Virgins Answer Very Personal Questions | Sex Ed

[@JubileeeES]

This video is now available in Spanish!

[@mujtabaalam5907]

First

[@abby9551]

y por qué el comentario está en inglés? .-.

[@Polyglot_English]

Детерминизм это Свобода 🤙 🤙

[@elsunshine9976]

Oye yo se español

[@michellediaz3121]

GRACIAS PARCE! Saludos desde Colombia, gracias por romper las barreras de idioma

[@whatshouldwecallher6417]

People judge you when you're a virgin, they judge you if you are not a virgin. You can't keep everyone happy, so screw them.

[@paprika7930]

Someone pin this comment.

[@charlenecarlies7834]

Basically lol just do you!

[@Skyesoceaneyes]

Your choice of words is amusing.

[@miskeali3944]

Lmao the irony in this, but yes I totally agree

[@horizonapex5042]

Welcome to the world

[@faithheart9949]

I feel like the reason why I am a virgin is because I have issues trusting anyone, so I'm not able to build a connection

[@Meadow_lark97]

I feel the same way. I was molested by someone who I really trusted, and was almost raped by a neighbor, all before the age of 13. I’m 23 now and am still learning not to blame myself for the things that happened to me, and trusting someone is so scary.

[@princemiranda9456]

@@Meadow_lark97 nothing that happened to you is your fault

[@amelie6877]

@@Meadow_lark97 it’s not your fault ,it really isn’t !! but hopefully you’ll learn to trust people ,take your time !❤️

[@laisavalos2967]

Same 🙏

[@KayshaRayne]

Same!

[@joannas322]

“I don’t want to unleash that on anyone that’s not my husband” 😂🙌

[@sechabatheletsane9784]

That's exactly how I feel about my future wife😂😂

[@martyna______6]

That is a great concept until you find out that your husband has very different needs

[@sechabatheletsane9784]

@@martyna______6 like what?

[@martyna______6]

@@sechabatheletsane9784 That woman sounded like she has high needs and not everyone's like that. There are people who want to do it once a week with the lights out and that's ok, but being mismatched in that area means someone's going to be unhappy.

[@kaye5408]

@@martyna______6 ok and that can’t be solved??? You’re married not playing house you can solve issues you know

[@LaDeGafitas]

To the girl saying she wants satin sheets, candles, and rose petals: you deserve to be with someone who would go out of their way to give you that and make you feel comfortable. Don't settle for less.

[@videhbhaav]

You must be an amazing person.ty for saying this

[@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw]

But what does she bring to the table?

[@Lili-ee7fu]

Ah i had that and it's amazing girl!!! Wait for it😍

[@BuddyMac69]

@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw facts

[@legalgig3480]

😂

[@Jasmin-by8be]

I’m a virgin as well. It’s more over a fear of losing it to someone who’ll end up doing me wrong 😕

[@Zythus07]

Between this, and having a kid when I'm not ready (i.e. not in a stable position to provide for her and the kid) are the reasons why I still choose to abstain. Sure, there are ways to prevent pregnancy, but none are 100% foolproof.

[@Papaetmoi2000]

Absolutely! Make sure you’re comfortable and that’s all that matters :~)

[@Oyama_]

For me, I am afraid of being naked in front of someone else.

[@jasminebloom8190]

Can totally relate to the fear

[@iamkdian]

same here. I’m still very self-conscious about my body so I don’t want someone being disgusted by my body 😭

[@krstnktzn]

“I know I’m going to be a freak” What a queen

[@og_gini]

Lmaoo she is

[@nataliaheidel4694]

Exactly meeee

[@swisdom9117]

I related to her though. I'm already researching human anatomy plus adding a bunch of interesting looking toys to my 2025 Amazon cart xD

[@Call_me_pweety]

I love her

[@spb3931]

@@swisdom9117 calm down there bby

[@costcofreezers]

i’m not scared of actually losing it, i’m more scared of doing it with someone who will take advantage of me or is judgmental or something. edit: not a virgin anymore! it’s awesome

[@charmainephasoana6850]

Same here

[@farahkhan6708]

Same waahhhh

[@Meg-cc6yc]

Woah same

[@themango9644]

Yea that's y I'm waiting till marriage. Not marrying a man who will judge my sexual abilities like r you nuts

[@HeloisaFR]

Agree

[@darkraiisdaddy1389]

"Are you afraid of sex?" Me: "No, I'm afraid of idiots."

[@hamzamahmood9565]

Me being one gives me the fear

[@darkraiisdaddy1389]

@@hamzamahmood9565 lmao nice

[@EleWasTaken]

@@hamzamahmood9565 same lool

[@issacgandero3962]

Haha same.

[@annahjaya700]

Same 😪😪

[@voyance4elle]

I love how confident the Christian guy is. He is so relaxed thinking about the possibility of becoming a 40 year old virgin...

[@javierxhr]

it's creepy, how someone can be too different from the rest of the people.

[@ieatcatfood]

@@javierxhr can you give more context on your message I would like to understand it more

[@davidthegiantslayer5132]

@@javierxhr what do you mean by that

[@javierxhr]

​@@davidthegiantslayer5132 He thinks is ok being virgin at 30s, but most people don't, that makes him weird.

[@Triisttan]

@@javierxhr you’re weird

[@neena3025]

i've never understood this fuss around virginity.it's an individual's personal choice whether to have sex or not. why does it matter to anyone else? you don't owe an explanation to anyone. since some of you seem to be disagreeing with what i said, my point is that no one should be mocked for being a virgin or not being one.

[@mayariley9977]

Right also people treat it like it’s a must do. There’s more to life than that. I think teens rush into that experience before learning more about themselves.

[@zainabb.5602]

Truee

[@bluepurplepink]

I think there is something to be said about religious indoctrination which can have serious negative consequences related to virginity and glorification of sex and marriage

[@hayden7540]

@@mayariley9977 am 14; ya I wish i could undo it! I lost mine last Christmas, wasn't fun

[@Raphael-]

I think most of the time it's not a choice.

[@velofilms3834]

The fact that people shame people for being virgins is crazy, is this the world we truly live in???

[@anobletone]

Unfortunately it is

[@psionic5747]

There is no virginity shaming in my country

[@nyawz1997]

Theres no something like that in my country

[@alexx6408]

we need to gather a bunch of sex addict and start shaming them, Not to feel superior just to show them how awful it is to shame ppl for who they are

[@m.josena4485]

@@alexx6408 but people do shame people who have s*x. I believe we should just stop judging people for their sexual experiences (or lack of ig too).

[@iremcecan702]

Omg I’m really surprised that the Christian guy said he would like to pray the wedding night.I’m a Muslim and it is actually customary in my community to pray your wedding night with your partner before anything happens.It’s really wonderful to see this much resemblance in a world where we’re constantly fed with “the differences we have”.Love to all of you,take care

[@bryanyeung7389]

Yah for sure! As a Christian myself, I think a lot of us want a good prayer life (talking to God and putting Him first in everything that we do) and I think right before the wedding night when you and your partner become so very intimate, prayer is something that is just beautiful. Just remember that everybody has their own walk and relationship with God, so not everyone thinks the same :)

[@iremcecan702]

@@bryanyeung7389 I absolutely agree! May God be with us and guide us to peace ✌️

[@chicagata]

@@iremcecan702 As long as you don't feel guilty or ashamed of your body it is ok to bring god along. The problem is that religion sees sexuality as a way to reproduce, while sexuality is way more than that. I hope you don't miss out the real potential of sexuality because of your dogma...

[@erhanfurkanalan5140]

Ben de adam dua edeceğini söylediğinde mutlu olmuştum nedense. Sanırım dediğin gibi bizde de var olan bir şey olduğundan ötürü.

[@kimberleyjaay6973]

@@chicagata I don't know as much about Islam, but in Christianity a healthy sex life between a married couple is actually celebrated within the bible. But as time has gone on, and ideas get skewed, people come to think of sex being shameful or something to hide, but in Christianity (again, the ideal was for it to be within marriage) sex is something to be enjoyed together regularly and not only to have children.

[@sreeja1270]

Yeah idk why people make such a big deal out of someone being a virgin. Everyone can make their own choices, is it really that hard to respect that?

[@forrmyheart]

Ikr. People act like it's weird of you don't lose your V card by 16-18.

[@ELLIE-ci6et]

In Asia Typically in Philippines, when you loose your Virginity at a young age(14-17) you're considered as dirty, sinful, war freak, slutty, horny teenager, etc..

[@adrianauyene321]

@@ELLIE-ci6et same in latin american culture. Christians families and everything.

[@novavanguard1313]

@@ELLIE-ci6et war freak?

