Do Americans Know These 13 Habits Are Seen as RUDE?

[@Eirewolf]

Saying "what" or "huh" instead of pardon is just plain rude. Also, nice Trek reference Diane!

[@DianeJennings]

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[@Eirewolf]

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[@TrianglesAndCircles]

I had no idea. Okay oops?

[@jack-of-all-trades1234]

What is just short for what did you say? It seems like a reasonable question to ask if you didn't hear.

[@stevematthews7686]

I’ve never heard someone say pardon.

[@anbu.hinata]

I’m American and a waitress. Not saying “thank you” when being tipped IS rude 🤠

[@DianeJennings]

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[@mikesilva3868]

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[@jpack85]

When I waited tables decades ago in college, I would thank them when presenting the bill, but I am not sure that I thanked them again because when running their credit card and bringing it back to the table, I usually didn't hover around them and wait for them to complete the transaction. They would often sit for a few more minutes and complete the process and leave when I wasn't there. That said, I always did at least thank them at some point in that end of service sequence.

[@anbu.hinata]

@ that’s also true, it is weird to hover. It’s normal to say thank you when they personally hand it to you, some customers love to see you light up from a tip!

[@andreabryant9979]

I don’t expect a “thank you.” I put the tip on the table & I’m out the door! 🚙

[@gkiferonhs]

I taught physics for 45 years and had often noticed some students whose voices would just penetrate through a loud environment. Kids would sometimes claim that they get yelled at for talking when everyone was talking, too. By analyzing voices it seemed that the penetrating voices were more "pure", that is consisting of a single tone. The more additional frequencies (harmonics) that were added in, the less the voice penetrated. Personally, my speaking voice doesn't carry very well and sometimes I have to put on my "coaches voice" to be heard; it's not just louder, but more harmonically simple.

[@themaven2017]

Thank you for the validation! I am 59 and still get told to "turn down the volume"!

[@thomastimlin1724]

@@themaven2017 What? Huh? lol

[@themaven2017]

@thomastimlin1724 yep, growing up my mom always said "turn the volume down" and even now people say I am loud

[@Jeff_Lichtman]

I often get a "thank you" when I put money in a tip jar. But when I write a tip amount on a restaurant check I'll usually be gone by the time the waiter sees it, so they have no chance to thank me. How many times can you ask someone to repeat himself without being rude? If you didn't understand the first couple of times, is it best to just smile and nod? I'm sure you were trained as an actor on how to project your voice. Some people do this all the time. I'm with you re: labeling people. I don't like putting people in a box. The way to get to know someone is to spend time around them. It takes time. And there's a difference between character and characteristics.

[@claytondosier6197]

I feel like I'm arrogant when I say, "You're welcome." I don't know if other Americans feel that way too or if it's just me. Like, yes, I'm so awesome for having done that for you.

[@MrHorse-by3mp]

I think "you're welcome" is okay if you've really gone above and beyond to help someone. But I agree it's a bit much for the average mundane thing that cost you no real effort or inconvenience.

[@drewie_Butts]

I started saying “my pleasure”.

[@LudiCrust.]

Occasionally I feel awkward especially if it’s something small but I just fall back on the fact it’s “proper” so I just do it while gritting my teeth. If it’s super casual I’ll say “no problem” or something like that.

[@piggylumps3823]

I think we think it’s “awesome” when we meet someone from across the pond is because most of us haven’t been there and probably never will be. Conversely, you can go to other countries like we can drive to another state

[@andrewkline5611]

Maybe it’s because I grew up in the Midwest, but I’m gonna claim not guilty to a lot of these.

[@paladinpage1895]

Sharp diction can make us more audible as well, we don’t swallow our Ts, for example.

[@theTemplar08]

Asking about someone career is small talk or a way to start a conversation for Americans

[@claddagh143]

I work in the service industry - it's my job to say hello to the customer first, so when I go somewhere else and the worker doesn't greet me I assume they're busy and I don't greet them because I feel uncomfortable interrupting them.

[@mathmannix]

It actually seems rude to me if I go into a store and a worker doesn't greet me right away (if they're not busy, at least), or I have to go and hunt to find them if I have a question.

[@llamasarus1]

Tips aren't seen as a gift deserving of a formal "thanks" every time as much as it's expected since we're all held hostage to this system that compels people to have to do it since employers are allowed to lower servers' base pays with the expectation that tips will make up for it.

[@David-l6c3w]

Self-promotion among American's has grown in the last 30 years. It wasn't as much when I was a teenager. I think the Internet and social media seemed to play a big role in that.

[@justinrutledge822]

I can't imagine going into a Wal-Mart and saying "Hi" to all the workers so I guess I'm guilty of that one. If there is a greeter working, I'll say hello if they say hello first. If it's just eye contact only, I'll do a quick head nod to acknowledge them.

[@ajdenzer3039]

@@justinrutledge822 I can't imagine going to my local Walmart and actually being acknowledged by one of their associates.

