Do All Virgins Think the Same? | Spectrum

[@Gageshmoney]

The guy with the white shirt looks like his microphone keeps falling off and that his thumb was bleeding and that he has a 600K+ subscriber channel and would make a video on this

[@elvyg.soltau6443]

This video brought me over here too. Lol

[@aven4812]

yeh i know rightt

[@samuelbeltran2649]

Same

[@MissMarisa7Beauty]

I feel that

[@ducepap1352]

When did he pull out the cards

[@InternetGirl1093]

I really feel like so many people just don't realize how many people are virgins simply because they have just never been in a relationship. It's more common than you think - 27 year old virgin here.

[@dystanysam9896]

I’m on the same boat I’m 28

[@colorfulcodes]

So true. Especially in Millenial and Gen Z generation. There are some articles about us being "sexless" compared to the previous 2 generations. A lot of it has to do with technological advancements.

[@kaylee1769]

I’m 21 and never been in a relationship, makes me feel better hearing that it’s common haha because I feel like everybody my age has or is in a relationship. Makes me stress out and feel like I’m falling behind in life 😂

[@Mandy-ms9kb]

Same, and I kinda feel shame to tell my date that I’m a virgin now. 😂

[@johnkofi-theultimatelife1315]

27, never been in a relationship, not virgin. Eventually, sex becomes a (big) part of a relationship, but you don't need a relationship to have sex, right ?! I feel that drinking and partying is more of a factor :p

[@iamLucid]

V-Card Gang

[@uusn1037]

Ayyy v card gang also at 7:40 look how lucid walks that little stroll that's cute bro poor lucid my man waked the wrong direction 12:30

[@sageb4me]

Hey lucid can i get the gold v card

[@senpaisenburg]

Lucid

[@yuravhirachund190]

Yessir we see u g

[@Daze]

YES

[@corvusdax8048]

We need another round with virgins that ain't saving themselves for marriage

[@komfykoala6083]

Yeah some people just don't want to/are not ready to have sex.

[@kaya6447]

...or can't get unless it's with a stranger which they don't wanna do

[@l0v3lyniaa]

ong

[@pixie77531]

im not saving myself i just do not wanna have sex tbh its not something i desire or care for

[@laaa9429]

Yessss, I was expecting to relate a bit with at a few of these people. Don’t even think I want to get married, just would like to do it with someone who I trust, but have trust issues

[@candc8417]

" Women get shamed for sleeping a lot while male get shamed for not sleeping a lot " that is true and it is actually crazy how this works.

[@stevenx399]

It’s because of patriarchal societal standards

[@steakismeat177]

Not really. It depends on your surroundings. While women sleeping around is definitely shamed, men sleeping around is also shamed. It doesn’t carry the exact same connotation, but its not celebrated outside of a high school or college locker room. In the real world people tend to prefer people who have a modest amount of partners and those who are over sexual tend to be viewed as having a problem.

[@Cheetahlover]

@@stevenx399 no it’s not

[@stevenx399]

@@Cheetahlover ok virgin

[@Vitaflickan]

@Last Christmas I gave u my Fart Maybe try to look up simple biology before you go spreading lies and hurt people. A woman who is NOT turned on will be "tight" and dry just like a man who is NOT turned on will be "soft". If women got looser through copulation then women who've given birth to babies would have slapstick lips down there with a gaping hole the size of a baby's skull or body 🤡 And we both know that's not true lmao fkn ldiot

[@nissad.12]

i love how everyone is respectful about each other’s views, why can’t people be like this all the time

[@carontorliak2760]

People tend to be leagues more respectful when they talk face to face with someone who holds a different view. I wish this was the case on social media.

[@Heltiic]

They're infront of a camera, ofcourse they will be.

[@merylljoyruiz8032]

Because not all people are the same.

[@DarisDamaris]

Because all these people have mainly the same views, obviously they won’t disagree much

[@HoubyTravels]

Cuz these people do have IQ and especially EQ

[@Caamiii_s]

I can't even look myself naked in the mirror because i hate what i see, sometimes it's not because you are waiting " for the one ", you are just waiting FOR YOURSELF

[@adt4025]

Yes! How can you be comfortable with a completely different person if you aren't even comfortable with yourself?

[@ginandromeda1618]

"Waiting for yourself" that's a nice way to put it, yes, I feel the same way

[@kayoss2306]

All healthy bodies are perfect bodies. You're a mammal, not a mannequin. Focus on your health, not your appearance, and learn to love your body for it's ability to function. Your body is your vehicle in this crazy thing called life. Love it and take care of it.

[@kathkortus]

okay, that is beautifuly said

[@henrydodson655]

How old are you?

[@RAEMUSE]

asexual people are normal people. there's nothing wrong with us.

[@maelenia]

yeah!!

[@sharstarg2414]

Period

[@jennyjoot9184]

fr, why is it so hard to understand that some people just don't care???

[@helenkerls2235]

Amen

[@juanpedro4083]

@@maelenia I am a virgin because I am waiting for the right person. I am 60 years old.

[@Waywind420]

A Gay, Asian, Cowboy, Virgin It's like he has a spinning wheel select his attributes :D

[@jordeminnis8580]

After he introduced himself, I legit paused the video and said these exact words. 😂🤷🏾‍♀️

[@jocyyy0]

lol

[@Waywind420]

@@jordeminnis8580 haha he's cool though, a bit of a character

[@MirageUchiha]

You saw Soul right? Welp, there's you're answer.

[@harutosunaa3881]

Yep

[@candice283]

The “women get shamed for sleeping around and men get shamed for not” part really got me thinking where tf did that mentality come from?

[@NoName-sp5dp]

Patriarchy and unregulated religion

[@roronzoro9795]

It comes from our primitive cavemen days. Men would go out to woe woman into procreating with them in hopes of spreading their genes as much as possible - whereas woman would act as the gate keepers and pick out the best secure male to procreate with. If the woman was promiscuous and was sleeping around; she would be seen as an risky individual to get into a relationship with (less trustworthy) due to the fear that the future offsprings might not be theirs but another mans. As such, through out time (even till this day) men who sleep around a lot = “masculine/ high value”. Woman who sleep around a lot = “Slag/ low value”. Men who sleep around less “low value (viewed as someone that can’t bring much to the table as he can’t attract or secure a lot of woman)/ less masculine”. Woman who sleep around less “saint/ high value”.

[@on_spikes6867]

because of the difficulty. as a woman it is "easy" to sleep around. not sleeping around is "difficult", because they have to actively turn down the guys who ask them out. on the other hand, sleeping around for men is "difficult". you have to put in effort and be proactive. not sleeping around is "easy" for men, because if you dont try, noone is gonna approach you. you just get left alone. i realise that easy and difficult arent the best words for it but its not my native language and i cant think of better words. i also realise that this is very generalising and there are certainly exceptions.

[@lucyairapetian407]

Biologically, males should try to put their genes into as many females as they can. Females, however, have to choose the best option, cause they can’t conceive with a bunch of people at once as males can.

[@on_spikes6867]

@@lucyairapetian407 honestly we are so far removed from actual nature, your take i find to be not really applicable to humans. other mammals, sure.

[@Siilahsilas]

In our hyper sexualised society we should normalise speaking about virginity. Thx Jubilee

[@iamLucid]

for real

[@stefvnbrssl8601]

True, but I think we should also learn to talk about sex and not in the way that it's happening now: girls should do it as little as possible and boys should do it as much as possible or else they're not masculine

[@DoodleDan]

@@iamLucid yooo you’re the dude in the video

[@stefvnbrssl8601]

@@aspannas what no, sex is still a taboo topic, and women get slutshamed way too much for doing the same as men

[@aspannas]

@@stefvnbrssl8601 I read your comment wrong apparently, I thought you said the opposite.

[@zahard1732]

"I feel like men are more praised when they're virgins" this girls clearly has never been to the internet, or highschool or just close to any men at all

[@toomuchinformation]

I think that this is more prevalent in religious circles where women are expected to be virgins before they marry and men are forgiven if they're not. But if they are, they get praised to the hilt for resisting temptation, which is seen to be harder for them. In secular circles, then it's quite different.

[@lightningmcmeth4201]

She is near men... now

[@exxiyya4855]

@@toomuchinformation Yeah, I also thought she meant that.

[@Misbah.404]

@@toomuchinformation in our religion punishment for men and women for not being virgin is the exact same. The reward for both of them for being virgin is equal. Islam says there is complete religious equality in case of sins and rewards, in case of worldly rights sometimes men have it more and sometimes women.

[@toomuchinformation]

@@Misbah.404 But is that the way it's interpreted and practiced in the real world?

[@JohnDoe-tl7zg]

Never in my life have I seen a gay, Asian cowboy Edit: does not mean I’m homophobic you fools

[@youraveragestalker8438]

He's so xool5

[@youraveragestalker8438]

COOL

[@han5562]

very common , just different race and country

[@Fatelvis2]

do you think he was influenced by brokeback mountain ?

