Listen To Black Men: Interracial Dating

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[@karlwilliams8625]

The vibration of this conversation was lower than I thought it would be.

[@jayc5756]

FR. Same. SMH

[@misunderstoodkj]

Exactly

[@carynbarnes674]

SAMEEEEE! I just knew it was gonna be better…. Yeah naw.

[@ka32383]

@@carynbarnes674yeah this wasn’t it at all besides the one little clip I saw from tiktok!!!

[@reallife0728]

EVERYBODY WANNA GET A PODCAST & BECOME A LIFE COACH RELATIONSHIP EXPERT SOCIOLOGIST & THEY ALL JUST SPEWING THE SAME IGNORANT NARRATIVE/RHETORIC!!!!!! A LIL BIT OF KNOWLEDGE CAN BE A DANGEROUS THING!!!!

[@originalstorm6272]

Our people suffer from a serious case of inferiority complex. The fact that we have multiple vids/podcast talking bout dating outside is evident of our self hating mindset. You would never see other races sit and talk about dating out! They understand that the progression and self preservation of their race is built on sticking together, romantically, economically, culturally and spiritually. We are the ONLY race that fights tooth and nail to date out. Our constant reasoning is based on emotions alone. We do not think logically or for long term. Shit is sad.

[@lonigibson2797]

So true 💯 It is very sad how this is even a conversation that our people even considers to be an important discussion to have when it is not. With the current condition of the black community, talking about dating outside of our race should be the least of our concern when in fact, it is not in anyway beneficial to our race. We have way more things to worry about. Instead, we should be talking about how to reunite, build up our community to be strong again, addressing the issues with the genocide of black men killing each other & black women hating on each other and how divided we are & all the issues that have been detrimental to our community. Also we should be talking about how black men and black women should love on one another. It is enough self hatred within our community as it is and interracial relationships only contributes to the issues that we have which makes it worse, but our people think that dating out will solve those problems when in reality, they are just running away from facing the problem. At the end of the day, no matter what anybody says, no one understands our struggles the way we do and this is why we should stick together and promote black love. We don't need anyone else but each other.

[@originalstorm6272]

@@lonigibson2797 See but what you're requesting from our people requires work and a lot of us do not want to put in the work when it comes to building with each other. Most of our people are comfortable living in their own demise. Deviating from that would warrant us looking in the mirror and self reflecting. So it's much easier to sit and have nonsensical debates about sex, gender wars and dating out. Most of our people are in a childlike state. We are easily influenced by things that holds no value to our betterment.

[@nicolesright4800]

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[@lonigibson2797]

@@originalstorm6272 Absolutely and that is why things are not changing in our community because of that poor mentality that they have. It takes strength and maturity to do as you said that we should do but until they do that, things will never change. I just pray that our people will eventually wake up 🙏🏾

[@originalstorm6272]

@@lonigibson2797 Well the way things are going, I'm not sure many of us would ever wake up! That's just the sad reality.

[@antares3097]

Black people been obsessed with this subject for decades...🤔 ' why don't we give economic the same attention.

[@Tam974eva]

"Our base connection is trauma." WOW. I wasn't expecting him to be spitting bars but that is so real. However, Trauma bonding creates unconditional solidarity which results in codependency, not love. Love is watered by much more.

[@juanitat.5143]

It doesn't just create unconditional solidarity. You can build emotional bonds and love through shared trauma.

[@PettyLabelle]

Do what works for you … I have recently started dating out . I wish everyone luck .

[@jayc5756]

Yeah, just don't force it like I hear other women saying they will do now..now that it gets pushed so hard to bw. And Please don't be desperate. Nothing more pathetic when bw get a little attention from a wm...or he say he like bw, and yall lose it. Like WTF?? SMH 🤦‍♂️ Just be cool. Actually, they should work for it harder than others. That's how I do others...but the ones with ws mindsets don't do that unfortunately. SMH

[@CommonSence_]

Your part of the problem

[@dnicole4236]

It’s no issue. As long as you don’t put them on a pedestal for being non-black and downing your own.

