Do women have the choice to wear what the men wear? - Ask Laura!

[@cindiloowhoo1166]

Not everyone is called to go out and evangelize. Sometimes, the best "sermon" one will hear is observing the lives of others. I do not like being "gangstered" on a street corner and have a tract shoved in my face, or try to think of a semi-unhorrible way to tell the people annoying my doorbell (again) to "Get The ~~~"

[@H3arme3r0ar]

Pit bulls are actually really good dogs. If you'd like a dog that doesn't shed much I wouldn't recommend short hair because some short hair breeds shed just as much if not more than long hair. Research low she'd breeds and you'll find some great options. I learned this after getting a 25lb short hair dog and she sheds soooooo much it's INSANE ..I don't understand how she sheds so much without being bald lol

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Wow! Thanks. That's super interesting. 🤩

[@mmmmlllljohn]

Laura, you are a lovely example of a Christian who embodies the Fruits of the Spirit. You are also a great ambassador for the Bruderhof community and for Christ. Your videos are so interesting and informative for Christians and non-Christians alike and your evangelism will show people what the Holy Spirit can do if we believe and listen. I can say that being a Christian in the secular world is challenging and, of course, I fail but your videos are a good reminder of how to be humble and live by the Fruits of the Spirit. ❤️🇨🇦

[@salt1956]

I understand the desire to separate from carnal society, have everything in common, reject worldliness and live a simple life. To be free of financial pressure would be bliss. However, I couldn’t live in a community like this. I like nice things. I like treats. I like being generous. I like financial security. Bruderhof will last as long as it’s income stream is viable. One day the market will tire of wooden toys and kid’s furniture and the community’s income will dry up and will no longer support the whole community.

[@CharCanuck14]

I'm a secular humanist but love Lauras videos. She's intelligent, informative and comes across as someone who you'd like to have as a neighbor or friend.

[@shannonjkeever477]

Same! I only discovered her videos sometime within the last week but so far I have really enjoyed listening to them. She's definitely the type of person I could see having as a friend.

[@Toby3610]

She’s very happy with her life. She is a very level headed and open minded. But she has the ability explain her beliefs in a positive compassionate way. She would make a great friend.

[@Diamondraw4Real]

She is honest and well spoken :)

[@Diamondraw4Real]

@@shannonjkeever477 this is the first video by her, got recommended just today

[@tamarah5523]

As a conservative anabaptist Christian how we dress is a reflection of biblical teachings and we believe our body is holy as it was created by God to give glory to God and to serve God. We try to follow the Bible literally, not a loose interpretation to fit today's societal standards. Society will progress towards a more sinful nature and lawlessness as mentioned in Revelation, and as in the days of Noah. So society may change but God's word, commandments, instruction and the teachings of Christ are Ageless and eternal. The world may change but the Bible will not. Therefore we are in the world but not of it. A people set apart. Deuteronomy 22:5 “A woman shall not wear a man's garment, nor shall a man put on a woman's cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness-with good works. Matthew 5:27-28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart Wearing tight or revealing clothing promotes immortality and sinful thoughts in others and if we truly love and care for our Brethren and their souls we would not want to harm them by causing them to have sinful thoughts. Whether male or female. You might say that's their problem because they cant handle my outward display of sexuality, but what are you trying to gain by dressing that way.... pride of your physique and image which can also lead to self idolatry, lust and desire.. How you dress can affect yours and others sinful temptations. Which is also why we dont show the curves of the body and dress modestly. We also dress similar to promote uniformity, and so that others within our community dont feel less if they don't have what you have or you don't feel like more because you wear fancy brands which could also lead to sinful pride and greed. The 7 deadly sins are pride, greed, lust, envy(do you dress to make people envious of what you have or your body?) gluttony, wrath and sloth. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the heathen who do not know God." 1 John 2: 15-17 Do not love the world or anything in the world, If anyone loves the world(worldliness) the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world and its desires pass away but the man who does the will of God lives forever. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 Pray without ceasing. We are directed to pray continuously and without ceasing. Many disciples/prophets receive prophesy while sleeping or in trance. God is always speaking to us. To honor and give glory to God as described in the above passage a womans head should be covered, it is also a sign of authority of who she serves and honors. 1 Corinthians 11:1-16 Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ. Now I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions even as I delivered them to you. But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, but every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven. If a woman does not cover her head she should have her hair cut off, and if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut or shaved off, she should cover her head. A man ought not to cover his head since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man did not come from woman, but woman from man. (Genesis 2:23); neither was man created for woman but woman for man. For this reason and because of the angels a woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head. In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man so also man is born of a woman. But everything comes from God. Judge for yourselves: Is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head uncovered? Does not the very nature of things teach you that if a man has long hair it is a disgrace to him, but that if a woman has long hair it is her glory? For long hair is given to her as a covering. If anyone wants to be contentious about this, we have no other practice nor do the churches of God. 1 Peter 3:3-5 Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands. Do all to the Glory of God.

