Doctor Reacts: CHAOTIC Gynecology TikToks

Thesen gynecology-related medical TikToks are so chaotic - today we're breaking them down and hopefully laughing AND learning.
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[@cutemuffins3567]

Did you see the pregnant woman in Texas that got a ticket for driving in the carpool lane and she is fighting it because according to Texas law her baby is a person.

[@kristalburns3490]

If this is true I hope she wins.

[@joeyk9441]

That's amazing, I hope she wins

[@kristyswift3028]

@@kristalburns3490 it's 100% true.

[@cutemuffins3567]

Her name is Brandy Bottone if anyone wants to look her up.

[@jelatinosa]

Amazing! 🙌👏 Smart lady.

[@EchoAshbell]

This reminded me of when I got denied sterilization. Had two kids, was in a long-term relationship, was over 25. Got denied because "what if the next guy wants kids?" An imaginary man controlled my uterus long before Roe got overturned 😒

[@abBensch]

Ugh, that is so gross. Here's what keeps coming into my head--- organs/ blood/ tissues can only be donated with consent. Even if the doner is dead, and the potential recipient will absolutely die without a donation, they can't take anything without consent of the family or the doner before death. This sends me a very clear message: I have more bodily autonomy as a corpse than I do as a living woman.

[@laurastradling-cloete6808]

I was told the same thing by a female doctor in South Africa. Its a messed up system all over the world.

[@52flyingbicycles]

Honestly, theoretical future boyfriend should be thanking you. If he “absolutely yes” wants kids, you two are incompatible for long term dating. You can break up sooner and cleaner, or even screen each other out of your dating pools altogether. No harm no foul. If he’s a fence sitter or lean yes, seriously dating you is a route to no kids. If he doesn’t like that, he can leave. No amount of negotiation or “trying to change her” is gonna untie those tubes. Saves both of you the trouble. And if he’s lean no or absolute no, there is zero ambiguity on future children so auto-check that box for compatibility. He doesn’t have to go through the ordeal of a partner that definitely wants children.

[@EchoAshbell]

@@52flyingbicycles I never did get my tubes tied and theoretical future boyfriend did end up happening. He wants kids but is incredibly sympathetic towards my fear of another pregnancy crippling me. I have severe back and hip problems due to my last pregnancy. Whether it's my severe depression or the possibility of not having the kids he wants, his answer is always "I signed up for this when I decided to date you."

[@wildwytch]

@@laurastradling-cloete6808 fellow South African, I just turned 25 and I'm getting a subtotal hysterectomy on Thursday. No kids, my boyfriend wasn't mentioned much, and his opinion was mostly ignored. I did have to write a pms-induced cranky page-long email to the gyne for her to review it with her peers but it can be done. It just takes fighting really hard and finding the right doctor. It shouldn't have to be that hard though.

[@Simon-hb9rf]

personally i think the "women cant get pregnant unless they orgasm" was the result of an excellent PR campaign by medieval wives.

[@num1pyrogurl]

lets be real if this was true there would be a lot less people being born X'D

[@TheJasonBorn]

It was specifically, if they want to have a male heir. Totally played into their male ego. The implication being they aren't doing it right and being lazy about sex if all they are having is daughters.

[@tokiobabe99]

You know, I've heard that the chances of pregnancy in general are higher if the woman orgasms, so maybe we should continue to tell people this now.

[@JhericFury]

I've also heard that research suggests orgasms help people get pregnant. But all I'm saying is that if I was (somehow) responsible for peer reviewing research to that effect that was poorly done, I'd rubber stamp it just because it would make a better world.

[@Horticarter41]

Nope. It's waaaaaay older than the middle ages. It was a belief going back all the way to before the common era.

[@dotdotdot...176]

"You can't abort a pregnancy if you're not pregnant." I can't believe you had to explain this 🙄💀 Grown people in the law are disappointing...

[@coffeeandhorses7991]

Those law makers (bunch of old men) sex ed comes from the 1950's!. They are dinosaurs. So horrifying that they are making decisions only an individual should be able to make for themselves.

[@annapatton4544]

More like incompetent. And we rely on them, trusting them to be competent in other important questions. Scary to think, but what if the majority of them are just as ignorant on other topics they make laws about.

[@kristinyt]

I think the problem is that there is a medical term (which is very accurate) and then there is a general word used by public (not trained professionals). And there is where the differences can be seen and where it causes problems. Because "abortion" for dr. Jones is a medical term. While for the broad public is a word that means "killing babies". And while neither here are right or wrong, you just have to make sure when speaking with other person what meaning they have in mind. Like one would say that baby is only when it is born, the other would argue (like the man in beginning) that "baby" is a baby since the moment ova and sperm meet and then there a medical definition of a baby which is important to medical professionals. Hence for that man in the video any contraception is a form of abortion. And while he is technically correct (if you have in mind that he does not use medical terms here) he is absolutely wrong if you think that he uses medical terms. I'm really surprised that people here are fighting about terms. Leave medical terms for professionals, because they need to be precise. Regular people can use whatever language they want. Terminology is not an issue. OPINIONS are. Especially when someone says that you should have a baby when you do not want to.

[@annapatton4544]

@@kristinyt one would think, politicians should know the difference between terminology and opinion and when using terminology, they better be correct.

[@kristinyt]

@@annapatton4544 yeah, absolutely, it is ok not to know terminology but it is not ok to use a certain word as term even though you use it wrong.

[@ckdraws410]

As a Christian, I find it ludicrous that the court is creating such an intersection of church and state. If they were enforcing the beliefs of any other major religion, conservatives would be absolutely flipping out rather than celebrating

[@carrieflood4265]

Same here. Most people of the Jewish faith don't believe life begins at conception. Forcing religious beliefs on others who don't share those same beliefs goes against everything the founders of this country intended.

[@ckee8437]

Right, we can't even agree between denominations so why do we get to tell people what to do

[@westzed23]

Both Muslims and Jews are able to have abortions within a certain time. If a Muslim or a Jew wants an abortion, isn't that interfering in their religious rights If they are denied having an abortion. I am not from the US, but I am so confused about separation of church and state. The founding fathers were mostly humanists and did not want any religion declared as a national religion. This is what confuses me, when fundamental Christians state that America is Christian. So confused.

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

The rule of republicans is: rules for thee, not for me! Remember it.

[@Basilissa_Sunight]

@@westzed23 Sadly for so many people religion is not just religion but part of our culure, our fundamental beliefs, our roots and ancestry and so many others bullshit. I am not from the US but Italy and we have the Pope literally in our capital so it's quite complicated for everyone to remember that RELIGIOUS AND POLITICS ARE TWO SEPARATE MATTERS.

[@fourcatsandagarden]

One unaddressed issue with the debates on legislative floors is that the people defending women's healthcare are often really bad at it because they are also old white men who don't know what they're talking about and haven't put in the effort to really learn. Women need to be allowed to speak on the topics that directly affect them!

[@TheCatLady65]

Well said!

[@coagulantLegume]

i feel like there's a cheatcode here with old white trans men that we should really be tapping into.

[@B.H.56]

But I don't like the signs that say "No uterus - no opinion". There are plenty of anti-abortion WOMEN who would be happy to impose their opinion on other women's uteruses. (uteri?)

