My husband favors his mother and keeps scolding me.

[@Shridharlifeschooling]

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[@user-ft4eq5qd1g]

Can you please make a video on anti social personality disorder in children?

[@raveenarr8724]

Can you make a video on how to deal with narcissistic mother in laws. Please note this kind of mils are the worst of all mils!!! It is total madness.These kind of women are super manipulators. They are suffering from disorder that is not treatable.

[@damselindistresslol5935]

Are my emotions my husband's problem?? Or vice versa??

[@alisherkahan9442]

Qn

[@gowsiyashaik1426]

I tried filling the form for counselling but not able to open the form

[@krittika8031]

If mother in-laws are so possessive about their sons, they should not get their sons married at first place.

[@anna-pr5fi]

I don't understand how those mummy's boy cannot understand this little thing you said. They must possessed by their mother.

[@meharunisham1181]

Correct

[@dr.garimasingh9943]

True

[@prachisinha3651]

I totally agree..m a victim of the same.

[@jyotirevankar3460]

Yess

[@pruthvimsr5683]

The sad part is....No one's husband will watch this video... only the suffering wife's will check these videos...to convince herself from inside....but I felt good to watch this video :)

[@Laurette148]

Yup

[@syedroja9581]

True sister

[@shrishti5764]

True

[@nivedithau1755]

True dear

[@poojaojha3450]

True

[@sonikadutt7656]

This is the story of every married woman who lives with her in laws

[@preetparv2026]

Right

[@lawholic7718]

Jarure nahi h mam sath reh k hi torture kar sakte h .....kuch ese bhi h jinhe itna confidence h ki dur Beth k bhi bete ko itna bhar dete h ki vo apni biwi ko apna dushman smjhne lagta h .....log kehte h bahu buri hoti h jo saas sasur ko pareshan rakhti h .....bahu kis s shikayat lagae jise saas sasur dukhi kar k rakhte h

[@Naimisha4oct]

My story is the same.

[@Namaste-Narratives1]

its the story of every married woman (living with in laws or living far away from them.. thanks to mobile phones,,, conference calls.. video calls.... :D)

[@swathicherukuri7698]

My story is also same

[@abundant224]

Just because they are a team does not mean you are not good enough..Much needed statement

[@cookwithmrs-legendry9493]

Even I was going through toughest time.. I learnt to fight alone.. cry.. become more stronger.. i had never got my husband's support till now..! Till now I was going through all depression,sadness,suicidal thoughts etc..but so far I can proudly say I'm a strong women/ single parent...

[@kittysshopping9815]

Proud of you mam

[@priyanjaliverma9060]

I also want to be same ... 😭😭😭

[@shiprasarkar6123]

❤️ stay strong

[@himanimaurya5683]

More power to you! Good you got out of a coward’s control!

[@nikitabunker1504]

Im feeling the same....it's just 1 month that I am being married...and he try to take me out from his house 2 times..... I don't feel good..... I can't say anything thing to him coz whatever I told him he said all to his mom...even a small thing.. now I'm scared to talk ...I don't talk much to anyone.... I feel very alone.... There is nothing called personal remain in my life ...

[@angu6]

Not only mother in law. Entire family corner a girl and husband asking to ignore it as we cannot change everyone. It’s not easy to follow all this when no one value us and give respect.

[@cookwithmrs-legendry9493]

Yes..this is what I'm going through..

[@sahasrassweetybunny1356]

I am married for 9 years.I am suffering a lot by in- laws. We are financially independent , but for second baby my hubby (35+) need to take their permission and they are opposing. .

[@suvarnaanad6633]

Very true

[@dhanushakp317]

Absolutely correct

[@georgiejasminelindsay6883]

I agree ....same here ... Partner gets mad at me if I want to speak with him about his mom , takes his mother's side and expects me to stay quiet

[@n.m6249]

Great advice, I'm shocked that an Indian man can be so open minded about such sensitive matter especially in Indian culture. This is excellent advice. Most advice is to keep quiet no matter what in-laws say.

[@problemsolution267]

I agree, most of the advices are like, "u gotta learn to adjust. "

[@n.m6249]

@@problemsolution267 and that's not fair, in laws are not God, us women want to have relationships with them and that includes, if someone treats me disrespectful I need to address the issue. Since they are going to be part of my life. Us women would stand up for our men if our family was not treating them well. But they can't do the same life is so unfair

[@problemsolution267]

@@n.m6249 When I said the same thing to my husband, he said, "That's our tradition". Sometimes I feel like slapping him tight when he uses such illogical statements but then again, " It's against our traditions". So zip up all the frustration n anger n go on.

[@problemsolution267]

I personally believe in the concept of nuclear family. To each his own..

[@n.m6249]

@@problemsolution267 mmmmh I feel for you. I hope you don't live with in laws, I would die. I also can't stand how petty men become when it comes to their parents. Tell me I'm not Indian, why is pleasing parents so important that one even can give up being happy just to please parents. I've seen so many miserable people in their marriage but they can't leave their husband because his/her parents won't approve.

[@sudarshan3965]

In modern times it is not feasible to live with in laws. Better live separately after marriage and keep visiting your parents time to time.