[@peachypie2962]

But if jeans are acceptable for men why would they not be acceptable for women?

[@robinsdog1]

When you came up with the idea of a KZbin channel, what was the process that you had to go through within your community. Did you have to submit a proposal of ideas or topics? Or, is this truly your thing and yours alone?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Hi Robin, No process was necessary, except that I had this idea, and got a lot of support, and then “went for it”. I get ideas from all over: comments on the channel, people emailing me or calling… Always lots of input, but it is really mine. Thanks for asking! 😁 Laura

[@jonfluetsch9326]

My understanding of the Sermon on the Mound challenges me to express love to GOD, love to my neighbor and love to myself from the inside out...taking no care for the externals (what we eat, where we live, what we wear, etal,)

[@sue1263]

If it is not too personal why did your grandfather leave the Hutterite community? I have been watching videos by Giselle waldner she is living On a Hutterite community in Canada, I see lots of similarities but the Bruderhofs seem a slightly bit less conservative and less restrictive. For instance it seems as if the Bruderhof members are encouraged to interact with people outside the community more, it also appears that Bruderhof members are allowed more free time to spend time with their families although I do have to say that my experiences with both communities is limited to the videos that you and she provide. It seems like the Bruderhof is more balanced in terms of community, family and devotion, whereas the Hutterites place less value on family time.

[@eo6637]

Are people allowed to study science? Are women allowed to study? Are young people allowed to go away for college? Are people allowed to run a side business?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes to all with a caveat on the last one being that anything you earn goes to the community.

[@eo6637]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof Ok :) You seem like such a nice and warm person

[@AFrugalLifeTheChannel]

You are such a light, it's a joy watching you.

[@youreworthyourweightinavoc7189]

Politely avoiding answering the questions about the internet and clothing, which to me suggests the internet usage is monitored and the dress code is strict. A bit worrying that even answering the questions plainly and honestly is a no go.

[@mairiamdebron1084]

Human Chiming In I heard two full answers to both questions; nothing was covered up.

[@zoetaco7771]

i havent got to the clothes one but i think she answered the internet question completely

[@mica1425]

I agree, some things about this community make noise to me- I googled the bruderhof and found some horrible testimonials.

[@opie32958]

Or on the other hand maybe they're embarrassed to admit they don't monitor Internet usage at all.

[@opie32958]

@@mica1425 Horrible testimonials about any community are a dime a dozen. I find them of little help in understanding a culture.

[@missjopin]

I admire your way of sharing the gospel! Its just with so much love!

[@joetrester3139]

So good to see you again, Laura!! You always put a smile on my face and make me examine my own spiritual life. Thank you for both!

[@rubyray777]

I gotta tell you my pittie mix is adorably sweet! Don't be afraid of them! Don't judge! Give them a chance! Great questions and answers! Great videos! Oh, and short haired dogs? They seem to shed more, crazily!

[@janesmith9024]

She is right about us in the UK - trousers (as pants means your under pants or for girls knickers - in the USA knickers are something else again..... US and UK 2 countries in a sense divided by a common language as they way [but certainly our best friends])

[@LitoGeorge]

As a boy I grew up with pitbull terriers, and with the correct training they make loving, super protective and wonderfully obedient pets that wouldnt hurt a fly (example: a baby taking its food from its mouth) unless commanded to (example: when a man attacked my dad with a screwdriver, and he commanded the dog to sic 'em). Wonderful dogs, loyal to the end and calm and dont shed.

[@whostolemybiscuit2020]

I am not a Christian however I love these videos they are so informative and kind of my guilty pleasure 😂❤️

[@Saramatt2023]

So beautiful!! My daughter and I would love to join. I’m a born again believer raised as a Muslim. Love your videos Laura.:)

[@kristeng5982]

Hilarious Laura, meant to say just hi ( but peoples words can change check carefully they change per typing sounds fitting though cause your laugh is contagious) I have guardianship to my 27 year old son with frontal lobe damage(not by birth or choice just a plain hockey accident) we both would love and come to visit but does mental illness come in the way of joining or visiting even if it was sadly an a event for him which caused this brain damage for him to be this way. Would he be welcomed?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes you would be welcome! So sorry to hear about your son's accident.

[@TimeTraveller2054]

I always love to learn more about your community!

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Thank you!

[@patticoat8573]

I am a non believer - but i do admire how you are being realistic about the Bruderhof giving us insights making it possible to form an opinion based on facts and what you teach/tell us. Making it less ‘secret’ is such a good idea! The whole concept of sharing is caring is not so bad actually. I’m afraid that in the Western, modern, greed driven world this way of living is almost impossible. Maybe in the next century if economy collapses? What would the Bruderhof do if the economy collapses?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

At least we'd have each other!

[@annamacdonald6738]

Hey Laura, thanks for these videos. It’s great to find out about your community and the way you live. It sounds perfect. Sending you and your family loads of blessings. Keep the videos coming - Anna

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Thank you!

