Dodging Red Flags in Relationships - Ep 54 - Big Mood

[@krissyveebaby]

Also a red flag is someone who constantly compares themselves to you and making the entire friendship a competition

[@dianaanonymous5794]

i relate so hard!! Once,this friend and I were alone in the girls cr and she CRIED because she felt bad that I got a higher grade than her in a spelling test. She also acted kinda weird sometimes bc me and her crush were friends, and she'd get jealous. Overall just a very draining friendship lol glad thats behind me

[@krissyveebaby]

@@dianaanonymous5794 growth girl. Growth 👍🏼

[@CoolKhris123]

I was friends with a girl that always felt the need to tell me that she was prettier, funnier, more ambitious than me, and called me lazy. When we entered our first semester of college, she continued and I realized that I don't need to talk or be friends with her anymore because we're not in high school anymore

[@bernaberial613]

Well, comparing and competing with your friend can be good too. This kept me and my best friend getting the best grades possible at collegue.

[@Viviangel07]

I really love how Tiff is able to recognize negative traits in herself or her past self. She’s so humble and really reaches a lot of people. Keep it up Tiff! You’re doing an amazing job 💗

[@NikkiLimo]

She's the best 😭

[@victoriaparent8004]

Agree!!! ❤️

[@amdurham11]

That’s exactly what I was thinking! We all have a past & it’s so refreshing to hear someone own that shit. 💕

[@K3llsB3lls]

I would love an episode where the girls talk about things about themselves that they can recognize are red flags, present or past, what they did to fix that issue or what they're currently doing to fix that issue

[@annak3325]

hell yeah

[@blackhare1346]

Yesss!!

[@al7685]

Red Flag: One person initiates all of the conversations After noticing I was the one who kept initiating conversations via text, I decided to stop messaging him. We never spoke again. 🥲 Good learning experience. 🤗

[@NikkiLimo]

that's a good one!

[@BossGokaiGreen]

@Nikki Limo PLEASE SPREAD THE AWESOME FILIPINO CULTURE DOWN THERE IN THE U.S.A! MUCH LOVE FROM CANADA 🐷🇨🇦🇯🇵

[@Manic44]

General red flag: They only hit you up when they want something.

[@jperez9l]

I’m 5 years away from 30 and listen to you guys help me out a lot. Don’t have too many women to look up to 😊

[@tendaisimbanegavi519]

Red Flag: telling me someone else's secrets...that person made the mistake of trusting and confiding in you and i won't follow in their footsteps.

[@shhd2105]

Right, when someone talks bad about someone to you they probably talk crap about you to other people.

[@anojansmart]

Understanding your own needs and wants, as well as your boundaries, is such an important step to being a mature adult. Thanks for another great episode!

[@christinasiew3707]

Friendship red flag for girls: when they mention that they have zero to little other female friends. To me this indicates that she either had crappy friends, OR more likely, she doesn’t know or care to act in a way to respect other girls' boundaries. Dating red flag: general lack of commitment, around 3 months max is what people need to figure out if they want to be in a relationship. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out because they will give random perks of a committed relationship, but don't take the actual actions like verbalizing it or giving a real timelines. Relationship red flag: when it’s clear that you are not being prioritized. Even after you have already communicated it, it is still happening often, and with a lot of excuses and gaslighting

[@Someonebutnoone10]

From a dudes pov: A girl not having many friends who are girls usually means she’s cool af. She doesn’t wanna deal with passive aggression and is a bruh girl. Just a generalization of course.

[@christinasiew3707]

@@Someonebutnoone10 totally 👍🏼 I’ve been on different ends of this

[@WhatsAOlivia]

I don’t have many female friends but I want some :-/ I’ve had really bad experiences with female friends where they’ve spilled and gossiped all my secrets to other people, have picked guys over me, ditched me and just overall treated me like trash. I try not to be hopeless now, but I really wish I could have a female friend who’s there for me. I feel like when you become an adult you just realize everyones out for themselves and to some extent, they can be there for you, but not all the time. Which is fine with me, I’ve become comfortable with that.

