Domestic abuse survivor shares her story

Sophie Eyers has bravely shared her story of domestic abuse in a bid to encourage others to seek support.
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[@chrissysmith3357]

I was severely abused for 6 years. My story is so similar in ways. I'm thankful everyday to be alive.

[@misslaurap]

Glad ur ok now x

[@jackjohnson4492]

You must have done something to provoke him.

[@debadamsuksouthwales6766]

I was abused for 9 years it is hard to get away because they make you feel that your worthless but I. Got away and I'm a much stronger women now

[@InPieces_music]

I'm in the same boat the same thing happened to me and I'm currently dealing with sucidel issues

[@Vb-fy4sv]

GOOD FOR YOU ! I have a niece who was in a violent marriage,she did after many years get the COURAGE to leave , he used to torture her mentally after she got away ,but she never went back ,thank the lord, I heard he has another victim now , feel sorry for her she was warned about him but obviously wouldn’t listen I often think of her and hope she is ok.. my niece is in another relationship now and VERY HAPPY..it’s just breaking away that is the hardest thing to do ..

[@silkwebspider7506]

Bless!

[@PeterHotton]

But too hear a man to get abused is embarrassing 😂

[@bettyramage2540]

Me too

[@BlueTilda96]

I wish for anyone and everyone reding this to be safe and happy, loved and cared for this Christmas. If you are in a abusive relationship please seek help and talk to someone, even if it's just some stranger on the street. You are worthy of happiness and true love, never ever let someone else make you belive anything different. ❤

[@phyllismagunde5844]

I am really proud of her for leaving that man. He didn't deserve her. Thank God she left before it was too late. You are too special to be made into a punch bad.

[@gagiman7273]

Go what such a sweet woman. Nice to see she's in a better place

[@Winner0007]

As a man who's looking to settle down soon it breaks my heart to hear how men and some women abuse their partner. How would they feel if they were treated the same way? And it's amazing how these people get partners but I've never even been in a relationship.

[@truemamle6184]

Am glad now you know and never do that to your partner/ wife good luck Am about to tell my stories before I came across this

[@CookieCowgirl-eg7wi]

@Asaan Hasdde I’ve watched my son go through 2 abusive relationships, the damage to his mental health and also physical self is unreal. I’ve told him he needs counselling but sometimes I get frustrated simply because I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall. He suffers PTSD

[@CookieCowgirl-eg7wi]

So take care and take things slow so you can really understand the person your getting involved with

[@cebe2624]

I was abused by my ex's and I honestly feel like they don't care for another person's feelings at all because they have these issues, all I did was try to love someone, I thought they would save me from my home that really wasn't better.

[@lizjane1349]

It's just a game to these guys honestly, they wouldn't feel anything because they don't have feelings. Or not feelings like normal people do anyway

[@bikbikkidbik2895]

No man should ever lay a hand on any woman for any reason and no woman should ever lay a hand on any man for any reason

[@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010]

🤔 What if she aborted your kid?

[@Aj-me8mo]

No man should lay their hands on a woman unless she hits first, then it's game on

[@wiiiz3]

My girlfriend stabbed me and also shot me in the leg and i didnt do anything because men dont hit women. i just hope she does shoot me in the head next time.

[@asimghaffar8148]

@@wiiiz3 Are you still with her?

[@wiiiz3]

@@asimghaffar8148 im stayingat a rehabilitating centre trying to learn how to walk again but when ill leave, i will go back to be with her.

[@Jade2343]

I was abused for 13 years and even though in the beginning he was violent to me..the last few years was more emotional abuse. I still feel as though the emotional abuse has left much longer trauma then what the bruises did. Abuse isn’t only about just getting beaten up or constantly put down. Abusers can also show a really loving side..a nice side, a side that makes you really love them and you develop a trauma bond with them. That’s when it’s harder to leave. Also it’s when abuse is more subtle and gradual that makes it harder to leave. When someone is physically hurting you, it is so easy to see that it’s abuse, but when they are being nice 60% of the time and then now and then every so often they gaslight you, they manipulate you, they constantly flip everything back onto you and blame you…it’s harder to spot the signs. It’s also more harder to leave..as it sounds silly but you are madly in love with them. Only people who have been in an abusive relationship will understand this. It is a trauma bond and it is very difficult to break away from. Nobody will understand how we can love our abusers? But the reality is that they are very clever in making us fall for them so deeply, but at the same time they hurt and abuse us. I’ve been out of my relationship for 2 years now and I am still carrying the emotional scars. They will always be with me. My physical scars healed..but the emotional scars linger and that’s what’s so difficult to recover from. 😢

[@trinacresswell9852]

This is so true as I’ve been through the same and this just sounds like what happened to me ❤

[@AnaM.F]

Totally agreed with you, the verbal, psicologic abuse is worst, because nobody believes in you… I know very well ….

