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[@Martha_I_A_1999]

I just found this channel 4 days ago and I've watched 5 episodes so far. I can honestly say that not one episode has been a waste of my time. I'm still shocked by how God led me to your channel and continues to speak to me and confirm things through the both of you! I'm so grateful. May God bless you both and continue to sustain your marriage and ministry ❤️🙏

[@ShavonRobinson]

Funny you say this I found this podcast last Sunday and have been watching every episode with my boyfriend . What’s even more heaven sent is I been asking God to prepare me for being a wife and this was the first podcast I found and has been so informative . Thank you guys for your obedience in this ministry .

[@malayjia1023]

Amen. Matthew 18:18-20🥰

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Wow, we are glad to hear this. Thank you for your support and don't forget to share our channel with friends and family (: Plus tune in tomorrow for a new episode

[@RayanaMalika]

1. Women want her husband’s affection and attention more than his provision 2:27 2. Women want their men to take the lead 11:07 3. Women can handle more their men think they can 21:04 4. Women are emotionally [spiritually] built differently than men 24:45 5. A wife/mom will give up her life for her family 33:00

[@cupcake1065]

God bless you.

[@ruseenajohnson2103]

Thank you!

[@t.jackson1926]

I love how Tabatha broke that Adam and Eve story. ❤ 👏🏽👏🏽 Come on now!! We don’t have a lot of men as leaders, not even in the church. So many broken homes because men are not playing the role of a man. I’m glad you guys touched on this. ❤️ (carry on) 👏🏽 whew

[@alessiajoy2906]

Yes! So, wonderfully explained!

[@Joe-xg1yt]

I agree but she also left out that Eve desires the fruit as well.

[@vickiejones9921]

I have been married for 37 years and 40 years as a couple.

[@Mimi-vt6mw]

“I’m not threatened by your lead” -said from a secured Queen…I love this type of leadership. I thank God for this type of wisdom being used by you guys to teach people how to be successful in their marriages or a better view on their relationships ! #powerful

[@sacredgem8732]

10:50 I just love watching these! I think sometimes we put too much emphasis on love languages according to the book and test. I believe all of the love languages matter and have an impact. With the ones we score high in, those are just the most important so if that language isn’t being met then it almost invalidates the others. But we need them all. So if your predominant life language is gifts but you also value quality time, you can get all the quality time in the world but it doesn’t hold as much weight if you aren’t receiving gifts. How ever if the needs for receiving gifts is met, the value for quality time is still there and when a person gets the quality time it means so much more as long as the need for receiving gifts is also being met.

[@liam.7149]

It's easy to submit when there's TRUST. Trust that your husband is actually leading you to a good place

[@jedidjab4346]

My hubby sent this to me as we’re working to repair our relationship. I agree with everything Pastor Tabitha said, that’s how I’ve been feeling. I’ve wanted my husband to notice and discuss a lot of things that I’m interested in. That’s how we bond and feeling loved and appreciated.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@olammakalu335]

“It’s not a less than position to submit because it takes two equals to actually submit” 🔥🔥

[@Lovejones80inc]

#2 is the biggest issue for me and every woman I know …it’s difficult because a lot of men are just not mentally and emotionally prepared to lead …they lack confidence and knowledge even when placed in the role they often shrivel. This manifests in cheating, abusive behavior, and financial irresponsibility forcing the woman back into the leadership and therapist role. 😢

[@carlenemccutchen4570]

So true!

[@BlackButterfly-555]

WOW... The Anointing of God is definitely upon this conversation!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@RC-ul4uc]

This was fire 🔥. Yes to a man leading in prayer, fasting etc.. so beautiful

[@JenniferLee2009]

Love the transparency and open-hearted communication! Absolutely essential for true intimacy. God bless you both!

[@jonseyjones7941]

Just in my role in 2024. As a woman, I carry a lot of stress. A lot of pressure from work. I have to take off my work hat and put on my house role and work in the house. I need time to decompress. I don't want to talk or be talked to. I need 30 mins to get into wife mindset. Most black women I know work in high positions, pay half the bills, but are still keeping all their traditional roles in the house of cooking and cleaning. A lot of men are not pressured to keep their traditional roles but women are. (I'm not even talking about menstruation days. That's a whole other videos. Lol!) I think men can easily deplete women and not get it. Just my opinion

[@michellemills2968]

Men and women need to hear this

[@lanaib_]

Yes

[@jbelle7133]

Let me add to point 4. God built us to not only nurture but speak like into our man and family and we do that with our emotions. We are encouragers by nature, we are sensitive to the feelings of others, and can pick up on emotions (negative and positive) with anyone. We are in tune with the feelings of life. Men are yes but not on the same level. For example, as a kid, if one of my fingers would have fallen off my mother would first of all calm me down then say “let’s go get it put back on”…all while being calm. We know the power emotions can bring. Tabatha mentioned pms…some women, like myself, have pmdd-deeper level of pms. Where I go to deep places of grief and darkness a few days before I start and just cry…a lot. Its all hormone related too. Women are built to carry physical pain better as well. Childbirth is no walk in the park and I can’t tell you how many men have told me they were hypercondriacs. Women can be too but we will cry over an aspca commercial before a broken bone any day of the week. God built us differently and in a fabulous, strong, burden sharing, supportive, sacrificing, understanding, empathizing, nurturing, and loving kind of way. Fuel for us would be for a man to recognize those things in us and help to elevate us in it.

