Does Everyone Have a Soulmate?

[@kathleenjanneck53]

In my youth I prayed for protection and blessings for my future husband, trusting that God knows my future and the plans he has for me. I married a good man and we are celebrating 44 years married in November. I love my husband dearly and continue to pray for him. I also prayed for my children even before God knit them in my womb, as I also prayed for my future grandchildren. As for my soul mate…that would be Jesus Christ, my lord and savior.

[@robertdelgadocapetillo8684]

Good for you Kathleen, though I still keep being single, and about to be 33 in two months. I'm not getting any younger, though that does not mean that I'm impatient, because the woman of my desires hasn't come yet. On the contrary; I'm coming to peace that she may never come😔🙂

[@bogdanungureanu9751]

So the King of the Universe is your soulmate?

[@patty378]

@@robertdelgadocapetillo8684 No no I plead with you...don't think this way. Women, good Catholic woman need to be loved to become that way if you don't meet one right away. Love her into conversion (reasonably by pursuing her reasonably) and then pray and judge if it is God's will for you two to be married. It will most likely be a great cross to be married in this way (as opposed to waiting for a devout Catholic woman which you may find one day in your older age, but may be an old father or never a father). The joy of children and marriage NOW is TOO GREAT TO MISS OUT ON AND GOD WANTS THIS FOR YOU. I was secular in NYC working on Wall Street and met my SECULAR, wounded husband at 23 and we got married at 24 and 25 in the Church and had our 3 babies in 4 years starting at 26. We are 31/32 now and have waning fertility (even though we are JUST in our early 30s!!!). I would do anything to have skipped college and married him earlier and these things are true for you too!!! Meet a woman, love her WELL, pray and fast for HER. Pursue her ...your children, your future wife..they NEED YOU. They NEED YOUR LOVE.

[@relentlessrhythm2774]

I have a neurological condition that causes physical affection to be painful for me. 1 Corinthians 7 tells us that some of us will remain single, which I believe is God's providence for me. It annoys me when people tell me "God has someone for me" because they don't believe me when I tell them I am content to be single and celibate. We need to stop treating singleness like a tragedy!

[@khandallah4725]

all the best sir, may the wind be at your back.

[@majkapanonska5493]

seriously, and not all of us can be clergy too, it's a special grace, not given to everyone. I do believe celibacy can be an act of free will

[@JW_______]

Any two people who truly, self-lessly commit to one-another can become soul-mates.

[@IS-kf4nr]

Pine's with Aquinas! Thank you, Father Gregory!

[@theangrydome]

Logically, I can understand not believing in soulmates and in being practical, not waiting around forever for the “perfect” person. I also don’t think you’ll be miserable forever if you “miss” meeting your soul mate, if such a thing is even possible. But I truly believe God destined me and my husband to meet and hoped for us to be together. There is obviously free will, and we could have not pursued the relationship and given up when things were hard. But our meeting was absolutely so unlikely, we lived in different countries and met by a chance encounter, and click so perfectly on so many levels. I believe there was providence involved in at least our first meeting. I consider him my soul mate.

[@jakubratajczak9269]

God can help, but He will not force anyone to anything. I experienced it myself. I've met this one girl in a extraordinary way, but... I did not pursue her, due to my low self view at time and she was not interested too - or maybe she assumed I wasn't. God only knows.

[@theangrydome]

@@jakubratajczak9269 Agreed!

[@chrisobrien6254]

It’s Good that you had this experience, but I think that often when people who have had this type of experience share it with others it often leaves some of the listeners confused, overwhelmed and discouraged. Because unless the person sharing the experience explains that yes this happened to us but that is not the norm, it can mislead the listeners into thinking that it is the norm. It’s important for people to know that It doesn’t systemically work that way and people who share these type of stories don’t always bother to make that clear. They tend to just leave people with hey this happened to us and it can happen to you if you just trust God or if it’s Gods Will it will just happen. And that’s just not true and it’s a very troubling thing to leave people with. And just because a person didn’t experience this sort of epiphany when meeting a potential spouse doesn’t mean that if they didn’t that they’re with the “wrong person”, whatever that even means. That’s stupid! It also doesn’t mean that if they don’t have this epiphany with a certain person they like then they shouldn’t pursue a relationship with this person. People should not need an epiphany from God to know who is a good person to date and who is not. If they do well then that sounds like a personal problem 😑

[@ethanbarganier6229]

“A professed and identifiable nerd” I love the Dominican jokes😂😂😂

[@onebyday6065]

I think the only soul mate we have is Jesus because He is the person you will spend eternity with. You may have predestined people who will be in your life but there is no marriage after death.