[@ELLIE-ci6et]

@@novavanguard1313 yeah, you'll get discriminated just by posting on social media that you're proud you're not a virgin anymore or just by talking about it... In other countries it may seem "COOL" but in Asia Typically Philippines its the opposite...

[@ngazibini304]

The guy in the nike sweater was just spittin facts

[@platinumsellingbitch.]

Love or hate him tho, he’s spitting’ straight *FACS.*

[@jemanvirk]

@Nemek gud job mate

[@kenangedik3678]

@Nemek you da best

[@HelloKittysFriend418]

yeah

[@Tttggggggg]

That’s my dawg

[@lissie141]

I'm 19 and im a virgin. never even kissed someone. ive always felt kinda bad about that even though i know i shouldn't. society really makes us feel ashamed for losing our virginity too early or too late. its nice to know that there's people even older than me who are still virgins because i felt like i was somehow wrong or "behind" for that? idk it's nice though :)

[@rodriguezelfeliz4623]

What? At least were I live, being a virgin at 19 is really common, actually it is the vast majority

[@chiiko7090]

@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 agree! Losing your v-card in a young age in our country is highly discourage. Dang. What has society got in to.

[@AioriaPoderoso]

19? you are still very young, Im 25 btw and still, and nothing wrong at 19

[@naturallyunbothered8860]

Don't worry all asians relate

[@vladmirpuddin385]

The virginity thing I never really cared about cus I was like "it's religion" but I always felt ashamed for not having my first kiss and its always reassuring when someone hasn't had it either

[@paul066]

If you look up the definition of “chill” in the dictionary, you’ll find a photo of the dude with long blond hair.

[@LeeKiing]

First

[@dhrtvanjhamb7183]

@@LeeKiing ok?

[@Katystinks]

I thought the answers for “why are you a virgin” were so interesting. I was expecting most of them to say religion but it was at most half. Real respect for the girl who said her parents were really young when they had her and didn’t want to repeat that. ❤️

[@julietsanchez]

❤️

[@CV-yy9qz]

Yesss! ❤️

[@KLOCinematics]

There are many forms of birth control that are highly effective. Also there are condoms. If that is your exclusive issue then thats the solution

[@KKFilms-pq4xi]

Finally someone who watched the same video as me.

[@infinitebeaches]

@CPA Penguin because it doesn't work. We're not really wired to be abstinent and every 'abstinent-based' education system ends up resulting in high rates of unprotected sex. Look at teen pregnancy rates in highly religious areas of the US vs more secular ones. When given adequate contraceptive education and reproductive health services people make safer choices.

[@Chaipuffai]

I'm a 26 year old virgin, and I'm not ashamed of it. I don't go announcing it but if asked, I have no shame admitting it. Watching this video, a lot of these individuals seem to have some religious reason for staying a virgin (not all). From someone who did not grow in a religious household, I chose to stay a virgin because I don't think I should rush into having sex just because we live in a culture that focuses way too much on sex (pointing at dramas/movies targeted towards teens and young adults). Plus, I may be the weird one as I much rather know someone emotionally and deeply than having sex. EDIT: For those saying I announced it, I thought it was clear that I meant this towards when I am meeting people in my own personal life (IRL) and not using an online nickname posting on a KZbin video. And if that wasn't clear, well this edit is to clear that up.

[@bd-ps1gn]

It is not weird. Im 21and a virgin. I didnt even have any relationship. For me the most important thing is loving someone's character and having a strong bond with them. Sex is least important thing for me.

[@Chaipuffai]

@@bd-ps1gn I had one relationship when I was like 21-22, never had sex with that person because we both didn't find that as important as us getting to know each other. We broke up a few years ago, and I don't regret a thing about it.

[@RShama1230]

Very well said

[@elizabethharrison3765]

I was a virgin until 26. Glad you're taking your time and waiting until you're ready!

[@PredatorH2O]

How is that weird ?

[@zetharerey3761]

All these people in the comment section being confy being virgens makes me feel ok about almost hitting 30 and still having my v-card.

[@GeographyPal]

Hell yeah!

[@skatedog8233]

It is ok. You are perfectly normal.

[@imdva]

honestly nobody should care, it doesn’t make you any less human!

[@veri88.]

I'm 24, virgin and it's absolutely fine to wait.

[@alivia9691]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that! I'm happy youre ok with it. ☺

[@beatricez2050]

I'm a virgin too, mainly because of pregnancy, body insecurities and not feeling pleasure. Also being sexually active takes a lot of responsability, which I'm gonna be honest I don't have, being a virgin allows me to live carefree about pregnancy scares, relationships and STDs.

[@paulakristino]

Contraception Methods?

[@mellowmorningsasmr3770]

@@paulakristino they are not 100% better safe then sorry.

[@mariacoimbra4897]

Omg that's exactly how I feel!!!

[@everydaysam3547]

hahah same! I always saw relationships like a chore and the prospect of having sex as too much responsability as well... and then I realized I was just asexual

[@FactStorm]

Fair points, more power to you

[@vhappy6428]

I was a virgin when I meet my husband, he was going to be my "Hit it & quit it" experiment. . But here we are 25 years later

[@Iwasjustwondering89]

Haha my bf of nearly 7 years and I started out as a ONS too. Still going strong together 💕

[@robertboyette5169]

As a 25 y/o virgin I’m kind of afraid if that. I’m a very passionate-driven (but not emotion-driven) person as well, so I’m afraid my body will tell my brain that the first one is “The One,” simply because that person happened to be the first to give me the time of day.

[@falloutgirl902]

That’s beautiful

[@spb3931]

idk whether thats nice to hear or questionable so get it ig?

[@carlosmspk]

@@spb3931 pretty sure it's not nice to hear. At least it worked out though

[@ChoiHyeonMin]

the reason why i still virgin because i don't want to ruin that moment with wrong person

[@JTO1247]

Amém

[@apecentury228]

The good guys are usually the nice quiet ones and forget about looks. if you're a good girl, then he'll stay with you.

[@ChoiHyeonMin]

@@apecentury228 Nah, forget about the looks cause we cannot following the streotype. in my country there are some guys who became a sex predator on the internet and the most shocking part was "their image" which they looks like a nerd and known to be quiet and nice and it's scary af.

[@12Messenger]

Yep and find out they just want to have sex and thats it. Girls can smash and dash also guys. I dont want a girl that's not relationship based like me

[@Krischan11]

Thnx god im not alone

[@walkingcarol8351]

Can these people be my friend group? Everyone is so authentic and real.

[@kiranp5611]

You can find authentic people everywhere. I think I'm but you can verify that by being friends with me lol

[@dedalliance1]

That's what they want you to think.

[@soundwave710]

IG: alwaysinmydreams4L if u want to talk

[@user-vo7rz5kg8b]

I have been summoned

[@krisimarovska6244]

@@dedalliance1 What? They are just sharing their experiences

[@EugeOrochi]

When people think virgins can't swear or they have a childish personality due to that makes me upset 🙄

[@JP-zo5pv]

yes!! and It has happened to me that they think that I am going to judge them or that I think I am a better person just for that, I mean wtf

[@getnorgetout9425]

It's because being pure is more than simple virginity, it also makes a person pure in other ways such as behavior. Children are innocent which is why a pure person seems childish.

[@proudtobeanerd5340]

@@getnorgetout9425 but the point is they’re not pure if they’re swearing - virgins can be impure in lots of different ways if they want to be

[@katieconcannon511]

Something about the orange haired girl’s orange eyebrows is so satisfying

[@trials9160]

Yeah

[@random_d00d]

She is SO pretty!! I love her bubbly personality

[@srose59]

It reminds me of those orange pop cycles with vanilla ice cream in the middle. Lol

[@praxym9293]

Yeah...I think that's how hair is ...eyebrows always match hair

[@rachelsheehan6115]

Am I the only one who thinks she looks like drew barrymore?

[@sayedelsherif6354]

The Guy with Long hair is actually a chill guy. i want to be a friend with that person!

[@huberts2957]

I thinks he is Jesus

[@muhammadomer7495]

Hes 29 but looks 49 he may pass for 59

[@user-iu7xk9kq6z]

@@huberts2957 😂😂😂

[@natevanslyke990]

Honestly same! I feel like he'd be a really cool guy to hang out with

[@muhammadomer7495]

@@natevanslyke990 not sure.being a virgun at the age is not normal

[@betzyoviedo81]

This comment section makes me feel comfy

[@surladanse5621]

SAME

[@alivia9691]

Thats awesome!!! You should feel comfy!

[@broken-gammer]

why ?

