Do You Feel Pressure To Exclusively Date African-American Men? | Listen To Black Women

In this episode, we're asking the question: why aren't we dating in the Black diaspora?
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[@gm8418]

I'm an Ethiopian man and my wife is African American. We have two beautiful children and we recently came back from a 2 month vacation to Ethiopia. We own a home there too. Both of our children are tri-lingual. We both are high income earners and enjoy our life. Expand your options.

[@bandogeorgia6436]

@JudahBenLevi Apocrypha tobit 4:12 is that new testament or old testament.i think that's old testament

[@bandogeorgia6436]

@JudahBenLevi that scripture is in the old testament Apocrypha tobit 4:12 I can tell you study old testament you probably doing sacrifices like they did in old testament too.new testament things change after Christ.

[@spinmaster6995]

G M I see you opening up Ethiopian men’s dating pools even more. 👀

[@Foggy_Mustard]

Marrying an American Women is not expanding your options. Whatever is best for you 👍

[@BBPKID]

Let one of us talk to a Ethiopian woman it will be nothing but booty hurt Ethiopian men come running their mouth.

[@sweetstorm7652]

I’m a black woman, I don’t limit myself to one race. Great men come in all races.

[@cerromeceo]

Ah shit here come the all race crap

[@clarkf1954]

@@cerromeceo did you watch it?

[@coreythomas3633]

Stormey Danielz I mean that ok I only date black women because they relate my struggle more

[@clarkf1954]

corey thomas no one ask you shit

[@coreythomas3633]

@@clarkf1954 Lol truth hurts

[@godbear2930]

More black women need to start doing this cause black men have been doing this from the start. Date whomever you want.

[@godbear2930]

@Breathmedia Breathmedia I said more not all since some of them get upset when they see a brother dating someone else but go off I guess 😂

[@godbear2930]

@Nun yaaa I've seen plenty of white dudes getting sued for child support especially in divorce court don't front. 😂

[@godbear2930]

@Nun yaaa Prove it

[@godbear2930]

@Nun yaaa Your anecdotal stories are not proof of anything. Links to *credible* sources or GTFO Karen.

[@godbear2930]

@oh nigga you gay She wants people on the internet to think she lives a lavish lifestyle in order to both win an argument and flex on her haters. No one is buying her bullshit though.

[@KISHEEME]

I used to exclusively date American black men. I have felt guilty about even thinking about dating anyone else I'm over it now. I will be dating all other races.

[@TheBlackManMythLegend]

Good hapiness to yall ladies even if it's not with black men. sincerely

[@blackwomenhavenofriends8319]

@Ever Gorgeous Yassss

[@supr4rce]

K1ngK0bra Black people that think they’ve hit the jackpot by dating outside their race don’t understand the history of interracial marriages. Because this show only tackles surface level issues I won’t bother getting too deep because I’ll just be deemed as crazy. But as black men we ultimately caused this new-aged liberal minded black woman that’s causing the flood gates of black women to date “whatever”. I would never date a black woman with that type of mentality because it’s lack of racial self-worth and carelessness about preserving culture and history. We’ve given up enough of ourselves as black people and now we’ve been taught the lie that we are all the same and everybody’s falling for it! American isn’t a race it’s a giant social experiment to erase black history and knowledge from our understanding. We already have European slave names and take part in European culture and now we don’t even want to be “black” anymore. Last black history month was downplayed by the media and these new-aged black people probably didn’t even notice. By next year (2019) February you might be lucky to see any and if you do it’s the same old MLK, Rosa Parks, Thurgoode Marshall (“good” Christians) broken record followed by a commercial with an interracial couple. Now every commercial and advertisement is focused on presenting interracial couples as the new family image. Fine, but what’s happening in those relationships? Are the children learning about African history or just more European culture disguised as all-inclusiveness? See, I’m going too deep....! Lol.

[@treroney4720]

Travel and explore different people. Best decision I ever made

[@niceforwhat9330]

@Ever Gorgeous *My brothers are all black an dtheir white and latina girlfriends treat them better than any black women they've been with...only 1/5 brother dates blakc and he got the worst relationship.*

[@idontknow-ms8mc]

As a black woman, I definitely don't feel pressured to date only within my race. It's not even my first preference.

[@Jumpman-305]

Kayohem 2 That's Ok. No hurt here.

[@EricTitansSmith]

@@Jumpman-305 but imagine if a black man said this. Straight chaos

[@Iwillroastthesocksoffyoass]

You want a cookie

[@coreythomas3633]

Your fucking stupid BEING loyal to your race matters

[@sheilaorangd1967]

Stella Got Her Groove on but the man that she married and she bought back from Jamaica he was gay how you going to know the man was gay either he gay or bisexual I don't know but she went off saying years back after she was writing another book that they had broke up they were seeing each other off and on but he was gay or either he was bisexual so you women do not know the world you are still quite young and I'm a little bit older than you I know men and I don't think a lot of you really know them down to the bone and I love him but I know them

[@cupcake1065]

The Haitian lady is absolutely stunning. Inspired for my next look.