[@UnPoquitoDeSal]

What you said about outreach was interesting to hear. So many people rush to 'preach the good news' when they don't have the committed lifestyle that is required of being a disciple of Christ. I figured that you guys getting more into social media was part of trying to reach out more. I am totally with you that living out Christ's teachings really is, or can be, a powerful witness; and it is that love in action which first made an impact in the world through the primitive church and not all their evangelistic efforts as such (even though obviously the word would not have spread without those efforts too!).

[@alif8736]

how would you get a dog?? i thought you had to requiest items, so the dog wouldn't really belong to you??

[@imcurlyblue]

The short hair dogs are the ones that shed a ton. I have a labradoodle he is very fluffy and his hair grows long. You can pull his hair and nothing comes off of him.

[@LitoGeorge]

Labradoodles were created because they dont shed. Honestly you are quite misinformed.

[@bekahsbigtinylife]

I agree with you on so much! I think your point on living out the gospel can be just as evangelical as speaking about it. 👍🏼

[@julianw6604]

Interesting to hear your answer to the first question Laura. We Hutterites also often talk about doing more to proclaim the gospel, and feel like we should be doing more. I’ve always felt that the Bruderhof is doing much better than we are in this regard, so interesting to hear this this is a point of conversation for you guys as well. :)

[@Mindy14]

That didn’t answer the question, if a bruderhof woman wanted to wear trousers or jeans, would that be allowed?

[@AndrewRusherLDS]

The answer would likely be no, the bruderhof seem to be a hardline Christian group.

[@Anie1987]

She did say she wears them for exercise and does wear shorts? So maybe for certain activities, like outdoor work and exercise, they probably are. I've tripped over dresses and skirts before, so I'm sure they'd allow it to prevent injury during certain things. I'm guessing not all the time though. I mean I really like skirts and dresses, but I don't think I could wear them every day.

[@Amelie7477]

Probably not. They have very strong anti-LGBT norms on their website and stress multiple times that there are only men and women in this world. Therefore they will most certainly not allow women to wear masculin clothing. On Afterhof.com you can find blog posts of people who had to leave the community because of such issues.

[@noway325]

She said she wears training clothes for running but in general no the women wear long skirts .

[@abbieg3945]

It’s funny that they don’t allow that . Even other strict religions allow it . Just wear loose jeans and a long shirt 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ktkt9982]

Dear Laura What beautiful and warm videos. Thank you for sharing. 🤗♥️

[@lynnebunning7273]

Enjoying your videos, makes me think of my relationship with God & how I fall short in so many ways. Thank you Lynne Victoria Australia 🇦🇺🐨🙏🏻🌞

[@curtisangelamay1510]

You are a very bright light in this world, and I think a brilliant ambassador for your community. Keep up the good work. But we are waiting to hear about the horse story.

[@kassrripples3659]

I am really enjoying watching all your presentations... I grew up in Australia and moved to USA for a few years to live in 2019 when I was in my mid 40s. I didn’t even really know much about Anabaptists until the past ten years. You are helping to open my world view. I think if I had known about you twenty five years ago I may have considered joining the community.

[@jodyyoung623]

Why would a young girl of 8, 9, 10 years old need to dress modestly?? It's so depressing to see these young girls wearing cumbersome skirts ( please don't tell me they all love skirts! my daughter can't stand dresses or skirts!)

[@yeshuaislord3872]

So because your daughter doesn't like it, all other girls don't or what are you saying 🙄 why are you imposing your views and belittling others? Believe what you want to but don't impose your views sis

[@lucyethel9152]

I've seen a lot of people asking what the Bruderhof thinks about the lgbt+ community, since that question hasn't been answered by Laura herself yet. I did some research on the bruderhof website, and they indeed don't support gay marriage or the lgbt+ community. I'll include the link here: www.bruderhof.com/en/our-faith/foundations/church-actions/marriage

[@noway325]

Are you able to use birth control and who looks after your son when you are working ?

[@KateX1232]

I have watched quite a few of your videos now, and am very touched by what seems to be a loving and supportive community of people. It’s really beautiful. You mention that the social aspect of your community is very important - visiting on weekends, getting together 4-5 nights to eat together, doing chores together, etc. How does it work if you are introvert? I am very introverted and the idea of that much people time makes me feel faint! Is it ok to have alone time? How do you communicate a need for it?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes it's totally ok to have alone time here. All of us need space from time to time, some more than others, and it's important to take it.

[@traceylouisebooth1810]

IF YOU ARE REGISTERED BLIND LIKE ME CAN MY GUIDE DOG COME INTO THE COMMUNITY?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes, it could!

[@barbarathompson8559]

Can women wear blouses , jumpers ?As I like my jumpers.

[@DD-hu3rf]

I mostly only wear skirts & dresses (mostly long) as well, they are super comfortable & feminine, however I don't get why they have to look so old fashioned to be modest?

