Do this, instead of staying upset after a fight.

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[@Shridharlifeschooling]

If you need counselling, fill the form: link.shridharlifeschool.com/yt/counsel To share your problems or feedback fill the form: forms.gle/n3SAakwChceESJp47

[@kannadasaint]

if they dont come dint ask any like why you upset what to do

[@sangeethas285]

Sir what is the cost of your counseling

[@tanvykanojia65]

@Boston Khari does they charge

[@sreekalavijayarudran4810]

I on personal experience say The harsh protest came into picture after many peaceful protests .. the mere fore granted and least care attitude however more irritating is their words which no mor has any value Bcz it’s always easier said n forgotten than make an effort to change .. hard to digest that how one can not realise the difference wen the perosn they so called “love the most” is acting different 😂😂

[@faylobo1629]

How to cope up with a relationship with your husband whose relationship with his mother is enmeshed?

[@kritikachauhan5441]

I can say one thing for sure ...everyone who saw this video and searched it ...def cared about their relationships genuinely ...thats is for sure ...cz no one would search how to solve problem bout relationship until n unless they care about it a lot ....stay positive yall hope yall get along with ur partners and stay happy for ur life 💖✨

[@lobubesteavlog]

☹☹

[@keerthansuresh231]

So generous....this made me smile Thank you 😊

[@xmanwolverin751]

Or may be to settle our mental health out of all those relationship dramas

[@persistent-s]

You are certainly a gem of a person Kritika🤗😇❤️ wishing the exact same thing to you🙌🏻

[@SangeethaSDas]

Wow beautiful comment by Kritika . Such a remarkable positive attitude. Keep it up . ❤

[@pragnyanakka1150]

Staying upset with patner who loves u truly. Works out....becoz he will notice the difference and clear the prblm.. so dont get too much upset with wrong person it may lead to depression.... which is dangerous ...

[@brindhagopal294]

True

[@SM-yo2rs]

True...

[@mounikab8117]

Absolutely true

[@rosiepestel7836]

Trur

[@Mr007JUNED]

Absolutely right

[@kazmisisterz51214]

SIRRRR PEOPLE STAY UPSET BECAUSE THEY ARE HURT. AND THEY NEED TIME TO HEAL.. THEY NEED TIME TO TOLERATE THAT PERSONS BEHAVIOR

[@GodsGirl-fz6pr]

Where I'm at currently at right now😢

[@zarinabano4485]

He is absolutely right. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn to forgive and forget. But the problem is too hurtful make sure to bring to his or her notice. So they don't do that thing again.

[@mohammadshakir6606]

Long term Block of communication creates negativity...So dont break communication ... Thanks

[@sonalinavadgi3009]

Yeeee ik

[@arwachaudhary4063]

True

[@ankitatamng1609]

So true , once I wait for an apology based on ego is started it's an never ending protest . So don't break communication

[@sneharai8291]

Sadly but not everyone has that level of understanding.. No matter you protest Or you die... They have their set pattern of living life keeping the other at the worst.. Disturbed, distracted and what not? 🙏

[@MrVishalkankatala]

This is a problem I noticed. It cannot be our responsibility to change someone who won't understand you. Reducing expectations and setting boundaries are the only options that actually work. It isn't our responsibility to make some one understand and at the same time , it isn't practical to wait for karma after an unfair encounter. This is very difficult but with conscious efforts everyday, i do believe someday I can be the source of every emotion of mine and not somebody else. Again, I'm not sure when that day will come :)

[@purvamandlik4696]

If their pattern doesn't agree with you, it will crop up all your life. I would add, if improvements are not happening, do not invest yourself more in that relationship. Every unresolved issue should help you decide if you want to take a step back from such a relationship.

[@shahaverbhanu7220]

My husband also same . he don't bother if die also

[@mounikab8117]

@@MrVishalkankatala correct..we cannot make a person to understand. Instead we have to save our energy from them.

[@arupkumarjena5178]

This is the situation I m going through right now.... I ve tried angered...I have tried silent method... I ve tried peaceful protest...but still she is stubborn... Now seriously it's out of my patience. I just can't bear more. May be I m behaving stubborn. But it's my nature and personality. If I m doing each and everything for you... I can expect few basics from you right . I m giving you all importance values but can't I get a little. Yar it's painful... It was the biggest mistake to get into a relationship .that too with completely opposite mentality girl.