[@Jay-jb2vr]

If dating the group of people that hate you, "works" then...

[@PettyLabelle]

@@Jay-jb2vr bm trend for high test divorce per census even when married outside …. Statistically it’s not wise .

[@kaelamichéll]

I feel that This episode needed more feminine energy + Too many people trying to over-talk each other, got lost in the many conversations going on.

[@thatboydre8649]

There isn’t enough sisters they be having views that are different most guys just smash who they can smash no matter the race

[@dnicole4236]

No there aren’t enough suitable black men. So black women are either single or sharing men. It just logically makes more sense for them to date out.

[@BIFC216]

​@@dnicole4236 there's alot of suitable black men black women have unrealistic standards

[@edmundnlemadim8480]

@@BIFC216 facts. And im saying this as a 6 figure earning black man. It's kind of fucked up to admit but the more money ive made, the less ive wanted to deal with black women and those "unrealistic standards." And it's one thing to deal with unrealistic standards, because every race has women with those. Then you package in the obstinate, combative behavior, demanding attitude, and unwillingness to take any kind of direction and/or constructive criticism, my thought process goes to "why am I here?" Im not obligated to be in some tug of war of sorts with a woman because we share the same skin tone, thats ridiculous. So as of ~5 years ago, I said "no more" 🤷🏾‍♂

[@FluteCheerios]

Just gonna add one more comment to this video, I didn't agree with the brotha in green with the gold chain about mixed/biracial children... well, a slight disagreement. I do agree that generally mixed/biracial children won't be seen as White/European American obviously, however they're not always Black/African passing either & I think 🤔it's a bit disrespectful to their individual experiences to just lump them all as Black, & more often then not, some of these mixed offspring do end up marrying or dating White people & if they have children, those children will lean more White culturally & probably phenotypically too; there needs to be a cut off point with this one drop rule. In other countries mixed people have their own ethnic group, & this goes in hand with the trauma bonding topic in the video, I don't think it is healthy to only bond with someone based off of a trauma, it helps at times yes, but it shouldn't be the primary driving force of unity & solidarity.

[@Janus10001]

This woman sounds like a cartoon character from "Song of the South." Is there no other way to be "black" except to be a caricature?

[@mashan1978]

Her voice and personality is so annoying. They always pick the most embarrassing ones.

[@evagoss855]

I don’t agree with Jim your money is put back in the white community.

[@70sbabys]

So it sounds like he went where you can smash not where he can find love. He said he went where he was loved/liked and turned around and said he ran through them.

[@dday3322]

💯

[@misunderstoodkj]

Nooooo!!! Pro-black is economically black!! Therefore, interracial dating is not pro-black. Nothing wrong with dating who you want to date. But just know you're not pro-black if you do.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

Something is TOTALLY wrong with you if you date out. Waking up to a European spouse would make my stomach turn.

[@misunderstoodkj]

@@DrUmarJohnson1 😂

[@head-like-a-milk-dud963]

@@DrUmarJohnson1 something is seriously wrong with me then. Lol not only did I marry out but I’m trying show more upwardly mobile BM the path.

[@ThePumpin1]

That is BS.

[@Kemkem-it]

yes theres things wrong for africans race to date outside our race!

[@montymason1647]

There were some wise words about people loving who they love, and that if the partner was truly reciprocating in love, support, nurture, and protection, than colour really cannot matter. The crew unpacked some deep, complex ideas, in addition, sometimes with skepticism, sometimes with rigidity, often times with humour. I need to come back to process in detail. That's the result of smart people grappling with difficult ideas. Thumbs up. Time well spent.

[@misslady8848]

My friends know I'll always be respectful to whoever they love, but I'm never encourage or condoning this mess.🙅🏾‍♀️ Also, why are we listening to Jim Jones about being ProBlack? He should've been on a different episode.

[@bfestudios6677]

Umar makes me laugh with his ways of thinking 😄 Can't nobody tell me nothing about nothing. Date who makes you happy 🎯 Love is love 👆🏽😎

[@marleneschultz9092]

If the black man pass the money goes to the white wife.

