HOW TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE AS A WOMAN | WHAT I'VE LEARNED AFTER 40 | Dominique Sachse

We’ve all had times where we don’t feel fully confident in our own skin, but let’s put those days behind us. Today I’m sharing my secrets to living a beautifully confident life after 40 and how you can too!
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Welcome to the official Dominique Sachse KZbin channel! On this channel, you’ll find inspiring “Yes, you can do it!” tips for transformative hair and makeup, fashion looks for every season - and health and wellness related content for the mature woman who’s in her PRIME! I enjoy sharing my life with you through my vlogs, how-to live YOUR best life through Q & A videos and so much more, all with a touch of faith and affirmation. Subscribe and enable all push notifications so you can always keep up. Let’s enjoy this beautiful journey together!
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[@carolbobier1665]

Speak to yourself with love and kindness... so true Dominique, I’m 62 years old and I’m just learning to speak and treat my self with love and kindness.

[@downeyjr4423]

It's never to late 👍

[@catcaa9027]

@@downeyjr4423 I was just about to write that exact line😍

[@downeyjr4423]

@@catcaa9027 I got there before you lol 💞

[@lupechacon-florez7520]

I am 63 and I am now also beginning to be kinder to myself. I was told all my life and I still am told by my mother that she never loved me. D’s suggestions are exactly on point.

[@lindasmith5334]

Me too - I’m 62 and just learning as well. I hope we both succeed and flourish ❤️

[@raraavis7782]

You're such a warm, welcoming and kind presence in this loud and aggressive world. Thank you for being you and always making such an effort, to help your fellow human beings.

[@livingdoll3445]

Hi it's Annie Stuart thank you for this video it is very helpful to have watched on this on topic of confidence. it is something most of us lack and really need to work on constantly. Thou you have a way of making it all so easy. Possibly as it comes to you more naturally.

[@cherylharding8106]

Thank you for sharing your heart. You're a true blessing in this crazy world.

[@miamanning7871]

Your voice is soothing..I was raised around so much anxiety and noise..your words resonated that I want this calmness and peace

[@jancharron5947]

There is nothing in the world like living a calm and peaceful life. ❤️

[@odapty]

😔

[@renephillips6739]

It took me 35 years to realize that my family's lack of belief in me had nothing to do with my abilities and everything to do with their own self-imposed limitations. They couldn't envision more for themselves so how could they ever envision it for me. They would call me a dreamer and roll their eyes. I was a 6 and that message stuck for a long time, but I eventually followed my dreams and lived according to my own script. Now instead of being angry with them, I can be empathetic.

[@carollute7256]

I was about the same age when I too took the bull by the horns and started exploring ways to better achieve what I wanted and wanted to do.

[@Magpieme98]

I wish I could love your comment a thousand times! I grew up like this and was always told not to do something either because it was dangerous or I could fail. It took me years to overcome self doubt and believe in myself and my abilities! Cheers 💕🌺

[@janad996]

Couldn’t agree more!

[@marciajohnson1162]

I’ve found that negative thoughts like “I can’t do this, or it won’t work” become self fulfilling prophecies! Instead think that you CAN do something and watch what happens, that becomes the self fulfilling prophecy!!!!

[@sherribrooker4119]

This is coming to me at the perfect time. Too bad everyone couldn’t see this. I am keeping this one and watching it again. I will make notes and keep it close to me. I am 50 and still need this. Thank you so much for making this video and being so kind with your words and guidance.

[@debrakirkley4590]

Sherri, you're so right. I will be doing the same thing. Take care, have a great weekend.

[@janelifrak426]

Love this video…thanks so much.

[@brendastarcher6294]

@@debrakirkley4590 I need them too. I'm 66 and struggle sometimes. We can do this!

[@scrapgirl34]

My thoughts exactly, I’m watching this at bed time and clicked save to my favorites so that I can take notes tomorrow. I’ve been struggling in this more than usual lately and is causing stress and anxiety in my life.

[@libbymiller5240]

Your timing, this week, was perfect for me! Boy, did I NEED to hear this!...I was a stay at home mom of 4 children...As I have gotten older, and am at home, most of the time alone, I sometimes let the negative thoughts and feelings about getting older cloud my view. I am married to a wonderful man, who I love dearly, he is also 7 years younger than me and as I have "aged", I found that I was beginning to focus on that age difference more! The other night I had a "meltdown" about it all. My husband is the head of a large Human Resource Mental health Organization and has many employees under him...some of whom are female and younger than me. I am writing all of this just to say, that you are so right, that we NEED to spend time in self, positive talk! I am blessed, because my husband realized my struggle and said the most precious, beautiful words back to me...I think, for women, it is so IMPORTANT to have a safe community of other women, that we can depend on and share with! I just have to reiterate that your Channel, your Forum, is just that!.... A safe place to land!!! Thank You....