[@WhatsAOlivia]

I’d rather have a few distant friends I can talk to every once in a while about personal stuff, but there is no one that would be there for me at the drop of a hat, once again, I’ve accepted that

[@christinasiew3707]

@@WhatsAOlivia good female friends are definitely out there. Now that I’m older, it’s easier to not make toxic friends when I'm no longer desperate to keep them. I think you being somewhat content with your friendships will keep you out of drama. I do feel like to establish the kind of friends you want, you may have to “risk” a lot. Risk energy, embarrassment, money (lol), travel distances, and some degree of vulnerability. Also have a strong baseline common interests whether it be type of topics to talk about or a hobby/activity. I’m still navigating this myself, where I feel some friendships aren’t as deep as I would like.

[@patsalalor8092]

Gina .. I lost a whole entire group of friends bc they all chose ONE persons side and didn’t care for my reasonings etc. and I was the one who introduced them to each other too. My best friend is my boyfriend.

[@Wxtst.3]

Im sorry that happened to you. Similar thing happened to me which is why I’m not too big on having one ‘squad’ of friends anymore. If I connect with them then I connect, but I’m a lot more cautious. Hopefully that’s what Gina meant.

[@beac8238]

I am no longer friends with the small group of college friends I had. Most of them were friendships of convenience, not genuine connection. However, I’ve remained friends with former co-workers who I shared that with. I think that my values changed & I no longer felt connected or trusting of them. We were a group of “free spirited” (undisciplined) ladies & I became more conservative compared to my peers after a few poor experiences. I admit that I was vocal about my opinions, with a judgmental undertone, & that caused a strain in our friendships. It got to the point where people were obviously throwing shade. At this point in my life, I am not interested in repairing friendships that don’t align with my core values. I am happy to just move forward from the awkward space.

[@daryllepedrosa692]

The one thing that’s debatable is if someone doesn’t have a solid group of friends bc maybe they’re just having a hard time trying to find themselves/their group yet. Now the part that I do agree with is, if someone is an extravert and constantly blames others for not having a consistent group of friends. Edit: I don’t understand what I was saying in the last part, but to add: I’ve witnessed those that have talked shit about others outwards and openly, yet they continue to be friends with that person. I’m definitely not perfect bc I have been this kind of toxic before, the only way I got better was gaining perspective and understanding what that other friend felt. I refrain from speaking ill of people that don’t do any harm.

[@deannechavez8913]

also to add. My one group of friends i had in high school till my third year of uni, ended up talking shit behind my back. They had group chats in different social media platform without me, and would talk badly about me and the relationship Im in. I cried for days about it.. and i had to cut them off. Now it’s really hard to find new groups of friends, especially cuz of covid. I have a best friend, someone i can go to. But there was 2 girls in that chat that i thought would be my friends for a long time.. i was really hurt. But there statements also are true. My situation is just different i guess.

[@Jasmine-kl2vu]

I agree! The last time I had a strong group of girl friends was in middle school. After being hurt and dissappointed by them for talking behind my back and making fun of me I decided to take some time to figure myself out. I don't know why but I used to always end up attracting negative people. The ironic thing is that many of those old friends came back saying that I did nothing wrong, so I'm not sure what's "wrong with me." I ended a friendship with my best friend two years ago, and she said the reason she distanced from me was because I was too nice and too caring? I don't know, it's weird. I feel like at this point in my life I've chosen to heal myself and be a good friend to myself first. I used to always rely on people for the smallest things, and I was a people pleaser too.

[@CoolKhris123]

@@Jasmine-kl2vu I was the same way. Unfortunately, people don't like it when you're too nice or too agreeable it actually turns some people off because they want someone that's not going to be a pushover. Being too nice attracts negative ppl b/c they think they could take advantage of you. Some people don't appreciate a nice person b/c they're used to toxic people. That's why it's important to be friends with like-minded people

[@Jasmine-kl2vu]

@@CoolKhris123 I agree 100%, she had gotten used to being around unhealthy/toxic people and she even told me that she "deserves" to be "treated poorly." A lot of personal issues there.