[@beautyfolse4249]

We need full episodes of these topics. This is too good. 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@sheliacoleman9004]

It's great to hear honest opinions and views coming from Black men and a black sister I'm enjoying this thanks so much 😊😊😊🎉🎉🎉

[@kaseempayne2212]

Why is she wearing pajamas??

[@generalwillwelsh7926]

It is so funny listening to how black people think and go about their lives. Its like watching a black mirror episode. Everything is backwards. Keep on doing it tho makes it easier for the rest of us.

[@jericothompson8636]

Yeah, we can tell you need all the help in the world based off that profile picture.

[@sese79]

Go where you are appreciated and respected, instead of being tolerated. Just because a person black American that doesn’t mean they have a pro- found respect for you

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

Where has the African gone and gotten appreciated outside of being entertainment or a political pawn???

[@sese79]

@@DrUmarJohnson1 answer: other than inventing and building an economy, not much.

[@kdub-st8tm]

Jim jones hit it on the nail

[@PeacefulSavageKS]

I'm married to a black man and I've dated both my race (I'm Greek so my whiteness is debatable I guess) and other races before. One thing I must admit is I'd never, and I mean NEVER date a man who uses the terms snow bunny/snow puppy, I mostly avoided black Americans especially because they make everything about race and I am a very proud person so I'm not one to bow down to anyone. Black Americans seem to have this need for people to kind of worshipping blackness in order to not see them as racist and I'm not about to do that. I can't even worship my own race. My husband is a Guinean Muslim, I'm a Greek Christian, yet we're each other's people...none is coming between us, not race, not religion. Marriage is family. People in America seem to put more gravity on surroundings than the family itself. If you'd let "your people" disrespect your partner then you don't deserve said partner imo and I think IR relationships in the US are much harder than they are in the rest of the world.... That's just me though. Maybe it's just my experience with Americans in general and I'm wrong. I could be wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@misunderstoodkj]

Jim Jones sounds ignorant on this subject! Yikes!

[@jamalwright2854]

whyte women understand blck trauma?

[@misunderstoodkj]

@@jamalwright2854 What? I didn't say that at all!

[@jamalwright2854]

@@misunderstoodkj I'm talking about Jim JOnes!

[@misunderstoodkj]

@@jamalwright2854 oh ok. Lol

[@jamalwright2854]

@@misunderstoodkj is he even blck?

[@aguy9071]

“Listen to black men” is such a feminine title.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

You cannot IR date, marry, or procreate and be pro black

[@jayc5756]

At All

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

@@jayc5756 exactly 💯

[@misunderstoodkj]

Exactly

[@FluteCheerios]

So... are you still Pro-Black if you're on a monoracial Black relationship with a self-hating & or colorist Black person? I get what you're saying, but just curious about how you feel on that one.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

@@FluteCheerios if the person you're dating is self-hating regardless if they are a black person from a different culture no that's not pro black. THEY hate themselves so how could they be pro themselves they would have the same ideology as non-black people that are anti-black. Most importantly you are who you date so if you're willingly dating a person that way that speaks loudly and volumistly about who you are!!!!

[@Luvurselffirst]

Kids are the race of the mother. She carried it in her womb.

[@rikan5793]

The idea of preference is not that simple. As a people, we are surrounded by almost everything (media, history, grandparents, etc) telling us that wyt is better and more attractive. So when blck men choose wyt women, they have been conditioned to do so. It's not as simple as preference. We have been brainwashed for centuries that eurocentric features are more desirable than afrocentric ones (especially when it comes to women). We have grandparents still teaching us that mixed people hair and wyt people hair is "good hair." When a blck man or blck woman gives their bloodline to a wyt person, that mixed kid does not always look blck. And often, mixed kids are torn between two identities. It is natural that a mixed child would prefer the superior race (which we have been taught is wyt). If that mix kid partners with wyt, and subsequent generations keep partnering with wyt, blackness is lost

[@kdub-st8tm]

Not about being pro black date who you want

[@head-like-a-milk-dud963]

I married out. My wife is from PR and our kids are obviously mixed. With that said, No. you can not be in an IR relationship and be pro black. I am however pro black male. Fellas, get your money right, health right and date, marry, procreate with who ever you want. We only live once. Be happy.

