Do INTPs Even Flirt??

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

This channel should have way more subscribers. Such good content.

[@TypeMatch]

We think so, too ;)

[@Deiivid11]

TOTALLY AGREE!!!!

[@LilacSnowBun]

Agreed. She’s legit. 🌷

[@clarkkent3730]

@@TypeMatch super pretty girl.....good video!

[@NoBoxingNooLife]

No it shouldn't

[@joyceannnavales2494]

me as an INTP trying to flirt: *googles* How to Flirt

[@kramer5772]

totally relatable

[@CrystalHurd86]

This 💯

[@Thisshitcrazybruh]

Saige Leanoir Are you my FBI agent?

[@valej9387]

Yesss

[@anothenymously7054]

Becomes expert on the theory, has no expertise on making it practical

[@symiki7609]

Her: "How do INTP's flirt? Maybe you can guess" Me: "I don't" Her: "They don't" Me: oh great I know myself well

[@AK-jt7kh]

Lol!

[@jean6453]

Nicole , exactly my thought pattern as well. : )

[@yanfoo]

Her: You're cute. Me: .... ... why?

[@SiLiDNB]

I feel at home here

[@paularodriguez5200]

Jajajaj same

[@MadsaiboT]

As an INTP-T: If i talk to you, ask questions and actually listen to you without getting paid for it; the chances are very high i am into you.

[@JohnSmith-ox3gy]

Somehow I knew your profile pic was from Eve Online. I haven't played much, but I just know.

[@mr.cynical2201]

Same

[@ashtreylil1]

If I'm trying to help you solve problems, sharing useful information, and pay attention when you are talking......I'm flirting.

[@snarkymcsnarkface1863]

fact...

[@noo343]

Same here unless you're paying me and I'm at work or there is like some higher motive if I'm talking to you or giving you any attention I like you if not you're not on my radar

[@midorineko1113]

Me as an INTP: I don't flirt, I stalk. I try to know everything about them and try to give very(I mean very) subtle signs that I like them.

[@binchilling5768]

Me too

[@ethangainey2012]

It's almost like a counter-intuitive game to see if they're observant enough to notice

[@droneio]

I try to know everything about them and if I happen to talk them, I bring up things they like and behave as if I had no clue about it. They get so thrilled, when the info is actually written all over their social media.

[@phaidon2362]

Same

[@puspitadlestari4140]

Stalking but holding on cuz i don't want to be considered as a creep...

[@barolaman]

If an INTP is voluntarily spending time with you, they like you... at least as a friend. INTPs are generally not desperate for stimulation and can also disregard their own emotional needs and desires very well. If an INTP walks up to talk to you, calls you, or sends you a text first, this is a very significant thing while for many other types it is a mundane, business-as-usual kind of thing.

[@duskyracer8800]

I am absolutely desperate for stimulation! But only someone I like will do. Socializing is very draining otherwise.

[@Luis-um1jz]

Exactly!!! When I send a text i overthink everything, I think about how someone could react to my text, but for other people it’s just normal

[@PLAYERik]

I'm an INTP and i hate if i can't have sexual intercourse every single day (1-2 times pro day). Without sex i can't concentrate, after sex this chaos in my mind is more stable. And i'm pretty well in f*cking. My sexual goals every time? Make woman brain to blow. I really like to making new technicues and i put my creativity into bedroom. [Sorry for not good english] But maybe it's due to high testosterone and the fact that I'm a kinesthetic.Also in every test I am INTP but close to 50/50 with INFP = like 50-55% T. I've always felt the need to have my one girlfriend for life who would understand me and support me in my projects. Nothing motivates me more than sex, because sex is a higher sphere of intellectual being for me, where the mind goes to another dimension.Since I was a child, I wanted to fuck, but I couldn't get any girls. So I read a lot of psychology books to understand other people as much as possible. So... i f*ck first time when i was 15-16 years old. Just don't speak too much time with girls about theories xD

[@duskyracer8800]

@@PLAYERik :/

[@duskyracer8800]

@@PLAYERik As an intp, your a bit different. If this is even true.

[@klvt1291]

I'm an INTP, just wanted to see how people see us flirt 😂

[@AK-jt7kh]

Same! It’s like an instruction manual

[@i.mn0.0]

They don't see us flirt cause we don't flirt xD

[@Dr.Dumpnpump]

@@i.mn0.0 I'm an INTP-A and I'm a serious flirt, I flirt often, I'm just not great at it in the "traditional" sense. I find I use humor quite at lot, which does tend to go undetected. I've learnt to use subtle physical touching when the time is right to ensure the messages are received.

[@ata2918]

😂😂😂😂

[@Playingwith3D]

As an INTP I don't flirt. But if you want to know if I am attracted to you then watch as I never speak to you, ever.

[@roadrunnercrazy]

This, exactly. Whenever I was interested in someone, I would actively ignore them while secretly noticing everything they did.🤷‍♀️

[@NAVMAN987]

@@roadrunnercrazy I'm an old INTP. Getting close to 60. I remember those days and can laugh at myself now but it's a hard road when one doesn't know he/she is an INTP. Wish I had discovered that years ago. When I eventually did: it seemed like a lot clicked into place.

[@makaniwebb9358]

@@roadrunnercrazy Same.

[@lilyblue4922]

Forget talking I won’t even look at you

[@_rubyrose10_]

@@roadrunnercrazy samee

[@javiernajar1457]

Flirting is a pointless game. It is trying to say that you like someone but without doing it. I prefer to just say it plain and simple. Of course, it never works.

[@boba3475]

Ah, humor based on my pain

[@ٴٴٴٴۥۥٴٴٴٴۥۥٴٴٴٴۥۥٴٴٴٴۥۥٴٴٴٴٴٴ]

Im an INTP T....I find flirting pretty fun...in texting

[@melany1120]

Yeah it never works 😂

[@rangkara7201]

Yep, didn't work. I wrote a long paragraph of compliments to my crush straight on but it didn't work.

