had her child ,which I think he is now grateful for! I agree with the judge that they need to focus on their love ,and keep that fire burning so they can be a strong couple when they get married ,and she truly feel loved and secure.

[@indiaalmighty]

She’s in love with him but he’s not in love with her.

[@book5047]

Church +friends with benefits (open relationship in church) followed by pregnancy etc! Lord take the wheels and save your people before it's late!!

[@kimmerryjohnz6039]

How can you be a friend's with benefits with someone and end up having a child with him that's confusing

[@asabifatosin1150]

Mariama Johnson How? Women have been planning entrapment of men via pregnancy since forever.

[@kimmerryjohnz6039]

@@asabifatosin1150 how can you have with someone whom you know doesn't worthed that's very cheap

[@DeviancyBehavir]

Yup, tried to trap him and got trapped. lol

[@kimmerryjohnz6039]

@@DeviancyBehavir exactly its very funny

[@lajunecrockett2381]

Because they both are at fault....they were not kids...they both should have had practice some type of birth control if they were just acting as friends with benefits ...especially being in a church..

[@MzLin08]

If I was the judge, as I was giving my final verdict, I would come down and just shake the guy vigorously! I don't think the reality check settled in about his issues. If he is not honest with himself, he will leave the woman high and dry like he did when she was pregnant!

[@sydoz1956]

not just his fault she got pregnant!

[@positiveelegance286]

She didnt get pregnant by herself.

[@mrs.h4728]

They are both at fault

[@hienienguyen6766]

For him to leave her during the pregnancy isn’t right. He needed to be there for her the most. Regardless if he was married to her or not. He just didn’t want to take responsibility for his actions .

[@RacieRain]

Don't sugarcoat paternity doubt. How awful for her to have gone through that.

[@asabifatosin1150]

Rachael Thomas Why was he wrong to have paternity doubts? They had no commitment to each other, so she could have been seeing other men like he was seeing other women.

[@ddnquestion1]

What type of church is permitting friends with benefits, can't play with GOD and expect, POSITIVE RESULTS????

[@misslauren6798]

I didn't think churches really controlled what people do outside of church.

[@ddnquestion1]

@@misslauren6798=More gossiping goes on at church than anywhere else trust me someone knew!!!!

[@MsAngelique]

@@ddnquestion1 That's not control. That's just gossip.

[@asabifatosin1150]

Dwahn Denson 🙄 What? You think they advertised the arrangement? Lust is a must.

[@Mzpretty17]

I just wanted to say after reading so many of the comments not everyone attending church is a Christian. Some people are just trying to figure it out and yes they did everything backwards but don’t keep putting it on the religion itself.. those individual decided to behave that way and everyone is just trying to figure out life and have faith and hope and some people it takes them a little longer...

[@muzkiachiwa1267]

If he lick his lips one more time

[@Jasmine-qz5gd]

I literally love judge lynn!!! She so wise and powerful! I got her book on Amazon. I love it Good bless u

[@123CREATIONS]

Did you hear the announcer in the beginning saying "they became friends with benefits, had a child, and fell in love" SERIOUSLY PEOPLE THAT IS NOT THE ORDER WE ARE SUPPOSE TO GO IN PEOPLE SMDH!!! YOU DONT GO TO COLLEGE BEFORE YOU GO ELEMENTARY SCHOOL #DAMNNNN

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

I can understand why she may feel the way that she feels, but at the same time, he stepped up to the plate, and many people don't do that. Both of them are responsible for the nature in which they met, but it isn't fair to just put that all on him. I just don't know that the judge's synopsis was 100% accurate on this one.

[@tashanapink7688]

I actually agree with you. I also took into consideration that they were young. I hate to break it to y’all but there are a bunch of young people doing the nasty in church they just haven’t been found out yet. When you mix being young, in church, not married and the pressures of bringing life into the world, ANYBODY would be scared. The difference is the men have time to process their feelings since they aren’t the ones bearing the physical consequences whereas the women have no choice but to deal with it as soon as the pregnancy test come back positive and they are being reminded of their sin every month for 10 whole months. We can’t run away or hide from it.

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

@MARJAN I agree with the part that he shouldn't have abandoned her. I know he mentioned that he wasn't sure if his daughter was his based off their relationship, but at the same time, I feel like he could have at least checked in to see how she was (at a mimumum). But at the same time, men end up in situations where they try to step up and they realize that the kids isn't theirs, only to find that he is still the legal father, so I can understand why someone who isn't sure would keep their distance.

[@The.S.M.Evans.91]

@@tashanapink7688 Exactly. People grow, and ultimately, even if this didn't happen, who's to say that she wouldn't feel the same way based off how their relationship even started. Everyone has the right to feel how they do, but at the end of the day, its nobody else's job to make anyone happy but you.

[@asabifatosin1150]

MARJAN Nothing honorable about a woman who attempts to get a husband by purposely getting pregnant either

[@maryannemoll]

I’m sincerely worried about her. I hope he does what the judge says. I want their union to work.

[@onetoone1775]

He feel in love with being a dad, so you two stop and face reality and just be great parents and leave marriage alone. You already did it all so getting married is not gonna get you a ticket to heaven 😂😂😂

[@patt2486]

Do not force the guy to show her some passion, to woo her, he may resent her later. It's either he wants to be there, or he doesn't. She should have seen the writing on the wall when he asked her to get an abortion rather than face up the consequences of their activity, in church......