[@comfortbarenleute364]

yeah! what about caftans and mu mus? African and pacific islander based fashions? very feminine, flowing, can be made out of a variety of materials. no need for a separate shirt and skirt...always long and can be long sleeved. a bit less laundry. i Live in them and love them.

[@ngumlovered7566]

I say living out the gospel is actually a wholelot better than speaking about it. I’ve delt with pastors who spoke about it but they’re actions didn’t match (MULTIPLE cheating scandals with women in the church). Seeing things like really made me question Christianity, bc it happened soo often I just- *sigh* it’s just soo good to see the Bible actually being lived out like this, bc I’ve never seen it before, everything around me has just been men using the Bible to gain power and abuse women and children.

[@emmabown9751]

Wolves in sheep’s clothing. We are warned about this in the Bible. Concentrate on the your relationship with God and Jesus. 😊

[@kfed2580]

Pits are the sweetest dog you could get. We have one who adores our child and us! He is the greatest dog we’ve had.

[@dizzydozdb]

What are the views on divorce. Say if either the husband or wife is abusive would divorce be allowed.

[@cooperfreckles]

Dorothy B great question!

[@johannaragna6197]

I dont think it would be.

[@suzyq8850]

To add to that, I wonder if someone was divorced prior to wanting to become a member would be allowed to join?

[@noway325]

@@suzyq8850 I think they are I know she mentioned single parents join the community.

[@melfros7100]

Dorothy B No divorce is allowed, period. A couple that does not get along, or where there is abuse, will be separated, with one person on one Hof and the other spouse on another. The children typically remain on the mother's Hof. The aim is to bring the couple back together, if that is possible. A divorced person can join the Hof, but cannot re-marry a Hof person, until the (divorced) spouse has died.

[@heatherlynch408]

@Laura I recommend looking for a miniature german schnauzer! short hair, hypoallergenic and minimal shedding, many are very soft, alarm dogs, and have real personalities rather than the common "happy and content" dog, like little loving loyal people. Not only that, but they are incredibly smart. Mine know a number of commands and many words. Just a suggestion but I recommend looking them up! They are the perfect companions.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Thank you!

[@ronansmyth9146]

Hey Laura! What is the Bruderhof's relationship with birth control ?

[@cooperfreckles]

Ronan Smyth a great question I was curious about that also.

[@lolo-gm2sr]

prolly abstinence

[@jackiegilpin]

Probably the family counted method if you are married. Trying to avoid ovulation days.

[@agradinariu]

Hi Ronan, For all Christians children are blessings from God, and we should receive them as such. Why would you want to control the amount of blessings you receive. If you worry about how you will manage if you have 10, 15 children Jesus also tech us that God won’t put any burden on us as heavy so we can’t carry it.

[@melfros7100]

While the Hof encourages parents to see (many) children as a blessing, it is possible for parents to ask for birth control. Parents need to counsel with one of the ministers. From what I know, the minister will ask them if they both can stand before God with a clear conscience on judgment day. If they can, they may use b-c. Hutterites clearly are also using various means of b-c. Whereas families with 10 or more children were common decades ago, they are much smaller nowadays.

[@kellyslittleonesnursey]

I love my one skirt I've got that's exactly very confordible and light weight as well as some of my dresses

[@kitcat1272]

With no possessions, do your people have photos and/or videos of your children?

[@kimmyr4280]

How would one go about possibly joining the Bruderhof? I really resonate with the lifestyle and community aspect of the group - I just don’t think my free spirit matches up to the strict rules! But your love and admiration to God is truly inspiring and I feel called to learn more about you, your people and your mission. Love your energy, your positivity and feel grateful to have found your videos! God bless you Laura ☺️

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

You could visit. Or do a virtual visit: www.bruderhof.com/en/visit-us

[@kelistratton5067]

So in the US you guys use social Media and tv? I’m enjoying all this it’s new to me, I love it

[@amypearsall]

Do you (women) have to wear the collared button up shirts, or can you wear 'pull-over' shirts that are v-neck or round neck? Seems non-button blouses could be just as modest as button up.

[@SomeoneBeginingWithI]

Yes I was thinking that too. I don't like low cut tops but I find higher neck t-shirts more comfortable than buttoned shirts, it seems like that kind of thing could just be a personal preference thing because they are similarly modest.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

There are a lot of ways to be modest, this is just what we've come up with at the moment. Don't read too much into it! Just being practical.

[@amypearsall]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof Thank you for replying! I can also see how it would be easier to have one basic style shirt, in different colors, when distributing clothing.

[@embr4065]

I am a new viewer but from what I have watched so far I really appreciate your answers and teachings on the Bible and Christianity. Have you ever thought of doing your own Bible study for women here on KZbin? I for one would love it!

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

That's a thought!

[@John-FourteenSix]

It’s great to see you share your faith in Jesus on KZbin!