[@tstar5944]

She is gorgeous. It was the lady in blue that inspired my style...just without the low-cut dress.

[@petestreet7535]

The host is waaay better looking.

[@scooby1992]

@@tstar5944 All four women are beautiful , but I agree about the lady in blue except I love the low cut dress , but I am a guy !

[@sharronking]

There is no pressure, i'm just attracted to black men. Black men are beautiful, and i think that wanting to be with someone that looks like you should become villainized. I feel like the narrative that black men don't want black women is presented way too much in media. I know plenty of black men that loves and cherishes black women, i'm married to one.

[@juniorninjaman865]

It’s presented too much and it’s false, you see it everywhere, but once they show one black celebrity with a white female, the media with paid advertisement will show it a hundred times with a little negative caption just to continue this ongoing gender war between us, a lot of black people still don’t realize this

[@Bajannubian095]

Sharron King wow u seem to be the only black woman here with common sense

[@princeok12]

@Bri - What are the age ranges of your statistic? Likely 18 -34 which would explain much of why that number is so low.

[@user-pp9df6ml6i]

My hero T’CHALLA Translation: women that aren’t attracted to black men don’t have common sense.

[@AP-vo2mp]

This post is like a relic of the past. Once upon a time before the black manosphere came to KZbin... I am sure many women believed what you said. You're lucky, but I think it is clear as day that a majority of black American men are showing their disdain for black women. Black women are tired and we just want to be appreciated by someone.

[@quoteme.goddess6957]

Chiiiild....I like MEN. (Periodt. Periodt)

[@sadeeqali8068]

fantastic reply

[@idkijs435]

I'm a black man. I care about my women being taken care of and being happy. It takes a certain type of women to date a non black man I REALLY wish they would be open to it. It's important to support our good black men, but you do NOT have any reason to feel like you have to save a man with your love. You should only offer your love to a man can reciprocate it, regardless of what his race is. Allow a man to truly appreciate your beautiful brown skin.

[@breannanouveaux5132]

How do black women make life so complicated? These men have LONG LOOK PAST black women. How do you stay tied down to a dream?

[@kitsontuli2713]

exactly!

[@tianamiller6820]

Louder for the ppl in the back! These convos are never had amongst men. Why? Because bm are and have always been open to being with any and other race whilst bw continue to beg for their love and approval. Bw can do so much better han limiting themselves to a group of men that dont care about them.

[@kitsontuli2713]

+Tianna Miller slower for those in the front

[@breannanouveaux5132]

Tianna Miller they keep trying to get with black males and males of color. Those men are looking for WHITE WOMEN. Bw need to stop behaving so pathetic. Men talk about women. If you have to talk about men in public, you already lost. They chase YOU!

[@ariesruehl8856]

Tianna Miller BRAVO, so nice to see black women not taking this sexist one sided BS

[@candacedawn357]

Why aren't black women dating out period (white, Asian, Hispanic, etc.)?! I'm personally attracted to white men (always have), and Hispanic too!

[@fabbeyonddadancer]

Women want to be pursued . Men seek and chase women thus Eurasian men (european and Asian and other men of Eurasian ancestry ) would have to seek black women . Eurasian men don't seek out black women in a significant number because they seek out their women more. so it's not that black women aren't dating Eurasian men but Eurasian men don't pursue and seek black women in significant numbers.

[@jeromepowell9245]

You want a man who looks like the Jesus you worship.

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@@jeromepowell9245 jesus doesn't have a color

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@Catspaw no I'm fine

[@kimberlydill8059]

@Cal Grier you mad she doesn't want you!

[@meg1gs]

Just came to see how many of you are letting trolls and bots in the comment section increase your hatred for your own people.😢😢😢

[@nicolesonatural5743]

I love black men and I'm with my sis Africa on this one My Hubby is from West Africa and all of the things she said is true he speaks about 5 different languages, well traveled, well mannered, driven, and that duel citizenship will come in hand also lol

[@artisticagi]

Apollo Mayaimi sooooo black men and African men don’t have the same genetics?

[@nikhefe16]

@@artisticagi They are different culturally!

[@benjaminsmith2287]

@@artisticagi Africans have very different genetics from one another. Sure, African Americans have some genetics of a specific group of Africans or mix of Africans. This whole idea of race is a European construct we're buying into. Black Africans just have so much more diversity in our genes than do people of other lands. This whole idea of our own kind and race isn't really African, it's European. We're mixing tribes/ethnicities of diverse Africans.

[@benjaminsmith2287]

@@nikhefe16 Of course. Caribbean people are quite different as well. I have Caribbean family on one side and African American on the other side. They're very different.

[@marishajames3581]

@@artisticagi lol not at all.

