Does "All Gas, No Brakes" Host Refuse to Take "No" for an Answer? | Andrew Callaghan Case Analysis

[@jamaaldavis6243]

Not only do you upload every day, but you tend to do so around the same span of hours, too. I’ve come to anticipate these uploads and I quite literally checked my phone just now specifically for your upload and there it is… right on time! Thanks as always, Doc!

[@maxmeier532]

I thought Grande was able to see nuance. Obviously AC saying he always took no for an answer while also saying he has a pattern of trying to persuade women into having sex with him CAN both be true at the same time, and for the LATTER he apologised and that apology is NOT contradicted by him making clear he never crossed the mentioned line. Also, we havent heard any precise accounts of conversations. For instance, the first accuser may have said "no" in her mind in hindsight. In reality it may have been (and it seems more probable given the situation and her reported inebriation) that she deflected 2 times, as in "I am tired", "I have a boyfriend", but never actually literally said "no". That is how a lot of people in many situations act, not just dates. They arent confrontational and dont draw a strict line because of it even when they want to and in hindsight think they did. And that is most likely part of what AC says when he says, the accusers havent given full context of what happened.

[@pegleg2959]

@@maxmeier532 yes I agree. I got the impression he was saying that he had been inappropriate and pushy, but he always stopped short of actual grape/assault. This is confirmed by the 'victims' stories as well.

[@MyJesusLovesAndSaves]

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[@lostandfound5145]

@@maxmeier532 it’s not hard to know if someone isn’t interested and you’re pushing them for what you want. Give me a break. He knew he was pressuring those women and he knew it was wrong and he didn’t and still does not care. You can’t fool anyone with this nonsense.

[@lostandfound5145]

@Long John Thilver romance certainly doesn’t work by pestering and wearing down a drunk woman you’re never going to see again so you can get laid at her expense. If that’s really your idea of romance then I feel very, very sorry for all your current and past romantic pursuits

[@haidenkoff1963]

Omg it feels like two different universes are coming together, you’re a G for covering this Dr. Grande

[@GarbagePerson578]

Dr. Grande is always G'd up from the feet up. It's not exclusive to his coverage of this space cadet.

[@a.evelyn5498]

Why wouldn’t he? He follows that which is going on in pop culture & responds when the events can be analyzed in such a manner. He’s not following pop culture like the Kardashians, not in that sense, but in the sense of controversies that often involve immorality &/or illegality.

[@justiceforjuicy6765]

But he’s not the top g

[@Leanne-mw8nm]

@@justiceforjuicy6765 OH HELL YES, HE'S A "G" THOUGH!!!

[@brianb7869]

Takin the piss out of f tards since day one! Congratulations Doctor Todd!! Well played. Your story about the stewardess's response to your desire to be a pilot is golden.

[@philochristos]

People rarely blame themselves for anything. None of us are comfortable with the idea that we have done something wrong, so we all have a natural tendency to rationalize and make excuses so as to pacify our conscience and allow us to live with ourselves and save face. The real struggle is being brutally honest with ourselves. If we gave everybody the benefit of the doubt to the same degree that we excuse our own behavior, we'd probably get along better.

[@purringbluzzmuffin8030]

Damn Damn Damn truth

[@ronpudding9598]

Yeah. I think it's hard for pretty much anyone to be completely honest and truthful with themselves when it comes to more serious things like this, because I think it invokes some sort of survival mechanism or "fight or flight" response in us. Nobody wants to fully admit they have done something like this because it would mean they would potentially be cast out of their group, be shunned and hated by society, and lose other important aspects of life. Essentially a feeling of losing ones life. So the automatic response is to go into defense. To minimize the damage as much as possible to try and save face. It's a very human response. To fully admit to serious wrongdoings is incredibly difficult when you are aware that it has serious consequences. You would be going against your own natural inclination to survive.

[@keysaysassah]

I think what you said is generally true but like the last commenter, many of us are hyper critic and fixate on why our actions caused our own problems (even when they didn’t). I also think that deep down, many people can admit they’re wrong even when they don’t say it aloud

[@kuritheking]

Some of us have no problem taking accountability but that’s a minority apparently, people who won’t are just overgrown insecure children in my eyes

[@kuritheking]

@@erdelegy a relatable statement

[@rachaelb.]

All of that was in his public apology?? Dang, it sounds like he had a 5-way conversation with himself. He accused himself and forgave himself and already moved on. What a guy!

[@barfymann362]

If you haven't, check out the response his victim Dana made to his apology. She did a great job of breaking it all down.

[@braidena1633]

@@barfymann362 hard pass on that lol

[@leeoreilly6797]

All gaslight, no brakes.

[@braidena1633]

@Big Chungus yt comments are fair game for anyone

[@cassondralynch6342]

He actually seems like a great guy rachael. He's in the toughest situation a very left leaning believe all women type of man in the media could be in. He's not the type that would be like f these opportunistic liars like others might. Regardless, if he was a young, drunk man that was annoying and kept asking for sex, welcome to planet f'ng earth. She should've kicked him out then like she supposedly did the next day!!!!!!! The fact people treat claims like this like he's likely a pos predator makes me disgusted to be apart of this ridiculous human race of sheep.

[@SuperBanker22]

I’m wondering if equality means that women pressuring men , socially, is just as wrong ? At this stage of life , I find younger women confusing in their overtures , if not flirtation.

[@103SuperDog]

That’s why we love you Dr.G always trying to keep it Fifty-Fifth street.

[@NoseyNana]

I'm closing in on 75yrs of age & until my generation hit the "Make Love, Not War",together with the sexual revolution, Andrew's viewpoints on consent sound like common advise given to males at the time. As a female, how did I know? I could read...Playboy, Hustler & visit Tower of Books. It was an interesting journey. Probably my best contribution was how I raised my two sons. It wasn't about the Birds & Bees, but about empathy, how to treat people & building confidence for starters.

[@purringbluzzmuffin8030]

I like how smily you are. Chances that you were purring when that picture was taken: 100%

[@KellieBell]

I hear you. I'm 41. I feel like a lot of the consequences of the sexual revolution were just really confusing for my generation. Like, I wanted to feel empowered but at the end of the day I just felt taken advantage of. And most male role models were associated with sexual aggression, leaving guys sort of lost about where confidence comes from. On top of it, we all got gold stars for participation and given this impression we could do no wrong, and didn't learn how to admit and take accountability for mistakes. I think the whole mess is finally reaching a breaking point.

[@purringbluzzmuffin8030]

@@KellieBell You are a magical person with a delicate, purring soul.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

The extremes of the sexual revolution seem to be just as harmful as the ultra-puritanical culture it was in reaction to. Swing too far to either side of the pendulum and you get negative consequences.

[@destroya3303]

@@KellieBell "male role models were associated with sexual aggression" More aggressive assertive men get women's panties wet, provided they are not over doing it. Everybody knows it. The guy at my school who got in the most fights also got the most girls. And he wasn't even that good looking, girls just liked that energy.

[@tracyking5945]

Dr. Grande, your humor never ceases to amuse me! I appreciate your even keel temperament and enjoy listening to you, which for me is akin to a poetry reading. I look forward to your concise, yet thought-provoking commentaries. Thank you!