[@manmeetkauragarwal3012]

V true

[@infinity_shows_149]

It’s not completely true... if you have a spirit of love and service towards your parents, you’ll anyways find a right balance between your spouse and parents. Choosing a right partner in this situation becomes very important who willingly chooses to understand and accommodate with and love in-laws. However, exceptions do always exist. But, if your intention is to abdicate your responsibility towards your parents, you will find hundreds of excuses to stay away from them. Love, devotion and a sense of duty are enough to mount over any challenges faced in family. Of course, exceptions exist here too, like, if parents willingly want to live in ancestral home away from your workplace, etc...

[@sharonchai7084]

Sadly in Chinese culture, sometimes the wife don't have a say of to say or not to stay with our in-laws. Husband is practising filial piety.

[@neetu8807]

Not understood by every husbands

[@waytoguidance]

very true completely agree

[@kittysshopping9815]

I was reading the comment session and started crying.. may God solve all the problems of married girls ..I pray to god that your husband will understand you, care for you ... May god bless this all women who is not happy with their married life... Soon you all be happy ...❤️

[@ashseashell]

After reading all the comments.. only thing we can do is.. as mothers let's make our son rational and independent emotionally. Let's not make our son a crutch and steal his life from him. Our son is ours till he is 18. Then he is on his own. Not to push my son to follow my dreams. My son's wife is his wife first and then my daughter in law. For my son.. its his wife first and then me. Coz they have to live together for life.

[@mahasoonamaishu3256]

I really agree with you...but cruel MIL should realise it

[@jananip1183]

Even me and my friend had taken this resolution ..👍

[@nikitapagrawal0511]

I wish more women (mothers) could understand this.

[@nikitapagrawal0511]

Also if I go and even just plainly say this to my husband, it would be another conflict with the mention of influence of western culture.

[@MissExFool3721]

@@jananip1183 Me too!! 👍🏿

[@samidhamapsekar2280]

U r too good but no mama boy is so sensible

[@lehshya1720]

Very true...

[@ashseashell]

Coming to sense happens eventually.. at snail's pace.. but it happens.

[@rishuyadav4410]

I'm a momma's boy, and I'm Proud of it. I do love my mom more than i love myself!

[@ashseashell]

@@rishuyadav4410 that is really good. I have a four year old son and he too is a mamma's boy. But that doesn't mean he should live according to my dictates once he is an adult. I am going to teach him my values now and trust that he will know the difference between right and wrong when he is older. There comes a point when one needs to stop parenting. I am secure about my son's love for me. I don't need him to abuse his wife and take my side for me to feel his love.

[@rishuyadav4410]

@@ashseashell "But that doesn't mean he should live according to once he's an adult" 1. A Kid will always be a Kid in eyes of Mothers no matter how much older he is! I'm not even Adult but i still took most of my future decision by myself. I did what i wanted to, my mother never "dictated" me - infact she supported me! 2. Parenting never stops in a Parent's life because parents are more older than their Kid; and that's why they have more life experiences/lessons than their kid.

[@aartih8280]

MIL should realize her son isn't her property and her DIL isn't her slave to be exploited and insulted Husband has to grow up and learn to be emotionally dependant on his wife rather than turning to his mom for everything and silently watching injustice being meted to his wife

[@aparnagubbala2945]

100 percent true dear, if they want to they doesn't do marriage to their sons. Even I am facing the same.which my husband never understand

[@sahasrassweetybunny1356]

Same if i argue for my rights. He acts like he don't want me, neglects me for years. If i do the same he tell me abt my responsibilities of a wife,mother, daughter in law.

[@BigTroubleD]

You will never win against a mother and son who is on the same team. The only way to win is to focus on building up yourself and leaving them in their nasty incestuous relationship. It’s a hot mess you don’t want any part of.

[@madhavprasad3824]

I tried to do it but my wife took stand towards her brother and parents. I always feel like I am second priority to her. She says many words but at the end her actions matters

[@nishachaudhary5719]

Hope every male have the same level of understanding as you Mr. Shridhar Thanks for making this video

[@ashseashell]

It's important to have financial independence to have the strength to start a discussion which may turn extremely ugly.

[@swatimundhra4918]

Best suggestions

[@vivekfriendly24]

Why all girls hate mother in law? Even though my mother is so nice to my wife... My wife just doesn't like my mother's presence... I just wonder!!! Why ? She is like stealing me or grabbing me away from my mother. How could a son refuse his mother, who is still Loving him. If he can... then how can he be truthful to his wife's love??? If people are struggling without food... then these problems would go away... Then Only one problem food that's all...

[@rosyapplekitchen635]

@@vivekfriendly24 stealing you from your mother? Once you get married your partner comes first. I think she feels left out. Because when you put your wife first then she will also invest more effort in you and that includes loving your family. If you don’t put your wife first she can’t love your family as she will eventually explode. Try being nice to your wife then these problems will go away.

[@pruthvimsr5683]

True

[@Rinnegan-ew4dw]

@@rosyapplekitchen635 well said I hope my hubby reads this😏

[@bhavayog]

Mother in law and husband never make mistakes.. they do it on purpose. Evil intentions.