[@han5562]

@@Fatelvis2 who's that

[@Skullfire56]

I just dislike the fact that as a straight man who is a virgin, people either call you gay (knowing there’s gay people in relationships open or not) or an incel, I’m not a creep who hates women.

[@sebastianbech2391]

i think gay people have way more sex than heteroes, it shouldn't be an insult

[@Farhankhan_the1]

@@sebastianbech2391 im 20 gay and virgin so idk about that im kinda saving myself

[@bobthebuilder6412]

Incel means in-involuntary cel-celebate. Involuntary celebate means you are involuntarily not sexually active so you struggle to find someone to have sex with even though you want to have it

[@Matyunkin]

@@bobthebuilder6412 yeah, but as often, people change meaaning of the word - now it's about can't get laid and hate women for that (and incel community not always helping with that misconception). Just like feminism became about defeat pathriarchy more, than about equal rights.

[@bobthebuilder6412]

@@Matyunkin technically defeating the patriarchy is seen as equality to them. But you are right an Incel is someone who can't get laid, yes mostly for their sexist and toxic views

[@quackquack2436]

I would have liked to have more different mindsets, the fact that most of them are waiting for marriage doesn't allow the video to show other perspectives that I think are very important to consider and would have been interesting to hear about

[@filipcz2560]

You should checkout Alex’s (the No Fap guy) channel - iamLucid That might give you what you’re looking for

[@kaspergacek4529]

Agreed

[@imlikett5293]

‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@Eddi3Pwns]

Some people don't feel comfortable with themselves or their situation in life, and I feel one perspective that was left out was some just don't feel ready and would rather wait for a time when they're looking or find something more serious.

[@kearawerth4073]

Definitely. This group is romanticizing sex and that’s the only perspective.

[@Kassandra_016]

Can we just take a moment to commend this guy that admitted he was sexually assaulted and his bravery? No one really said or did anything. As a survivor just think it’s important & I want to give him a hug.

[@Solar-em2ld]

As somebody who's still a virgin at 21, I honestly feel no pressure to have sex. It's my life, it's my body, and I'll do it when I feel comfortable. If someone wants to shame me for that, I think that says more about them than it does about me.

[@kinikoi]

Preachhhh

[@IamMortui]

Let me guess, you're a woman? Because women get to choose when and how they have sex. Men don't really have the same options.

[@larrylime4132]

Yeah it sounds like you're a woman. A lot of guys unfortunately have much more pressure to have sex.

[@littlesparrow303]

@@larrylime4132 yeah as a girl I can understand the guys perspective. I remember seeing some ppl talk about how many girls do they have sex a day & they put a huge number when in reality they never did lose it

[@Solar-em2ld]

@@IamMortui I'm a dude actually, but I am trans so it's not the same experience as someone who's born male, I'll give you that.

[@fbspin]

Shoutout to the virgins who were just never in a relationship and focus on their career and or/studies before finding a partner.

[@pjswag2118]

Sexual transmutation

[@Darienlover999]

Thank you 😍

[@nucle4rpenguins534]

same, just focusing on grad school and self improvement overall

[@jjkn884..]

@@pjswag2118 yktv

[@vyspeeds]

I’m wondering where this idea that sex would interfere with any of that comes from

[@ManonBlackbeak]

I don't feel like this has a good representation of the "virgin-spectrum". Most of these people didn't have sex because they are waiting for marriage. I'm 25 and a virgin. I wouldn't mind having sex, but I feel like there hasn't been a good opportunity. I have commitment issues, so I need to have trust with someone before I do anything. Most boys I've encountered where like 'let's meet up and go straight to bed'. And I don't work like that... I may need to go for a coffee or sth before, so I can get to know the other person and gain trust (like a few of dates, not a full relationship nor anything like that). Furthermore, I went to a school with the same people from the 3 years old 'till 18, so I didn't get to meet a lot of boys. And in college, 95% of my class were girls. So... cue to today, with zero experience with boys.

[@inspireandbeinspired579]

90% of what you said is my life lol

[@KarlSnarks]

Yeah I need to trust someone before feeling comfortable having anal sex. It's not even about having a relationship with them, but I just need to know that they're emotionally mature about sex. I have done oral though, because it felt less intimidating to me.

[@deeee4607]

Omg! I'm 25 too and its crazy how my situation is quite similar to yours. Happy to know that there's nothing wrong with me 🙏🤣

[@kari3623]

I get what you mean😔

[@MichAlva96]

I’m a 24 year old grown woman and though I was the only one who had this situation. I feel so glad to actually read ur post and not be weird about it :)

[@jmjung9]

Emmanuel has been building it up in his mind soooo much that it's gonna be such an incredible spiritual experience, I'm worried he's gonna be disappointed his first time

[@pixie77531]

fr😭😭

[@kmacgregor6361]

Yeah, I feel like they will all be disappointed to figure out this is just ... an activity you can do, that's not really magical or sacred or anything.

[@dickiewongtk]

No. The activity in and of itself have no objective value, It is all subjective. So if he believe that it is all spiritual and incredible, it will be. The same goes with marriage.

[@Rakshit_Pareek]

That's why he said it will get better with time.

[@xowarrior]

yes the first time is horrible overall so i wouldn't save my v card for the wedding night yk

[@A--lex]

My guy emanuel has been hyping up this marriage longer than marvel built up thanos he better not get divorced in 3 months...

[@fisizion5091]

No way he gets divorce

[@user-ii2rf8cs8j]

😂😂😂😂

[@abhunnid2013]

😂😂😂

[@trentcockman7838]

Even I’m hyped for it now lol

[@daisybirch8818]

LMAO LITERALLY

[@ifyogbue2629]

This crowd is not diverse, there are a lot of people who are virgins for other reasons not just marriage

[@iEatGophers]

Like what

[@ifyogbue2629]

@@iEatGophers some people have no interest in sex, some are waiting for the right person, some have medical issues like vaginismus, some are anxious and can’t deal with physical contact. There are a lot of reasons

[@leprechaunishable]

@@ifyogbue2629 i think most virgins are still virgins because they just don't find anyone.

[@szajszjanka4003]

@@leprechaunishableit sounds really mean. Lose virginity is not the main goal for some people and that's it

[@priawoulmun6919]

Yes I agree, but maybe it's not Jubilee's fault for not finding more options but simply because the people who signed up were in this range and were available

[@Heartlis]

I’m 22 and I’m not afraid or saving myself or anything, I think I just haven’t found a person who makes me feel the want to have this moment yet.

[@emilystrickland151]

This is exactly how I feel I just couldn’t find the words to describe it.

[@pedrosousa720]

So... You're saving yourself

[@starberrysweetee1495]

@@pedrosousa720 “saving yourself” is usually a religious thing

[@pedrosousa720]

@@starberrysweetee1495 ohh, gotchu my bad

[@tirilvines9416]

Same, I’ve not felt comfortable with anyone to do it yet. I’m 21💕

[@goldinisfangirl4698]

Can we please talk about the outfit of the black woman? HOW IS SHE SO BEAUTIFUL OMG.

[@itzAurora_Xoxo]

Omg yes!! She's beautiful

[@l0v3lyniaa]

she find as he'll i won't her [ meme ] 😩🙏🏾

[@brotherjoll1802]

She needs to come here bruh

[@ellajackson4272]

Right, i think she's gorgeous and love the outfit

[@hellatze]

Horni virgin

[@Ruby-wv8ph]

I wish they would have found a more balanced group, including more people who weren't waiting till marriage

[@giwtaki2000]

My thoughts exaclty

[@colorfulcodes]

How would they know until they do the experiment? They probably prefer to go in blind from a data perspective of the general populous.

[@Aye_Gee]

it’s not like they knew

[@sam-ls7cp]

They don’t know peoples answers to the question until they ask during the video. so this is the best they could do

[@chloem4493]

@@colorfulcodes pretty sure they did know before hand

[@samishaniyy]

"I think men are praised when they are virgin" What world are you living in?

[@wildrain8602]

Never been praised or made fun of for being a "virgin". Nobody makes a big deal out of it in real life honestly. The word virgin is kinda ugly tho just a random thought.

[@antoinealez12]

We get clowned on and some women want nothing to do with us. Apparently hooking up with a virgin is a lot of work

[@wildrain8602]

@@antoinealez12 Well the woman who doesn't want to be around you or have sex with you because your a virgin doesn't sound like a fun oerson anyway.

