Do You Keep Secrets From Your Partner? | Tell My Story

It’s certainly easier to make assumptions about people than it is to spend time getting to know someone. We wanted to put assumptions to the test to see what we're missing out on because we're so busy assuming we already "know" a person. Join us as we discover why you should never judge a book by it’s cover in our series 'Tell My Story.'
We are all conditioned with certain biases. In this experiment, we challenged these biases by asking people to guess their blind date partner's interests and past experiences based only on their partner's appearance. When they learned their partner's real answers, they were shocked by how wrong they were.
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[@jelenam.2078]

She wanted a man bun, she got one

[@s.a.8548]

But really I just wanted to be your son

[@Aanframe]

She got the bun, but not the man

[@TheRockerX]

When he walked up and he actually had a man bun... I felt that

[@Participant]

😉

[@marianolasco251]

Haha same

[@angieruthw]

That's what got him that "hiiiiiiiii" 🤣

[@cwersland4]

"He's doesn't seem sociable, he's standoffish, oh maybe he's conceited or this or that. But they just don't realize not everybody's a big talker" This guy gets it 🙌

[@phatbastard0alkaline]

Until the introverts actually gets comfortable and let you in, suddenly they can talk your ear off haha. They know by then that you will listen to them.

[@ClydeStarke]

Yep same here! Had lots of people telling i was actually pretty ok after they got to know me.

[@itskendall3854]

phatbastard0alkaline me asf 😭

[@dreamyrebel]

YES!

[@grantkauahijr.1647]

cwersland4 Jesus loves you

[@lauradilf]

She is so preeeetty

[@pokemongo-so9im]

shes looks 32

[@stillthinking3740]

@@pokemongo-so9im she doesnt buddy. she looks about 26 or 28 at the MOST

[@zweij]

He has such a calm soul.

[@Usmanthemecano]

He's an actor... That's a factor?

[@zweij]

@@Usmanthemecano Could be but I wouldnt fous on that.

[@ryana-6762]

hes boring

[@psychologisthira5844]

@@ryana-6762 You are surely a shallow observer.. He's so deep.

[@notyourfriend-li7rq]

@@Usmanthemecano you could consider being a poet in the future.........rhyming and all.....😂😂

[@shabbamims5]

I like travis's quiet confidence.

[@khonzahanny]

I had a friend just like him. She's doesn't talk much, she's calm, and at first I thought she's shy but it turned out she have no problem talking in public at all. Like she would say she's nervous but she always nailed it in the end

[@deb1920]

It's interesting that in a lot of these videos, when people are guessing things about the other person, they guess the answers that they eventually use for themselves. People do, generally, project a lot, so it makes sense.

[@Participant]

Interesting insight!

[@erikamaza1882]

deb1920 just thought the same!

[@katsweeterly2039]

Like a wishful-mirror-neuron-thinking :) but I noticed that a lot, too.

[@mvrjane]

It's the mirror effect in psychology

[@prettydisabled9060]

I noticed that too and likely that's what they are trying to find!

[@DrAdnan]

“I feel like I have enough stress for the both of us” - me in a nutshell

[@atelierfrost]

These two seemed to really suit each other, but then they tell us they haven't met up for that date yet. Like call me crazy, but if you were that interested, I would think you'd have jumped right on making plans.

[@QueenofWheels]

People have jobs. People have school. People have family stuff.

[@atelierfrost]

@@QueenofWheels Well obviously. But like... weeks? Chances are this was filmed weeks ago. There hasn't been a single day in that time where they both had a few hours to meet for coffee?!?! If you want something to happen, you make it happen.

[@Emily-pm5gr]

atelierfrost they prob made the update about them not meeting up close to the time they made the video. Maybe by now they have gone out.

[@atelierfrost]

@@Emily-pm5gr One hopes! :) They seemed like they were really on the same page.

[@BelleLorrae]

@@Emily-pm5gr His name is Travis Lance Sosa, and there has been no sign of her on any of his social media pages so I'm guessing it still hasn't worked out.

[@riseup6112]

I really like his calm personality

[@jennygreat4846]

you must be into dad types because i got a vibe from him

[@trisha1914]

Same

[@g0mi-baka]

Travis is so soft spoken and gentle, he seems like a very soothing person to be around

[@MLSoll]

He is a very good balance between confident yet calm and genuine, if that makes sense

[@namechange.136]

I'm a an introvert and I relate to what that guy said so much. Im extroverted among very close friends though and online lol

[@jacobyuri779]

Haha same here

[@Dru529]

Lol, same

[@self_appointed_wisdom]

Exactly same lol

[@nicolefrazer2800]

Some introverts are aren't extroverts at all, not even with family or close friends. Don't project onto him we really don't know.