[@92tanushree]

Just the video I needed to watch today

[@naveenshrivastava9957]

Yes

[@nandinisharma1130]

Same yar...I am in relationship with a girl.... she loves me alot ...she does care...she always has my back...but we fight sometimes like idiots

[@anilkarande9543]

Kmiiaàa

[@BikerTia]

Me too

[@Vineelapenu]

Mee too. Just right on time

[@sunglad17]

Now a days, relationship lacks love and have high expectations. If there are too many fights and less good moments, then think again you won't get this life again and you didn't come on earth to fight with this person. Try to see bigger picture, then being caught up in little things. See what is important, your relationship or your ego/ fight. In nutshell, if there is Love, then you will find a way. For Love, you need to have emotional connection with this person. Love = Respect = Communication ( no abusive words ofcourse, good respectful communication without trying to showing ur partner down)

[@tayaabqureshi4426]

Awesome

[@abhilasharocks25]

If someone doesn't want to communicate then can't pressurise..This pandemic is not right time to fight and making communication gap.....But if someone doesn't want to understand this basic..We are helpless...may God help him and bless him with good health with prosperity

[@Madhra2k24]

*Pain is Inevitable... Suffering is purely our Choice...🤷*

[@rosiepestel7836]

True

[@MazharSunil]

Love changes everything try to explain by action how much u love him/her , if he get understood , then happyness will rain on you

[@Madhra2k24]

@@MazharSunil Happiness is within us !!!

[@Ban3dfg]

@@Madhra2k24 that's the most important point

[@darkraigameingdk7738]

Completely agree with you!!!❤master level skills😄😄

[@MyRahasyaHINDI]

You're right sir, I'm tired of her same temper everytime she makes me upset without any reason

[@user-yh8qq2dt9u]

Finally a life coach who makes sense.

[@sarahravi6561]

When I stay upset for a valid reason,he blames for staying upset and spoiling his mood making me guilty,then I forget my own feelings and prioritize him and getting hurt again,any ideas to safeguard myself?

[@farhaneha6757]

Yes same

[@Divinefem2303]

You are not alone

[@sripradhasrinath7457]

Very true

[@arabchic7855]

my relationship is like this am currently working on putting myself first and focusing on me. my feelings matter too not just his. self respect ✊🏼 makes you more attractive i guess thats the only i advice i can give xx

[@care4indianstreetdog]

Can't agree more! Same to same..🙄🙏

[@alnapm2113]

It's so practical and goal-oriented.Basically,its my natural way of protest,or I learned from life at some point, the tagline of the video gets my attention because I have to ensure it is the best way.Iam glad that I watched this.It was really helpful.

[@rajnipriyas]

Thanks Sir, its uncanny ,but this is exactly what i needed right now ..God bless you ! Thank you.🙏

[@reemasaha1340]

How to handle ego and attitude issues where both the partners have it in abundance & everytime it leads to furious fights???? Please come up with a video on this topic.

[@77_sneha]

All of this will nly work... If the other person really understands this concept. Sometimes by being engaged people will take you for granted still...thinking oh it's all okay

[@CS-em4bh]

This makes me curious to know about Shridhar's love life. Even before starting an argument he must be like "I know I know what's in your stomach".This guy knows it all 😂.

[@swatisUtube]

Very very clear and logical approach!!!

[@priyankajain9056]

Hav done it all. Been upset nd also been upset for long. But it hardly affects them for more than a mnt. He hardly cares. Inspight of clear nd calm conversation s

[@cherrys88s]

Instead he may be happy that ur cool n calm..like in my case🙄

[@amruthaanoop4658]

I needed this 2 years ago

[@latikaroharavlogs]

How did you deal with this situation? Could you advise.

[@poojapodarjain3268]

Extremely helpful for bringing clarity and showing a way out of a conflict! 👌 Big fan of your videos 👍

[@freesoul374]

Sir whenever I do this goal oriented protest he eventually forgets that anything has happened and behaves everything has fine and gone back to normal

[@goodlife7959]

Lucky enough

[@poppins871]

True

[@vivekhakathirkaman4630]

When my do this, i hate it. They act like things have been normal and doing the same thing again which make me upset. And again act normal.

[@jask1081]

Not only that they enjoy to non emotional part

[@gopipritam1143]

Well said..👏👏👏

[@punnamvaddepally4353]

I am so lucky to see this video నేను స్వయంగా face చేసాను situation చివరగా మీరు చెప్పిన విషయాలు అలాగే నేను సాధించాను మీరు చెప్పింది వింటున్న పుడు అనిపిస్తుంది నేను కూడా బాగా నే ఆలోచించగలను అని 🤝

[@LearnKannada.MSI-KC]

Superb technique... helps a lot to maintain healthy environment... But it needs lot of practice... yea..👍.. Thanks for making the video..

