Doing the Work But Not Getting Better?

Doing the Work But Not Getting Better?
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[@cbreighner2136]

Fear, Freakout, Focus, Fixing … F that! 🙂 Thanks for the “reset” today. Very helpful.

[@Inge508]

I started stopping to heal my body..I’m now healing my mind. With working through past bad stuff, accepting it, and releasing it. Putting new healthier more pleasant thoughts, experiences in my system.. And over time, with no fear , my mind will be healed. Only my view on it, not THE truth (😜)! Happy Monday Dan and everyone ❤

[@josiejo117]

Love your perspective/view Inge...also focused on mind/thoughts/emotions/accepting/allowing/releasing...redirecting mind to love & joy.💜

[@Inge508]

@@josiejo117yesss! That’s called doing the ´work’ isn’t it, sweet Josie! Have a blessed day ❤

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

❤️❤️❤️ Sending hugs your way Inge!

[@Inge508]

@@NicoleFitnessKZbinthat’s super sweet! Sending you calming hugs back Nicole ❤

[@josiejo117]

Thank you so very much Dan for the seventeen hundred and 5 (or 6) days in a row... Kept me going through some dark days I can tell yer!!. Each to their own & this is not for everyone, but I practice meditation intentionally to face, allow & accept all that appears, arises & shows up. Initially every fiber of my being wanted to run, avoid, reject or deny...but with consistent practice, your videos, being in nature, expressing emotions, acknowledging thoughts & sensations then redirecting, living life... learning & healing is happening. Loving blessings wished to you Dan & all who navigate this journey. 💜

[@Inge508]

You just described the best recipe for healing , love and a happy present and future Josie! You got this! Keep going dear !👍👏❤️🙋‍♀️

[@trevorsmom5690]

I find I do not watch the success stories because I am afraid of getting other people's symptoms as a form of symptom imperative. I guess that means that I still have too much fear.

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Used to happen to me. Not as much now unless I'm already in a stressed out state. You can get there.

[@Inge508]

Maybe I have a tip for you? You can read the transcription of the successtory, and when there is a part of symptom description, just scroll further.. That way you can also get the lovely insights and inspiration of each story ❤

[@trevorsmom5690]

@@Inge508 that is a great idea, thank you for that

[@ameregame4805]

You’re missing the point. Even if in the unlikely scenario that this did happen, it’s just TMS, not a real injury, so the symptoms are not dangerous. You’re actual health is completely not at stake, so no reason for fear.

[@shelleybell8729]

I don't want to watch them because I feel like a failure for not getting better.

[@merildo]

I have done this years c 30 I think. Strange , people accepted hypnotherapy. Which was a bit weird in uk at thst time. But trying to get the mind body concept across. Total scepticism 😮 So I'm using. PDP. I'm winning. Except the nocturnal migraines. Still nothing. I understand , I try not to feed the beast. But what I do. Sometimes is I get frustrated and angry. I've gone out. To live my life. And damn pain hits. And so bad I have to come home. They call it costochondritis. It's TMS. It's harmless. But it can stop me in my tracks. No meds to use. Just go home use heat until the beast goes to sleep. This is dumb. Sometimes, i can ride it. Others I just cant. So frustration. Anger. Not helpful. More tension. Oh I'm working on it. But thought worth a share. Nice one Dan 👍

[@user-dianejcml]

Costochondritis pain is excruciating when it hits isnt it. Has stopped me many times too. The thing that calms me is knowing the diagnosis so I'm not terrified of it. The calmer I got, the less time it took healing a flare (ie., 6 weeks in pain to 1 week). Interesting point on hypnosis. I've seen hypnosis work on some, but others no. Awesome to hear it's helped you ❤

[@eloisemarie5219]

Awwwww... OK. I'm here. I couldn't understand why the last of this pain was hanging on. I've been in "fixing" mode. I've been in "what do I do next" mode. Relax. Dial down the fear. Focus on living not on symptoms. I'm capable of having a pain-free, symptom-free body.❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

So I managed to go to another Xmas event, 2nd in 4days. Drove there in tears lol but I arrived safely. I know I have to push through the fear. Managed most of the xmas light trail so a big win. Have been so peed off with my boring life but I'm the only one who can change. Agoraphobia n chronic anxiety n sensations. Your approach definitely works. Getting there, wherever there is 😂

[@josiejo117]

You're truly amazing!

[@Inge508]

Definitely getting to a happy lovely place!Well done!👏👏👏🎉🌈❤️

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

You are doing it PB! 🎉

[@user-dianejcml]

This is amazing! You are very inspiring ❤❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

​@@user-dianejcmlaww. So glad to help. I know others inspire me too. Wishing you pain free .