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

Hey Dr. Grande💘 Thank you for the new video! I swear, you're not only the best & most respectful doctor, man, person & channel on this entire platform! You are so very appreciated🙏🫶🙏🫶🙏

[@taylor11111]

He is very disrespectful and flippant..?

[@michelledurdin8564]

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[@mimig6511]

@@taylor11111 sarcastic which i do not like. but the cases are interesting and well researched

[@lostandfound5145]

@@taylor11111 you misunderstand, she means he is respectful toward people who actually deserve respect. He stands for good morals and decency. I disagree that he is often flippant. He tends to be very well thought out when he makes his opinions. Though he has some emotional blind spots I have seen. But don’t we all?

[@annalisegiovanni7032]

@Lost and Found ~He's most definitely respectful to the people whom deserve it. & he could say a wholeee lot of mean things about the criminals he covers, but he takes the joking way.

[@sketchysketches381]

You know I had a lot of these thoughts about how is apology was downplayed by blaming alcohol, the mystery of consent, and that there's some hidden context that absolved him that he isn't willing to share. It felt very much like soft deflection instead of a geniune apology.

[@Meanie74]

Look up Dana Nobody. One of the accusers. She has a great video explaining why that “apology” is less than adequate. I also make quite a few comments on the video bc from the response of his fans he’s absolutely perpetuating rape culture. Go ahead and read them

[@filho4437]

The context isn't hidden. It's in the accusations themselves. He's apologizing because he has too. Not because he did anything egregious.

[@Meanie74]

@@filho4437 he did the exact same as was done to Terry Crews yet when it happened to Terry, no one had a problem labeling it “egregious”

[@filho4437]

@@Meanie74 "exact." You should Google that word.

[@AngelsoftheUnknown]

@@filho4437 idk how to explain to u that sexual assault is egregious

[@RiderZoneCC]

I really liked Andrew's videos. I feel sorry for the women who, like me, probably thought he was cool.

[@darkcrystalmagik3369]

Yup. Me too.

[@GuyNamedSean]

It's odd. On screen you'd think he's a much more passive person that wouldn't ever act like that. Just goes to show how well some people mask their fucked up behaviour.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

@@GuyNamedSean Alcohol is extremely toxic to the developing brain. Andrew is only 25 and has been drinking heavily since being young, which is bad news for the prefrontal cortex - the part of the brain responsible for impulse control and making wise decisions.

[@acey6647]

Sounds like he was pushy. The women adamantly said no and he complied. I don’t see what’s such a big deal. If you’d ever been a guy trying to get with a girl it’s not uncommon for them to play hard to get. What matters is he accepted no as an answer. If he did anything physical that would make me change my opinion. But these are all just accusations after all.

[@jolenejoleeene]

I'm sure he did take no for an answer. He took it and twisted it into "try harder". This was status quo for males when I was younger, and now I just hope I never have to experience physical intimacy again.

[@user-tu2dr3ny6x]

Just to play devils advocate, the first THREE girls I asked out, and was rejected by in high school, all got mad at me for "not trying harder" when I took no for an answer. I'm only 28 too btw, so this was somewhere around 2010. Fortunately that's changing, but there's a still a disturbingly high amount of girls and women that think it's cute to reject the guy they like in order to test how committed he is to earning their affection. They genuinely understood how dangerous it is to promote that behavior, and how infuriating it is for us guys that refused to play that game from day one.

[@Throatzillaaa]

If Andrew is saying that there's contextual information missing from these women's multiple accounts, that would change the way people are feeling about him and could better explain what actually occurred, why withhold that information? It just sounds to me like he wants the average youtube subscriber to believe he took accountability without actually doing so, probably because he was advised not to take legal responsibility by his lawyer(s).

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

If I was falsely accused of something and context was missing then I wouldn't say "context is missing" I would say "here's the evidence that they're lying" and then show it.

[@jackdempsey6349]

@@Aaron-kj8dv that's what you would do and not what an attorney with say. What people say and representatives of the law do are always different.

[@MCGreen13]

It wouldn’t matter what he said, he’d have no way to prove it so if he’d attempted to defend himself he would’ve been crushed for calling the girls liars. It would’ve been majorly dumb as the “believe women” thing means that everyone who cares has already decided and those that don’t care don’t need him to make excuses.

[@lostandfound5145]

@@jackdempsey6349 that’s completely not true. I think you should spend time listening to lawyers more often. They would 100% agree with Aaron. If you have evidence to support your innocence you would show it immediately. Lawyers are not PR firms.

[@lostandfound5145]

@@MCGreen13 except that nobody “believes women”. The movement might exist and be pushed by some people but the average person in first world countries still agree that you should only believe women you know and trust, and for everyone else it is innocent until proven guilty. There are several examples over the last several years of men saying outright that they did not do what they were accused of and even some showing indignation and anger regarding the allegations. They did not lose their careers or fans. People don’t like weasels. I think his slimy non-genuine “apology” will hurt him more than help him. People don’t like being manipulated and this was a very sloppy attempt at emotional manipulation

[@thesongbird2383]

Dr. Grande - just wanna say that it pleases me to see, from comments, that you have so many dedicated followers who love & appreciate your personality, humor and interesting content! Hugs 👍💜🌵⭐

[@lulumoon6942]

As a former Victim Advocate many survivors shared their personal stories of non-consent. There is absolutely a big element of socialization that needs addressed, for females with boundary setting and agreeability, and with males a sexual conquest culture and accountability. Healthy males can be a huge part of this shift, in dialogue with other males, and interpersonal relationships with females. Bottom line is women often say no louder with their bodies than their mouths, out of fear, intoxication, or cultural expectation.

[@bettinabarry8423]

It reminds me of that SNL skit on sexual harassment in the workplace...the unattractive man approaches women employees with a question about work and they scream "sexual harassment" but when the good-looking man shows up in his underwear with the same group, they are eager and excited to get his attention! Most women who go to bars are looking for a hook-up, and that is the same for men. He didn't commit a crime and some --- despite thier outrage --- encourage him --- why take him back to her apartment or consent to "sexual acts" If women want to be equal, they should be accountable for thier actions.

[@claireelizabeth9431]

Men and women are conditioned to react to uncomfortable situations differently. Men learn to fight and cause a scene when they're uncomfortable, women learn to go along to get along, not cause a scene, and just wait for it to be over. He stated that he thought he'd be a loser if he left the bar alone, meaning he most likely heavily pressured the woman to let him go home with her. She was probably super uncomfortable, didn't want to cause a scene in the bar, and also didn't want to be rude. So she went along with and and prayed that he'd change his mind and leave her alone, or that someone would step in. Instead of victim blaming women because you as a man don't understand what it's like to be a woman in that situation, hold abusers and harassers accountable for THEIR actions.

[@bettinabarry8423]

@Claire Elizabeth You should take a look at my name...I am no man.

[@jensenpete]

“All harass, no brains”. Classic!!