[@jessicachernak8699]

All of these domestic violence stories are one of two outcomes. 1. He beat me so badly I finally had the courage to get out. Or 2. He beat her so badly that she died. I know that being in an abusive relationship is complicated but in the end, you tell your story or someone else will have to tell it for you, get help now.

[@leaburns9599]

*** I certainly admire 😍 this beautiful & strong woman 👩 for leaving such a horrible abusive 💔 relationship!

[@user-vi6wf4gh9x]

As always, you can tell by the eyes. Her eyes are full of kindness, his full of evil. Window to the soul.

[@misslaurap]

She is lovely isn’t she x

[@lythiascanlon2131]

These men who abuse women are a despicable lot. They have zero insight into their behavior and blame others for all their problems. I helped my lovely friend get away from her violently abusive boyfriend. She is very intelligent and a former police officer; this can happen to anyone. It is right that the common denominator is the abuser's behavior. I recently watched a KZbin video that depicted a male that was abused by his female partner. The police and CPS were desperately trying to get him to bring evidence, but he protected her. She ended up killing him. May you walk in beauty and peace, Sophie.

[@misslaurap]

They are awful indeed

[@lythiascanlon2131]

@@mrmccurious7641 That is a very good point. Females abusing their male partner is a real thing, and it's not always physical. I watched a documentary file called The Red Pill. It's very eye opening. I have watched it a few times with others to hear what they took away from it. Cheers

[@deedavis4961]

I'm in the US,...more SPECIFICALLY NC. My son dad put me in ICU 3 times, he would make my kids watch him, ruptured disc in my back, pinched sciatica on my right side, a dent in my head from him stomping my head with his boot, I've been raped, cut, burned, and so much more.....but after the last time I called the police to press charges, the officer seen my temple area turning blue, busted vessels in my, he didnt have but 1 superficial scratch on his neck....but when the officer came, he told me if I pressed charges on my sons dad, then the officer himself would make sure me AND MY ABUSER went to jail, and that my kids would be takin......Ive never felt so alone, defeated, angry, drained, etc as I did when the officer couldn't CARELESS. My landlord was A DEACON AT A CHURCH,.....he seen this kind of stuff happening, and actually pulled up to our house bc he could see the blue lights from his home....he wouldnt even look at me, wouldnt speak to me, and he honestly didnt care about me,....bc hes always felt that women were less than a man....smh. Leaving these situations isnt an event......its a process, and so many ppl judge, I've been told I deserved it bc I stayed, or I must've liked getting beat bc I stayed, so I shouldn't 'whine' about it....men and women can be victims, survivors, but also the abusers. You deserve better,....if you want to see what kind of man you have,....watch how he treats his mom,...that will tell you a great deal.....

[@misslaurap]

Poor lass he got into her head she is looking better away from him but it’s sad he changed her a lot . She’s brave there is hope just shows you there is help out there and his behaviour was not at all normal the things he said and did.She has been an inspiration for others out there male and female experiencing DV at the moment or before . She is so amazing May she have a happiness ahead of her and find proper love ❤️ hugs sent her way xx

[@zoesayer6766]

Be very proud of yourself xxx

[@indianps4gamer970]

My father beats us so We left our home. Please pray for us. We are homeless.

[@misslaurap]

Hope ur ok

[@Haybug11992]

You’re so brave for sharing your story. ❤

[@Michelle-wl4qu]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Xx

[@chantellehope1489]

You beautiful brave young lady ❤ I wish you the best of luck with your life

[@zan7466]

I hope she has a good team around her now

[@lindashuman8510]

Bless. She is precious. I hope she realizes she is in charge of her life.

