Do MEXICANS Prefer Dating Foreigners? (machismo, jealousy, PDA)

I asked Mexicans on the streets of Mexico City if they would rather date someone from Mexico or a foreigner. We talk about Mexican dating, from jealousy to machismo, to cultural differences when it comes to dating foreigners and lots more.
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Intro: 0:00
Mexican or foreigner: 0:23
Dating a Mexican vs foreigner -- cultural differences: 2:55
What is important in dating? 5:50
Who pays in Mexico? 6:27
What do you think about gender roles? 8:40
Are Mexicans dramatic and jealous? 9:17
Are Mexican men very romantic? 11:20
Mexican relationships are toxic? 12:00
Why it's great to be a foreigner dating in Mexico: 12:40
Filmed in:
Mexico City, Mexico

[@adrianadrian3510]

Love mexican people (especially mexican women). Greeting from Indonesia ❤❤❤

[@erikflh1]

Toxicity and bad behavior exist everywhere, it is not about nationalities, but it is true that some cultures are warmer than others. The situation is to find a good partner, local or foreign, with the right compatibility. Do not close yourself only to nationality. And, sure, human beings like the exotic, so in many countries they will respond that they prefer foreigners, but that is a focus mainly on the physical aspect.

[@johngonzalez4298]

Have a wonderful Thursday, Marina and great video today. Sending love from Miami, Florida, USA 🇺🇲

[@BecomingMexican]

Becoming fluent in Spanish will help you however becoming culturally fluent is equally important.

[@henryqu19]

The first mexican guy already said how direct the people from Europe usually are , well , seems like the way people say "i love you" can be different from each perspective , but i like people who normally are like that

[@victoriac286]

I live in Switzerland and i work for an international company. There are so many mexians in the company all married to Europeans! Definitely see a pattern here.

[@diofromyozgat]

great video! Much love to Mexicans, especially to Karla, she seems such a fun person lol.

[@einunbekannter498]

Argh! It's so hard to adapt. As someone who grow up with a german father and a romanian mother in Germany I often struggle which act of kindness or action is more appropriate. Everyone pays his own stuff (german way) or the lady is invited (romanian way). Altough I must confess that I prefer the romanian approach. It's also easier to meet Romanians than Germans since they're more open like the Latinos and Latinas. That's why I think I felt more comfortable in Colombia amongst people than in Germany.

[@BecomingMexican]

I understand how you feel. It’s what ever you’re comfortable with and aligns with your values.

[@einunbekannter498]

​@@BecomingMexican If it was up to me, I'd pay for the date. At least for the 1st ones. Because I'm the one who asked her out, so she's invited. Not that I don't see her as an equal partner, but by this I want to show that I'm really interested. Later she can pay if she insists, but for me small acts of love /kindness are sth. I'm okay with also. E.g. buying a new perfume for me with a smell she likes.

[@milksmoothie]

I love your videos! In this video again is very interesting and entertaining! I appreciate a lot your nice work. Thanks for your content❤

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Happy you liked!

[@franciscoantonio5306]

If marina isn't already married, something tells me she's about to be, being in mexico lol

[@LazerBeamm]

Great video! So many things to be said... There’s both toxicity and great things in every culture. Most people aren’t balanced and aren’t trying to heal their life wounds. Though there are some great women out there that are fun, loving, educated, creative, and wholesome we just have to filter them out. Clear and upfront communication is key. Good luck to everyone out there looking for love!

[@eneacreativedesign]

Muy bueno! Me gusta mucho Mexico!

[@tobiojo6469]

Awesome video

[@RevanSurik]

The argument that Mexican men can be too traditional is valid, and true for most of LatAm I'd say. But Mexican and other Latin-American women should ask themselves if the same isn't true for them too. Women raised in patriarchal cultures internalise patriarchal notions of masculinity too, and if a guy is nice and kind to them, they automatically see him as "not man enough", or even think he's homosexual. Foreign men may not fall into what patriarchal culture defines as "real, manly men", but they have the benefit of being white and (on the average) financially well off, two traits that "make up" for their lack of "traditional Latin-American manliness". Bottom line is: yeah, Mexican and other LatAm men must be better, but Mexican and other LatAm women should do some soul-searching too and reconsider their expectations of men.

