chattin' about therapy with tessa violet

[@amywilliams5943]

do you know if there is a place that you can get online counselling for free?

[@Lala47362]

Amy Williams if you're under 18 and in the uk on the childline website they have trained counsellors you can talk to anonymously, they won't be able to help as much as actual ones but they are good for unloading your problems on something

[@Lala47362]

Amy Williams if you're not in the uk im not sure if you can still use childline but there are other similar websites like 7cupsoftea

[@sophieliljeberg2580]

7cups is an app where you can get counselling by other users, for me it works wonders. If you don't like the person you are assigned you just move on to the next one until you find one that works.

[@poppyseed5056]

godbless dodie for pinning this

[@caitlinmcalynn4234]

Amy Williams Git yur own fren

[@montanariley2550]

I love vedif because it feels like we're all friends just out for coffee and chatting.☕️

[@NOTSTARGIRL]

Tana Yup this is literally what I feel when I watch Dodie's videos. I feel like we are long time friends and just chatting so it makes me want to make videos responding to her videos or something with the same topic.

[@doddlevloggle]

^_^

[@arianatime8862]

Tana Yup Yaaaasss a It make me feel so happy I just love it so much

[@lexipoo8886]

Tana Yup ikr

[@sasharamirez1462]

Tana Yup yes oh my gosh. ☕☕☕☕

[@saff1257]

tessa seems like a reeeally nice person and i love her hair and clothes.

[@kcorona7715]

okay but dodie looks so gOOD IN THIS VIDEO

[@elilw1147]

K Corona i say that in every video 😫😂

[@elisestech9673]

K Corona YES

[@6756popcorn]

But honestly dodie looks good in every video XD

[@georgiebullen1556]

LizzyTheThief I think it's from lazy oaf but I could be mistaken😌

[@juls_mov]

Totally agree.

[@jaaaaaaa]

"do i want to better understand my life" YOU GUYS

[@justjosie4940]

HOW DARE YOU MAKE ME CHOOSE BETWEEN TESSA OR DODIE WITH YOUR UPLOADS AT THE SAME TIME AHHHHHHH

[@ittybittyfishy258]

Just A Group Of Friends That's what I thought!

[@monaeleanor7685]

saaaaaammmeee

[@Joosterandom]

Play both at once :D

[@edensylvester13]

but they're both in both of them so

[@emmaiscurious]

i went to the doctor about how im feeling and she literally said "you're 19, you're young and pretty you have nothing to be sad about" and pulled up a webpage on PMS and offered to put me on the pill, ive never felt so patronised and i dont wanna go back but idk what to do :(

[@rudylynn660]

Maybe try to book a coin let by yourself, In many of my experiences it takes awhile to get in, but you don't need a doctors note to get into counciling

[@emmaiscurious]

thank you, i think it's more i feel silly going to see somebody now because she made me feel like i was being dramatic :/

[@emmaiscurious]

Yeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha Thank you :)

[@EllasDayOff]

maybe ask to see a different doctor - not all are this bad x

[@Simmershi]

emmarose literally the same thing happened to me when I was 19, doc told me to "grow up" and I didn't try to go back for years. I'm 21 now and finally got the bravery to go back and now I'm on anti depressants and doing counselling and omg I wish I forced my doctor to listen to me all those years ago. If you know something is wrong, force that doctor to listen to you, do not take no for an answer!

[@dustinvuong]

THE ICONIC DUO

[@dustinvuong]

😍💕

[@erikrunnakko5195]

I emailed a counselor asking to book a meeting while watching this video. Thank you. At age 27, this marks the first time in my life trying to get professional help.

[@rachelwhy95]

Erik Runnakko I hope it goes well for you!

[@twentynepiltsmelaniepatdlo492]

Erik Runnakko how is it going?

[@katiekatie4955]

its been two years since you've posted this so I am here to ask you: how is it going? and im proud of you for trying

[@fervidreader5748]

I hope it’s going well 😊

[@toboroboproductions]

why is Tessa Violet dressed like the Arthur meme

[@ConfusedGirlButSmartDude]

TobyisaVamp ong

[@Kristopherson100]

TobyisaVamp I can't unsee this

[@saturnsounds8063]

But is it d o d i e y e l l o w

[@eilidhjohnson5694]

TobyisaVamp WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

[@madmaddycraftstutorials]

On the thing of telling your parents (my personal experience): My parents are really busy, and I was incredibly anxious over Christmas. I've always been anxious, but this was the kind of anxious that made me actually ill for weeks. I finally broke in front of both my Mum and Dad the day before school started again. In my head they'd never been the first people I turn to because of being busy with my siblings and work, but they were incredible. They spoke to school to let me leave classes to try to calm down if I needed to and even said that I could have counselling with one of our psychiatrist friends. I though they'd pull some 'anxiety isn't real' 'you're making it up' crap, but they didn't. Shows that even if you don't think talking to them will help, give it a try.