[@Skyprince27]

Before I read your last sentence I said to myself oh my god if that only ever worked.

[@BryanSalyersXD]

Please stop laughing at me. This is my life.

[@cardduz6958]

Hahahahaha loser

[@makaniwebb9358]

Yeah, same here, but we can admit our inconsistencies, right?

[@Anonymous-gv3vt]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 agree - intp female

[@GetYossedLol]

Yeah this really sucks to live with. I'd give up anything to be extroverted

[@andreaoyarce9558]

Hahahah 🤣 one time I went n a date, I really liked him so I made the move I kiss ..after he said " thank u " 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️😆 I thought it was the cutest thing ever ...

[@ClintThrust-e8r]

I am British and also an INTP, this means if I receive a compliment, I will die.

[@olaitanjoydamilola4481]

That was a good comment. Hope you survived.

[@pame_molina2]

When someone tell something i just say thank you and then come this awkward silence and look when I think they are expect me to say something and then when i see they continue lock at me i just say you too

[@heyitsmedee]

Lol

[@kendlemintjed7571]

@@pame_molina2 same, except i usually try explain how I came to deserve the compliment in the first place, then immediately feel as though I'm acting too full of myself and "bragging", so I try to compensate for that through self deprication or complimenting the other person and it just spirals down from there - another British INTP

[@makaniwebb9358]

@@pame_molina2 I experience that all the time. I never know what to do or whether or not to believe them (while simultaneously not caring, unless it involves my intelligence or creativity). The worst part is when they compliment my shirt and I have to look down to remind myself what I wore that day.

[@emilefrancis2579]

I got on a date with an enfp before I realize it was a date. I’m an intp.

[@habibmkhan]

+1 im enfp, she's intp, same exact.... jesus

[@fbbWaddell]

Cool...I went on a date twice without knowing it was a date...awkward endings...

[@binchilling5768]

Lol

[@justinwhite2725]

Yup! Been there. Got asked to play video games at a coworkers house and I made an offhand comment about his half-brother being cute. I had no idea that he thought about it as a date. What a massive faux pas.

[@martinacalcagno2126]

I had a boyfriend without realizing I had a boyfriend

[@arisukuroruwa]

I haven't heard this from other INTPs, but I avoid the person I have a crush on. Any accidental interaction with them lingers in my mind for the rest of the day, and I get really flustered. Instead of flirting I try to hide any signs of interest because it's embarrassing.

[@Artnotforthesakeofart]

Y'all INTPs are cute! Regards, INFJ

[@AnaElSout]

I heard about you guys avoiding your crush A LOT. But couldn't really understand it 😂 shouldn't be the opposite?

[@master_mind422]

@@AnaElSout When we have a crush on someone, we literally imagine all sorts of possible scenarios that can go with us and them and we spend the entire day thinking about it and then when they appear in front of us, all of a sudden we get a sudden heart attack and it's scary as well as embarrassing. Hence why we usually avoid our crushes even though it's much better for us to talk with them if we want to pursue any sort of relationship.

[@JP-en7cc]

@@AnaElSout on my personal experience I would say that we have an obssesion with auto friendzone ourselves. It eventually just becomes to scary to potentially fuck up that relationship even if love is reciprocated bc we worship those little conenction we have with 4 or 5 people (true friends, not just people you are okay spending time with)

[@subhadramahanta452]

@@AnaElSout Kinda like, don't wanna embarrass myself. Most of the time I go with calculated thoughts and self confidence but a crush hits us like a truck when we are casually crossing the road any other day. It breaks down our natural confident demeanor and I donno about others, but if I know enough about them and still have a crush, that means I look upto them, which, there are only few people out there in my life + I have a crush on them, so, I place them really high on pedestal. Also, many INTPs have already said in this comment section things like, "I don't flirt, I stalk", I also go obsessed/addicted over them like any other topic which intrigues us, generally it's too much for people, we also ask a lot of questions, which at times might feel like interrogation... ahh... in short, don't wanna creep you out, need time to calmly figure out how to interact 'normally' with the person. This is usually in beginning though, or if we don't usually casually talk with the person to begin with.

[@Dave-ip7hs]

Is she flirting with us? She's talking to us so let's go with it

[@kibbleboss5255]

AHHAHAHAH THANK YOU FOR THIS MADE MY DAY

[@MatthieuFP]

This hits way too close 🤣

[@americancapitalist9094]

Too risky, she’s probably just being friendly.

[@guythatlivesngeorgia]

I'm an INTP and I do not like online dating. I feel far more comfortable with people in person even when others claim they can't 'read me'. There's something less genuine to me about meeting people online in any context. Of course, the irony is that I'm making a post online right now in front of people who have never met me before. 😬

[@guythatlivesngeorgia]

Also I love the videos. Great work!

[@midorineko1113]

True... i like the idea of online dating but it doesn't provide the cues enough to know if that person is really interested. I treat chatting to them as a mind game, strategies, and calculated response which is exhausting. With face to face conversation, every reaction is visible.

[@asuka-ryo]

Definitely agree!

[@yanfoo]

After being married 12 years, and 2 years in the separation/divorce, I gave a shot at online dating. After two weeks of finding it awkward looking at other people's profiles (because why would I want then knowing that I look at their profile if I'm not interested?) I deleted my account. It's not for me and, apparently, many INTPs come to the same conclusion.