[@artguz5807]

This

[@flowershower6857]

We like their money and passport

[@davidcervantes9336]

Wow wow are you holding women accountable for their actions mate!? That’s a no-no around here bro.

[@MoonOvIce]

The fact that many people here say white = good and white = money astounds me. I'm from Uruguay and I've been to Mexico and lived there for about 6 months. I'm slightly tall and have blondish hair with grayish green eyes, I'm standard in my country and can also seem like a normal dude in Argentina. I caught all sorts of attention there, and I was specifically told about this weird internalized racism a lot of Mexicans have. The machismo culture and just the American wat of differentiating "races" was weird as all get out. What's more, is how other people from Latin American countries think this and other very old-fashioned things are "common". They are not, some countries just seem very backwards.

[@davidcervantes9336]

@@MoonOvIce what part of Mexico did you live in?

[@xpmedia8660]

1) One of the girls sounded extremely contradicting. First you want interdependence, then you want to be taken care of. I can't exactly understand what she wants. 2) when I first dated a Mexican girl it was heavy, I never really got used to the constant I love you being North American, you never really say you love them unless you actually mean it.

[@wspek]

1) You just described a woman.

[@Time4aKiss]

1) Female illogic. They mean they want special privilege & to not put in any work themselves.

[@el_equidistante]

first of all Mexico IS North America, second that's a complete lie, in the US they don't "say you love them unless you actually mean it".

[@xpmedia8660]

@@el_equidistante okay maybe I exaggerated on the second one lol. In my own experience I never tell a woman I loved them unless I meant it. I'm married now, but my wife told me she loved me a month in...and I was like..erm...thanks 😂

[@davidcervantes9336]

@@xpmedia8660she probably meant “te quiero” which is a lower degree of I love you. Or did she say “te amo”?

[@JavierGonzalez-ts5iq]

I’ve noticed some of the women in this video want to pick and choose when they want a man to be traditional… this simply cannot work, especially if you want all the benefits of a traditional relationship without being traditional yourself. It’s a two way street, and both partners need to know their roles in a functional relationship. If you want a non traditional relationship then get a man who is somewhat feminine, passive, and submissive. That way both your energies balance out. This isn’t to say there isn’t a machismo problem in MX, but I think 3rd wave feminism has misdirected women in modern relationships. Just my 2 cents. Love.

[@jennyhammond9261]

(from US living in Mexico) I've had several dates tell me they love me on the first or second date....or even when we were still just texting before meeting!!! (However, there are two degrees of "I love you" in Spanish.) In fact, I was just told yesterday and he was aware of this cultural difference, so we talked about it a bit. I told him, for me, I just want to say I like you, which translates to "Me gustas". He told me that is more for if you see someone on the street and you're intesrested in him, so you tell your friend, "Me gusta" (I like him). I've also had someone have my meet his entire family the day I met him, trying to be touchy in front of them as if we were actually a couple. The main struggle I'm having is people not knowing how to make plans. I'll tell them I'm interested in going on a date and throw out some days I'm free. One would expect that they would then return some days and times he is free, but instead he'll make some sort of not quite related comment like, "Oh nice, are you usually off on the weekends?" instead of ever answering directly.

[@amiquigonzales7917]

He may be respectful so as not to be perceived as "pushy". On the other hand, he is "thinking", he has to look at some details before proposing alternatives. Doesn't want to be misunderstood, he is careful.

[@BecomingMexican]

Hi Jenny. I know what you mean. My husband was the same when I met him. The time thing takes time to adapt to. In Mexican culture it’s important not to push. You’ve let him know your availability, if he is interested he’ll make plans with you, be busy with your own life. I have learned so much about myself from dating and now being married to a Mexican, I’ve learned to go with the flow and make time and space for life to happen. There is so much freedom in that.

[@amiquigonzales7917]

@@BecomingMexican Absolutely RIGHT : In Latin America it is important NOT TO PUSH, otherwise it may be perceived as rude, impolite: a person (especially a lady) has to be respected. That's a gentleman's attitude. Good luck.