[@cfcdaviddcfc]

stunning intelligent lass who any guy would be lucky to have , that creep dose n't deserve you love

[@phyllismagunde5844]

It's actually him who is sick. This behaviour is not normal.

[@awfootballcreates9323]

this is scarily similar to the situation i was in a couple of months ago

[@SoniaAli-w9g]

I am very very Thank full of God I flee within one year because I was exhausted and hopeless and terrified but I flee 4 time, he said sorry I went back then finally I am free and most important I am alone usa without family and Asian country divorce daughter will not accepted if accepted they remarry them with Unlike guy or a elder man due to label of divorce and I was scared to go back but finally I am happy and moving better day by day and my family realising it’s better dead daughter then alive happy daughter and I wish culture will change and they accept there daughter

[@SoniaAli-w9g]

I am blessed 1000 times and I proud of you♥️

[@juliebrickley2562]

Don't feel guilty for telling the hospital/police, he deserves everything he got

[@celticgypsy6067]

Make mental notes of coercion into a fight that's abuse and the mental abuse it causes for any future proceedings. The games abusers do trying to cause stress in the whole family and financial abuse. And then trying to make it your fault. These subtle instigations are cruel and Criminal and will go against them in legal matters.

[@louisemerriman1079]

Very brave young lady xx

[@shantelmiller2228]

Hi know and i feel everything that she is going through...am going through hell right now...Am with a man that i taught would make all my pains go away...yes!!he did make them go away..smh well i think he makes me happy...until he starts beating me...i cant talk to anyone in peace...not even my mom are my sister...i cant talk to anyone...i cant even look at anyone...i cant walk past anyone..If he would be boxing me in my face...an my head would hurt me for hours...Then when me see that am in pain he would come telling me he is sorry and he never wanted to do it...and worst part he would never did it again...smh

[@bythepowerofgreyskull5169]

Go to the police or run away.

[@michaeladenton8178]

I’m six yrs in n I’m stuck! I’ve tried to get help but he makes me look I did this to myself! I feel I actually did n it’s keeping me stuck n playing down daily minute by minute insidious abuse n I can’t win! No family or friends makes it hard but being disabled n beaten that I’m just fine ect all my money now gone n im now homeless n just had my last brutal beating n verbal attacks n being drugged is beyond hell n I wish I was dead ! I try every day to get up but im so exhausted n feel helpless beyond

[@ruthreuter9813]

Can you look for a shelter away from this man? I’m so very sorry. God bless you and your path. You can get on the other side of this ok? I’m serious. It is not easy, but plz get away from your abuser.

[@celticgypsy6067]

The way these abusers operate is to isolate the victims, now the laws have changed. So the Victim doesn't need witnesses. Once the abuser is charged and the charge can apply for historical abuse. This means that the abuser will have a Criminal record and cannot get any financial loans as a National Criminal history check is required now. Also for Adoptions or IVF a National Criminal Check is required so people with Criminal records and DVA charges cannot apply. These National checks also apply to offences from Overseas. Also know that adult Children can also proceed with the same Legal proceedings on the Victims behalf and for what the Children witnessed in growing up.

[@user-ld4xb5ns5c]

Thanks it's nice to receive legal advice on these matters x

[@xeniakennedy]

are you ok now? hope everyone here is safe and puts their abusers away. you can do it. Merry Xmas all.

[@tamiewert808]

I was married 19 years to an abusive man! At first it was mainly verbal, but in time the abuse because physical. I heard from numerous women, why didn't you leave sooner? Why do women blame the victim??

[@ninjasylph]

Amber Heard always sounded like she was acting out a screen play, badly. I've been a victim of domestic abuse and I've noticed a lot of people either look/sound kind of far away in their recollection or hiding back tears depending on who was describing it and how they processed their grief.

[@werock9]

Hopefully he doesn't stalk her

[@Un_Believable-v7l]

The system then makes it very difficult for survivors to find rent apartments. Their credit is destroyed by the perpetrators and the system itself.

[@suchitradas7442]

I really don't believe that even the partner doing these kind of physical and mental abuse they would like to be treated the same way like they do to their partners/spouses....what kind of happiness they get from making someone's life a living hell i really don't get that....