[@ske7568]

I’m Caribbean. I was open to men in all races. No preference. Married going on 11 years to a white European. 3 kids. Moved to Europe to be with my hubby. Very happy!

[@jayw4368]

Wait.. what? I've never heard of this. I've never met a black woman who wouldn't date a Jamacian or Haitian or African man.. this is reach..Black is black.

[@assaa5069]

Jada Walton she said Black American women feeling pressure to stay within the culture.

[@gatestimonymiracle1302]

I know many women who avoid Jamaican man

[@babsjob8729]

Am African man but I genuinely don’t care who she dates.

[@sexyrose93]

1. Kerry Washington - Mother is Jamaican & Dad is African American. 2. AZ (Rapper) - Mother is African-American & Dad is Dominican. 3. Brick & Lace - Mother is African American & Dad is Jamaican. 4. Syia - Mother is Puerto Rican & Dad is African-American. 5. Roxie Roker - Mother is African American & Dad is Bahamian. 6. Malcolm X - Grenadian & Dad is African-American. 7. Nipsey Hussle - Mother is African-American & Dad is Eritrean. 8. Tiffany Haddish - Mother is African American & Dad is Eritrean. 9. ASAP Rocky - Mother is African-American & Dad is Bahamian. 10. N.O.R.E - Mother is African-American & Dad is Puerto Rican. 11. Chino XL - Mother is African-American & Dad is Puerto Rican. 12. Victor Cruz - Mother is Puerto Rican & Dad is African-American. 13. Carmelo Anthony - Mother is African-American & Dad is Puerto Rican. 14. Teyana Taylor African-American & Trinidadian.

[@MrThekidisback]

sexyrose93 word at the end of the day we are all black.

[@MrThekidisback]

Different cultures don't mean different race. American Blacks are GREAT! See how different you are when them cops show up. @Catspaw

[@BlueYellowGreenVc]

@Catspaw But we're all still black

[@trinellebartholomew3208]

@Kriss "the West Indian immigrant has played a significant role in AfroAmerican life since the 18th century. For example, in 1775 Prince Hall, a native of Barbados living in Boston, established the first Negro Masonic Order in the American colonies.' During the American Revolution, George Lick left Savannah, Georgia and settled in Jamaica where he Lecture presented at Five College Black Studies Seminar, Hampshire College, October28, 1981. 1 established the first black Baptist church. 2 In the period immediately following the American Revolution, North and South Carolina found it undesirable to have liberty-conscious blacks from the West Indies inheir midst. 3 It is indeed noteworthy that of the first two AfroAmericans to gain a college education in 1826, one, John Brown Russwurm, was from Jamaica. It was Russwurm who co-founded the first Afro-American newspaper, Freedom's Journal, in 1827, a year after his graduation from Bowdoin College. Less known but certainly as important as Russwurm is Robert Brown Elliot, born of West Indian parents in Boston in 1842 and educated in Jamaica and England. Elected to the South Carolina Legislature in 1868, he rose to Attorney General of that state in 1876. A distinguished lawyer and gifted speaker, he served two terms in the U.S. Congress during Reconstruction. 4 The importance of Edward Wilmot Blyden is not well understood either. Although he lived in the United States only a few months in 1850, his influence on black Americans was more than minimal. In 1862, he visited the United States as a "Back to Africa" ambassador, and his exhortations had a direct effect on the Back to Africa efforts of Bishop Henry McNeal Turner between 1880 and 1915." Walter: West Indian Immigrants: Those Arrogant Bastards Published by ScholarWorks@UMass Amherst, 1981 18 John C. Walter

[@trinellebartholomew3208]

@Kriss Black immigrates have historically contributed to the black cause in the US from the beginning of our immigration. When History is being taught we are left out or just identified as black and no background is given to black immigrants. So to someone who's not reading literature about or that includes black revolutionary immigrates in the US you would not know about them. Neither black people who fight for the rights of black people outside of the US

[@cocobunny5744]

I'm a black woman in America and I'm from Kentucky . I DATE mostly Caribbean men and African men I love how they make me feel vs Black men in America .Most of them are focused and driven i love there drive and confidence. They are more responsible and focused on family

[@WatchYourMouth97]

Okay, lmfao have fun'

[@bluejay9968]

Same with non BLACK AMERICAN women. Next.

[@marilynwillett804]

only 30% are focused on their family.

[@teddygirl1987]

I’ve had bad experiences in dating African men, it seemed like they didn’t understand racism in America and they almost acted as if it didn’t exist and that was a big disconnect in communication between them and myself.

[@TheDanster4]

This is exactly why I'm a little skeptical with dating African men, but I know I shouldn't assume/generalize.

[@teddygirl1987]

StarfleetOfficer Danielle I tried to keep an open mind but tbh even the sex was way more mediocre than an mediocre African American man, it was almost like I had to direct the whole time. The only thing I can say is they don’t mind spoiling you.