[@Kelnx]

Any time someone says "Americans are too loud", I think they've never been around Spanish speakers. As you said, Spaniards are loud, but Mexicans and other central Americans can get even louder. So I'm thinking it has something to do with both language and dialect/accent, not necessarily culture. And the not saying thanks for tips is probably because customers are usually gone before they see the tip. If you're not then it becomes kind of awkward. Like they know what you tipped them, and you know what you tipped them, and they know you know what you tipped them and bringing it up by saying "thanks for the tip" would just break some unwritten rule or something. Especially if it was a good tip. It's expected to be kind of quiet about good tips. Public praise for that sort of thing would be embarrassing for the tipper. I dunno, our tipping culture is weird.

[@DianeJennings]

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[@TrekBeatTK]

And Central American immigrants are loud to the point of rudeness. In public places they act like they own the place. I can’t tell you how often I’m at the laundromat and some non-white person is loudly playing their music or having loud phone calls on speaker.

[@LudiCrust.]

@@TrekBeatTKI’m not trying to dunk on Chinese people bc of how much it’s going on right now but they take the cake on rudeness & it’s not even close. When there are huge numbers of them they’re so disrespectful & blatantly rude I get the feeling they wouldn’t stop to help someone having a medical emergency & they were the only people around to save their life. I’ve been physically assaulted by elderly Chinese people while waiting in line & I didn’t say a word to them or even “give them a look”.

[@kolchak357]

Seen as rude by non Americans, but most of these are perfectly acceptable behaviors in the US. We are just not overly formal in most situations. In fact the more we know you and the more we like you, the less formal everything becomes.

[@mattheweudy2396]

6:01 I never thought I’d miss this aspect of shopping in the US till I couldn’t find anyone to help me in foreign shops

[@Ninja_Penguin]

Why would you need help? You pick what you want, and you take it to the till. If someone tries pestering me in the shop, I'll just leave

[@santamanone]

Actually no. The reverse is true. YOU mean “what” when you say “pardon.” If somebody says “Pardon.” I’m gonna ask, “away? What did you do?”

[@wtk6069]

In the US, we even have this sort of cultural misunderstanding between different parts of our own country. As one example, New Yorkers are famous (notorious?) for insulting people without even realizing it when they visit us here in the South. They don't mean it (usually). It's just two totally different cultures. Honestly, when I visited Ireland, I found that it was closer to us here the South than some of our American urban, northern or coastal cities in terms of manners.

[@BDUBZ49]

I don't say 'pardon' or 'what?''. ..I furrow my brow and loudly exclaim *EH??!!* 😀

[@debjorgo]

You ever go to a crowded neighborhood bar for lunch? At the other tables, everybody is talking all at once. You don't get interrupted, if you keep talking.

[@jamescooper2618]

I wonder if the rest of the world knows that Americans don't give a steaming crap about what they think about us. The USA helps most every other country in one way or another so they can all take their opinions and sit on them.

[@sterling557]

The US has paid 67% of the costs of NATO for the last 30 years, because other nations are not keeping to their agreement (before Trump made them pay!) And they still treat us like crap. They all suck.

[@Serenachan02]

I worked for Claire’s for a while in college. They had a whole list of things we would have to say to customers as they walked in. If a manager heard you not giving the whole speech you would get in trouble. Trust me, the workers there are just as frustrated with the process.

[@jueneturner8331]

Question: Why should Americans care? Do people in other countries care if they are seen to rude by Americans?

[@lindacarroll6896]

Especially in restaurants, once you have paid the bill and tipped, you never see the server again.

[@thomastimlin1724]

Well I did see my daugher again lol. even kissed her right in the restaurant. We both got a laugh out of the stares we got. I said outloud yuur sevrice was so good I just had to kiss you. Thats how we got the stares. We both laughed outloud. The manager knew who I was and was laughing too.

[@nochannel1q2321]

It's another thing to consider how awkward or embarrassed you might be if the server opened the bill folder and read/counted your tip in front of you and then looked at you. You'd likely feel judged and uncomfortable as a result. Especially coming from a place where tipping is not essentially mandatory.

[@jamesglendening5180]

As far as interrupting goes, it's often the only way we Americans can contribute anything to a conversation. I once challenged myself to not interrupt anyone for a whole day. During that day, I was only ever able to speak for about 1 minute per hour or two and only when I started brand new conversations during moments of silence.

[@andrewft31]

And everyone was better off for it

[@josephlathrop1914]

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[@llamasarus1]

There are always those catch 22's where they make us sound like we're weird for doing them but there's not a reasonable way around it. Like how it's considered odd that we strike conversations with strangers and other countries don't do that. But since all friends start out as strangers then how else would you make friends if you don't talk to initial strangers? Same thing with that.

[@MichaelW-nu3nv]

Oh the video just showed up! I got the "yep" response when I first moved from the southern US to the north and I wasn't used to it, but soon found that it was just common dialogue. Thanks Diane and have a good weekend!