[@littleshedevl]

Yes! Omg! 100% agree

[@hoeasy127]

Btw this isn't women's healthcare because getting pregnant has nothing to do with being a woman! Lots of men and nonbinary people get pregnant too, and lots of women can't get pregnant.

[@MorwenAncalime]

Medievalist here! Medieval reproductive medicine was generally derived from classical (ancient Greek) reproductive medicine, which did in fact include the idea that woman had to orgasm in order for a fetus to be created. More specifically, the female reproductive system was essentially believed to be the inverse of the male reproductive system; both had to "ejaculate" / eject "semen" for reproduction to occur. (Though there was continual debate on whether the uterus / ovaries actually contributed during initial formation of the fetus. Some believed that their main function was nutrition of the growing fetus.) Classical medicine was strangely right in odd ways and wildly wrong in many other ways. If anyone's interested in learning more about this, I recommend looking up Soranus and Galen - they were two of the biggest sources of anatomical and physiological knowledge in the West before the early modern (Renaissance) period.

[@that_auntceleste5848]

@evewasframed, this is awesome, thanks for sharing your knowledge

[@evelynjenkins4456]

God, of all the outdated medical stuff/myths we have still circulating among the public and doctors, why couldn't we have kept the orgasm one??

[@seventhsip]

Ooh, and may I recommend Sawbones (podcast) to you? It's about medical history and they usually mention the medieval period

[@ingav2156]

And IIRC this „knowledge“ about how you need to have an orgasm in order to get pregnant was not really all that empowering for women. It more worked in ways like - well, she got pregnant, therefore she had an orgasm, therefore she enjoyed the whole thing and therefore it could not have been rape.

[@slideshowgurl]

You beat me to it! I wrote that comment above before I saw yours.

[@michellemahar9030]

I needed this today! I have had doctor mistreat me about a lot of gyno issue. I had a hysterectomy after my last baby (my doctor treated horribly, wouldn't do it without my husband's permission, would not medicate me for pain after surgery, and kept me on the floor with new moms so I got to hear the jinglr go off every time there was a new baby). I have been so stressed about Roe v. Wade. I have daughters. I don't want them to go through what I did. From the accusations of being pregnant when I wasn't sexually active (I had ovarian cysts that put me in the hospital multiple times) from having my first OB with my first baby tell me she was just small (and not about the one umbilical artery, brain cyst or IUGR. That baby was born at 29 weeks and she lived six days). I was flat out told that having another baby was more important than my life after almost bleeding to death with my second. I had a hard pregnancy with my last. I have been so afraid because I don't know what to do. Hearing a sane doctor talk about this stuff helps.

[@paolagrando5079]

I'm really sorry to hear what you had to go through. Any chance that a friend can suggest you a different doctor?

[@michellemahar9030]

@@paolagrando5079 this was a few doctors over several years. I have a better doctor now.

[@jengsci8268]

Michelle Mahar - Jah, they just don't get it! If you are under 35 and unless you already have children (whether you wanted them or not) Doctors are, to say the very least, "hesitant" to tie tubes or do a hysterectomy even in the cases of endometriosis. Bahstards! Pro-life my patootie!

[@paolagrando5079]

@@michellemahar9030 glad to hear that. 💜

[@charliebrown1184]

I am so sorry you had to go through that, and very glad to hear you now have a doctor who listens and cares about your health.

[@roche320]

That tampon = sexually active story reminds me of my mother's reaction to my dermatologist wanting to put me on birth control at 16 for my skin. My mother was very "involved" and came to all appointments, and she said I can't take it because my father doesn't agree with it at my age. I guess there's an assumption that being on birth control means you are just going to sleep around. She said I mustn't even mention the recommendation for BC to him. He insisted that I get my acne fixed at my age, and I ended up going on Accutane for two years with no change. My mother did almost have a heart attack when the dermatologist asked if I was sexually active and explained the risks. When I turned 18 and got my own BC prescription my skin cleared up in 2 weeks.

[@victoriaxd789]

God, how frustrating

[@elizabethm7163]

Your dad sounds very toxic

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

@@elizabethm7163 Honestly, it sounds like the mom was blaming the dad for her toxicity.

[@megsmith6758]

My mum is a midwife and is very supportive so I’m very lucky in that sense. When the pill didn’t work, she helped me get an appointment with one of her fellow doctors to talk about the coil. They explained I couldn’t have the implant due to low bone density but the coil did wonders for my medical conditions.

[@nerf_or_nothin9551]

I take BC to help control my irregular periods. I find it funny how people are so invested in other people's sex life...

[@MoodCandy79]

Me just now realizing I absorbed a twin and would be a criminal to some people, cause you know someone would ACTUALLY argue that 🤣

[@rosa3299]

Damn, it was nice meeting you. But don't worry I will give you cake that has something special inside to help you escape. Wink wink.

[@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans]

Two of my mothers pregnancies failed, and I’ve been born after them By that logic, am I a criminal too? 😰

[@babotond]

aren't all pregnancies geriatric? it's a tiny person in a nursing home with no hair and no teeth eats through a straw and can't walk.

[@Mel.H_]

HAHAHA

[@shota7483]

Geriatric pregnancy refers to the mother. Not the baby. But that's a funny description. I can see how you would think that, lol.

[@withelisa]

Thank you

[@HaizeyWings]

Lolllll

[@imsmolandangery4274]

"When life begins" the egg and the sperm are both living cells before they meet. It's an arbitrary line that has should have no effect on people's rights

[@TerrieES]

Right? If they think otherwise, try inseminating someone with sperm that have been microwaved.

[@dibsdibs3495]

Yeah but I suppose it’s a two halves make a whole argument

[@Nenthil]

@@dibsdibs3495 Sure they may have only have of human genetic material but still they are functioning LIVING cells. It's like telling people without legs that they are not human because the bottom of their body is missing.

[@laartje24]

Careful or they might make it illegal to shed your skin cells

[@dibsdibs3495]

@@Nenthil that’s not a great comparison, that person is still the same person. Sperm and egg separately are meaningless. The question is when is the life considered one that is morally wrong to end?

[@Selena1010]

The scary thing is, when you think about it, that lawmakers are this ignorant about MANY THINGS!!!! Not just women’s health

[@cashmoney4978]

Exactly

[@NZTanzya]

I know right, and it is like, why do we keep voting in some of the dumbest people on the planet but I guess sane/smart people do not want the job - lol (It is universal BTW - from NZ)

[@abowman2580]

My niece's mom was 36 when she gave birth and they used the term geriatric pregnancy the whole time. She was.... less than thrilled about it

[@staceyhunt6769]

And there was me explaining the average life expectancy to my 4 year old today and how until you're about 3/4 into it you aren't old, just older than those younger than you (Because me and his father being 26 got told this week we'll be grandma's on our next birthdays! 🤣). I'm hoping to have a 4th when I hit 30 so my current littles (4.5, just turned 3 and 18 months) can get the focus they need first, then look into very permanent birth control (Hemorrhaged BAD with the first 2, and periods last a solid 2.5 weeks of heavy bleeding, if I'm not waiting for more babies I don't want the parts screwing me over!). I forget 30 is considered old in pregnancy sometimes. 🙄🤣

[@justanotherclaud]

Yeah my 37 year old friend kept hearing that from her doctor during her pregnancy

[@StephanieThompson07]

New Zealand uses advanced maternal age.