[@pranavkumar3782]

Nope

[@swathicherukuri7698]

Exactly

[@mohuachakraborty6661]

Yes

[@ivrandeepkourisher9430]

And evil intentions is their expectation of getting materialistic thing which are beyond the reach of parents of girl to give them

[@chalani1232]

True

[@lilywasalittlegirl3875]

They spoil my life nothing happeness with me. My mother in-law is evil. I can't go out side. I can't eat what I want. I can't wear what I want. No physical and mental happeness. I want divorce but I can't leave alone

[@imemyself105s]

Samething happening in my life too

[@lilywasalittlegirl3875]

@@imemyself105s imem telugu?

[@s.d3557]

Same with me too🥺🥺🥺

[@divyamarupaka1789]

Am facing now 🤦

[@asmarazzak7519]

be silent and dont respond. she dont deserve your respond

[@shanudsilva3819]

Well explained and you have spoken out exactly what a wife goes through. Thank you Sir.

[@N_Sankhala]

After marriage, boy's parent should also disown their child, release their control from their lives as a girl's parents does. It's all about equality in rituals and mentality. Everyone should prioritize their partner the most, not parent or children. Now all are adults, let them make their own decisions and even mistakes.

[@simsonroshini8786]

Well said 👍👍

[@manmeetkauragarwal3012]

100 Percent

[@adisha9966]

Completely agree.

[@Greens2be]

Boys are obedient life insurances... you are asking them to disown a walking and talking money making puppets, that wont happen.

[@monachahar7407]

Bilkul

[@harithah4331]

Each and every sentence u spoke is the absolute truth, No doubt...I am so happy I came over this video..

[@sunitapatelvlogs]

This is tha major problem of most of the families

[@PMcse]

This is a lesson for us too, when we'll become mom-in-law in future. We have to be not-so-controlling mother in our children's married life. 👍

[@emptyheart8483]

@@PMcse Well said👏

[@katreenak4]

@@PMcse it is up to individual to individual.. some tjinks if I suffered I will not do same with mine ....but some thinks wat I went through I will trouble double or more to mine daughter in law.. it is about peoples nature whoever it is

[@divyaharidasmenon]

This is what people don't understand. My mother in law keeps telling lies to make him fight and hit me. She has so much of possessiveness that she doesn't even like us sleeping together. According to her, she wants the next generation. Give them babies and stay away from each other. The dot in law should be busy with household. My son is only mine. This kind of mentality creates issues.

[@ava-if8xc]

This is really...stupid...how can ppl think like that...

[@NA-vt6mz]

Divorce

[@divyaharidasmenon]

People are like that. I thought it's a very special place. I can visit temple pray and be happy with my husband. I went to mathura with ao much hope. I didn't knew it was a mad house. Being a bhraman family i expected good manners from them.buy the language has been filthy. Her mom is the home breaker there. She likes eveything under her control. Her husband my husband. I left. And now getting seperared.

[@cookwithmrs-legendry9493]

Don't worry ..!Keep a little hope in karma

[@shecheOT]

@@cookwithmrs-legendry9493 true., this is happening to me. I am not praying for someone's bad luck but a lot of things happening to her right now.

[@rychartist]

Love this video, very fair and considerate of everyone in the situation! Nothing wrong with loving your parents but boundaries, boundaries, boundaries, and did I mention boundaries!

[@wwenewsandtalks6344]

Why all of a sudden there is a need for boundaries when they raised you up, how can you set boundaries with a parents who would die for their kids ? It's like kicking them at their back, ..we need to admit this and I don't mean that husband should not love their wives by saying this ... parents are parent irreplaceable...as a matter of I have seen many divorces with wives but not with parents ,,, even our lawmakers knew about it for ages ....👍

[@yakshukimummaa]

In Indian society no one dare to speak logically. All preach morality to daughter in law. Brave you are.

[@nehasingh754]

But in indian family.... emotional blackmailing from parents side is common....how to deal with such situation??

[@Rinnegan-ew4dw]

Exactly

[@rajswathi7085]

100percent true mother in laws are emotionøly blackmailing thier son , and not allowing him to live his life.

[@salmamulla3519]

I went through the same problem,every word u said about mother in law & son is exactly the same with my mother in law & my husband,many a times she tried to break our marriage,but Alhamdulillah Allah is great & above every1 my patience was rewarded, Alhamdulillah its 18 years of my marriage & much happy now.

[@meghas2481]

Same is happening with me....I am also praying God...

[@farhathtabassum9542]

Kya mila aapko ...please tell me bahut pareshaan hun

[@discoveringnature4445]

I am married 16+ yrs..... situation has not improved and no idea if it improve in near future

[@shiprasarkar6123]

U r giving me hope ✨ was about to quit today but changed my mind today

[@ramyanatarajan4939]

Happy that your situation has improved by God's grace. I am facing exactly the same situation.

[@shraddha22belose]

The most sensible and reasonable video ever seen till now...great... Feeling strong and humble at same time...Thank you.

[@deepikachandrashekaryallal1425]

Let him respect his mom. But he should gain the trust of his wife and maintain little secrets of their couple life

[@mamtaverma7600]

My husband is also a Mumm's boy. He takes her on first priority. I m nothing for him before his parents. They always used abuses and wrong words against me and he never said to them anything. Very disappointed with the relationship. Let's see how long it will go...

[@NA-vt6mz]

How can u listen to abuses have u lost ur mind ?