[@juliewarwick303]

Yes choose your safe community carefully. Be aware of toxic friendships.

[@emmahoward6570]

I have always been told that I am great at motivating people. I have to admit that I fall short motivating myself. This video I will watch over & over again. Thanks for the pep talk, I feel like you were speaking directly to me!

[@mariannetherissetorres1960]

Dominique thank you so much, you came to the right time, and God put you here today with powerful words of courage and love. I really need this right now. I being feeling down in this week and all your words got to my heart. God bless you always for caring for others.❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@stephaniem5188]

Love this video. I’m 29 and found this really helpful. You’re very uplifting and informative

[@miragbeauty9664]

Best thing in self care is really to talk to God and leave your concerns with him !! Prayers really work 😊

[@jacque883]

Yes! So true! I just did that this afternoon because I was feeling awful, and down on my life, and it really helps! Thank you 🙏🏼 😊💕

[@ann6030]

Amen🙏🏻

[@ecoknitty]

Absolutely🙏

[@carmensalome]

Agree!

[@dianedavaloz8360]

Amen!

[@maryann9929]

As I watched this video I thought to myself, " Dominique is such a beautiful person both inside and out!" I love your inspiring messages to us. It's not often that you get the sense that others really care but you always exude how much you care about others. Love the positivity messages. Keep inspiring and thank you so much for all you do!

[@melissakelley6073]

Dominique, what a well-thought out, well-spoken & valuable video. I needed this so much that I teared up watching. You’re points make such sense. Thank you for being so mindful and self-aware in presenting this content. Melissa 🌼

[@suzannevaillancourt1141]

I had one friend who would sometimes say "I'm so stupid" or other such self put downs. I'd respond to her by saying "don't talk about my friend like that".

[@ksilk20]

That's so beautiful 😍

[@chiaratasso4069]

Wonderful ❤️

[@sabinabirnie3761]

I love the idea of speaking to yourself with kindness, I’ve just turned 51 and was useless at school and was told age 11 by the Headmaster that due to my grade in Geography I wouldn’t amount to much in fact once he read my appalling grade out to the class, he proclaimed I wouldn’t truly get lost! This affected my confidence in the most awful way, I’ve been a cleaner in people’s homes for 37 years, so that I don’t have to face people that much. I’m not sure I can make a change overnight but this little chat, has acknowledged a topic that is long overdue, thank you for bringing it to the fore.

[@mybeautifuljourney7540]

🤗❤️

[@karinaviana1012]

Dear Sabina, you have already given your first step towards change!!! Go ahead, everything is possible...you are not alone...

[@sabinabirnie3761]

@@karinaviana1012 thank you for sending these sweet and encouraging words.

[@rebeccaalicebyrne1516]

Sorry that you had to go through that, hopefully you can now realise that you are much more than what somebody says about you, good luck with your journey, its never too late :) x

[@nowandthennn]

I know the grades you make in school does not reflect your intelligence . Some of the smartest people I know made bad grades in school . That just wasn’t their thing or that way to learn and I’ve known people that made straight A’s are good at memorization, but can’t use it in real life and appear to be not so smart . So put all that school trauma behind you if you can and be the new you .

[@ursulaclarke6066]

and how beautiful is the space Dominique is talking from, the colours, textures and styling are just gorgeous - just like her.

[@debrakintzing8914]

I was thinking the exact same thing! I think that surrounding yourself with beautiful things and things you love also boosts self-confidence.

[@mrsnoah78able]

One confidence booster I have found, is to keep my word to myself. If I write down To Dos/Goals, etc., I make it my purpose to get those things accomplished. This has fostered a greater sense of trust in myself and my determination. Professionally, I find it very empowering to speak out loud the many ways I am great at my job. It's especially helpful when I am in the car, alone, travelling to work when I am anticipating a meeting, attempting a new task, etc. Having spent countless hours in the preparation phase you mentioned, this practice of speaking out loud has been like icing on the cake. Thanks for opening this very important topic!