[@6ixlxrd]

@@wildrain8602 "Nobody makes a big deal out of it in real life honestly" then you still haven't experienced real life I see. With girls, there are some guys crazy about getting their hands on a virgin, so they're praised for it (one chick even sold her virginity for a million; to me, going through all that to sleep with a chick who'll just be in pain the entire time is...wack). But with guys, majority of women do NOT want a virgin dude. There's already a lot you have to measure up to (penis has to be of a certain length and of a certain girth, and no matter what some say, you'll always be compared to other guys who came before) but if your stamina, endurance, and motions/stroke-game are all weak (which they will be if you're a virgin since it's literally your first time) you get ridiculed for it. Bonus points if you have no idea wtf you're supposed to be doing in foreplay. Not saying there aren't some understanding women out there who'll help you improve and "graduate", but the general consensus is that if he can't satisfy you, he isn't worth it. And don't even get me started with how other guys will make fun of you for it if they find out. Still a virgin myself btw (not that it matters). Not saving myself for marriage or anything...I just haven't found anyone I actually want to get *that* intimate with yet, and I'm in no rush.

[@eli53973]

@Halbinoni that's so true and it's deeply disturbing to me how no one adds religion as a reason.

[@creatingchlo]

“she expects like an iphone pro 12 max and all i have is a 12 mini” LMAO 😭😭

[@daboydudus3912]

hahahaha us fans have been waiting weeks for this line hes been teasing it on his youtube..

[@Threat1]

daboy dudus yep bro yep😂😂🙏🏼mane leaked a bit

[@frasrrr_]

@@daboydudus3912 facts

[@mrkrabs5264]

@@daboydudus3912 YEEEESSSS IVE BEEN WAITING FOREVER

[@quvvy]

@@daboydudus3912 LOL ive been waiting for so long for this video just to hear that line

[@meaganbianca2978]

I love how this group of people had the most willing to change their opinion based on the points others brought out. They really listened to each other to hear not to respond.

[@drarzi2344]

quite disappointed almost everyone’s saving themselves for the only one ‘special’ who you’ll marry. cause I wanted to see the side where you’re just afraid of intimacy, you’re insecure or you never happened to be in s3x relationships (but all your friends did tho)

[@adelinamaria5573]

Exactly

[@lynx3845]

Yeah, the casts are always like this, very homogeneous. They need more diversity when they cast.

[@laylasing1432]

Same. I'm a virgin, but I am definitely not saving myself for marriage.

[@iusethisplatform]

Everyone’s in love with an idea of love that will never come.

[@anchyi1202]

Keep in mind that only the most confident ones would want to join in on the discussion and get filmed. The rest probably wouldn't even apply.

[@taylor15589]

“Women are shamed for not being a virgin while men are shamed for not.” That is 100% true

[@thatveganchef112]

You just said the same thing

[@vaqs2412]

“ Women are shamed for being sexually active opposed to men being shamed for being a virgin.”

[@Showmaann]

are shamed for being so"*

[@vaqs2412]

@@Showmaann You ODing

[@Nauni]

@@naylisyazwina6836 nah It’s the opposite, I think they just messed up and added not at them end by mistake

[@4adriiian]

“she wants a 12 pro max and I just gotta 12 mini” lmfaooo 😭😭💀

[@qtaroe]

The person that said that has a KZbin channel called iamLucid

[@4adriiian]

@@qtaroe I know

[@naylisyazwina6836]

@@qtaroe does he make lucid dream videos?

[@abhiklovesbadbitches]

@@naylisyazwina6836 no

[@naylisyazwina6836]

@Blackout ah then I might check the channel out, thanks

[@eleazargonzalez3277]

I’m still a virgin and I’m fine with that but I just hate the fact that my mom jokes around a lot about me being a virgin and it hurts my feelings that my own mom is not supportive at all

[@komfykoala6083]

That's totally not okay. She should be supportive.

[@sugaga9840]

My mom always says that it's because I didn't find the right person, and that I'm still young. I'm 20 ans I never felt the desire of having sex and never felt any attraction to someone

[@emilyvelvet4902]

@@sugaga9840 And that’s perfectly fine. I can relate to you as well 😊

[@muchinamacharia8039]

Sorry bro 😢

[@lottie659]

My mum jokes that she’ll never have any grandkids because me and my sister have both never been in a relationship. We’re only 19 and 16 tho

[@aapooloomeeh]

Too many virgins saving themselves for marriage in this video. I'd like to see more spectrum, like ace people, people who haven't had the opportunity, people who actually want to but didn't, etc.

[@ee-gl3sj]

You won't

[@AbuAnonymous]

Many of them just didn’t want to admit that they hadn’t a relationship or the opportunity to do it so they said they’ll wait until marriage. That’s my impression.

[@ee-gl3sj]

@@AbuAnonymous They could have just said that they're waiting for the right person idk why it has to be marriage

[@dghvdhfhhb6405]

I follow the category of someone who haven’t had the opportunity yet

[@NikiBoo1466]

That was me! I was in two long term relationships (6 1/2 years and 2 years) where I wanted to obviously but didn’t just because I wasn’t mentally ready and I was lucky to be with partners who respected that

[@jaeykun5598]

My guy Emmanuel was choosing his wife right then and there

[@TheZeyyyyy]

For reals

[@Rantitoutloud]

Lol

[@_sadaf_]

How did you guess that??

[@Lizlemonbuthotter926]

@@_sadaf_ why do you think he asked that girl if she gets asked out often? hes obviously attracted to her lol

[@_sadaf_]

@@Lizlemonbuthotter926 🤕🤕I didn't get that🥴🥴

[@SpongeMPCGirl]

What the black girl said about having a fear of men because she grew up with a lot of young mothers who lost their way in life is sooo real. I didn't realize so many other women especially black women had the same experience. Growing up poor, a lot of my family and peers either got pregnant early or had their future destroyed by a dude and I'm just too ambitious to end up as a statistic so it made me pretty much fear men. I wonder if this is a real trauma in communities, I didn't question it until now whether other young women went through this.

[@acemarshals3211]

Shame, I hope you realize there are many amazing men out there as well but I suppose this fear is not really a choice 😢 I hope you find happiness

[@AmalSaidi123]

Just because you’re a young mother doesn’t mean your future is ruined…

[@kinikoi]

@@AmalSaidi123 True, but it can be considered a major setback if you aren’t ready to be a mother, whether it’s mentally or economically.

[@SpongeMPCGirl]

@@AmalSaidi123 I understand that, but that is the perception and usually what black families tell their kids to keep them from having sex. Its basically indoctrinated into you. Also, for low income families having children at a young age sets you back decades from your goals compared to those more privileged. A child can be a blessing, but if you don't have the funds to take care of it, it can build a lot of resentment and abuse from the parents towards the child, which a lot of black families have issues with.

[@SpongeMPCGirl]

@@acemarshals3211 Thank you, now that I'm older I realize that so I'm trying to date and feel comfortable around guys, but it's hard when you lived your whole life feeling like you would be a failure if you don't get out of the ghetto and as a woman you know getting pregnant or having someone try to control you makes it even harder.

[@Wrightwrightt000]

damn when he said he just wants to mean something to someone i felt that

[@tonybabdos17]

The problem is people and society in general making such a big deal out of SEX

[@amandadarkwood535]

Well it is a big deal

[@anot3468]

@@amandadarkwood535 why? or like,,, how, could you explain this alittle bit more

[@amandadarkwood535]

@@anot3468 um you could literally create life with it and you can also spread a lot of fatal diseases through it. It’s also about morals. Are you the kind of person who wants to sleep around devoid of any real feelings or have meaningful relationships

[@brainthebrian3690]

@@amandadarkwood535 He means big deal as in the more social aspect. Being a virgin is seen as a sign of someone being socially inept or someone who is not mature or secure with them selves, but sex doesn't matter because it *does not mean* that you are any of those things. It could very well mean the opposite, someone could also just be so secure with them selves they don't feel like they have to reach a social milestone to be respected by themselves or others, or neither of those things or tons of other things. Having sex is having sex.

[@plaguedoctor5889]

Mostly in American rap culture

[@superskullmaster]

Male and female virgins certainly don’t think alike.

[@forrmyheart]

Definitely not

[@notarealchannel9629]

Most were pretty similar in the questions asked tho

[@tibodeclercq2131]

Ok I like talking about this: Males and females are different biologcially. Not only physically but also mentally, and both can be linked to evolutionary biology. We have evolved to be very conscious creatures, so conscious we are able to suppress our biological nature, not all of it because that's impossible, but we can. And we have evolved to such an extend where producing progeny isn't a question any more about survival but voluntariness/willingness.

[@aus-li]

@@tibodeclercq2131 Um, are you forgetting there are more than just 2 genders?