[@beingagirl6365]

What will comes after this all only one person suffer the other is comforting in this whole situation .. If you cut down luxuries they will find it from somewhere else n you r making of fool to yourself for a long run n at the end accept where it will starts means no or not … what an approach 👏👏 Nobody is affected by this bec everything going through with only one person other is free from all

[@shiprasingh5115]

Very beautiful.. And practical.. Approach.. When to avoid.. When to wait till the concern is addressed...

[@poonamsuryawanshi4422]

Really....u rVery intelligent man 🙏

[@NormalN-wk2th]

Sometimes people stay upset because they are hurt. If things were said that’s ere very hurtful it can feel like you have been gut punched. Even if you talk it through it can take a little while to heal.

[@Advocate_Durga]

I born to be happy..

[@neelamkoul8929]

Ap kitne samajhdaar ho 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@PriyaSingh-fz8gv]

Yes I agree and trying to protest peaceful.

[@S이사]

word by word, this is exactly what he does. i keep trying to change things for the better between us but more fights would come up recently. and now he has me blocked saying he'll come back once he thinks im okay or done fixing myself

[@roohiafzaf3112]

Superb surely it will work out

[@meenakshim4437]

Thank you for this important advice 🙏

[@Melbatalks]

Indeed I know I shouldnt apologize when it's not my mistake... Unfortunately I'm damn insecured.... 😫

[@lovleen00]

Thanks.. Its the middle of the night and i was just exhausted thinking about how i can get rid of this vicious cycle....

[@TejasN-c2i]

Thanks a lot ! For giving life points to sustain a better relationship

[@nip473]

Excellent stuff here!

[@kiruthikaganesh7235]

Your videos make good difference in my life thank you sir

[@koalatales6553]

Aree...waaa...u nailed it ...exactly...

[@kirandeshpande7758]

I do this whenever it requires...and it works

[@blessingthecakehouse]

Thank you

[@Princess201032]

Very good advice. Thank you for your wise suggestions.

[@Gguy061]

I found this video to be 1000 times more helpful than sadhguru. No rambling. Just answers

[@gautambarua8260]

Absolutely agreed with you. I stopped watching Sadguru.... Yes or No😃😃

[@enavigatorE]

😮

[@richardakinyemi2553]

Excellent inspite...loads of respect and likes. Thumbs up mate.

[@vijayasingh2897]

Some scenarios mentioned here..might help ppl get ideas -How to stay upset... When it's so enjoyable..the respective partner who is enjoying definitely has already planned an "alternative" to walk away from the partner who's ruined already by the so easily mentioned "punishment"

[@Advocate_Durga]

I can't upset more than a minute.

[@rashmidhand6834]

First part of it was so funny coz I realise that it was me who he was talking about 😂

[@manishapradhan7593]

😆😆

[@naveenshrivastava9957]

It happens with me everytime....i seek solutions to my problems on KZbin 😃

[@amandabarrett2472]

This is awesome

[@subratachowdhury9913]

Thanks buddy really need this at this time Thank u so much

[@naturallyyounaturallyme1324]

Really made me think in a new way. Thank you!

[@padhuprarthnaslifehacks_07]

I've never commented in any of the videos I watch in youtube except this channel ! Yes , of course it's very very helpful for many ...it's actually an higher level of thinking which u actually discuss here . True it's just classy sir 👍🏻!

[@themoonbleu627]

Wow you are good thank you for this now I understand what’s going on with how I’m feeling

[@Momlancer24]

When both r upset for long time then???

[@amanisreeramoju5520]

Thank you very much Sir.. You hav Explained a Very important piece of matter in an ongoing relationship.. facing issues..

[@Krishn8375]

What should we do when our partner is not fullfilling our expectations but expecting from us

[@niviyaw6921]

This video is very useful and convincing . Thank you Sir.

[@lifesaver8142]

He hurts me everytime . And he was changed so much and I CNT even be without him for a single day ..I should be down to him everytime

[@lalithalalli8887]

Same my life why I don't know

[@nooneknowsme1791]

No you shouldn't be. If you have conveyed your perspective and problems to him and Still he's hurting you then maybe he's not the right guy to be with. There are more beautiful and compatible people out there

[@aktharisk396]

It's ture and the same thing is happening with me now. My husbands sister constructed a house she invited only my husband leaving me. I didn't feel bad for that but my husband forced me to come for the house ceremony by pulling my hand and harassing me badly. Later he dropped me at my mom's house and quietly vacated our house as per his moms ideas. And filed a divorce in the court that my wife left me alone.