[@MusicGirl2597]

I hear this as someone who struggles with finding good friends. When Gina was talking about it comes down to being a common denominator amongst all the lost friendships; It maybe a lack of self confidence. That lack of self confidence can lead us to believe that the people we pick are good for us even when they are not. Someome told me one time. Two good people can sometimes create a Toxic environment. I think that maybe if someone can't stay in solid friendships it could be that person not knowing how things they are facing internally affect how they present themselves and choose friends.

[@kllngls]

*commenting early so sorry if they end up addressing this* but my red flag for friendships is if i hear them talking about their close friends behind their backs. what makes ME so special that you wouldn’t talk about me like you do them?? lol no thank you. for relationships it’s someone who is constantly in short lived relationships and is never single. why do you always need someone?? are you with me because you like me or are you with me because you don’t want to be alone? why do your relationships always end so quickly? idk to me it just seems like they’re very dependent on others and to me that can be very toxic.

[@patsalalor8092]

That’s what happened in my most recent fall out with a bunch of friends smh

[@doriwalla]

I really appreciate that you said ALL relationships are concerning for red flags. Excited to get into this one... ahah 😅💖

[@moolis]

Everyone, men and women, both have red flags. Noone is an angel. However, there are individuals with bigger or more red flags than a communist parade. Up to you if you want a project though.

[@thechristiandash]

I'm the bad friend in my group. During my partying days, I was a terrible friend. I'd be the guy who would complain about one of my friends' parties being boring and "not cool enough," leave early, then go to another club that I thought was more poppin. I apologized to them about it. But sometimes, I feel like they still think I''m that person from years ago.

[@justkallmekai]

When Tiff said that a friend told her that she needs to tell say something positive sometimes... I recently had to tell a friend that. I won't say it's common because I don't know but I've encountered many (including myself) where all observations and talking points with each other is just negative shit, and it's extremely exhausting for sure.

[@TammyMai]

Love you all so much. Dealing with toxicity has been hard for me to recognize but hearing all of this has validated my feeling. Thank you soooo much. 🥲

[@MakeupANNimal]

Loved this episode. Wore my OG candy heart hoodie while having lunch and listening in. I’m a Leo like Gina and I can always relate with the amount of attention I need, so it’s nice to hear about boundaries from Nikki and Tiff who need more space but still enjoy quality time.

[@C.Dat.guyoverthere]

52:11 I'm definitely a quality time person. There have been so many broken promises from family and friends. It's affected me a bunch. I think it's why I do more stuff independently now.

[@FlavumSignum]

-There's a saying that old people used to say to me - "It doesn't matter if somebody has baggage, try finding somebody who doesn't have any, you won't find them. What matters is do those baggage match well your own?" -Red flags are interesting topic: There are red flags that you should leave immediately 'cause even Stalin would be proud! Or ones you may feel cautious but perhaps explore on whether or not it could be an issue? The ones that I think you should avoid at all cost - any type of abusive behaviour verbal and definitely physical; being paranoid or controlling; financial irresponsibility past the age of 30; lack of emotional maturity appropriate for the age - that includes inability to be self-reflective, seeking objective perspective when needed; gaslighting; projecting past hurts and issues unto current events; being unaware of and unwilling to admit one's addictive personality; inability to put healthy boundaries with others, family included; and inability to be empathetic to oneself or others perspective. -But red flags that may or may not be an issue - being hurt from past relationships,: lost friendships, divorce or break ups (if projection isn't an issue;) recovering from addictions if boundaries are strong today, i.e. attended AA/NA and no longer drinks or do drugs or even be around places that do; recovered from parental abuse; identity issues due to being adopted, third culture kids, or one moved a lot growing up; weird personality quirks; mental health or emotional issues well aware by the individual and being measurably worked on.