[@DianeJennings]

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[@roykay4709]

I tend to say "more than welcome" or "my pleasure" / Americans may be better at voice projection, which coming from theater you might relate to. / It makes sense to express interest is what sort of work people do, after all they will spend 80,000 hours of their life at it. Surely they have something interesting to say about it. // Please continue. I love your commentary 🙂

[@Veritas-TheGoader]

2:19 Why should I be sorry I can’t understand what a person is saying? They should be sorry and pardon themselves for me not understanding.

[@Larry660]

Verbal exchange that my wife overheard: "Are you being deliberately rude?" "No." "Then you must be from New York."

[@user-sc2gz2mv5h]

Well, I know you're not going to see this answer; but, I'll give you the answer anyway with tipping. When the individual is working, you're paying them for their work. It's like saying I should think my paycheck every time I get it. But exceptions to tipping people and saying thank you. For instance; I gave this waitress 800 dollars in a tip. But I went there for so many years and she was always kind to everybody regardless of what kind of day she was having. So that day I decided to be kind and do that. Yes, she thanked me. But I told her why I did it. Because she was kind to everybody. I never saw her upset about anything. So I want to make her happy and besides she's a sweet old lady. Everybody deserves kindness once in their life regardless of them work or not. I hope everybody has a lovely day. Smash the like button 💗 Keep the world blue beautiful 🎉🎉

[@anbu.hinata]

“Of course” means that they were very happy to help you! :)

[@DianeJennings]

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[@anbu.hinata]

@ it does! “Of course I will help you!”

[@nochannel1q2321]

We have lots of variations because Americans tend to thank others a lot. Saying only "You're welcome" 30 or 40 times per day would start to get tiresome and irritating.

[@anbu.hinata]

@@nochannel1q2321 this is actually so true

[@kenbrown2808]

Victor Borge said it best. something to the effect of America is so spacious, people talk on the outside of htheir mouths, while european countries are so crowded, people have to keep their talking inside their mouths.

[@EL_Duderino68]

From an Aussie, I'd never say "what" I'm not even sure why. I say "Sorry I didn't quite get that"

[@thomastimlin1724]

I love Australia, we just have different language patterns. If we were all the same, the whole world would be dull!

[@michaelwalsh2498]

I've traveled all over Ireland for 45+ years, since equal parts of my family live in America and in Ireland. I'm very used to the ways, mores and customs there. But I've noticed many Irish people treat Americans in a very condescending manner. I'm prepared to go back and forth with Irish people when I'm being "wound up". But many unsuspecting American visitors are needled by Irish people and don't recognize it. This needling often isn't done in a good natured way. Also, many Irish people do not compensate for other English speakers who have no idea what some of their unique usages mean. They assume these usages are universal, and act as if the visitors are slow on the uptake, when in actuality the visitors have no idea what these colloquialisms mean. Irish people are also great for assuming all Americans share the same attributes. The Irish will label "Americans" as completely lacking any knowledge of other countries. They also assume all Americans have zero respect for other nations and cultures. This has gotten much worse in Ireland over the last 25 years (with stronger EU ties). The Irish try to mimic a sophisticated continental European outlook, and instead it comes of as a silly form of snobbery. Many Irish people get very worked up about Americans who consider themselves "Irish". They don't look at this as a product of America's ethnic identity, where all groups try to color their identities with ethnic pride. The Irish take this as some sort of cultural appropriation of their national culture and citizenship. It isn't, it's a product of ethnic identies in the USA. This may be changing with the influx of migrants from Africa and Asia into Ireland. But it seems American assertion of ethnic Irishness annoys the Irish to a greater degree than sub Saharan or south west Asians who now call themselves Irish.

[@dwightgruber8308]

I'm an American, the thanks/(not "you're welcome") thing bugs me. Fyi Starbuck's employees are encouraged to use the "of course"/"no problem"-type rejoinders.

[@theonlymoo5e]

In most restaurants & bars here in Canada, tips are split up between all waiters & waitresses, ,and bar staff.

[@stormchaser7992]

What I can't stand is people not holding the door open for the person behind them. It takes less effort to hold the door than it does to open the door, which you already did. I instinctively check behind me when opening a door to see if anyone is behind me. Most people don't even bother to look.

[@andrewft31]

That is doable in a slow pace place but in a fast pace place that isn’t always doable, like I live in NYC, everything is rush and a lot of people get irritated if you hold the door, so you you get in the habit of not doing it because you can never be sure what kind of personality you are going to get so best to just avoid it.

[@andreabryant9979]

Yep, I was always taught not to let the door close in someone’s face. AND When someone holds it for you, say thank you! Now, it’s just a habit; open a public door> look behind myself. 😃

[@stormchaser7992]

@@andrewft31 Interesting, makes sense I guess. I live in the Midwest in a town of like 2,000 people. So we're all hold the door, ope let me sneak right past ya, tell yer folks I said hi kind of people

[@vickimorrissey905]

We go out quite often and I do hear many servers say thank you for the tip

[@danbarry4772]

I don't need you to pardon me. I need you to repeat WHAT you just said.