[@Kayylaaaaaaaaaaa]

Frl me too

[@carlosmspk]

I feel the opposite. I expected a lot of people to naturally downplay "virgin judgement". Instead everyone is going "it's alright for you to be a virgin at X years old". Don't take me wrong, it's cool that people have that mentality, but I thought we'd be over it to the point where it wouldn't even be a worthwhile thing to comment, because everyone already knows

[@Ivy-jb4ux]

I feel like losing your virginity is hyped up WAY more than it really should be. You'll still be the same person before and after you have sex, it's not like you go through this huge life changing transformation. I think where a lot of people regret their first time is where they rush it just to get it done and over with because they're nervous or ashamed to still be virgins. Don't do that to yourself. You don't necessarily have to be head over heels in love for your first time (unless you want to which is fine), but definitely wait for someone you feel comfortable and confident with. Also, it's going to be awkward your first time, and that's ok, no one is an expert the first time they try something out. Be honest and upfront with your partner, and if they're not willing to provide what you want just walk away.

[@AliaslsailA]

I don't think that the sole event of the 'first time' makes you grow but I do think coming into your own as a sexual being does.

[@ipetris86]

That sound comfy,but what happen if was the only experience to have sex and never have another chance to sleep with other girl-woman?

[@captainteeko4579]

I’m 25 never had sex never been on a date or even been kissed. Glad to know I’m not alone. It hasn’t happened for me just cuz it hasn’t happened yet 🤷🏻‍♀️ no religion anything involved lol

[@checkmattee222]

I'm 26 and a virgin. It hasn't happened cause I'm keeping myself for after marriage. I don't mind being a virgin lol

[@mariahlove4405]

Turning 25 this year and same. Im way to awkward and like being by myself too much 🤦‍♀️

[@Antman213-u4r]

I'm in the same boat but I'm 19

[@adrianalucero9830]

That was me. First date, first kiss did not happen until 28.

[@aamu3]

Ye hon, I'm also 25 and the closest to contact was friendly hugs

[@notky848]

When KZbin teaches you more than school, but according to adults, your phone is the reason you don’t know anything

Facts

[@jinjunliu2401]

I think you're still stuck in pre 2010, a big part of the adults nowadays know how useful the internet can be for learning

[@notky848]

@@jinjunliu2401 in 2010 I was three or four years old, so no, im not stuck in 2010. As a 2020 teenager, adults are always talking about how the internet isn’t doing anything good for us, and that it only soils our young minds, which I don’t completely disagree with. But I sit in a building for 7 hours barely learning then go home and spend 2 hours on my phone to actually learn things I’m actually engaged in and want to learn. This is my generation, I think I’d know what adults tell us lol.

[@jinjunliu2401]

​@@notky848 I'm a teenager as well, but have different experiences regarding adults. The group of adults that I thought of was 20-40 (50ish) as they have spend a lot of their time on the internet as well and actually learn a lot on it too. My high school teachers have always been pretty positive about the internet, even using youtube (kurzgesagt for example) sometimes during class. They also know how much educational content there is and has been accessed to prepare for exams. And my current professors have even told us that wikipedia is a good place to start peak your maths interests. So they are definitely aware of the learning opportunities on the internet. And besides, most of the actually educational youtubers are in that age range. The only adults I would think don't fit this image I have would be my parents, who do see internet more negatively (well... used to, not as much anymore), but as they come from a different background where internet wasn't that prevalent, they had never have to use it as we do.

[@kaylenejantjes8113]

Right??? 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jessk9523]

22 year old thinks it’s weird to be a virgin 24 year old virgin me: 😐

[@kingdino_2085]

Just two 24 yr old virgins here 😐

[@BooksToAshes]

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and my best friend is 26 and hasn't even kissed a guy, so don't lose hope completely. It's not as big of a deal as people make it out to be. I'm the same person I was before I lost it, I didn't feel much difference honestly haha

[@Ali-rb3ir]

@@forrmyheart cap

[@forrmyheart]

@@user-sb4tk9yh1n *moto moto, that's who*

[@KaushikBala333]

Same here

[@aura-kx2rz]

I just don't want to be someone's momentarily experience.

[@abigaildaily5740]

This.

[@hypercoder6577]

All experiences are momentary.

[@zayna3783]

Why do it and give away your purity for someone you'll never see again?

[@tonicalhoun1934]

Fair. I hope you meet someone that is interested in more than a momentary experience with you.

[@user-cd6kn8mb3x]

Exactly, thats why I prefer sex after marriage. Cuz even if like u lost it and if the first time is bad, at least I lost it to someone that'd have higher chances to stay with me longer, than losing it to my for eg bf who can just break up with me after the sex itself yk..

[@JM-dk4ec]

21 year old virgin here, never kissed nobody before or anything. But I’m striving to be a productive member of society and that’s my only focus right now.

[@veronikatramisak633]

I'm virgin too except the kissing part 😅😂I am kind of anxious about that since I want to have kids once I'm older 😅😅

[@vladmirpuddin385]

I haven't kissed anyone as well!

[@RedStorm1392]

👏🏽

[@ixtilbenlen]

31 years old virgin here, what you posted is completely me. Growing up we were like upper I think lower to lower middle class. So right when I got out of high school I put relationships and everything of that nature on the back burner. Not to say I havent and dont still get crazy every now an again 😉😁. Let's just say I have shared my fare moment of once being crazy drunk, dumped on the side of the road by a uber driver who picked up the wrong group of ppl. Unsure why we got out the uber completely lost in Miami at 4am trying to help my sister fan her hubby who thought he was dying, cussing at the long gone uber driver. Watching a crazy lady twerking in the middle of the street for the lord as she put it 🤣🤣😂😂😂 Anyways I jumped head first into making a comfortable and stead life for myself 😊. The why I seen it and still do see is, if there is someone met for me they'll find me 😊

[@thamwarit]

You sound extremely familiar. Do I know you😂

[@brittany7196]

What I dislike is. When people hold their virginity for any other reason besides religion everybody supports it. But if they hold it for religion. People mock and hate it. Doesnt make sense. When a lot of secular reasons match up with religious reasons lol. People hate other peoples religious beliefs so much it’s ridiculous

[@lomanzimshanga7578]

This!!!!!!

[@sunshine3914]

To clarify: they’re mocking man made superstitions. There’s reality out there, & it’s valid.

[@brittany7196]

@@sunshine3914 no y’all are just superficial and refuse to see the deeper in things. Y’all rely on the 5 senses that repeatedly fails you everyday 😂your idea of a God is very limited and unintelligent and that’s why you mock because you don’t know how to understand. But I wouldn’t expect to when you worship and rely on only your eyes, taste, smell, touch and not your consciousness and spirit. You ever noticed when a child grows without his/her parents. No matter how successful they grow up to be. They will always be missing something inside. Because humans have a deeper longing to connect the source that brought us into this realm of life. Humans are meant to connect with the higher source that brought forth life. And that’s what religious people do. Seek their humanly source so they feel complete. Like an orphan looking for its parents. And you mock them for that. It’s sad. People who go throughout their life content on only the superficial and refuse to attempt to connect with the source of life are missing something and it’s even sadder most of y’all refuse to realize y’all are missing it.

[@Enereltheslantyeyes]

@brittany that’s what I was thinking!! 👏🏼

[@jame5game5]

@@sunshine3914Religion isn't all superstitions, some have been proven by science

[@scarlettm.6093]

I really like how comfortable everyone is about being a virgin. It’s definitely something a lot of people get made fun of for, but this was a refreshing video to watch. We live in such a sexualized world where sex sells and it’s nice to see that sex isn’t everything. It’s okay to take your time to get to that point.

[@cnb1233]

I didn’t kiss anyone until I was 22. I could’ve gave him my “V-card” that night, but I chose not to. I thought being a virgin was embarrassing for years, but now I realize that it’s nothing to be embarrassed about! I’m 23 now, and I’m still a Virgin. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen. I’m not stressing about it, and you shouldn’t either! 😘

[@annagarcia1527]

Dont stress.. i first had sex when I was 23...i waited till I was ready. And it was with a good friend. Who treated me nice. Too be honest. The first time it was mostly mechanical...i was just trying to get the basic part down lol. But i always remember the first time I made love with someone I really loved. So wait until YOU know you are ready.

[@svenskaela1234561]

I'm turning 23 in a few weeks and I'm having a really bad existential crisis I guess 2020 has us all feeling like that lol. I just keep thinking about all the things I missed out since I turned 20 and being a virgin is one of them since I have had many guy who were interested but I never trusted any of them. So hearing that there are other 23 year olds who are still virgins is really comforting.

[@ladylaurenia]

@@svenskaela1234561 23 year old virgin here too, you aren’t alone and have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about! I understand what you mean about “missing” out especially since this pandemic.

[@JohnJacobGarza]

Well I’m 27 I’m still a virgin

[@lilbixy]

Im going on 23 too 😴 this year , I have also had the chance but instantly dip afterwards , I feel like im just not ready but also the insecurity part . How do you guys deal with not feeling bad and feeling pressured by others about sex ??