[@soraya.e5482]

Clark F never heard of that lols... That sounds crazy there is no proof

[@tianamiller6820]

As an african girl living in London i can tell you for free that african guys can be just as sexist, ignornat and misogystic towards women as much as you say afr-ameri men are. They arent anything to brag about😂

[@Monaedeezy]

dominique roberts I agree. Honestly, some try to make it as if it’s only a black American victim complex, until they actually get ticketed on petty charges.

[@LynAllure]

Great conversation!... But is my sis in the blue going to drop that skincare routine orrrr...

[@mb5857]

Wash. Exfoliate. Moisterize. Repeat. ....Is it that complicated?

[@zeeb116]

Yassss ladies! Let's encourage inter diaspora dating! Lmao there's nothing more inclusive than discovering similarities between two cultures yet learning from differences💕. While you're experiencing another culture it becomes the most gentle way of opening your perspective

[@Jumpman-305]

Miss Klass You have problems lady. Black people have a marriage issue not a dating issue. And more so society has made marriage look bad. The facts are 29 % of blacks get married 32 % BM and 26% BW of that 85 % of BM marries BW. That still doesn't take into count the other black relationships out there.

[@coreythomas3633]

You fine

[@jj51424]

No. Stick with your own men. Or date and marry men of other races. The rest of us in the diaspora do not want you. Under no circumstances will the average diasporan put Black American women before our own.

[@theresag1969]

Every black women should practice hypergamy and hold back the cookies if you don't get what you want.

[@EmmaEtakaAko]

1969Vanessa What is hypergamy?

[@KariFromYoutube]

1969Vanessa G this is all truth

[@tom11zz884]

That strategy won't work for a group of women that is considered the least attractive in the world though..........

[@SAMack-xd2fn]

She black women have stale cookie

[@fiestyblktina1237]

tom11zz884 It won't work with blk men time will tell how desired we are

[@cynthiapickett7403]

Notice all the male trolls!

[@itz_akuma]

She doesn’t want to notice female stupidity. They’re more comfortable blaming men for everything.

[@itz_akuma]

mizzmolly lmao. You don’t even acknowledge your own shortcomings. You’re just a another delusion woman with a loud mouth, and little sense. Damn shame.

[@itz_akuma]

mizzmolly lmao. you just have a plethora of issues that YOU refuse to acknowledge. An educated black man wants an educated black woman. But the more that you speak, you reveal your lack of wisdom. THAT is a turn off.

[@itz_akuma]

Cal Grier lmao. My grandfather was a Radiologist with a PHD. He almost became a college professor. That man was educated. So educated, He spent his spare energy uplifting black men and women alike. Some people get a college degree, and think they are the smartest individual in the world. Smh. Yet they still work for someone else. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@itz_akuma]

mizzmolly whatever you have to tell yourself. Smh.

[@myshak.m7835]

About the answers to the question, we can see it has be done in America.. Me as a black Africans (Congolese ) from France but living in uk , I’m really not interested about dating an African American or Caribbean. I really only prefer Africans, mostly Central Africans . Africa is big and cultures are différents . But anyways ... I think we date people who look like us

[@gatestimonymiracle1302]

Me too.

[@nogames9969]

I ..... just .... these comments 😑. We are doomed.... Me being an afro american married to a Jamaican man would never make me compare or put down my black american men. They are my brothers, uncles, fathers, ect. I'm aware of our history and the hardships we face in this country. We aren't all raised the same but all I hear and see is generalizing. It's plenty of men out here .. choose wisely regardless where you are in the black world .

[@jocelynjones145]

Have you read some of the comments here that have come from black males?

[@griffeyking123]

Dhould be asking Black Men this, women don’t get nearly as much backlash when dating outside their race.

[@baybiibotta1574]

I’m a black woman from Africa and I feel like there is pressure on me to date men from my own race (from all races) even though I’m not attracted to black men 😂 and for some reason when I mention that I’m not really attracted to black men people tend to get offended and think it’s racist (even though I live in black skin). I just am not attracted to black men. And there’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to your own race

[@Bajannubian095]

Sun Oracle lol it’s the same for me I’m black but I don’t find black women attractive at all I’ve always dated white women to me there are more beautiful but people always say I have a problem 😆😆 I just love White women cause they really are attractive I don’t see a problem with it people are so weird

[@assaa5069]

My hero T’CHALLA the both of you are self hating niggas.

[@VeryZonedOut]

@@assaa5069 fr

[@ralphperkins7120]

I'm a white man who wants to meet a skinny black wife....

[@TNGURL08]

All 4 of these ladies are beautiful! I agree, date whoever you want....life is short! Be happy!

[@consciouswave6097]

It's awesome to see more of us having our own platforms to share our truth's and experiences!

[@keyyt3492]

I must be the only black male that loves black women. 🤷🏽‍♂️ All I see are women saying that black men would rather date outside of their race. Not i 😂 The blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice.

[@pennwilltravel]

You are a rarity these days! Can you say that to other black men?