[@swenett1308]

When he starts to articulate his love to her she will be speechless. It happened to me and it took me a while to be able to tell my husband how impressed I am with how verbally and emotionally expresses his love to me

[@marcie164]

She's a great mother figure and a great friend to him!!

[@marcie164]

@@scream1237 That doesn't mean she isn't a good mother, it means she made a bad choice. I'm sure the kids wasn't plan while she was ovulating but that doesn't make her a terrible mother, it makes you look at your responsibilities and be responsible.. IJS

[@marcie164]

Scream 123 no this was her lesson, we all have those

[@marcie164]

Scream 123 if it was a mistake none of us would be here

[@asabifatosin1150]

Hooked up via church, started sexing each other, didn’t use protection, had a baby w/o marriage. This is why they say the worst sinners are in the church pews_faithfully.

[@asabifatosin1150]

MARJAN According to the Abrahamic faith systems.....but what has that to do with my comment? Did I say otherwise?

[@kitthecat6543]

If you dont want kids, use protection! Have BC!

[@latoyapeters5708]

Friends with benefits situation always start off fun and end with a sad story

[@ewjoyce5692]

Loving someone is one thing being n love with them is another, right now he's not n love with her like she's with him. I guess 4 the moment if she want 2 keep him she may just have 2 accept him being a good father & being appreciated as that good mother of his child.

[@Bayouma777]

IF they can both do that, it will benefit their daughter for they will both do what's best for her and still show mutual respect to each other. That's best for the child. But to get married knowing they are not on the same page about how they feel towards each other, would only cause more strife, mistrust, and probably end in a messy divorce anyway, and THAT would NOT benefit their daughter...or them.

[@DanielCharlesNaijaenterNews]

Not everyone can express themselves. This is not a cheating problem, is not a lying problem, we shouldn't destroy them. Whatever they both have is fixable.

[@Ganjatarian]

Nahhhh I cringed when it was his turn to describe how he feels about her

[@shey1146]

For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God but when you keep sinning and falling deliberately I mean....

[@bongoikno4994]

She trapped that poor guy

[@eltinand1321]

Poor guy my foot. He Gay as hell!!

[@jdaisley03]

Can he talk without smiling or is everything a joke to him.

[@ericablige9449]

I hope they make it. Beautiful ppl🌹 i believe they will If he commits to working on himself Blessings 💜

[@Suzyfromtheblock]

❣️♥️

[@V.Hansen.]

Why would you have 2 more kids in the next 5 years? Don't do it!

[@tipdog36]

Women like her is why there are so many fatherless children in the world...no matter what the law says, you can't force a man to be a father ...as so many woman try to do.

[@pamelarhoad9689]

When a man abandons you it speaks volumes. Where was his heart then? Did guilt bring him back?

[@ceded6543]

We just going to gloss over that her family member hit him. Regardless of how tacky he might have been why do people get to be violent

[@fancyndzefu7798]

Did I hear that right? "Met in church and became friends with benefits " 🤔 🤔

[@maryCCFarm]

I just loved this couple and wish them the best..Judge Lynn had me laughing ... She is too much..lol..

[@DDT2358]

My mom had to force me to eat cream corn as a child because I hated it... she never had to force me to eat candy.

[@jo-annbastings]

«He could have every girl he wanted»?! Really?!? Man! That woman didn’t «shop around» too much! «He is very handsome»....«He is very good to look at»... Honestly, I really really do not see that at all! Her bar of expectations is very low.

[@joymosley8997]

You can't make him want her. He doesn't want her as his woman. He likes her, he's fond of her, but he doesn't want her like that. That's what I would've told her. Shes in love with him, but he's not in love with her. Sad state of affairs 😢

[@kimiveymakeup0]

He doesn’t want her. He would have left her completely alone if it wasn’t for the baby.

[@janellepilgrim3046]

This is a classic case of why friends with benefits don’t work! He did want that child and both people were seeing other ppl! (But in church) He clearly stated he didn’t want the child but homegirl thought the baby would bring them closer together! (Mistake #1) Sis you feel like that because you know deep down he doesn’t love you the way you want him too. Be great co-parents and leave it alone. The judge wrong on this one-- A baby can not keep a man-

[@britt3044]

Judge Lynn Toler is. THE BEST divorce court judge

[@scream1237]

I’m a “ churchgoin person” is Cover for ...I’m really a good person , regardless of the 4k sht you’re gonna hear I did in a minute.

[@kyvministries]

He doesn't love her like Christ loves the Church. She knows it. But won't accept it. Although....if they decide to proceed and make the Lord Head of their lives and marriage...He will soften this young man's heart towards her. I've seen it ..

[@shelocsher2396]

Ppl blow my mind having unprotected sex and considering it casual. You’re trusting this person with your life and health; there’s nothing ‘casual’ about that.

[@sherienichol1580]

These titles be too funny 😂

[@flowerbirds2961]

They are sooo cute!!! A great looking couple with an amazingly beautiful baby. GOD BLESS THEM 🙏🏾

[@annisaarthur-castro6227]

That woman was reading thise red flags about him right and Judge cosigning them should've cemented it to her. He wants his daughter to live with 2 parents so he's faking the funk but you can only do that for so long.

[@Francene113]

He doesn’t want to marry her, but he does want to do the rt thing. Not sure if their marriage will last. This is a tough situation. She’s in love with him, but his body language says: She better be lucky I’m doing rt by her. Wow. I also wonder if she trapped him bc she knew he would do the rt thing and bc she fell in love with him. 🤔🤔🤔