[@musharrifamohideen2401]

Really useful info, I never had such a good relationship advice like this, this is really going to help me, thnx a lot

[@varshaneeraj2534]

Hahh this scenario only my husband follows ... but it happened in each week for silly matters

[@angeltaurus58]

This works for soft hearted person not hard core man

[@nidhimudgal4066]

Very true, shridhar 👍

[@reshamp7282]

I tried all this long back. He rathar enjoys it that everything is working and he don't really need to put any efforts

[@chandanakeerthithota9256]

I was super upset and dealt with situation by giving silent treatment and harsh punishment. My partner backfired, I came searching for this video, found it and made up with my partner. It did ground me showing realities and best way to deal with something and pros and cons of a lot of stuff. Thank youu!

[@tinlaa7519]

What if, we do all this, but the other person didnt do the same? For example, we explain how we feel because of the action and then the other person is like 'im sorry but, i did this because you did that, if you didnt do that, i wouldnt do this. U were angry at me too right? You are sooo blah blahh blahh'. Felt like im not heard

[@springflower5039]

you must be dealing a narcissist

[@manu1591]

Revenge and psych mentality

[@manukhandelwal7696]

I don't know, me and hubby can't stay upset with each other for more than 5 minutes. We try to directly make our point and follow 'let's agree to disagree' mantra. Before you ask, we have been together for 18 years.

[@illegal5745]

U r lucky n he is also lucky to hve u

[@emishmeh6598]

Same here

[@manukhandelwal7696]

@@illegal5745 thank you dear 🤗

[@pankajjain6547]

Appreciate

[@abhajadhav3798]

Very lucky dear it's totally opposite in my case

[@khanafshar1198]

Very much informative and helpful...thankfully i found your channel...😇

[@urwaslife9946]

Your ideas are superb

[@t.g5195]

So true!!! 😂😂😂 I love this video ❤❤❤

[@frankiereno]

I’ve quit talking after 5 yrs of being hurt and upset bcz I am totally through! I’ve blocked him and finally realize things do not change for the better. And it’s my turn to love myself and respect myself no matter how much I love him. I need to heal so yes I’m not smiling or happy. I’m not punishing him… I just give up and it’s time for me to see my worth and let him go. I finally lost respect for him and feelings. It’s not easy but by golly I am going to stand strong!

[@thejillykilly]

Examples please - one solid example will convey this even better!

[@dishaverma2409]

Great!

[@MN-gs2nn]

Excellent thank you

[@mister-Kayne]

Thank you for sharing however, the only perspective you have taken is a relationship between a couple. Other relationships also have challenges which caused one to become upset. It should have been a generic approach on what to do when you are upset

[@sashsash2947]

Thanks a lot 💓

[@nayan1966]

I feel like a lot of the housewife are in silent protests forever. It's a personal view.

[@Sakshi-wj5go]

Sure- without any result 😇

[@santhosha5457]

Two things happen...1. if we are cutting extra luxuries...they take it for granted...n try to cool us down... 2. If we r silent...their imagination is unpredictable...more questions...more of their doughts. What ever way u choose.... should come to the way which he wanted. All the credits goes to house wifes..

[@embrace_the_uncertainty]

Exactly... housewives facing this again anad again .... without getting any solutions 😭

[@shruthir8936]

So true

[@ceefaithfull8534]

I am sad in my situuation but this makes me laugh ...relationship is hard there is a bit of comfort in knowing we not alone and somebody understands

[@sunitachoudhary-he5bp]

This video is really very helpfull to me thanku

[@radhaacharya1881]

Nice one cleared many confusion thankyou :)

[@oh2634]

I am not sure what he means by protesting with your partner. But the concept well presented that when get upset communicate why and what you want. Don’t get upset and keep it for your self. Sometimes, you your self don’t know why you are upset

[@cherrys88s]

Thanks👍

[@amandabarrett2472]

I would much rather be left alone than upset!

[@rohinikokne2258]

Thank you 🙏

[@sagek7949]

5:00 solution starts here

[@nitikanagpal2697]

Thank you. Really helpful.

[@narayanbhat3816]

Very practical

[@vishy1235]

This is incredible video!!

[@shalinimehra586]

Wonderful sir 🙏

[@siddharthpathare2]

Hope your videos will reach to all couples.Its really a professional approach to sort out the things.

[@saimazaki9649]

Thank you...

[@subhav527]

Excellent 👌

[@sujathana7460]

Excellent analysis

[@user-yh8qq2dt9u]

Exactly!!

[@artbynasrin]

Everything you said is sooo true, i’ve been married 52 years😳😳😳😳🤣🤣but what you said helped me a lot, you think by now i would know that, thanks for the great video.

[@blackeverything1118]

We Just want change.

[@anchalpaunikar7044]

Very true 👍