Do Not Seek Closure with a Narcissist ( Short Pod Cast

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

Narcissists don't know what closure means. They're like, "hey you've come back because I'm so great."

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

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[@tjheavensstorm1295]

Good video, agree with everything said, including open relationships. If you're not deeply into someone don't waste their time and if they are not into you, don't allow them to waste yours.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes, sadly these days the definition and goal posts of what a relationship actually is, have been shifted and blurred so far that, people now think that they can have multiple paradigms operating at one time, like having the sexual freedom of being single and then the saftey of a relationship at one time.

[@Jonathan-rr1we]

Exactly 💯

[@demigaines5644]

Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This. Im A Victim Of Narcissitic Abuse I Was Emotionally Abused Horribly My Self Confidence Self Worth And Self Esteem Destroyed I'm A Mess..I Need Help Help Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

It is the ultimate test of self worth and know that many don't survive this. BE Brave and live. Know you will move on from this and your worth is not determined by a psychotic human.

[@demigaines5644]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck Your Right Thank You So Very Much

[@wiggybends3632]

3 separate documentaries on the Shroud of Turin. Your soul is in danger.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

? can you explain

[@Taureantiger888]

You are right- needed to hear this. Just had my narc(to a degree) sister reach out to me on my birthday as I’ve been no contact. Her boyfriend dumped her(they always do) and now she’s trying to reel me in as she’s lonely. The old me would feel bad as I have moon in 11th house and I really feel for people but that’s the old me. New me has boundaries and doesn’t allow people in my life who project onto others when feeling bad. I have to remind myself how I feel is more important as I’m an empathy and will literally absorb other peoples negatives feelings. Also, allowing them back in does them no favours and it just enables them. That said, I know she’s like this because of my mom but instead of working on herself she chose to only focus on working on her physical and the material. I chose to work on both to heal. So now she has her looks and her money(Aqua moon) but she’s empty inside and tries to feed on others. It’s sad when it has to be like this but all these people do is hurt others instead of doing the work. I don’t even think narcs can change tho. Maybe a mushroom trip?

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes dont take the bait, they use pitty to pull you back in. A snake just sheds its skin and grows bigger. Be strong.

[@Taureantiger888]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck so are you saying they can’t change? I mean I thought narcissistic personality is like a trauma type of personality due to abusive childhood?

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

@@Taureantiger888 There are studies that show that both empaths and narcs come from that in childhood but its complex how a narc is created, so much that is yet to be studied. But no they can't change and they won't change, so just have to take that off the table straight away. Thats why there is only avoiding them and escaping them. They are like thick, black tar.. Much like a Sociopath becuase the only thing that can destroy them is themselves or another sociopath, and then they go head to head, which is always somewhat entertaining, this is common in (lawyers and people higher up in compaines and roles like CEOS, CTOS and politicians) also for obvious reasons.

[@Taureantiger888]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck thanks. And yes I see it in my family. My triple Cancer mom is the narc. My Gemini sun libra moon father is the enabler. They are still together. My Taurus sun Aqua moon sister is the narc and my Gemini sun Piscies moon brother is her flying monkey. My brother does have some empathy but being a Pisces moon he just attaced himself to my sister so he’s a low vibrating Piscies moon that takes on the energy of the toxic person. The amount of gaslighting I grew up in that household- Omg. I was validated when one of my sisters ex, a high vibe Gemini btw, lived with us back in the day and he noticed everything. When he broke up with her- he told me one of the reasons was based on how she treated me. Then he went on to say” they blame you for everything”. It felt soooooo validating because anyone that grows up in that family dynamic feels like no one undertands. These people will all put up an act when they are out in the world but they don’t understand that healthy people judge people based on how they treat their family. Lol. So they alway get exposed in the end.

[@TheHermitsLantern]

Thank you for the strong bluntness in this. All truth. And a great reminder I needed to hear. Thank you for reminding me of my worth. What I need to know now is how to feel safe enough to move on fully in my new relationship - I find myself constantly in fear that the same thing will happen again and remaining somewhat closed off as a protection mechanism. I hate it because it gives energy to the narc still as his ghosting is still affecting me nearly 2 years later. 😢

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes, we can’t close off completely, that won’t serve us at all. Yes, its damaging but we learn, we grow, and our value is not determined by a vampuric life sucker. When we meet others make sure we pay attention to the red flags/watch their behaviour, as narcs can only immiatate good behaviour for short period of times thats why they love bomb us so that it can expidiet the process of us falling under them before their mask slips.