[@upaige911]

4:51 uNFORTUNATELY what the first woman described is very COMMON. Had Andrew not been “famous“ or notable in someway? No one would’ve ever heard about her uncomfortable encounter. I personally have had many of these uncomfortable “dates “. I never felt the need to report them to the authorities, for any reason.… not saying it’s wrong or right but a pushy guy on a date is really nothing new. It sounds to me that Andrew did not cross the line, at least with the first woman described here. Or at least not in a criminal manner. (again I’m only a few minutes into this analysis and I am unaware of Andrews more recent history.) I’m only referencing the account shared by the first woman discussed here.

[@EmilyRose1]

And it’s a good thing this is now being discussed publicly because it can cause change

[@Hansgame]

@@EmilyRose1 change on what? the guy did nothing wrong. he asked for sex, in the first case the female said no and he respected that and in the second case, the female said yes, went into full doubt mode afterwards, but let him stay in her apartment for several more hours and afterwards she wanted money from him LMAO u cant just sleep around, and if u sober up, decide that the man has to suffer for your stupid decision. when will women start to overthink their own action and apologize too?

[@ericabingham0417]

He pushed over and over when she said no. Thats coercion which is at very least harassment possibly date rape because it can be intimidating due to power imbalance (ie he was stronger than her and also becoming famous/wealthy but mostly much stronger.) I feel I watched a different video than some people.

[@ericabingham0417]

He pushed over and over when she said no. Thats coercion which is at very least harassment possibly date rape because it can be intimidating due to power imbalance (ie he was stronger than her and also becoming famous/wealthy but mostly much stronger.) I feel I watched a different video than some people.

[@statusdisarray9598]

Thank you 👏 consent is one of the most obviously understandable words in the world. To NOT understand it means you don’t care to.

[@alicewright4322]

I think when two people are drunk and both are poor communicators and the guy has wrong expectations formed by media and bad influences, which andrew admitted to, it would be more complicated. Most media has a warped view of consent, and boys pretend to know more about sex than they do by copying what they learn from media, because their parents are not open about it. I find it weird that Dr grande makes sexual assault jokes instead of addressing why so many men think like andrew claims he used to. also, consent is extremely complicated. most people don't want to work for the companies they work for, but "consent" to under the duress of starvation or social shame for lacking employment. is that consent? if you replace that work with sex work is it consent, even if everyone fakes an enthusiastic yes? indentured servitude is consent (they signed a contract), but is it really? what if you did the same with sex work?

[@JadedBelle]

Always enjoy your perspectives on anything and everything Dr. G. Thanks for all of your efforts.

[@OB.x]

i like to post comments before i watch then edit after, before: Andrew reminds me of myself, how awkward I was with women at my 20s and thought the "alpha chad" way from pick up artists was the way, i just wasn't doing it enough. so i can see how he can go down this rabbit hole. just my opinion before watching video. GO!

[@anafrill9892]

A coerced yes is not consent. If you have to wear someone down and violate their boundaries, it's a clear no. This isn't hard at all.

[@PardonMyPresence]

How does a man receive consent if it's wrong to ask for it? This is all so odd. The doc just made an assumption "people know when there's consent" well apparently not!

[@yolipurpleflower9895]

Andrew produced a slick, manipulative non-apology video. The video message was crafted to allow him to have it all both ways.

[@abeltesfaye_]

Exactly!

[@jessejones1420]

Why can't he have it both ways? He admitted wrong doing, but I don't blame him for not going as far as people want him because he seems to believe a different side of the story. I think as long as he follows through with therapy, therapist recommendations and abstaining from alcohol, then it's really the best he can do. We don't really know what happened. Men just have to learn to read between the lines more, even after you get a hes, constantly ask are you ok? Do you consent? Is this ok? Can I kiss? Otherwise the woman may regret later and accuse you of abusing her

[@FD-qd7zy]

@@jessejones1420 What garbage. Protecting male abusers.

[@jessejones1420]

@@FD-qd7zy I don't think he's an abuser. Not once did any accuser claim he used violence or threats. They just said he was annoying and just gave in, but they could have kicked him out of their house at any point. Women should be rude more often

[@FD-qd7zy]

@@jessejones1420 You seem very similar to Andrew.

[@CB-wz1ni]

"...some people make it seem as though consent is some type of magical mystery that cannot be understood..." well said, Dr Grande. There is an obvious line between persistence and harassment.

[@azulgaia7782]

Excellent, thank you! That apology confused me at first, saying two things. Like he acknowleges pressuring, but consent is too fuzzy to say he violated it. Reassuring to hear that consent is obvious to both parties. The reason we need to talk about it is that he doesn't know or care to get it.

[@elephant_888]

How was “consent” violated at any point? The first woman said no, and they had no sexual contact. The second woman consented to kiss him and then sleep with him after rejecting his earlier advances. He did not force or threaten these women at any point in the story as I heard it from the narrator. Unless one of the women “worked” with him or for him, it wasn’t sexual harassment. He was “annoying” and inappropriate, but if he’d acted without “consent” this would be räpe.

[@btmilner]

@@elephant_888 bro he attacked that chick in her car after she said no and he didn't listen.

[@elephant_888]

@@btmilner attacked?? With a balled up fist or an open hand?? Please understand I think he’s a creep and he acted like one, but I chafe at the desire to criminalize everything to the point where people will need to sign legal documents before the approach or consent to sex. Is “attack” really what happened here?! Let’s be honest and avoid hyperbole. attack verb 1 Christopher had been brutally attacked: ASSAULT, beat, beat up, batter, thrash, pound, pummel, assail, set upon, fall upon, strike at, let fly at, tear into, lash out at, aggress; ambush, mug, pounce on; informal jump, paste, do over, work over, knock around, rough up, lay into, lace into, sail into, pitch into, get stuck into, beat the living daylights out of, let someone have it; British informal set about, have a go at, duff someone up; North American informal beat up on, light into.

[@milanpersonal3671]

I have a hard time understanding what is the crime he committed? That he didn't take the girl's 'no' seriously? Her 'no' obviously wasn't serious otherwise they would not have sex with him. The crazy woman kicked him out at 4 am and then tried to extort him, she should apologize, not him. He flirted with her, she protested his advances then they ended up in her flat, sound fishy to me.

[@elephant_888]

I’m just as confused as you!! Nothing I hate more than a rapist, but all I’ve heard is that he was “annoying” at worst. This video might make more sense if it was April 1st.

[@DeadManSinging1]

Apparently a woman can give consent, but if she regrets the act, then retroactively its rape, I guess.

[@elephant_888]

@@DeadManSinging1 …and she can also demand money 💰💰💰 from you for therapy later. God forbid you refuse!! She’ll publicly accuse you of being an “almost rapist” later!! What about her responsibility for giving consent you say? She’s a woman, she doesn’t have ANY responsibility of course! LOL.

[@Kat_thePotato]

Hm.. "her no obviously wasn't serious otherwise they would not have sex with him" i don't agree with that. Have you ever been in a situation like that? Why would she have said no? I get that its hard to understand, but there are many reasons you would eventually have sex with someone you dont want to because they are pushing you to it. Specially when you've said "no" and it didn't change anything. Its not a good or easy situation to be in. And having sex with someone you don't want to is a horrible experience. It might not be a crime, but it's not a ok thing to do.