[@LudiCrust.]

You do need them to pardon your interruption though

[@UncleMikeDrop]

I like saying "anytime" instead of "you're welcome" as I feel like the latter makes me sound condescending. I know it's irrational, but there it is.

[@anbu.hinata]

@@UncleMikeDrop exactly! Idk why we are like this

[@justmare111]

Or, 'my pleasure'.

[@stix7662]

@@justmare111 This 💯‼

[@CptCalicoJack]

Yeah. To me, saying "You're welcome" makes whatever I was thanked for seem like some huge, life or death favor. "Anytime" and "My pleasure" are my most used responses.

[@georgiancrossroads]

It sounds too formal now to many younger American ears these days. But this whole super casual thing has really become a problem for us. It's really hard to take anything seriously when nothing is taken with a degree of respect. And if we travel outside of our bubble, we come across as being insensitive and rude for expecting the rest of the world to be on our page. Example: In France, you are expected to say 'bonjour', when entering any establishment or beginning a conversation. It is considered rude not to do so. Which is one explanation as to why we are sometimes considered rude in France and will often (in Paris!) be treated in kind. The idea is that if you can't even do the minimal amount of research about a country before visiting it there is something wrong. This is true everywhere. Americans tend to think that the rest of the world is pretty much just like us. And without learning a few cultural rules to begin, especially about what is considered formal and what is not, we end up coming across as immature.

[@themaven2017]

I prefer to differentiate between "interrupting" (rude) and "interjecting." An interjection shouldn't stop the flow of the conversation and let's the speaker know that you are paying attention. Sometimes and interjection can be as simple as "uh-huh" or even longer like "yeah! that happened to me, too, when I was a teenager" as soon as the idea of the story is presented, but the story isn't finished yet. It's a regional thing and some Americans get real upset at interjections and stop talking. After a bit of silence, they will say something like "are you done? can I continue my story now?"

[@josephlathrop1914]

No "What" is what did you say? would you repeat that? Pardon is Pardon me. which is an Apology Commonly said when dealing with strangers. Like Pardon me you dropped this. (to a stranger)

[@dalemurray1318]

In America "Welcome" is an invitation. Like Welcome to my home or welcome to my party. We acknowledge statements of gratitude rather than invite someone to EXPECT what they should appreciate

[@mcverisimilitude]

LOL, I enjoy watching your channel. Your view point can be refreshing at times but off, but it also shows how much the world misunderstands us. There is a lot of diversity here and not just in the people, the land itself. You would have to live here for over a decade to start understanding. Thanks for your effort. Reaction videos to Americans is always going to be a hoot!

[@wabash9000]

Trying to remember my comment from the original video. There is an older gentleman that works the door at the walmart near me for the last few hours of the day. He always genitures people to the exit. I always thank him and tell him to have a good night. I find it odd when people are rude to service workers. I had gone through the drive thru at Taco Bell recently and after they told me my total and told me to pull forward, I said thank you. They were kind of caught off guard and said 'oh... you're welcome"

[@DianeJennings]

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[@SoleilRobbie]

how ‘bout “whats’up?” When someone doesn’t hear what you said? 😂

[@markw999]

We should rethink everything about our tipping culture. It's gotten ridiculous.

[@lhbox83]

I’ve always found it rude how people are quick to ask what you do for work, or a living, because a lot people don’t like their jobs. And sometimes people have a condescending, or rude, reaction to what one’s job is.

[@mikeses4392]

Hey, we have greeters at Wal Mart! 😂😂

[@jamesblossom-y1u]

"Yup" is very much like the Spanish "de nada"

[@TheDreamtimezzz]

Rude is not having chewy in your videos. 🐶 ❤😊

[@DianeJennings]

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[@thomastimlin1724]

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[@bkohatl]

I took my mom to London before she died, in London I tapped a Bobby on the shoulder in a crowded sidewalk to ask directions. He responded and as we walked away, my mom told me that was rude and I might have gotten arrested. Did not know that.

[@Rebelmusedesign]

When I visited Ireland, everyone was extremely polite and kind to me. The people that were not were my fellow Americans that lived in different states. I am from New England and they were from Michigan. I’m sure there are some nice people in Michigan, but I didn’t meet them. I just smiled and said nothing. I sat next to people in the dining room and could hear their conversations and they were Americans and they were very belligerent and boastful and were not appreciative of being in one of the most beautiful places in the world and complained about the size of the table. And I never heard them think the servers. I was horrified. And then when I was sitting at a fireplace one evening, this group from a bus tour of Americans came in and they asked me why I was there. It was so strange. I invited them to sit down and they looked at me like I was an alien. The next night I went to go and sit near the same fireplace and one couple from that same group was sitting there, and the woman wouldn’t even turn around and look at me or say anything. The husband stood up and I could tell he didn’t want me around. So I went up to my room and watched the rest of a movie and came back down when I knew they would be gone. Thankfully they were there only a couple of days on a bus tour and I was there for over a week. But I understand what you are saying. There is a large group of Americans that are rude even to fellow Americans. And I have a real problem with it.