[@nacerlounis7373]

@@aus-li He's talking about sex, not gender

[@ahgace9989]

kinda looked forward to this but was disappointed seeing most of these people are virgins by choice, specifically because they're saving themselves. Like the comments show, there's also many people who are virgins because sex scares them or maybe they're not even interested in it at all (asexuals). Personally I am because I just haven't had the chance to. I'd say I'm a rather sexual person and don't fear sex but I'm scared of social interaction and that makes getting to know people well enough for anything to happen rather difficult. I wish, especially cause virgins are often shamed for not having had sex yet, that these conversations didn't just center around people who are virgins by choice and proud of it, but include people who just haven't gotten to it and might feel insecure about it too. Women are definitely often shamed for sleeping around but from personal experience there's also judgement if you haven't at all. Maybe it's because I'm surrounded by friends in relationships, but I constantly get questions about if I've finally lost mine - and especially since I'm bothered by that fact I haven't myself, those questions frustrate me even more. These type of discussions lowkey make me feel more abnormal because they make it seem like all virgins are virgins cause they chose too. Honestly it's no stress, I'm only 19 and I know many people who've lost theirs much later, but well insecurities

[@Ellen-qx3nh]

I agree with you 100%, I'm in the exact same position. I'm 21 and still haven't gotten around to it. It is not at all uncommon for people our age to be not-by-choice-virgins and we should definitely normalize it.

[@martharigby]

Thank you for sharing your perspectives

[@a123sophie123a]

I agree with you too. I’m 27. I get along with guys great but when I feel things starting to become more serious, I tend to shy away from them because I’m trying to protect myself from getting hurt emotionally. Because of that, I’ve never had sex. And I basically want to have sex with someone I love. I’ve never been in love yet because I’m too protective of myself, but once I fall in love I will have sex. I’m not waiting till marriage though.

[@Tomasek421]

Feeling the same. I'm already 22 almost 23 and the current situation in the world is making it even more difficult for me. I'm just a very shy person in general which on the bright side is getting better as I age.

[@astraeanatsuki3231]

Well I’m also 19 and I’m not asexual or anything but I don’t want to have sex ever... I’m weird I guess

[@jssberry]

I feel Emmanuel. When that time comes for the honeymoon IT'S ON FOR ME!! Like maybe I wonder if my husband will be satisfied with me (especially if he's not a virgin) but I'm 33 now. Not sure when I'll meet guy, but that's a LONG time of waiting; LET'S GO! 😂😂😂 4:00 okay. Listening to him and reading a comment, I feel like Emmanuel is gonna be in for a shock. Because from what I hear, yes it's great... but not always. Especially if there are other issues in the marriage, needs not being met, stress, etc., that can actually make it not so great. Though I think there are quite a few people who think of marriage this way. "I'm gonna get married and the sex is gonna be FANTASTIC." You're already setting high expectations for a person who is just as imperfect and flawed as you are. Not a great start.

[@Carmen-ll6kc]

imagine saving yourself for marriage and never getting married

[@horrorzone476]

It can happen of course

[@israeliana]

Yes there are lifelong virgins by choice. And there are asexual people who never have sex either...

[@ninayasmine6074]

In my country its a thing and over 11 millions of women die single

[@btspavedthewaytoall566]

@@ninayasmine6074 where are you from ??

[@julianprs7946]

I don't understand this way of thinking because dude its an act on 2-5min or whatever and they kinda talk if it its an act of 7 days and in my opinion they think way too much about having sex with the "chosen" person fr.

[@minkihairoil]

Would've liked to see more than just virgins waiting until marriage. Like people who are asexual or afraid of intimacy, etc.

[@rageshreesengupta552]

Yess! I thought a couple of em would be asexual or atleast on that spectrum ya know?

[@mondler107]

Yeah I couldn't relate to them :(

[@lali9946]

as an asexual i agree! personally i apply to both, i am and asexual who happened to be afraid of any form of intimacy even if its kissing, hugging, or even holding hands. i remember in 9th grade a boy in one of my classes asked me out and i wasnt too comfortable but wasnt able to say no due to the small social anxiety i had. he kept "teasing me" many times after i told him i wasnt comfortable and at one point he wanted to have sex with me (take note that i was 14 at the time) i barely knew the guy and kept telling him no. i started avoiding him at school and ignored his messages but he still pressure me into sending nudes and sadly i wasnt in the right mental state and complied. i repeatedly told him I didn't want to send the pictures or have sex (when he clearly knew the fact that im asexual) and luckily my parents are strict enough to not let me out whenever i want to. he eventually got bored of me and i was able to actually say no to him when he wanted my attention again but that totally fucked up my mental state, confience, and ability to commit. i have to admit that i was always drunk with the idea of love that i was so focused on the idea of someone and not the actual person. this was an eye opener that took months to process and im still not over it but now im completely afraid to be with anyone, especially men. luckily im queer so i dont have closed options with romance but they are limited knowing that a lot of people wouldnt want to date an asexual afraid of physical affection.

[@zetabyte99]

@@lali9946 asexual spectrum!

[@mariafausti3128]

@@lali9946 danggg i feel really bad for you :( you’re a really strong person and you deserve love just as anybody else -another ace

[@gagetolinwrites6845]

I'm not saving myself for marriage or a "special" someone; just never had the chance with anyone

[@HumanPerson-1]

Male or female? Or other?

[@gagetolinwrites6845]

@@HumanPerson-1 Male

[@agsheuehd]

I am a woman but me too!

[@Luxenya]

You're still choosing to not have that chance (in a way), though. We all should be able to choose when and how to practice our sexuality.

[@jennemalou9802]

Yeah me too, weird feeling huh

[@Balance-OG-]

“so women get shamed for sleeping around and and men get shamed for not”... so true,,, its really sad

[@juanpedro4083]

I am a virgen because I am waiting for the right person. I am 60 years old.

[@Balance-OG-]

@@juanpedro4083 thats cool bro, im jus saying its sad how if ur a male then other males will talk down on you because you dont sleep around with girls and if ur a female that sleeps around you get talked down on when the male gets appraised for his actions.... its jus sad

[@reizayin]

Let's start shaming men who sleep around too.

[@Balance-OG-]

@@reizayin no, i dont think you quite understand what i mean by what i said

[@reizayin]

@@Balance-OG- People SHOULD be shamed for make horrible life decisions.

[@djgulston]

The "save yourself for someone special" virgins are not indicative of all virgins. I'm a virgin because I don't put myself in situations where I will lose my virginity. At the age of 23, I've only been on dates with 3 different girls in my life, but I've never bothered to commit long enough to get anywhere near sex. I've never been bothered with dating, relationships and sex because I'm more concerned finishing my postgraduate degree. Being in a relationship seems more like a distraction than a benefit for me since I don't really need other people to keep me entertained.

[@Rumidaan]

I think the same but the difference is that I'm not studying 😂😂😂

[@yulia_m_k]

I'm the same way. I didn't date in high school, and when I got to university I tried to, cause I thought that was what I was supposed to be doing. I didn't really care for it and the "relationships" never got past the second or third dates. I would just stop cause I had other things I wanted to focus on more. Now that I am out of school and working, I still don't really have the desire to date. I would rather focus on making lasting friendships. And I know that you don't need to be in a relationship to have sex with someone, but I'm personally not interested in that type of dynamic.

[@nirash8018]

Just admit that no girl wanted to sleep with you instead of justifying yourself in front of random people that didn't asked for it lmao

[@mariafernandagutierrez3197]

@@nirash8018 lmaoooo fr. some people think they are so superior because they are studying instead of having sex. Sex takes like 2 minutes sometimes ..it’s not like you can’t have sex and study ??? 😭😭😭

[@djgulston]

@@nirash8018 Nah, my guy. I know who I am. The point is I haven't tried because I never really cared. Keep in mind that, in my original comment, I'm excluding the girls I haven't actually dated who liked me, but it never amounted to anything because I never bothered to follow it up. So, saying no one wants to sleep with me holds no weight. Now, I'm going to assume that you are intellectually impaired and can't see past the "hurr durr virgin is ugly and can't have sex" argument, so I will not engage you further because I have made my point. Thanks for playing!

[@yanky_olabode3349]

Bold of Jubilee to think that Im a virgin, kpop fan, marvel fan, and asmrist

[@forrmyheart]

Ikr

[@niceasf7038]

You lost me at kpop

[@sheleneama5889]

I mean it's what she likes

[@AridetothemuseumFtknj]

@@niceasf7038 then i dont think u are this nice, but anyways take care of urself hooman-

[@niceasf7038]

@@AridetothemuseumFtknj Stan black men/people instead.😅😅😅

[@adelleyan]

I don't like how virginity is talked about like something "lost". Why not think about sex as a new experience you've gained?

[@markpearson6123]

Because many people equate it to a 'loss of innocence' since it's an 'adult' activity. Not saying that's right or wrong, but that's just the impression I get.

[@aprilsummers6447]

@@ed-nd3lw yeah but you also don't say 'I have lost sex'

[@lucinaraalglowbine5467]

@@aprilsummers6447 I think he meant "I lost my virginity"

[@niawohl3377]

Losing something isn’t necessarily bad. It’s like losing weight, it depends on the context and whether the person wants to “lose” it or not.