[@theassassinnox]

I just went through my geriatric pregnancy this year at 36/37. It's not great on morale. Heh.

[@miaomiaochan]

As someone who is currently 36, this comment made me die a little inside.

[@ThatRomyKate]

Snorted my tea at the “no, they kill the animals and put their heads over the fireplace” 😆

[@Leena79]

I'm firmly pro-choice, and thankfully living in a country where I can have an abortion, if necessary. I don't think anyone decides to have an abortion for trivial reasons - being forced to birth a baby can be a tragedy for someone without the necessary support, and a pregnancy can be life threatening for the mother in many more ways than just through complications during pregnancy. The way to prevent abortions is not to ban them, but to add sex education to school curriculums from an earlier age, to make contraception readily available and affordable, to create an environment where a kid can have a safe adult to talk to about possible abuse, and improve social support so no-one has to resort to sex work or abusive relationships to get food on their plate. Seeing old, wealthy white men talk about when life begins should really start learning about why sometimes abortion is the life-saving route, and why trlling women to keep their legs crossed is not a viable option.

[@Stephinachan13]

In a mom group I am in, there was one mom who was 17 weeks pregnant... she found out gender and asked the group if she could get an abortion because she didn't want to have a boy/girl (i forget what it was ... because it shouldn't matter, you should love the baby regardless) and if she was being too dramatic. And OMG, the comments did NOT disappoint, absolutely EVERYONE thought she was being dramatic and was being absolutely heartless. Gender disappointment is very real and not even a horrible thing in itself, but I don't think prior to that post that I had ever heard someone even THINKING of terminating a pregnancy just because of what was between the fetus' legs. I myself was shocked when I found out I was having a girl, not disappointed just shocked/surprised, because I had such a strong gut feeling I was going to have a boy. Here abortion is available up until 19 weeks, but I do not think any sane person would seek out an abortion by CHOICE, or just because the weren't getting the gender they wanted, that far along without some serious medical concern. Within just a couple hours the OP deleted her anonymous, I really hope having all those mom's come at her woke her up to how crazy she was sounding/being.

[@torroberts6622]

I agree, if you don't want an abortion don't have one but that doesn't give you the right to dictate what I chose to do❤️ I worry about all these future children who are born to parents who don't want them what sort of life are they going to live? Are there not already enough unwanted children living the most horrible life 😥

[@vlmellody51]

Hallelujah!

[@alexdye7194]

agreed

[@anniejuan1817]

@@torroberts6622 There is a statistically proven correlation between bans on abortion, and an uptick in crime about 18 -25 years later. Bans on abortion have a negative effect on society.

[@GlaciesYin]

People keep going "when do embryo's become people?!" and I just wanna look them in the eye and ask "when do pregnant people not become people? when are they suddenly not allowed to decide what happens to their own bodies?" All the best to yall in USA, please take care.

[@abBensch]

Blood, organs, and tissues can not be removed from my corpse to save the life of someone else unless given consent by me or my family. I have more autonomy dead than I do living.

[@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans]

BOOST more ppl need to see this!

[@Christina-xc7on]

Yes, they are full people not incubators!

[@AgentPedestrian]

I think the answer is never and that that's kind of the whole impetus of the legislation

[@rushiasingsfasola]

Thanks for asking, your body has DNA, my body has DNA. Believe it or not, a fetus has DNA that is not identical to the "own body" that you speak of. Me having different DNA doesn't make you not a person, you having different DNA than me doesn't make me not a person. Either way, I can't stop you from simply being on the grounds that "I get to decide what I do with the finger I have on my pistol". Hope this helps!

[@alchemistcannon]

I suffer from intense episodes of derealization/depersonalization. The last thing my mental state can handle is pregnancy. Thankfully my husband got his vasectomy done last year, but the recent vulnerability is really doing a number on me. I've had panic attacks just thinking of getting pregnant. But no one will tie my tubes because "I'm not sure it's what I really want." or so I've been told. Being forced into a pregnancy would surely push me over the edge.

[@kaylaarmitage525]

I actually got a bilateral salpendectomy (got both of my Fallopian tubes removed) at 25 and no kids thanks to the childfree subreddit. The list of doctors that they provide and update is incredibly helpful and thankfully my health insurance covered the entire procedure and pain medications for me. I am very grateful for the doctor I had - she was no-nonsense but a nice lady :)

[@SwiftTelly20]

If only I could get my baby making equipment removed or made useless for free, then I definitely would. I’m 31 and don’t want kids. I’d say I’m glad I’m British, but you can’t get elective surgeries on the NHS😞I can’t afford to get it done privately either FFS😩I don’t care where I am in the world if I find out I’m pregnant (shouldn’t actually be possible cuz of the daily pill I take, but…) if I did end up pregnant, you bet I’m looking for somewhere to get an abortion! I don’t want a criminal record, but screw the shitty law makers who think they can’t say what I can and can not do with MY body!😡 Love MDJs channel/content 💖👍.

[@gremlininblue2601]

I only went on the childfree subreddit once and left because of the hate for kids. I don't want kids, but that doesn't mean I dislike or hate them, I have six younger siblings and enjoy spending time with them as their big sister. The hatred for innocent kids I saw there made me instantly despise that subreddit, it's not like it was the kids' choice to be born

[@anonymousMist]

OK...so after my husband was listening to this contraception/abortion "debate", I just had to explain to him ovulation and the cause of periods. Sigh, I thought he had all that covered. We need to do more to educate or guys

[@mellie4174]

They don't care to learn and purposely ignore it when presented with the information.

[@anonymousMist]

@@mellie4174 well he was very grateful and proceeded to tell another guy friend of his who was also lost in the sauce. So we can't paint them all with the same brush that they don't care

[@sounsure9108]

Mine has a biology degree and understands the science but not sure it makes sense to him still

[@beardiemom]

I had to explain to both my husband and my male best friend that PMS is not the same as menopause when I mentioned that I believed that the reason my ADHD was getting so much worse the week before alongside me just being very tired was PMS (After asking some friends who also have ADHD and are afab) and both asked me: "Aren't you a little young to get that?" They're both American, I'm German. And it is baffling to me that Americans don't even learn the absolute basics of reproductive health for both sexes.

[@jeffreyk4345]

Step 1. Stop marrying people that don't understand basic biology.

[@Elysia_Fields]

My *former* OBGYN calls pregnancies after 35 years old "geriatric pregnancies", and when she said that phrase to me when I was 35, I had an anxiety attack. She's in her 60s, so it's been several decades since she was training, but dang. For a variety of reasons (including not respecting boundaries), I will never again darken the doorstep of her office.

[@RennieGirlReads]

My sister had a baby 3 years ago at 38, and I think all through her pregnancy was call that as well. Plus, all the doctors and staff were fairly young.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Yeah my OBGYN said I'm in "advanced maternal age" which made me feel old still -_- I'm turning 36 in September.

[@SL-gz3dy]

This just means you have more risks. It's not to make you feel bad.