[@richardhofackerfr.9656]

So, one of the reasons people don't say thank you when you tip is because it used to be considered poor etiquette or rude to count the tip in front of the customer and that habit has stayed even though the tip is clearly written on the check/receipt.

[@MinorLG]

Also, if someone's walking away as you're saying, thank you, them just sort of waving at you is also a common, yeah, it was nothing.

[@celesteunderwood1094]

You know what Americans find rude? Foreigners coming here and thinking their customs or way of life, are better. Or people that think all Americans are the same, we’re not.

[@TheOtherBill]

Many Europeans think that the US is one place and that it's the size of Germany and it's all the same as NYC and LA. Blame movies and TV and the now obsolete news media. If I only saw the US the way they do I'd feel the same. It's not really their fault because what they're shown and told is so misleading.

[@alexp8764]

You are the first to disrespect other countries and their cultures and treat people like idiots believing they are the best in the world (when you are ignorant and don't even know European geography......) Not to mention the fact that when you come to Europe you get drunk, bathe in fountains and vandalize monuments. In the media and in general if out of 52 states only Los Angeles, New York, San Francisco and Seattle are talked about, ask yourself a question.

[@alexp8764]

@@TheOtherBill Europeans know the difference between a state like Germany and that the United States has 52 states, we are not stupid. In the way of reasoning, what changes between one state and another? You are mostly descended from the English, the basic mentality is that, while in Europe there is much more variety between countries and their respective cultures.

[@joelspaulding5964]

​@alexp8764 "We are not stupid..." proceeds to state that the US has 52 states. (It has Fifty states). That doesn't make one stupid, but it is a bad look.

[@alexp8764]

@@joelspaulding5964 Many of you believe that in Europe (especially in Italy) we live in the times of the 1500s. It happened that some people even believed that we have neither traffic nor cars, while others even asked if we had running water.. ...

[@ginger00022]

I did know the 13 Habits would seen as rude.

[@MitziGabor]

so you're the expert on what's rude or inappropriate? Language changes all the time. what's rude to you is perfectly appropriate to others. Personally, I find the European style of eating with a knife and fork barbaric.

[@Harrison1Bergeron]

Fun because we aren’t a deviant part of any European culture, we are our own multiple of cultures. We may look like many of you but we are so very different in how we think.

[@mattheweudy2396]

1:41 I think it’s my way of trying to move the conversation along, I often follow “yep” with some talking point because I don’t like being put on pedestal

[@LindaC616]

I think that's the case with most Americans. It's like accepting a compliment

[@AM-fd3qg]

I am American and I think all those things are rude!

[@thundernels]

I soooo wish Editor Diane would break in to say, “What?” concerning the audio which seems to be more echo-y than most of your videos. All is cool. It just would have been funny for Editor Diane to check in.

[@Risejugger]

In the US, hospitality workers (wait staff and bartenders) are not paid even the minimum wage so their tips make up the difference. Americans, at least decent ones, understand this and and tip these people. What is unusual is not tipping; either you are an a**hole, and we Americans hate these types, or the service person was particularly unpleasant.

[@bryandawkins]

I see your video is reloaded well I wish you and Chewie the luck of the Irish Each day your whole life through! May your pockets be heavy and your heart be light. May good luck pursue you each morning and night.

[@nochannel1q2321]

Why would we moving away from categorizing people? Finding out all of a person's individual characteristics, traits, opinions and so on is not practical for all but family and close friends. So to avoid having no social contact beyond that it helps to have general ideas about people. If I'm approaching someone and interested in possibly asking them out determining if they're actually single or not is helpful to know earlier rather than later. If someone you know might pair well with another person you know well, but neither chooses to be grouped how would you know what kind of people they tend to find attractive or not? If I know my friend is a lesbian and I've met someone who is bisexual or also a lesbian I'm more likely to be able to be possibly helpful in suggesting setting them up than if I don't and one is actually a gay man and the other is a trans woman attracted to straight men. Grouping and labeling isn't new at all and is unlikely to be going anywhere because as much as people have nuances about themselves,. those are almost always variations in the overall group or label and it's really only practical from a standpoint of time to get to know the overall grouping of something for a person and then find out the qualities they have within that overarching category that differ from what's typical. If I say I am politically on the left easy follow-up questions can establish which areas I am especially passionate about, particular areas where I diverge from typical points of views or opinions of those with the common grouping as being on the left, etc. In contrast trying to avoid labeling anything political and just treating each opinion that's politically as its own particular thing will take far longer and will essentially mean the same thing: mostly left, some hard deviations, some areas in center, etc.