[@iamLucid]

V-Card Gang x2

[@forrmyheart]

Here but I'm 13

[@baseddandere]

highkey surprised you arent in this video too haha

[@niazz1339]

Bruh

[@Inktownicon]

🐐

[@nandigore204]

24 year old

[@annasuby1]

The guy who was really dedicated to his religion and faith was so cute. I'm usually very cynical towards religion but he was so wholesome about it and showed his passion and joy for it. I love how much he loves his faith

[@krisimarovska6244]

He was sooo nice!

[@random_d00d]

He was super dope. All of the people here are awesome actually

[@jakerohr]

Thanks for the love Anna ☺️

[@amethyst_0711]

As a Christian I need that man like that ❤️

[@jadeoluleye8036]

Wait which one?

[@tobyskinner94]

After watching this I feel so much better about myself, turning 27 in a few months and still a virgin and never been in a relationship makes me feel so bad and worthless :(

[@Scriabin_fan]

That doesn’t make you worthless. Life isn’t a race. Be patient, work on yourself and become the person you want to be, everything else will fall into place. I’m 19 and I haven’t even had my first kiss yet, and I don’t intend to rush anything. Best wishes!

[@phoenixxena8194]

Take time when it comes to relationship. Because no matter what happens, somehow it would leave some prints on yourself. Especially nowadays with so many dating apps, which makes cheating easier, as easy as swipe left and right, it left me jaded and have trust issues. It just not worth it, all the time and emotional investment that I put into it. If I ever have a boyfriend "again", I would probably pay a woman just to test his loyalty early in the relationship. My coding and ebooks are often much more interesting....😆

[@crazysheza8264]

Now dont do dare say that again.. U are not worthless.. I mean no one in this world are worthless.. Not having a boyfrnd or being virgin doesnt define who u are.. Keep thta in your mind.. Trust me, one day u are gonn a find that someone who is meant for u.. Sending lots of love to u ❤️❤️

[@bronwenw6384]

Don't feel that way Toby. You are amazing just the way you are. Blessed is the woman who will finally get to be your wife. 👏👏👏👏

[@kaeyana8541]

Why does this society think being virgin is a crime seriously??

[@kenna7686]

It the world we live in nowadays.

[@piotr004]

You wonder why? Because "misery loves company".

[@1251caveman]

@@piotr004 Nope Hollywood is the main reason why.

[@camelio10]

They fear innocence, because they have moved so far from it

[@NaraTam1121]

and in my city, an Asian one, being a non-virgin is a crime and I have seen male online stating their standards and it is to be a virgin :)

[@collarmole1819]

The world is eerily obsessed with people who've never had sex. Find a better hobby.

[@themissingtile2828]

Says the girl who just watched the video. 🥴

[@collarmole1819]

@@themissingtile2828 Prove that I did.

[@themissingtile2828]

@@collarmole1819 Believe me, you did.

[@collarmole1819]

@@themissingtile2828 I didn't.

[@themissingtile2828]

@@collarmole1819 then why did you comment? In order for you to make a comment like you did, you had to have watched the video.

[@justfrickinpeachy]

yeah i wanna be friends with the girl with orange hair she’s cool

[@Nonbinarymodel]

Same omg

[@erin5498]

I was thinking the same omg

[@jakerohr]

Yes 😁

[@astronymity]

they’re my sibling’s best friend’s older sibling! i actually went to school with them and yes, they’re extremely cool

[@serenaward1998]

me too

[@simeondobrev5835]

Wow, this comment section makes me a lot less anxious of being a virgin at 20. There is no shame in that, that's why I talk openly about it with me close friends

[@perrykatechumbley974]

the last guy saying he wanted to pray before his first time, every Christian girl just fell in love with you and Jesus is smiling down on you

[@Nympho4Hire]

um, I'm pretty sure he said he wanted to pray DURING his first time 🤷‍♀️

[@maryanne9927]

i pray the Lord grants him a really good wife, loved how he answered all questions, he is a firm believer in the Lord.

[@praiseayodele2616]

😩😩❣️❣️

[@Novah13]

I’m not even religious and I thought that was just the sweetest thing 🥺

[@bookkeeper8092]

@@Nympho4Hire yeah, as someone who does believe in God, this did make me like a lil uncomfy 👀 I don’t really want to think about God while getting railed lmao. Like if anything, pray for blessings before you go on your honeymoon or whatever tf but like not during IT. I mean, ig I just don’t get where he’s coming from so oh well

[@christinnordberg]

I’m a 19 year old, and I feel like the only part I’m really embarrassed about is that I haven’t had a first kiss.

[@valeriavenegas4778]

Me neither, I’m 22

[@kevinnivek5022]

Me too and I’m 21

[@bubblewrapfred]

Honestly I’d prefer if I hadn’t. Instead I’ve had over a decade of knowing the only guy I’ve ever kissed is a guy I never should have dated

[@riz7855]

God I just turned 17 and I’m on the same boat. I feel like I have fallen behind in a way even tho I’m still so young, it’s crazy.

[@christinnordberg]

@@riz7855 Yeah...and now it’s 2021, so I’ll be 20 this summer. And I guarantee it still wouldn’t have happened for me by then. Haha.

[@salems.bytche]

“Virgins can’t keep eye contact or carry a conversation” I can’t either...and I’m not a virgin, I’m just just anxious and gay lol

[@swarnima8555]

Lmaaaooooo

[@LukeHenderson123]

Lmfao ... Queen 💅

[@marshmelows]

lmao, thanks for sharing :)

[@ebonysunberry2580]

Lmao

[@ebonysunberry2580]

@Ace Carter 😑

[@jlee7111]

29 year old virgin here. I'm not religious but just don't wanna risk emotional and physical vulnerability for mere pleasure and want to build the level of comfort and trust with a partner first.

[@j.g.9045]

Have you thought about the fact that you might be demisexual? Being demi means you can't experience physical attraction/lust until you form an emotional bond with someone.

[@Joshciza223]

Being a virgin doesn't matter in my view. Same with your religion, sexuality, gender and race. As long as we are all good, respectful people, our society will prosper and our world will be a better place.

[@mmendoza0381]

Agreed

[@AridetothemuseumFtknj]

U are a random guy, and a good one, lov u 💜💖🌱✨

[@smileprincess6834]

🙌🏾 Yeeessss!

[@kaeyana8541]

Actually it's because Christianity says your body is a temple and you shouldn't have sex with anyone but your husband or wife

[@Joshciza223]

@@kaeyana8541 I meant that whether or not you're a virgin shouldn't matter. It's totally fine if one desires to stay abstinent till marriage.

[@gabriellemesmo]

To christians out there waiting for marriage: you're doing the right thing, don't let anyone shame you for it. It's worth it.

[@myrightcheek80085]

Periodt 🥰🥰🥰

[@pumpkincheesecake4722]

i don’t think it’s about doing the right thing, bc there are Christians who have had sex before marriage and i personally think we shouldn’t label that as bad or evil, but if you’re waiting for marriage we should see it as choosing to do something that empowers and uplifts you, allowing for a deeper connection with God :) I just think we should be careful with the language we use around premarital sex so as not to alienate Christians who have done that in their life

[@maurnavi6800]

@@pumpkincheesecake4722 both are valid, though one is what God says is indeed the right thing. That doesn’t make anyone who chooses either path bad or evil though. I disagree that there is no right thing, God makes in clear what He says is right here, but you are right in no one should be judged or shamed for their choices in life

[@SixHundredAndSixtySix]

@@maurnavi6800 Very true. But what if God doesn't exist? Free your mind. *Jumps from one building to the next*

[@chhmo9851]

@@SixHundredAndSixtySix But what if God does exist? Free your mind.

[@PrototypeC4]

This is so wholesome and a much needed discussion in American society.

[@emma-yl2lq]

man stfu america not the only place in the world. how r u gonna exclude the majority of the world

[@nelsatiemtore6356]

ma He's not excluding anyone, he is just pointing out that it's important to talk about this in American society. Some discussions are more needed in some places then others. I think they were referring to how in American pop culture there seems to be a lot of stigma around being a virgin

[@emma-yl2lq]

@@nelsatiemtore6356 there’s discrimination about that in every white country unless there’s religion involved

[@Chris-ot9bk]

Not The Angry Americans Being Told Their Country Isn't All Sunshine And Rainbows

[@emma-yl2lq]

@@Chris-ot9bk no i’m from new zealand. it’s the americans who think they r the only landmass in the world

[@gummybear9069]

That man with the long hair seems so sweet, and his responses were so real and he wasn’t scared to share what he believes in ❤️

[@selly6147]

I’m 21 and I’m still a virgin, never had a boyfriend because nobody matches my expectations and I would like to do it with only the love of my life, not for religious reason. But men like that doesn’t seem to exist :(

[@hv5516]

yeah take your time. you got a whole lifetime to find the right one.