[@jbax5521]

I was deemed a geriatric pregnancy 10 years ago at age 29. I have a health condition that meant I couldn’t give birth naturally and I had to continue taking my medication throughout the pregnancy. I was shocked when I saw the word on my paperwork but maybe doctors use it when a pregnancy is more high risk? Not saying it’s right though.

[@jenwalker4835]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and have been referred to as a geriatric pregnancy by my (

[@evientually]

I live in the south, and I got my tubes tied a year ago with no kids and no say so from a spouse. Since the overturn of Roe v Wade I've been giving out my obgyn's info like a 60s junkie giving out a script writer's name. It's still not anywhere near as common as it should be to find a doctor that will respect the autonomy of the patient. If they happen to be AFAB. Can't imagine how it is being trans. She made it as easy as possible too, handled all the Medicaid issues for me, asked me some basic questions and (as she had already seen me before and knew my history) showed me the paperwork to sign. We had to wait 30 days from that signature, she didn't make another freakin' appointment, she just scheduled the procedure for the first day she had in OR after that before I left the office, told me to call if I had questions or needed clarification, and 34 days after the paperwork I was spooking the anesthesia techs with how much medicine they had to give me to knock me out. 😊 But that's every surgery I have.

[@marylu2216]

I had the nurses assistants ask me if my "baby daddy" was in the picture because I looked too young to them I guess and gasped when I told them I was 35.😂 YET, I was considered geriatric too.🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Oh and they all turned red when I showed them my wedding rings and said, "oh you mean my husband, the father of both my babies??"🤨😂

[@ah5721]

I was 25 first time pregnant 6 months and big. I was clearly wearing my wedding bands . someone asked me what high school around the area I graduated from .. . not in my home state . I told them I'd graduated in year ___ and from another high school in __ state . Their shock when they did the math was priceless and they tried to back peddle saying I looked so young ! (guess the no smoking, drinking and healthy lifestyle is paying off) it still was weird.

[@ricequin]

I love how passionately you speak on the abortion issue.

[@SortOfAdulting]

Geriatric pregnancy here - had a baby 2 months after I turned 35. Geriatric was used to me at least weekly at each appointment. 😅😅😅 It was humbling!

[@saraannjohnston3839]

Yup was used during my pregnancy also.

[@annabees]

At... 35?! Whaaaaat XD

[@danyeldoyle9685]

Same for me.

[@FrootLoopKicker]

My second child is due exactly one month before my 35th birthday. On my records, it has maternal age at delivery as 34.9, which all of the personnel seem to get a kick out of. "Oh, sneaking in right under the geriatric line!"

[@catatemyname7801]

It's so messed up. I live in Germany, and also had my first baby two months after turning 35, and the only thing it got me was better healthcare and more tests paid for by insurance to account for certain risks being higher at that age. but no one ever made any comments about it. To contrast this, I was born in Russia, and there, any woman after 30 who gives birth is flat-out called "old-birther". I didn't know there was a stigma against it in the US as well.

[@tarat53]

5:33 The Turnaway Study did a ton of research over 10 years on the adverse lifelong repercussions that happened to women who were denied a wanted abortion. The results and facts are heartbreaking, but undeniable.

[@jennifermcdonald2402]

I'm actually a medical coder in the US and though I've heard the term "geriatric pregnancy" used by clinicians, in the coding world (ICD-10-CM), it actually codes out to "elderly multigravida" or "elderly primigrivada." And in most of the clinics I code for, they use the term "advanced maternal age." I'm not sure if it's any nicer, but just wanted to share the information I have!

[@jennifermcdonald2402]

@@a.a.erd.977 omg 😂 I've been reading all these comments about this and I'm honestly stunned. It just seems so rude to say it like that!

[@breeb2638]

Interesting! In my experience terms like advanced maternal age seem to be more accepted here in Australia, in actual practice (i.e. clinical notes, handover). But a lot of our course materials in B.Nursing+/-Midwifery will still use archaic terms like "geriatric pregnancy", despite being timely materials. It's strange!

[@annapatton4544]

@@breeb2638 I wish I could translate you accurately the term doctors use in russia for pregnant women over 30, but it is not possible to express the way it is. It sort of means "elderly woman giving birth", sounds very offensive, but it is an official term.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

"AMA" still sounds old though and it sucks lol.

[@evientually]

"Primigravida" sounds like a really catchy Spanish language song.

[@quintecence]

Issues my mum still deals with after I was born 26 and ½ years ago... Diabetes, hypertension, anemia, torn abdominal muscles which can cause/exasperate back pain.. these old white dudes pretend like pregnancy is easy but it's all work.. I'm just glad I'm from the UK so my mum is actually looked after for her medical needs without needing to pay an arm and a leg - literally (bad diabetes joke)

[@mellie4174]

American here. So true. I now reside in France and once i have the nationality I'll be giving up my American nationality because my country disgusts me so

[@onceuponamelody]

I had a salpingectomy recently (I'm 32 and unmarried for context), and while my doctor and clinic nurses were AMAZING, my doctor did caution me to be careful about what I said during check-in and after my surgery at the hospital in case the nurses or the anesthesiologist had any religious misgivings. So, while many OBGYNS are very accommodating, we still have to be careful with other medical staff. It's ridiculous that we in the U.S. live in a "free" country in the 21st century and still can't escape unwanted religious dogma.

[@Christina-xc7on]

The audacity of some random nurse/unrelated provider to potentially interfere with YOUR perfectly safe care because of THEIR personal feelings 🙄

[@lizard3755]

I hope everything went well! I've had a hydrosalpinx for about two years now that we've been monitoring, and I'm planning on asking my OB about getting a salpingectomy at my next appointment because things have gotten more uncomfortable. The closest thing to surgery I've had before was just getting my wisdom teeth removed, so if my doctor thinks surgery would be a safe call I'm not sure what to expect

[@shakiahsb3896]

I believe these Law makers should always have Medical Professionals (or any professional depending on the field they are creating the law in) to explain knowledge in that specific field eg. OBGYN for discussions on Abortion Laws; not to persuade the person but to at least have the general terminology and procedures explained to them. This goes for any law regarding very specific professions but especially medicine because that's people literal lives.

[@pjk1714]

You would think that would help, but depending on personal beliefs and location, could make end result worse.

[@Basilissa_Sunight]

@@pjk1714 Sadly I agree. In Italy we have an abortion law and recently it was made easier to get the "day after" pill and yet SO - MANY - CLINICS turned semi-private over the years and when I say semi-private I mean RELIGIOUS private! So OBGYN MUST NOT provide abortion if they don't want to be fired (or if they ever wish to work elsewhere); and of course the right parties want to surf on the wave of the US Supreme Court which is just 🤬🤬🤬

[@dollhousemakr]

The problem is that these old men have their beliefs and don't care about facts or anyone else's opinions but their own. Trying to teach them anything would just fall on deaf ears.

[@johannaleopold2612]

It should be a mix between legal professionals (to make sure any suggested law is in-line with higher ranking law) & subject matter experts, I agree. If all laws were made that way, I think we'd have much better laws. I also want the same for politicians tbh. If someone is the minister for health for example, it has to be a doctor.