[@mrmegachonks3581]

I think things may be at work in my life. From about May or June this year I started getting very potent but subtle and gentle 'premonitions' of romantic love. The last relationship I had ended 13yrs ago and it nearly killed me. I was a borderline alcoholic and had a total breakdown at the end of it. I kept getting these feelings that were telling me to 'get ready'. They started coming out of the blue but were very benign and gentle. Lo and behold! Someone literally walked though the door when I least expected it and I developed a heavy crush. 🙃 the situation I met them in made it potentially dangerous to make my feelings known. Sadly, I failed to take the bul by the horns. I was really gutted but I'm ot to hard on myself. Soon after this I had the biggest 'premonition' an overwhelming one in which I witnessed the most beautiful natural phenomena I have ever seen. In many ways its just been great to feel this way again. One thing for sure is that God is saturated in the most joyous way by the holy spirit and his own imagination.

[@lld3007]

Tobit 6:18: "Do not be afraid, for she was set apart for you before the world existed." If we are called to marriage then God DOES have a specific person in mind for us and he will guide our choice. They are not a "soulmate", but they are part of His plan. In the Book of Tobit, all of Sara's husbands died, because "she was meant for another man." Another example is St. Joseph, who was specifically chosen to be the husband of Mary. We don't just randomly choose someone from a pool of eligible candidates. There is one in particular that our Lord desires. They are not a soulmate nor can they fulfill us, but they are who he wants. If we are doing the will of God, then the person we use our free will to choose will end up being the one God desired us to be with. He gives us the preferences we have so that we are led to choose the vocation he wills for us, whether that be a particular person or a particular religious order.

[@littlejohn123]

Yo, was searching for this

[@jamboree615]

Father, I do not think your words are weird! You explain things so beautifully, I want to write them down so I can read them over and over again! This is a great explanation of what people should do when looking for a spouse.

[@Troy-Moses]

"Soulmates" is the concept of the Wiccan religion. The entire premise is that our souls preexisted our bodies in some obscure ethereal spiritual realm, where they were united in pairs; and as these souls take on bodies throughout the universe, they are in a constant quest to reunite with each other.

[@wilhufftarkin8543]

WTF are you talking about? The Wiccan pseudo-relgion is a century old at most.

[@JuanQuixote159]

That's not what anyone means when they say "soulmate"

[@ladyolinden]

@@JuanQuixote159 some people do mean that, tho you’re more likely to find them calling it as “twin flames” but others who don’t quite know the differences (twin flames being more specific than soul mates which is used in various different ways, different intensities) will say soul mate but then think of what the twin flame situation is meant to be. I sadly know way too much about that sphere of things. Was lost in such for far too long and I’m thankful to be back home as a Catholic, but the way so many are unwilling to accept that things others believe can be actually extreme and even absurd is an issue cuz if we don’t understand, we can’t help them or at least fend such away from ourselves and those dearest to us as we can.

[@oseikwamejnr]

The timing of this video blows my mind! This is such a wonderful sign of Providence.

[@kylebrintnall921]

Thanks Fr. Gregory for this video! Really appreciate your POV with the virtue of prudence in mind - bought your book and currently making my way through it! A few thoughts: I feel like there's a sterility which the Church seems to approach romantic love. I obviously get where they're coming from, as romantic love can become uncontrollable if not restrained by marital fidelity (think like the husband who leaves his wife for his secretary because he just felt more in love with the secretary at the time, etc). And yes, marriage is a cross in so many ways, as it requires massive self-sacrifical and self-denial for the sake of the spouse/children. But it's not just the cross. People enter into marriage with the hope of life-giving joy - the fuel that sustains a marriage long-term that comes from compatibility with an individual. They hope to experience it as an icon and pre-figurement of the resurrection and life to come. It is with this hope and goal in mind, it seems, that spouses can bear their cross. Would love your or anyone else's thoughts on this contradiction: Bearing the cross in this life seems to take precedent over experiencing the joy and life-giving love that sustains people's wills, desires, and even their very lives. How can the virtue of prudence choose between complete self-denial and the desire for happiness?