[@unpopular2]

What 😂

[@nmhoskins]

At least you are honest. You don't care about the black community. And you don't care about black women. And think most black men who marry outside of the race think like you but, ashamed to admit it.

[@AaliayahIvy]

Fetish

[@19petal]

??

[@head-like-a-milk-dud963]

@@19petal ?

[@shanekamcduffie9793]

This interview was dope BUT I had rather it be ALL Black Men !! She was cool but she brought too much energy. This is a question that NEEDED responses from ALL BLACK MEN

[@viceroy7792]

Yes - exactly. Some people aren't comfortable allowing a panel of all black men to simply say what they need to say. But that is what was needed. And it did not happen here.

[@easyrawlins2392]

This conversation was ok but you never went deep. It remained superficial. Why can't a black man date a white woman without the hate from black women. However those same black women support black women dating white men.

[@jayc5756]

Jessie Woo, men date out more cause we date more casually than women. But most of us prefer our own. Facts! As far as the ones that date out and shit on their own...thats on both sides. Those bm & bw that do that are Gone!!! F Them. And to add, Jessie....PLEASE Do Not be 1 of those typical bw that date out then blame it on the bm that do. They lie and know they like vienna sausages...but try to excuse it with what we doing...like Stop It ma ✋️ Just keep it real and say yall like this or that. Cause idc what others are doing...them doing that is Not gonna make me wanna like and be with this person that im not into. Cmon ma. IJS

[@kitkatt615]

Here from a Tiktok clip && honestly, I just shook my head a lot - a few parts were like yeah, you got It 🧠, and then turned immediately to No, that is not IT Mouse almost got it on some parts, but did not execute, Jim Jones, straight up and down disappointing + the pick me…smh just not a good watch smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@dday3322]

And yet other races due preach and steer their children to date within their own communities/ Ethnic groups. Yes, you can find love anywhere if you go looking for it. However, it has been the mission of mainly BM to go looking for this race less utopia!

[@tinicoleofficial]

That’s sooooo true🤦🏾‍♀️

[@belleame4671]

Well f'n said...

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

Europeans, Arabs, Asians, and Latinos are steering their children to be with their own and Africans [Blacks] are DYING to be seen holding hands with them......SMH!

[@Lorenzo-e7m]

It’s not a mission , black men are desired by all races of women. Black aren’t going to limit themselves to only black women. White men date out more than black men (with Asian women) they just don’t get backlash.

[@SpongeBœb]

@@Lorenzo-e7mThey do get backlash. Asian men are hating on it.

[@Ceemoore3000]

Interesting how none of the men on this panel are biracial but for "Listen to Black Women" the panel is completely biracial...hmmm.👀😬😳

[@trepulce33]

Jim is hypocritical too. Cuz the same teaching we received to date our own. Comes from the mindset and racist time period he then used to justify a mixed child being assigned the black race.

[@misterkgb1]

💯 and we still need to stay with our own today and a white woman can't produce a Black child and to say that is an insult to Black women.

[@meezksosa7994]

Honestly most men don't want black women

[@nmhoskins]

No. Most COLORIST black men don't want black women. Show that you are SELF-HATING without saying you are SELF-HATING.😂😂😂

[@rebeccafeza243]

why ?

[@jayc5756]

Papoose wouldve been perfect for this 1, instead of Jim. Shout out to Jim though. But IJS

[@Lorenzo-e7m]

This didn’t age well lol

[@jayc5756]

@@Lorenzo-e7m It did. Papoose stance won't change just cause what he may or may not have gone through. It is what it is.

[@Lorenzo-e7m]

@@jayc5756 stance on what exactly? The love he would’ve spoke on was betrayed and broken. He may want to go get a snow bunny.

[@jayc5756]

@@Lorenzo-e7m Nah bruh. Stop trolling.