[@KellySaya1]

Long haired dogs shed the same amount of hairs like short haired do. I heard the Lhasa Apso or a Poodle don’t shed hairs. There must be more dogs that don’t shed too. There are also dogs that just shed less. But the thing is with the Poodle or Lhasa Apso, the hairs keep on growing so you have to trim them every few weeks. But you just have to look into this yourself once you do decide to get a dog.

[@jossgower]

Laura is always so smiley :D been watching some older video's and you still the same :D

[@therobertsuk8498]

I am interested in the people moving from one site/ country to another. If you were born in the UK, and didn’t want to move to the USA, could you refuse? Are you moved simply to refresh the gene pool for the younger generation? And how often are people moved? I would imagine that could be quite traumatic for some. Loving your videos, I grew up between two faiths and ended up not choosing either. I’ve been married for 30+ years to my hubby, and very happy. I believe you can be a good person and have good morals, whatever your belief system.

[@mindimoom9142]

Except that none of us can ever be a good enough person to get to heaven. It is only through Jesus' saving grace that we are reconciled to God and saved. Otherwise Jesus came and died for nothing.

[@capyboppy]

Mindimoo M that wasn’t the question. The question was about people having to be moved!

[@mindimoom9142]

@@capyboppy as I am not a part of the Bruderhof I can't really answer the question. However, with regard to the OP's final comment, as a Christian I can speak the truth as was given to us by our Lord and Savior, namely that Jesus is the only way by which anyone will be saved. A person's salvation is far more important than being politically correct and so I commented. Jesus spoke of hell as a very real place and that many would be going there. This was the whole point of His sacrifice on the cross, He took the punishment that we sinners deserve. For those who put their faith in Him there is no condemnation. God bless.

[@capyboppy]

Mindimoo M I am not going to argue with you as this is not the place, nor is it my way. I have ‘done’ the happy clappy ‘Born again’ route and found out the scripture ‘By their fruits they shall be known’ very true indeed. I am very happy and much more fulfilled by having gone back to my Jewish roots thank you. I don’t need an intermediary as I know HaShem hears me when I go direct. If truth be known and accepted; non of us however much we believe in our own faith can’t say ours is the one true faith even if that’s what we believe; we just don’t know until we die. However, I still wish you well. Shavua tov v’ Baruch HaShem.

[@mindimoom9142]

@@capyboppy have you seen the YT channel called One For Israel?

[@saranolling2286]

Hi laura i wounder why you stoped wearing a headcouvering in your videos. I mean for me it is nice to see that there might be a change in the bruderhof, giving more freedom for the women to decide by themselves... also Doreen in the Videos with Rich has no since some weeks. Can you explain if there are new rules now at the bruderhof according to headcouverings or is it just in public settings in order to not confuse the viewers too much? Thank you for answering!

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Hi Sara I'll address that in a video soon.

[@deborahgate965]

I love your sense of humor 😀

[@thekawaiicripple]

You mentioned a joke about hogwarts, made me wonder is there restriction on the things you can read, watch, music etc. ? Like for example (I know it’s completely different) but Jehovah’s witnesses aren’t allowed to read or watch or listen to anything that has to do with magic or things of that sort.

[@stephaniescott7809]

As a kid I went to a large Baptist church for awhile (despite being Anglican) and I remember one day the preacher standing in front of the crowd of hundreds of children, holding a copy of Prisoner of Azkaban in her hands, and telling us that we would go to hell if we read it. I always thought that was nonsense, so find it very interesting if HP is allowed in the Bruderhof!

[@swampophelia2098]

Well it’s not evangelical if you are only proclaiming the good news to each in a closed community

[@rrjohn5]

It appears that religious beliefs of Amish vastly differ from Bruderhof. Amish do not allow the people to have a bible in English, or sing English language songs just to name a few differences. Plus, if you leave the Amish, you are excommunicated. Bruderhof seem to bless people on their journey from the group. Correct me if i'm wrong.

[@capyboppy]

R Johnson unfortunately in the past there have been claims of abuse and excommunication. Not one offs either. It could be that in present times the Bruderhof have acknowledged this and have taken measures to stop it ever happening again. I would like to think so. The weekend myself and my family spent with them although very tiring was also pleasant and enlightening. It did go through my head it would be a wonderful way of life to consider joining. There were some issues though that made us hesitate. One was that my daughter had the chance of a scholarship to a private boarding school; when I mentioned this it was made clear if a family made a commitment to join the community that this wouldn’t be an option for our daughter to accept.

[@emmib1388]

consider -- she is not going to talk poorly about other on the internet !

[@ellenmorrison5614]

I love your videos. Is it possible to visit a bruderhof community and stay there.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes

[@ellenmorrison5614]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof thank you

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

It would be great to meet you some day!