[@coldchillin8382]

As an ISTP, I concur

[@nicolasgibbons4683]

Lmao the stare! I feel like it starts as a quick glance and not really a stare, but before you know it you’re imagining what it might be like being in a relationship with the person and then you realize you’ve been staring and you don’t know how long it’s been and you feel like a stalker🤦‍♂️😂

[@brealbland77]

It's even worse when you work with the person and they catch you staring like oop😳😳😳

[@valej9387]

Have a crush on an INTP? Listen to whatever has us fascinated at the moment and ask insightful questions. That's incredibly attractive.

[@user-qp1wy7xy3y]

YES

[@marynazhabskaya6931]

Oh, i can do that :)) - INFJ

[@justaponyyy]

also makes me feel guilty for talking too much about that certain topic lol

[@valej9387]

@@justaponyyy But if they're asking insightful questions, they're interested enough to focus on the topic, and it no longer feels like wasting their time.

[@kendlemintjed7571]

@@valej9387 there has been a total of 1 person who has been like this for me after about a year I somehow managed to ask them out turns out they had a crush on me... they said no

[@GrasslandsG81]

I'll only flirt if she's REALLY special, but when I do, here's the trick: 1. Make eye contact 2. Smile 3. Say "Hi." ...and if I laid it on smooth enough, I continue by flirtatiously listening!

[@valej9387]

If we spend time with you, we like you. If we focus on you while you speak, we like you. If we don't know you but avoid you-- even avoiding any sort of eye contact when you step into the room, but stay where we can watch you... We may have a crush or find something about you to be very, very interesting. If we share our life with you, we really trust you. If we frequently & consciously make comments, or do things with the sole purpose of making you laugh: Ask us out already. We probably don't have know-how to do that ourselves but seeking to spend time with you, trying to make you laugh/smile, and remaining consciously engaged is so tremendously exhausting- we're doing all we know how here. Have mercy, please.

[@joannegild8001]

Yes! This so exactly describes me that I laughed my head off!

[@ottliecrue4747]

See he did the whole making comments and making me laugh thing... and then I confessed feelings for him and he said he doesn't see me that way and he's not ready for a relationship.

[@bradwilliams7198]

A couple pieces of advice for people who might be interested in a particular INTP. 1) If you're asking yourself whether your INTP crush likes you or not, the fact is that your crush probably doesn't know themself! Fi is all the way at the bottom of our function stack, so it's very hard for us to process our own feelings, and takes us a long time. Don't assume that our first reaction (or lack thereof) is an accurate depiction of what we really think. It might suddenly dawn on us that "Hey, that person (you) is kind of attractive and interesting, maybe I should make an effort to get to know them better!" 2) The best way to improve your chances if you're pursuing an INTP, is to reach out to them, in a kind and non-pressuring way. Our inferior Fe (which may or may not be developed) makes us very appreciative of acknowledgement by the tribe, and so anyone who expresses interest in us (particularly if you make the "first move", which we are very uncomfortable with) will be very appreciated. Just don't look for immediate reciprocation, as once again, it will take us a while to process the emotional aspect.

[@Rutabega_NG]

Entirely too many times, I've realized someone was flirting with me long after he's given up.

[@aethericphoenix3423]

@Brad Williams Good to know, i'm after an awesome INTP, and for some reason i feel like she needs her space~INFP

[@heatherbryant4197]

Dead on. The issue I often faced in the past was that by the time I had finally decided I liked someone and could reciprocate their feelings, they had already grown tired of waiting for me to make up my mind, assumed I didn't like them in the interim, and moved on.

[@marynazhabskaya6931]

@@heatherbryant4197 it is sad, but i feel like i have to give up and move on, because intp may already have all he needs in life. That's why he doesn't do further moves to know me closer. At least it seems so. I opened up to him, asked for advice and he gave it being very soft with me, but he doesn't do more actions to show his interest and i don't want to be intrusive.

[@heatherbryant4197]

@@marynazhabskaya6931 INTPs aren't big on impulsive actions, or _any_ action, really, without overthinking it to death first 😅 Making the first move is also not our thing. INTPs hate being forced to do things, but at the same time kind of secretly wish to be wooed and gently persuaded. It's common for INTPs to be enneagram type 5, and thus, they may try to minimize their physical, material, and even emotional needs, but I wouldn't assume that they actually have everything they need in life, especially by their inaction. They might let themselves starve to death if it were up to them. I think particularly when it comes to satisfying inferior Fe, INTPs may need more social validation and love then they let on, or even realize themselves. Side note, most INTPs I've talked to also have physical touch as their "love language," which is apparently surprising to some, but seems to be true. They can be misanthropic curmudgeons or hermits, but also kind of secretly wish for meaningful human interaction and touch. In all likelihood, the INTP is probably waiting for you to make the first move. I wouldn't assume they're interested, but I also wouldn't assume they're not. Realize that they probably don't want to be intrusive to you either, and this is part of why they don't go out of their way to initiate and ask prying questions. If he is afraid of being intrusive and you are afraid of being intrusive, then nothing will happen. I think the best way to encourage an INTP to make an effort to get to know you is to make sure you're not being selfish & demanding about it. A little bit of Fe politeness goes a long way. If you reach out to them and ask if they have a minute to talk & say you would value their feedback, this means a lot. Actually making an effort to get to know them & what's important to them, rather than always talking about yourself, also means a lot. If you can get them in the habit of talking to you regularly, they will probably keep doing it. Hacks to manipulate Si users lol

[@ewanmeek2]

We like to stare... creepily

[@anoesis5669]

When someone looks at you in the middle of you observing their features can be so awkward especially when the eye contact is made

[@cutecupcake8604]

Sadly true

[@phaidon2362]

I can stare at their eyes and souls without getting distracted just to make them turn their heads first

[@stpvax485]