[@emilymargaretstoehr9826]

This was so healing to hear 😭💗

[@lilamaria4872]

Thank you Fr Gregory. May God bless you. 🙏🙌🙏🙌🙏

[@claudialucia7675]

Excellent explanation, Blessings 🙏🏻

[@GoinDownhill361]

Maybe there is a soulmate for me, maybe not. I just leave it to God without giving it a second thought. He knows best. I trust Him.

[@karlarodriguez3449]

Thanks Fr Gregory!

[@MissPopuri]

Not like it completely derails the soulmate discussion, you can be afflicted by these desires for a soulmate while recognizing that you have to be willing to go where God leads.

[@vrcarlos6955]

Thanks, Fr. Pine. You make clear important points.

[@bogdanique]

Thanks, father Gregory and thanks to PWA!

[@Anthonycheesman33]

The idea of a soulmate has always been kind of dumb to me.yo ur soulmate always just happens to live in the same area as you lol.

[@ldib7798]

Wouldn’t make sense for God to put your soulmate half way across the world where you’ll never find them

[@MidwestPyro55]

Right? There’s probably 7 billion people I’ll never have an interaction with but my soulmate happens to be in the same state lol

[@thomasmcnerney9745]

Do your research on the actual meaning of a "soul mate" in your life. It's not the romantic version being presented. The work of a soulmate is far more challenging to the growth of your soul on this journey than hugs, kisses or marriage. Best of luck.

[@hudebnilidlprodukce5137]

IT can be Just a realy close friend. No need to by husband/wife.

[@Arcticroberto9376]

How I understand things. Do we have soulmates? Yes, but the soul becomes mated at the receiving of holy orders or holy matrimony. Before which, there is no soul mate.

[@samuellee2107]

Plenty wisdom packed into this video

[@JeansiByxan]

I'll always remember what a pastor said in a sermon, addressing the women: "You believe that the funky-smelling, farting, overweight guy eating cheese-doodles on your couch is the second half of your soul?" It always brings a smile to my face, even though he might sound a bit jaded. Romantic movies have completely hoodwinked millennials and gen z.

[@lindaharper2870]

Thanks Fr Pine, that was beautiful

[@ragejinraver]

I definitely believe that God designed a Pacific person for each one of us . It's usually the person that you instantaneously click with . When you 1st meet them and you feel like you've known them your entire life even though you just met . It's such a natural genuine experience also . Like the girl I met at my first job she was the 1st person to come up to me and introduced herself . She was the most genuine nurturing person I ever met in my entire life . She was definitely the girl that got away and I still think about her to this day . I always used to beat myself up for years blaming myself for being so stupid . Especially with how so called dating has evolved to this day with so called dating apps. And how dating is basically destroyed thanks to apps like tinder . I wish I were more clued into romantic relationships back then . We would have definitely been together even to this day.

[@AliPi7]

Soulmates don’t exist. There are way too many ppl on this planet for us to be confined to just one. If there were soulmates, there would be something about our union that protects us from all the others, from temptation and other sin. We’re lucky to find someone we can tolerate on most days.

[@msgoody2shoes959]

Yes, everyone in heaven and those who are Holy on earth. #one body one spirit

[@Brenna_Ellie]

Honestly I think a soulmate can be anyone sometimes it’s through marriage but sometimes through friendships

[@aaronbaumann5504]

Great video.

[@user-ps7pz6bo1v]

What about spiritual soulmates? Between those whose vocations are not marriage?

[@Bryan-ct2qm]

St John of the Cross & St Teresa; Sts Francis and Clare would absolutely seem to qualify.