[@suebillingham8181]

I appreciate your approach to evangelism. We need to " be" Christians & live the Christian life. Who we are speaks more than what we say! Gid bless you

[@debm3716]

Sue Billingham I’ve made a comment on Laura’s post about the gospel and would be interested to know your thoughts on the gospel and how you would explain it to someone who doesn’t know it. Jesus told His disciples to go out into all the world and preach the gospel. The bible says how can they hear if no one tells them. I agree as Christians we need to live a life that brings glory to God, but how does someone who does not know Jesus know how to avoid going to hell if no one tells them? How can they know there is a heaven and hell if they don’t currently believe that? How do people know the way to heaven by looking at your life? How long does it take? Are we just to impact the people who know us? Christ calls us to tell people the good news. I do this and it isn’t about doing it in an aggressive way but having a conversation with people, and not just people I know but strangers as well (which is sometimes easier). God bless ✝️

[@AlmaMariaRinasz]

regarding the pants question, those women who dont want to wear them (skirts) can just wear pants? or are they pressured by the community to wear skirts? it seems like such an odd thing to focus on - insisting women wear skirts and not whatever they like.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

I think simplicity and modesty are really important. If wearing pants or clothes other than skirts was that big a deal to me I wouldn't have joined the Bruderhof. I don't think what you wear is important but I think it is important to be simple and modest. At this point Bruderhof women wear skirts so it is what it is.

[@AlmaMariaRinasz]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof is there something not modest about pants? and if so, why are men wearing them? I would like to understand, if a woman would like to join and wears only pants will she be turned away? I just dont get how pants are any less modest on a woman than on a man. and in that case, should not men wear skirts as well?

[@stephaniehenderson6631]

@@AlmaMariaRinasz I am not in the community, but one thing I have noticed is that young men in the regular society have started wearing more clingy sports style tops or taking selfies with their tops off, showing their muscular form and six pack torso. You never used to see the likes of John Wayne, Clint Eastwood or Paul Newman doing that all the time. I think that is the male version of immodesty today i.e. emphasising the curves of the body to make yourself sexually appealing. I don't see the Bruderhof men doing this.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

No I think pants can be perfectly modest. People get upset about the apparent disparity between what the men and the women wear but honestly what the men wear is really simple and like Chris will wear the same jeans and t-shirts year after year. What he wears probably ends up costing less than what I wear.

[@nicolerymercox]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof All the more reason to let women wear trousers then. :) More economical. Plus, women wouldn't need alternate clothing for exercising. Seems pretty practical.

[@thehiddenhaven5486]

Do you all believe Christ is still to return or has already returned in AD70? Another question I have is, does the bruderhof believe in God’s sovereignty and that God chooses who he will save (Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved. Ephesians 1:3-6 KJV) or do you all believe we choose to be saved? Or Maybe these are things that are believed differently by each family. Thanks for your answers.

[@isobelamber9785]

Can members marry non members? Can one spouse convert and stay married to a non member?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

If you are a member you would only marry another member. If only one member of a couple wanted to join, we would try to find a way to make that work (has definitely happened).

[@michellenye101]

I have a pit bull she is the sweatest. Dog are like children you just have to raise them right.My mom was scared of pits.as well until a year ago i begged her to get one and she fell in love with Izzy(my pit.)

[@opie32958]

How does a person pursue individual hobbies when there is no personal property? For instance what if someone wanted to invest a couple of thousand dollars in being a photographer?

[@capyboppy]

Steve Griffin from what I recall when visiting and staying; if there is a good enough reason for you to have equipment you can, but you are also expected to share. So if you joined with a load of photography equipment, and there were other interested keen photographers, you would have to allow them to use your equipment.

[@opie32958]

@@capyboppy And if you embrace a new avocation after joining how would you go about purchasing tools/materials for that avocation if private property is not allowed?

[@capyboppy]

Steve Griffin you have to ‘apply’ for any tools/equipment that may be needed and they would be given if is is seen as fit for the purpose. When we spent the weekend there, the hosts had a portable radio cassette player. They explained they would use it for around 3 weeks I think it was, then another member or family would have use of it and so on. I should imagine though if more than one person needed tools/equipment they would be provided and allowed their own as it would be for the benefit of the community. It would not make sense say for example to have to keep going and asking to borrow tools if you were say a plumber.

[@branalobeee3867]

What happens if you want to get a divorce? Is it allowed? And what happens to the children?

[@wendynamisnik11]

How does gender affect decision making? Who decides when people move or what they do, etc? Do women comprise half the decision making bodies? Or is there a mandate that only men serve in leadership positions? Do women use birth control if they don't want kids?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

This might help answer your question: www.bruderhof.com/en/our-faith/foundations/church-order/making-decisions

[@c.r701]

I just found your videos and they are just lovely. As a mom I thought the same about pits but now I have 2 both female's and they are truly so loving and really good with all the little ones.

[@justmydeals]

Sure they are... until they're minute they're not and one of your kids is dead. I'd reconsider those animals if you don't want to live the rest of your life with crippling guilt.