[@DaveGentry-r5v]

Good audio. Very wise. I just went through this with someone for 2 years. These days, I don't give her any of my energy or focus, even though I have to see her periodically due to work related issues. I am polite, respectful, but --- she gets nothing from me that is not work related. I don't give her love. I don't give her hate. I don't give her personal information. I do not give her personal interest. I give her nothing that is not work related, and I do it with a smile and polite nod. When she asks for more than that, I just play dumb. I refuse to give her a goddamn thing. It is driving her crazy now. But I don't even dwell on that. That's her problem, not mine. I am finally free and loving it. Revenge or hate would just pull me back in. 😇

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes sadly its the only way to handle and deal with this type. They can act like they care to manipulate us into caring but they dont. They will not change and they will only use that infomation or any attention you give them as leverage to hurt you. Telling them how they treated you and how it caused harm/impacted you is also pointless they will just try to gaslight you and mirror you saying that you did that to them instead or just shift the focus of what your telling them and make your reaction to what they have done the focus diverting what they have done away fron themselves. Lawyers are great at doing this also, as I have noticed alot of lawyers are by default in the mcavillian scale of psycopathy and or are narcs.

[@DaveGentry-r5v]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck Yes. 100%

[@PROMOTIONALSHORTS5784]

Mostly they are severe depressives, pretending 😂

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes for sure, they can be as the perpetual victim mask is a powerful card to play, generally this is the covert narcissist.

[@godstransformation6129]

Love your channel 💪💪💪💪 Please continue posting more Empowering content

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Thank you honey, I try.

[@demigaines5644]

I Wish You Where My Therapist

[@Jonathan-rr1we]

Second that

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

I get that a lot, sadly many so called therapists are not equipped to handle real life beings such as psychopaths and narcs, or deal with their tactics nor are they aware of the world we are now living in and how that really impacts a human. Plus, its in the (daddy pharma) industry and in the favor of them benifeting from us coming bakc to them as they gain financially. Also, they can only hear you talk, not offer advice, which is pointless if you already know how you feel and you have a great range of access to your own internal self and feelings.

[@demigaines5644]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck You Are Absolutely Right I Am Currently Seeing A Therapist She Is Not Helping Me At All With Narcissistic Abuse…

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

@@demigaines5644 Yep standard...

[@marthahammons4644]

That's true and yea he had another woman in deck talking to her for two weeks and hadn't even dumped me yet. I should expose them but god said no leave them for me so I walked off and prayed before and after the encounter and no contact period

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes the next woman/womans will only get more of what he did to you. Walk away and NEVER look back

[@bbymks5]

Need to be extremely careful exposing a narcissist...they will use violence to shut you up, and lets face it, the system doesn't protect the victim. Ever.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes, I don’t recommend it either, can be extremely dangerous. If they can’t control you then narc will try and control how others see you and thus exposing them will defiantly result in a level of retaliation. As exposing them publically and showing what is behind the mask is the one way to destroy a Narc, I prefer the grey walling and moving on, silence speaks volumes and its deafening to them. If you expose them they will spend the rest of their life trying to get revenge on you and can go after those you know and care about.

[@shanprodigy9999]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck I did both 😅

[@alexrichards110]

Wow

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Hope this helps

[@Rome0x]

Oh boy I needed this one 😅

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

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[@karma814]

Welcome back ❤

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Getting there!

[@throughtheshadow9013]

Being in a relationship with a narcissist eventually feels like being dissected, gutted, and borderline feels like being tortured in a communist gulag. If you pay attention to their apologies they are never real.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Yes, the hardest thing about having or being in a relationship with a narcissist is realising that there was no one there to begin with.

[@jaeljade3609]

The narc I deal with is my own kid. I can't forget about her, but I've had to let her go. It kills me every day. She enjoys hurting me for some reason. Even if the relationship changes someday, I will never trust her. Somehow I raised a narcissist. I was no mommy of the year, but still pretty good, she could have done worse. I tried to do everything opposite of my parents. I was her biggest supporter through her coming out as gay, and then eventually trans. She didn't even care when my husband had a stroke. The guy that treated her much better than her own dad who didn't support her. Every time she needed rescuing I told her don't worry and took care of things. That was my biggest mistake. She needed to fail on her own to learn. It's just so hard to watch your kid suffer and not want to fix things for them.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Very few humans are actually trans, the "Whole trans movement is all puppet mastered from above in a narrative that was pushed into American universitates campuses sites back in 2012". It’s a trending term for indoctrination of young minds and a place for narcs to thrive, in the projection of a victim culture and pedos and groomers to project on to children. So, when I hear that word. Say no more. And yes, how someone treats us shows us who they are. Regardless of if they are our child or not. They could just be a sociopath, or a psychopath also as narc behaviour in them is a standard and these days its one in 12 people. Be safe, don’t take the bait. Don’t be manipulated, I’m sure you did all you could. Just take comfort in knowing that you tried and you must find peace in that. Love and blessings to you.