[@babydab3222]

Name a more iconic duo

[@zoeparasidis4144]

Dil and t bags and your grand parents (but Tessa and dodie are iconic too)

[@zahraassayr1879]

Baby Dab I can't

[@madelinehunsinger9538]

Baby Dab *cricket sounds*

[@musicalmegan1401]

Baby Dab Dan and Phil

[@winterups8072]

chips and gravy

[@Demigod2002]

who wore it better: arthur or tessa violet.

[@josiemac7807]

anna jade impossible question

[@jasmineholliday4113]

anna jade i shouldn't have laughed so hard at this but i did

[@cowboylikev]

HAHAHAHAA

[@Aboutamovie]

Something that really helped me is to think that if you are not feeling good sometimes that is ok, and to not stress about it. Because if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually! Love you dodie, you really inspire me to create videos and make me smile!

[@shannonbailey6785]

About a movie so true!! Love your channel btw!

[@Aboutamovie]

John Maco aww thank you! x

[@carrriiybeck1439]

About a movie good advice. And I checked out your channel and really love the way you edit your videos!

[@edensylvester13]

"if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually!" I love that :)

[@cutemissbubbly]

I have been in a psychiatric unit for nearly three weeks now since I tried to end my life. Anyone who is feeling this way, please hang in there. Nothing is worth that. I know it feels like no one can possibly understand but you need to give them the opportunity to try. You have made an impact on this world whether you realise it or not. Depression is a state of complete hopelessness but realise that the mental illness is what's influencing your thoughts. There is hope. You can get better.

[@twentynepiltsmelaniepatdlo492]

Little P Thank. You.

[@usamarafieck1715]

Psychiatrists unit?

[@jaaaaaaa]

i love this i love this i love this

[@laurac3842]

my therapy session yesterday was very difficult..i broke down and kept crying and i couldn't breathe, but she is so lovely and helpful. she's the third one i've seen and she is so easy to talk to. x

[@cecistevens3315]

Dodie that's such a cute dress!!! You always look so nice!!!

[@233320missaishah]

I've been in therapy since I was about 13 dealing with major depressive episodes, GAD and a panic attack disorder. I've been with the same therapist for 7 years now and even when I'm in a much better place I still want to work on myself, and having someone who knows me so so well and who I'm comfortable which is immensely helpful. I'm a big encourager of therapy, especially since I know howuxh its helped me. I think its important to remember that if you can, stay in therapy. Therapy is not just for crisis moments, but to help prevent complete mental breakdowns from happening. When I was about 15 I stopped seeing my therapist because I was no longer in danger of jumping off a bridge but stopping is what contributed to my first hospitalization. Therapy is expensive, especially in America and the best thing if you can't afford therapy is to know your resources. I'm glad you guys put this video up. Love you both!!

[@amayalobato]

my school counselor is very very horrible, when a teacher saw my scars, the counselor called my mom and dad and told them lies. They forced me to tell them that I tried to "overdose" and that I tried to kill myself. they wouldn't let me leave / locked the room until i confessed to something i didn't do.

[@amayalobato]

Mind you, they were scars. Not current cuts.

[@philiptouw3623]

... That's awful. I'm so sorry

[@dovestone_]

amaya lobato why???

[@amayalobato]

Katie Ahronson I couldn't tell you, because I didn't know why either

[@dovestone_]

amaya lobato that's terrible

[@reharm_reality]

I'm so grateful for these videos. I used to think that I wasn't depressed just because I would look at pictures and videos of myself and say "See, look, I'm smiling. I'm laughing and hanging out with friends. I'm obviously not depersonalized or depressed. I don't even look anxious." Then I found your videos where you would be smiling and laughing with friends while talking about mental illness, and I realized that a person can look happy and still be sick. I've started trying harder to reverse my depression now. It can be hard for me to get help because I'm fairly young, I've had therapists hear that I'm depressed, look at me and go "I don't think so." My current therapist is helpful, but I haven't actually used the word depression yet. I rely on your videos a lot to get advice and to remind myself that I need to work on getting better and be patient with myself. You've helped me realize that a lot of things I struggle with that I thought were separate are all interconnected. Thanks so much.