INTP here with some additional comments if you're interested :) - Funfacts: I also use a lot of memes since it helps to break the ice - Compliments: Giving compliments is really a big sign. When I make a compliment (especially about a certain character trait of a person), i truly like them and i mean it. But taking compliments is hard because INTPs are criticising themselves a lot since we are aware of what we know and do ( and what we don't ) - Sarcasm, puns, insulting: yes, always. But I'd rather call it teasing. It's only meant to hurt a little if it does at all. - Annoying the other person: From my point of view, i always think i am annoying people around me quickly but usually it is not the case. Just because INTPs don't interact often with other people they themselves are annoyed more easily ( i guess) - testing the worldview: We just want to see if your point of view and way of thinking matches ours. And also it is interesting to discuss and truly get to know you and your beliefs This is usually combined with a discussion about dumb topics, so we can just listen to you and get to know you. Since many INTPs lack social skills, we just want to make sure we know how to act appropriately and not to disrespect your values and beliefs (accidentally) ( because we have a blunt way to speak out minds which sometimes hurts people.. ) - looks : yes, online ( checking your posts) and in real life as well ( sometimes also perceived as a rather creepy stare which i cannot confirm. )

[@klvt1291]

You're on point! I agree to everything you said 😂

[@Rutabega_NG]

Re: sarcasm, puns, insulting - I think this piece is there one that confuses people the most. It's not just for romantic purposes, either, as I'm sure you know. I do periodically issue a disclaimer of sorts to new friends, if I start picking on them, letting them know that I tease people I like. And you're right, it's not meant to hurt or embarrass or make them feel uncomfortable; if anything, I think it's to make us more comfortable. Important distinction. Because I know if I want to verbally eviscerate someone, I can. Thoroughly.

[@AK-jt7kh]

I’m an INTP but I don’t relate to this at all, except for googling people. I will google them if I am interested but it’s usually only after they show interest in me. If it helps, I am a female.

[@AK-jt7kh]

Not-Homesick NG why do you tease? I don’t understand the point of teasing. Is it that, if you are interested in a person, teasing instigates a reaction that demonstrates their ability to cope with stress and appreciate social nuance?

[@GhostSamaritan]

Oooh that testing the worldview part is too real. I'm not comfortable around people I don't yet know because when I was younger I dealt with too much drama (even to the point of physical fighting) with people I didn't know well instigated by me saying the wrong things.

[@daniellefrancelino8182]

my first thought was "what? do we flirt?" hahaha

[@AK-jt7kh]

I think the times I filtered nobody noticed >_> I’m a female INTP and I don’t think I flirt much...I mostly just try to avoid people and get annoyed if they interrupt me when I’m studying. But there have been time’s I attempted to flirt. They failed. The only guys that ever dated me were able to ignore my lack of social efficiency and see...some other side of me I don’t see in myself.

[@tails2490]

As an intp, "doesn't flirt" means they don't make the first move

[@ojgfhuebsrnvn2781]

Nah, it depends. I for example don't flirt at all. Even if i do i don't have intention of creating relationship so it kinda negates flirting part. I think being a friend with girl or having platonic relationship is enough for me to feel consent, moreover having a girlfriend feels like an attack on my private life and time.

[@vanitum9172]

-How much does a polar bear weight? +I don't know, enough to break the ice? -Well, it depends. Female polar bears weight between 150 and 250kg while male polar bears can weight 450 kg or more. Taking into account that in order to break a 9mm ice sheet you need at least 2660N, not every polar bear weights enough. Luckly i'm a male ;)

[@6Mister6Anonymus6]

i just found that hilarious. totally a think i d of appreciate :)

[@valej9387]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@astoriasxyle5713]

You are a male polar bear?

[@davidmendez6651]

Yo this is actually good. Maybe this blows and is awkward and long-winded for other types, but this right here is a keeper.

[@junothewizard]

this is very Abed hahahha

[@Nuggetmonk]

Me INTP at the attempt of flirting: she: "so i watched "the prestige" movie yesterday do you know it?" me: "i liked the cameraangles and cinematography. did you knew that nicola tesla actually....." she:" .___."

[@Nuggetmonk]

@@Linda-pl4hw exactly xD

[@ashtreylil1]

Too close to home

[@Ous_Sama]

this is accurate as hell

[@gloomydolleyes]

@@Ous_Sama especially with the nicola tesla shit haha

[@coonytza1605]

I love the nicola tesla stuff

[@DJ_Penguin]

Im an intp. I use fun facts to flirt in an interesting way. Ill say something along the lines of " did you know that the heart rate for someone about to go into cardiac arrest is anywhere between 250-500 beats per minute? Talking to you has me at around 249, so be careful" something like that which loops back around to my attraction to them is a great icebreaker

[@TheAstilesus]

Are people actually interested in INTPs? I have never noticed any interest.

[@dacoolad]

same, but never showed any either

[@nathanjohnson6543]

Or is it that, as INTPs, we don't understand when the other person shows interest back?

[@ksy1111]

As an INTP I can tell you people are attracted by my "weirdness", my unusual interests, unusual looks, they really like to listen to my opinions and the advice I give + I'm being nice with most people

[@yunayoun5446]

I´m an INTP and and interested in INTP´s lol

[@dalmtz]

Well... Yeah, why not? At least for me, somehow, I really enjoy being around INTPs and have conversations with them; it's fun to see why they love X topic they are interested, and pretty much I feel like I can be me without feeling judged. Definitely one of my favorite types of all 16 personalities -An INFJ

[@organic80]

Two things that turn me off immediately is someone who tells me that they like me because I am different and one who can't hold a conversation and or unwilling to learn.

[@HG-qo9cx]

This video was pretty spot on. I, as an INTP, do know how to flirt when it’s with someone I’m not attracted to. However, when I am attracted I’m the very definition awkwardness. What about you guys ?