[@72defender]

Kivon Campbell Take my share please!

[@Xavier-nq3oi]

I'm with you brother😂

[@keyyt3492]

Penny Williams I do and I have!

[@reimourrpower9357]

A lot of apparent misunderstanding between race, ethnicity, nationality & culture. Though questionable Black would be considered a 'race' while Nigerian, Haitian, Brasilian, American, etc would be a nationality. African-American, Kreyol, Igbo, Yoruba, etc. would be cultures.

[@mduduzigazu1136]

These discussions are so important. I love all the perspectives from all four women

[@tom11zz884]

This is like the 10th video on Black women dating outside their race this month by this channel....lol It seems like they are obsessed with this topic.

[@respectknuckles428]

Facts

[@clarkf1954]

@panthero lol he is an idiot he wont understand that

[@soraya.e5482]

tom11zz884 it's not racial. It's about different cultures.

[@fiestyblktina1237]

It's a new day no more sitting around waiting for a blk love fantasy

[@YungJay216]

Black women have never been socially conditioned too date non black men or black men from other cultures. That's why majority of them fail.

[@jasminesoulshine]

I’ve never felt pressure to exclusively date Black Men. I have preferences for African American men over other men in the diaspora because I can relate more to them.

[@Rose-xs5fr]

Every black man I have ever been interested in, wasn't interested in me. So, there was never any pressure for me.

[@MissOshunPossible]

That should tell you something about you.

[@Rose-xs5fr]

​@purifoye85 Just because someone isn't interested in me dosen't mean they arn't worth being interested in. I'm not bitter, petty, or for everyone.

[@Shenruss]

I'm West Indian American. *Most* of the women I see are Caribbean, but I'm lucky enough to have connections with other races and culture. A person's *character* is more important than their background.

[@WiddowsonStephen]

White supremacists think they should marry within their race....I married the love of my life outside of my race. Now my beautiful Biracial children get exposed to this type of divisive talk on a daily basis at school and on the news and I have to explain to them that there is NO difference between races and you SHOULD not judge people based on how they look.

[@Mr.Oct___]

You sir. Are miseducating ur children then. Our world is rife w/ diff. Especially amongst various races & cultures. To suggest otherwise is naive and frankly stupid when life will show them otherwise.

[@WiddowsonStephen]

@@Mr.Oct___ is conflating culture and race. To collectively assume that a group of people have more in common with each other based on race is the actual definition of rascism. It's the underpinning of every white supremacists argument.

[@Mr.Oct___]

@@WiddowsonStephen In the west...the 2 go hand in hand. & the underpinnings of white supremacy is the same as any other invader/colonizer/ruler/.....Power,control, & subjugation. & as it stands a few groups, based upon pigment, nationality of origin, & religion, experience shared cultures...It is abundantly clear by all social markers & the many other ways of measuring progress in society....That we are NOT the same. Which is actually fine in my book. Variety is the slice of life. & the "all men are created equal" line has been misused & interpreted since its inception.

[@WiddowsonStephen]

@@Mr.Oct___ I hope my children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

[@Mr.Oct___]

@@WiddowsonStephen Doubtful my man...The hearts of men are easily corrupted. & the quest for power is a constant & the vast majority of us operate from a stance of fear & insecurity.. You u can teach ur daughters however, to appeal to their higher natures while being aware of how to identify & respond to the lower natured acts & thoughts of man. Life requires us to experience both light and darkness. -Best wishes

[@weekend1rocks]

A better but more controversial question: Do you feel pressure to exclusively date Black men? There was an opportunity for a deeper discussion. I thought this was going to be about interracial dating for black women, a wise option that most black women seem to ignore, but no for some reason they made the assumption that a black woman would only be dating a black man. Black women should ignore race completely and go for the men with the most to offer them. Or... keep being impoverished baby mamas. Your choice.

[@ilysaportax33]

After watching the whole thing...it's so weird how much vitriol there is in the comments about "interracial" dating when the focus of this video, for the most part, was dating within the diaspora. Black American men and Black American women just stay ready to go at eachother's throats lol.

[@alyssasmith1111]

Date a biracial man. Y’all left them totally out the loop and they are by far the best. I am dating one rn. Could not be happier!

[@afroman5160]

Thats still in your race technically.

[@BumbleBee21917]

@@afroman5160 not really lol

[@bougieblack8890]

I don't get pressured to date exclusively black American men, because I don't associate myself with black men or women that would pressure me. Black men and women can date and marry whomever we wish regardless of race. Black men and black women that date and marry exclusively black that's fine too.

[@theMharcqk]

If you are a Nigerian guy and black, biko let's gather here

[@herbbow]

Question: What is the importance of color when trying to decide who you want to be with? What color is love? Where is love located? Just asking... And as far as American brothers being soft... lol... I'm a Marine... Please...

[@sixstaronen]

Semper fi brother!