[@ah5721]

@@johannaleopold2612 fun fact many law makers used to be lawyers so thats sticky

[@Miss-Anne-Thrope]

A lot of those 'pro life' people are also against free, or at least affordable, health care in general, do they not see the dichotomy? 🤦‍♀️ Also, about getting tubes tied.. I've been asking to get that done for a long time but am still considered too young, like I might regret it... I'm 34 FFS! How would an unwanted pregnancy and termination be any less traumatic?? I'm also not allowed because I haven't had any kids, but I want to keep it that way which is why I want my bloody tubes tied! Hormones play havoc with my mental and physical health so my last option is to have the copper coil. If I had my way I'd get my uterus removed, I'm fed up of the agro it causes! Still, only another 20 odd years until the joyous time of the menopause... 🙄 Bit of a rant sorry! I've had awful trouble with my lady parts and haven't been able to see the gynae for 2 years because of covid and I'm pretty PO'd!

[@user-sv7ub3fd5w]

So frustrating!! We should be able to make decisions about our bodies! The doctor could have an opinion about what we're requesting, but in the end should do what we're asking for, as we are the ones who have to live inside ourselves every moment of every day. Good grief...it's so frustrating!

[@AndiNewtonian]

When I was in my 20s, my gyno flat out refused to tie my tubes because I " was too young and didn't have kids and [I'd] change my mind!" He yelled (yes, literally yelled) that every time he tied a woman's tubes who was my age and didn't have kids, she ended up changing her mind and wanting him to undo it later, so he wasn't doing it anymore. End of discussion, he wouldn't even listen. Fast forward to me now in my 50s, still happily childless (yay for surprise early menopause, I guess). Also, a friend of mine had a baby six years ago. Her doctor told her she was a geriatric pregnancy. She was only in her mid-30s. I was livid on her behalf that they referred to it that way. But, yeah, apparently that term is still in use. Ugh.

[@jimrodarmel8512]

Hoping that gyno has all his patients "end the discussion" on HIM and walk right out of the office. Imagine yelling at your patients!

[@Christina-xc7on]

So surprised that doctors still give this excuse. With an informed consent process, how is this their fault/problem if someone regrets their choice? Still baffles me that this is a line of thinking that prevents so many people from making their own choices

[@ThornAmidstRoses]

Thank you for the shoutout to r/Childfree's doctor's list! That's where I was able to find an open-minded surgeon in my early 20's, solidly in my mid-30's now and zero regrets, only gratitude for finding a doctor who accepted my decision and my right to make it. :)

[@Alyssa684]

That list is amazing but I want to warn everyone that that subreddit is pretty extreme in their views and there’s a vocal minority who definitely just hates children. Like yea we all agree we don’t want our own, but some of them take it to an insane level.

[@liriodendronlasianthus]

My country is unfortunately not listed but a neighbouring one is listed. I'm getting my first IUD soon-ish, I might consider asking my doctor about tying my tubes. I do want kids eventually but I'm on a lot of medication that have contraindications with pregnancy. Edit: I got my IUD 🎉

[@gremlininblue2601]

@@Alyssa684 Yeah I only went there once and I left instantly because I was blasted in the face with hate for innocent kids. I don't want kids, but that does not = despising them to the disgusting level those asshats did. I have six younger siblings and if anybody ever talked about them the way those people were talking about kids I'd deck them

[@sweetexpressions320]

They gave me a hard time about letting me get my tubes tied after my 3rd pregnancy. Kept trying to talk me out of it. My daughter was a c-section so they tied my tubes after she was born. They did call the pregnancy a geriatric pregnancy as well as AMA advanced maternal age with her and her 2nd oldest brother (34 with that pregnancy) Facts leading to my decision to get them tied - I was 39 years old, I was on my 3rd cerclages so I knew there was nothing left to stitch with another pregnancy and I mentally could not deal with either another pregnancy loss or a micro preemie and I was just plain DONE having children. When I had my daughter, my oldest son was 18 - talk about spacing your kids far apart.

[@Starryeyes65]

My eldest is 35 youngest 15! I was 42 When my mirena coil failed!

[@hannahsenders6462]

My half sister was 25 when her baby brother was born.

[@candicewiggins166]

as a elderly/geriatric mom x 2 I hated seeing that on my paperwork and also had a 1 doctor refer to me as such during my pregnancies, most of my doctors( i saw all the doctors in the practice) told me that healthy mom equals healthy baby and my age actual gave my baby a better chance than the standard young teen mom that they saw regularly. the practice is based in a small very rural portion of the south so most moms are 17-19 for first time vs me at 37.

[@shojolove]

I’m in the US and we still use the term “Geriatric pregnancy” They try to tell me not to feel old when they say that.

[@a-ghost-named-Anna]

She lives in the US lmao

[@rioandlilismama]

@@a-ghost-named-Anna Dr. Jones does not currently live in the US, she currently lives in New Zealand, but yes, she is from the US.

[@tygrrv2]

They called mine advanced maternal age

[@shojolove]

@@a-ghost-named-Anna Yes and I’m sad for it 😭

[@OrWhatWeHave]

@@tygrrv2 yup we just say "AMA" in Australia as well, and it doesn't start til 38

[@MrsLiddell]

I’m in Oregon and when I had my first appointment this pregnancy they discussed that I’m not quite “geriatric” pregnancy because I turned 33 during my pregnancy 😂 there were a lot of things I didn’t like about that particular doctor in the office, luckily because she only works in office I don’t have to see her again 👏

[@ShayRenee]

Mine said I wasn't quite considered geriatric as well (also turned 33 during my pregnancy). I do actually like her, and maybe it was just a note with regard to billing for my doctor. But she definitely brought it up, even after my reproductive endocrinologist who helped me actually get pregnant assured me that I still have plenty of time if I want to have another baby (especially since the remaining embryos I've got on ice are from 32 year old me's eggs). But I assume if I do have another one and use the same OB, they'll consider me higher risk because I'll likely be 35 by then (plus I have gestational diabetes this time around).

[@marylyford4598]

I was just reading an article that showed up on my news feed about a pregnant woman in Texas that recieved a ticket for using the h.o.v. lane. She said since roe vs. Wade was overturned her unborn baby was the second person in the car. Therefore making her able to use the h.o.v. lane.

[@alicepotter8165]

I actually think that old man needs to look at the etiology of the word contraception.

[@jimrodarmel8512]

Etymology. Etiology is the cause of a disease or the study of causes. FYI, just intended to help.

[@bearbobby1]

I got my tubes tied at 23. My doctor said she was “only letting me” because it was after my third child, which I had a terribly hard pregnancy. Edit: I’m Canadian.

[@haileydawn1271]

I got a referral for my tubes to be tied and I’ve only had one child. I’m 27. I never had any pushback or “getting permission” 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m in Canada as well too and if your dr refuses to do a tubal they have to refer you to a dr who will.

[@bearbobby1]

@@haileydawn1271 the doctor who “allowed” it and did the procedure was my OB.

[@stames6678]

I’ve been trying for years now to get mine tied. I’m 35, no kids, no desire to ever have kids based on my man and I both having a genetic disorder that we don’t want to pass on. I’ve been told “but you might change your mind about having babies!” No, I won’t, my husband also doesn’t want them. Haven’t had any luck with any of my doctors, have an appointment next week with a new one. Fingers are crossed! 🤞

[@bearbobby1]

@@stames6678 best of luck! 🤞🏻

[@stames6678]

@@bearbobby1 thank you! We’re really hoping it goes well

[@taylormontana7]

My coworker is 45 and has a 3 year old and told me about her doctor referring to her pregnancy as a “geriatric pregnancy”. It still happens, this happened in Louisiana a few years ago. It’s really sad.