[@BecomingMexican]

muchas gracias 🤩

[@9y2bgy]

I kinda get the comment about some toxic behaviour in courtship being glamorized or misappropriated as desirable trait. As a Korean Canadian I know that in Korea alcohol consumption - which is I think the highest in the world - is encouraged and glamorized everywhere from TV drama to SM and such. It's crazy that they treat cannabis on par with heroin and cocaine, but alcohol which destroys more people than all drugs combined is a wonderful thing that brings people together and "lubricates" social relationships. Likewise, to think that overt jealousy and physical and emotional abuse are ok as long as they are for the reason of passion, is loco. No behaviour that overtly tries to control someone else is anything good.

[@veeral01]

Its all money that matters in the end for women

[@GlobalandInternational]

I have dated gorgeous Mexican women, sexy Hondurans, exotic Brazilians, German ladies, Indian and American and you know what I have learned the most? I'm still learning 😂😂

[@joshfulmer3689]

This is fascinating to me. I was a adopted from Peru, and I grew up in white culture. I have never dated a latina woman, i have mostly dated white women. Recently I've been wanting to date Latina woman, but after watching this I must say. At this point in my life I'm over the extra drama in relationship. That goes with all woman. Hate to say but these Mexican women almost come across as American women. It turns out not really knowing what they really want in a relationship.

[@daniellarkins3849]

Are you American by any chance?

[@ericktwelve11]

​@@daniellarkins3849he's Peruvian adopted by white family, so he's pretty much Americanized

[@TheReverses78]

U won't know until you tried....

There is white and black latina woman . I don’t understand your phrase

[@Maria-oh1nq]

Latinas and white americans are very different, they want macho men period and chilvary and to also be respected as a partber and decision maker

[@mutilatedhatred4868]

Generalizing is wrong

[@fbspin]

I like the latin american videos!

[@domizzi626]

Liberal Mexicans will tend to date outside their race/nationality. Conservative Mexicans will not.

[@kem1233]

there is reason why so many foreigners go to mexico city, and as someone from jalisco. im sorry this annoys me. these chilangos are more americanized. sorry even people from tijuana is more mexican than ones in mexico city ones who are atttractive mexicans are in campos, and they are very tradtiional

[@user-vs6dx5eu1v]

I’m French, my wife is Mexican from Monterrey , and yes if I’m not jealous enough it’s because I don’t love her enough , if I don’t say I love you it’s because I don’t love her anymore etc etc 😅😅😅

[@elchapojr6219]

What El Compa said at the end is true

[@zeryphex]

I live close to the American/Mexican border, and I see many attractive Mexican women on dating apps ... but they rarely speak English to me, and they don't want to cross the border ... so I am not able to date them.

[@KirimotoTV]

5:45 to 6:45 is basically mexican women in a nutshell

[@wilgarcia1]

😻😻😻😻😻😻

[@moleahy6880]

I could date a modern woman or a traditional woman. But I refuse to date a modern traditional. That's just a woman who wants to take the best parts of both while ignoring the accountability and responsibility. So if she wants me to think that she is independent and empowered, she'll have to prove it by going 50-50. If a woman is relying on a man to take care of her, she is neither of those things.

[@Jhon_wick03]

Well said

[@awesomeirlable]

I’m a woman and I agree with this statement 100%

[@tru3sk1ll]

You know what's funny is how everyone thinks deportation is the worst thing for you , but honestly Mexico city and the people there feels better than America, deportation is like a prize in my opinion

[@davidcervantes9336]

Deportation to Mexico city would be hell for me. Other parts of the country are great tho.

[@kem1233]

mexico city is basically gringoville now, so many expats n foreigners want to go there, because mexico city is very very americanized

[@keinusername6855]

Black is your color, Marina!

[@burak489]

That Karla wants sugardaddy😂😂😂

[@Trace7173]

I have yet to meet a Mexican girl with a non-Mexican boyfriend/husband

[@thekingofmoney2000]

I’ve met dozens of them.