[@lesliezwemer4474]

Constant calmness ….. consistency is the key because it builds on itself in the brain! It tricks the brain into believing I’m completely safe 💕 Thank you

[@barbararyan-fi6vm]

Best video! This is the core of healing! The moment I realized I still had fear I decided I was done with it and I let it go and it all changed for me!! Recovery started! Thanks Dan!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Beautiful. Love it.

[@lindsaydougherty3793]

I have 24/7 head symptoms and I definitely believe that fear is keeping them around. I do struggle a lot because I do fear my symptoms and have been trying to fix them for years. Calm and consistency is what I am working on and believing that I am really okay.

[@lukebighair]

Are you getting any sleep? Because any hours you're asleep are probably symptom free. So maybe it is closer to 16-18 hours a day.

[@milesmcgeoghegan2727]

"Peace I leave with you, my peace give I unto you, let not your heart be troubled or fearful." Jesus

[@christinehorne5165]

I’m with you, I have been memorizing verses about letting go of fear. In this space, we don’t know how our body alerts us to problems. We run to the medical establishment, and they try to find a physical reason. And that we become afraid of what they tell us. we become afraid of the pain or symptoms. Around Thanksgiving I was afraid of conflict and so my symptoms went up Father give us courage.

[@Truerealism747]

​@@christinehorne5165so true

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Amen 🙏🏻

[@flaviodfalcao]

I realised that when I focus on the symptoms with the work (meditation for pain, listening to your videos all day long, etc) I tend to feel more anxious because, as you said, the fear increases. "Why am i not getting better?" However, this weekend I changed perspective. I just did what the pain was not allowing me (in my mind) and not only I did not get worse, I got 70% better! I believe what you say Dan is spot on. When you live your life and don't focus on the symptoms, the brain tends to give some slack 😂 Thanks again Dan, great video

[@peteryip92]

How are you now

[@flaviodfalcao]

@@peteryip92 i am actually 95% better, with some bumps on the road , but improving every day

[@peteryip92]

What’s your story? How bad was you? Did you stop all physical treatments

[@flaviodfalcao]

I had multiple instances of chronic pain, the last one being a post inguinal hernia surgery pain. It had it for about 5 months (usually it will last 6 weeks). It was normally at 4/10 and could increase to 7/10 sometimes. I seek medical opinion and they found nothing. So one day I decided it was enough and started to exercise and go with my live again. The pain started, not without a fight, to subside and now I feel much better. I had back, hip, hand and elbow chronic pain as well, all of them gone. I am not a fan of being extreme and do only mind body work. I believe there are things that help, such as stretching, physio in some cases and other things as well. But the mind body approach, more focused on the understanding of why the pain persists, was very important for me

[@erianmaxcic6052]

​@@flaviodfalcaohow are you now after 3 months?

[@1STBUCKLEY]

There's only one F word that works for me 😂😂

[@josiejo117]

Love it!

[@Jagrt2000]

Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful insight. I just recently found your videos. I am truly greatful! Blessings!

[@Pishgul]

Dan one request and one question. Would you please have a video how to cope with this for those who have IT work? As you know sitting makes symptoms worse. Second, Could somebody has muscle or joint injury ( muscle strain) but still pdp is the main ignition or source?

[@sherylmarshall1444]

I know what I’m doing wrong but can’t seem to shake the fear!! My symptoms keep tricking me and I think these are different as symptoms although similar always present a little different. Also sometimes I know there is nothing wrong but I just afraid of the sensation. Whether it be nerve sensations in my body (last night I was afraid as I couldn’t walk correctly foot legs tingling , my swallowing weird, tight throat, dropping things hand arm ringing tight, upper/lower stomach issues. I wish I was braver. As I’m fine if it’s mild but when it ramps up I freak out. I get so frustrated at myself!! These symptoms also distract me from making progress and being active !! So disappointed in me!! I am afraid of fear (even if I know what I’m going to do when I don’t have symptoms fall apart when I do). Appreciate your videos Dan ❤you are a constant !!

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Don't be disappointed in yourself. Have had all those symptoms, gone at the moment. Just keep going, calm messages, there will be breakthrough

[@sherylmarshall1444]

@@1STBUCKLEY thank you appreciate your comment !!