[@elephant_888]

@@Kat_thePotato you are not wrong about the possibility of there being extenuating circumstances. I take issue with the fact that none of these extenuating circumstances were presented in the video. He made no threat, there women made no calls for assistance Police or surrounding strangers. He was definitely inappropriate and on the borderline of the law. However, it’s also clear that these women made many many errors in dealing with him. They ended up in the same car with him, inviting him over to their apartments where they were alone to watch late night movies together. These are the things you don’t do when you’re trying to get rid of someone, male or female. It pains me to say it, but there is responsibility on both sides for this mess. I am not excusing him, but I’m also not excusing a woman who’s invited him into her home to watch a movie after hours and ends up being asked repeatedly for sex.

[@rayross997]

I'm only speculating and this is just my opinion but I feel Dr. Grande is a very hard working chap with excellent non analysis videos.

[@watermelonwishes4193]

@longjohnthilver A lot of work goes into making these videos. All the research, recording the video, editing it, etc...and there are 2-4 (KZbin, Facebook, Patreon, and sponsored videos) per day.

[@4Mr.Crowley2]

Dr. Grande please discuss the idiots harassing Pink Floyd because they believe the iconic 50 year old Dark Side of the Moon album cover (coming out in a new anniversary edition) is actually a new “woke” symbol.

[@jorrvaskrr]

Thanks for covering this, Dr. Grande! It's never easy seeing the people you know and admire on these platforms do such awful things, but what's the most important is the legacy left behind!

[@beatersnbeers2145]

So a man makes unwanted advances on you when your out on the town, yet you invite him back to your apartment???

[@destroya3303]

It makes sense to the woketards out here.

[@raewynhaughton1585]

He was a sex pest and wouldn’t take no for an answer, he wore women down until he got what he wanted.

[@cassondralynch6342]

Doesn't it seem to go this way lately with claims against famous men? They're monsters that people still hang around. Idk, call me crazy, but maybe she should've just kicked him out like she supposedly did the next day instead of letting him beg all night 🙄🙄🤦‍♀

[@fish.e]

I believe in Andrew. Look at the situation wholly, and the timing of it. He JUST came out with an extremely controversial documentary that puts political figures in the spotlight. Why would these girls waited until now? Some of them have ties to the radical figures he put on blast. Look at the big picture. I personally have been a victim of SA. I still believe that we need to carry out the American justice of “innocent before proven guilty” and to not ruin a young man’s life with thoughtless gossiping.

[@mikelobrien]

These young people see certain behaviors as permissible due to the acceptance of "hook-up culture." It's more prevalent nowadays, but I can assure you that it was definitely present in the 1970s bar/club culture. Most certainly not "romantic" behavior, I can remember many times when my women friends would say that a man "won't take 'no' for an answer." Our culture definitely needs a wake-up call as far as consent and expectations are concerned.

[@destroya3303]

@michael h Yeah they act like it is the end of the world. I've had a girl take me to her place to watch netflix. I was more aggressive but I never got a hard no or get out, just not a yes either. We ended up making out and by the time she actually wanted to do more I was exhausted so we both just went to sleep.

[@barfymann362]

Dear Dr. Grande, Thank you so much for covering this case. I was looking forward to your opinion on this matter, and I'm glad you decided to cover it. I hope this helps in bringing light to the issues of power dynamics, and helps provide relief for the victims. Thank you.

[@wildebt]

Brilliant analysis. I'm glad everytime you manage to scrape a helpful and even humorous presentation, out of these otherwise despicable cases💚

[@bldbar118]

All Gas, No Breaks Can't say he wasn't upfront about it.

[@Watchoutforsnakez]

If I left a bar with a man, took the man home to my house and drank some more, I would DEFINITELY be having sex with him. Plus, if a man vigorously “chases” a woman who does NOT immediately part ways with a man but rather does “some stuff” with him after she took him home, there is no way ANY of that is a clear “No!” I can totally understand why he is legit confused. Yes, he’s a dummy. But man I don’t see anything but 2 stupid people.

[@Meduse04]

But that was not the situation. He told the girl that he had no way to stay because of a fallout with his crew, and than asked the girl if he could stay with for that night. And apparently he did use that kind excuse with other women too, where he told him that basically just needed a place to stay for the night, just to press them for sex eventually

[@Watchoutforsnakez]

@@Meduse04 Propriety would dictate that a woman should not have an unrelated male to stay in her home alone with her overnight. Once again, if a man gets the message that a girl is not bound by propriety, then he’s going to press her for sex because she has already demonstrated she’s open to it on some level. Women need to take some responsibility for this result.

[@mamaduck9370]

I am completely ignorant of who Andrew Callahan is and his work... But I found the point about "persistence is flattery" resonant. Drunk men in bars, random strangers on social media, seem to have a common theme of unable to differentiate between friendly smile and a "come hither" signal...and have been taught that in the movies, the underdog nerd who admires the cheerleader from afar always gets her in the end after she finds out the handsome quarterback is no good. Trouble is, in real life, women want to be left alone after the first no. Which leads to many resentful incels writing books on how to be an alpha and treat them mean to keep them keen. It's a jungle out there.

[@erinb.7650]

I just don't understand how consent can be so nebulous to people. On our first date my boyfriend asked me point blank "would it be alright if I kissed you?" And I enthusiastically said yes! That was so easy! And I thought it was extremely romantic. Now that we know each other better after many months of a relationship we use mostly nonverbal consent cues. But in the beginning when you're meeting someone and just getting to know them you can just ask. Just. Ask. And if the answer is no, then that's it.

[@wolfbones666]

Some people really really just think that being too nervous to ask is some sort of excuse. Some really strong mental gymnastics there.

[@dwightk.schrute8696]

Depends on the terms and conditions of your relationship agreement.

[@g6ter1]

I would push back and say in most instances you should NEVER ask to kiss someone, it will more often than not kill the mood and backfire (glad it worked for you!). Rather as a man I like to be hyper aware and fully confident that an attempted kiss will fully and without a doubt be accepted. Social cues such as prolonged good eye contact, little touches from both parties, laughter, a generally good vibe. If something like a small shoulder touch illicits a negative response then thats a clear no to any further advances (much less a kiss) in that moment. The trouble is of course with inexperienced individuals who are not aware of the social cues that make up a positive vibe are, because they've rarely, if ever been there.

[@annakowalczyk4075]

A woman just said that she found it romantic but you argue that she should feel how you want her to feel. It didn't ruin the mood for her, it wouldn't ruin the mood for many women. But you insist that it would. What makes you believe you know better how others should feel?

[@dwightk.schrute8696]

@@annakowalczyk4075 It would definitely ruin the mood for many women as well. Something about being risk averse insecure wuss and all that. But to each their own I guess.