[@sammmmmyyyyy]

What if im not white 😭😭

[@elchapojr6219]

It’s interesting that Mexican people interview like to date foreigners 😂

[@kem1233]

these are people from mexico city, they are very americanized, due to massive influx of gringos aka foreigners. because mexico city is basically design to replica of western nation outside of mexico city, alot of mexicans dont like them at all

[@BH6242KCh]

Middle-age man, I had a young lesbian best friend for several years and we always greeted each other with an informal "Luv Ya!" During that time I started dating a girl and said it without thinking, same way, but she took it a romantic "Love You." That was awkward.

[@FernandaLlusa]

Mex

[@IoT_]

3:42 a Canadian can be easily spotted by being sorry 😅

[@lavonnealexander6936]

😂😂😂😂we do say sorry too much.

[@lawrencelawrence3920]

I am sorry for saying sorry , so sorry.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

😂my brother just came back from Mexico 🇲🇽 on Tuesday, the Mexican women are very friendly and passionate. I think most women in Mexico 🇲🇽 prefer foreigners. They called my brother “Papi”.

[@scotthearts9634]

😂😂🥰

[@donaquinilator4959]

Passionate? Mexican girls are the most boring girls to date, well at least in my case

[@jacqueslee2592]

He was probably in the red light district. It is legal in Mexico and Asia, and this is why foreign men go there. Red light district in other worlds does not necessarily mean drug addicted woman like in the US. You actually find good looking women who are looking for foreign currency.

[@yourpadre10]

Well, surely your brother was in areas where there are prostitutes.

[@thekingofmoney2000]

Most Mexican women do not say “papi”, that’s not common in Mexican Spanish. Mexicans aren’t really that passionate.

[@NPDrives]

Did anyone else catch what the canadian modern woman was saying? I found it humorous she was surprised that her western woman ideas were not welcomed.

[@BecomingMexican]

In a cross cultural relationship you need too meet your beloved half way. Be flexible, learn and understand an important part of his identity. It’s more than just ll earning the language to communicate. Cook the food, learn the slang, sing the songs embrace all of it for a truly magnetic connection

[@2Rugrats9597]

When a woman says happy life happy wife, I run like forest gump! What she really is saying is “Hey, it’s all about me or else”. No thanks

[@BecomingMexican]

😂😂😂

[@PortfolioPL]

6:14 "Spend money on MeMeMeME! I simply cannot sit down with a coffee and talk to get to know you as I only care about you buying me an expensive dinner. Cause you know I washed my hear before the date"

[@natebusch2266]

The pretty fun girl sitting during the interview with the white dress hit the nail on the head: if she’s going to spend a long time getting dolled up for the date, he definitely should pay. I suspect she will end up married to a good guy 😇

[@PortfolioPL]

5:45 Feminism ends when the bills comes :)

[@maousb]

RedPill is the answer

[@Jhon_wick03]

True😂😂😂

[@Sam97-oi4vc]

How? So the men can get more lonely and bitter?

[@elperro3056]

Dating in Mexico City suck too much femist energy 😅

[@JamieBettison]

And for those of us who dont date the opposite gender? ..... Do we matter ?

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

One or more of the people we interviewed was gay actually. But it's tough to talk about gender roles and machismo when it comes to LGBTQ relationships

[@hiphipjorge5755]

​@@DatingBeyondBorders I agree, that would be a different conversation

[@nimarastegar2785]

I had a German friend and she had only dated Mexican 3 men, apparently she can't find one with her desirable shade of passion, they were either spoiled Mama's boys or one pure a**holes with extreme mommy and daddy issues. But she's got her own issues:) I would love to date a latin woman though. I've met a number of them randomly, and culturally saying, should be super affectionate. But I also heard a lot of broken families exist in Mexico

[@Frivals]

🤦‍♂️If you want to be loved, never ever pay for a female. If you want to be used, go on and pay.

[@normanharo7785]

Happy King, Happy Kingdom. None of this "happy wife, happy life" bullshit.

[@Sam97-oi4vc]

But the word for female ruler is Queen, not King, so your motto doesn't make sense.