[@Jabadaw]

As a bartender, thanking for the tip feels strange. Directly referencing the tip can be embarrassing for the customer too. I have had customers tip more than double what the bill was. I have had customers leave nothing. I always thank them for coming when I leave them the receipt and typically don't look at the tip line or the cash they left until after they have gone.

[@wildbill1519]

For those of us fluent in sarcasm, we are able to audibly distinguish between being upbeat and being sarcastic in our tone. As far as a server not saying thank you when tipped, us old school tippers leave the money on the table as we leave and don't expect a verbal acknowledgement. I went to a Golden Corral today, which is a buffet style restaurant, and the server brings refills. The first time she came around, she asked what kind of tea I was drinking. Occasionally, as she would go by she would ask, "You good?" or, "Do you need anything?". I personally do not find, "you good", to be rude. Yes, it is the informal mode of speech, but gets the point across. The two times she brought refills, I thanked her each time, and received the appropriate, "you're welcome" response.

[@davedove67]

I wonder if the volume of Americans comes from a childhood of being constantly told to speak up so people can understand you.

[@DianeJennings]

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[@aura81295]

I suspect that the tendency for Americans to self-promote has a lot to do with hypercompetitiveness built into our culture. From very early, we learn to strive to be best at whatever we do. Opportunity must be acted upon or may quickly disappear. That opportunity may be limited in many ways where those that are most (fill in whatever the criteria may be) actually benefit whereas everyone else will have to look/wait for other opportunities.

[@JohnMountonyoutube]

i got yelled at in a clothing store in Italy, for touching the clothes on a rack. i was just looking through them to see the sizes and prices , which is a normal thing to do in america, but maybe i did it too aggressively, idk. she came up to me speaking Italian though im sure she knew I was american (someone previously called me a Yankee in the street) and when i asked politely if she spoke english she yelled "Don't Touch!!" . i really still don't understand why it was wrong to do that

[@DianeJennings]

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[@tonys1636]

High end, expensive shops don't like the garments touched particularly in hot places as fingers can leave sweat stains, the clothes hanger has the size in EU sizing on it, bust/chest, waist, hips and leg length will be in cm. Only move the hanger by one's hand. An assistant will take it to the changing room if one has to try it on for size, one may have to look for one though unless a very expensive shop and if the price not displayed then don't ask as that indicates one can't afford to shop there.

[@johnserosanguineous1886]

@@tonys1636No prices on clothes at a garage sale =/= you can't afford it. Same in countries outside of the west. 👌

[@andrewft31]

@@tonys1636we have a word for that, pretentious

[@TheOtherBill]

@@tonys1636 If it's really a high end shop you shouldn't have to go looking for an assistant.

[@cee8mee]

So...some Europeans think a conversation works like a scripted TV show or movie? How quaint

[@asmith7876]

Asking or offering what medications you're on??????? NO ONE DOES THIS! At least no one I know. Wow.

[@claudiaclark6162]

Some people have a loud pitch some people talk to people who are hard of hearing all the time and forget

[@georgiancrossroads]

Why you can hear Americans through just about anyone else. It does have to do with volume. But you are right, they aren't the loudest people on earth. Part of it is also enthusiasm. If two Americans are discussing a TV show they will have strong feelings about it. But another aspect most people don't take into account is pitch. In New York City for instance, the hardcore New Yorkers have figured out a way to talk at a pitch and tone that can be heard over the subway noise. But other Americans have a reedy voice that cuts through, say, the din of a restaurant. It so it's a combination of pitch and tone. Where I live now in the country of Georgia (not the US state) I have never heard any women talking in those pitches, with the exaggerated emphasis, that Americans put on their words. They often talk in low tones, almost below the audible level. And they rarely talk on the metro or buses. Just saying.

[@rebeccareilly7807]

I think Americans don't say thank you for tips because tipping is normal and expected.

[@rupp420]

It's rude to say "Americans" do something when it is just specific regions of America that you happened to visit. People from several regions say, "Pardon" or, "sorry, I didn't catch that." The different regions of America are like completely different countries.

[@EL_Duderino68]

The majority of America voted in Trump ? So should we get down to the suburbs where they live?

[@rmcbeigh]

when someone says thank you to me and I say yup it is because the thank you was not needed or I am busy and have other things to still do. To be fair this only happens at work. Being told thank you over and over 100 times a day gets old.

[@thomastimlin1724]

Gets old and wears out it's impact of sincerity unfortunately. Sometimes I feel beng positive and polite is viewed more an act of weakness rather than kindness...very strange.

[@PatrickOneal-nl7xk]

I know at least most of the time i say your welcome and thats what i find rude... people from other countries assume that all americans have the same manner system... we don't because we are a caldron of different cultures and races that dwell among the rest of us.