[@Lorenzo-e7m]

@@jayc5756 trolling how ? It’s public knowledge Remy ma cheated on him. He held her down and got played. I’d hear Jim jones.

[@dnicole4236]

Biracial ≠ black y’all gotta stop.

[@jayc5756]

Sooo much agents out here on YT encouraging and trying to push bw more away from bm and to others...so it can further separate the black family. SMH! I had to unsubscribe from RLP. She got that Hollywood paper and turned to another agent. Damn! I was kinda with her when she just said to open up your options. But when you proceed to shit on bm...and downplay us.. make it seem like the grass is greener on the otherside, then i cant rock with that...At All. SMH

[@nmhoskins]

Black men have been disrespecting black women for centuries!! It has been time for black women to open their options to other groups of men. Even rethinking their own unattractiveness to white men.

[@loulousworld92]

What push, I cannot stand BM like you, the overwhelming majority of black women want black man. You should see how most women react to me, even having the audacity to suggest dating outside the race !! it always disgust me how BM are more concerned with the underwhelming, 3% of black women compare to the 25% of eligible dating BM who date outside of the race. You are more concerned about the minority over the majority, how the hell do you think some BW feeling ? Especially when a lot of our successful black men are dating other races of women. And before you start, I already know over 70% of black men are dating black women, but the unfortunate problem is only 30% of black men are married so if Jamie who is white and offering marriage and a relationship and provision and protection to my sister, do you honestly think I’m going to tell her not to date him because she needs to wait around for Tyrone. The same way Blackman exercise their rights is the same way. Black women have the right to date whoever they want. So many of you Client, you don’t care but look how triggered it has got you at just the idea that a black woman can have the audacity to try something new. I don’t know why you are so concerned about women who don’t like you. One thing about the black community. The man have a plethora of ride or die, hard back, “pick me” mammies who will go to the ends of the Earth for black man, and who cannot stand black women like me who have married outside the race. So please pick from those options, and don’t worry about the very small minority of black women who are dating out and the even smaller percent of black women who don’t want you to begin with!!

[@niahernandezlove2194]

Agreed. I'm a Black woman and agree.

[@patricerenee1717]

🙄

[@justicerighteousness3105]

A MESSAGE to BLACK MEN. I'm a 53-year-old blk male Jehovah's Witness who's never been married. I would like to tell you about something I witnessed at the Kingdom Hall today. September 10, 2023. I saw a young blk sister who's married to a non blk man. Hug or embrace a man of European descent. Not her husband. Now this is a meeting place of Jehovah's Witnesses. So naturally the standards are different than many other places. But on one seemed to care. I had to really think about the dynamics of the whole thing. What if she had hugged me? Even though were both blk, the waters would have parted. What if a sister of European descent married to a blk man were to embrace me? Likely it would be an issue too. What if a blk sister married to a blk man were to embrace me? Likely it would be a problem. And what if a young single sister of any race were to hug me? Likely the waters would also part. But let's go farther. What if a blk brother married to a sister of European descent were to embrace another sister of European descent, not his wife? Likely it would be an issue. Or, what if any blk brother married to any sister of any race were to hug any sister near his age or younger not his wife? Likely it would be an issue. Yes, I'm speaking in a certain religious context. But the principles can apply across the board. The bottom line is blk men do not have sufficient access to their own women. And blk men do not have the same access to other women as other men have to blk women. Blk men should seriously consider these facts. It says a lot about how other people think and feel about us. Often even in religious situations or settings.

[@Swo76]

Jehova witness is lie. Black people scattered across the four corners of the world are the true israelites and you are one of them. You must stop being a Jehova witness and repent and come back to keep the commandments, Bless up.

[@itscrazywillie]

“What you got on.. hyperbole” 😂😂😂

[@eryn5826]

I love that mouse didn't make Jim feel dumb he just very subtly opposed everything he said for example Jim kept saying that kid is Black and mouse just kind of slid in there that that kid is whatever they identify as which could be either or and that statement said without explicitly saying I don't agree with anything you just said. And then he did it again when Jim made that ignorant billionaire comment and then he blew the entire conversation up so subtly with that trauma comment!