[@gvrizz]

awkwardness scale breaks at that point haha

[@JohnSmith-ox3gy]

INTPs: Is this flirting *Points at paying attention*

[@hedovahdagani7982]

we are basically tsundere characters hehehe

[@ilicit3253]

im a kuudere

[@littlesadeo]

Ehhh maybe not tsundere. Idk possibly

[@CataclysmicBeefstick]

INTPs often use humor as a test of compatibility, whether romantic or friendly. If you don’t get the joke, it isn’t worth our time to keep talking to you.

[@KA-pe6sv]

Hello, You're cute. Sincerely, Random INTP being weird

[@TypeMatch]

thank you :)

[@sidoso9810]

simp random intp spotting the simp

[@rajdeepvijayaraj4243]

@@sidoso9810 How is complimenting akin to "simp"ing?

[@sidoso9810]

@@rajdeepvijayaraj4243 i don't know but i was wrong, i started reading about functions and i realised i'm an INTJ

[@ContentRemoved___]

Paying a compliment to a pretty lady isn’t simping, especially on a video about flirting. Some guys actually like women. Go your own way in silence…

[@snovvfox]

I'm an INTP, and flirting is quite a mystery to me... this video shed some light on the subject, thank you :)

[@yanfoo]

As an INTP, I can relate to all that. Looking (awkwardly) from afar, trivia facts, being helpful, being observant, etc. I did all that. I write "did" because, as a 40 years old INTP who's never been successful in relationships, I have given up flirting altogether. It's such a waste of time. Seriously! Just tell me if I interest you and I'll flirt with you, otherwise it's just a waste of my time, and it's honestly embarrassing for everyone. I gave a last attempt at flirting last Spring, and we did have a few dinners and Netflix. I made a gardening box for her birthday, then everything started spiraling down and she became distant, lying about subtle moves that I had noticed getting more and more frequent. (Or maybe it was not so, who knows?) The "love game", to me, is an esoteric game like reading the horoscope and identifying with what's been written, then realize that you identify with just about every other signs as well. As far as I'm concerned, it's like playing the lottery, and I know enough about stats to avoid that game.

[@erenjager4698]

Personally I found for myself that flirting and showing interest is more about experimenting with how much physical contact is ok. It's a delicate art because obviously there are proper conditions that have to be met before you try to touch someone, because otherwise you will be a creep. But I got my first gf by first initiating friendly contact with her, and then I went for slightly more romantic touch like putting my arm around her. When she was receptive of that gesture by leaning in, I put my arm around her a little more. She leaned in a bit more. I moved my hand close to hers, she moved hers closer to mine, and you see where this goes. Eventually we end up holding hands and cuddling for like 2 hours, and then I obviously asked her out after that. Of course like I said, there were conditions that had to be met, such as the fact that we had been friends for months, she enjoyed my sense of humor, and we share similar beliefs. The groundwork was already layed for me to try and flirt with touch. Just thought I would drop my 2 cents and remind everyone that sometimes flirting and showing interest can still be done without being super smooth with words.

[@thesaltiestspoon]

My attempts at flirting are "lighthearted insults" Oh damn there are other people that do that too

[@wihh87]

I get you 🖤 this is the most love I can give A black heart XD

[@lamebubblesflysohigh]

How INTPs flirt: they acknowledge your existence and talk to you.

[@horsemumbler1]

If an INTP starts writing you fugues and sonnets, then they might just be flirting with you...

[@jarjuicemachine]

I am an INTP and I write fugues lol

[@mra9546]

INTP too and I write poems

[@arantzamonge]

3:00 lol yes, we don't know how to take compliments 💀

[@easter.a1722]

Ikrrrr

[@bigdream_dreambig]

I thought compliments made _everyone_ feel awkward. I didn't realize it was an INTP thing. 🤦‍♂️

[@Bad_At_Parties]

Normal person flirting: "You are one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen. I'd love to take you out for a bite to eat sometime and get to know you better." INTP flirting: " I just wanted to say that you're really intelligent, and that's a great book you've got there."

[@reginaheel1423]

For me it’s a combination between wanting to know more about a person, wanting to spend more time with them, and physical touch. I don’t know about everyone else, but I only express my love physically with people that I like. If I’m interacting with someone and I’m very physically close with them, that’s why.

[@_angelindisguise_]

Also: while flirting there is big overthinking going on in my head... Like: what a heck am I doing? Or: Whaaat? What did I just say? :D

[@joannegild8001]

I once had a professional photographer ask me to look flirty. I couldn’t do it, and when he kept pushing, I wound up in tears.

[@Jessica-kk1cz]

Weird photographer. And I don’t like being told what to do. Photographers are supposed to artistically catch the essence of the person, whoever they are - not make a different person. He would annoy me on two fronts - 1) telling someone to be different 2) because he was not good at his job. He wouldn’t last with me.

[@Kurosaki259]

I didn't know my second nature tendencies counts as flirting.

[@thenarstar]

1:10: Not flirting- Social interaction is ex-aus-ting. So, this is gonna sound cold, if we are not interested, we're gonna use our resources on something more useful/beneficial. 2:19 Flirting by stating fun facts- INTPs _forte_ is their big brain and their collection of (sometimes useless) information. So stating facts is basically the same as flexing biceps. 2:50 Compliments- This is a *big* move for an INTP. It's like going all in at a casino. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. 3:18 Banter - Bit of a general to all MBTI. If you can pass insults at another it means you know a person well enough and have mutual understanding of each other to 'have a dig' and not to rile up an extreme emotional response. 4:30 Testing a world view - I guess if an INTP shares an opinion (which has most likely been marinading in their own head) is because they would like a 'reality check' of their view and would like someone they trust to proofread and not be totally freaked out. 5:00 Arguing 'dumb' topics - Again, flexing intelectual strength. Also, arguing over who is the best Powerpuff girl is serious business. 5:15 Listening to other person - Ohhh this is the Ne at work! This is how we learn so much stuff. 6:30 Creepy stares - We want to study you, muse over you and decide what is the best way to approach you (if at all). Problem is we don't consider our surroundings so we look totally creepy. 6:50 Internet over IRL - We think _lots_ so if we are PMing another we have the luxury of recieving a message, reading deeply into its meaning and issuing the best response. In real life, we won't be able to do that. We won't feel like we are quick enough to do the right thing. And we think the best thing to do is to do nothing, we'll feel safe there.