[@seheabol]

Many short hair dogs shed way worse than long hair dogs. If you want a very light shedder, try a poodle breed or Lhasa apso. We had a short hair corgi and God bless him, he was a SUPER SHEDDER. 😆 we have long hair pups but keep them cut short.

[@audrah1640]

Does anyone else hear an accent when she speaks?

[@BeezEaze]

Everyone has an accent.

[@lovesanimalshatesrats6339]

Britt Easley no she means another mild accent alongside her American accent. Like when she said “ultimately”.

[@BeezEaze]

Dappadonna G Ah, well it’s from German decent. So perhaps that’s what she hears. I’m Canadian and hear a New England American accent and maybe really deluded German.

[@lovesanimalshatesrats6339]

Britt Easley I’m Canadian too big up yourself 🙌

[@romrom920]

It sounds very similar to Pennsylvania Dutch, just like the Amish.

[@luvmusic540]

How can you justify wearing shorts or sweatpants to run? Isn’t it important to be modest at all times? Or are you running where there is no chance that no one can see you? What do you wear to swim in? Do you swim with anyone other than family?

[@cdcollins9226]

Sweatpants are modest. She didn’t say tights.

[@luvmusic540]

@@cdcollins9226 As a fellow skirt-wearer, I’m curious as to her point of view. Check out Deut 22:5

[@katedevoe2584]

“This isn’t hogwarts” GIRL THE SASS HAHAHA 😂

[@charlotteschweder257]

Hey thank you for sharing your way of life :) as with the current situation with covid 19, I was wondering how or if it has changed your day to day life and how you are coping :)

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yup we're living with it like everyone else masks and all and we don't do as much together as we're used to. Hoping with everyone that it's over some day soon!

[@laurasibley8892]

Hi Laura While you gave an opinion regarding wearing skirts, that didn't answer the question. Can women who prefer them wear trousers? Yes or no?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Women at the Bruderhof wear skirts because it's simple and modest which is how we want to be. I'm sure you can also be simple and modest wearing pants or whatever but at this point skirts is what we wear and we're happy with them.

[@nicolerymercox]

Seems that she is saying "no." If skirts are "simple and modest," then the boys should also wear them. And "just because it's how we've always done things" is not sound reasoning. It justifies complacency. Jesus wasn't cool with the religious culture he was born in to "just because it's how they'd always done things." Quite the opposite.

[@justmydeals]

@@nicolerymercox Boys don't need to be simple and modest. This is religion. Religion is ALWAYS about subjugating women, not men.

[@jeansaben9954]

you are so genuine

[@WeeFreeGinny]

Hi Laura! I would like to know: Can/do people from the Bruderhof entertain friendships with "outsiders"? Maybe even folks who aren't Christians?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes absolutely. I have many friends who aren't from the Bruderhof and of different faiths or no faith at all.

[@els1f]

Content filters?!😨 this is the first thing that made me feel confused 😄

[@emmib1388]

just like when you go to a public library or school -- you can't access porn sites or similar...

[@taryneadie8757]

How does the community feel about the LGBTQ+ community? Can gay/trans people live in your community openly and with their chosen partners?

[@johannaragna6197]

Definitely not.

[@feggsythegumel2240]

There is a BBC documentary in which they say that members of the LGBTQ+ community can not become members of the Bruderhof-community

[@Vintagebeliever]

Why is this always asked? She has answered it so many times.

[@justmydeals]

@@Vintagebeliever She shouldn't even need to answer it. They're old-school, conservative Christians. There's no way they accept LGBTQ+ of any kind. (I don't agree with that, but it's been asked to death.)

[@TheLeakyTeaPot]

You should look up the history of Pit bulls, they were actually used as nanny dogs for children at one point in history! They have one of the best temperaments for family dogs. I have a pit bull that grew up with children, cats, and people of all kinds, he’s the biggest love bug you could meet. Even if the breed isn’t for you, you shouldn’t be afraid of pit bulls inherently - they’re no different than any other big breed 🙂

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Really interesting. Thanks!

[@agnieszkajohn6408]

pit bulls are amazing dogs

[@simplyivyvine2617]

Don’t be afraid of pitbulls! Pitbulls are known to be lovable, clumsy and friendly. They’ve really gotten a bad reputation, when really the only bad thing about them is that they can be prone to anxiety. So they need to be socialized. I’m sure that wouldn’t be hard with other animals and people running around the community. My profile picture is actually my Pitbull mix. His name is Kamo and he’s a service dog. Friendliest dog you’ll ever meet. (See his smile? 😂)

[@snailey0bailey]

Hi Laura, thank you for all your lovely videos! I’m curious if the Bruderhof ever gather together between communities, almost like a Bruderhof convention? I know it sounds so silly but I don’t have a better word to describe the sea of scarves and skirts I’m imagining 😄 similarly, is there ever a time when a community would travel as a group somewhere? Do Bruderhof members travel much at all for enjoyment and enrichment? All the best 💛

[@kerryfatima548]

How are children raised and disiplined in your community? Do you agree with physical punishment?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

I don't believe in corporal punishment and our community does not either.