[@bileem8905]

Yeah me too, introvert but extreme extrovert among friends

[@magicmystery4211]

*Girl you are beautiful*

[@Jemike5]

The update hurts my soul. Get off the darn phone you kids and meet face-to-face.

[@sibongiletasilaphiri7521]

I felt the same!!!!

[@iagosamet]

Fine !! I’m shooting my shot with you grant ! How are you ???

[@lionessprowess3581]

Looks like you got a taker Grant. I don't understand some boys. I used to get a bunch of emails from boys and no one would ask me out on a real date. Out of 20 inquiries, only about 4 would ask me out. WTH! Lol. For a second there, I lost hope in humanity!

[@QueenofWheels]

Maybe they are busy. Nothing wrong with texting. Get off of youtube and go on a date.

[@michellebailey6216]

What update

[@happysmiles4339]

Ahhhhh, so cute! Sabrina is absolutely STUNNING!!! Hope everything works out great for them! Definitely looking forward to an update in the future! ♥️♥️♥️

[@namechange.136]

The more she talks. The more I fall.

[@emmaryan3600]

Righttttttt

[@Ohanaloveu]

Ditto

[@s.a.8548]

I hope you have insurance than

[@namechange.136]

Salmo Ali Lol. I'm lucky enough to live in the U.K. We have the NHS ❤️

[@s.a.8548]

@@namechange.136 Goddammit America is failing us all

[@Cara_613]

I love how Travis listens intently to his partner. He looks like someone you can talk to about anything and everything under the sun. Can you be my friend Travis? 😁

[@notyourfriend-li7rq]

uhhh I agree. I love people who are good listeners. It's such an important quality. And I'm very talkative so that explains everything...😂

[@javeriaiqbal7313]

He listened to her like he was her therapist! 😂

[@julielucky24]

Well... When I started dating my bf 3 years ago, he was very introvert and I was the opposite, but now we've adjusted and he became more sociable and I've become more reserved. So you never know how a relationship influences you

[@r.w.3378]

heyjul 24 do you like that change?

[@adazudiara4496]

How you find that change!?

[@adazudiara4496]

Like; is it like you are now more relaxed with your life than before or you r now more stressed out 😥.

[@ethanwaltz4799]

The way her face lit up when she saw him....

[@th2030]

The chemistry especially at the end 😍

[@gemuseschnitzel8261]

"Where are you from?" "Bakersfield" "I'm sorry?" "Bakersfield" "Oh no no I heard, I'm just sorry"

[@marielou7588]

Schnitzel aus Gemüse 😱

[@AMoore-qx6vv]

Viva Las Gaygassss

[@GulaschHDTV]

@@marielou7588 igitt

[@je.thecougarlover]

She is gorgeous.

[@jahneshia]

OK soulpancake we appreciate this update 💕

[@sibongiletasilaphiri7521]

Indeed!

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Being open with your partner is so important for having a happy relationship.

[@lisam.8750]

They've been texting, but not setting up a time to meet up for a real date? What could they possibly be texting about after this? They've already decided they would date each other. This generation, oh this generation.

[@chikoman4926]

Lisa Moise and y u’re hot asf?

[@fbspin]

He’s so softspoken

[@sofiaforet]

Ikr it's precious 😫😫

[@samithegreat7840]

He makes me sleepy

[@darktrainerz6707]

“They just don’t understand that not everyone’s a big talker” THANK YOU 🙌

[@breakandanga7762]

Also she reminds me so much of Selena Quintanilla. RIP

[@angapleee]

exactly

[@c.stephtejada6394]

Omg yes!!!

[@pettyx008]

Aw, this girl is just a pure love💫. They're mostly a match but she needs someone in the middle, I sense he's very introvert and something off from him but I could be wrong.

[@dsgggg1]

He's 29 though, so assuming more experience in dating, he might be more tentative off the bat.

[@marielou7588]

I think because he doesn't seem to be interested

[@RDCFemmes]

there's nothing wrong with him, he is just quiet.Silent warrior.....