[@justanotherweirdo11]

@@ed-nd3lw People call it a sexual debut. I really like the term.

[@Spirit_Matters.Arthur]

8:18 Literally blew my mind, this guy is walking further along the same life path as me 🤯 Thanks, channelling addictive energy into beneficial energy is so valuable! 🙏

[@user-ue3pl2gf4o]

thats lucid aka Alex from the KZbin channel IamLucid

[@Muffln]

His name is iamLucid on KZbin, he makes incredible videos about NoFap and self-improvement. I'd truly recommend his channel if you enjoy that type of content.

[@futurehofer1564]

Everyone: "I am a virgin cause I am waiting for my marriage" Me: *not waiting and still a virgin*

[@Tusszombie]

Ssame

[@kerob-sx6kx]

im virgin because i choose to be ........thats a lie, no one wants me

[@shania-rosechristieson]

Same, just don't want to lose it to the wrong person.

[@hwdp2558]

Yes i mean wtf is this video not a representation of average virgin at all. Average virgin is a dude who was either very unlucky or didn't have confidence to approach girls.

[@camilasummers]

I can relate

[@puls239]

Anyone else that wants another version but only with people not saving themselves for 'the one'?

[@katherine9787]

Same. I was a virgin not by choice for a very long time and was disappointed I didn’t see someone like me on here

[@thearturo0xd803]

Would be cool as well. But there’s a difference between “the one” and “a right person”(just someone who you feel comfortable with and can trust), and we had a couple of those in this vid

[@beatrizkim1754]

yeeeeeeeees

[@skyeshelton2886]

Those are called incels

[@puls239]

@@skyeshelton2886 Nah man there are normal people that just haven't had sex in this world.

[@cherryrose7589]

I'm not afraid of having sex ...its just that the lack of self confidence is not there to be infront of someone....

[@Oyama_]

Same Here!

[@lasshapafford]

Honestly

[@keishamayniac5375]

Relatable

[@komfykoala6083]

This, I feel like if I had a bit more confidence it would be far less of an issue.

[@Chxn10]

Same

[@Merakireads]

Loving someone is not always about physical contact. You can love somebody unconditionally without having to touch or see their body. that's what I firmly believe in.

[@preciousbarbiedoll6993]

This is so true

[@slopernafti902]

Love (particularly romantic) is so overrated. _It's just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed._ - Rick This goes for men and women. If anything, relationships are a major hindrance. They act as shackles when you try to make progress in your life, they cost too much money, and you're bound to get into messy drama because your partner is a shackle that you can't escape easily. Just stay single, both men and women!

[@phosssssss7]

Very true! There are so many ways to show love that don't involve touching someone :)

[@ysf_ar6984]

Pov: you're from iamlucid's vid Edit: thanks for all the likes

[@bzrkamv2465]

yep

[@jamient4k]

I don’t understand why he was so embarrassed😂 He didn’t really do anything wrong

[@vedikapatil6024]

yeppp me

[@skinni_the_P00hBear]

Few minutes ago lol

[@abrilisme6822]

you got that right

[@user-hb4zz4gh5e]

I’m not waiting for “the one”, I’m just terrified of intimacy. I was bullied and sexually harassed by one of my male classmates, and throughout my childhood my dad was always very aggressive towards me. I just developed this instinctive fear of men, so the thought of having to be vulnerable enough to have sex just makes me flinch

[@tyreebrownart]

😫😫 I’m so sorry that happened to you.

[@awizardmummyandmartian3238]

Same!

[@LibbyThomas]

I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to find the healing you need to move forward and find healthy intimacy and connection. ♥️ Love from an internet stranger.

[@user-hb4zz4gh5e]

@@tyreebrownart @Libby Thomas Thank you

[@spencer1854]

I'm sorry to hear that. My mother went though a similar thing. What helps her is to talk about it to someone she really trusts, whoever that may be, whenever she needs to. Ultimately she was able to work through vulnerability and trust and found my dad. You can too! God bless you :)

[@ma.nasa26]

Where are my virgins who aren't saving themselves for marriage at?? I'm not religious at all (an atheist actually) and don't care who I lose it to but no one has ever asked me out so I've never had a chance LOL Edit: I didn't mean to start any discussion about religion, I just stated my lack of religious beliefs to show that there are virgins of many kinds. Please be respectful when replying to others.

[@Oyama_]

Here 🙋🏾‍♀️!

[@Lordkeepmesafe]

Alright good. So please anyone don't argue about religuon please

[@madisonjackson9463]

Here 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@leahdiel4678]

Hi 👋🏻

[@dollcaine]

Right here

[@MrsLawrence47]

I was a virgin til I got married, as was my husband. I was a month shy of 33. 14 yrs married and sooo glad I stayed true to my faith.

[@ChatterBoxBran]

came after the video of the guy talking about him messing up a scene

[@bobbyjohnson485]

Put some respect on that boi lucid

[@arrozu7320]

Same, Lucids vids are great

[@ashroberts1549]

he largely exaggerated tbh

[@whothispunk]

@@ashroberts1549 that’s what you do for a check, gotta make things interesting!

[@zoet9882]

everybody is waiting for "the one" or for marriage but i wish someone would talk about how they're insecure to take that step. I'm only 20 but every single relationship I've been in, I've been pressured to have sex to the point where the thought of having sex makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When I tell my boyfriends I'm not ready or I want it to be more romantic, they get annoyed and we eventually break up. Everytime a guy starts talking to me, I immediately get nervous and close myself off because I'm worried they will leave me once I give them sex. So it's not that I'm necessarily waiting for "the one," it's that I feel like once I give it up, I'll just continue to be used. Anyone else? ):

[@lilgypsy3764]

oh sweetie, im so sorry to hear that you went through that... i hope that you recover from that and learn to become more comfortable. Remember NO ONE should pressure you into doing something you don't wanna do! You do you hun

[@pallabbiswas947]

Don't be depressed. You are doing the right thing. If a guy really loves you he will wait till marriage. Don't allow yourself to be used by others sexually or otherwise. Best of luck.

[@zoet9882]

@@lilgypsy3764 aw thank you ):

[@teonavelcu_986]

Omg. You read my mind. I'm not gonna say that I did not give in. But you said is sooo true to the point I can't talk to boys without thinking that they only want this thing. It's emotionally tiring... 😂😂😅

[@willareith1987]

You're completely valid! What those people did to you is not OK and you deserve so much better than them! :)

[@KreeZafi]

Glad to see more people in the comments agreeing that we should've had a wider variety of people here. They basically all more or less agreed with waiting for marriage. What about virgins who WANT to have sex but just haven't had the opportunity? Or ace people?

[@jerry5882]

Ace people? What’s that lol

[@KreeZafi]

@@jerry5882 Ace is slang/short form of asexual :)

[@eli53973]

"What about virgins who WANT to have sex but just haven't had the opportunity" Oh you mean the 'involuntarily celibate' better known as incels?

[@KreeZafi]

@@eli53973 While that technically would make someone "involuntarily celibate" the term "incel" tends to refer to a very specific type of person with certain attitudes and such, so no, not quite

[@eli53973]

@@KreeZafi fair enough.

[@hildab.h6112]

when i was young, i was very hyped up about the idea of saving myself for marriage but in the process of growing up i realized that virginity is only expected in women and some parts are forceful. i remembered when i learned about that i was like" why?"

[@hildab.h6112]

and now at the end of the day if your partner truly loves you then they won't care if you are a virgin or not

[@succmywood]

@@hildab.h6112 yh

[@Grinchthanksgiving]

I don’t believe having sex is the “rawest form” of oneself. You can connect with someone on a mental and emotional level way deeper than sex ever could.

[@Grinchthanksgiving]

@Martha Speaks everyones experiences are different. its just interesting to hear a virgin's take on sex. Most of them have the wrong idea of what it really is.

[@Grinchthanksgiving]

@Martha Speaks "I don’t believe having sex is the “rawest form” of oneself. You can connect with someone on a mental and emotional level way deeper than sex ever could"

[@kva5751]

yes but connect ALL of that WITH sex. That's what he means. You are connected in every possible way. Which is what he meant.

[@Grinchthanksgiving]

@@kva5751 Just because you have sex with somone does not mean you connect mentally and emotionally.

[@kva5751]

@@Grinchthanksgiving did I say that? Point me to where I said that. I said , when you connect ALL of it (key word there, "all" ) that is the rawest form which is what he meant.

[@lia8196]

but that girl who talked about trying not to get pregnant at a young age, I felt that deep down.