[@mamtaverma7600]

@@NA-vt6mz what should I do?

[@priyankaraina969]

@@mamtaverma7600 ..... U know better what u got to do....fight for your hapiness n respect you deserve

[@problemsolution267]

Shridhar, one of the best counsellor says that a couple relationship is the prior n the strongest relationship, stronger that any parents-son/daughter relationship or any blood relationship in normal cases. Example, no blood relations can exist until first the couple gets intimate.

[@chiinnuhatlang5798]

Me too same here

[@milenamota8794]

Thanks a lot sir. Have been going through this situation for the past 8yrs of my married life. As you said one should believe in one self and not let others make you feel inferior is the only way out. And that is the only thought that has kept me going so far. Hoping things will change as time passes by.

[@mlpfamhearts6996]

I hope ur happier now :(

[@aim621]

Since 19years it's d same wid mamma's boy ,something's never change ,it's our attitude nd way if leaving which matters the most ,i hv gone severe depression bcoz of dis .

[@sulta55]

​@@aim621yea.. no one really cares for a woman except her parents she needs to stop serving useless PPL n focus on herself.. husband is part of her life not her life..

[@PoojaPandey-ro2kc]

I was suffering from this issue, I realized after 5 years, now mentally I kicked him off and feel peace within. Focus on my goal, my importance matters most , I only stay with him physically not mentally ❤ am enjoying my life now.

[@MohammedJEM5.786]

Me too facing this mamma's boy prblm from 6 years...

[@deepikachandrashekaryallal1425]

This is the every day life of most of women. In-laws want the girl to take up all the responsibility of the house but parallelly they are worried n scared about losing their son totally

[@kiranrajendra7921]

Why do so many women have this in-law problems? When the daughter in law first enters her husband's home she is expected to adjust and get along with her new family. If she fails, it is blamed on her parents for a bad upbringing. Many don't find a way. But nobody blames the man ever for a bad upbringing for mistreating his wife. Whatever it is the girl is blamed

[@pillugame1105]

So Beautifully explained. If evry1 understands this I'm sure there will be peace in all marriages

[@poonamsharma451]

U are always good. Please also cover 2 related topics of, 1. Passive agression from husband or in-laws 2. Home politics from in-laws to leave daughter-in-law out of the 'inner circle'.

[@gutgram]

Pls do this topic

[@rashmisamal88]

@@gutgram yes please add this topic

[@arpitadasgupta8946]

Yes add this topic specially the 2nd part

[@yashaswinigirish6986]

Along with my MIL .... My husband has the same feelings for my SIL. I have to be reasonable for both of them🙄 He even talks very badly about me and my parents with them.

[@JA-cs6ot]

You better read Bhagavat Gita.. if you really wanna make it better between you and in laws.. Ordinary person may not be able to cope up with these shits for longer. This is your life, you are supposed to live it first.. not even your husband!! Reasonable?! You gonna put all your life and effort to make them convince and understand rather than your own happiness or dreams.. Live happily.. do what makes you happy..

[@archanabaskar9455]

I am also facing the same problem

[@ShaliniSingh-ip6wt]

Same with me

[@lavanyarajaraman849]

I am facing the same problem.

[@ananyaagar]

Same here …. My in laws relation with my parents is also not good … they do bitching about my family nd he expected me to respect his parents which i do unwillingly

[@gagandeepkaursarna444]

Lot of information!! Best video on KZbin. Pls cover, when husband speaks mother's language and also like 60 years old talks. He has forgotten how to live happily.

[@Greens2be]

What a balanced talk.. I feel virtually supported 😃

[@gopal108b5]

My ex was a mommas boy so had to leave him. He was already divorced for the same reason . Some men never grow up.

[@elva136]

For single girls reading the comments, simply look for a prospect who is an independent thinker. Even some men who live away from his parents are very attached with their mother. So don't just look for someone who is settled outside. Have talks with them and some things he needs to have his own opinion. For example, if a mother is religious the son should have independent views on religion. Talk to him about this topic and ask what he thinks. If he is unsure then ask for different topics. Like sharing household work/ finances/political views. If he doesn't have independent thinking for these don't go ahead with the relationship. It is likely he is a momma's boy and will do as told by elders in the family.

[@agarwalkajol7]

Going through the Same trauma, one year of marriage n family talks behind my back, tells my husband to not be on speaker when talking to them, emotionally blackmails him etc etc and even after me doing job, doing home chores, cooking, learning their language, but just sharing with him that I am feeling stressed, he doesn’t acknowledge but started confronting and both mil and son are aggressive n asked me to leave my own house 😢 even when I pay half my share that too in a foreign country and sad truth is I am still waiting for that guy because of my 6 years of love & trust that he is not like this and it’s just a phase! Praying that we will be back together someday. Thinking about our beautiful moments and staying positive. Prayers 🙏

[@ravitejamalisetti813]

Stay strong

[@healtheelicious9732]

Same situation

[@nehasoni8863]

Mam, that guy will never realize his or his parents mistakes. He will only gas light you. I suggest you move on. Instead of spending life in vain forever with ungrateful person, have the courage to deal with the pain of letting him go. Pain wont last long.