[@lesliechow9238]

What I like about this priest is he literally has a gigachad jawline and facial structure and could pull a lot of 8-10/10 women but still keeps to his celibacy as a priest

[@lesliechow9238]

@Michael Fox 🤔

[@lesliechow9238]

@@lkae4 🤔

[@lesliechow9238]

@@lkae4 you’ll be fine don’t worry about it

[@lesliechow9238]

@@lkae4 I’ve obviously triggered you, god bless you and goodbye

[@mnmmnm925]

@@lkae4 "look up church history" -- lol, do you want to look up what church fathers say about the nature of women? If this thread offended you that badly, I couldn't imagined how you would react to patristic quotes on women.

[@residentevil1197]

Read the book, its good

[@applin121]

No

[@drchristineobrien9704]

Can we talk about healthy relationships, ie.good and healing as opppsed to unhealthy, ie ignorant and abusive?

[@lordhonksworth7701]

There's something really weird about discussions like these, which frame marriage as an 'instrument of sanctification' or some such. I can't put my finger on it. It's like the love between a man and woman is some kind of troublesome byproduct that has to be effectively 'managed'.

[@kylebrintnall921]

Dude I totally feel that. There's a sterility which the Church seems to approach romantic love. I obviously get where they're coming from, as romantic love can become uncontrollable if not restrained by marital fidelity (think like the husband who leaves his wife for his secretary because he just felt more in love with the secretary, etc) but there seems to be a downplaying of the lifegiving joy that sustains a marriage long-term that comes from compatibility with an individual. Yes, marriage is a cross in so many ways, but it's not just the cross. It's also an icon and pre-figurement of the resurrection and life to come.

[@jamboree615]

I don't think Father is saying that "love needs to be managed". Everything we encounter in life is a means of sanctification: our families, the annoying people we work with, the circumstances of daily life. We choose how we act in all of these situations and we either grow in holiness or depart from holiness. However, our state in life is the most important of all these situations because it is the primary way that we are going to grow. Fr. Pine, being called to the Dominican Order, has to live his vows as both a priest and a religious and he will grow in holiness in that way. The same for a woman who joins an order of nuns. She has to live out her vows to her community and will grow in holiness in that way. For the rest who are not called to religious life or holy orders, their main means of sanctification is their marriage. People who marry have to be willing to sacrifice themselves totally to their spouse and future children. They are called to be the "domestic church" in imitation of Christ and His spouse, the Church. This is how married people grow in holiness. All people are called to be saints, even those who marry!

[@lordhonksworth7701]

@@kylebrintnall921 yes indeed. 'Sterility' is a good word for it. Sometimes I wonder if it's about a bunch of bitter celibates poisoning things for the rest of us, by 'deconstructing' one of the things in this life that brings us the most joy.

[@zsedcftglkjh]

No.

[@debrahollingsworth5534]

You're my kind of weird, Fr. G!

[@abrahamkassis3138]

Some like to call them: I'll ruin your life mate.

[@ljkoh20052000able]

If soul mate is the same as a spouse till death do you part then this is certainly from God

[@WienerBrigadier]

I wholly love your channel and contributions Father, but this was a departure for me. Theres no reason God, my Father, would not want me to find consummate, passions, romantic, love. Also, going to order your book.

[@SalveRegina28384BlessedArtThou]

🎉

[@larrymelman]

The droning of this lecture is kinda pointless because the Church no longer cares whether singles get married. Huh? Was there a synod that decided this? Of course not, but when was the last time your parish had a social event where singles (of all ages) could be part of the parish community and perhaps nudged toward other singles? Was it the 1980's? When was the last time an older adult offered a helpful pointer to a single like "You know Jimmy, our neighbor's co-worker has a sister that you might like to meet. Would you like her number?" The Church has gone the way of the Elks Club, it is socially dead and St. Aquinas can't do anything about that.

[@lordhonksworth7701]

This. I'd also add that the Catholic Church doesn't realize what a shallow pool it has become for singles of both sexes. It's insane we're even talking about 'soul mates' as if single men and women actually have a number of options from which to choose. For the average church community, the average single person will have one or two 'options', and once those are ruled out then that's it. This is before we even start considering questions of attraction or mutual compatibility, let alone 'soul mates'. Even if you throw lukewarm Catholics or even Protestants into the mix, the number of potential spouses increases only marginally.