[@HeatherHolt]

So she rejects him at the bar, knowing he wanted some, and then took him back to her apartment, then willingly had sex with him, THEN expects him to pay for her therapy? That’s a little ridiculous. No means no and it sounds like when he was told no, he stopped, according to the other woman. This woman consented, and just bc she later regretted it for whatever reason, that means he’s to blame? What power dynamic did he have over her? None that I see. He’s not rich he’s not famous he’s not in a position of power he’s not a big time influencer like a Logan Paul or ugh whoever. Idk man, just seems like he’s just a young guy who lets alcohol get the better of him but he still has the wherewithal to know when someone says no it means no, if they mean it, and aren’t like “nooo, stooop, you’re silly” but really wanting to have sex. But you know when people are playing a role, or actually not wanting to be touched. Hard to know who to believe. I’m not a listen and believe person, I need to hear both sides. Just bc a woman says something happened I’m not automatically believing her side bc sadly we’ve seen many times where it’s been lies for their 15 min of fame. Mattress girl comes to mind always.

[@anafrill9892]

You're victim blaming here is despicable. What is wrong with you? Tons of victims go back to their apartment with a guy because they just want to hang out as friends. That's not consent to sex. He pressured her into finally giving in. She didn't want sex with him. That is, by definition, sexual coercion and a form of sexual violence

[@anafrill9892]

Mattress girl was raped. Christ you are a heartless monster

[@destroya3303]

A man dated women and tried to kiss them? Ok. And a woman took a man back to her apartment now plays the victim because he brought up sex (and she did it)? Where is the crime? Why should I care?

[@lnc-to4ku]

Wow, Dr. Grande! Your content is incredible! The way you analyze and put together your videos is incomparable! Loved the, "It's right up there with the Loch Ness monster and the Bermuda Triangle, and Big Foot." There's a sense that if Andrew ever found Big Foot, his 1st question would be, 'Can you explain Consent to me? I just can't figure that out.'" 😅

[@christopherconwell7271]

My mental Health is so Much Better, since finding "Dr Grande" on KZbin. The Doctor shows me every day that there are always people out there who have it much worse than I do.

[@freddiesoverbite6162]

Not saying this Andrew fella is innocent but these women accusers sound quite kooky in their own rite.

[@jbb2650]

Look forward your videos. Your voice, your demeanor and most of all your analytical skills always on point and so interesting. I always learn something from you. Thank you.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

This sucks the most for the victims. But it also sucks because Andrew legitimately did the least biased and most neutral reporting of any journalist. He would go into strange corners of human culture and capture sub cultures most people have never even heard of.

[@nickydaviesnsdpharms3084]

I never tire of watching videos from this channel. i like the subtle element of humor immensely

[@lf9341]

I don't care if you are 18- or 50. If you are bringing a guy home they don't want to play chess....... I'm a woman and I am tired of these women playing dumb.

[@blacklisted4885]

Oh cry me a river, women used to be quite able to navigate awkward, unwanted advances. You can't blame a guy for trying. They're just clout chasing

[@gaiaiulia]

That sounds like the essence of a sorry, not sorry "apology". With his take on consent, it sounds like he's condemned himself out of how own mouth. Interesting video, Dr Grande, thanks.

[@destroya3303]

What should he be sorry for. I missed the crime.

[@gaiaiulia]

No crime per se. Arrogance and manipulation. And doesn't seem to understand a simple two-letter word beginning with "n" and ending in "o".

[@phoenixmodellingphotography]

@@gaiaiulia That's an unfair and extreme oversimplification of a common human interaction that is far more complicated than a surface level conclusion like that

[@cassondralynch6342]

@@destroya3303 Thank you!

[@cassondralynch6342]

@@phoenixmodellingphotography I mean, I hate this culture. What f'ng woman of age hasn't dealt with an annoying and horny drunk 20 something (IF that was even the case!)? She supposedly had the ability to kick his ass out of her house the next day. How bout do it that night! Wtf is wrong with people. We're ready to cancel everyone now over a tik tok claim toward a famous and successful person who has things to offer people. Money, attention, sympathy, and people eat it all up every time. I thought Heard may change that but it's only gotten worse. Even Hasan Piker who is Andrew's personal friend basically publicly cancelled him, despite the fact he himself had been falsely accused of being a creeper like a week prior. I was a big Piker fan but lost have lost a lot of respect for him. Whenever claims come out he's like of course they're true! When the girl looks like a blow up doll and doesn't seem credible in the least. I'm over it all lol.

[@myroncottreau3066]

I am soooo happy to hear Dr. Grande's opinion on this.

[@dragline.]

About 5 months ago it hit me instead of chronicling quirky characters, his show is often mean spirited and making fun of the mentally ill, in addition to shallow journalistic content. His apology video has a perfect veneer but its intent is to be career-saving.

[@Leanne-mw8nm]

TO WHUCH EPISODES ARE YOU REFERRING TO?

[@samaleks4390]

It’s interesting that Cr1tical thought this was a good apology, yet Dr. Grande is not convinced. Just goes to show you what a difference a formal education in psychology can make.

[@darkcrystalmagik3369]

Vaush has no education in psychology, (pretty sure he has a BA in sociology) he saw right thru this 🦬💩 as well and did 2 hr + video discussing consent with his mostly young, 80% male audience

[@wolfbones666]

That's MOIST Cr1tical.

[@wolfbones666]

@@Unjust1 you sure are obsessed with the minute details of the life of a man who you don't care about.

[@Meanie74]

Ehh I think Charlie meant it was good pr wise and doesn’t wish for AC to get worse vs better. He also said it’s not a forgivable action and it’s pretty bs that AC is claiming he was unaware it was wrong

[@Meanie74]

@@wolfbones666 someone is def ranting on kiwifarms 😂

[@yaseminplaceboful]

One more time as several other times: Hello from Norway. Again I just want to express that I think that theres simply NO ONE better in behavioral-analysis than Dr. Todd Grande. I really like he, apart from Analyzing professionally, ALSO often times brings in logic, common sense and humor to the cases, as in my mind, as deserved, so to speak.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

I find so much of this story interesting. Mainly because it deals with character types that I don't interact with in my day to day life. Andrew doing interviews where the only goal is to embarrass the person being interviewed says a lot about his character and that's the type of person you stay away from. Also the woman who rejected him at the bar then invited him to her apartment, then asked him to pay for her therapy. There's something in that story that doesn't add up. The women I hang out with would just be like "no. You're a creep GTFO" at the bar and it would be over.

[@lostandfound5145]

It is extremely strange that she invited him to her apartment, but if she is emotionally/mentally unwell then it does make sense that he could have pressured her into allowing him to come over. She also caved and had various sex acts with him. Some people are traumatized and groomed as kids to be afraid to say “no”. Acknowledging that he pressured her and was hurtful to her after the fact (when she was sober) warrants perhaps a bit of help with the costs of therapy. This will likely cost her a few thousand dollars The better take away for her would be to stop drinking immediately and practice saying “no” really firmly. But we are all on our own journeys

[@mandayork4333]

Jordan Klepper has the same interview style. I would not say just because that is the type of reporting style they have means the are someone you should stay away from necessarily. But to my knowledge Klepper doesn't have a bunch of women that have talked about sex pest behavior for years, and Andrew does. This bums me out, that someone I thought was cool turns out to be a bad person. But that's life. I hope he somehow he does something positive with his life somehow. But he is the one who ruined his fame, not the victims.