[@michidful]

A guy with Japanese name written in Cryllic, Profile picture wearing Buryat traditional clothing and fluent in English.....WHAT ARE YOU? 🥸😝😅😇

[@FlavumSignum]

@@michidful I'm Buryat, Russian Jewish and Japanese descent. Japanese name is a better nickname than a plain Russian name I have. Long life story 😂

[@FlavumSignum]

@@michidful Also, are you Khalka? You would be the very 1st person to recognize Buryat clothing on KZbin for me :)

[@michidful]

@@FlavumSignum Yeah, I’m Khalkha Mongolian. I was just reading through the comments and yeah the combination of you really popped out. 😅☺️

[@FlavumSignum]

@@michidful yaaay what's up cousin!! 😂. Thanks for the recognition! 🤝

[@CapeEniEer]

omg the quality time being srs about expectations and actions too helps me a lot!!! My ex used to tell me all these nice things that he never really executed, but he also never promised to execute them ever, and id always complain to him that i feel unspecial. Now i know why!

[@ayylien_jaz]

“SHUT UP BROKE BOI” -Gina lol

[@ruemaroo6452]

Its so convenient this episode came out because I just helped a friend get out of an unhealthy relationship where she was constantly being manipulated and he was gaslighting her all the time.

[@DelilahHazlewood]

Gina isn’t mean she just not taking anyone’s shit

[@coffeegirl18]

I second that. My close friends refer to it as "suffering no fools". Like it takes awhile to work on relationships/friendships don't do shitty things to them.

[@dianaanonymous5794]

More episodes about friendships please!! Also maybe an episode on childhood role models (like Barbie or celebrities). Keep going girls!! This is the only podcast I consistently listen to

[@raviolingg]

i really dont think people not having a best friend or having a group is a red flag. i have been with this group of girls since high school and in one of the years during uni i had a mental fall out - i could not attend to a few events and i flaked last minute but i told them i was not feeling well due to anxiety attacks. they never once asked if i was okay and ever since they have cut me off without telling me. later in the year i apologised and asked if i have done anything wrong, they said they would catch up but never did. i would love to know what i have done wrong if they'd tell me but they never did and just ghosted me. for me not having a best friend is because i have trust issues from my childhood and i don't share personal stuff to a point to have a deep relationship with anyone, except with my sister and my boyfriend.

[@tendaisimbanegavi519]

It's crazy how sometimes all you need to do to see your flaws in to look at the people around you.

[@abbeysolute]

My favorite and only podcast I listen to! I learn a lot from listening to this podcast and you all crack me up 🥰

[@HK47_115]

I really have to give credit to you girls. Your fucking sponsored transitions are just fucking spot-on. That shit catches me off-guard every fucking time. I see you're about to go into a joke or another story I didn't slide it right on in. Talking about a smooth transition

[@caroliinec]

Someone not having a solid friend group may not be a red flag in some cases. There's some instances where someone could be in a toxic relationship where their partner isolates them from their own friend group and the only friends that person has is connected to their (toxic) partner. So then when they break up, that person is left with no partner and no friend group and it's not even their fault. Just wanted to point this out. It’s not always a red flag. Sometimes it's a sad result. 💔 all love for this podcast. You are the group of girlfriends I wish I had 💕💕 Edit to add that it all boils down to how that person talks about the friend group that they lost. If it's with remorse, it more than likely wasn't their fault. If it's brutally nasty, it's most likely a red flag.

[@missmalexa]

I had a friend who had a falling out with a few people before I met her. We clicked so well together so I believed her when she said they were toxic. During the 2 years of our friendship she had a falling out with about 3-4 people and then eventually me. I realized she was the common denominator in all of these situations and that maybe the people she was cutting off weren’t actually toxic.... it was just her. I tried explaining this to her and mutual friends and she convinced a few mutuals that I was the issue and I was the toxic one. When Gina said that I felllllttttttt that!!!! I instantly thought of this situation.

[@ManuellaKawano24]

Morgan Alexa I went through that same situation! She would always make me feel like I was the problem and would gaslight me until I finally had enough and blocked her. But I will say that experience helped me grow overall as a person to not ignore red flags

[@SuperJust4girls]

I unintentionally made a scoliosis joke in front of my friend with scoliosis... immediately regretted it and now we aren't friends. She also made me feel bad about something a lot earlier tho so I didn't see the friendship lasting very long anyway.