[@NaggaShaYah]

The Aramaic Carpenter says Tobit 4:12 Deuteronomy 17:15 Exodus 3:14 Strong Concordance Bible Dictionary definition H5052 Revelation 22:16 Lachish Reliefs Zechariah 9:13 The Negroland Maps with the Kingdom of Juda Zephaniah 3 16-20

[@braxtonadams3828]

I kinda want to stop watching this video I’ve been black my whole life and I’ve never heard the word “black” being thrown in front of so many words😂. Putting black in front of the word wealth, or love doesn’t give it a different definition then what’s in the dictionary wealth, love, happiness, trauma it’s all universal

[@easyrawlins2392]

I love the brothers answer about common and shared trauma.

[@shugabear35]

You con control who you want to love.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

Mouse made sense 💯💯🤟🏾

[@jayc5756]

I dont understand why i see and hear bw saying that they are not even into wm...yet say ok Im going to Try and be open to dating them...when other bw try to push them to date them. Like whats wrong with yall?? Yall know that there are various different cultures of people. And you should be attracted to and into the partner youre gonna be with. Cmon now.

[@jayc5756]

@user-sc3st6ry2v Yeah, you're a troll. SMH! A white troll. GOH!

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

Isn't Jim with Chrissy. Chrissy run.

[@dday3322]

And had the nerve to mention trauma bonding! He created the trauma in his relationship!!

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

@@dday3322 he sure did

[@IyaIfamodupe]

Chrissy been waiting how many years to be married to this man? It’s crazy!!!

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

@@IyaIfamodupe ikr 💯

[@Covers-and-Commentary]

Needed more women on this

[@Andrew-gq2ot]

What was really needed was more critical thinking Bm. Who're not afraid of pointing out Bw's Hypocrisy when it comes to IR dating.

[@jayc5756]

FR. Mann

[@jayc5756]

​@@Andrew-gq2otThat true

[@imanigordon6803]

Wait so when when we have listen to black women I don’t heard one person say there aren’t enough black men when they talking nonsense without a filter quit the double standard

[@misunderstoodkj]

For real.

[@ritaw3712]

Let people talk

[@misslady8848]

QueenOfTheHoochies coined the term SnowPossum, which is an androgynous term😅

[@derricksullivan2045]

Great talk yal. Respectfully, I think we can sometimes have a very superficial way of looking at relationships. Yes, it does come down to intent but at the end of the day, you gonna love who you gonna love. period. Look at James Baldwin? Although he was lgbtq+ he furthered the community and was indeed problack. Can't shame a black man you dont know when you dont know the function/dynamic of their mind and relationship. Some of these men date outside their race because they were other'd from their community from the jump for being different/lame/etc. If anything, these attituedes only further reinforce these feelings. Also, you CANNOT be pro-black if you invalidate another person's blackness for who they chose to love. Being black is not what we wear, what we listen to, or who we date, Its who you are and we all put points on the board together.

[@PhilosoG]

Yeah, this the only comment that is needed!

[@khartoniapratt2792]

No you can't be Pro - Black Man and date interracial . 1. Becky-White Women 👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏿 2. Maria-Hispanic Women 👩🏽‍❤️‍👨🏿 3. Kim-Ling Asian Women 👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏿 These Brothas should've brought Dr. Urmar Johnson on this panel.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

They didn't invite me

[@zokpa856]

Serious complex we have as black people. Our are women are so beautiful, sad conversation.

[@lordodinfatheroftheazier699]

The reasoning is different what the hell is that

[@nicolesright4800]

Bp don't date thinlippians

[@lisaduncan6923]

This is an interesting conversation. As a white women in a relationship with a black man, I knew people would not always be accepting. Reading the comments isn't comforting at all. White people CAN understand the trauma black people have been through. I think with open and honest communication we can understand each other and help each other work through traumas and discrimination. In this whitewashed country we can be one of your biggest advocates, and many of us want to.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

Lisa, us Africans [Blacks] in America have been red-lined, denied loans, wrongfully imprisoned, spit on, thrown bannas at, bombed in Phillidelphia/Tulsa, water hosed, shot while unarmed, endured medical aparthied, and inhumanely enslaved for 400+ years. How can you as a European honeslty expect us to not stare at you and your Black spouse, become triggred at you and your Black spouse, and STRONGLY diapprove of you and your Black spouse? Where's America attempt to make amends with us not including a holiday or street name?