[@aylakahya2843]

I feel so bad for the man with the hat. Im sorry that u went Through that horrible experience. I hope you find real love, and be safe❤️

[@ANKI7033]

Ikr 🥺

[@camelio10]

A lot of Gay men have had that experience. It has been studied. Society is excessively protective of women, even the abusive ones

[@khloejones7743]

@@juanpedro4083 aint no way

[@offthatmuscle8214]

@@juanpedro4083 bro just give it up just lose your virginity already it’s about that time

[@marcus3672]

Real love?🚶‍♂️...

[@counrychicc4163]

"I run away because I'm scared of men..." Same Sara, same. GIRL, you're not alone

[@chelseashamim9148]

Yep the androphobia is real

[@whitneyhendrix8075]

I thought there’s be someone who is asexual on here, not just one person being offended by the idea of asexuality...

[@ayoubzahyo]

I think it's just that they thought the only reason to be virgin is being asexual therefore since they aren't, something is wrong with them.

[@alexmaguire2254]

@@mukundachaudhary1923 asexual is the lack of sexual attraction, which is looking at someone and thinking “i would like to have sex with them” you may not want to specifically have sex with them but you can still enjoy it

[@bexter107]

Literally why can’t they have a little bit of representation I swear they’ve had people on who were ace before

[@Jonny-xj7hj]

Yea same I’ve had so much chances to do it, but sex doesn’t really interest me it feels dirty. Like germ wise like. Who knows where people’s things have been

[@MRPiki-js4jg]

Or ur just easily offended

[@flammingsandwich6242]

I feel like this wasn't very representative of the hole group like this was more focused on the ones who hold sex to a vary high standard and are waiting for the perfect moment while excluding those like myself who just don't frequent the type of environment to form a relationship or even a one night stand and just aren't too pressed about losing it, or the people who are trying but just can't seem to secure the bag. I know this isn't Jubilee's fault, just that that type of person is more willing to expose that fact about themselves.

[@francesxx72]

That is exactly what I was actually hoping for as I wanted to hear more about people that are virgins but not for religious reasons just for life sort of getting in the way

[@planomery9831]

exactly, and also asexuals should have been included. this video is legit just one point of view on virginity.

[@shanveniot8162]

"Someone suggested I might be asexual and I took offence, it made me feel like something was wrong with me." "Everyone feels sexual desire." Jubilee, it might be the right time to do a vid on asexuality.

[@0ExpectTheUnexpected]

Glad someone said it. That really hurt to hear as an ace. They thought they were broken when thinking they could be ace? I am in no way broken as I am, but I am now empowered and comfortable in my skins

[@reesedavis4877]

@@0ExpectTheUnexpected 👏

[@hannahbull]

yeah them talking about feeling offended when someone asked if they might be asexual and making it sound like asexuals are broken made me annoyed

[@7bam]

Yesss! They need a video on asexuality, I've recently realized that I am one.

[@strange.person]

@@0ExpectTheUnexpected Did you get hurt by someone else's experience? Jeez

[@monsterhighstopmotion]

I feel like the sample here was too like-minded, i highly HIGHLY doubt that the majority of virgins are waiting for marriage or abstaining for religious reasons I'm 23 and i lost my virginity last year, not because I chose to stay a virgin, it just never happened before that

[@JoshuaRWorkman]

35, I'm an atheist, don't much care whether I'm married or not it if happens, and partially refuse to now because I don't want children.

[@Intelwinsbigly]

@@JoshuaRWorkman Joshua, look up vasectomy.

[@aranara_song]

I'm 19 years old and the reason I haven't lost it is because it hasn't happened yet, pretty much. Same thing w like first kiss and stuff

[@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594]

“Guys have asked me out, and I run away. Because I’m scared.” That’s exactly what I do. I really want a relationship, but I’m scared. I’m scared that I’m going to open myself up and get hurt. I think it’s because I’ve seen so many toxic relationships in my family that ultimately fail. When I meet a guy and fall in love, I don’t want it to be like those relationships.

[@yutassmilehealsme6572]

Hey there, I’ll give a bit of advice. I think that if you find someone you like, it can’t hurt to try. You really don’t want to be regretting in the future wishing you had tried being in a relationship with somebody. It’s better to have experienced it rather than having 2am thoughts of “what if’s” 5 years later (take it from me). No one knows what the future entails. You could get hurt, but you could also not get hurt. Why focus on the negatives?

[@breasiavibess1715]

Tbh, I have friends that has or had toxic relationships with someone and it kinda effective me from people because you once you see someone you know getting hurt over and over again it makes you feel like you can't have a healthy relationship... It's just my opinion

[@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594]

@@yutassmilehealsme6572 I think you’re right

[@antoinettemur]

I so relate! I've always been uncomfortable being approached. I have trust issues, and I wonder if I open up will they not like me and disappear. I just think I have abandonment issues.

[@LipSyncLover]

thats an understandable fear. and it is valid. But i fear the only way to actually have relationships is just to get out there and do it anyway. And maybe baby steps like maybe you just tell the person you like taking things slow and it takes a while for your barriers to come down. it's a good vetting strat because the right people will respect it. The wrong people will simply go away lol

[@Zikey555]

am i the only one who is just afraid of being naked😂😂😂

[@Kiara-zo5vv]

Same even if I am alone

[@Zikey555]

@@Kiara-zo5vv lmao😂😂😂i feel u

[@sappy.3xe]

Bruh that’s me as well! Except it also includes being afraid of performing terribly and also because I haven’t met a dude that I’m into yet.

[@thatanimekid15]

Oh my gosh SAME looool

[@donovenmiller1670]

I just keep my shirt on ngl 😂

[@1Angeliina1]

25 year old virgin here i thought i was alone😭also this virgin crowd needs to be more diverse cuz not all virgins are virgins JUST cuz of religous reasons.

[@DarkArcticTV]

same. im 18 and virgin, not cuz im religious but because ive never had the chance

[@ngl1553]

What are you about 3/7 people said we're Virgins because of their religion. You talk as if like it was 7/7

[@julianap3412]

Only 3 out of the group were waiting for religious reasons tho. The majority werent

[@angeknowsit]

same Iam almost 24 atheist amd I just havent been that close with someone.

[@harutosunaa3881]

Agreed

[@alisonbirkhofer3100]

Crazy to me that people think you can have sexual chemistry with anyone just because you married them

[@saraantowan2881]

fr cause like what if you guys just cant connect sexually (which can be discouraging in a relationship) and then you realized maybe they werent the one.

[@chasesnightmares]

@@saraantowan2881 well I would either don’t have sex if you’re ok with it or figure out how you can enjoy it together

[@saraantowan2881]

@@chasesnightmares yea ig but for a lot of people they have a sexual desire so not having it can be hard, plus having it is good for you. It relieves stress! So yes i agree they could maybe try to figure out how to make it work.

[@saraantowan2881]

@INFJ 4w5 yea thats a problem too, it personally would want a love relationship and a sexual relationship as well because both play big parts in a relationship. To mr personally having a sexual relationship rn in my relationship doesnt matter to me because im still young. But yea i get that, and i dont think its ok but for some people they like that ig so who am i to judge.

[@saraantowan2881]

@INFJ 4w5 And thats ok too.

[@tastyredzone]

hey this is emmanuel from the video. Thank you for the love and support! Speak your truth and stand up for what you believe in! Have a merry Christmas and a happy new year.

[@Jesusisthebest5383]

Hi, are you Nigerian?

[@tastyredzone]

@@Jesusisthebest5383 perhaps, i dont know my history before slavery

[@nicolasruiz7054]

@@tastyredzone brother have you heard about semen retention or nofap because it's life changing you might want to check it on youtube brother because it changed my life.. Wanna spread goodness

[@aryenkrishen]

Nice shirt

[@mohammadaladham7721]

Hello Emmanuel, I like your shirt.

[@Alyssa-senpai]

I get shamed for being a virgin. Like when I say it, people are always like "OMG you're a virgin! I can hook you up with someone!" And it's like no, one I'm only 24. There's no rush. Two, I'm a virgin because I choose to be. As a woman I can basically go to any guy and lose it. It's a choice. Just because everyone else is having sex, doesn't mean virgins are in the wrong or involuntarily virgins.

[@Guillermo153]

With men is the complete opposite

[@Alyssa-senpai]

@@Guillermo153 yep very true. Wait I mistook what you said. A lot of men get shamed for being virgins. Praised for having sex.

[@Guillermo153]

@@Alyssa-senpai yes , people shame women for having too much sexo and shame men for not having at all So since any girl can lose their virginity if they want , its not case for a man , thats why the term Incel (involuntary celibate) only applies for men

[@Alyssa-senpai]

@@Guillermo153 yeah but also because they're bitter for it. A lot of misogyny comes from incels. But yeah, there are double standards. Men are supposed to have sex, women aren't. But times are changing and now everyone is being shamed for being a virgin.