[@avalon7531]

I got turned down from therapy because I wasn't "bad enough"

[@varun9115]

onedeadrOse // Try another one, maybe? I believe that if you feel you're in need of it, more times than not you are in need of it.

[@amayalobato]

onedeadrOse // im sorry, that's got to be very traumatic

[@avalon7531]

Varun Srivastava I'm trying everything I can atm, thank you for the advice I appreciate it ♡

[@avalon7531]

amaya lobato at least I'm still here :') ♡

[@dovestone_]

onedeadrOse // are you British?? If so it might be to do with the NHS being shit and only taking on really bad cases

[@keilahvisscher1529]

Went to my first session of therapy today. Had this video on repeat and I felt a lot better about going. Thx dodie for helping me get through this madness.❤️

[@lottielovegood]

It's nice to see you talking about seeking help. There's already so much stigma surrounding mental health so it's good that these conversations are being encouraged particularly when you talk about your own experiences. It sets a good example to your audience. No one deserves to suffer in silence. ❤

[@rach5300]

i tried out therapy once and hated it. this taught me that the councillor i had wasn't right for me

[@elianna838]

youre a smart cookie. most people think after one therapy session that it doesnt work for them but like, yes its not therapy its the counselor that either a) doesnt know what theyre doing or b) you just dont trust them for some reason

[@erin4230]

your outfits are the aesthetic I never knew I wanted but now NEED DESPERATELY

[@rebeccaogden4583]

Ya see I tried going to my school counselor about my depression and anxiety, mainly depression, and she talked a lot about anxiety but I left feeling worse about my depression than before so that's dandy

[@greenteawithbees]

Rebecca Ogden If I could recommend anything just don't go to a school counsellor. At least if you go, do not tell them about self harm or thoughts of suicide because they will call your parents WITHOUT your consent. Found out the hard way, but there is a big loophole in the mental health system where there is a massive misunderstanding that people who self harm are unable to control their actions which puts them at risk, and so the school can legally, even if you beg them, phone home and tell your parents, because the child is 'at risk'. The problem with this is so many parents are misunderstanding or unsupportive, they will shout at their children which will cause them to self harm again and feel even more isolated, or perhaps the parents are the reason they self harmed in the first place, and so telling them puts the child at risk even more.

[@rebeccaogden4583]

greenteawithbees thanks so much

[@Sonia-qs8ck]

I stopped watching heavydirtysoul for the 300th time for this.

[@mayakay]

I'm a KZbin addict SAMMMME

[@pyro-0438]

i relate

[@church_coffee]

I'm a KZbin addict I saw you jaidens video too oml

[@chamomile_coffee5667]

I'm a KZbin addict OH GOD YES

[@juliathornton7842]

I'm a KZbin addict that's saying a lot👏🏽

[@chloed.7047]

My god, what Tessa said about looking at your friends and going "well I'm not as bad as them so I'm fine" was SO RELATABLE. I have friends with clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, extreme anxiety, anorexia, self-harm, PTSD, dead parents, abusive parents, and so much more, and I'm kinda just sitting in the middle with my little fucked up mind all "I'm fine :)", even when I'm so not.

[@kaleioli]

i hate therapy, cause i'm always about to cry, but i feel like it'd be awkward if i did, and i feel like i'm not supposed to or not allowed to since i'm a guy, so it sucks.

[@mynamesyourswhatsaimee5613]

They're completely used to and it's kind of what you're supposed to do. Just let out all of your emotions!

[@WillowSong]

The best guys are the kind who can cry in front of people. Therapists are paid not to judge you, and they have by-far seen worse. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, and I promise you will feel better in the long run.

[@kaleioli]

My Name's Yours, What's Aimee? thank you! i just feel trapped, ya know? so it can be hard sometimes. thank you though, i appreciate it.

[@kaleioli]

Willow Song idk, i feel like i'm only allowed to cry when i'm alone or not at all. i try to keep in touch with my emotions, but it's hard when i constantly have the feeling i'm being judged, ya know? but thank you.

[@WillowSong]

I get that its hard. Maybe you're judging yourself for crying at all? Something to think about.