[@misslaurap]

Exactly it’s scary

[@Watchman-nw7hg]

HOW COULD SHE ALLOW HIM TO EVEN HIT HER FOR THE FIRST TIME SHE MUST HAVE A VERY LOW ESTEEM OF HERSELF OR WHAT ONCE ANYONE PERSON THAT YOURE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIT YOU FOR WHATEVER REASON GETT OUT BECAUSE ITS ONLY GONNA GETT WORSE...

[@jac1793]

she's sounds exactly what is was expecting she would sound like

[@juliebrickley2562]

Marrying him will be a very stupid thing to do!

[@snowstormwishxoxo5459]

Pray to Saint Rita for help she is the patron saint of abusive relationships!! You can pray a 9 day novena to her

[@KLewrv2db]

Then why are there so many? Praying does not work. Religion is patriarchal bs to keep women down. If you are being abused, don't pray! DO something: GET OUT. There are shelters and social workers waiting to help.

[@veronicalemus5866]

Wow

[@debraswinley3018]

Qhat majes?a man believe he can do this

[@jasonsandifer3250]

These story very disturbing, and very upsetting I am Glad that this Woman Survived this terrible situation I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman: For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable... Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe... No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often. Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been... My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior, I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others... Keep everyone SAFE PLEASE BE SAFE Your Life is important Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate Jason Sandifer, Michigan MESSAGE REPOSTED 10/04/2021

[@marionbowler5440]

I was abused by men more than I care to remember, somehow I managed to survive all, stay strong and brave. We survivor's are strong. God bless.🙏🇨🇦🐘🍁

[@freudvibes10]

The worst thing is how these men make us feel worthless! It's like raping our spirit, our soul, and heart! Apart from physical violence.

[@melodieperkins7080]

Even worse when they use the law against you, religion, you can't get medical care, can't go to school, can't practice your faith, because the are dealing with childhood trauma. Selfish and insecure people. The only hope is history which tell the truth.

[@therange4033]

I know how that feels to lie about your injuries. I got a fractured skull and said I bumped into a door! I had to stay in hospital for a week with antibiotics to stop my brain getting infected. It was aweful.

[@misslaurap]

Poor u ouch hope ur ok now

[@therange4033]

@@misslaurap Well its healed well. Maybe it knocked sense into me? I left him soon after. Did a ''moonlight flit'' while he was at work and went to my parents!

[@lifeofmachine4641]

I can't believe people are actually like this... this horrible. Poor girl.

[@shovel2683]

What an amazing women let me have five minutes with Sam

[@yvonnedonaghey9066]

I'm so happy for you that you got your life back. The cps dropped my case. I will never understand why but I am so delighted that you got justice, so many dont. ❤💯

[@theodoraz7050]

god bless this beautiful women

[@phalanx-it]

An amazingly brave woman and this will do a lot to help others, I have no doubt. Wishing Sophie well for her future!!

[@Catsmeow90]

What a sweet lady you are, you are worth so much better than him. He is a worthless nobody!!! I hope you are living your best life now.

[@user-hl1ci2ct3n]

What about emotional abuse.?

[@Moments93-]

Leave

[@MarksTournaments]

@@Moments93- its hard

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

beautiful lady, Thank you for sharing your story, I'm glad you are doing well and you're happy, Peace, love, joy and happiness to you and everyone , Thank you universe 🥰🛸💞😁👽🌌🐉🌈🫂💫☘️✨️🦄🦄👁🧝‍♀️🧿😀💞

[@sampsonlittle7368]

Domestic violence and coercive control is one of the most evil behaviors there is.

[@Blueboy-v5p]

Another thing to us all, if you have a loved family member who, over a period of time tends to become distant, especially if they are with a new partner, alarm bells should ring. I had this with my own daughter, she kept it all hidden. I was so shocked when I discovered what was going on, she was totally hooked into this evil man!

[@laurynrose1111]

Ladies don’t let anyone take your freedom

[@belindahutchinson5333]

Thanking you for sharing. Big hugs to you 🤗💓

[@boo7846]

Bless her heart 😢

[@sandragaffney6768]

Amazing young lady sound be so proud of herself xx

[@juliebrickley2562]

Cor, That Isn't A Person, That Is A Monster!!!