[@Durinson1]

Well said

[@alexaf.3158]

This video felt reassuring to my 24-year old virgin self until the "waiting for marriage" statement. Some of us wait because of traumatic childhood, fear of intimacy, no luck in relationships etc.

[@millenadecampos7192]

@@skromnyasha if you’re a Christian then yes

[@thanos7459]

@@skromnyasha it is

[@skromnyasha]

@@thanos7459 lol okay, Thanos

[@skromnyasha]

@@millenadecampos7192 repressed bunch well, keep denying yourself off a natural need.

[@millenadecampos7192]

@@skromnyasha go say that to asexuals

[@middleclassfoodies]

24 year old woman..Never been in a relationship and virgin.. then all of a sudden parents wanting you to get married..them asking random people to look for a groom for u, even after u said u don't want to get married.. that's what I am going through right now.. I hate arrange marriage now .. I'm an Indian.. people expect you to find a partner in less than one month,get married and then expects you to get pregnant within a year (definitely not everyone)

[@malinthefairy6586]

Yes, I’ve learned about girls being forced to get married with a man.

[@malinthefairy6586]

I’m so sorry for you, feel better.

[@stephanielim5544]

As a virgin I'm not afraid of having sex, rather I'm afraid of me becoming addicted to it. And I don't save myself for marriage specifically rather I just want my first to be with someone I trust and at least like. Someone who will soothe and understand my anxiety because I am a victim of sexual assault when I was 6 and 17 and those who did that to me are both family and close friend.

[@shubhashree_2431]

I totally agree w your perspective; even I've that similar perspective. Being a victim of sexual assault, I could totally relate to what WE'VE been through. Such instances change our opinions totallyyyy. (India)

[@meganziggler8841]

Wow I'm afraid of the same reason tbh

[@SuyashSharma8]

Being a boy I can't say that I relate with ur pain but I can say that it is very courageous of both of u coming out . Kudos to u both .

[@Lynl3n]

I feel the same. i am afraid of me becoming addicted to it and i can totally relate to you on what you have just mentioned From 6 to 17 in family and outside of family

[@Laura-sg6ss]

Awww 😪😪🥺girlll!! I feel you. Also really sorry 💛😪

[@theodoesthings]

you should do 'do all asexuals think the same?'

[@diamond5156]

i would love to see that!

[@penelopegreeny]

Yesss that would be amazing

[@tibodeclercq2131]

What questions should be asked to them? Cuz if sexual preferences ain't a thing what's left ?

[@g7gamer123]

Yes!! Or "do all aspec people think the same?" so we get the POV of sex repulsed/neutral/positive asexuals, demisexuals, gray-asexuals, etc!!

[@anna.augustinova]

Yes, yes, yes!

[@AntoineBandele]

10:31 - I would’ve thought that would’ve been the first question.

[@mayam4057]

Verified=likes

[@jeremiahalexander250]

Hello there surprising seeing you here

[@kewiishow3923]

Being a subscriber of yours this makes me feel better. Much respect.

[@august6389]

Could have been, never know how these videos are edited

[@crimsonhunter7598]

You here? A surprise to be sure but a welcome one :)

[@naomiechien3471]

Imagine how society could be if we accepted virginity as something like if you've gone swimming at the beach or the like. We need to shut down the idea of pure/impure that's associated with these type of things.

[@mofire5674]

In part this is due to religion considering the act to be sacred. It's very damaging.

[@João-u8b]

I'm a Pure Boy

[@fanig4020]

Was Emmanuel low key hitting on the beautiful black girl or is it just me 😅

[@katiejones9763]

I thought so too 😭😭

[@BBRAIN1977]

Well who would not hit on that :)

[@onelucky84]

@@BBRAIN1977 her*

[@maybewise]

She looks mixed

[@Jessxmess]

Cause we tryna figure out how she single, she a baddie 😭

[@CJsLifeIsLIT]

Is it just me or Emmanuel sounds just like Tyler the Creator??

[@fhiyos_2611]

I just read someone saying the same thing

[@6six9nine74]

I agree, I was like i know this voice from somewhere

[@Ahyawnah]

i agree

[@JasmineGoodenDisciple]

I can see that a little bit 😂😭👏🏾

[@pamelablanco9497]

yees

[@YF--]

Nearly 23 here. I've never even held hands romantically, let alone had any sexual contact with any other people. I do have sexual urges, and I am not totally uncomfortable with the idea of having sexual contact with others; I think I've just never felt that need to participate in sexual activity (or romantic activity) with other people. Also, for any younger people in the comments section - there is 10000% nothing wrong with masturbation. Don't let some of the statements made in this video persuade you otherwise. If you choose to masturbate, that is healthy. If you don't feel the need to, that is healthy. I may never have sexual contact with another person, and I am content with that at this point in my life.

[@TheForestSinger27]

I think we're more or less the same age. I've held hands sorta romantically but that's...it LOL. Everybody gets things done at their own pace. I think that if I had lost my virginity at a younger age I'd be completely different than I am today, and I love who I am. I feel so goddam whole right now that losing my virginity or having my first kiss just doesn't matter as much as it used to. Most people's firsts are shitty anyways lmao, at least I've had all this time to study ;)

[@kinikoi]

I never really get to hear or see perspectives like this unless I actually go looking for them. Media, especially towards men portrays a lot of people like this as cucks, simps, or [insert other insults], which really sucks.Props to you, as long as you’re happy, then everything is good :)

[@dylanhaugee1527]

Judging by your tone you seem to know yourself pretty well, but have you ever thought that you might fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum? Just not having a very strong urge to have intercourse..

[@YF--]

@@dylanhaugee1527 I have certainly considered that! I've seen greysexual, demisexual, broadly ace, and I feel I likely fall somewhere in there. Like I said, I feel sexual urges, and I can totally imagine myself having sexual activity with other people, but it just isn't a priority I guess? Yo, sexuality itself is such a mystery 😂

[@devva9858]

I feel exactly this and I’m the same age. I personally say I’m on the asexual spectrum but people never understand my pov. You’re the first person I’ve ever seen describe it exactly like me

[@ESunshine24]

Emmanuel is the most based person ive seen on this show. He a definition of a real one. Hope a finds a great wife and family.

[@Joy_M507]

Agreed! 😊

[@youcefbensid6184]

Superman abilities: -Laser eyes -Flying -Virginity

[@AxxLAfriku]

NO! NO! NO! Many people say I am sick in the head. NOOOO!!!! I don't believe them. But there are so many people commenting this stuff on my videos, that I have 1% doubt. So I have to ask you right now: Do you think I am sick in the head? Thanks for helping, my dear you

[@kaleycooper9111]

@@AxxLAfriku what the heck are you on about?? 🤨

[@ellipsis498]

What's your super power: "I can shoot laser from my eyes" And yours: "I can fly" And what about you: "I'm a virgin"

[@joyj6793]

Lol

[@ZiRR0]

@@kaleycooper9111 he's a dull channel that spam promotes his channel on popular channels' comment sections.

[@readmyblogable]

Spectrum Participants: “Oral sex isn’t sex” Lesbians: “-___- are we a joke to you”

[@Viviele1290]

I was thinking the same thing😂😂

[@maplelu9514]

They said it was sex though

[@kevintheseacucumber3785]

Yes you are a joke to me

[@enternamehere8521]

@King BullyRock Tell that to all the straight people on this planet who have plenty of sex yet rarely reproduce. Anyways, gay people cannot become straight. The sooner you realize that, the better.

[@caznandy2000]

@King BullyRock if that’s what you’re into we won’t judge, I personally don’t agree with that lifestyle but each to their own

[@floremy5013]

I’m virgin but I cannot relate at all to anyone here. I enjoy porn and masturbation, I’m far from scared of sex and I’m definitely not waiting until marriage. The only reason that I’m a virgin really is that when I still had a boyfriend we were both horny but way too shy to go that far and now I’m busy as hell with uni and lockdown makes it hard to meet people. I feel like people like me (man or woman) were not really represented in this. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the people here but I feel like their opinions were really similar. I wish there were people actively choosing to be and stay virgin or just happened to be virgin because of circumstances and were okay with having sex whenever.

[@frankalmanzar3492]

For me, porn didn’t help. I think it made me think like I had to have sex like a pornstar lol. I noticed in my sex life, I can’t enjoy both porn and sex. They’ll be complications. So I have to kinda put the porn down when I’m dating 🤷🏼‍♂️. Hope you get what you want!

[@lureyourpery5569]

Final someone i can relate to

[@ashaiyaxo1841]

I never comment, ever but I thought I was the only one who thinks exactly like this. I’m also introverted but confident in myself but haven’t had the time to actually meet someone. I’m definitely not waiting till marriage, but I would love to form an INTIMATE connection at least with someone, whether we are a couple or just friends who just genuinely care about each other in a way that most people don’t get to experience.