[@isobell7058]

This makes me feel so much better. I have just finished a six week course of counselling, and I felt so awkward about it, because I thought that my case wasn't extreme enough, and telling my mum was so difficult, but you two sharing experiences makes me feel so much better. Hearing people that I look up to discussing mental health, and going to therapy just makes it feel less horrible. Knowing that you were brave enough to go to the doctors was what motivated me to find help in the first place, and this makes it feel like I can treat therapy like a good thing, and feel less ashamed , so I just want to say thank you.

[@fionamoore4845]

I LOVE TESSA I LOVE THIS I LOVE HER HAIR

[@fionamoore4845]

also this helps me quite a bit because i think i really do need therapy but i've been scared to go

[@WillowSong]

I was feeling really down at the beginning of this year, and I was absolutely terrified of going to counseling, but I did. I was lucky because I got paired with a guy who was very helpful to me, so it was a great first impression. But all in all, go for it. It's so scary, but also so worth it. And you've got all of us to support your decision.

[@fionamoore4845]

do you find that it helps? I've been sick recently and one of the doctors decided to send me to a psychologist because they think part of why i'm sick, is because I'm stressed. I've got group counselling(?) kind of? coming up on the 15th of march/may/can't remember. It's supposed to be focusing on mindfulness, but I'm so so scared for that alone. I might talk to the psychologist about organising some sessions some time, if I work up the nerve :) Thank you so much for your support

[@natashacraig7525]

I love how candid and warm this conversation is. It shouldn't be a rarity to find such normalizing of the topic of therapy, but I understand we need to break down the stigma surrounding it first. I am so glad you shared this with us!

[@amalkhateeb6813]

I'm actually still in therapy via a program with my school and I love my therapist, she knows how to make me feel like I'm not being annoying or boring or like I'm rambling and she somehow hears like a half hour of rambling about my feelings and is able to pull out a few minutes of analysis and she always says, "I wonder if..." which makes me feel like I'm not being spoon fed my epiphanies but rather led to them which is nice.

[@Prerna2205]

DODIE, MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT SONGWRITING!!!!!!

[@Prerna2205]

WHEN DID YOUSTART WRITING? HOW MANY HAVE YOU WRITTEN SO FAR? HOW DO YOU WRITE USING INSTRUMENTS? YOUR WRITING PROCESS? DOES BEING A KZbinR MAKE PEOPLE IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY NOT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THEY WOULD OTHER PEOPLE?

[@poppymaygray]

Gregory Jackson SAW YOU ON TESSAAAs VId

[@Prerna2205]

ooh, also whats your philosophy for songwriting?

[@startoast4807]

I SAW YOU ON TESSAS VIDEOOOOOOOoo oMG

[@poppymaygray]

I decide what I want it to be about and what instrument I want and then I'll like picture it in my head then try out it onto my guitar by trying different chords and stuff then slowly work lyrics into it

[@hannahrosedodson3103]

I am so glad that you've posted this so recently because I am in the process of getting a therapist myself and am also scared that it might not help or will make things worse, but then again that's the anxiety talking. It's mainly the fear that I have lived so long with anxiety by myself or just simply sharing with people who can't really relate like my mum or my boyfriend, that I cannot imagine living without it. Its like, mental illness is a trap that just grabs hold of you and makes you feel like you need it. It makes you scared that fixing it means...losing it. Then I'm scared again that I won't fix it. Anxiety is literally a vicious cycle of just repetitive overthinking that just leads you into a downward spiral of just fear and terror. So, again I am so happy that you have posted this because it was around the time that you did that I finally asked my mum about therapy and she was really supportive and it was really great. She went straight to the computer and helped me find someone in our area right away. Thanks for posting stuff about this. It makes me feel normal and understood.

[@sivolia1317]

Our school councellor has such a lack of empathy

[@heysharksarecool869]

Sivolia same. I don't even know if mine has a councilor that's not an old woman that'll be like "oh your fine go to class" and even if I did go to her I feel like my friends and peers would treat me differently

[@AmySherwood2908]

this is so true. My friend went to a school counsellor because of home troubles that were leading to anxiety and she basically said that everybody goes through home troubles and that other people have it worse

[@vviolett75]

mine told me to bottle up my problems, put them away and focus on my school work lmaoo

[@MusicByEllaAndLucy]

Same same same... mine implied I was wasting her time because people have it worse... she also was super dismissive of anything I would say to justify myself

[@rileyevans2487]

damn i'm sorry guys. i feel your pain though, mine was so bad she actually made me feel so much worse about myself rather than better. she also called me transphobic slurs which was obviously just great

[@stephiiee]

Dodie and Tessa, I'm insanely proud of you both. Not only are you smashing the stigma of mental illness/going to therapy, you're doing it TOGETHER. Just great you two!