[@kimwhite-lott2189]

That’s my love language - quality time and physical touch. My husband is reverse of those two.

[@koelreynolds4699]

I am in agreement!! Amen!!! I feel like our society is hard on men. I feel that women really need to know what men go through on a daily basis. There are things that husbands don’t necessarily outwardly discuss or share with their wives. A wife can tear a husband down in an instant and not even know they have disrespected their husband. I have learned (the hard way) that men feel loved when their wives respect them! Who knew? God had to show me this! I’m SOOO glad God brought your podcast across my computer screen!!!!🙏🙏❤️

[@chaprijohnson2555]

Ken and Tabatha make for an AMAZING TEAM, filled and powered with God's anointing!!❤ I love this example of partnership in marriage and ministry.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thanks for watching! God bless.

[@agnesr.4664]

Btw. If I may request a topic you talk about: How to learn to quicker admit mistakes/wrongdoings and being quicker to learn/change/apologize - in all kind of relationships. I seem to not be able to find good and biblical content on this...

[@Melinamiu007]

«When he said « men don’t care » he was absolutely right.

[@jessefoster2832]

FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE JOHN 3:16

[@kimwhite-lott2189]

Amen Amen Amen…. Yes I concur cause I definitely like to have my man’s attention. And I definitely know when he changes his beard or when he has a different cologne on or when he is displeased.

[@maameodeadu-gyamfi7913]

God bless you both. I'm praying for a husband like you

[@StevenGregoryJayy]

Beautiful couple! So genuine!

[@DianeFavour]

It is mindblowing to see how God led me to this platform, God bless you both abundantly IJN :)

[@deborahhazel1138]

I need a man to take the lead I have been the leader of my family for years and I have prayed for a husband and my son has suffered because of the lack of that leadership!

[@KnowBetterDoBest]

The thing that i came from, the only leadership i grew up on was lead financially and protect. My father never was a spiritual leader and i struggled with that in my marriage. Im doibg better, but it feels uncomfortable since i have never scene it action, so i didn't know how to start. But thank you for this wisdom.

[@chastitymasterton6053]

I appreciate your willingness to be open and honest! Vulnerability is a beautiful thing! ❤ Thank you for all you do!

[@JulienneHinge-gb4bv]

Amen Tabatha for quite opening to what women going through its really true sometimes our voice are not heard thanks for helping your and your husband

[@Mhelinblack]

Also, just want to say, that other women don’t have monthly menstrual cycle which is hormonal imbalance which is another struggle of a woman. PCOS is what some people know now but not fully know what this means or what other women goes thru

[@michaelvelez8736]

I appreciate these videos, they're a great blessing to me and many others. But I must correct something that Tabatha said about Adam and Eve! We wouldn't want anyone to get a wrong understanding of scripture. Tabatha mentioned and I'm paraphrasing, that Adam was supposed to tell Eve about the command God gave him in regards to eating the fruit. But because Adam failed to tell her, Eve took the fruit. Putting the blame on Adam for not leading Eve properly. According to Genesis 3:1 satan said to Eve; "Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?" This implies that God also told Eve not to eat of the tree. Eve knew not to eat of the tree, but she rebelled anyway. This is why Paul said in 1 Timothy 2:13-14 "For God made Adam first, and afterward he made Eve. [14] And it was not Adam who was deceived by Satan. The woman was deceived, and sin was the result."

[@amoykelly7737]

Thanks, this was reinforced. I watched 5 things every woman should know about a man.

[@ayanabg44]

While I would say this was a great episode, I wish the conversation was driven by Pastor Tabatha so she could share on the women’s perspective and not be interrupted as much. You all are a great pair. I look forward to seeing a good balance of sharing and listening from both parties. Thank you for your obedience and sharing a fresh perspective.

[@patiencemtisi9061]

I agree. Powerful couple but our dear female pastor does need to be given more space to talk by her husband

[@marquitaatkinson9621]

I thought the same thing.

[@2024Maddie]

Yes! The men section was more Of him actually talking about his needs. She went off on saying everything she does for him as a wife, this section he didn’t really worked as hard. He spoke more than her. But still a great message

[@angelicaamplified]

I was thinking the exact same thing, I also feel like some of the content was still turned into ‘women need to understand’ or ‘ male centered’ in a ways . The last 20 minutes I found the most valueable.