[@BakingBadOBX]

a few notes: We do say "excuse me" or "I am sorry" when we dont hear someone. But it's the polite form for someone you might not know. When we say "what" it would be to someone we know, and its not about being rude, its either to get right back to restatement for efficiency or its a little to criticize them for mumbling, or even potentially them being rude for not properly addressing you or interrupting you. American english in conversation is often in a fight. And some of that might come in to play with why europeans think we are "loud". Generally we speak clearly and at an octave that is expected to be heard. Mumbling and or speaking low is an annoyance to Americans, and we dont like repeating, either ourselves or the person speaking to us. You'll hear from school teachers berating students to constantly speak up when answering questions. I know I have heard references to that my entire life. SPEAK UP BOY! "Yep" is still considered a bit rude. but it really depends on the context. "Yep" might come off as "of course" as in "no problem" but it might come off as "of course" as in "yea, of course i was going to do that, do you expect me to be an idiot"? I know, its weird, and a lot of Americans including me have a problem accepting compliments. Sometimes you just want to go about your day doing things properly without the recognition, because it's expected that we do certain things for each other. I am not defending it, but it's kind of cultural, and we do bitch about it amongst ourselves. To be polite we absolutely expect a "thank you". Latin Americans are absolutely louder than Americans from the US. Particularly Cubans and Puerto Ricans. Yes, Americans are more open, and it seems very tedious to us that people outside of US require this vague dance to get to know each other. ffs, I dont have 6 months to figure out if I like you or not. What do you do for a living, what are your hobbies, what do you enjoy in your free time, where do you like to go on vacation, where did you grow up, go to school etc? Lets get this shit going so we can move to the next step, whatever that might be. life is too short for nonsensical secrets. Depending on the store, we dont like being approached by staff. If its a technical store of some sort where we obviously need assistance, sure, if its one based on opinion, give me some space to look. But in the US sales is strong culture. If you are in sales it is your job to get in there and talk to people. This might have something to do with why we are so quick to learn about each other because we have been primed by sales teams. Being positive in a conversation even when it seems trivial is just a supportive way of moving the conversation on. Nobody wants to talk to someone that dismisses every thing you say. "you're from Ireland? Awesome! What part? or I've visited before. Or I hope to visit one day. or any number of follow up questions. Get the person comfortable with being around you to have the conversation. It's a dance that most americans enjoy. Self Promotion is the same thing for conversation. Let me give you some interesting or positive things about who I am so that possibly you have follow up questions, or you have a way to connect with me. I am a Pastry chef and I own a bakery. You might say "Oh, I love baking, i just learned how to....." . Narcissism can absolutely take hold with this trait though, so we all need to be careful. We do talk over each other. Again, it comes back to what I said about it being like a fight, or a dance. And we dont get mad at someone merely for talking over us, it just depends on the context. If they are building on what we are saying it is viewed as a good thing, if they are tearing down, the mood will change very quickly. Tone plays a heavy role in this situation. Hope this helps

[@rodyork979]

If “what’s” is rude then southern United States are way ahead of everyone else. If I didn’t say “yes sir” “no sir” “yes ma’am” “no ma’am”. Addressing anyone else another way is considered rude.

[@derronsanchez391]

Americans can be rude when they talk too loud, which happens a great deal both here in the states and overseas. When I was in Italy, you could always pick out the Southerners because they were yelling in restaurants with their awful accents.

[@domingo954]

Good guide for visitors from other countries so they understand our customs and don't get their panties in a bunch. It is our country and our customs. But I do believe some of your examples are not very common and outliers.

[@DianeJennings]

🤦‍♀️

[@TheJohno95]

I'm American and if I just ignore you when you say "thank you", it's my way of telling someone to go jump in a lake. If I like someone I am waiting on or they are truly appreciative, I'll always say: "You're welcome!" Or nod vigorously if I can't stop to talk. If I give a "meh" reaction, they've been rude or I don't appreciate their attitude and that's as close as I can come to telling to what they can go do with themselves.

[@Paul-ju5px]

1. Saying "No problem" instead of "You're welcome" irritates me. It just seems like common manners are being tossed out. 2. I try to be as invisible as possible in stores because they will hunt you down and try to sell you something. I'm there for a specific reason, I don't need suggestions unless I ask for them. 3. "Huh" is rude to me. 4. People don't say "Yes, please" and "Thank you" enough. 5. I can't abide men wearing their baseball caps inside a restaurant. Take the lid off during dinner for God's sake! I don't think people are trying to be rude but when manners are not taught at home and are allowed to slip it becomes a snowball effect.

[@nothanks4509]

I flat out refuse to believe that the server didnt drop off the bill and say something along these lines "heres your bill, pay anytime you want and thanks for coming in" I was a server 10 years and just the fact that we as Americans typically have conversation it would flow to thank the guest for coming in and dining, no way in hell they said ok and walked away.

[@stardogMLB]

I live in small town in Washington and I always get a "thank you have a great rest of your evening.". But when I go to Seattle or Portland I often get one and not the other and occasionally, neither..