[@39913]

I prolly have all the red flags they mentioned except the relationship ones since I've never been in one, but if I had I would've prolly done those too. But the thing is, I come from a dysfunctional family, got physical and verbal abuse by my dad and brother (I'm a female) and my mom left when I was 12. So I have a hard time trusting people, hell I don't even love myself... but I recognize my problems and am battling one by one even if I'm alone, even if it takes a while. No one can be 100% perfect and have 0 red flags. Just be aware of them and actively try to make a change for the better. If you are struggling too, we got this. Don't give up!

[@suigetsushark]

For me, a non-negotiable red flag is when a man treats you and his female family members with respect, but treat other women disrespectfully. From my experience, it shows the underlying objectification of women. If you are a "girlfriend" you are an object that is treated different from another girl. That's not ok

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Isn't that goes for women to i've see females do that with their men. I mean when's the last time you see a women have bunch of female friends and still have a boyfriend cause not a lot do a they know her female friends will either try to get laid on her boyfriend or the boyfriend will. But just dating in general some girlfriends just don't like it when other girls are talking to their men so the boyfriend could also be warning the other girls not to be friendly with him. I mean would you like it if your boyfriend acts super nice to other girls besides you or the other way around.

[@suigetsushark]

there is a difference between treating someone with kindness and respect versus hardcore flirting with someone. I feel like a lot of people don't understand this, like really how do people confuse being a nice person with flirting? sounds very insecure and again, objectifying to me.

[@getgot3461]

@@mysticstrikeforce5957 what are you even saying? y'all always deflect when you get called out. respecting women in general=/=objectifying women you're attracted to and only being nice to your S/O, all women deserve baseline respect, doesn't mean you should have ulterior motives to treat a woman like a fucking human being.

[@maannsu]

Yup! Was with a guy like this for 4 years , initially i didnt notice it but slowly i saw the monster he truly was when he wouldnt respect my opinion at all, he wanted to get married and i ran as far away.

[@itsNinaLeeyo]

When your siblings did all these toxic traits while growing up (bc they had their own scars) and you look for these traits in all relationships and are that as well but haven't learned cope with it "compared to my siblings" 🙃🙃. Rocks in the corner by herself* 🥲 I'm trying to unlearn these bad habits and I want to thank you guys for that, for sharing your stories and being the older sisters I always wanted. I love you girls.

[@wanglee21]

@12:00 Like what Gina and Nikki said, if there is a pattern and it seems to keep happening to one individual than, all things are pointing to one person. Either its who they are or what they keep trying to find, keeps placing them into the same scenario. It's sad to see many men and women go thru the same kind or relationships they are blinded from reality to move ahead in life.

[@prttymama6]

I almost spit my food out when I heard Ginas intro 😂😂

[@willcee4966]

16:04 My first relationship was like this at 20. She was bringing me in then pushing me away for 5 months. Felt like a waste of time

[@katepika]

Okey, but im social and i can't keep close friends somehow, i just can't find friends with common interest or friends who add value to my life, how do you find good friends? I have had bad experiences and i don't seem to also want to trust people anymore, i always get people who backstab me or talk bad behind my back.

[@seaturtle5719]

There’s probably something about you that people dislike that you’re not even aware of

[@tendaisimbanegavi519]

Red Flag: Inequality You can make a joke at my expense but when i do it to you think it's a personal attack. You can borrow money from but you are never in a position to return the favor. You are always the receiver and i am always the giver.

[@camallacampbell918]

This teached me alot

[@juliancarlson1992]

A lot of great insights in this episode, thanks!

[@priscilaes]

I was just done with watching this video and youtube actually asked me for a star rating/feedback! This is the first time I saw this for any video I've watched, is it new? Gave yah 5 of course!