[@tranquility9325]

This is why you dump these ppl in the beginning. The FIRST sign of abuse/ disrespect... you run 🏃‍♀️

[@MarissaLay-n6z]

I was domestic violence by my 1st Chinese ex husband I wasn't happy with the blonde police for telling liar in Court. I was 100% right my 1st ex husband was sexual abused onto my daughter I do not understand why my ex husband wasn't charged and should put in JAIL. Also he did violence towards me and threatening me. Police accused my 2nd ex partner of sexual abused which is false it was my 1st ex husband fact did it I was 100% right why Court and system not listening to me it's painful hole in my heart and I'm very hurtful. Police is responsible for making the false accusations and liars. I'm very disappointed and make me crying too much.

[@danielaconti9267]

My ex husband abused me for 7 years , One day i got all my stuff my Little son and escaped ....he stalked me for years no help from the authorities , maybe because It was 30, years ago ...

[@dianestevens2659]

What a terrible man, horrific, poor lady, glad she got out.

[@apasiakafa722]

Sam = 💩

[@powerplay8355]

Cant blame this one on Islam or arab countries 😂

[@joellakoslowski5397]

🙏🏼

[@lydx5814]

😍

[@EmmaJean-c6v]

Lump in my throat 🥺 Thank God she survived 🙏 Wonderful police officer who help her. My gosh 🌹 Such a beautiful gentle soul too she is darling girl may god bless her in abundance and pour his grace out on Sophies life❤

[@sashabullement6287]

I was abused for 8 years and I had so many people tell me to leave. He was my everything and I felt like I could change him. After that long, you fear life without them 😢 xx

[@katesun2957]

I can't believe that Help Now saw me once a week, and heard of what we had been through each week, and they did nothing for four years.

[@JuliaGilmore-pm6ml]

I think you are brave and gentle as you speak of such horrible horrible memories

[@nellynennen5003]

Love her voice

[@bristolfoodstreet7854]

So incredibly brave ❤

[@ianclifford4309]

It is a very sad story no man should ever do that she is a lovely lady what made him do this he just dont no how luck he was to have her

[@misslaurap]

Exactly

[@user-tk7kz1fl2r]

The photographs tell a different story. We should hear Sam's side of the story.

[@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010]

It is not the full story.

[@brayanrodriguez1268]

Survivor? I doubt he did all of that out of nowhere and unprovoked. Problem with you women is you like to test your guy, then cry wolf when you see the beast he can be.

[@Sookielein]

What kind of man are you if you think that softspoken tiny woman could provoke you? It's laughable to even think that there is anything , ANYTHING , even provoking somebody to justify what was done to her. People who do that kind of shit have some serious selfhate issues. A real man would just leave a woman he feels provoked or annoyed by. How much selfhate must you carry if you beat a women to a bloody pulp just so she doesn't leave you...

[@renelacomb8737]

She didn't deserve to be abused

[@brayanrodriguez1268]

​@@Sookieleinthat's the problem isn't it? Every retard out here gets abused, or exposed to some sort of abuse.. But it's always the women who were so brave, survivors even.. What did they survive? A slap to the face and some hits? Sheesh what a strong woman, such merit, strength, integrity, incredible valor, yet she wouldn't leave dude when she saw bad things happening.. Again, just a willful victim, asking for empathy from any imbecile who can't see through her own side of the story. There's many reasons to slap a woman, you just "shouldn't" do it. 😂

[@brayanrodriguez1268]

No need to be a night in shining armor, her ex husband was one, portrayed himself as one, probably with the same way of thinking you have, and he punched her right in the kisser. 😂😂😂 fckn joke

[@brayanrodriguez1268]

​@@renelacomb8737if she saw the signs and she stayed, that's a willful victim.. It's like witnessing a car crashing, if it's moving your way, most of the times you can see it, and just stay out the way or move. But if you willingly just stand still knowing it's going to hit you, and leave things to run its course.. well you're just brainless aren't you? She does have a birdbrain look.

[@jasonsandifer3250]

These story very disturbing, and very upsetting I am Glad that this Woman Survived this terrible situation I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman: For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable... Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe... No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often. Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been... My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior, I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others... Keep everyone SAFE PLEASE BE SAFE Your Life is important Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate Jason Sandifer, Michigan MESSAGE REPOSTED 10/03/2021

[@shonatyson5934]

sick sick man get help