[@angla3383]

Bringing someone back to ur apartment is not in invitation for sex even if she rejected him

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@Lost and Found yeah I could see that. I feel like there's a lot missing that we'll never find out. I would like to know if she was already in therapy or did she have to go after her encounter with him. I think that would add some context because if she was going for let's say 3 years before this happened then it does start to feel like a shakedown. If she didn't go until after this then it adds legitimacy to her side of the story.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

@Manda York would you be friends with Jordan Klepper? I know I wouldn't. It's like hanging out with a guy who carries a loaded gun and you like him because he shoots at people you don't like, but with people like him they'll always end up shooting you too.

[@serenity9984]

When he says "only speculating" is my favorite part

[@Meduse04]

If the allegations are true a yes only came after a lot nos. So how is that supposed to be confusing? He did not take no for an answer period

[@SkySpiral8]

I was always annoyed by old movies that thought it was cute to portray romance as the woman getting angry and hysterical, attempting to flee the male main character, and then the man grabs her and forcefully kisses her and she gets all glassy-eyed, as if she hadn’t realized that’s what she wanted all along. Consent was certainly depicted as a gray area in those. (I’m sorry I can’t provide specific movies, but I’m thinking old-western type movies and any with a dashing “bad boy” type lead)

[@timh7882]

This power dynamic thing. I'm sure "power dynamics" play a role in social situations but when it comes down to it, adult women are full moral agents and It's really important not to undermine that. If we start saying women can't be expected to navigate dodgy situations on their own then we are saying women aren't really ready to be equal members of society. I don't know exactly how these situations went down but it's important to get rid of naivety, use your intuition and robustly protect your own integrity. If you're getting weird vibes from a guy, leave, don't stay around to see how things turn out (unless of course, you like being in dangerous situations). There is a line that's crossed when one person starts to physically intimidate or control another and different moral thinking is involved when we consider those situations. Absent of physical intimidation or control however, its really important that we expect women to act as full moral agents capable of navigating society on their own (if that's what we want women to be). We should also consider the guys behaviour but we should centre women's autonomy in these scenario's, it's the best way we can help keep them safe.

[@timh7882]

@Barky Malarkey yea, the girl who went back with him. We've gotta turn on that thinking brain in those situations, be smart.

[@shellydesormier4646]

@@barkymalarkey1483I’m reading this and agree with your assessment. I don’t know who this guy is, or his story but don’t bring them home if they creepy!

[@ericabingham0417]

He pushed over and over when she said no. Thats coercion which is at very least harassment possibly date rape because it can be intimidating due to power imbalance (ie he was stronger than her and also becoming famous/wealthy but mostly much stronger.) I feel I watched a different video than some people.

[@ranman7688]

If you want a nuanced description of what "one way consent" looks like, look up Bill Burr's comedy bit "no means no." There are some women out there that just don't want the responsibility of making the decision.

[@sneedfeed3179]

The guy who’s entire shtick is to make fun of crazy people turns out to be not all there himself…what a surprise

[@a.evelyn5498]

Andrew interviews the underbelly of America. His style reminds me of Louis Theroux, though Theroux is FAR more brilliant & expressive, but Andrew has the ability to make all kinds of people comfortable enough to speak & that’s an art. I did notice he was getting more… hm… arrogant I guess. He didn’t seem the same as his earlier videos. Like fame was getting to him. Theroux has never been like that. He’s a true journalist & academic.

[@iv2sab512]

Yes, I agree. I noticed the arrogance as well when he was interviewed on CNN and on NPR.

[@baxoutthebox5682]

Louie’s style relies so much on his brilliant narration and his incredulous reactions to the subjects’ crazy beliefs. Feels like Andrew was more of just a guy who held up a mirror and let people talk. Never found him funny, just quietly arrogant and bitter.

[@hirumbiffidum9145]

This story is similar to that of other KZbinr's that engage in attention seeking behavior. It's consolating to know that Dr. Grande is on video sharing media as well to call out and articulate that people like this are just plain inappropriate.

[@janetoliver9561]

I would say that consent is not clear in romantic relationships. Nonverbal consent means something at the beginning of a relationship. After a man hits on you and you rebuff him, do not ask him to your apartment. Mixed messages. The other situations sound like both people were not clear and there was a 'dance' happening and he backed off when there was a clear message. Women are often torn about intimacy, that makes sense. I guess, the best answer is to go back to 'no ring, no sex.' That would make consent very clear.

[@kierstinl3787]

Inviting someone to your house doesn't mean anything. If you say no in your house too, it's still no.

[@janetoliver9561]

I’m ok. You have a right to your opinion. Live with the consequences of your well-reasoned, but unrealistic rational.

[@janetoliver9561]

I’m ok. You have a right to your opinion. Live with the consequences of your well-reasoned, but unrealistic rational.

[@janetoliver9561]

I’m ok. You have a right to your opinion. Live with the consequences of your well-reasoned, but unrealistic rational.

[@janetoliver9561]

I’m ok. You have a right to your opinion. Live with the consequences of your well-reasoned, but unrealistic rational.

[@steveeuphrates-river7342]

I know we SHOULD live in a world where a drunk girl can invite a drunk guy to her place (or vice versa) and not have the guy try to make moves on her... but... society hasn't progressed to that lofty level yet.

[@oliverquach9614]

However, it’s safe to say society has reached the point where we understand no means no.

[@dianemorton2222]

I agree totally. They were both in a bar drinking. Wno knows what happened? Both were drunk.

[@steveeuphrates-river7342]

@@oliverquach9614 100% agreed!

[@freedo333]

I was scrolling down youtube letting the videos autoplay (to avoid ads). After watching this video, i figured i owed it to dr Grande to click on the video to give him his deserved like. & cool! No ad!

[@isellehalforty1219]

I can't understand why women don't realise that going to a man's apartment and consuming alcohol will probably lead to an attempt at having sex.

[@torgeirmolaug196]

A one-way consent is the perfect consent for an abuser.

[@scarlettphoenix7024]

@Long John Thilver You’ve provided a perfect (albeit grammatically-challenged) example of @Torgeir Molag ‘s point.

[@kohchangfarang]

Isn't obtaining consent as a journalist paramount in importance prior to interviewing people?

[@wakkowarner8810]

No. Consent is not important to most journalists anymore because most journalists make up the stories that they report on now.

[@kohchangfarang]

@@wakkowarner8810 thanks, I had believed only the government did that.

[@hot-pink-beast]

I adore the quiet roasting - you do it in a lot of videos but this one was particularly amusing

[@sandilou2U]

I question your familiarity with today's expectations for journalists. It has been a long time since I had heard the term "intelligent" used to describe a journalist and I am fairly certain that one-way consent is the current industry standard.

[@lowlowseesee]

lol @ industry standard. are you AI?