[@marblegray]

This is a tad off topic, but I love just how this video was made. Also, therapy is important.

[@marblegray]

Also I would highly um. You know, not recommend school counsellors for some things, but it couldn't hurt to try I suppose.

[@spiderbvtch9143]

I definitely wouldn't recommend my school counselor. I went because I was feeling depressed all the time, but then after the second time I went, it started to get a little better - not because of her, I hated her - but because my friends were including me in more things, and as I wasn't as upset anymore, she just said 'Oh, I don't think you'll need to come back anymore'. Well, she was horrible and then my friends started ditching me again and she never really listened properly, so now I don't want to ask for her again, so I am now stuck with doing nothing, as I go to a boarding school so I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents, so I can't ask them to book a doctor's appointment.

[@lindashi3785]

Tessa and dodie, I want to thank you both. I found this video a while ago and cried after watching it. Fast forward to three hours earlier, this was the last video I watched again before going to my dad and asking for help. It almost feels like a dream how simple it was: telling him I’m suffering and asking for help. Tomorrow is my first session with my therapist, ahhhhhh!!! Lots of love to you ladies xxxx

[@alexthuene2806]

Y'ALL ARE SO GOOD WITH WORDS GOSH

[@Kapiiu]

Hey! I wanted to tell you that your videos about depression and anxiety are the ones that helped me admit to myself that I had a problem, after years of anxiety and months of being sad all the time I finally took an appointment with a therapist. So thank you for talking so freely about it, I think you helped a ton of people like me. Love and kisses from France

[@ajs3242]

I've had a pretty bad experience with therapy. I think it's mostly because I have bad social anxiety and talking to a stranger for an hour definitely did not help that. But I've been on meds for a few months and it's been so so much better. So really therapy is not for everyone and can't fix everyone.

[@dillan-loves-phan2391]

While now that you're on meds and feel a lot better a lot of people recommend people with anxiety or something like that go on meds first and see therapist when they are more comfortable talking

[@katiegrace2898]

That weird Geek I have anxiety and like social anxiety and I I've talked about it to my mom a bit and just thinking of the process of medicine and therapy skills the living hell out of me which is why I should do it but like I know realistically therapy or whatever would help but it's just uhh I feel like it's would make it worse but I also feel like I'm wrong but idk sorry

[@98.mria9]

Hi, aren't meds not over the counter for anxiety?

[@kaleuh]

When Tessa said "when children go to therapy it makes the parents feel like they've failed on their part" or something like that, I remember my friend who goes to therapy but she's only 10 and her parents talked of mine and my mom told me that my friend's mom said she felt like she failed at helping my friend feel happy. I just started to cry, srry for the long thing.

[@victoriacara3846]

This video was exactly what I needed. I have been planning on making an appointment for a therapy session for weeks and this video was the push I needed to actually take action. Thank you!!!

[@natn7592]

dodie , in all of the youtubers that i have watched , your community is the BEST that i have seen . All the comments to your videos are positive and supportive . I honestly feel like we are all just a big group of friends hanging out and chilling whenever you upload lmao

[@ajlol2725]

For those who live in Australia (and possibly other countries okay sh) and are currently in school, counselors are pretty much available at a heap of schools and are probably at the school you are currently going to. I know that my school that I currently go to and the other places I went had counselors readily available for me and the other students, so have a check with your home room/pastoral teachers (if you have them) or any other reliable teachers to see if your school has a guidance counselor. I know mine has a little bit of a wait for booking appointments, but then again this will vary between schools and is absolutely and completely worth it. Even though it might seem a little taboo to go to counseling to some, its actually really great that there is a place where people can go to open up and find out a little more about themselves and, if you're worried about privacy, counselors will never tell anyone, not even teachers or parents, about what you tell them unless it's completely necessary and unless you give them consent. Don't forget there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when going to counseling. Counselors are there to help you and listen, so there's no reason to be embarrassed! Anyway, hopefully this helps the younger viewers here. Make sure you look after yourselves ;D lol

[@ilovebooks49]

Yeah I'm Australian and my school counsellor is really nice

[@4607j1old]

I love your Doddleoddle videos but doddlevloggle videos are so intimate and nice and sweet and beautiful. I feel like I'm sitting down with a cup of tea and just being able to listen without having to talk. Honestly, thank you.