[@samuelmensah5485]

Pesi Belau exactly. Just cause someone’s quiet doesn’t mean they’re like mentally ill lol

[@miss.bitchswerve6329]

@@samuelmensah5485 That's not what ppl are saying, when you rush into conclusions of what the meaning was, it's usually your insecurity. Nothing wrong with mentally ill either, a mentally ill person can live a normal life too. And what is he a warrior of ?

[@tanveechoudhary417]

That guy looked scared when she revealed she was 23 when he guessed 27 😂😂

[@stillthinking3740]

who wouldnt be lol

[@leaholiver9418]

She looks way older that 23 tbt

[@wilbeugre]

They're so cute. Hopefully they'll have a happily ever after ☺️

[@waynedyer8786]

You're black don't ever say a guy is cute

[@victoriaschwutke9765]

Wayne Dyer wtf?? Racist and homophobic in one?

[@sushisushi4100]

omg her "hi" when they first saw each other 😍 i felt that hard! I GOT BUTTERFLIES

[@vietanh178]

The director's supposed to say "Don't speak" when they say hi 😂 lol

[@tracietaggart3051]

They are adorable together! I think, well-matched, because he seems calm and her with getting stressed...

[@lou-louwills7816]

Love these episodes!! And she's stunning

[@g0mi-baka]

I'm an introvert, and honestly almost everything Travis says I resonate with. My goal for this year was to go out more, make more connections. I spend 99% of my time at home and by myself, and it's so hard to break that barrier sometimes

[@kr9256]

oh well done for picking 2 equally matched in attractiveness partners - ya see it worked well!

[@kevinchapman148]

Man stfu. There’s always someone talkin about equal attractiveness on this. Like move somewhere with ur insecurities

[@berlinwall6674]

Ehhh maybe without the man bun

[@ChristineAndFriends1]

Yesss the update!!! SoulPancake is finally listening to the viewers

[@maureenzeufack5185]

It was so great to finally see a pairing that was so well matched! Looking forward to seeing more like this! :)

[@alexisnicolemakeup8288]

Okay she is beeeeautiful

[@lemurluver12]

This made me smile so hard I love her laugh and she's gorgeous!!! He seems like such a genuine, real guy with so much to say

[@thisisnotyou7478]

He is so softly spoken, I love it

[@lifeisgood5681]

She looks older than 23; the guy looks younger than 29

[@beigelover95]

I thought she was 29! im 23 and she does not look my age at all lol

[@lifeisgood5681]

Iqra Qaali I’m 29 and u would think she’s older than me or same age

[@rddtdx444444ex]

@@beigelover95 She's just had that model look due to her high cheekbones and nice looking jawline.. If you don't have that than :( :( :( Having a child look is bad especially if you're a guy..

[@beigelover95]

@@rddtdx444444ex im a girl lol

[@Sana-dm4pn]

She has a manly face which is odd since most Latinas look younger than white women, usually

[@cdcotr]

It was nice that they each added clarifications and expounded more on their answers on the other person's answers. Shows genuine interest and willingness to really participate in the process. Hope they do give it a go.

[@suryapratha]

She has an authentic smile and her eyes will melt away any sorrow or sadness - she is ethereal in every sense of the word

[@mvf80]

Sabrina is absolutely stunning! Her smile is amazing. She smiles with her eyes and I love that.

[@glee_again2594]

He seemed to taken by her when they were talking. They would be so cute together.

[@ailanthusia]

Travis is cute☺️

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

From the beginning, I can see that they already have this great chemistry. I'm happy to hear that they agreed for the date. I hope everything works fine for them because they are a great match.

[@GhEttOEthi0pianAnGel]

He seems so mellow & she’s so bubbly and outgoing . Idk if it’ll mix

[@anewloveofficial9137]

It's great to know that they both agree that keeping it secret to your partner is not good because it is one of the biggest mistakes you could ever do to your relationship and I would love to know what's the update of these two people but I just hope they get closer.

[@mollysstuff7906]

The man bun thing was on POINT!

[@barnaliadhikary9421]

The girl is just so good....like her persona. What a smile! God bless you.

[@cahidijoyoraharjo7833]

Finally! One that matches and clicks! Although I'm not so sure anymore after seeing the update.

[@namechange.136]

I love these. Thank you for another one.

[@shaunphan9039]

I knew these two will hit it off after the first few questions. They are both the opposite personality and that's what make a great couple.