[@stefan.astrand]

I’m sort of a paradox. I’m quite forthcoming with women I like. If I find a girl attractive I will let her know, but will never be physical with her unless I feel emotional secure. I’m sure this can be very confusing at times. We INTP’s get tends to get freakishly absorbed in things we’re passionate about and if that things is you then it should not go unnoticed.

[@determination4583]

Unsure how i got here... But I learned how to flirt in my 30s after my divorce. Read books about it. Then found an ESFP perfect type for us - got married and everyday is constant banter with her which is hysterical.

[@Hyblup]

Me, an INTP: _begrudgingly likes_

[@avedic]

I'm an INTP guy and once had a huge crush on this girl. Eventually I said to her something along the lines of: "Your idiosyncracies are fascinating. Do you want to drink wine while painting and attempting a chaos magick ritual even tho I don't actually believe in that kind of thing?" And you know what? It worked! She was an INFP and kinda matched me perfectly...but we balanced each other out in terms of intellect/emotion.

[@gunube]

I offered to fix someone's computer once.

[@susysnakegirl]

I remember the moment my INTP now-husband first flirted with me. He said, Have you ever heard of Savatage? I had not and was very interested, so I guess I passed that test! He gave me his number that night. LOL. (INFJ here)

[@katerinakralova7292]

... I've never felt so exposed, this is way too accurate Nice video

[@consciousobserver629]

I'm an INFJ, and my husband is INTP.. and yah, not only was his flirting the worst, but he didn't pick up on my flirting. Lol We met at work and he asked me if I wanted to grab a bite to eat after work but I actually already had dinner plans with my new roommates, so I regretfully declined and said that I would be hungry Thursday and he didn't get it. Lol The hopeless romantic INFJ in me always wanted to fall for someone oozing charisma and intuition, but John's calm, straightforward way balances me out. I just can't ever forget that he will not be reading between the lines anytime soon.

[@captainvontrappandmaria]

lol this made me smile, INTPs are so clueless yet that's what's so stinkin adorable about them.. sigh..

[@Eaumoute]

That video was cool, the thing i disagree is being online. I as myself hate emojis and being in conversation in online as i see this way is less mimic and gesture and so meaningless. I see conversation and talking to someone need to be more efficient and I cant really understand the way people do in insta or whatsapp, I see this damaging and if I engage with it i want it to be more outside and irl rather than plain and simple showing no value other than prosedural im doing this and that what now. I'm not denying that i like being online as i can engage everything at once at the same time being in voice chat which is way better for me considering other only text nonsense. like your video tho, it was all smiling on my face through whole video as i relate a lot

[@makaniwebb9358]

The one time I think I flirted, it was by accident and it was witty banter. Got a crush on the guy because of it. Since then, I've barely been able to ask him for a soda. Also, I've studied everyone I know (from a distance) especially whoever I have a crush on. I keep track of everyone's habits that way and I can easily figure out when something changes. For instance, I knew when my crush started dating someone (who is not me) before anyone told me.

[@duskyracer8800]

I have to warm up to people, and warm up socially in general, but if I am warmed up and comfortable with that person I can be very social-able.

[@markjagodzinski1850]

"I guess ______ counts as flirting." honestly yeah we don't even know what "flirt" means aside from "behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions" and we only know that because, in some desperate attempt to flirt, we searched "define flirt"

[@davidschrodt507]

INTP here. We don't usually flirt because flirting seems to be initiating. However, if someone else makes a first move then we will do things that show we are interested without crossing the line into "flirting" at least in our minds. Flirting to obviously is putting ourselves out there too much and opens us up for rejection which is very hard for our Si child and Fe inferior to take. I think it also depends a whole lot on if the person is a stranger or someone we already know. If it's a stranger, then the looks from afar are about the only way to tell...but you are right they can seem creepy. If the other person initiates then we intps may show we are interested with our attention being on them rather than constantly looking around. Fun facts may come up by not out of the blue. If it is someone we already know, intps might initiate with a compliment. This actually feels not exactly like flirting and it can seem innocent and ambiguous enough that the other person MIGHT take the bait and the conversation continues. But if they don't take the bait then the intp won't feel like they overtly communicated that they "like" the person... Only that they were being nice to compliment them. No harm no foul.

[@NLSasuga]

The whole listening thing is a big one. I do have the tendency to block out anyone not part of an existing conversation. Just do not make eye-contact and act casually. Another thing that I did in the vicinity of a person of interest, is talk more about the things I think about with the people I'm already in conversation with or try to be funny or witty instead of just drifting off. Actually, you could say that trying not to drift off is how I flirted. I would try to raise their interest so that they would come to me.

[@s69-5]

Married INTP here. Flirting just doesn't come natural to me. I watched and studied other people flirting and the responses made by the object of the flirting, in order to understand and predict reciprocation, based on outcomes. For example, while I was already friends with my wife beforehand, when trying to show her that I was interested, I tried casual touching in "safe" areas like the arm, for example, as part of a conversation to see her reaction. I tend to not touch other people and expect the same in general, so for me, that was a giant step. Once I had established that this was okay, I progressed to playful touches (tapping a shoulder as a joke, etc). Then added light tickling if the timing was right. Once I established that all of these actions were okay, I asked her out. We've been married now for 16 years and have 3 kids.