[@koalalove3252]

I think this is more targeted to those who want to refrain from sex. They're virgins because they want to be or feel the need to be

[@cortezri6327]

No one cares

[@filmthestring6013]

10:00 wow the amount of comprehension it went into that was amazing. Thanks Jubilee for spreading the word about what needs to change in our minds

[@jamiemartinvillapando9763]

I dont get why people are so eager to lose their virginity, and being a virgin is stigmatized in the west. Correct me if im wrong lol, but i always see this sort of stuff in american movies where its such a big deal and characters being shamed/embarrassed for being a virgin. Im just curious Edit: this is not related much to the video, it just crossed my mind

[@brainthebrian3690]

Because over here, virgin = someone who lacks social skills or charisma or is just unsuccessful in life, that being the reason no one has had sex with them. This applies to only men and older women. Young women are shamed if they have too much sex. (which is like more than one person at a time)

[@ArkaraValtare3729]

@@brainthebrian3690 im not agree at all, im a young woman 25 and since teenager i was shamed for not having a boyfriend, specially from boomers, i call it singleshaming, which is not about a boyfriend is about sex, for the reasons you say, social skills and succefulness. Approximately since 20 some people around me incluiding "friends" were worry about my virginity hahha but at least they are more direct than boomers. Young woman are not safe of being shame for virgin, less than a man though.

[@ArkaraValtare3729]

Im 25 and virgin from colombia. And its the same here, like in u.s.a, people shamed embarrassed for being virgin. And i think is the same in all latin america

[@thearsoneest]

@@ArkaraValtare3729 I agree I am from a South Asian country and anybody agrees or not the western countries do generalise being virgin is lack of charisma and personality.And being sexually active is the biggest trait of a person being successful with a great personality, younger gen in my country widely follow westernized culture (which is not wrong)but they tend to follow the good and the bad which end up on bullying on people who don't accept entire western/mordernised thought process.

[@DaniClipz]

@@brainthebrian3690 that is the stupidest thing ive read in my life😂

[@9770G]

the biggest problem with this video is that most of them are virgins because of religion or because they want to wait to marriage. only one of them said they weren't waiting. there are so many reasons why someone would be a virgin and this group pretty much lacked most of them with it because of social anxiety or people dont find them attractive or of they are just plain scared. not a horrible video but definitely could have been a lot better and deserves a second video on the same topic.

[@TheExtremeCube]

Yeah, but given that this is people who signed up for this voluntarily, i guess its more likely to be people who are somewhat proud of the fact that they are virgins. I doubt many people who are virgins because of social anxiety or trust issues are gonna want to broadcast that to the world lol

[@9770G]

@@TheExtremeCube i totally agree with u and i understood that before typing my comment but it still doesnt change what i said either...

[@TheExtremeCube]

@@9770G yeah, I agree as well, it would have been a nice perspectice to have as well. I fall into that category lol, and tbh I don't have trouble talking about it with people I'm getting to know or something, but I wouldn't feel comfortable being in a video like this, its too private or something, idk

[@Ser_28]

all you said are the reasons why im still a virgin and have never been in a relationship, and also adding religion to it

[@NiceEyeballs]

look something's aren't said, everybody understands it. Thats why they didn't asked questions like those. Thats why they asked Saving for marriage question, or religion one or fear one. So yeah it was undeestood.

[@swsfa1111]

imma be honest i don't think i've ever seen an asian with a cowboy hat on lmao

[@rattling.casket]

texas is full of em... you'd think its a stereotype but its like everyone has at least one istg

[@mooominpapa]

There was an episode of that Apple TV original American Life I think, about a Nigerian cowboy. It was very wholesome.

[@Ray03595]

ive seen several actually haha.

[@swsfa1111]

@@Ray03595 lol

[@knowethjc29]

Ahaha

[@odanemcdonald9874]

Emmanuel knows exactly why he asked Sara that 😂

[@TMcB23]

Where are my early twenties virgins at? I’m stoked that they made this video!

[@ShafferspeeksTS1]

I'm mid twenty, but I gotcha bro

[@Beatness121]

mid twenties virgin gang

[@TMcB23]

@@ShafferspeeksTS1 I’m 20 too but I feel like I’m mature for 20 despite being a virgin

[@ashleykatebell]

right here

[@shenkuulover]

At last, a group that I can openly relate with on a hypersexualized society

[@72horses75]

The thing with the second last question is, I feel that virginity is almost equally focused on both men and women, but in opposite ways. Women are pressured to not lose their virginity lest they be called a whore or a slut, while men are shamed and considered "failures" for not losing their virginity before a certain point.

[@fariskhalid8200]

Equality in a nutshell

[@Azr721]

I think that too.

[@ij4927]

I don't want to be that guy, but there's a word for second last: penultimate

[@fariskhalid8200]

@@ij4927 this will be really useful in the future thanks

[@ij4927]

@@fariskhalid8200 : )

[@sygb.550]

I can say confidently that this time this spectrum wasn't really representative of who they need to represent

[@mondler107]

I agree :( and they didn't really say like why they are waiting

[@crypticmoab9171]

who do they need to represent exactly?

[@donjohnson2758]

@@crypticmoab9171 he means incels tbh

[@Amalie.x7fv]

A lot of respect to Alex and his 1000 days, that can be difficult

[@voiceappeal]

“So women are shamed for having sex and men are shamed if they don’t. That’s messed up.” Well summarized imo. (Edit: buckle up for a wild ride below this. You’ll notice that some haven’t read to the end of my comment.)

[@hamedhosseini4938]

Don't talk as if gender role is always working for men and not for women. Take a look at court battles e.g and how many wrongfully convicted males get imprisoned.

[@mariafausti3128]

@@hamedhosseini4938 that’s such a small percentage though. Of course it happens, but there are way more rapists that don’t get convicted then men who are falsely accused. Nearly every woman has been either raped, sexually assaulted, helped another woman to prevent that, or had to be wary of someone who might do that to them. All I’m saying is that men do get falsely accused but even then they don’t get jail time and if they do nobody cares afterwards. Women have to be wary around other men but men don’t, so that’s a double standard.

[@lydiaevelyn948]

@@hamedhosseini4938 dude.... stop

[@anoushkashenoy692]

@@hamedhosseini4938 the fact that what you said is unrelated to the topic says a lot about you

[@byakurenhoujuu]

As a German, this always confuses me about the US.

[@angelt6263]

When the lady in the green top was like she runs away when ppl ask her on dates I felt dat 💀💀

[@flop3923]

same lol

[@beckiecather341]

Same. I like what to date but when I’m giving the chance I’m like “nah get tf away from me! Begone!”

[@ashleyrocha2883]

😂I thought it was blue

[@deboraferraz4784]

same here

[@sunnc]

Fr😂

[@lucifia5220]

As someone who is ace, I wish there were ace people in this. I answered the questions as they did and my answered varied in different ways because of me being ace. it wouldve been nice to see it

[@macidismuke4326]

What does ace mean?

[@lilymoore6722]

ace is short for asexual :)

[@stevenborg102]

@Your average mall goth. Is that physically possible?? Surely the most basic innate instinct is to reproduce, thus sexual attraction is hard wired into our bodies like the need to breathe! It's biological evolution surely??

[@Kineticboy2K1]

@@stevenborg102 There's a reason asexuality is referred to as "a lack of sexual attraction or the inability to derive pleasure from sex" because naturally we are "supposed" to want it or enjoy it. It's still up for debate whether there is a biological reason for asexuality, if it's a sexual orientation (or lack of one) or if it's just conviction, but it's clear that more than ever there are a growing number of people that identify as asexual. You could compare it to the rise of lactose tolerance in humans over time. Initially we were all lactose intolerant where NO ONE could process dairy at all (this is still the case in most of the world that never got into dairy, usually more Eastern countries) until eventually after domesticating certain animals and finding their milk to be cultivatable, certain cultures evolved a tolerance for it. Likewise sexuality may have been a given for millennia but as we move to modernity less and less procreation is necessary and so it could be that asexuality came about from passing down the genes that didn't care as much for sex, ironically. The ultimate irony is that your line basically ends with you if you don't pass on your genes, so asexuality (if it is genetic) may just die off on it's own. At the same time it could just be a regressive trait we've always had and we're only now picking up on it. Scientists are still trying to figure it out. As a footnote it is important to remember that these days people are looking for more and more reasons to be "different" or "special" because there's now more people alive at once than ever before. We are no longer unique, like our ancestors who only had like 20 people in their village FOR GENERATIONS, and a good many of us just can't handle that.

[@stevenborg102]

@@Kineticboy2K1 Interesting. I think people wanting to be special might be more like it given the whole trans ideology springing up en masse and gender identity stuff.

[@Gar96229]

Can we just give a special shout out to Mathew? I feel he felt extremely vulnerable being here, and the fact he came out and did this was really courageous.