[@staceyhunt6769]

Honestly, I'm born and raised in the UK and whilst everything turns to absolute trash around me, the only real thing I feel like we have going for us is "At least we're not America..." Wishing so much love and strength to everyone over there.

[@missnaomi613]

I was born and raised in California, USA. (Not as bad for uterus-havers as some other states.) Um, yeah. Thank you for your well wishes. Things here really suck.

[@Ashely56]

Thank you for your well wishes it really sucks right now

[@mellie4174]

Sad but true. and hope you all manage to keep that distiction

[@harperthegreat]

It is butt over here so thank you for your condolences 🥲

[@allie5954]

I love how the two men are arguing about contraception and abortion. In the words of Rachel Greene: “No uterus, no opinion.”

[@emilyg.6639]

Roe was decided by mostly men.

[@allie5954]

@@emilyg.6639 that is correct. And what makes it even more disturbing that men have that much power over our bodies.

[@ghostface8671]

To make it even more disturbing, as though it was possible, one of these men is literally creating and making up definitions of pregnancy, abortion and contraception in order apply their personal beliefs onto women's bodies.

[@lannawolf1864]

No, our allies should have a voice too.

[@16poetisa]

Let's amend that slightly - "never had a uterus, no opinion" (some people get them removed)

[@nursemikole]

The New Zealand woman's tik toks with her accent and just everything SLAYED me 😅. Sadly true but funny, but sad. 😅

[@NZTanzya]

Weird accent - sounded more South African/Australian... perhaps a South Island thing? (Aucklander here) But definitely not normal Kiwi accent.

[@neewollahspirit]

She's not from New Zealand haha. She's from the US.

[@Kiki-cs8xv]

That's definitely not a New Zealand accent. It's just someone doing a strange imitation of a New Zealand accent.

[@mfanwelikeit3760]

She’s from the US but she is hilarious!

[@Mala_Mia1]

@@NZTanzya Whoa whoa whoa, don't even CLAIM that was Aussie sounding!!! Not even close! 🤣

[@jessicastevens5782]

glad you haven't encountered "geriatric pregnancy," but can assure you that it has been used multiple times by Dallas OB/Gyns in the last 8 years.

[@gingin324]

My ob constantly put "geriatric pregnancy" throughout my pregnancy and I was with one of the top hospitals in NYC in 2020. Lots of doctors still do it all the time. I was 35-36 while pregnant

[@LanHua711]

Hi, professional historian here. That first fact is a bit misleading, the belief was that a woman would not get pregnant if she did not want sex. That didn’t mean men actually went out of their way to make a woman orgasm and women would lie and say they did because if they didn’t they would be diagnosed with hysteria. Also, this belief had the added consequence of if a woman was raped and she got pregnant, then she must not have been raped because the resulting pregnancy was “evidence” that she wanted it.

[@rileylove37]

Oh wow that's horrible

[@eacorpe88]

Honestly, from the moment she read that, my mind when straight into this exact rabbit hole. sigh. My inner anxiety pessimist was right again.

[@espritfrenetique]

' if a woman was raped and she got pregnant, then she must not have been raped because the resulting pregnancy was “evidence” that she wanted it.' Unfortunately, somehow this misconception survived. I met a woman in her 50s who told me how she was raped at 18 by a man twice her age, who was also her boss, but she didn't believe she was raped, because she got pregnant, therefore she must have liked it. He also prevented her from getting an abortion (at the time, it was illegal, and he threatened to turn her in to the police). She was forced to marry him (cause how could you dare dishonour your family?) and what followed were 20 years of domestic violence (and probably subsequent marital rapes, cause that's the 'normal' dynamics between spouses). Absolutely apalling.

[@ah5721]

😬🤯😱

[@ah5721]

@@espritfrenetique 😨😱.thats horrendous !! Was she able to leave him ?!

[@dianaw4072]

“The nine oldest people evaaaa” 😂😂💀

[@jessid2011]

I can't believe the tiny carrot made it to NZ! I got the biggest grin and giggle when you pulled that out. It's been a long time since we played spot the carrot 😂 & My boyfriend thought your "Tinkerbell's speculum" joke was hilarious.

[@Kristina-ek8yt]

I would love if you made a video about Australia and self-test for cervical cancer. No need to go to the doctor and get a pap ever again (kinda, you will have one if your test comes back positive for certain types of HPV) - they actually replaced the pap smear for cervical screening in 2017. I wish I didn't have to have a pap smear ever again, they are so painful. Anyway, now they are on track to be the first country to eliminate cervical cancer thanks to their fantastic HPV vaccine campaign! Thank you!

[@itoshiibaka8267]

Thanks for reminding me to try to get the HPV vaccine again! I messed up the first attempt somehow. 😅

[@Kristina-ek8yt]

@@itoshiibaka8267 Glad I could help, book it asap. 😀

[@Black-Swan-007]

I'm sorry you've experienced painful paps. They shouldn't be that way.

[@klaudiadunk7483]

I hadn't heard about the self test one yet. I know my last one was a 5-year one, and I'm not due for another until 2025.

[@Kristina-ek8yt]

@@Black-Swan-007 Hi, thank you! You know, I hear that a lot - 'they shouldn't be painful'. Doctors claim they are painless and that there should only be some mild discomfort. But anecdotally, I know a lot of people who have at least some, if not a lot of pain during the procedure. I don't know why the pain occurs, but maybe everyone in medicine should take it seriously and we can move past that antiquated procedure. We have so much innovation in every branch of medicine, but we still use speculums invented in 1825. Not that it's bad that it was invented that long ago, but we surely can do better, as demonstrated by Australia.

[@miriamshv]

I'm 43 and pregnant, and in some 40+pregnancy groups, and yes, "geriatric pregnancy" is still used when doctors talk to older patients all the time.

[@catherine_404]

People without uteruses (uteri?) talking about what other people must do with their bodies. Wow, surprising.

[@000snow000]

I think it should be "people without a uterus" otherwise you're implying each person has multiple uteri.

[@ChaseMcCain81]

As a male, I dislike that other men do this.

[@rebachick94]

Interesting. What is the plural form of uterus?

[@dibsdibs3495]

Uterussy

[@alternativeprincess4783]

"No uterus, no opinion"

[@insertlaughter]

Keep making this content, it's extremely important - especially right now. We're all behind you, young women need you so badly.

[@Mel.H_]

My younger sister started having babies at 33 and the doctors there in AZ very much used the term "geriatric " with her. The last one was funny because it's so true. Our government is all about power, money and control. It's so gross.

[@SarahSilverpen]

my (OLD) dr office called my preganacy a geriactric pregnancy many time ( just had turned 35 about a month in to the preganacy) so some doctores ( bible belt) still do call it that...

[@SortOfAdulting]

Same, sis!

[@babotond]

give new meaning to the nursing home.

[@SortOfAdulting]

@@babotond haha!

[@TiffanyScrog]

Yeah here in the Midwest it is still called that frequently.