[@arxshot550]

Testing world view probably mean making sure the person is consistent with there view and they thought it through

[@kogazor]

LOLOLOL as an INTP, your video cracked me up 😆 Such intense and straightforward flirting cues are also why I'm working my way out of the gene pool I guess 🙃

[@natashakozlowski8062]

This intp, who I’m pretty sure likes me, brought up something that happened weeks ago to me out of nowhere that had no relevance to anything, but it turned out really awkward and I couldn’t really hear him because we had masks on (he mumbles). It was cute tho because I could see how much he was smiling and I never see him smile like that- infj

[@kri249]

Challenging someones world view is a kind of semi flirt. It's our attempt to expand someones thought process while at the same time trying to show off our intellect.

[@ds5206]

As an INTP, i came here to see how i flirted, because i didnt know. But yes this is all accurate.

[@alice-yw8ji]

as an intp I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING. we usually don't flirt but when we do flirt we say stupid and weird stuff(YES even weird fun facts) to draw the attention of our crush and make them laugh... i didn't know that other intps were the same as me on flirting so i'm kinda surprised

[@jaieagles6920]

I complimented the girl I like because she managed to impressed me (which is very very rare), and she just kinda down played it.

[@mrchaotiq]

7 cracked me up so bad. It comes across as a death stare but really it's because our social skills are so inept we watch normal people from afar to try and pick up social cues. If I'm in a group setting I also listen into conversations and a lot of people automatically disqualify themselves from my attention because of certain things they say, do or believe. If I talk to you it's because I already think you're interesting, if not the opposite is true.

[@banana_johnson07]

I flirt with someone by avoiding them, cause I am overthinking everything I do. So I try really hard to act casual, which is not casual at all.

[@habibmkhan]

Knowing INTP's, I can say this video is so good, that I subbed after watching

[@Guderidin]

Checking on someone's world view is to see if you want to spend more time (as in "your life") with them. So it totally goes into flirting category

[@user-xi2zy2mv4e]

Fun facts is number one thing I can offer in a relationship. number 2 is giving advise.

[@christophedelvaux9363]

Good energy, relaxed with being filmed and overall considering how your neck contemplates the verbal choices you are making to express your thoughts; it makes it hard not to walk away from this video thinking you had a good person vibe. I came here via the Love Who channel, people here are right, this channel wil grow

[@bgiv2010]

How do you flirt? "Are there different styles? Show interest, obviously!" How do you show interest? "Tell them something they should probably know? Like how to save money? I suddenly realize I'm out of my depth."

[@kathyjones1576]

I agree with most of this, especially the fun fact thing. I love trivia, and love sharing it too. I don't agree with the insulting part. At least not for me personally. I don't intentionally insult someone. It's probably because I've been insulted so much, and even though I didn't make a big deal about it, it hurt. So, I won't do that to someone else, not even someone I don't like.

[@Nobody-yx8og]

Hi, l am not sure if l am an isfj or intp. I would be glad if you read the text l have written about myself below and state your opinion about it. When l got in mbti l thought l was an isfj because one of my old mbti results was isfj. Some parts of isfj suited me. For example, l valued the harmony and hated arguments where people complain about each other. l try to keep my environment positive and healthy because l can get affected by my environment pretty quickly. l also try to help people and l try to be pretty nice to them. I actually think that the reason l am nice to them is l suck at people relationship... l don't know what they think or feel about me and l also don't know what they want or intend to do anything would affect me, so l put a friendly, nice, shy girl mask on my face. With that attitude, l usually get what l want and not get into stuff l don't want to in first place. It is not like l care about what people think or say about me but l don't like it if the thing they say affect my life in a way l wouldn't like. l care about what the people l am close to think about me though. İf we conflict, l would first try to understand their point of view by talking, then l would take some time to evaluate the problem and it's reasons by myself and l would try to find the best solution for our problem. l enjoy spending time with various people, l like observing them and enjoy listening to their ideas or opinions about anything. l am mostly an observer in group conversations and l constantly try to see from their point of view, l try to see where they are coming from with their ideas. l also believe my ti is pretty high, l don't do anything without a reason. l don't care whatever the reason is, but there should be a reason for anything which makes sense to me. Even having crush on specific someone has reasons. About my Ne, l like trying different things because l see them as new opportunities for me to explore different, (sometimes exciting) things which l don't know much about. l am not neat and don't plan things in detail but l do have a rough plan of what l am going to do if l have something l need to get done. Also l can be spantanous too sometimes. For example, l decide to go outside after getting home from school which wasn't on my mind till l get home. Then l don't want to go outside but since l don't want to start my homeworks, l eat some snacks. After eating snacks, l again want to go outside and l go.

[@troykacey5787]

INTP here and how I flirted, Back in school I liked the girl who sat next to me so I tried planning a way to talk with her. I purposely failed a math quiz so we could review answers together so could she ‘help’ me. We became close friends and a night after a party I admitted my feelings for her. Specificity after the party so in case she didn’t feel the same way I could lie and say I didn’t remember anything from last night. If you’re tired of overthinking just make a fall back plan when it goes south That’s the story of how I met my highschool sweetheart

[@samsamalo90]

INTP here 😂 yeah what you said was right! Also sometimes direct,daring flirt 😅

[@Rinsuki]

INTPs do like to playfully tease their person. They like giving them a bit of a hard time, but they also secretly like to be teased as well. They like to be intellectually stimulated; however, they are fine on their own too. They have many projects and thought alleys they want to delve into at any given moment. They also do chill like no one else ha ha (I'm an INFJ so while I appear chill sometimes internally I'm chaotic). Before I got into a relationship with an INTP, I definitely was apprehensive but she kept chiseling at my walls. She has told me she has not liked anyone as much as me. Now that I think about it we spent a lot of time texting and talking on the phone. Hours. Ha ha. Her mother was like this is out of character for her and glad she found someone because INTP can be content being single forever. I like to point out that I made the first move by texting but we really just got to know each other without any pressure of dating so it was more friendly. We both had an aha moment of is there something more than this. INTPs can be oblivious when they feel something more and I basically had to nudge her to realize.