[@jaeljade3609]

@@TheElGoliathTarotDeck Thanks for your reply and understanding of the situation. I remember when she was a baby, that her grandma on her dad's side always watched very stupid tv shows with my daughter around. They were shows like Jerry Springer who focused on Trans. I begged her to please not watch those with her around, but she just wouldn't listen I was stuck as a single mom. I tried taking her to another sitter that I found, but I cried the whole day and didn't trust anyone I didn't know. I had been through so much sexual abuse as a child and it terrified me that my kid go through that. I decided that if that's the worst thing that could happen at her grandmas, that I could deal with that. Around the age of 4 I remember her saying to me "Mom, I feel like a boy inside". I just figured she was a Tom boy like I was. By the age of 8 she was writing that she was going to be a boy someday. In 7th grade she told me she was gay, but by then I already knew. After high school she decided she was trans. She graduated in 2008. I always wondered if those tv shows she watched had an influence on her. They were daily. Maybe they had nothing to do with it, I don't know. I was going to support her with whatever she felt because it just didn't matter to me. It's been 3 yrs since we've talked. She joined this stand up poet group that had nothing but anger to spout and all of a sudden I was her target. She's actually a gifted writer. When she started taking male hormones was when she became unbearable to be around. It made her so aggressive. I've lost my little girl. We were so close and now I'm shite to her. All I've gotten is anger about things that never even happened to her. She's made a bunch of stuff up in her head. It's not just me she hates now, It's her dad and her sisters on his side and my entire family. My sister bought her everything under the sun growing up because I couldn't afford to, and now she won't have anything g to do with her. I took a lot from her for a long time because I realize somethings not quite right with her, but damn, it kills me inside every day still. I was crazy about my kid, and always will be for the one that was just a nice kid. I know she's still in there somewhere. Your core person doesn't just change. I think that's established pretty young. Thanks again for listening ❤

[@Ebbbb131]

I am battling every day the basic child instinct to ask my narc mother for empathy and closure. But I know it will be impossible and I am just waiting for her death to feel the relief to never be able yo ask closure. Not sure if this makes sense.

[@tharangaseneviratne7439]

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[@ibiza1290]

I really need some advice right now Goliath. I met a woman who I've fallen in love with, she's had a very abusive relationship in the past. I have treated her with as much generosity, kindness, understanding and respect as a man could. She has treated me badly and now has blocked me and doesn't want to know me anymore. I am utterly heartbroken. She doesn't love herself and she is avoidant. I've tried to break through this shell but she has now 100% rejected me. She never gives me compliments or asks about my life but she has a sweet side to her. Is there any advice you can give to help me see things clearly or to give me another perspective because right now I feel so confused and deeply hurt. Thanks

[@AJ-jx5gz]

Run It will never work. She can only love you or anyone to the extent she loves/respects herself. What is meant for you will never pass you by. Put all of that effort into yourself and the right one will just pop-up♡

[@jaeljade3609]

@@AJ-jx5gz I agree. It's tough advice when you are smitten with someone, but I know women, and she is done. Nothing more to do but take care of your own heart. Unfortunately, the nice guys often finish last.

[@ibiza1290]

I lift weights and put as much effort into myself as I can. It hurts so much. Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it.

[@ibiza1290]

I understand what you are saying but I wasn't a nice guy. I genuinely love her and she has avoidance issues. A lot of nice guys pretend to be nice but I was genuine and she didn't appreciate it because she doesn't think she's worth loving. It's so difficult.

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

Thank you so much for trusting me with this, yes, I agree with the other comments here, to me she sounds extremely damaged, and she doesn’t know any different she is caught in a trauma bonding cycle and pulls you in then pushes away. My advice is to just know that, if you have tried to love her and you have shown your truth to her and she pulls away then we simply must respect that and know that you have tried and, find peace in that. There would be many other factors and contexts that I don’t know, an avoidant attached is common, they bolt and the abrupt pull away is quite brutal and jarring. But know that that is not stable and we (DO NOT) want instability in our lives and she can’t give you something that she simply does not have and it’s not your job or place to fix her. All you can do is know that you can only work on yourself and that the best prediction of future behaviour in someone else is their past behaviour. Self-love is the only path forward. And we do not chase those that can’t see our worth or value and we do not accept anything less. Ask yourself how much of this is what you want it to be and how much of this is what it is? i.e. her normalised dysfunction on a loop. As how someone treats us shows us who they are. Love and blessings to you.

[@carennmehay5259]

Hello Gorgeous 😊

[@TheElGoliathTarotDeck]

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[@carennmehay5259]

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