[@LittleSqaishDraws]

I adore both of you so much. Thank you for everything you speak about and do. I really appreciate both of you

[@thestarsturn]

I'm gonna start therapy really soon, and I gotta hand it to you Dodie. You made me realize that asking for help is okay and I can't thank you enough. ❤️

[@anacristina-lb3jz]

I have been waiting all day for this...

[@andreaa.9709]

8 minutes of amazing advice that I don't need myself but will DEFINITELY be storing up for friends

[@At0micBomb]

BLESS. I love my therapist and I'm so thankful for his help. I'm so happy you guys are talking so highly about it, because I always tell people that ANYONE can benefit from it.

[@funghoulfrnk]

Is Tessa wearing dodie yellow or just regular yellow?? (asking for a friend)

[@funghoulfrnk]

or wait is this la la land yellow???

[@Mishka110702]

urmum looks like la la land yellow to me

[@marsiebunbun]

i thought the same lmao

[@halloweltyxz]

(guys do you know where that jumper is from?)

[@leilagrace4898]

No it's not Dodie yellow, more La La Land yellow

[@PaulaHoell]

Really helpful to calm down my fear about my first session coming up in two weeks! Thank you two!

[@isaac.aaron.standen]

you're both such positve people in this space and i love it

[@imslmao]

your camera and lighting makes everything feel so warm and lovely

[@jennasmiles7120]

Tessa is such a ravenclaw I love it

[@mythics102]

Thank you so much for opening up about this recently, Dodie ❤ I've struggled with depression for about 4 years now, and I'm about to leave secondary school and also am only just now beginning to realise how much it's affected me. You've encouraged me a whole lot to get help and also made me understand how much of me is the way it is because of my depression. Now I know that I want to get better because I don't want it to screw up university the way it has secondary school. Thank you so much for all of this :) You are an absolute saint, and I'm so happy for your getting better.

[@OlanRogers]

love it!

[@shelbieweaver1299]

OlanRogers it makes me happy that you guys watch each other's videos

[@Braytonks3D]

Olan! :o

[@quinintheclouds]

This video made me cry, and I feel so silly about it, but it's just so sweet and relieving to hear such beautiful people (inside and out) talking about things like this in such a positive way

[@CitizenOfNeverland]

This is SO important. Wow.

[@perfectlyconspicuous]

I was also so totally convinced I couldn't fix my head with talking but I finally started cbt two weeks ago and already feel so much more in control. Makes me feel even more confident to see someone else talking about having the same experience, thanks dodie 💕💕💕

[@warlenys]

tessa is wearing a nice shade of 'also not dodie yellow'

[@victoriarodrigues8250]

Why did this video make me feel so much closer to both of you? Like I feel like we're all friends and we're hanging out and having a chat about therapy and I love it

[@annegutentag124]

But is Tessa's sweater #dodieyellow tho

[@josiemac7807]

Gutentag you called

[@lol-uz4bu]

Gutentag nope, la la land yellow

[@XxLilxMissxStargrlxX]

It's so weird watching this video because I am in school to become a therapist/counselor, so hearing you guys talk about the techniques therapists/counselors do to help you (like the attentive body language and verbal cues) are all things I know work and am slowly learning how to do. It's just so friggin cool seeing that these techniques actually have helped out people! Thank you so much for this video!

[@erin4230]

'everyone needs therapy' honestly me at school

[@HeartOnHerStrings]

I wish I could have a friendship like these two. Been on a sappy/depressed video binge and I just can't help but admire their friendship. Especially since they seem so open with each other and can share that kind of stuff. Hope I can find a friend and a friendship like this.

[@juliahaney4104]

my therapist tells me that my feelings are "just because im a growing teenager" so ya kno its great

[@sophievega4637]

Julia Haney try switching therapists!

[@filippe_93]

i love the fact that you did this talk!!! i hear so little from KZbinrs about therapy and if they are doing IT. I did myself just started two months ago and this talks this problems and this struggle about listening to them is very familiar for me

[@lonelylobsterr7870]

going on like two years with my therapist. she cares. highly recommend.

[@amyautumn]

After 12 years of mental health issues i have finally gained the confidence to book a therapy session. I have always been to afraid to go to therapy incase it opened a door i couldn't shut ever again. This video is so helpful to so many people. Its the reason i booked that appointment, so thank you.