[@sixstaronen]

I agree with you brother. Lover has no color. I will never put all my eggs in one basket, I love women, and the color, culture or ethnicity of a woman won't dictate my happiness with that said woman. No weak man here, served in the marines, educated, good job, but I will get labeled as weak, a trader or judged in a negative light instantly because I choose to date other races outside my own.

[@benjaminsmith2287]

African American men are not soft. Not at all.

[@EverydayGworl]

Maybe it's the lighting but I didn't know Jessica Woo had such a deep skin tone, she's even more beautiful to me now 😍😍😍

[@NuNusWorld]

Enjoyed watching this. Thanks ladies for sharing all your beautiful black girl magic ✊🏾

[@delvarisreginald5781]

Haitian! Proud of you, girl. I'm from Haiti 🇭🇹 too!

[@reellife8707]

My international experiences has led me to stick to exclusively dating black American DOS men. In the end, we have the same linage and I know what I am getting. Don't take my word for it, ask an African woman what their men think about Black American men. Ask the same question within the Diaspora regarding how one feel about Black American women then you will clearly see why I prefer to stick to my own even if if means being single to the day I die.

[@skyjack8541]

Deep. You have the instincts of an animal. Don't take offense to what I said bc it's actually a compliment. Lol

[@Youngindy21]

When immigrants move to America, they typically only settle in select locations(NYC, Chicago, LA, Miami, etc.) in large numbers so like the woman in the video said many Americans don't have an opportunity date black immigrants unless they move to those places.

[@007Aura]

I always have and always will date whomever I choose. I don't belong to anyone but myself.

[@skyjack8541]

God gave you free wheel. So do as you please. You can sleep with a dog if you choose. There's no natural law against sleeping with animals or outside of your race. God only left mating laws for animals to follow. They are the only ones that stick to their own kind. Humans are the only animals that mix and procreate with each other. Are we breaking any laws of nature by procreating outside of our race. Why lions don't mix or procreate with other cats. They stick to their own kind. Always and forever. I don't think interacial couples know the damage that they cause when they reproduce a mixed child.

[@Goode_Viibez]

I tend to watch videos like this to understand black thought from both the man/woman's perspective....I'm all for dating whomever makes you happy regardless of race and not one to bash someone whom does so.....what I'm perplexed about is regarding why black women feel pressured to dating exclusively within their own...could any woman give their thoughts on the matter?

[@prncessbaby16]

I think they feel obligated because black people"understand the struggle" and they feel they can "relate more because we have more in common"? I have no idea honestly, just speculating

[@lynnjones1065]

As a black man I encourage

[@jabbaweezy]

finally a panel of black women i feel i can thoroughly agree with

[@michelethe80sbaby]

Sak passe seester!!! I love seeing you on various platforms!!

[@Kilala.6029]

BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL BLACK IS GLOBAL ... yes !!!

[@Bajannubian095]

Akilah N. Yes queen black is beautiful

[@Fashionarily]

I am from the south and just like Africa explained, we are not really exposed to other cultures in the diaspora. You are either black American, white American, or mixed. That’s it! It wasn’t until I moved to New York and my eyes were open to the diaspora. It has been very eye opening dating outside of my culture as we are extremely different. But I love it! Currently in a relationship with a Jamaican man. That would have never happened coming from where I’m from.

[@kcking23]

A lot of people mask them selves as Black American down south.

[@romesrepublic]

Why does it matter who anyone dates? Date whoever u want.

[@jirensentry7609]

What is the lady in the blue talking about? Why does any of what she said have to do with dating? Aren't they discussing stigmas of expectations and pressures being trampled toward freedom for Black Women? Or is it American Black Women we discussing which means American Black men?

[@Fbundles]

I'm glad I'm in a relationship cause I couldn't imagine being on the dating scene based on these comments from BW. Black woman picking black men apart. Men of other cultures and races cheat, and treat woman bad as well. Not every one tryna be raised etc.. yall need to delay sex longer to choose your mates better. In my experience a lot of women choose mates based on Superficial B's then get mad when the relationship don't work and somehow it's the man fault. Make better decisions ladies.

[@mb5857]

Fbundles ..... do you not see the anti BW remarks? Or are you wearing blinders brought on my your relationship? Congrats, btw..

[@prncessbaby16]

I love Africa! She's so beautiful, articulate, and always has a unique perspective on things.

[@delealgladney2423]

Sis was not lying about Jamaican attitudes v. the "good good!" 😆😆😆😂🤣😂🤣

[@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272]

This has been the biggest debate. Even in my dating life.

[@focusedallday5620]

They need to balance the show by also showing some appreciation for men, or maybe discussing what they like. That way they come off less hurt.

[@Trunkslover14]

It feels weird to stereotype personalities, to a certain race and countries...

[@YourGirlSudanny]

Great topic ladies!

[@marshacreary2442]

Thank you for discussing the varied cultures in regions across the United States and other countries

[@ClaireHaire]

I told my husband, who’s black, he was the last hope for me because, for the longest I was dating Hispanics. Thank you Jessie, I can’t do Haitian men either, I tried but, I’m not your mother.