[@anmolnotani6361]

Exactly happen with me, i also give my half share earned for them still mil through out of house 5 times in 5 year. His mum came always first and he is not realising his responsibility. I can feel his love also fading away.. its hurt too much

[@Apar-1-2]

I am telling my kids to go out .After graduation i am going to follow the American way.please take appointments.

[@KavitaSingh-on1lq]

Her son can't see the wrong things of his mother

[@shruthisg3076]

Always wife is wrong about everything 😕

[@ShaliniSingh-ip6wt]

Same thing is happening with me.. even if my mil says anything wrong n I share this to my husband he will take me wrong that y m I saying this to him n thn he go n tell her what I told him about her

[@shecheOT]

@@ShaliniSingh-ip6wt we are in the same boat. I am still being nice to her. I find that blessings has been pouring on me.

[@lakhwantsheri]

All men should watch this. there is nothing worse than feeling lonely in a marriage

[@Gavin_Francis_123]

And there is nothing worse than a toxic outsider planning to seperate the man from his parents....stay unmarried and cry harder

[@SupiriYaka]

Jealous insecure Karen

[@SupiriYaka]

​@@Gavin_Francis_123😂👍 true

[@ispeakinsilence1670]

Soo relatable, Thanku Sir was really depressed for the same issue and all of sudden the video poped bit relaxing thou 🙏 Pls need more talk about the concern indepth..

[@ashwiniharani9015]

True, will always loose our temper in this environment

[@missroshchannel]

Don't worry Ramya

[@raveenarr8724]

Mr. Shreedhar your advise is amazing and logical but I can bet, it will not work.These are all tried and tested. Sadly it doesn’t work when it comes to in laws. That’s that !!!! My opinion- girl/women should have the legal rights to say no to joint family. That is the only solution 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@NatureLite2023]

Yes i agree. Girl has to leave a family and come to man's life. But men will be with his parents all the time. It is not fair. I suggest both should stay away from parents.

[@manub619]

How many more law s married women need...?? All laws are biased against man and his family.. Mr sheedhar plz talk about false cases by indian married women, notion in our country is victim means women, perpetrators are always husband and his family members

[@manub619]

@@NatureLite2023 good idea, if in laws from girl side don't interfere in couples life then success of marriage is high...

[@raveenarr8724]

@@manub619 I am only talking about women who are silently suffering with their in-laws living in joint family systems. Some women carry on enduring emotional torture ( which is worse than physical torture) as they have no choice. Some take the wrong path taking advantage by framing the men. It’s not acceptable. But just give her the choice if she wants to live with boy’s family or not!!!

[@manub619]

@@raveenarr8724 I understand and feel empathy towards woman who are really suffering, husband should be sensitive fully agreed. However I disagree with legal power to women to say no to joint/living with in-laws. It must be deliberated within family not in police station. These days lawyers, police and girl side are looting boys side of their hard earned money by filing false cases and traumatizing aged parents and husbands relatives. Olden days marriages were successful coz of all difference s were sorted out by elders these days small difference, ends up in filing false cases. Plz look at ncrb data how many married men suicide in India coz of marital torture by wife and their home. India is no place for married men.

[@NatureLite2023]

This is huge problem every women has to face. Its fate of women. I wish this culture changes soon.

[@drmeenakazi1948]

My husband is also mumma boy. He always takes his mother and sister everywhere along with me. No privacy. According to him he gives me personal time. But no he doesn't. Don't u think he should give privacy. He is busy with his office work n then his family. What about me. It's being 5 year's. Depression me chale gaye hum. I need help

[@shammasharif3586]

You ok?

[@swatitamrakar5022]

Same thing happened with me, I m not finding solution wht to do

[@rupasingh7293]

Make friends, take out time for yourself.

[@Ai_Haunting_path_99]

You don't have personal life or office life ?​@@ManishaThakur-hm4zk

[@ivrandeepkourisher9430]

What ever you said happened in my life and I tolerated everything for the sake of my daughter... but a time comes when you are no longer able to tolerate this ..because it will lead you to suffer from problem of depression.. If a woman is independent having earning source she can face it ..but if she Is not her life is hell on this earth

[@earlofmar7987]

WARNING: Just ask him if he is a momma's boy? If she doesn't respect boundaries: LEAVE. If your feelings are not important: LEAVE. If he doesn't support you and is not willing to get an unlisted phone number: LEAVE. You will NEVER be happy & fulfilled. She will continue to stage problems & cause crap.

[@Rkadhan]

What about if reverse happened ie girl tell all and every single talk & activities between husband and wife. Remains on call with her mother all the time? Pls guide me

[@earlofmar7987]

@@Rkadhan Good point. If the wife is still dependent on her mother, that could come between their marriage. A noisy mother-in-law, is the worst. The soon to be husband, would never be good enough for her daughter.

[@Rkadhan]

@@earlofmar7987 I don't want to do this thing and they doesn't care about bad to her daughter

[@earlofmar7987]

@@Rkadhan The Mother in Law, will fill the daughter's head with unrealistic dreams. For instance, saying the daughter needs a bigger & prettier house. Or tells her that her husband is sloppy. If the Mother in law, is constantly saying he's not good enough for the daughter. When the Mother-in-law comes to the house, if she turns up her nose at him. If the daughter won't break away and stop calling Mommy constantly, there could be problems.