[@kikzdepot2572]

you guys a so adorable together

[@oliviavera9522]

dodie, oh my god, you have no idea how much I've needed this, I was just thinking about telling my parents last night but I chickened out. you're literally always there when i need you

[@alexas1797]

I recently started going to therapy too 😌

[@kiraa9031]

Alexa S stay strong ^-^

[@alexas1797]

K Is a toll gay awwww thank you 💕

[@anikasatish6407]

Alexa S yay good for you!!

[@elisestech9673]

Alexa S That's amazing! congrats! are you enjoying it?

[@alexas1797]

Elsie Stech thank you!! So far, I don't love it but I think it's mostly bc I'm still uncomfortable crying in front of someone I don't know but I think it's starting to help!

[@ammegeloc]

i remember watching this video when i was 16 (i'm currently 19) and i remember being so against counsellors because i had 1 who wasn't necessarily looking at how i could deal with issues but trying out game-like techniques with me instead, when all i wanted to do was talk about things realistically and not make it a game. i finally found someone afterwards who did ask about my own feelings and ways i could deal with things without turning them into small mini games. coming back to this video, what Tessa says is so true; just because one person doesn't work for you, doesn't mean everyone won't, someone IS out there who can provide the help that you want. you just gotta keep searching and you will find them.

[@ursuchariot]

this video could not have come at a better time for me - after years and years and years of feeling like I couldn't cope (but putting it down to "being a teenager") I start therapy on Tuesday!! thank you for being so honest about it, you two have taken a lot of my worries away :)

[@smythe12247]

From somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy. Now that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well.

[@callmecharly748]

it's honestly so nice to hear people talk about therapy because it's always such a taboo thing to talk about, at least for me. it's being normalised and it's so good to not feel ashamed about it. I'm going to therapy for a little bit over a year now and I try to be as open as I can about it because I know how hard it is to actually communicate with other people about it, but nevertheless it's still very awkward and uncomfortable. the people I know don't really know how to react and just don't talk about it. they make it awkward by pushing it away. I needed this today, I really did. I needed to know that it is in fact okay to not feel well, to seek help and to actually talk about it. thank youuu

[@mashthebanana]

I have felt depressed on and off since age 10 (2011) and I started feeling really anxious. In 2014 I went to my GP about it and nothing really happened until last year when my mum thought I had depression and I went to my GP again. They referred me to CAMHS. Several months later they called me said it was just exam stress and that was that. Several weeks after that I went to my other doctor told them what happened and they re-referred me to CAMHS. Many months later I actually got to talk to them and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. However they told me there was no point being put on their waiting list because in less than a year I turn 18. So they referred me to talking therapies and sent their diagnosis over. A while later I got an appointment with talking therapies where they knew nothing baout me like they never got the information from CAMHS and they acted like a person could only have one type of anxiety? They told me it did not sound like I had social anxiety but I had "panic anxiety". WTF IS PANIC ANXIETY? ALL anxiety is panicky on some level. Is it not?! So now I am doing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online for anxiety and I have no idea what i'm supposed to be doing tbh because you don't really have the opportunity to talk to anyone. I mean every two weeks a person looks at your progress and makes some statements that aren't very helpful. Like they don't really do anything which I don't understand.

[@WillowSong]

I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :( I'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.

[@Holsiboo]

cookietiger I was referred to camhs by my doctor and diagnosed with mild depression and several anxiety disorders. camhs put me on a waiting list for CBT. It was supposed to be three months maximum before I would be seen for treatment but it's now been five and I've still heard nothing.

[@mashthebanana]

Urgh that sucks! Waiting lists are evil but i'm sure you will get the help soon. While you wait you could look for other counselling services in your area by asking your GP or someone and googling if you haven't already. Before I got an appointment with CAMHS another psychiatrist suggested looking at a place in my area that might have a shorter waiting list but after I got to talk to talking therapies and that I told them I didn't need the help anymore so I wouldn't be in the way in the waiting list. Honestly I love the idea of the NHS but it is often so frustrating in practice. Hope you get better soon.

[@EllasDayOff]

CAMHS is awful. maybe by panic anxiety they actually meant panic disorder? which is a definite form of anxiety based around panic attacks?

[@keavyrae1962]

I go to Camhs, and tbh for me personally its done me some good, me and my councilor genuinely get along. I dont see her every week, because its busy you know. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a good councilor idk?? But if you find the right person to talk to, then its fine, some people in Camhs do genuinely want to help, then some others just sit there and don't even care tbh

[@Sarah.reads.sometimes]

That whole "don't check yourself" is such good advice. I've been doing that for years and getting really frustrated but been trying not to do it and when i didn't I felt so much better. But I never had a name for it so that's awesome.