[@acey6647]

Consent is not always black and white. Imagine both parties are equally drunk and drunkenly consent to sex. According to the modern consensus, a drunken yes is not valid consent. And in this hypothetical, the default assumption is that the male is at fault which I find troubling. Some guy I grew up with got accused of rape at college and is now finally being exonerated but only after completing destroying his reputation and mental health.

[@MrhimselfWhichremainssoBeautif]

"modern consensus "? I'm with you here....but what the ef does that even mean?

[@ameanasaur]

He basically copped to the act and is trying to hide behind "I didn't know how bad it was". This just sounds like fake humility from a person who clearly understands his only recourse in this situation is to try to get ahead of the story and he already effed that up. There was a famous trial in the low countries that this reminds me of. It's almost like it takes a special kind of narcissism to operate this way /s

[@lowlowseesee]

there are four or five different versions of the 'act' though and the one he did not cop to AT ALL was ignoring no. he actually proclaimed he never ignores 'no'.

[@baileyhallfilms]

thanks dr grande that was news to me after having seen his recent film no idea of the allegations / apology video, very good analysis.

[@WittyWisdomRider]

“Andrew thought his behavior was normal”. Unfortunately, it is. If every man that ever pressured a woman into sex, whether it actually led to sex or not, had to publicly apologize there wouldn’t be time to report other news. I think a lot of men would be shocked if a woman from their past came forward and said they felt overly pressured into sex. They would react just like Andrew…”I thought everything that happened was perfectly normal”because there is a huge difference in perception between men and women. This is slowly changing but I think there’s a large percentage of men who behave just like Andrew did but would clutch their pearls if anyone dared say they were borderline rapey, even though what they do is borderline rapey.

[@TheLifeOfNurse]

100% The me too movement was just that. Women coming together in that this behavior is not ok and saying yea that happened to me too.

[@TheBigFatVladimir]

Seems like there's no real evidence or indication from his past behavior for such serious claims. I've been accused of horrible things that I didn't do so I guess I'm biased or aware of how some women will gladly lie about rape just for attention.

[@saphinam.2866]

Very convenient accusations coming right after some controversial interviews. I'll reserve my opinion once I see some proof. However, I don't hear from these stories that there is a reason to discuss these issues let alone call these females "victims". "Asked" for sex. She didn't give him any, but willingly did other sexual acts with him. Then supposedly had a panic attack, but only kicked him out hours later?! And why have him at her house if she was asked for a kiss and didn't want it? Stands to reason he would want more or he would try to kiss her again. All of this sounds like bs and money grubbery to me. He tried, he asked, they refused, he stopped. End of story. Should people only ask once or not ever?

[@wingv313]

Really loving all the cacti in the background 👍🏼🙂🌵🌵🌵

[@taylormfinney]

Thanks for pointing out the consent issue. It really is not that complicated. Pressuring somebody and asking over and over again after they’ve already said no should be a pretty obvious indicator that a boundary is being crossed. If you have to twist someone’s arm to get what you want from them, they have not consented. It’s more likely they have conceded the fight due to mental exhaustion and are just “dealing with the situation” to get the person to shut up and go away as soon as possible before something worse happens. The dynamics of sex should not be like that of a suspect and a detective in an interrogation room, with the suspect getting more and more worn down under the pressure until they crack. If things have gotten that far, it is way past the time to stop. I think what another commenter said about socialization is really key. This dynamic between women and men is pretty normalized in our society, and both sides have some work to do to fix that. I hope this case and others can bring some awareness to the need for change.

[@PopCultureNihilist]

Really well said. I appreciated your “twisting the arm” and “interrogation” abilities and thing they’re a perfect metaphor for this type of situation.

[@pm2886]

Our mammalian nature isn't going to be easily "fixed". Male mammals are hardwired to pressure for mating rights. While it's a noble idea to imagine all men can overcome their essential drivers, not all will be able to. It's particularly difficult for men raised in personal or cultural contexts which allow for male dominance or male misbehaviour. IOW it's not as simple as men simply deciding to do better. Our opposable thumbs and big brains don't obviate the fact we're rutting mammals.

[@PopCultureNihilist]

@@pm2886 meh. Idk. We were hardwired for all sorts of vile shit that people don’t do in Polite society. If we can deny our urge to fart or murder, we can deny our urge to beg girls to smash. If we can’t, maybe we belong in cages. Edit: you’re not incorrect. Sorry. I don’t disagree that we can’t abolish criminal behavior, but we can certainly shift societal standards.

[@michaelperez9966]

@Taylor “If you have to twist someone’s arm to get what you want from them, they have not consented.” Are you saying Andrew should be charged with rape? Because if she didn’t consent to sex, then Andrew raped her.

[@taylormfinney]

@@michaelperez9966 I don't know all the relevant details of the case, and I have little familiarity with nuances of the law. I have no idea what anyone should be charged with.

[@seneca451]

So let me get this straight. A guy kisses a girl and, wanting to take it further, the girl resists. He doesn't, according to the video, do anything but get a little over zealous . "He discountinued his advances." Second story, a girl takes him back to her apartment from a bar. They're both intoxicated. He makes advances. They have consentual 'sexual acts'. WHY, then, is he called out publicly for these? Are these a crime? The only reason he's publicly apologetic is his career is in jeopardy. WTF, are we going to start publicly lambasting young people who get rejected and try a little more after a kiss??

[@zenawarrior7442]

Never heard of this guy. Great analysis of a strange guy. Not many people today actually are sorry, easier to blame others. Thanks Dr G😊💌💌

[@cottontails9003]

My dear friend sorry I'm late. I will try to explain the most devastating part. On the day of the car crash, Steve was the admittedly Dr he received a call from ambulance stating one young female deceased at scene young man critical. When they arrived at the er Steve took a look at the male knew who it was then pulled the sheet off the female can't go any further hurts too much 💔💔💔💔💔.Thank you for being here 😢😢😢-

[@zenawarrior7442]

@@simrdownmon6431 I listened to Dr G about him. Wtf does American have to do with anything. You're rude & judgemental, or you're just trying to get narcissistic attention, via gaslighting. Good job.

[@zenawarrior7442]

@@cottontails9003 I am so sorry friend. That's beyond dreadful he had to see that😪😢😞💔💔💔We are here for you, write when you can. Sorry been busy crazy day here. Hugs and much love sent your way...🧡🧡💛💛💖💖💜💜🕊❤️❤️🧸💌💌😿🌹🌻🌏✨️

[@cottontails9003]

@@zenawarrior7442 Thank you my dear friend. Steve is finding it so heart breaking. Thanks for being here 😢😢💔💔💔

[@annastarr2043]

Only 18 yrs old? In other words an adult woman. These others sound like next morning remorse. As a woman who was drugged & survived r@pe I'm offended

[@justjulia8007]

I will preface this by saying I have no idea who this guy is, but I can say I’m so happy I’m not a young man in today’s culture. So he came on to one women too aggressively for her liking.. stopped at a kiss; yet she’s traumatized? The other woman, although knowing his sexual interest in her, invites him back to her apartment and begrudgingly has relations with him because he “pressured her”.. and she too is traumatized? And asked for money for therapy instead of reporting him… Unpopular opinion, but some of these situations are part of learning some life lessons; for young men and women alike. Like don’t pressure someone into acquiescing intimacy and on the flip side, learn to be resolute and firm in your decisions. Don’t invite a man back to your apartment after you’ve already rebuffed his advances because that gives the wrong signals.