[@Laurita-ev8me]

You really want to spend yr whole life with a man who is with you just because he hates himself? Good luck with that

[@jayc5756]

To pause at 7 min mark. I get that. But i go with my preference...not necessarily attention. Most of us bm prefer bw, but we get better attention and seemingly interest from ww, we just gotta keep it a buck. But then when you dig deeper, you see that most of that smiling in ya face is fake AF. Others just got maybe ulterior motives...like maybe fetishy or whatever. So yeah, im good on that. Yeah, would a lot of us Love for our women to be a little more receptive to us, and it dont feel sooo much of a pull away or resistance...absolutely. But we gotta deal with it. It is what it is.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

Whyte women only want to f*** y'all bm or non-black women overall non black men overall only want to f*** us bw they don't like us romantically even if you're in a relationship with one that s*** is cap.

[@Ghostisback24444]

We got to deal with it???

[@corygarr-ck9xr]

We can't preserve our race dating outside our race .... black love is being with other blacks...

[@nicolesright4800]

Jim lost

[@vernonroberson1861]

Jim is the only one that has evolved

[@kdub-st8tm]

Thank you Jim jones but it's okay for black women to date women explain .

[@tonydecentblackman1327]

Are these guys supposed to look hood?

[@allaboutjj1033]

I would love to experience black love but I’m also open to other ethnic groups. I’m just scared of them not understanding and that I’ll have to act differently or teach them things

[@hollivybez]

I agrée love had no color boundaries - yet it really should be love and not one using the other for a trophy (white women often use Black men as trophies too). The white person must also be pro-black and really commit to understanding.

[@nmhoskins]

I disagree. A black man is NOT a trophy. No man is. Especially a man who is low on the socioeconomic totem pole.

[@hollivybez]

@@nmhoskins I agree that a Black man is not a trophy. I was simply stating there are white women who see it that way - they are wrong

[@dnicole4236]

@user-sc3st6ry2vfor fetishizing and pissing their yt parents off. It’s almost never love which is why they WW and BW have the highest divorce rates of any interracial marriages.

[@zevrahceroom7724]

This was bs lol

[@tonypetty7540]

Who's business is it who someone date or marrie ijs

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

The Cosmos and karma and DNA

[@Devilsqueen123]

It’s definitely the white persons family business if there family member is dating a black, they definitely would have a problem, blacks are the only people who says this, I bet your black dating none black

[@NiceRadio_Network]

You can't be "Pro Black" and be with a white person because you have to take on what comes with that white persons heritage & up bringing. Now If you on some "friends with benefits" thing, that's different. Having casual sex has very little meaning. Getting in a committed relationship has a lot of meaning which in turn changes the dynamic of what you stand for.

[@Linda-mh5zf]

Love is love.... makes no sense.

[@70sbabys]

I hate when people use the phrase "love is love" as if love isn't developed, nurtured, and a choice at the end of the day. The word love is so misused.

[@Andrew-gq2ot]

I agree love is love. But when Bm think that way He's a sellout, colorists, he hates Bw. Just look at the reaction to these passport brothers. To them love is love as well.

[@jayc5756]

​@@Andrew-gq2otAnd what about the bw that think the same? Is it the same case? 🤔

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@70sbabys "Love is love" is an acceptance of interracial dating slogan. Lets get back to "Black Love". Not giving our wombs and resources to White women/men

[@AaliayahIvy]

@@jayc5756 BM actively seek whiteness in all forms at a disproportionate rate. Do your research and see the percentages of relationships and marriages between bm and ww. It’s astronomical and so is the failure rate 😭 the amount of bw dating out is tiny. Pls be real with yourself. That’s where it starts