[@PhoenixRising883]

I'm nearly 40 with 4 high risk pregnancies under my belt (the last one nearly killed me AND the baby) and I STILL can't get anyone to tie my tubes. It's not just young people who are denied the right to permanent birth control. Edited to add: I wonder if these guys know that ALL embryos are inherently female; they need a certain chromosome at the proper stage of development (13ish weeks I think) in order for them to develop into males. They are the epitome of mutants (I refer to them as "Mutant Y's), thus should not have any say when it comes to the health of the biologically superior "X's".

[@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241]

You might say "oh, but you should have waited til marriage!" But even married women are not interested in having a baby once every 9 months until we reach menopause and our husbands aren't interested in abstaining from sex for the majority of our marriage to prevent pregnancy!

[@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans]

so use protection?

[@dietotaku]

yeah but see that's the thing, they don't give a shit what women are interested in. they see women as the property of their husbands (why they stump so hard on virginity, why they won't sterilize you without his consent) so we're supposed to just have sex whenever he wants it and however many babies fall out of us as a result, that's on us to deal with.

[@axelling_atk]

y’all got terrible husbands tf

[@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans]

@@axelling_atk i’m a child

[@axelling_atk]

@@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans I’m talking to op 💀

[@ashleyblake4332]

I'm so happy that my obgyn has always immediately respected my decision to be child-free, and has never asked me if "I'm sure" or said that I'll change my mind. Very refreshing! She even asked *me* if i wanted to do anything to ensure pregnancy can't occur (and I'm 24.) Mass. has good docs

[@Panda72021]

I wish all doctors were like that. My specialist is great, but gave me (25yrs) the "You're young still" speech after she asked me if I had any thoughts on fertility treatment. I have never had any interest in kids (or sex for that matter) so my uterus can shrivel up and die for all I care.

[@Lakadaisy_and_Foghorn]

One of my Ob/Gyn attendings mentioned geriatric pregnancy once to tell us not to use the term, but the department still uses advanced maternal age. Last I heard, the list on the childfree subreddit is a little out of date - some of my friends tried to use it and discovered most of the physicians in our area were either no longer practicing or no longer willing (we were in a conservative part of the country).

[@acyasin1000]

I am going for IUI shortly- I am 35 and I definitely heard "Geriatric Pregnancy" while discussing PCOS infertility and subsequent appointments. Also... I cannot be the only person with a vagina who has had a fart sneak up the front🤔🤣🤣

[@juliettestofmeel]

The “Fanny-fart” seems to happen most when I have my period. Just what you don’t want (when wearing a pad) a big bubble coming out the front. Thank god for menstrual cups!

[@HmmmmmLemmeThinkNo]

No you're not the only one

[@HeidiGee]

Speaking of “geriatric” pregnancies, I’d love to see mama doctor jones do a video on conceiving after 35. If she hasn’t already. I’m considering having another child and it would be interesting to see what the actual risks could be and what myths there are around conceiving after 35.

[@hillaryplace9726]

The video of the representative who doesn't know anything about contraceptives needed to be set to circus music.

[@Lynne15832]

My mom had a fistula! It developed when my sister, 3 years older than me, was born. Her doctors dismissed her concerns and did not fix it until my brother, 11 years younger than me, (14 total years) was born.

[@abBensch]

Dear God, how awful for her!

[@jeddybear5909]

Fistulas are horrible. It is primarily seen as a "male condition", I first discovered a fistula at 13 and wasn't diagnosed for it until I was 20 (bounced around specialist and family doctors because people refused to believe a woman could get one). And even after the diagnosis would argue with urgent care about draining abscess from the fistula because "only men get them" >_>

[@axelling_atk]

why didn’t they like..check?

[@jeddybear5909]

@@axelling_atk no one could agree on "whose problem is this?" So I was bounced from gyno to gastro cause they kept arguing "oh this is a vagina problem" "nope it's an intestinal issue" and in the mean time I just became terribly ill and suffered a lot of pain xD Edit for more info: I can laugh about it now that I've had surgery to remove it, but I have many horror stories about it. Just wanted people to know that just because something is "usually gendered one way" doesn't mean it never happens to the other.

[@powers1217]

That’s horrible! I’m sorry you had to go through that. I have Crohn’s disease, which puts me at a high risk for them. I hope I never get one.

[@jeddybear5909]

@@powers1217 I'm sorry you suffer from Crohn's disease, I also had a friend who would become terribly impacted because of inflammation caused by this disease, she would need to see the doctor once a month to have the blockage physically removed. I hope your disease doesn't complicate your life. I hope your doctor is kind and wonderful and does everything they can to make sure you're comfortable and well looked after.

[@marabanara]

In some places of the world, obstetric fistulas are unfortunately well known, being caused by over-long labour, or the ones caused by **TRIGGER WARNING S.A.** r@pe. For some inspiring stories, check out HEAL Africa, who perform fistula repair surgeries and help affected women earn a living and to heal. Fistula can cause urinary and/or faecal incontinence, and in some cases, women even present after being in labour for days and days 😞

[@carag2567]

I screamed out loud at the tiny carrot! Welcome back, our sneaky little veg! How 👏 ev 👏 er 👏 The Tinkerbell speculum is next level MDJ content 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Even fairies deserve health care!

[@shainaannx17]

I have a friend who's 36 and she's pregnant with her first son. She's called geriatric a lot. I feel bad lol. I'm 31 and I'm like welp, if I ever changed my mind about kids, I would be older than that 😂😬. The tiktok with the tools and the ring light was hilarious omg lol.

[@sneakyboo]

I love that you are informing followers about the child free reddit! ♥️

[@katecpell]

The trinket interruption was absolutely beautiful

[@dewolla4913]

Thank you so much for today's edutainment! You do such a fantastic job blending these two and educating about periods and pregnancy. I would like to kindly ask if you might consider doing a video (or videos) on how your period may change with age, PMDD, and perimenopause? I would LOVE to see you address some of these other topics. Thank you so much for all you do! Keep being absolutely amazing!!

[@idalarsen2540]

I got waaaay too happy when I saw the baby carrot omg!! 🤣 I was so invested in it, so glad you found it!! Also, the rest.. sad but true. Eff the US most of the time, ughh. It's all so grim and terrifying.

[@unbreakablemoonchild]

Where was this girl in the court room? She needs to be there!!!!!

[@lindablackwell318]

That teeny tiny Tinkerbell speculum...I was hysterically laughing!

[@PokingMangoes]

Paraphrasing from a comment I heard elsewhere: "My beliefs say I can't do something" is fine. "My beliefs say you can't do something" is not.

[@jimrodarmel8512]

Exactly. Perfect, succinct correction to the misuse of "religious freedom" by the right-wing bullies.

[@ispyamoose]

**Note: I was given permission to talk about this by said person** The part of the video with the queef and fistula reminded me of my mom. She had a horrendous delivery with my older brother in '84. She was in the Army and gave birth at the hospital on base. (Shouldn't have affected her quality of care buuuut it did) When she delivered my brother, she tore all the way from front to back. (And I mean aaaallll the way) They screwed something up when stitching her closed, and when my brother was 3 weeks old she had to stop breastfeeding and have an emergency surgery to repair a rectovaginal fistula that occurred. She ended up having two repeat procedures for it down the line as it kept reopening. Now the skin is so thin in that area from repeat surgery, and docs think it may have reopened AGAIN due to the thinning. Trust me: you DO NOT want the "streams to cross". EVER. The amount of infections my amazing mom has endured due to this... it's awful.