[@brad6742]

Consent flip/flop can happen many many times in a short period of time, and is not uncommonly retracted retroactively due to buyer's remorse. According to one female comedienne, the most attractive attribute of a woman is consent. Once ppl realize this, it's not hard to see how it can be weaponized and exploited to get attention, validation, travel, and overall simpery lol

[@cottontails9003]

Thank you Dr Grande for the great content you upload. Thanks Dr Grande, you are the best

[@cottontails9003]

L.D , Zena are you here?

[@PandaCoasters]

Bot

[@cottontails9003]

@@PandaCoasters I lost my only beautiful daughter less than two weeks ago how does that make me a bot?. Insensitive piece of work! !!

[@PandaCoasters]

@@cottontails9003 Seethe

[@zenawarrior7442]

@@cottontails9003 Hi dear. I'm not catching the late uploads lately. Sending you a big hug friend...I am so very sorry, I can't even imagine 😿❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹💔💔

[@barbarapetoskey8921]

Thanks Dr G for listening to some of these people because I have a headache

[@stuartwigmore3738]

I have never heard of Andrew or his channel before. Maybe I'm missing some of the facts, but I don't know what he's meant to have done to have to apologise. In both instances he didn't overstep any mark that I can see - not proceeding when told "no", and not doing anything that wasn't consensual. It sounds like he was a bit of a "dick", as many Internet personalities tend to be. That's not a crime however, and this story and the allegations against him sound like a bit of a hit piece against him, by people who hope to gain from doing so, again as is very common. As I say, maybe not all the facts were presented here.

[@JP-ht6nm]

Erm, if you take a guy back to your apartment after drinking and let him sleep over, don't be shocked if he tries to make moves on you.

[@fakeshemp9599]

I love Andrew and his journalism. He's fair and he covers both sides of the crazies no matter what the subject

[@markthomas6703]

The guy didn't do anything illegal. The only thing this case proves is that women cannot be held responsible for their own behavior.

[@claireelizabeth9431]

"Didn't do anything illegal" isn't the greatest defense lmao, legality ≠ morality. The only thing this comment proves is that you're a creep

[@SpiralDream]

@@claireelizabeth9431 not an argument

[@claireelizabeth9431]

@@SpiralDream Your argument is that you want a woman to take responsibility for somebody else r*aping her, what kind of argument do you want me to make against that? Anyone who thinks r*ape is ok is insane and can't be reasoned with

[@PopCultureNihilist]

It seems as a culture we are incapable of two things at once. In this case; a- validate these womens lived experiences and b- empathize with AC for his ignorance. Ultimately his accusers forgiveness or rejection matter most, but we entitled viewers love to cast judgment on things we don’t truly understand because we are ignorant to the specifics. There has been a tectonic shift in culture and many are still trying to adapt. It doesn’t absolve them, it just means they’re often the byproduct of deeply entrenched misogyny perpetuated by a patriarchal system. You don’t have to agree just try to understand. I stand with his accusers, yet would love for people to be less quick to attack and quick to condemn when we lack the nuances or lack of nuances of what happened. If nothing else, hopefully this will force men to look at their tactics and do better. Society can grow from this, it’s a shame that the lesson isn’t victimless. Respect.

[@PopCultureNihilist]

As a quick and important update: one of the victims filmed a reply. Watch it for yourself, but she is not ready or willing to forgive him and that is her choice and right. She isn’t polished or media trained but that’s not an excuse to discredit her. She seemed to be honest about her feelings on it, and it is definitely worth listening to if you have thoughts or feelings on the matter. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mHWbmJKQm8ile9E

[@billflipper1130]

"25 nos, and 1 yes is still a yes" - sean connery

[@bg6364]

Bond. James Bond.

[@BackyardButcher]

Just wanted to let you know, your hard work is so much appreciated! I think it's safe to say that you're the hardest-working dude on KZbin.. ❤️❤️

[@philochristos]

You should check out Anton Petrov. He posts every day on some new finding in astrophysics, cosmology, astronomy, or something else related to science.

[@justussneary19]

This is probably the least interesting topic you could have talked about. He’s less pushy than 95% of guys in any frat house in America.

[@rachaelb.]

Consent isn't taught in schools, yet should be and practiced EVERY DAY with children so it is ingrained in them and well-practiced. Sadly, some people (men AND women) have mental disorders/personality disorders that don't allow them to give a **** about someone else's consent and they just get on with the acts. Practice makes perfect in ALL situations. Let's begin practicing daily. :) Thank you Dr. Grande!

[@RowanWarren78]

The issue of consent is a vital part of comprehensive sex education. Unfortunately, many school boards prefer to omit this element from the curriculum, or adopt an abstinence only approach.

[@defundhollywood3259]

I totally agree. When I was a kid we had a group at our school that made a presentation about consent. The song was so catchy, I still remember it decades later... "My body's nobody's body but mine!" Anyway we definitely learned that we could tell someone they were giving us the NO feeling.

[@mattg4836]

@@RowanWarren78 schools taking the uptight approach of promoting abstinence only end up with pregnant students and herpes outbreaks

[@beatersnbeers2145]

We should also teach people that if someone makes unwanted advances towards you then you shouldn’t invite them back to your apartment.

[@Nylak-Otter]

It's kind of hard to teach kids consent as a parent, since there are a lot of situations where your child will clearly withdraw consent from participating in an activity or situation, but that's just too bad, because it has to happen. As a child I had to attend etiquette classes and cotillion training, so I absolutely did not consent to boys touching me and dancing with me, but I didn't have a choice in the matter. At school I could just bite them and they'd generally give me a wide berth.

[@Vlachosj]

How does one suggest a case to be explored? I have a case regarding a man who admitted to murdering his mother to speed up receiving a sizable inheritance.

[@dee-dr7kt]

nigga

[@malaika4960]

Some societies bring up boys not to take no for an answer. Very sad. I come from such a society. They think it is masculine.

[@m.f.richardson1602]

Always interesting. Another reason for Me to isolate. Okay, I go out for a little bit. Thank you Peace 💕🇺🇲

[@elvia3068]

I actually subscribed to his youtube channel a long time ago I only watched one vid...Thanks for the update Dr. Grande 😊💜

[@dee2973]

I think that this guy is socially awkward and an easy target There are too many Amber Heard s in the world with a victim mentality and this is something that is NEVER discussed in the media.

[@obara7366]

While there are horrible women, because women are just as human as men, false assault stories are by and large a very small statistic and rare in comparison to actual assault. And the reason is just as Andre himself said, men are socialised to thi k being awful is the way to be. I don't date men anymore (haven't since high school) and even I have quite a few encounters if sexual harassment throughout my life.

[@dee2973]

In the contrary I think false allegations are a lot higher than people realize. Ask any divorced guy in the country and he will tell you it's that the woman will come out with all kinds of bs whilst using the children as a weapon and wanting the house and the bank account.