[@divyanshudevil4539]

man that matches your expectations does exists.....hope you find him soon👍......by the way man with exact same thinking like yours does exist though you havent seen but they do exist☺️

[@selly6147]

@@divyanshudevil4539 i don’t think I’ll find him soon lol😂 but I hope he exists 🤞😅

[@amkolar]

We definitely do exist, but there are very few guys like me and girls like you. I'm the same in that I wanna wait until I fall in love with a girl. But so many more people would rather have sex before falling in love. Which is of course absolutely fine, but just sucks for people like us ;_;

[@rodriguezelfeliz4623]

Expectarions are overrated

[@greengoblin2308]

I found it just aggravating that people pick on virgins for being a virgin without knowing WHY. There are reasons..stop judging it you don’t know the story

[@bilbloblep6769]

even if there is no reason they shouldnt be judged

[@arthurfleck629]

On top of that, it’s none of their business, not even remotely

[@greengoblin2308]

@@bilbloblep6769 10000% agree

[@greengoblin2308]

@@arthurfleck629 that part too‼️‼️‼️

[@zesolodar]

yep agree 100 percent, ive been mocked in the past for it but no one has asked me why they assume im a loser, if they did they would realize i find no enjoyment in the thought of rolling around with someone in bed never really something ive looked for or wanted not important to me unless im trying to have kids with someone which im not. i rather spend my time and energy going to concerts, traveling, taking my mountain bike and getting lost in the woods because i actually get enjoyment out of that

[@heba6087]

Honestly not many are comfortable with talking about such sensitive topics so I really respect all of them for doing this and providing us with such content

[@Eddi3Pwns]

You will be confident one day, confidence is just knowing you'll be okay no matter the outcome. This lets you express who you are on points that matter to you without fearing over what others think because you validate yourself, not others, never give that power to anyone. We're all in this together, others are only there to support and share in on the experience.

[@heba6087]

@@Eddi3Pwns I totally agree, confidence is the most beautiful thing someone can possess and as you said it comes from not fearing to be wrong no matter the outcome. Thank you for taking your time and writing your advice, I found it very helpful and insightful!

[@jakerohr]

Much love

[@philspaghet]

I'm a Christian so I believe in abstinence before marriage. But I don't WANT to have sex with anyone other than my future wife. Sex is a responsibility, and I don't want to do it with anyone I don't love. It's kinda scary to think about too because I won't know if I can satisfy my future wife in bed because I don't have experience but at the same time, I wouldn't want to marry someone someone who isn't a virgin ideally so I wouldn't expect them to be any good in bed either and I think that's something special too, figuring out how to love each other together from ground zero.

[@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat]

....Well of course if you are both virgins, you will both be a bit clueless. But since neither of you will know any better or different, you can experiment and grow together over the years. Maybe read The Joy of Sex first to give yourself and future spouse a little confidence.

[@Sona77.]

I used to only want a virgin too, but it’s really rare these days. I guess it’s important to be with someone who respects you and values you. Someone who is patient with you.

[@philspaghet]

@@Sona77. That's true but that experience she had is just going to change the ENTIRE dynamic of the relationship. It's not hard to find if you look within the church and know how to judge people

[@linabam5064]

the older I get the less I care about people knowing I'm a virgin. If someone gets weirded out by that they're not the right one for me anyway. I've really come to embrace it instead of being embarrassed about it because I respect everyone's choice with this and don't judge anyone and I just expect the same from people. If they can't respect me and my personal choices I don't need them in my life.

[@v.v.9.9.]

Not related but, Chungha looks amazing in that pic

[@bellamckinnon8655]

Good for you, awesome mindset

[@12Messenger]

I want a woman with the ultimate self control like I have because i havent been inside of a woman since I came out of my mom' from birth

[@MrCmon113]

@@12Messenger It doesn't take "self control" to stay a virgin as a dude. Nice coping strategy though.

[@linabam5064]

@@v.v.9.9. aw haha yes she does

[@pakiraju786]

I’m glad I’m not the only one who is afraid for my first time.

[@thatdamngamers]

Honestly the majority of people have been and are, my first time was frightening, both me and my gf (now ex) were virgins, and neither of us had any idea. My tip to help you is to just ask your partner what they like and what they don't, there's no set rulebook, we are all different. Good luck!

[@pisstit]

It's probably gonna suck all things considered

[@channelchannelchannelyourself]

I'm sooooo scared bc I'm a girl so ik itll hurt

[@claudiaj.7011]

​@@channelchannelchannelyourself same! omg

[@squarepower178]

What helps me be less scared when i think about is reminding myself that it's supposed to be FUN, that's why you do it, so it doesn't make sense to be worried or think too much about every detail

[@5coldplayhurtsfan]

I'm scared of the awkwardness but the thing is it's only gonna get more awkward the older I get 💀

[@triplemoyagames4195]

just accept it and power through. You have an objective, complete it

[@5coldplayhurtsfan]

@@triplemoyagames4195 well there's also the issue of even meeting someone I find at least a little attractive

[@triplemoyagames4195]

@@5coldplayhurtsfan You don't know any attractive people?

[@5coldplayhurtsfan]

@@triplemoyagames4195 no I live in the countryside :(

[@triplemoyagames4195]

@@5coldplayhurtsfan damn. Surely there are some attractive people :( I thought the country got attractive people bruh. Wait male or female?

[@Crod6]

That girl made me feel so not alone. I’m also 22 and still haven’t even had my 1st kiss. It’s just hard to find someone genuine nowadays. I’m also scared to have strong feelings for someone haha

[@Andrewjc222]

I’m in the same situation

[@annamallen90]

Same here.

[@linmonPIE]

22 is young still. I had my first kiss when I was 32.

[@rainy5517]

Same here. I don't even have friends, so how am I going to find someone romantically interested in me?

[@rachaitabnova5052]

I preferred to stay virgin because my partner insisted on doing it without protection. I thought it was really insensitive of him to just think about the pleasure and ignore the protection part. I broke up with him

[@MiamEggTart]

You did well, you would have wasted your time with an inconsiderate person 👍👍

[@rachaitabnova5052]

@@MiamEggTart I could have been pregnant and then deserted by him and my family

[@rachaitabnova5052]

@z yes. I thank the Heavens for that :)

[@pebblegrindelwald6593]

Good for you!

[@abbyunruh1741]

Got pregnant from a guy like that and he did just abandon us, so yeah, doged a bullet.

[@raniaahmad9301]

*When you're so early that there's no juicy comments*

[@forrmyheart]

*then you come back later to see all of the interesting comments*

[@raniaahmad9301]

@@forrmyheart *y e s*

[@shrimp4655]

Stay pure

[@blueberrycheesecake9512]

I'm so sorry for being annoying but *you're 😔

[@neionfauhx]

shout out to your name :)

[@evildeities8750]

I'm really sick of people judging Christian people for how they want to do things.

[@knightninja8714]

Welcome to the club. You'll get used to it...

[@mullerj143]

this is the life of a Christian, hahah.

[@evildeities8750]

@@knightninja8714 I guess so. My family is not religious so this is kind of sad to me

[@ileutur6863]

@@evildeities8750 Because catholics and protestants apply their puritanical and restraining rules to every part of life. Sorry but that deserves judgment. You can clearly tell some people were stunted by the rules and fears they were taught as children

[@kylie9687]

Christians have judged others far worse

[@calvinli9801]

I lost my virginity at 30 to my wife, and I truly believe I have one of the happiest marriages ever. We were best friends before marriage when we dated for 3 years, and we're still best friends now. We always talked about sex, but we decided that waiting for it till after marriage would be so much better. Honestly, it really was though. I'm not saying people should do what I do, but still think my decision is one of the best I've made in my life.

[@Sona77.]

You’re a great role model. Many men don’t respect women and waiting. Thank you for setting an example. 🙏🏻

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

it's beautiful that you can be happy with your choice without pushing the same type of choice on others :)

[@zou4858]

I'm a 25 muslim girl, never been kissed, nor have sex. Never even had a boyfriend due to so many reasons, but the main one is because I wanted to be with only one perfect person who's gonna be my one and only. But still never met someone interesting. As a muslim girl I cant have sex unless I get married, so I have plenty of time now to think about how my first time is gonna be, how are my first reactions to sex gonna be. I respect the people who believe in something like the Christian guy and stands for it. We live in a world where we have to be all alike, if everyone is having sex regularly , then everyone should do it. Its good to be special and believe in yourself .