[@FleurMarigold]

hey, I'll probably get in touch a little more thoroughly at some point but I just wanted to say thanks for what you do. a while ago I was feverishly (and somewhat cluelessly) researching the links between OCD and chronic pain, when I eventually got directed to your channel. with a mind like mine, I really wasn't sure what kinds of progress I was going to be able to make - but less than a month after you successfully demystified TMS for me and I was already doing WORLDS better. like, so much better my past self would never even believe you if you told them. I had no idea it could happen this quickly or this dramatically, it's crazy and I'm so happy about it and SO much calmer these days. thank you :-)

[@sweetie2219]

i am definitely trying too hard...u make so much sense!

[@sheryl318]

I'm currently taking LexaPro which was keeping me pretty calm but lately doesn't seem to be working. I know you feel its in my mind but how do I calm myself down?

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

Dan's advice seems to be exactly in conflict with the concept of Somatic Tracking espoused by 'stalwarts' in the Mind-Body world like Howard Schubiner and Alan Gordon, who claim great success with their methods. Somatic Tracking entails focusing on the pain/symptom, albeit fleetingly, when the pain isn't raging. As a chronic pelvic pain sufferer for over a year, I can tell you these confusing, contradictory messages do little to alleviate the pain. Instead they only add to the frustration and bitterness. Same applies to the practice of Journaling advocated by Nicole Sachs & Dr. David Schechter: to do or not to do? Time these experts got together and laid down a broad protocol that the patient can then fine tune to suit his/her individual profile.

[@paulaspagnuolo8285]

My advice is to find one practitioner who resonates the most with you and follow their process. I found in my journey some things worked and others didn’t but following multiple practices and making recovery a full/time job was exactly opposite of what I needed. For me, once I understood the underlying concepts, less was more.

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

@@paulaspagnuolo8285 Thanks. May I ask what your problem was and which approach worked for you?

[@lindsaydougherty3793]

I think what I am trying to do during my healing journey at this point is to do what feels right for me in the moment. There is a lot of information out there and while the main concepts in the mind-body world are saying the same thing, it can get confusing. If something feels like work to me or I dread doing it, I don’t. So there are days I don’t do anything and days I do a somatic tracking mediation or something else.

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

@@lindsaydougherty3793 I see. I guess what I am also implying is for this to be an exact science it has to be more coherent or at least more targeted, as any good medical practice is. Currently the messaging is a tad too confusing for any sufferer. And living in India, I can't directly access an experienced mind-body expert one-on-one, which is a big stumbling block. Thanks anyway and warm regards.

[@J-xy6eb]

Somatic tracking is just another tool that helps alleviate fear. It’s all in the same ball park. You focus on your symptoms in a mindful way that helps to reduce the fear, you’re not focusing on them in a negative way but in a way where you don’t allow fear to take over. All of these techniques are training the brain to be less afraid in the same way that Dan is using indifference to train the brain

[@KatyWilkinson-feller]

Hi Dan i have a question for you. Walking for me realky hightens symptoms. Is when getting up to walk telling myself I'm safe im just making a cup of tea you are amazing you will get throug, this paying to much attention to symptoms or does this help/work to calm my brain?

[@tanyawieczorek6603]

Do you have POTS?

[@tanyawieczorek6603]

Do you have POTS?

[@shauncooper9756]

Hi Dan I took the pain test and it’s most likely it’s PDP/TMS.But the only thing that’s holding me back is the location of the pain and it doesn’t move.The pain area is in my genitals Area.I have had every test going apart from the camera down the penis.I was wondering if you yourself has come across male clients that have had this pain which was linked to TMS. Kind Regards Shaun

[@Truerealism747]

Yes it's pelvic pain I've had it years in the other area after a fall which then gave me CFS now fybromyalgia all the brain causing triggerpoints

[@shauncooper9756]

@@Truerealism747 but I don’t have any pain around only the genitals.I still run 12 miles a few days a week I can sit down etc

[@emerbarry7695]

I’m gobsmacked every time I watch one of your videos how bang on you are! I don’t have pain but I have very painful anxiety that comes with a host of symptoms and I started laughing when you said ‘I’d journal and then check to see if it was gone!’ That’s the opposite of acceptance. Learning soooo much from this channel!

[@melissaellzey7550]

The analogy is so helpful! Thanks for the constant daily help!

[@PainFreeYou]

Happy to help!

[@ajyvr305]

Finn! ❤🐾🐈‍⬛💗 Thanks Dan off to aquafit😊

[@pauldesrochers418]

Can you do a podcast on tinnitus. I believe this works tge same as chronic pain. Ive been struggling with tinnitus for 12 years.

[@jessicasmoot2252]

I love how you use the word colorful sensational 👌🏻

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you! Cheers!