[@janoongr1355]

Topic of the video is the problem of all the issues I have had so far. As you suggested I have tried to understand their point of view, tried to be perfect, and everything you can name to perfect the relationship. But there was some disconnect and my relationship with my husband kept going down. But then I learnt about narcissism. My MIL is malignant covert narcissist. Everything looks so rosy and godly outside. But there is lot of background division, soul killing, energy sucking happening. After understanding the core of the issue, I am able to analyze better. Thanks for making the video 👍🏻

[@Prinx0506]

yes .. stay away ffom narcissist ppl... no good in your life , they r worst than terrorists

[@rashmisamal88]

An add on she is a slow poison.

[@sreelekshmy8951]

Watching this at 2023 as a victim of this son- mother relationship that destroys my life. Separated from my husband due to these reasons. There was no privacy in our relationship. We discuss things> went on to mother > to his sister > her husband > to his family😢. This is how our personal things go🤦🏻‍♀️ fedup.. Fight... Finally i failed they win🤦🏻‍♀️☹️😢

[@zuli_fab]

U hav explained it very well 👏....but I m a peace-loving person ....I would prefer to remain silent and walkaway.

[@Aadhi5]

A Momma's boy will never give you equal respect...better realise it soon ....there are all kinds of Momma's boy....not necessarily evil.....But still make the wife insecure...bcoz she will nvr evr get her due...period... Momma always comes first....n ...she is nvr wrong...🙄...

[@kittysshopping9815]

Fact🥺 I realised it now

[@04wahida]

In India, Marriages should get ban until these Indian parents realize when to stop parenting. Because unwanted interference of in laws simply destroy the marriage, no matter how much love is there between a couple.

[@daisyslovevideos2431]

I agree with you

[@prabhasharma3747]

Totally agree

[@ivrandeepkourisher9430]

One more important factor is that not only mother-in-law is responsible for this because a single person in family cannot create problems until the whole family of in laws is corrupted by evil intentions ..if a single person in in-laws family fight for right and wrong the situation may get changed...but it doesn't happen as everyone is referring daughter-in-law as a person came from other places..and never gives her equivalent status as equal as other family members of their family 👪

[@codingiscreativity]

Just curious to know, what happened to the background check before marriage?

[@nehasingh-fx1vl]

@@codingiscreativity after marriage only u get to know about them …. before that they appear very good people from far away

[@sujatasahoo6446]

Correct, its always a group of wrong people with wrong intentions....

[@victoriad4107]

Thank you sir. Can you just tell me, how to get rid of sister- in- law at home or how to ignore all her domination.

[@StarryKnightBrokenHeart]

😂 haha

[@sumykm]

I also want to know the solution for this. Sister in law is staying 2 km away from my home. But she talks with my husband everyday and gets updated on happenings in my home. No privacy as a family. My husband takes her thinking and suggestion with more importance. Really pissed off.

[@darkraigameingdk7738]

@@sumykm same here....

[@xyzaaa7716]

Nuclear family!!!!

[@aiswaryapv4046]

This is universal

[@orangemocha3693]

Don't get married to much work.

[@swatiraut1752]

😂😂

[@sanjeevkushwaha4043]

Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeah that's the best solution 😎😎😎😎

[@VS-xk5hg]

🤣😂

[@suchithranair868]

Very correct

[@barbie8891]

😂😂😂

[@Amandeepkaur-xy4ne]

M srry I don't know u but while scrolling KZbin I read your heading I thought of listening to it. And in this entire video u were clearly aware of that who's mistake it is and who is responsible for polluting d relationship. But still in this entire video u r trying to make d women to understand. Practical approach to this is totally different. This kind of atmosphere in the house can make you depressed. When all d time somebody is scolding u and keep telling, u r good for nothing. It will automatically low down your morale. So simply lecturing on it is simply but practical very difficult to live in such environment.

[@missroshchannel]

Exactly you are saying correct

[@missroshchannel]

Highly difficult

[@sanjeevkushwaha4043]

In real life scenerio none of the advice given by relationship councellors will ever works in long run 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@exploreyourinnerworld4318]

Yes really difficult i am facing the same problem. Leave the partner with his mother is the only solution in my opinion and get separated

[@s.d3557]

@@exploreyourinnerworld4318 I'm doing the same.... I tried to adjust for 14 long yrs... Bt all in vain... People really do never change.....

[@BeBeautiful9]

Hope all Indian Men listen this .. but even they listen nd forget

[@1.woerwoer]

Mommies, are married to their sons who never mentally grew up

[@harlinpandya9130]

Thank you very much for ur this video.it means lot to me.,I HV suffered exactly with same problem and guess what yes we r proceeding ahead for divorse.only bcz I took stand against it.

[@rmadhu24]

I’m sorry to hear... I’m going through the same... I get into depression and I feel I’ve lost my happiness... The thought of divorce has crossed my mind several times but I still love my husband and he does the same, he takes care of me very well! That is making me hold back for now... but I cannot live this way forever... Just because u hav proceeded, I would like to know how u feeling now? I understand it’s not easy..