[@BossGokaiGreen]

NIKKI LIMO PLEASE SPREAD THE AWESOME FILIPINO CULTURE DOWN THERE IN THE U.S.A! MUCH LOVE FROM CANADA 🐷🇨🇦🇯🇵

[@marilynb4696]

I don’t agree with Gina, I’m independent and have various different friend groups and I’ve left friend groups because they were toxic and I don’t put up with drama/back talking

[@devilyn6669]

well thats an exception then and you would just explain it like you just did

[@christiancamacho3841]

i so needed this, this morning my house kinda flooded because of pluming ive been up for a while and this is def gonna hit the spot also this was super needed because idk what im doing or should be looking for lol

[@ccchrv]

Very informative episode! Very real and insightful talk

[@jeanettekakareka]

I also struggle with words of affirmation (besides "I love you", "I'm proud of you", "I appreciate you"... it's more like specific compliments). It's because I don't want to come across as insincere like I'm over-praising them. I get so awkward about it. This is even with my own fiancé! I think it's because in my family we NEVER gave out compliments or if I did get one from my parents, it felt like "too much" to me. Oops... 😂

[@Isaac-ul8yz]

They have all these videos on how to deal with relationship problems which is great; but how about if us guys could get a video on how to ask a girl out or how we should go about approaching girls etc, i dunno i just have dated in 2 years and i'm just so out of the game

[@christenshenique3704]

I feel like falling out with a group of friends isn't always a red flag. I'm no longer cool with a group of people from highschool, but they stopped wanting hangout with me because I was in a serious relationship and they weren't. They didn't like that I wasn't into partying anymore and wasn't willing to lie to my partner to do single people activities. I also feel like they were use to having my undivided attention and time ,and once I started college and got into a relationship I wanted more low maintenance friendships.

[@chicamica36]

Facts, same here. Made me realize that there has to be sacrifices for maturity. Also, I hated the fact that they would make me feel torn between my significant other and them. Will never allow that again.

[@monicaduong8410]

Really needed this right now

[@blackdawg7361]

Gina: "Death, death, deather than death, super death! Kill him to death!!! I'll call him, he won't even know why." Gina is so hilarious! 🧡

[@RonRuble]

I feel there is only one way to deal with someone gaslighting you. Call them out on it, tell them their evasions are bullshit. Tell them clearly and directly that you will *not* tolerate this type of behavior for one second, not even once. Tell them this is their one and only chance to accept responsibility, apologize, and take responsible action to ensure they *never* try this again. Tell them that's how it is going to be, and if they can't handle it, hit the road *now* because this relationship is over. And do it. if they refuse to take responsibility, apologize, and vow never try it again, out they go. No second chance. If they break their vow and try it again, out they go. No second chance. If you have to kick them out, go full-on nuclear no contact. If a friend tries to mediate, tell them no firmly, and if they don't take no for an answer, they aren't your friend. That's how I feel about it.

[@franciscaconsuelo8683]

Girls! Y’all need to make a collab with the guys from Enjoy The Podcast. That will be sooo cool 💕

[@laurenallday]

i like this dynamic

[@KeturaSaint-Fleurose]

Pleaseeee as a bonus do a truth or drink 😌❤️

[@Gaengar]

When he tells you to delete your photo album of all ur kpop boys

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Yha friendships in red flags is a lot and sometimes you learn it while your young or older for me i had to understand that having a lot of friends will not be their for you forever i know some do tend to keep those friends but they will go away in due time specially when get those adult reasonability. Also i agree with tiff about keeping some stuff hidden cause its like people complain why aren't more people open in your friend circle or relationship and that is because when we do people use that against you to win something over you and to me that's part of many red flags right there. Like you shared your deepest part about your to someone and then you do that and then you wonder why people have emotional problems of not sharing or caring and then they also say its cause nobody says anything good about me. I think if people are looking for help like that never turn it into a win situation for later arguments or a joke to someone but i guess its been a long time for people to know you can be real with someone you just got to have respect for that other person who comes out to you to.

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

My best friends i had all move but we still chat online or play games together so does that make it a red flag

[@golbinnom]

I feel like this podcast is really good at sponsors, it doesn't feel like an ad

[@levistrudel9319]

I wish I can talk about this, I feel like I’m an expert On this topic but I have NO ONE to tell. I have so much experience and a really good way of breaking down even the wording abusers use and how to analyze that.

[@coffeegirl18]

I also have a family member that repeatedly tried to almost guilt trip me into being completely silent because everything I said was wrong. They also have tried to micromanage me constantly at times. Is it connected to abuse or OCD/PTSD?