[@erin4230]

teSSA YOURE SO WISE WHAT THE HELL

[@soldeglo]

coming back to this because I love you both so much and I've learned so so much from you as artists. So glad that there are two powerful, talented, vulnerable women making amazing music. Ya'll are UNSTOPPABLE.

[@anniebodyhome1999]

For people in Australia seeking therapy I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps) hope this helps :)

[@aidel6875]

dodie i want to thank u for inspiring me to go back to therapy. for a while i thought i didnt need it or was better than therapy but u helped me realize that im not better than therapy and its okay to be in therapy so thank u bec im doing so much better than i was before!

[@em-zt9vl]

DODIE HELLO I LOVE YOU

[@charlottepink7176]

Just wanted to say thanks Dodie! Because you and a few others have been talking about counselling recently, I've decided to book my first appointment which is such a big deal for me progress wise. You've made it all less scary for me and feel like I might finally be able to work through my stuff without feeling any shame about it. This is the first time i've really taken control and I'd like to thank you for giving me that extra nudge in the right direction!

[@pinkishbutterflies2267]

I dont know which name would be cuter.. Tessa Clark, Or Dodie Violet...💛🧡

[@kb_]

Thank you so much for talking about this!! People mostly associate only bad things with counseling, even though it's actually about improvement. It's just - as they said - learning more about yourself, and that's always something good. I feel like a lot of people fear to go to therapy, because they don't want to get judged. KZbinrs or generally the media don't talk about it that much, at least the way like Dodie and Tessa did. And it's just good to hear people talk about their own experiences, and be open about it. So, again THANKS!! 💞

[@photosinensis]

I don't think I could have Tessa as my therapist. I might fall for her too easily. I try to keep my therapists as "not my type". Also, I've explicitly told my therapist to tell me what to do. I'm amazingly good at following directions. And that's why she said, "I know that. That's why I won't issue challenges to you. You'll actually do them no questions asked." But seriously, mental illness has physical causes. If it feels like there's a thunderstorm going on in your head, complete with lightning bolts and thunder claps, and while that's happening your mood is tanking severely, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. That's a serious medical condition.

[@lilpinkfairy3725]

I love Dodie's videos because they're so laid back and calm.

[@minaeveringham7530]

7 Cups of Tea!!!

[@panix.x]

This was so cool to rewatch now that I've been through 6 months of therapy myself.

[@fabriciapinheiro5999]

Hey, how do you, like, tell people... things? I mean, everybody is like, "so I was sad and my parents did something" but, like... how do they know? How do you tell people you are sad? I don't have this ability I'm not capable of asking for help and it's not even because of pride, I just have no idea how you do it

[@hannahlmedia]

Thank you for using your platform to talk about therapy and mental illnesses positively! It's so reassuring to hear people, who inspire me, talking about things that I can relate to! I highly recommend therapy to everyone, it's such a brilliant way to learn about youself and to normalise the way you feel. Love you loads Dodie and thank you💜💜

[@definitelycatherine7296]

Dodie's shirt reminds me of inside out.

[@shannonmatthias]

After I had watched this video I went to bed feeling so confident and happy and I woke up feeling positive. You need to make more of these videos because they are so calming and make you feel like you aren't alone. Therapy is such a great thing!! I'm in it also and I'm glad you guys are too. You just make me so happy Dodie (and Tessa!) I can't even describe it!

[@mells3167]

i start CBT with Mind in 11 days for my extreme social anxiety & mild Depression and I'm shitting bricks tbh.

[@doddlevloggle]

you can do it!!!

[@mells3167]

Omg you replied, what😅😂 thank you, ily❤

[@marthajanemusic]

Mell S Hey! CBT for social anxiety made such a difference for me :) Good luck ❤ x

[@mells3167]

Martha Jane Edwards Thats great :) thank you, i hope it helps me too :)

[@KatyBugg]

My CBT course helped me sooooo much. Not just with my depression but also with my school work, how I approach different things etc. I learnt more than I was dreaming I could and didn't understand it until this year when I had the first course 5 years ago. Go into it with an open mind and really just let yourself understand what you are there for :) good luck!!

[@KatieBrazille]

I just had my first therapy appointment last thursday, and all the things you guys talked about I could relate to. I needed this video right now more than ever.

[@rudylynn660]

Same, I used to be in therapy, then I quit but I have an appointment on Monday

[@rudylynn660]

So this video was great ❤️