[@Closetorouter619]

You're going good girl! I'm the 69th like lol

[@zou4858]

@@Closetorouter619 Thank you for the 69th comment hahaha, big shout-out to you !

[@Closetorouter619]

@@346sammy love isn't a thing anymore I didn't know that👀

[@Closetorouter619]

@@346sammy what's wrong if people are not married

[@346sammy]

@@Closetorouter619 nothing, but she wants to marry

[@kugelschreiber5678]

In a society where sleeping around is considered empowering, and sex being thrown at your face with alarming vivacity... this was nice to see. Im not a virgin, but hearing some of these folks speak on their experiences with being a virgin brings me back to my very early teens when I just wanted to wait till I met the right person. I know it makes NO sense, but i do sometimes wish that I can go back to that. Sex nowadays has become virtually meaningless (in western civilization at least), where body count holds more weight than having an intimate connection with someone you actually love, and maybe even marry.

[@taysmit9627]

This makes A LOT of sense. Respect

[@ylsflv]

Me too! Wishing all the time I could go back to waiting until meeting the right person. Wishing you the best, my friend!

[@theace3164]

The higher body count the less chance for a real intimate connection

[@chelsea9641]

@@theace3164 pairbonding right?

[@theace3164]

@@chelsea9641 yes

[@wonhosthigh265]

My reason: I'm an awkward germaphobic minor that refuses to make eye contact with anyone who could potentially have an interest in me.

[@lissie141]

aye nice pfp 👀

[@pro.barcode]

Yo you don't need anybody your profile picture tells me that you have Some good taste sis we can just read yaoi for the rest of our lives😏

[@jksbottommole8463]

sis u got the whole replies filled with someone SpeCIaL lOL i see you ;)

[@bebekgeprek8376]

Kissing is basically sharing saliva with each other, and saliva is filled with germs, im not risking having a flu to makeout with people

[@dragonlord1225]

Relatable, I was similar until I turned 18! Now I am an awkward adult.😏

[@ClellBiggs]

I'm almost 42 and have never been intimate with anyone. Because I'm older than the people in the video I felt a bit weird while watching it, but I can relate to the answers they gave.

[@taradreams3]

I'm a bit younger than you (31) but still older than most of the people in the video and comments section. You're not alone!

[@pradnyanarkar7993]

@@taradreams3 same boat

[@shadowguy20004]

I’m 33.

[@JoshuaRWorkman]

Not far behind you, turning 36 next month, and having read and heard many stories of people who wanted to share their stories, I for one don't know if I can trust I won't have the same negative experiences. Would rather not risk it.

[@space_quartz]

I'm 17 :D

[@jasminebarnes8877]

I praise God for all these christians that are standing up for your beliefs. I am so proud of you guys. This truly helps me.

[@estherselvarani88]

Amen

[@bridgettegeorge]

Same!

[@katet8639]

Same, I respect them

[@tyronesmith6921]

Yes I agree

[@tomdayas]

Amen

[@mar-ek2mx]

obsessed with the person with the orange hair their energy seems rad

[@tilllindemann2974]

OK

[@MorganinJapan]

Dude SAME. I wanna be their friend!!!

[@hadassahsommer5834]

@@MorganinJapan I am their friend! They're even cooler than they seem in the video

[@random_d00d]

@@hadassahsommer5834 you're so lucky to have such a cool person as a friend! I bet you're equally as cool too

[@hadassahsommer5834]

@@random_d00d I am super lucky

[@hach7836]

I feel like my social anxiety is the reason I'm gonna stay a virgin cause I'm too scared to form such a close bond with someone

[@indimist390]

Omg u read my mind

[@domii6400]

Oh I feel you But ✨therapy✨ really helps to beat social anxiety

[@hach7836]

@@domii6400 you're right and I've been wanting to go for the past few years but my parents aren't happy about it/keen on letting me go. I went for 3 sessions and it was so helpful and freeing but than it just stopped and I've been too scared to ask to go again.

[@domii6400]

@@hach7836 parents support is so important When I started talking with parents about my anxiety I showed them short video in which young girl shows some situations and talk how she feels It was easier for me 'cause talking about feelings wasn't common in my home They also read a lot of books and articles and they say that now they more understand social anxiety Maybe going with your parents to therapist helps? Anyways, stay safe,I wish you the best❤️

[@hach7836]

@@domii6400I will try this out thank you ❤️

[@2riaVic]

That orange haired girl looks like she'd be a great friend tbh

[@livi1774]

i am a non religous girl, i turned 18 a few days ago and i have not had my first kiss yet, nor have i had a boyfriend yet. i occasionally get very, very insecure about it (to the point that if i had a bad day, just thinking about it makes me feel bad about myself and just kind of not beautiful, even though i know it has nothing to do with that). but i know i am not the only one, and i just want to remind everyone who reads this who might be in a similar position, dont beat yourself up. i know its hard and how it feels, but just know it really doesnt matter. If you want it to happen, it will happen someday. And i have noticed that i truly am the only one putting this amount of pressure on myself because of it. edit: wow i love the positivity in the replies. thanks guys :) i love having positive conversations with strangers on the internet

[@triplemoyagames4195]

Ay don't stress about it. Youy don't have to be religious to wait to have sex. It's perfectly fine. I'd even argue it's better to wait and find your spouse, as it's best when physical intimacy is combined with emotional intimacy. About looking for a boyfriend, make sure you know what you want and what a healthy relationship looks like before jumping into one

[@cottontherabbit2952]

Don't worry, I know it's hard to believe but that's genuinely the majority of people your age

[@jayay5881]

Don’t feel that, it’s really not that crazy, trust me you’ll be the same person once you come out of it. If anything it’ll make you want you to hook up more (distract you from what you wana do)

[@matthiasmouton5157]

I was in the same position as you are now. Don't worry abt it. The reason i never had my first kiss or a girlfriend is because there just wasn't anyone i was interested in, even though i considered myself pretty social.

[@abreshathompson6061]

@LP. Thank you I need that I finally feel like I'm not the only one. 😌🥰. Can I have your instagram by the way I'm 18

[@francisca7232]

I think having an asexual perspective would be very interesting because it isn’t very talked about and we have a lot to learn

[@jeminatamminen]

exactly what I was thinking

[@MaybeLily1234]

maybe they're saving that perspctive for like a "do all asexual people think the same" type of vid

[@alext3480]

but aren't asexuals not interested in sex at all

[@francisca7232]

@@alext3480 yes, but there are, as well, aromatic people. And since there isn't a lot of representation for ace people, it would be more educative, in my opinion

[@MrCmon113]

No, you don't. When you want to learn about chess, do you ask non-chess players?

[@SimaKivi]

28 yo virgin. I really want to do it with someone i truly love and when people say "just go in the club or something and lose it already" i feel really bad. Sometimes they say things like "you will end up alone just because you expect too much and searching for too long" just to make me feel bad and lonely, when i actually didn't even ask for their opinion. It came to the point when my virginity is a big part of my depression and the fear of being too close to people.

[@vjl2232]

Be happy, never be ashamed and wait for the right person, even if you're 30 + its precious! God bless you

[@MrCassett]

You're doing great! you don't need to expierence it with lots of people, you only need tha one special person who you can share true love with :) Greetings

[@zoekrueger720]

It’s okay to wait for the right person! I feel like love makes sex something special, and there is no shame in wanting to find the right person to share that experience with. Just do what you are comfortable with when you are comfortable doing it :) Don’t feel pressured to lose your virginity before you are ready. It is your body :) I’m sorry you are struggling with depression. Try to stay strong, there is someone for everyone.

[@martamatute8755]

Wow, I don´t have depression but low self-esteem and I know it´s is difficult to feel your virginity is a burden on your shoulders. it is difficult to come to terms with it but it is okay to be a virgin. I have thought about doing it in the first opportunity I get because I didn´t want to be ashamed of being a virgin, but I think what I fear the most is that the person I do it with won´t be worth it and will end up hurting me, so it doesn´t matter what other people say anymore, I won´t do it with some I cannot trust in. I think you should feel proud of yourself for being strong to be firm in this despite other people´s pressure. Many people fell prey to their words and end up regretting those decisions, so I think it is better to follow your heart, your reason, and your instincts. When you find the right person you´ll know when it is the right time to do it.

[@thelegendaryredx7710]

Well think about it. If your virginity is a big part of your depression then go out there and have sex! You’re only doing harm to yourself, it’s in human nature to feel horny.

[@carlosmspk]

I've just noticed a lot of people who are virgins "just because it never happened", not necessarily because they're scared or other more specific reasons, tend to be the most awesome people to hang out with. Is it true for anyone else?