[@corinneroberson-hickson7633]

This segment was really awesome very much needed.❤ thank you

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

You're so welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@nyamushagibridget9853]

Im never leaving these ones...i love their love

[@tcking86]

I agree that the man should take the lead. Women can lead and often do it when they do not trust the man’s decision making skills or he has not demonstrated his ability to lead. When that trust is developed that the man will make smart decisions in the best interest of the family women will follow the man’s lead.

[@kelseye9380]

There is SO much wisdom in this. Wow, wow. Just found you guys recently. And this video is VERY timely in my life and I KNOW the Holy Spirit was cooking this up in both of your hearts. THANK YOU for this amazing message!

[@jessefoster2832]

REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK

[@amoykelly7737]

Especially the leadership of the Spiritual role. I believe if a man step up in this role, everything else falls in place. It is such a turn on to see a man leading his family to God.

[@amoykelly7737]

I am not threaten, I am inspired and secure with my man being the leader. Also, know the leadership role does not mean that there is no involvement of the wife. In the God Head, the Father includes the Son and the HolySpirit 🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@SalishaAli-pv1bb]

Thank you. I really appreciate these videos. And looking forward for more. Me finding your videos… was found at the perfect time. As a new single mom, it’s been supeerrrr difficult as a mom of 7 children, work and in school myself. I am loving every thing I am learning and/or relearning. ❤ Thankyouuuu. My mouth is full but not enough time and space to say. But, you both are Tully amazing and a blessing m. I thank God for allowing me to find you.

[@Ambeeezie]

i love you guys! this is so helpful and the way you all talk to each other and listen...

[@thebreakthrough9782]

I cried during this segment, going through a divorce and this is everything I wished my ex knew ....everything I was trying to tell him but we always seemed to miss each other.😢

[@tahashismith2732]

I pray that your marriage will be able to withstand 😢. Maybe you Can send this to your husband ❤

[@courageoustracian3741]

I absolutely love and appreciate you guys. May God continue to bless you both. Your a breath of fresh air 🙏🙏🙏

[@yazzkits1043]

Feels like you are both enriching us and working on your marriage at the same time,Amazing ❤

[@DMGDwelling]

19:10 take the lead spiritually!!

[@nyamushagibridget9853]

My prayer oh Lord is that I meet a man one day who can love me like this and I respect him like this..❤

[@fifiesforte]

31:27 About the 4th point. When a woman gets vulnerable and expresses her hurt and frustrations, as a man please don't be too quick to respond with a solution. It really hurts us. Men might automatically respond with a solution due to how they're wired as men. But as women we're wired different. We just need you to listen. Most of the time we already have figured out the solution. We just need a shoulder to lean on, a safe space to vent. Just being present emotionally...

[@anitabritt2006]

Oh my, this is good, @19:37 Ken said, "I'm not dropping my family off at another man's house, whether it be the house God or whoever it is, I'm going with you!" Hey SHAMAHHH!!!! That blessed my soul !!!

[@walterallen1433]

No words. Hands down the most refreshing episodes that I have found on KZbin. Thank you and I will pray for you both.

[@brandonlovessports1866]

This is eye opening. Thanks 🙏🏿 I didn’t realize that “provision” was other things other than money

[@denisejones2639]

You did it again! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@desstadessta]

Your Podcast helps me so much. Thank you💖

[@Regina.Clarke]

Excellent message on these 5 points! There is a ton of content for women, but minimal healthy content for men to hear from men.

[@ebony2413]

Fantastic! So good🙌🏾❤️🔥

[@franchat]

This video was awesome, it gave me so much to think about. Thank you!

[@kimwhite-lott2189]

Yes, definitely it is for security. I can only speak for Me. I like to know that my husband only wants me when he’s being playful with me squeezing on me touching me it feels good. And if he says you look beautiful or you look good when we go to church on Sunday mornings because of an outfit I have on that’s nice. And I would like to add, my husband does do these things.

[@krystlesmall2626]

I love this,your content mean so much to me and I thank you guys for being so real.

[@ashleyfurniss8033]

So so good 🙌🏼

[@totallyieshia]

As always, great content, great information, and great insight.

[@faithbayon9636]

i totally agree

[@preyonce]

This is so good. I appreciate the content. Keep it up guys!

[@thashoelady]

This man gets it! The questions are spot on for understanding.

[@brendaballou4000]

Thank you Both for sharing 😊

[@Uzonna1]

Both episodes are so good

[@agnesr.4664]

I am always looking forward to your podcast! Thank you, I feel so blessed by you! Subscribing from Germany. ❤

[@koelreynolds4699]

This is just the best content!!! Thank you so much for uploading this video and for all your content! There aren’t a lot of people discussing the topics that you discuss. Thank you for your boldness in love!!