[@ClaireHaire]

@Dick H porque, the person I ended up showed me the most consistency.

[@puffnugget2425]

Im a black women and i dont think about dating in general. I dont have options. Im from san antonio and i get no play. I just focus on school and work. Thinking about dating is a waste of time and dating out is nearly impossible. Nonblack men dont like black women, black men dont like black women.

[@scooby1992]

Some white men and some black men do like black women .

[@jguudi2934]

I'm an African American female. I love my island brothers whether their Latino or Caribbean

[@joyleath07]

Soo glad this is being discussed

[@jackrabbit0]

me too!

[@eniolaamoks6391]

The carribean women are not lying about African American men tho

[@thadonjuan2339]

Yes they are lying.

[@ashome13]

The lady in the blue dress is gorgeous!

[@QUEENixp]

What the girl said about Haitians is so true Like we’re black but at the same time won’t consider ourselves black

[@eltarda2652]

Haitians consider themselves black, but that's secondary. our Haitian culture dictates who we are as a person. My values are that of a Haitian person, not that of a "black" person. just like any African, Jamaican, Trinidadian, Brazilian might be black as a race, but the ethnicity gives you a clear picture of their culture, customs, and values.

[@QUEENixp]

Eltard A when I was young I didn’t consider myself black because when you said black people what was on people head was African American and I wanted people to know I wasn’t African American so I would say I’m not black And I think that was confused people Maybe that person is saying their not black because to them black means African American

[@arleneaugustahair8393]

Eltard A Exactly!

[@senseofpeace6442]

It depends on your location. If your from a multicultural city/ town like Boston, it's never an issue with dating outside of on's culture.

[@lindar6326]

Black women are the most beautiful of ALL women.

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

Crazy because the marriage rate for them is so low and they can't seem to keep a man

[@skylagarcia8570]

@@R.O.T.C._SEEM whats more crazy is your life ahh babygirl i think your depressed.

[@lindar6326]

I respect Your OPINION BUT I STAND BY MY OWN OBSERVATIONS

[@lindar6326]

@oh nigga you gay WHAT IS FALSE? YOU WOULD LOVE TO READ " ALL WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL, OK OK THAT IS CORRECT!!!!! BUT MY PERSONAL OBSERVATION STANDS.

[@angelxigh]

if we're discussing marriage, foreign black men typically are tribal as well. dating? be careful & make use of your time.

[@lynnjones1065]

To date outside the race if you want to, I have and will do so again, dam what others think

[@lnwh4756]

I don't feel pressured. That's what I naturally feel attracted to.

[@cerromeceo]

My girlfriend is from Mali. She is amazing

[@msindy1818]

No I didn't feel pressure at all... Date who I choose. Caribbean men are lovely! African men are too much like American BM😒 biracial men are GREAT!😃💓💕

[@limejuice7467]

The real question is do BLACK MEN feel pressured to exclusively date black women? Madam Noire please answer this question for me. Because I'm genuinely curious. How can they be suggesting Caribbean men as the answer to the dating issues that black women go through. Most Caribbean men are all over non-black women as soon as they leave the Caribbean. I've seen it. Colourism and self hate is just as bad there as in the US.

[@mrs.camilliajones3560]

I think we as PEOPLE all should stop putting limits or boundaries on love when its comes to race! Having a preference isn't being prejudice, until you began to bash other races because of what you prefer!! We all just need to be open minded and live with an open heart free to whatever man/woman that comes into your life and LOVES and RESPECTS you and gives you the things you want and deserve ✋😍 AND if everyone dated,married and reproduced with someone of an opposite race maybe we could finally stomp out racism and all the foolish separation based on race,class, gender etc... #wishfulthinking #FEELSSOGOOD #LOVINGSOMEBODY #WHENSOMEBODYLOVESYOUBACK😁😁 😄💙💚💛💜

[@ludens1526]

Be careful dating Nigerian men. Because more than likely their parents hate African Americans with extreme prejudice. It’s sad my last relationship suffered from this

[@godisgreat982]

Not true, my parents always mingled with them and said that we are the same just different cultures. But I get what ur saying but it's not every Nigerian that feels this way.

[@mimilocke5650]

This can be said about most cultures unfortunately. They do not like interracial or intercultural relationships esp marriage. I dunno why AA seem ti want to come for Nigerians specifically?? No one was checking for Africans of any nationality before it was cool to be black.

[@clarkf1954]

You're all inbred con artists and suck up to vvhites. I bet you & your whole family have done the "Nigerian Prince" scam for years. And why are 35% of Nigerians cross eyed??? Is it because of the inbreeding? 1st cousin marriages is illegal in most states so keep it Nigeria.

[@nadejel7060]

Ebk I can't believe the hate that comes out of people. I try to think about people as individuals and not as a group but the rumors are becoming more evident and I need to open my eyes to how other cultures of darker hued people view me.