[@cheezy9541]

I wish all the men are sensible like him.. I wish this video gets a billion views and wherein at least a million gets educated.. (education in the true sense of the term) I wonder how You Tube gets to know what to recommend when.. You Tube is turning out to be our torch bearer..🙏

[@niharikavarshney2826]

He is just promoting his business. Solution he has shown will never work.

[@prateeksha5387]

And you are too handsome . I am adoring you as a younger sister sir..i wish when i grow up i get a husband who is exactly like you in all aspects. Handsome inside out ❤❤

[@tromboner6061]

You sure you adoring him as younger sis?

[@richakumari575]

Really loved the explanation. You did not favour anybody rather you addressed every body's thoughts. I think by far this is the best and detailed video on individual thoughts and their stand.Looking forward to such more videos. I will request you to make a video on what respect is in a couple relationship from both husband and wife perspective.

[@EagleButterfly]

Same problem I faced, I adjusted so much. He shared each and everything to his mom brother.. Physical harassment also

[@KT-pi8xc]

I am crying watching this.......it's like you are talking about my story.

[@tanyamudkavi7959]

I had the same constant issue with my ex finace ! Everything I told him or he knew about my life was passed on to his mum...towards the end I found out they would sit and talk about every little thing I said ,and judge me. Even go to the extent of telling on me ,to my parents . Whereas I tried my best to hide any downs and tantrums of his ,from both his and my parents. Being a mommy's boy is great, as long as you know how to prioritise your own wife/ patner and not make her feel as a third person in her own relationship with the guy ! If you make her feel inferior at almost everything she does and make a showbiz out of that , highlighting all her faults... no woman with an option to move out, will stick around. Its humiliating and disrespectful! Such men and their mothers need to be familiarised with the term " boundaries "

[@pallavikr3643]

Sir... you are explaining exactly what I suffering .

[@freesoul374]

My MIL will b d happiest person if me n my husband get divorced. No body from my in-laws side ever call me or talk abt me, it's only me who calls.

[@ankitaahuja111]

Stop calling then. Every Relation is a 2 way street.

[@Mahene6632]

Sailing in d same boat... Bt i stopped calling n talking to dem

[@N_Sankhala]

Same, I realized it even before my marriage, so I stopped too for initiating.

[@freesoul374]

@@godsknows6510 can understand u dear totally. Bt the strength is in nt letting ur MIL win by getting separated with ur husband. I will NVR let her win. Forget ur MIL and focus solely on ur husband.

[@freesoul374]

@@godsknows6510 if u n ur husband get separated ur MIL will win. Try n reunite with ur husband as u r saying that he is also suffering.

[@anamwaheed6105]

You are always in point.. taking both sides seriously. ❤

[@aartih8280]

Love means letting go but MIL wants to rather cling more harder post marriage of her son MIL dominates interferes and manipulates Husband wants to blindly follow his mom playing dirty games with his wife Married life turns into hell when husband and MIL team up against DIL

[@meghanasugandachar5851]

Along with mil sil is added on

[@yavnikanegi094]

​@@meghanasugandachar5851 same here

[@Lishi-pr6fk]

This is the main reason why I'm delaying my marriage. This exactly happened with my mom. I have come from a joint family where these practices are common. Even though I'm not married yet but I think about divorce and separation first and then about a happy marriage. I have become more practical in terms of relationship.

[@utukurinarasimharao8576]

B'coz of his mom and dad my husband avoids me completely now Iam pregnant and he doesn't even call to me from two weeks..what should I do ?

[@madlycraving9065]

Divorce him

[@nehasoni8863]

Please leave him. He is undeserving.

[@meghanasugandachar5851]

I was pregnant n had miscarriage still he dint care. He wanted to go to his mother. Wanted me to go to his native though I was mentally n physically weak after miscarriage. Nobody cares. If husband is not caring for his own kid it's better to have kids once your partner gets good understanding

[@nehasoni8863]

@@meghanasugandachar5851 I am so sorry to hear about it. I hope you are holding up well. Please leave the man. A person who isnt there in tough times, you should waste your rest of the life waiting in hope that he would change. He wont change. Marriage is a partnership. Your husband clearly isnt involved. Take care of your health. All you have is you.

[@healthyyou9397]

That's why I don't prefer living with in laws I made it clear before getting married...

[@meenakshim4437]

Thank you for changing many lives by your guidance and videos 😇

[@hamsalathapremshan6203]

Wow very good advice for all the girls who r into such problem. Thank you for the advice. Every women face this problem in her husband's house. This is the first video I'm seeing, n I'm impressed by ur advice. Thank you brother.

[@malabadarinath591]

Thank you so much 🙏🙏. Wonderful explanation 👍

[@venkatalakshmidurgasangeet9262]

MIL interference between husband and wife relationship led to so many problems, one of them include husband wants privacy with his wife but he doesn't make it due to fear of in-laws that results in husband getting close to another woman outside, but he doesn't realize the thing that he is having a beautiful partner in his hands, he finds more privacy outside the house with another woman

[@pauldirc..]

Talking about sexual intimacy?