[@Whoopwhoop729]

These people have real knowledge and I’m so grateful that they are answering the call of God on their lives

[@Georgeghumblewhite]

Thank God for y'all's podcast. This is so amazing 🙌🏼

[@imperfectlyperfect3846]

Thank you Mr and Mrs Clayton for your obedience and making this channel and talking about the topics you are talking about it is very helpful and nurturing and educational and it’s beneficial not only relationally but spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically because you can work out listening to y’all’s podcast. 💞💞

[@mildredramogohlo5277]

Different grace we have. Amen. We thank God for you ❤

[@kvnlel45]

I found this accidentally a day ago but this is amazing. I thank God that He provides what we a searching for.

[@joyedet4731]

Thank you so much for this brilliant broadcast.

[@zakila2cute]

This was good, real good! So many great nuggets👌🏾

[@jaceemae4648]

❤❤❤ Great conversation and all couples need to talk about everything to have a strong marriage. Y'all two are a awesome couple

[@brendaslowe6365]

Love this!❤

[@rablair1966]

Talk about those women that are stubborn and asserts herself trying to be the head. 😤

[@WhitakersWay]

Loved all of this especially the break down of the leadership! ❤ learning a lot ❤

[@laurynwiley4116]

This video was so fun just to sit back & see another woman explain exactly how it is. I love the insight you two bring to the Christian community and reinforcing biblical values. I want to add that being emotional as women does not equate to logic as a man. It’s so important for men to just listen to what women are FEELING even if in the male mind it isn’t logical. We’re hardwired to feel and most of the time we don’t necessarily need help navigating it (9/10 we know how to handle it) but rather just an ear to listen while we figure it out ourselves.

[@wilmamachado8484]

Awesome couple and ministry🙌❤️‍🔥

[@thevoicewithukara8355]

Awesome. Truth being told. Thank you for blessing me esteemed Pastor Sir/Ma. I'm grateful

[@mercyehwarieme1303]

I was really blessed listening and watching this,i really don't understand MEN so i have been in many apps trying to figure that out but am glad i got my answers,thanks so much for sharing your experiences.❤

[@prisca-medikupesa1448]

This episode was so constructive thank you guys ♥️

[@kikijames333]

This was good im so bless by it

[@StephanieDavis-xf1qv]

Wow y'all are amazing.Thats what I want my marraige

[@phyllisharris1206]

Yessssss!!!!! I'm not threaten..... I'm the QUEEN!!!!

[@sophiafrancis4881]

Great podcast watching from Jamaica, I am so inspire even though I am single

[@Claudynehilaire]

This channel.is soooo good.

[@sandrashavers1516]

enjoyed you, you guys rock!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We are glad :) Stay tuned for a new episode tomorrow!

[@Mhelinblack]

Oh gush, I just want to get in the comment where I don’t usually do, just to let y’all know that God has put your videos in my feeds lately, even if I’ve seen your videos before to get my attention.. I have been in a storm full of challenges in my marriage (I felt a connection when you guys said y’all struggled the first 2 yrs and that’s where we at right now. Marriage being a magnifier and I learned it from y’all, I am very uncomfortable of my flaws and inner issues right now with so very lil support system, but somehow God still nudging me to continue to persevere from my demons… my family/spouse is getting affected and I’m hurting myself and the people I love. But thank you for this videos. Pray for me please to get us thru this difficult season.

[@rachelcook3606]

I too had to learn the hard way.

[@sandrashavers1516]

Amen Tabatha

[@user-uw9zv3jb7p]

Great session again , thank God for the two of you wiling to discuss these topics in a real way. My thought is what if the husband is not good leader and makes bad decisions for the family causing them financial and emotional stress . The wife may be smarter at making decisions for the family in that case .

[@donmota78999]

A dynamic duo

[@kerennongho]

From my past experience the spouse has to evaluate if the other spouse is emotionally intelligent enough to accommodate whatever your struggles are cus some spouses will definitely use it against their spouse whenever they hit on an argument

[@justushaasis215]

My girlfriend really liked it and told me about it and I agree

[@anllelina29]

This was sooo good!!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽 God bless you both. Now listening to the 5 things we ladies need to know about Men 👌🏽

[@anllelina29]

Women are built emotionally different = we handled our emotions differently. In situations we might feel and react differently than men do 😩

[@adafihkeith868]

I'm a newbee but Tabatha is so cutee🎉🎉

[@nighasiajoshua-bond8029]

Thanks!🙏🏾

[@tammycovington3288]

Thanks for sharing 👏👏👏🙌💯❤️

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thanks for listening!

[@yolandabernard1662]

I think women are more intune to the feelings of those around her😊