[@morena1484]

@@nadejel7060 exactly! All skin folk certainly are not kinfolks. The more disdain and hatred I witness from some of these Africans, the more I believe we are not connected to them. They wine about being picked on as kids as if all of us didn't have that experience growing up. All while their parents dogged us at home.

[@Consciousness317]

I know three Jamaican women and when I speak they respect me just as I respect them. I’m a black American I can see why they feel that we are soft though. Jamaica 🇯🇲 is a rough place as well.

[@alexpriceonline]

Glad that these ladies are still keeping it in the black community. We need each other and I’m talking about all of us! However, this shows the state of the Black American culture. Sad to see Black women telling each other that Black American men should be looked at as a choice on a restaurant menu. That’s the first step in breaking up a community. Would love to see putting the community first on both sides but unfortunately most of us are not taught to do that.

[@MT-mk1pw]

We definitely have work to do. Airing our laundry online gives "others" ammunition to demean us as well, not a good look. We love one another to the end. Sorry, dating out leaves me/most unfulfilled.

[@alexpriceonline]

Jamilla Dobson Most black men prefer black women.

[@alexpriceonline]

Jamilla Dobson Are you going off of actual facts or just the media and the men you’ve witnessed?

[@alexpriceonline]

Jamilla Dobson well think about this, most black men live in predominantly black areas with black partners. And you can’t just look at marriage because a lot of us aren’t married.

[@deshawnmiller4126]

@@alexpriceonline thank bro because most think most black men don't prefer black women because of there experience but they making them self look stupid don't go buy your experience .💯

[@terryp2517]

Having only been exposed to black men, another culture can be refreshing. Like I have always wondered the difference between American men and New Zealand men, British men, African men, Caribbean men etc

[@foxykandy23]

I am still on she said, the Caribbean is like Africa?????? sis do explain????? I feel like she needs a history lesson! both are spectacular.. but different..never compare the two.

[@YuusufAkorede]

Where is the lie?

[@thebridge5483]

Speak for yourself Caribbean is less Europeanized thus more african

[@benjaminsmith2287]

Markets, food, sense of family, there are similarities to west Africa.

[@emmadeemmut1352]

These natural curls you black woman have, it's so pretty! 😍 I always wanted curly hair.

[@brokenquill9277]

While I love my curls and wouldn’t trade them for the world they can be a trial.

[@marilynwillett804]

@@brokenquill9277 --would she say that in real life, um no.

[@rikanejose2611]

Jessie Woo....you go girl and you make us proud. Please continue to represent us (Haitians) well. We love you.

[@suge25]

I’m a black American man. I say this respectfully, we’re not checking for anyone who is not checking for us. These round tables are unnecessary

[@Happey67]

Many many African men are bred to think women should not be outspoken. In their culture males are the more important gender.

[@shaleahaskw8137]

I love black men from America #sorrynotsorry

[@lysavincent4960]

I’m not here for the stereotyping of these black men from different locations of the earth.

[@SyndicateTheLonelyGun]

Please give me the title of that lady's book. I wanna support black excellence.

[@lonewaddi6253]

I'm a black man if I can't marry a black woman I'll just stay single

[@iwishyouwould9985]

xactly! dont know WTF these folk talking about. For me, Black women or no women here. I dont GAF!

[@hannahsutter6289]

What's wrong with dating Asian men??? I never really understood that.

[@supersagarsagar]

The emasculation by American media has killed the game for them

[@minaimtiznot4327]

If you feel pressured to date anyone all you do is put unnecessary pressure on the relationship itself and one another.

[@TheBlackManMythLegend]

Is there some married women or in a relationship in the panel?

[@arleneaugustahair8393]

Xavier Maximin great question!

[@MT-mk1pw]

Most cultures prefer their own, why can't we? I think the part we miss in black culture is...hmm can I say class? Most aim to date above their dating class, uh no...it doesn't work like that. Choose a partner who compliments you, resembles your upbringing/family values and you love for reasons other than his/her physical beauty. I prefer black men, similar to my personality/upbringing...never experienced troubles/shortage of dating, now married. I've also dated nice white guys in my younger days, they're cool but the black man shares my heart beat, he just does.

[@commonsenseprevails1433]

Bm led that charge, ask them. Bw are just following suit.

[@tstar5944]

Love ❤ knows no boundaries

[@welisanerich5376]

Most Africans marry each other. They dont others alot. Ao be careful dont get disappointed

[@jocelynjones145]

It is good they do. I have no interest in any Africans whatsoever.

[@welisanerich5376]

@@jocelynjones145 the feeling is mutual ✌🏿

[@jocelynjones145]

@@welisanerich5376 then we are in good company. Peace.

[@ruggerREL]

I’m insanely shocked how much push back there is in the american black community it’s not universal but it comes up every now and then

[@purpleguddess]

In love with everything here❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️