[@lollylolly8186]

Sounds similar to my story at Ft Campbell in ‘86. It was a horrendous birth and I had permanent damage, lost 1/3 of my body’s blood, had over 200 stitches which connected the wrong parts together and was never given so much as a Tylenol from a 5 day labor and delivery. My mother made the doctor apologize for mistreating me. And not doing a c section. 🤦‍♀️

[@ispyamoose]

@@lollylolly8186 OMG!!! Wtf is it with these places?! My mom hemorrhaged at 7 months, was put on bed rest. She was told she was severely toxemic, (Which I now know to be pre-eclampsia) but my brother's due date came and went with zero word from anyone. She was stuck between 1 and 2cm for a few weeks before the due date, up until delivery. 2 weeks after the due date he still wasn't out. They told my mom to "walk it off" 🙄 50 hours later he was finally born. They had to break her water and they just couldn't get the labor to progress for a long time. I was born in '88, and she was out of the service and living in a different state. When the dilation and progression issues started happening again they induced at 39 weeks. Still took 15 hours but it was a million times smoother. Honestly, she's Superwoman for not only being a mom, but choosing to have another kid after dealing with all of it. Same goes for you! That is an awful situation you went through. I'm so glad you're still here and you're super human!!!

[@snowsceci]

Thank you mama doctor jones for always explaining everything so well and being honest about our govornment vs medical ❤️

[@ashleyautistic]

A coworker of mine was pregnant 5 years ago and her doctor explicitly told her she had a geriatric pregnancy. She was pissed.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Funny timing for an ad. I know not everyone sees the same ads so I will explain. Right as they were discussing fertilization and implantation of human eggs (ova) an ad comes on with the opening line, “Have you ever wondered how your eggs got to the grocery store?” I pictured my ova being delivered to a grocery by truck. Lol

[@ArsonBeanTanks]

I can't believe I'm about to say this, but farts can DEFINITELY roll up to the vagina. It's happened to me if I've got tight pants on and I'm sitting in a certain way. lmfao!!

[@laneyluneva]

Right, I was surprised at her answer to that one! That definitely happens to me! It didn't until after I had my kids, along with many other things 🤣

[@amymckay23]

He said can they roll up and linger there. No, they are dispersed almost immediately.

[@AlleenLoveHope]

Big difference b/w gas spreading up the front on the outside of genitalia (vulva) vs going INSIDE the vagina (an internal organ). I've heard plenty of the former, never the latter.

[@ArsonBeanTanks]

@@amymckay23 maybe for you. It's 100% rolled all the way in and come back out later in my experience. Lol

[@ArsonBeanTanks]

@@AlleenLoveHope usually the former, yeah, but the latter has 100% happened. Lol

[@BaconBearzz1]

Hey that’s my question video! 😂 glad it’s in a chaotic TikTok video 😂😂😂

[@anamariazambrano2404]

I’ve read that it is considered a “geriatric” pregnancy after 35 in my nursing school books, but I never actually heard that term used by the OBGYN I worked for a little over a year ago. Then some boomer gynecologist was discussing a transfer patient with the OBGYN I worked with and she said “geriatric pregnancy.” “Disturbing” is an understatement.

[@JCHK.]

You said prepare yourself, but nothing could prepare me for how cute that speculum was!

[@MidnightFox2189]

Hi MDJ 👋R/child free member here, it's actually a lot harder to get people to tie your tubes than you think especially with roevwade, I personally would really appreciate it if you could go over all the types of permeant sterilizations and there pros and cons, I'm considering a bisalp but would like to know my options:)

[@GalacticGoddess46]

Omg for finding the carrot!!!! That tiny speculum is so cute lol

[@dotdotdot...176]

Thank you for the informative and professional discussion as always.

[@suspicioushippopotamus]

Ok seriously that queef question - THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME

[@nic4586]

You are so relatable! Thank you for teaching us valuable lessons- for men and women! I have my replacement mirena being fitted tomorrow and got my partner to watch your video so he understands 🙌🏻 Edit: could you do a video on chemical pregnancies please?

[@mtsemcomfort2255]

Closing the door for "privacy" then all that? 🤣🤣🤣. That was funny.

[@hsisnothere]

i remember when i was FINALLY allowed to take birth control and i was told to ask if the birth control would abort a pregnancy and the doctor looked at me like i was CRAZY! like girl idk my mom told me to ask and i never received proper sex ed!

[@kaitlin5264]

The last ones are my favorites! I saw them on TikTok and actually thought about you!! Too funny that you included these! Loved this video Mama Dr Jones! Entertainment combined with education:)

[@randischneider23]

Yes! I am finally off work on an upload day! I don't have to watch this in secret!

[@TheInescapableFen]

I love the tinkerbell speculum! You should do a desk/trinket tour!!

[@megmontgomery94]

" can you get new friends ? 😒" "No 😇"

[@aerokas4817]

Love the NZ school clip 😂😂 it just missed one kid saying "Miss? What the F is up with America?" ....Yes I went to public school, how can you tell? 😂

[@beccakelsch885]

rapists practically get to choose their children’s mothers. That in itself is scary and heartbreaking.

[@vegetableautopsy3551]

Yeah, it's pretty morally bankrupt. I'm thinking that disrupting the mating dynamic in this way may change the face of society in a few decades at an innate level. If the strategy to winning offspring in the game of life is as simple as a little patience and brute force - well there you go! Human males will no longer need to cultivate more evolved human characteristics in order to win babies that they probably won't or can't provide for. Will a society subject to the new permissive rule become more violent and less intelligent? I strongly suspect the answer is, 'yes'. This is not to say that instances of R@%e do not result in offspring but there have historically always been mitigation tactics in place to prevent or neutralize offspring. To retard the implementation of what should be considered for humans natural selection given the cognitive aptitude of the species will have long-term effects that most would consider deleterious. Now we could disincentivize female se%uality in the society in question but if you think about it that's like treating a bleeding bullet wound with a bandaid. Women because of the sacrifice and limitations are supposed to be the ones who determine who gets to have babies.

[@ameliachambers1347]

Your Tinkerbell speculum is EVERYTHING 😍

[@Golf_ball2763]

I LOVE YOU ❤️ I have to say I am so lucky and glad I live in Canada, even though Canada is not without its faults, especially being that I am indigenous

[@pianoman4967]

And l believe you're a truly beautiful person. Much love and respect from NZ.👍🏻💖🇳🇿

[@Ruby4233]

I don't know why the tiny speculum made me so happy but it did. So cute! And that is the only time I will ever say that about a speculum.

[@aleenamathai4534]

Thank you so much for your informative videos!!

[@ellehacker3168]

Yay, mini carrot is back! & the speculum is adorable!

[@BecBan]

Please could you do a video on Molar Pregnancies. Currently getting follow up for a Partial Molar after a D&C and ERPC from “missed miscarriage” and there is limited resources for information online and even less awareness. Please and thank you 🤍