[@larrymelman]

@@lordhonksworth7701 Oh, I think it does realize the problem. But it truly does not care. Social activities have been abandoned for over a generation. It's been surviving for a while on the lucky few to win the marriage lottery, but you are right, there's no "pool" any more, just a bunch of disconnected puddles that can't possibly form a pool.

[@TheMsLollidella]

@@lordhonksworth7701 that’s because they haven’t meet me yet, once I convert to Catholicism watch out guys imma make y’all believe in true love ;)

[@jamboree615]

I have to say, if you are looking for where all the single people are, start attending a Latin Mass near you! Every Church I go to that has a Latin Mass has many, many young people, and older people who encourage the singles to get together! 😄

[@lordhonksworth7701]

@@jamboree615 I know you mean well, but I'm so sick of hearing about the Latin Mass like it's the cure for all the Church's ills... Fact is, I do attend a Latin Mass, and can say this: there are slightly more young people, but it's still a very, very shallow pool. The Latin Mass/Traditionalist community seems to have grown a lot recently, and is very devout in an autistic kind of neo-Scholastic way, but it is still an absolutely tiny part of the Church. Outside the internet, almost nobody cares about the Latin Mass. It appeals to a tiny subset of people, and is not going to bring all the apostates or heathens back to the Church

[@Mannthug]

Bro my soulmate is my cousin

[@michaelmartinx714]

Dense

[@lucasmiles3126]

Yuh

[@brennansmith6474]

I think I don't care

[@maryshannon7551]

You will care when you meet her.😂 joking

[@hudebnilidlprodukce5137]

Wait, it means i have to go out?

[@brennansmith6474]

@@hudebnilidlprodukce5137 I been all over

[@brennansmith6474]

@@maryshannon7551 joking about what

[@maryshannon7551]

@@brennansmith6474 I was saying you would care about meeting your soulmate if you meet her in person. I am joking because for all I know you could have a call to the priesthood. God bless you!

[@krizilloo2538]

I’m always envious when I see married people who are soulmates. They’re like two halves of a whole - best friends, uninhibited lovers, no games, two peas in a pod. Of course, it’s all fun and games until one of them kicks the bucket and leaves the other broken and lost.

[@livnyberg2721]

It’s better to have loved and lost though, than to never have loved at all.

[@krizilloo2538]

@@livnyberg2721 Absolutely.

[@mcchickenmuhchicken]

you are just seeing it from the outside, you dont know how it really is, no couple is perfect and doesnt fight

[@krizilloo2538]

@@mcchickenmuhchicken So then I shouldn’t be envious?

[@khandallah4725]

@@krizilloo2538 i think envy can be a way acknowledging what you value. then settle for nothing less? yes its a rhetorical statement. all the best.

[@temptemp961]

I would argue God could not make you a rock. That's a contradiction of essence. In the same way, God could not have made you into a prime number or a gust of wind.

[@yearight1205]

No such thing as a soul mate. This notion is a romantic concept. There are simply men who were raised in homes with father's who showed them how to properly act as men, who succeed in marriages, and men who were never shown how to properly act in a marriage, who fail at marriages. There are exceptions to this rule, but by and large you'll come to find that the men who are programmed at a young age to mimic their fathers in a successful marriage will always do better than the men who try and follow what society tells us. Because in our secular age we some how many have forgotten that we are animals, and as such women say they want one thing but actually instinctually desire another. It's all about the hardwiring of the mind. And I've seen Christian women who will abandon their Christian husbands and chase after atheist men who act in this manner, because at the end of the day, hypergamy is the only true way to succeed with women. Which is why in the New Testament Paul instructs the unmarried and widowed not to marry, unless of course you can't control yourself. And he links this to each person having their own gifts. Our modern society for several generations now has encouraged divorce if you are unhappily married. The end result is the stripping of young men of the knowledge of how to properly conduct themselves in marriage. Which is why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

[@bluebear7061]

I’m sorry, who murders the most MEN, who does the most molesting MEN, who does the most bank robberies MEN, who fills the prisons most MEN, who does the most cheating , MEN. Whose the most violent MEN. Houston , we have a problem. True Facts !

[@JacksCrazyStories]

Honestly its kinda silly that this cant be explained in less than 19 minutes.