[@mjb1475]

It absolutely happens.

[@Reubinv]

Yea I hate when people ask what you do for work. Like what if I only work part time at pizza hut, I don't want to necessarily admit that

[@DianeCasanova]

Maybe a person could just say they work in the 'service industry'.

[@LindaC616]

​@DianeCasanova I'm on the other end of the scale. Instead of saying "I'm a professor'", I would just say, "I teach." It was always interesting to observe people's behavior if someone persisted and figured out that I had a doctorate.

[@DianeJennings]

😂

[@qynoi42]

As a disabled person with an invisible illness, I also find this question awkward. End up feeling like I have to justify why I can't work and my whole medical history.

[@richarddevine205]

You ever hear about the Irish girl that visited America and then proceeded to complain how rude we are? How rude!

[@mjb1475]

At no time did she complain. She is just discussing cultural differences. I guess even talking about differences is too hard for pussies like you.

[@Rebelmusedesign]

You are one of the rude Americans that makes the rest of us look bad. We don’t appreciate it.

[@davidwillford3119]

I've never worked in a job that gets tips, so I don't know how you can get casual about it and not express your thanks more clearly. It apparently is something that often happens, though. I'm glad that you and Editor Diane managed to re-upload the video and KZbin isn't messing with the audio this time.

[@DianeJennings]

🥰

[@misake]

For tips here, in Quebec and Ontario Canada, what I learned was use the tax rate as a tip basis and go from there. You can give hire if you think they did a great job. (I usually give 15% as standard.)

[@CptCalicoJack]

If I missed something in a conversation, I usually say "I'm sorry, what was that?"

[@hardtackbeans9790]

I’m a bit confused by a lot of what you say. But a few are right on.

[@candicelitrenta8890]

There was a time when you would walk into a department store, and someone would stand there with a fragrance bottle and spritz you just like that. It is like being perfume bombed. That would make me angry because what if I was allergic to it

[@IceNixie0102]

Tips are complicated. As a server, I wouldn't even look at the tip until someone left. It felt rude to be checking how much I was given, felt like I was judgeing the people. If someone paid the whole thing in cash, and says something like "the rest is for you" I'd say "Oh thank you" but otherwise if they're writing in a tip on the receipt, or leaving a twenty under a cup on the table, you're not going to see it till they're gone.

[@PoppyJone]

Yeah because saying yep to thank you is like saying it was no trouble. I find saying you're welcome sounds rude because it's like yeah you're welcome i did that for you or handed you that thing. Its pretentious sounding

[@dqan7372]

People treat 'being offended by rudeness' like it's an important life skill. 🤷‍♂ Apart from restaurants I can't remember the last time employees regularly greeted me as I walked in the door (Blockbuster in the late 80s?) or waited for the same from me. Around here employees are doing double and triple duty and don't have time for such things. Are they supposed to 'interrupt' the customer they are already dealing with to say 'hi' to me? We'll have time enough for polite banter when I'm checking out. As for the American that was speaking too loud, she'd have to talk a lot louder for me to hear her. I've given up saying "what?" to people; now I just smile and nod to whatever they're politely mumbling. 😀 If I want to have a proper conversation with a friend I need a boring old people's restaurant with good sound absorption and a decent salad--because I'm diabetic.

[@broc2727]

Store clerks do not greet me when I come in. I must be doing some thing wrong.

[@Bob_just_Bob]

It is rude that servers take it for granted that you will tip. I avoid traveling to the US (my home country before moving abroad in the 90s) mostly because tipping is so out of control that it costs just way to much to go there. When I moved away the customary tip was 10-15%. Now it's double that or nearly so. No thanks, I much rather continue my travels around the rest of the world instead.

[@thomastimlin1724]

I am partially hearing impaired [loss of treble hearing frequencies to a degree] I don't need to apologize to any SOB just because I can't hear them. I just say" I can't hear you, let me step up closer." I realize saying a convenient "huh?" or "what?" is a language habit but not necessarily rude. But I won't apologize for it just because I am an American, or Japanese , or Ethiopian or whatever. If you can't handle hearing impaired people or blind people, and assist them, because of perceived impolite language on your part [with your nose up in the air] etc., then you're the same dumb ass that won't hold a door open for someone who needs help no matter what country you're from.

[@rickeycarey4556]

Today is Popcorn String Day for Christmas Trees, Cocoa Chocolate Day that sounds super good with some Fresh melted Chocolate, Cream Cheese Frosting Day that also sounds good on a cake, Ice Cream Day. Treat Yourself to Some good Ice Cream, Cream Cheese Frosting Cake, and some Popcorn this weekend. Maybe make two bags of popcorn so You can make some popcorn on a string for the Christmas Tree.

[@luisaquino-s1w]

most servers wont pick up the bill until after you leave the table, unless you've been sitting there too long. Hence why you aren't getting that extra thanks