[@glennreynolds2557]

Can you make a video on misaphonia. A lot of people struggle with this and I believe it’s just TMS in disguise

[@tonym8244]

Thank you

[@mercyme8014]

I’m just trying to figure out if my brain is stealthy…and if it’s truly running the show and I’m just the Blaster to my Master. 🧠

[@marly1869]

Dan..excellent video!!! Thank you so much for touching on this topic and continuing to give us hope 🥹🙏🏼♥️

[@shelleybell8729]

Very helpful, thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

You're welcome!

[@karagumruk7330]

It does work!

[@rebeccachew2321]

❤

[@wurst719]

Thank You so much for these great videos!!!

[@fifiearthwanderer]

I have lost my sense of safety and feel danger everywhere. I had fear of the fear. My body is so tightly wound and in pain. I dont know how to change it. I think i am going to sign up for coaching.

[@PainFreeYou]

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[@Bachconcertos]

Whats the work? That part i dont understand. What exactly is "the work".

[@Inge508]

For me the work is shifting your attention from your body, that’s basically fine( after a medical check!) to your mind, feelings and emotions that are the root cause of your pain/ symptoms.. stop fearing, stop paying attention to the symptoms .. start turning inwards,feel what is there for you that needs to be felt and expressed.Create a better mindset,release things thoughts patterns that aren’t helpful. Set healthy boundaries especially with toxic people and situations. Start loving and nurturing yourself . Patience, consistency, compassion.. The work is also putting your healing first.🍀🍀🍀

[@lukebighair]

​@@Inge508good answer

[@RachelTara1111]

Thank you Dan 🙏❤️

[@Seashell0822]

Great example when u breathed out n said aaah. Not the F word I use, lol, tho I wanna THANK YOU 4 helping me & many others through this tough journey, so that we can come out on the other side of this. Words can NEVER say THANKX enough. You Rock !! Have a great day & TY 2 everyone here 4 your kindness & understanding. ✌️❤️😎

[@marly1869]

I came back to rewatch this video Dan.. it caught my attention while scrolling through your videos, amazing how the same words, same message is perceived through the different shaded lens we wear..🙂 this is really helping today ♥️

[@ShirleyMartin-lp2or]

Great truths that work. Many thanks Dan for simplifying things, which have led to my return to living life. My husband says he has his mate back again!!!!!♥️

[@conorclancy6291]

Hi Dan. To be honest i like the idea of your coaching and it's availability but i feel very shy to be on camera and talk with strangers... 😅 If we join the coaching, can we direct any questions to you by text at all or is it really mostly worth joining if you're happy to participate enthusiastically in the calls?

[@tanyawieczorek6603]

Dan, are you saying that journaling isn't always necessary? I don't think it would do much for me..

[@annezanten6388]

Thank you Dan! I needed this one! 😺

[@Moonless6491]

Thanks dan, it's funny I came to this revelation the other day about myself and it's nice to hear it solidified.

[@AnitaPerrine]

Trust what you have learned and trust the PROCESS!

[@roddog4386]

Thans dan 🎉

[@jelmerschuurman4298]

Your everyday videos really help me a lot to stay on track in my recovery! Thank you for that!

[@michaelhina5807]

Thank you so much Dan I needed this today!! Love you Buddy

[@debbietraugh9851]

Great video! Thanks again Dan for all you do!

[@lisagr2888]

This is really helpful Dan, thanks again 😊

[@carolgray327]

So panic and shaking is making me want to stay home. So I should make myself go out no matter what I feel like?

[@carolgray327]

What if I faint or fall?

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

You don’t want to do anything that feels ‘forced’ or that is ‘pushing’. You want to accept the sensations and sit with them. Depending on your circumstance, try doing something small. Walk outside your front door. Or walk to the mailbox/street and back. Breathe in the fresh air and get sun. By doing something simple like that, you are telling your scared brain “See, it’s ok. I’m ok. You don’t have to be scared, I’m safe”. Be gentle with yourself - that is important. 🩷

[@Inge508]

@@NicoleFitnessKZbin wow! Such a reassuring answer! You would be a very warm caring mind- body coach Nicole! Your comments are a true blessing!🤗❤️

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

@@Inge508 Inge that is so kind of you to say 😘 Your help last week was amazing - your feedback when I was struggling helped me tremendously!!! I am so thankful for you! 🩷

[@maatjederegt7434]

❤

[@TheVaultwest]

I think we learn this pain, it’s a habit just like any other habit that isn’t working for us any more. Indifference takes the focus away so the brain can stop using the pain pathways that we activate every time we look at our symptoms with fear. We all can truly recover. It’s right there, within our reach. Thank you, Dan, for your care and love. It makes a huge difference in this world. 🩵