[@SilentHotdog28]

Some people seriously are 'just because it never happened' I was like that until nearly 20, did I want to lose it earlier? hell yeah, but did I get any chances?.... well I got 2 chances and one of those times I said no. The first time I was 18, this girl at a party was interested in me, she was pretty too, I had to go with my mate to drop off this younger kid home because she didn't want to walk by herself and it was dark...fair enough, so we dropped her home and went back to the party. The girl that was interested in me was hammered and was trying to get into my pants, I said "no fuckin' way.....I'm not doing it with someone that is hammered" She then asked one of my friends and he said no too, she was disappointed......I saw her at a party down the track and she brought up the previous party and seemed embarrassed but we had a laugh about it. She was with someone by that stage so nothing panned out there. The next time was probably a year later, I had a girlfriend and whenever she came over I'd ask her sometimes (if no one was home) if she wanted to have sex and she said she wasn't ready......But this day she came over and I asked her and she said yes, in my mind I was jumping around dancing and having a party lol.....I told my brother to get out of the house and gave him the eyes.....he understood what I meant and made up an excuse, had the quickest shower I think he ever had and left.....It was just me and the misso.....so we went to the bedroom, both virgins mind you......nervous as hell, especially me lol. We made out and things escalated, I put my hand downstairs and started going to town on her with just my hand, she went wild, after a few minutes she came......she had a very strong odour, when she came it was the worst......I ran to the toilet and vomited from it.......I came back and she was dressing up.......I wanted to keep going even though it was bad.......So I was still a virgin...... End of that same year I had a house party and got a little drunk, but not too bad since it was my parents house and had to look after it Parents were away for the week.....I was to sleep in my parents bed so my friends could sleep in mine. I was getting tired....I went to my parents room to sleep, this chick was sitting on the bed and I'm like "ah what's going on? why are you on my parents bed?" she said "because I'm sleeping here" I'm like.....so confused....I was like, well I'm sleeping here, this is my parents bed.....so up to you if you want to join me or not. She did. She wanted to spoon in fact, so I thought I might have a chance here, I asked if I could feel around and she was all for it, one thing led to another and yeah, we went at it for a while. great time, I didn't finish, but it was really enjoyable.

[@carlosmspk]

@@SilentHotdog28 I read through the whole comment, and, don't take me wrong, it ended up being a pretty enjoyable read! But it doesn't really address what I said. Maybe you misinterpreted what I said? I didn't say such virgins don't exist, in fact, I'd say I'm one of them, and I truly never had a scenario where I was like "this might lead to sex". I don't feel particularly bad that I've never had sex either, I don't even see it as something that makes me in any way less happy, I think I just don't easily sexualize people (and it's only natural that you do, I'd say you have an healthy balance of "being horny" and "being respectful"). It felt like you were trying to convince me that there really are virgins like that, when that wasn't in question!

[@Myliu903]

I would say that's a pretty solid observation! I think having that simplicity makes an individual a much more practical and calm person.

[@slaymanderolli6336]

its if u are ugly or not simple as that

[@carlosmspk]

@@slaymanderolli6336 your comment made no sense. Are you saying that it's ugly people who are virgins?

[@abecascade]

Is Erin still Vegan after watching this?

[@AxxLAfriku]

I STRONGLY DISAGREE! Being as famous as I am on KZbin, I know that it gets hard to read every comment I get. I try my best, but I am just so famous, that I can't do it much longer. Sorry, dear abe

[@forrmyheart]

*Erin is pro Karen after watching this*

[@kenangedik3678]

THROWBACK

[@jennymarie2603]

LMAOOOOO the og's know whats up with this comment lmao

[@forrmyheart]

@@jennymarie2603 *yup*

[@zeynep3157]

I'm 17, never kissed someone and never had a boyfriend or girlfriend before. So watching this kind of videos make me feel comfortable and remind me that I'm not the only one lol

[@itsxavybx]

same but i’m 18! society makes us feel like we haven’t grown up because we haven’t experienced such things but we still have so much time left to do such things tbh

[@zeynep3157]

@@itsxavybx exactly!!

[@aleyna7498]

i agree with you but in our country, im assuming that you are Turkish because of your name:), being a virgin is something to be proud of. People (mostly women) get bullied by society if they lose their virginity before marriage and this is SO wrong. However, ofc there can be people who bully you or make you feel weird about yourself because you haven’t had a boyfriend, if that happened to you, im sorry. Nobody should be bullied or looked down on because of their experience or inexperience in sex. Why should people care about that? It is something personal. So yeah, i feel you.

[@NotDaveGahan]

You're quite young though. I think that's good actually, to wait until you're older, more educated and know what you want.

[@SLEEVEASMR]

Is that Clairo?

[@KRayeWay]

I have vaginismus, a condition that makes sex nearly impossible atm. Oh, and I'm married :)) I'd love to see this type of thing talked about more. I'm only a virgin by choice because it's physically painful. I'm currently in therapy, and slowly making progress, but this isn't talked about enough. At first it was religious for me to abstain, until I tried with my now husband and had many failed attempts. If you're going through the same, know you're not alone!

[@warabile8789]

Thank you for sharing this information with us. I'd like to ask some questions based on what you've said and I'd appreciate if you would answer them, thank you, but I will understand if you don't feel comfortable doing so❤️. How long have you and your husband been married? How does this affect your intimacy, if it does? What are your alternatives?

[@liliamphiarus5747]

i wish you good luck on your way!

[@shax939]

@kendall walker Thank you for sharing your story, I hope that you and your husband can eventually overcome your condition. I know it’s hard to deal with sometimes, I had vaginismus too. I couldn’t use tampons and I was too anxious to fathom the idea of anything going up there. Luckily I went through the vaginal dilator therapy, and successfully got up to my largest dilator. It took me months to overcome vaginismus, and it was a very lonely journey.

[@YoonglesHolly]

I have it too and I know that you can treat it with dilators but I always think "Why should I do something thats painful?!"

[@Hashpotato]

@Aaron Reveles psychological frigidity made physical.

[@taehyunstripod8600]

This video honestly helped me feel better about some of my own insecurities about being a virgin. I only just started my first year of college, but I felt like I was behind everyone else, especially since I've only been on one date and never had a boyfriend. You can't look at someone and know they are a virgin too, so you can't gauge how "apart" or "behind" you are from a group of people. The question about are you afraid of your first time is interesting, it's not really a yes or no answer. I'm not afraid of it, but I'm afraid of the pain, of not feeling pleasure, of not proper protection, and most of all if it's not consensual. Because sadly enough, that's something I, and many people, have to be scared of in this day and age.

[@benludwig1676]

Don’t be insecure bro. Whenever if comes it comes

[@bardvt4492]

I’ve always found that being a virgin or not is never as big as people make it to be. It’s an individual’s choice

[@thegoldenb7280]

For some it’s not a choice

[@blkgirldiary]

The reason I'm a 19 year old virgin is because I'm nervous about the pain, everyone says loosing your virginity hurts BAD and like I don't want to be in pain.

[@Wisdomofthespirit]

Samee

[@gayvodka1849]

Same omg its scary

[@winterkyomoon7096]

There is really no way to know if there will be any pain or discomfort. If there is lots of foreplay, both people are relaxed and not rushing it'll probably go just fine. Main focus for both of you should be just being together not about having sex or about finishing. Just go with the flow. If anything hurts or is uncomfortable then you say so and you stop or change what you're doing.

[@channelchannelchannelyourself]

@@winterkyomoon7096 if it starts to hurt, arent u supposed to just keep going and the pain should go away in a few seconds?

[@powerincarnate6783]

Unless you have certain condition, it won't be a big pain. Big part of it is that you'll be tense, so it's not a big deal, you'll be fine.

[@mathewsgirl4ever]

what the long haired guy said about praying after his wedding was so sweet!!!!! really loved hearing all the people who were so outright about their faith :) definitely feels like i’m in the minority sometimes even in my christian circles

[@jackelinediba6203]

He actually refered praying before doing it for the first time after the wedding and going to the bedroom. Still i thought was very sweet as well:)

[@themango9644]

Same i almost cried lmao i need my future husband to be like that cuz I'm 1000000% down for praying before i lose it.

[@sophiem3794]

@@themango9644 Haha amen!

[@jesusisthetruth4497]

Right! I thought that was so beautiful 😭

[@jakerohr]

God bless you 😊

[@blkluvchnl]

Being a virgin feels like such an isolating experience, so it’s cool seeing that there are literally so MANY of us out there. Sex should never feel like pressure, even once you enter adulthood. This year I’ve grown comfortable just being myself. I can only hope that because I’m an adult now, I have more emotional intelligence to deal with something as serious as sex when it happens. Either way, I’m chillin!