[@kevinstars5502]

I'm living with my husband and in laws and each time I tell him something he screams out for dem to hear and even join with dem n insults me if they call me a bad name he calls me the same name a few days later

[@kiki40665]

Mother in law generally has too much expectations

[@reneedwards1082]

Oh wow!! You are incredibly accurate on my marriage, and my over possessive mil and 2 sil, who are so controlling and I am only told of plans after they've been made, 23 yrs of lies, and no respect from my mil, I can't anymore. I'm a Christian married to a non believer so even spiritually we don't share anything. It can get very lonely but he is a good person when he's not verbally abusive. I have two sons and would never do what his mum is doing to me, it's soul crushing and my husband is allowing it? 💓

[@Internationalmotivational369]

It's really difficult,to make people.realize The society is drowning and families are dying becoz the couple's don't know how to treat each other ........

[@mukti641]

Hii. How to deal with abuse relationship. My husband also Mama's boy and my mother-in-law doesn't like me.

[@saketjain8443]

This is exact story of mine. Thank u for explaining it in a good way. From, Sony 🙏

[@sushmalokesh7231]

Please make a video on how to handle a snooping mother in law...she checks my bedroom in my absence and my husband doesn correct her and she takes advantage of her health and other things

[@valermathim2776]

Omg. Same situation l. I started to lock the door.

[@shalinithangavel596]

Worth watching the video you let us know (to think) what is the cause and solution to the problem.. Really thankful for all your videos... Continue doing it..

[@misty_girl990]

Emotional blackmailing is the biggest weapon on every mother in law.. How to deal with that!!!!

[@randombibliophile3686]

Thank you. Only if he understood this simple thing.

[@abigailxavier7851]

My Mother in law is very interfering and she evades all our privacy.. since we seprated things are so much beter👍 I still do what I want because our thaughts dont match.

[@KH-qc9rl]

Thank you for this beautiful warm hug of a video ❤

[@DrSmileup]

Actually my problem aswell and he says that he can disown me and his son, get seperated but he would not listen to anuthinv agaisnt his mom even if she is wrong. He thinks she can neveer be wrong and she said alot of crap to me in frnt of him but he didnt utter a word to support me or make her shut up .

[@aartih8280]

Sad This is kahani ghar ghar ki

[@vemuride]

My sister is also facing same issues😢😢 whatever u said bro same thing happening in her life..As a boy i am getting irritated with this typical and worst minded brother in law...If i come to know i have also same thinking when i am in that situation better i wont marry and make someone cry.. In my perspective, if anybody really trust and love their wife nobody will think about inequality in their life..

[@shamayitaacharya3829]

To get respect people should earn respect first .. If mil wants someone to follow orders,why she got her son married. A man who cannot stand for his wife’s respect how can he manage the family? Mil is ok in her place,she lived her life. If she wants dominance she can dominate her husband,she should not interfere in couple’s life

[@Gavin_Francis_123]

I don't understand when a women can't tolerate a word against her parents... how does she have the audacity to say anything about the boys parents... hypocrites...if you can't get along well with your hubby and his family...take divorce and show some mercy on them ....its better to stay at home than to break others home ... utterly shameful and toxic feminism

[@AS53246]

Because she is not staying with her family so what do you expect not to defend them even in their absence and it's your decision to keep wife with your family so u have to balance relation both sides (bcoz if sheliving separately then in laws never get chance to insult disrespect)and if you also want to take stand for your parents then live separately and if your wife says anything then u should also defend And ya divorce ,this situation will never arise if you take the decision of not getting married and ruining a woman's life rather than getting married and throwing her in front of family abuse

[@saumyaagarwal1681]

All 3 have to respect others feelings and not just barge into a couples life. All 3 should be supportive and understanding and not just blindly follow each other

[@azilaazeez6747]

So much of clarity... 😍👌👌👌👌....

[@sujatasahoo6446]

My life is more miserable because he has already 4 ladies in his life including his mother and a married sister and all are controlling and he is controlled. I am helpless. Trying since 4 years but unable to come out. I am left alone like a single. Its very painful when you are married but single, alone, depressed. He simply tortures me emotionally simply to make his mother smile.😭😭😭😢😢. And this action makes him feel like a Hero as he feels as he is the best son and brother in this world. He hates any couple and the relationship.

[@RoamRevel966]

@@ManishaThakur-hm4zk Manisha hope you are fine now

[@anushkc5060]

Every male needs to understand the life cycle the position they are in today can turn tables and be on him . ( being daughters father ) . Instead of becoming hero , inspire mother , sister everyone to be financially independent so they don’t have to expect on him and everyone lives good life being busy . This is the best part about western culture .. freedom of speech with financial independence from young age .

[@SJ-hz8kl]

Why do we have so many narcissist mother in laws in our culture? I think it’s for generations the same cycle happening over and over again, only we can break it by stop Spoiling our sons and make them proper men!!!

[@sonikadutt7656]

My husband gives me equal importance just like you said but he has to suffer a lot for this from his parents

[@mohuachakraborty6661]

U must have done something good in ur past life to get such a husband. Otherwise most of them are their to ruin their wife's life.

[@Greens2be]

Wow I am jealous!

[@mainakmallick1143]

And your husband is not happy mentally to support you. And ladies want such husband, means husband's peace of mind gaya bhaad mein.

[@waytoguidance]

I wish my husband becomes like this too

[@ShreyaSwaraj-g2q]

​@@mainakmallick1143 and people like you want his parents happiness by neglecting wife ... meaning wife gyi bhaad mae..😅