[@kerryfatima548]

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof but in bible it says spare the rod spoil the child? How does that work in your community? I am only asking as curious as i did a phycology degree and child raising in diffrent religions and really intrested in what you believe regarding it

[@vanneway4892]

Get a pit as a puppy, try to rescue. The most faithful, loyal animal ever. Also, the most protective. Bad people make bad pit bulls.

[@anyasuter418]

If you look at the life of Jesus though, he lived in the situations alongside the unbelievers. He walked in the streets. He just went about his life & stopped whenever there was a moment to display the goodness of God

[@Laurasyt]

So are women allowed to wear trousers or not, for day to day life? You mentioned for workouts but seemed to gloss over the actual question!

[@lugia31296]

I have a short hair dog and he leaves hair everywhere! I think long haired dogs shed more in clumps, Might be easier to clean.

[@naturelover6520]

Would you ever consider going on holidays outside the community? Like taking a holiday abroad.. would this be allowed in the community?

[@justme-dee6888]

Hi Laura! I'm a new subscriber and am quite fascinated learning about the bruderhof! Thanks so much for making all these videos and answering so many questions. Can you please tell me what The bruderhof believe is required for salvation? Thanks so much!

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Thank you for subscribing! I'll answer that question in a video.

[@hearsthewater]

Oh, please don't be frightened by pit bull dogs. They have gotten such a bad reputation because of the vile dog fighters. Like all breeds of dogs, pit bulls can be trained to be well behaved or vicious. I've had pit bulls and they were gentle as could be with my children, but also very protective of them with strangers because we didn't socialize them with anyone outside our family. If I ever have another pit bull, I won't make that mistake again.

[@cooperfreckles]

hearsthewater my one grand dog is a beautiful brindle pittbull. We all love that clumsy naughty brave cute as heck pittbull. She lives on a farm does not chase the chickens or bother the cows. She at 3 harasses her very much older 12 yrold black lab brother of hers. It is just play nothing more. Pittbulls are wonderful pets but most are very very active. Callie has torn a muscle in her lower leg costing 4,000 for a repair. I wonder how the bruderhof pay for vet visits for their pets?

[@christineconroy6409]

Hi Laura, do you believe we are living in the end times. With everything that is going on in the world today it's frightening.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Sure feels like it sometimes but only God knows

[@amycarlsen6466]

I notice that in some videos you are wearing a scarf on your head and sometimes not. Is there as specific reason for this? Does the scarf have meaning to the Bruderhof? Thanks for these videos!

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

I need to do a video soon on the head covering. Will get to it...

[@georginemurphy8316]

Hi, I run a dog rescue and sanctuary. When you do decide to give a dog a home, could you come to us? I’d love to visit you, but I’m here 365 days a year, so you coming here would be twice as nice . We are at the California and Oregon boarder, a really beautiful place. Thanks Georgine, That Place Called Home Dog Rescue.

[@gretacoutts5341]

Hi Laura. I recently found your channel and enjoy learning about your community and lifestyle. I do have a question. Are married couples able to adopt children? I was just curiuos. Hope you are well. Thanks.

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes that does happen. Thanks for asking!

[@hopscotch6018]

are pets considered part of an individual family or part of the community as a whole? What about buying food and toys for them is that a collective purchase?

[@elliewellie3979]

Hi Laura, would a gay person have to leave the Buderhof community?

[@mrpaupie]

Good question. I was just going to ask the same thing.

[@torijanebright]

Yes in the BBC documentary it's mentioned same sex relationships are banned. Not sure if the person would be shunned or if they would be forced into conversion therapy if they wished to stay. (Not that that works)

[@AdamDavid]

@@lyndacooke3367 honestly it's not an outdated view of the world it is a misrepresentation of the teachings in the bible. It stems from patriarchalism.. Jesus himself Healed the gay lover of a Roman warrior... so if Jesus had absolutely no issue with homosexuality then I don't understand how they can profess to be followers of Jesus Christ when they ignore some of his teachings.

[@jadenorris494]

I can’t stop watching Laura I love it she is so real🙂 it’s funny because I have never seen or heard of these people before and amish people I’ve only ever seen on tv, I find this living so interesting and humble and wondering if Buderhof is in every country in the world because I’ve seen nothing like it in Australia.

[@capyboppy]

Jade Norris yes,there is a community in Australia. It is Danthonia in New South Wales. Have a look at their website. www.bruderhof.com

[@katesutherland6088]

Hello, Laura, does the Bruderhof accept senior citizens as new members?

[@LaurafromtheBruderhof]

Yes

[@Chrstnrchrdsn]

Evangelism starts at home, when you send your children out into the world, they are fine examples. This video is a fine example, Knocking on doors to preach is annoying and sanctimonious. LIVE YOUR LIFE AS AN EXAMPLE