[@speedygonzalez6824]

I'm a 20 year old virgin (man), and I've had offers and I've rejected them, my fear is that I can get a girl pregnant, I know that I can use condoms to prevent that from happening, but I know guys that have used condoms and still managed to get a girl pregnant, and I'm still in college and that could flip my flip my life for the worst, I'm just not ready for the consequences that come with having intercourse.

[@j_bubblez279]

Same

[@CuteKristy179]

They could be on birth control or you can buy them Plan B (morning pill). But it’s best if you see them take it, because girls could lie about being on the pill yk.

[@marypasi]

@@CuteKristy179 even with those added precautions there is still a chance. abstinence is still the best way.

[@brunamari1264]

Dude read about contraceptives methods lol

[@elenacathalina3937]

babe, use a condom (make sure its the right size and not too old), ask if she is on birth control (she may be, lessening the chances of that from happening) and after put water in the condom to make sure it did not broke, if it did buy Plan B -- I assure u in most cases she will also want to do anything to prevent pregnancy

[@Number1EdwardLover1]

The guy that said he wants to pray before sex. Is he single cos I think that's beyond cute. He is a bit of me.

[@pikachubread]

i think he said while doing it, not before - 9:55 - 10:00

[@lemmymemmy]

@@pikachubread yeah he said during

[@jakerohr]

Have a blessed day! 😄

[@JohnDoe-zh6cp]

No he meant while doing it. That's fuckin weird.

[@jakerohr]

@@JohnDoe-zh6cp haha

[@ryoung4732]

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. We have no regrets.

[@taysmit9627]

This is so good to hear!

[@cuteearkie3384]

So lovely! I'm a 23yo virgin and i'm in NO rush losing it at all!

[@poocrayon4588]

Yeah but how long have you been married?

[@ryoung4732]

Been married 6 years.

[@themango9644]

N that's on periodt boo

[@marshmelows]

The virgin chill dude is amazing. He's truly embranced it. Fuck it. If I die a virgin so be it. Couldn't care less

[@LanJan24]

I'm a 29 year old virgin. And I completely agree with the guy who said he would want to pray together. That is very sweet

[@haleygoeswhoohoo]

no, i dont think you understood what he said. i thought he meant pray being consummating the marriage, but then he said "praying and stuff while doing it", he wants to legit be praising and thinking about god as he's getting off...

[@reed2939]

@@haleygoeswhoohoo ur the one who don't get it lmfao

[@KateErese]

yep thats really sweet 🥺

[@themango9644]

@@haleygoeswhoohoo you can't be that ignorant

[@jakerohr]

Awesome !

[@christianurena510]

so sad that people cannot fathom the idea of someone choosing to be a virgin or whatever choice they've made for themselves, it's so nice to see people that still values it and cherish it for a shared experience with someone special and GOOD FOR THEM!!! Also, the fact that so many people define themselves based on their sexual preference or experiences is kind of empty IMHO, we are more than what we decide to do with our bodies and who we choose as our sexual companions

[@idkatthispoint4657]

i’m a 22 year old girl i kissed a girl 3 years ago and haven’t done anything romantic since then. i’m not religious or anything. im just v anti social and bad at putting myself out there and i just want to feel comfortable with the first person i have sex with bc it’s still v vulnerable

[@VS-mn4tv]

U mean your lesbian. I'm just asking it's nothing to be ashamed of.

[@Jordie.02]

@@VS-mn4tv this isn't about her sexuality...also she could be bi or pan you never know so stop projecting please!

[@tilllindemann2974]

@@Jordie.02 cmon why tf do you write such a fckn answer. He clearly had no bad intention. He was just curious

[@Jordie.02]

@Nonya E yeah that too

[@avery3400]

@@VS-mn4tv no that’s not what it means.

[@mellowmorningsasmr3770]

The fact that society makes it so it’s “weird” to not have sex is ridiculous and harmful. Sex can have major consequences.. for one, and two it’s the person body, it’s there choice and sex is not a NEED.

[@Andrewjc222]

I’m terrified of it

[@Elizabeth-xh8fm]

Yea

[@Roan.bot.]

The only time I feel uncomfortable about being a virgin is around friends who aren’t virgins and they start dissecting it like I have to explain myself as if I’m something that needs to be fixed. The most annoying is female friends that talk about how much of a catch you are knowing full well they aren’t interested so their words mean nothing. It’s like you’re failing in math and you’re teacher helps by saying “you’re good at math. You won’t pass my class but you’re a top notch student.” Always a student but never a graduate. I can talk about anything with anybody but there are just too many judgmental people out there and the worst ones are the people that don’t even know they are doing it. They’ll be a nice person but their biases make the feel a certain way about other that kinda inadvertently makes me resent those people. We have these struggles in society because of the people that can’t self reflect and understand other points of view without being clouded or aware of their own biases and flaws in logic. It literally takes a moment to think “why do I feel this way.” Literally just thinking before you talk. Not sorry for the rant. It’s frustrating.

[@lsnqkcnqkpnkpsnqpjcbpq]

this!!!! I have friends (and I probably should cut them off) who judge me because they find it weird that I haven't had sex or that I don't masturbate, and they really do try to "dissect" my mindset like there's something abnormal about me. They'll try to be nice about it with me but they don't realize that they're being really judgmental and it's frustrating :(

[@xxxnini]

Same!!!

[@blueraineee]

@@lsnqkcnqkpnkpsnqpjcbpq God girl. Don't let others tell you otherwise. Where I am, if you have sex before marriage, your parents will spank the soul out of you. It's disgraceful to have sex before marriage.

[@checkmattee222]

Those aren't really good friends. Just cut them off.

[@lsnqkcnqkpnkpsnqpjcbpq]

@@checkmattee222 thankfully i dont talk to them as frequently as i did before. theyre definitely not as judgmental. thank you for caring tho!! :)

[@ramonashih1349]

“I’m already 22.” Oh nooo don’t worry you’re all still young. No need to rush. Whenever you’re ready is when it’s the right time.

[@Daniela-gj4jt]

It makes me feel weird that most people that are still virgins are virgins bc of their religion so they have a reason but i am just a virgin bc no one wants me....

[@pedroloto]

We are on the same boat lol but I'm sure one day we'll find the right person

[@Daniela-gj4jt]

@@pedroloto hopefully one day :/

[@lissie141]

damn I feel this

[@janatardi2193]

Same haha

[@fabster899]

Same...

[@nljie]

I'm 25 and virgin. In fact i havent even had a relationship before. But everyone is in their own phase in life, dont let other people define you or make you become what your not

[@davidfreeman4085]

To the 29 year old: I'm 36 and just married a month ago. We met Christian speed dating. Praying before our first time was amazingly special. And several times since we've prayed together after sex. It's not weird.

[@jakerohr]

Thanks for sharing !

[@johnirby8847]

After maybe but not during....during would be strange

[@DianaLopez-uw2lf]

I'm glad it was special! But in the video he said he would like to pray during sex (that is what I understood I don't know for sure if that is what he was actually saying), which I don't really understand why he would want to do that, being religious I get before and/ after.

[@jakerohr]

@@DianaLopez-uw2lf Prayer doesn't have to be eyes closed and talk to God. Prayer is communication with God. I would be praying first because it creates a safe environment for my partner who is maybe afraid. Second I will be thanking God for something so beautiful. Its a time that I have waited for so long and I know im giving thanks. It would be based more on intimacy and thankfulness than the physical action.

[@kimberlygarcia2821]

I’ll be 24 in a couple days I have never had a boyfriend still a virgin and I use to be embarrassed by it but it feels good knowing I’m stronger than the rest of the people around me who seem to not be able to function without having sex

[@bartbreukels5429]

U look cute tho 💯

[@sineadmarcelia6847]

🙄

[@KatCakes]

PERIODT🗣🗣

[@user-zz8yi1lk5p]

never embarrassed... you’re such a rare unicorn :D

[@FollowJesus777-KING]

"Haha virgin" Oh sorry I didnt give into a desire that everyone has but apparently not everyone can control. Like we as humans are intelligent enough to make choices and know if the pros are worth the cons of sex with a particular person. Animals aren't

[@sweetesque]

I'm happy Jubilee has done some videos about virgins. Makes me feel less weird lol. I relate to the orange haired girl the most. I definitely want to but I've always been introverted and eccentric. I haven't put myself in situations where it could've happened. I do lie about it and say that I'm not a virgin because I feel as a woman (esp. in your late 20s) it can make you feel undesirable and I'm afraid of being honest because it makes me feel more insecure about it.

[@hassanulkarim1755]

as a man in his late 20. At times me feel ashamed and less desirable.

[@bluejeans5496]

that is the history of my life

[@TakaraStarChan]

I think people just need to back off and stop shaming people for their virginity or lack thereof.