[@ivana2661]

I love their way of flirting! :)

[@AK-jt7kh]

Why? ...I’m genuinely curious. I don’t understand how other people flirt if it isn’t one of these weird displays of desperately wanting the attention of another.

[@ivana2661]

@@AK-jt7kh To be honest, I also have no idea how other people flirt, but what Kate said just souded very interesting and atypical. I mean, people rarely come to someone and say fun facts, I assume that most of the time they would just start with small talk or maybe compliments? And I generally like INTPs, so...:)

[@AK-jt7kh]

Ivana Oh I think I would definitely use a fun fact to flirt. If I flirted....actually come to think of it, I’ve flirted in the past by asking people to explain how things work to me when they have knowledge I don’t have. But I also do that for people I’m not flirting with, so maybe I’m just flirting in my head.

[@Raysunghwa]

As an extreme INTP, if I ever try to flirt with somebody, the outcome of my attempt almost always looks ridiculous and awkward.

[@hx1487]

I remember one day in school, I was walking to the bathroom and this guy asked me if I wanted to go with him to the dance. I was deep in thought and only realized what had just happened a few minutes later, when I had walked away without even looking, and by then it was too awkward to look back, but it was funny in a way. I felt sorry for the poor guy

[@bigdream_dreambig]

A stranger once flirted at me as I was leaving an event, but I wasn't expecting it so I didn't even notice it was happening. I responded in a friendly but "talking to a stranger" manner and we parted ways. My brain caught up a minute or two later. 🤦‍♂️

[@TheVexedScribeNaga]

"Number 1: They just don't." That pretty much summed it all up beautifully for me, lol ...Number 7 and 8 are also accurate...especially 7. I have a crush right now that I just watch. I will never tell them we're married with 6 kids in my mind. But we are.

[@cabbage_cat]

How we flirt: We actually talk to you You hear a lot of fun facts from us We remember things about you, did I say things? I meant everything

[@azalaeel]

I started to not seeing MBTI as a way of describing myself since a lot of people say it's some kind of "pseudo-science" but video explaining this is way too accurate I can't hold myself

[@hannahy.1129]

I....I wouldn't call it flirting exactly? More like being increasingly more impressed by the other persons ability to put up with my overthinking and inevitable stupidity while I test the limits of their sanity in an attempt to reach the breaking point for my own amusement.

[@Kymystery]

Gather information. Thats how I would do it. The more I know about them, the more comfortable I get, the more I say and the conversation will progress. I would start with "Will you allow me to get to know you or shall I just fuck off?" Straight and to the point LOL.

[@DonnyGoon]

Just want to say how much I love your explanations of the different types. Can you do some more INFJ's? I ask because I think I'm one and would love to learn more?

[@magnusrickardsson8901]

when I talk to girls I feel that they do not understand me and then I feel that they feel themselves stupid which I do not think. I can be crazy funny and my friends know that, and you fun video I send a hug from Sweden. Keep up the good work.

[@GhostSamaritan]

Känner igen mig fullständigt.

[@kedarpaul7224]

The problem is the other way around. As an INTP, I find it extremely difficult to find someone who is not superficial and single.

[@condotiero860]

It is not flirting by the standard definition. More like testing your defenses. Formulating and reformulating explanations for each response. Learn the game by playing, girls don't come with a tutorial, and the learning curve is steep.

[@tyonstead6676]

I haven't watched the video, but as an intp myself I find the best way to flirt with my personality type is to be direct, instead of soft flirting like soft small little sighs, and go straight for hard flirting saying something like I find you extremely attractive and you have caught my interest, more blunt but it is more shocking and in return more intriguing. But I also don't do relationships because I am aromantic and go straight for the good stuff.

[@tyonstead6676]

Now that I have watched the video I would add that I am very playful and humorous, but I do this to everyone because it keeps my nerves down even talking to close friends, so I don't think I would add this to being flirty but some people may see it like that.

[@Pabz2030]

How INTPs flirt: "Hey, er, Human...want to play online with me?"

[@neytemainrs]

I think you have a really loving personality. I also like your body language :>

[@Lilmorrow5]

If we are trying to analyze and gather information about you, we like you. We only research things we are interested in. The more interested we are, the more we will want to learn. That’s where worldviews would come in. If we want to learn your worldview and test it, we REALLY like you and are considering committing

[@colinyoung3685]

I exclusively use double entendre, then if they decipher my wordplay I run...

[@DaveInNH]

Ha!

[@duskyracer8800]

Ok have accidentally become an expert as being completely zoned out in a conversation while going "yes, mhm, yeah." and it kind of bothers me because I don't remember what they said. But I can memorize the lines of 2 people that I overhear.

[@pameladickson1478]

As an INTP female, insulting is my go to strategy with men. Works surprisingly well. With female crushes I just admire from a ...vast distance while pretending I am unaware of their existence. Works... not so well.

[@Joker-dn5xs]

I definitely relate with the females... I can never understand why. Can they really not understand that by embracing their non-meaningless existence from the distance of Mars, I am showing that I see them as a potential partner? Or do I just need to grow a spine and speak up..? It's so confusing!

[@klaus1015]

The online thing is real!! Even if I love someone online. When we actually meet I have to get comfortable first. That takes a long time and ends up sending different vibes 😂