[@ChicWithMique]

They are so cute and bubbly together! 😍

[@cegledylea1995]

They're a great match, can't wait for the follow up when they announce their wedding 😂

[@mcook6005]

Good job, SP!! This was lovely.

[@nyamburambugua9246]

Every body needs privacy and has SOME secrets, regardless of the relationship.

[@massdestruction3777]

she is so cool... and positive And expressive

[@mjane1717]

Shoulder to shoulder at the en omg what a connection!

[@Bcdf-ei9el]

They are both very spiritual and philosophical! Great pair!

[@thechildofgodpodcast116]

I'm in with this girls smile, seriously so sweet, I hope when I find a woman that she has one like that

[@alanabrogan8534]

I wanna sit in the middle of this conversation. When she talked about how she accepts everyone i started to cry

[@kachissalazar3070]

Her voice is sooo satisfying and calm ❤️

[@ElizabethMerritt]

5:30 BRO! I’ve never been able to put it into words but THIS IS IT

[@tayloreverett1508]

she’s so pretty! she gives off old school vintage vibes for some reason...

[@isabellabarbarella5250]

I relate to the guy so much. Just because I’m not talking doesn’t mean I’m shy I’m just comfortable listening. Finally someone gets it

[@Katerina-wj2ct]

His calmness is very sexy and her bubbly personality is fun, so I think this was a pretty good match

[@chinchukwu9174]

i completely agree 100% with his take on introverts.

[@orionlilavo]

I love how excited she got when she first saw him haha much love!

[@aayushi2866]

I like their personalities a lot. This is actually a good match!

[@queentinatan2410]

i need new “in love or not” vids soulpancakeee ❤️

[@Cutiereadsalot]

I've reawatched this and i'm like can we please have a catch up episode with them to see if it worked or if if they went on that date , they're so cute together and sabrina is gorgeous

[@nishantrao5600]

This guy gets what being an introvert is like, and this girl understands the power of being able to think for yourself and be individualistic. Love 'em both. :')

[@rebeccans7729]

sabrina is so beautiful and her personality matches which makes her even more stunning and i loved travis' quiet confidence i hope they meet up again

[@Amandeerr]

How cute are these two!! We need an update!!

[@user-so1ht1ll5d]

They look soo natural and comfortable sitting near each other. A really good match. Why haven't they yet met? >

[@desktop3d]

Sabrina seems to have a beautiful soul. I enjoyed meeting her.

[@emilyvera8538]

I'm so charmed by both of them, calm and beautiful souls❤❤

[@EboJ13]

First look: she is gorgeous and he's handsome. I enjoyed their conversation. I hope they actually go out and we get an update.

[@NiaPgn]

Im so glad they both said yes!!!! So cute! Wish them the best!

[@gretaumunozakayigema9764]

This is one of my favorite tell my story... chemistry was there!

[@sibongakonkekhuzwayo7581]

This guy hit the jackpot!

[@Rose-mw9yl]

I totally can relate to this guy. I always got called shy and it kinda just made me wanna not talk to others even more. I would become what people thought of me but now I just try to be myself and push aside those opinions of me.

[@leesilva9597]

I really REALLY like them together!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@smalik4854]

shes so pretty like a rose

[@lucias7167]

he is so cute! she is pretty, but he is so my type...well i didn't think he was at all, but my mind is changed.

[@BelindaJoy]

Great conversation, I am very much like Sabrina in that I am both an Introvert and Extrovert. I get that. I may be easy to talk to and can approach anyone at any time, but that is because I am not shy. But my life, beliefs and personality are definitely introverted. Very few people really know me. This was one of my more favorite segments, because I can relate to this couple so well.

[@growngrowingdorry7985]

Please soul pancake..we need updates with this guys..love them..they are all soo cute..like if u agree

[@nicelagirl]

You could tell they were feeling each other as soon as they opened their eyes! Her reaction of pure elation was hilarious! So cute!

[@theelolicious9302]

FINALLY!! All the last couples were rejecting each other but i’m glad these two said yes

[@milaniinalim3357]

Beautiful people ❤️❤️❤️

[@sarahravenscroft1355]

I love these two!

[@andresr5847]

ayyy 2 genuine ppl, wishing them luck!

[@chrizzygoesoriginal]

Sabrina is gorgeous and Travis has a cool aura, I hope they make it work😍🌺

[@Sidrellah]

this is my fave one so far, it looks like they're in a rom com

[@allybeckwith2530]

Las Vegas represent!! :)