[@kao5789]

I won't say it applies to every situation, but one red flag I've seen in most of my ex-friendships/ex-relationships is that they always have at least one other friend/friends or family member they get along really well with that is kind of rude towards you even though you try to be nice or at least civil to them, and they just kind of watch it happen. And you kind of feel like you can't do anything about it either because you don't want to start shit and want to keep some peace. I use to overlook/ignore it since it's not like you can do much about who else they like being around, but people are the sum of the company they keep. If they have no problem with other people being rude to you it's usually because they are going to be treating you the same way eventually ime.

[@brianudairam7552]

A red flax for me is they get irritated, piss off or offended over anything

[@daliasanchez3762]

damn this episode made me reflect on past relationships & friendships!! & let’s just say I’m happy w who I have now🥺 took a little while but we made it :)

[@jessthebest7717]

I had to cut a friend off recently because he was always acting like he was a victim and would have drunk rages. At first I would tell myself if I was a true friend I would forgive and forget but I had enough and I had to tell myself a true friend wouldn’t treat me the way he did. I’m so much happier not having to deal with all his bull💩

[@yayoelcredo5452]

Loved this episode

[@RonRuble]

"I'm on my way..." AAARRRGGGGHHHH! Major pet peeve. For anyone who does *not* get why this is so bad: Imagine you are in a restaurant. You ask for a table for 4, and ask the host/hostess, "How long is the wait?" "Just a few minutes" You check back repeatedly over the next 3 hours. "Just a few minutes". You call to beg the babysitter to stay longer, you are late taking a critical prescription because you must take it with food. Your spouse has gone from happy and horny to pissed-off and tired. And when you finally are seated, most of the meals you love are no longer available this evening. And finally, as you are leaving, you overhear the servers talking. The host/hostess knew the wait was going to be hours, and deliberately lied. You ask him/her why they lied, and are told, "I didn't want to disappoint you" But the very decision to lie is *WHY* you are so horribly, irreversably disappointed and pissed-off. That is why it's so bad.

[@_mvryi3021]

Can you girls do an episode about moving in with your partner for the first time?

[@UncleAlpha1]

Daymnnn Nikki fire 🔥 I love 💕

[@saadiqahlucas4086]

good episode, please can we have more spooky stories or unsolved mysteries or something similar

[@amelialopez7403]

From this video I’ve learned that Gina and I have the exact same social personality, to a T Edit: also, this was a great conversation. I had no intentions of watching the full hour and I didn’t even realize 50 minutes had passed. Muy bueno!

[@minatwom]

pls ask stephanie soo to be a guest on the podcast bfore she move

[@UncleAlpha1]

Noooooo annoying girl with annoying voice

[@Yourmom-us2eh]

Yesss!! I love her she's so sweet

[@minatwom]

@@UncleAlpha1 aww poor guy with poor taste :l

[@UncleAlpha1]

@@minatwom since this episode is about red flags. Stephanie is 10x red flags.

[@krissyveebaby]

YESSS LOVE HER

[@sarahrami00]

25:40 hit close to home dude gina you are so right, cause that's how my mom responds to whenever i would bring out old scars from my childhood. it probably stems from a lot of guilt she built up on herself, but it makes me hesitate on opening up about my feelings to her. lol trauma is wild.

[@momentous7417]

The 3 of you make a perfect podcast! I’ve tried before to listen but struggled but the 3 of you play off each other perfect. Love you Jess but maybe you can be the brains and behind the scenes? Love you! Just being as honest as possible for viewwwwsss $$$

[@sinxycs]

love you guys

[@christelaye]

Another red flag is when they only talk to you when it’s convenient for them. Like they never actually make time for you.

[@kittyandkita]

8:21 I would feel hella peer pressure and it’s just a group thing. I think I’d just bring it up in a different setting and be like “none of y’all got my back fake asses”

[@itzSAnDrA1]

ok may someone catch me up? I haven't listened/watched Big Mood in a loooong time. What happened to Boze? and also, this set up is gorgeous!!

[@daydream1258]

They made a video on it, something like what happened to boze?

[@joeinthanou7961]

I need an angel 😇 around me to protect me at all times for the ones that take advantage of me mentally over and over

[@victoriaparent8004]

Nikki I am the same person as you in a relationship 🤣🤣🤣 I'm so glad I'm not alone

[@HK47_115]

I know exactly how Nikki feels. I'm the same way. My head is just full of thoughts constantly. Someone somebody's trying to talk to me when my head's full never mind if I am hungry or if I got my headphones in its absolutely fucking annoying. I almost have to go through my thoughts the same way somebody has to let some shit out enough of the chest. Otherwise is going to corrupt my mind. I'm not going to be able to think straight. And when somebody wants to have a conversation, they're basically trying to add another thought to your head when it's already full and overflowing.

[@NikkiLimo]

dude YES! 😩

[@bitchno8748]

Yesss I needed this

[@Jorgejarp01]

love yall

[@taylormack885]

A portion of your loyal viewers admire the content but also the legs; we just want to say thank you :)

[@remble5337]

Facts!

[@KasheYan15]

Yes! Every week I'm always hoping at least one is showing them

[@remble5337]

Still hoping that they do the double leg cross pose though lol

[@kittyandkita]

I wanna know which red flags lead to which people. Like what people are insecure and which are manipulative

[@randellmainer]

"Today's episode will be about red flags" Me, a NASCAR fan: *triggering intensifies*

[@dreaaao_o]

Had a friend who had a shitty relationship with her family, whenever I’d tell her that I’m busy chilling with my family she’d say that she needs me to come over to her place because if she’s alone she might cut herself or commit suicide....

[@No1likeSharon]

Tiff is becoming more beautiful every video

[@lizdegrasse7960]

as a visual artist who shows so many pieces to my bf if he didnt compliment them YA BANNED Lmfao

[@shhd2105]

Its not a joke if everyone doesn't laugh and it hurts people

[@TheMetalBeatle92]

Gina surprised me with that intro lol

[@thechristiandash]

Roasting each other is fine with me. But if you do it in front of strangers, then we have a problem.

[@Bunnyboiler5069]

I don't have a best friend.. i genuinely feel like they have been users or just plain insane.. more so than I am.. either used me for money or for favors or or because I was a final resort.. eventually they do shyty things to me and I have to decide to leave the situations.. idk 😐 guess it could be me but it feels like ita not idk idk

[@mkthefreak]

Red flag: a friend/partner makes you feel bad for the good things you have in life that you can't control (in my case a happy nuclear family with some extra money). I had a friend that would throw that in my face like an insult because she didn't have the life I had. Ya'll, if your friend is covertly jealous, just dump them.

[@dylanjohnson3346]

Everyone needs girl friends like big mood

[@BadCowboy67]

Major Red Flag, Don't ever do this or that My ex always did that.

[@anitoess9113]

gina cracks me up

[@SonGokuSleepTherapy]

red flag: You're so much better at doing this than me i'll just let you do it

[@marysamson9228]

IVE BEEN LISTENING, I TOOK A STEP BACK.. IM LIKE OK!! HMM, YEA I AINT GONNA LIE. I AM THE COMMON DENOMINATOR. IM TIRED OF TAKING PEOPLES CRAP. IM TIRED GETTING THE SHORT END OF THE STICK, ESPECIALLY WITH FRIENDSHIP!! AFTER LETTING ALL THEM GO, MAN .. I AM SOOOO AT PIECE WITH MYSELF. NO MORE DRAMA, NO MORE CALLIN ME AT 2 OR 3 AM IN THE MORNING CAUSE THIER BOYFRIEND/ HUSBAND CHEATING ON THEM N GAVE EM STDS, AND AND AND MY FRIENDS STILL STAYED WITH THERE SORRY ASS DUDES AND AND AND AND STILL HAVE A BABY BY THEM. NAH IM GOOD. SO THEY SPEND HOURS CRYING ON THE PHONE WITH ME. SOON AFTER , THEY MAKE UP, DAMM ITS THAT EASY. HEARING ALLLLL MY GIRLS PROBLEMS , MADE ME REALIZE BEING SINGLE IS THEEEEE BEST THING!!

[@simeihipolio]

I really love your videos hahahah!