[@kathyjohares7430]

Oh my this brings back so much to me.. for years I spent living a life that I was put down, abused, I did not have any self confidence. I left that life moved away and started baby steps on where I wanted to be.. how I can achieve the goals I set... that was ten years ago! I went to college in my late fifties, little by little started gaining self confidence in all aspects of my life! I worked on me! I graduated top of my class! Each step I take I strive to look forward and succeed! It may not happen right away but if you want it you can do it! I left all drama! I live a life of grace with those around me that give me peace. I love helping others and try to do so in some way everyday! After all these years I have found the peace I so needed and I am still working on me but I am truly happy. Thank you for reaching out to those of us that truly needed to hear this! Love you lady and all you represent. Keep up the amazing work you do! ♥️ Kat from New York

[@dominiquesachsetv]

Bravo!

[@lisaswords1582]

Oh, Kathy, I so pray I can get there some day. I am 54 and still struggling and just want peace and confidence and not live for what anyone else thinks or says. I have an audience of ONE, this is GOD only.

[@downeyjr4423]

Beautiful words.....your life now is what we all strive and yearn for. Peace of mind and body is the biggest achievement and we can all do it by taking little steps every day towards it x

[@jancharron5947]

Amen to that!

[@Jollygood-br5pd]

My gosh so great to hear that from such a genuinely elegant and self confident woman! Thank u!!!

[@christinemack2153]

What really resonated was that self confidence is self trust. Wonderful and helpful coaching. Thank you, Dominique. xo

[@penelopepivots3156]

This is the refresher course I didn't know I needed, from my wise sister I never had!💕..Thank You Dominique!..This was a priceless gift (for my 60th bday!!!)💖

[@cavelleardiel]

I have a lot of respect for you and I agree on many things you speak of. I often wonder if we would be more confident without the push for monetary wealth and physically altering our bodies? If you look at the narrative out there we do not seem like a society that is confident at all. Love your content and have a blessed day!! xoxo

[@renephillips6739]

Agree. I finally learned to focus on financial security and physical fitness (although I do love a good visit to the dermatologist's office).

[@cavelleardiel]

@@renephillips6739 You got the right idea. Financial security builds trust in yourself and the physical fitness also gives you the confidence!! And a little botox here and there and I think you have found the key!!

[@conniemurphyover70stillgla47]

well the way the political scean is we may" all end up with nothing and be happy:) only GOD knows :) hug connie

[@BA-yo3vz]

As always, so profound, encouraging and uplifting. My "feel good switch" goes off every Thursday when I watch your videos. Thank you isn't enough but it is heartfelt. Hugs and love from Toronto.

[@anastasiaalonso2148]

Wasn’t expecting to cry with this video 🥺 Thank you! I suffer from depression, specially after hitting menopause and weight gain.😭 In 2020 I also lost both my mom & dad.. Cancer & Heart attack😭 It’s just been a cruel year for me.

[@PeachesSkinCare]

Anastasia 🧡 Menopause is tough but watch what you eat and get up and go for a walk. We are all here to hold you up! Your amazing and you have got this!! Life is waiting for you 🙌🏻🍑Lisa

[@dominiquesachsetv]

Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way 💞

[@PeachesSkinCare]

@@dominiquesachsetv 🧡🧡🧡

[@PeachesSkinCare]

I to felt depressed with menopause and gained weigh. I just wanted to add that so you know I understand how your feeling. These things have helped me tremendously🍑

[@AllyKit]

You are not alone 😔 ❤️

[@MariaCLoria]

Thank you for such beautiful, uplifting and sound advice! At my age, 71, your words have served me as a reminder of values learned during my childhood and youth but because of personal circumstances have lately felt inadequate and terribly vulnerable. Your spiritual insight has been especially inspiring to me. God bless you and yours always! You are a lovely woman but more importantly you are a proof of the power of interior beauty. Please continue to inspire us.

[@bobbiwiniecki2704]

Thank you, this content is so valuable. When I was in my psych rotation in my nurses training (in the 70's) I was moved by what I learned about depression. The prescribed treatment was to "do for others", yes your 5th recommendation. I remember being so taken with that, to get out of your own problems, help someone else. ❤

[@kristymarie6065]

Makes so much sense

[@isabelperezsolar7962]

Thank you for this special video, Dominique. Your voice is so calm and so nice that you could also work as a therapist!!! 🥰🥰🙌🏻🙌🏻😍😍

[@marshaperry1746]

The world and the unreal expectations in the media can bring us down, but we’re all smart on this channel and want to be our best! You’re GOOD media! Listening to you is always a confidence booster. I’m not compelled to compare myself with you but go on the journey with you!

[@maggie2234]

This is s very interesting comment! Thank you for sharing. ♡♡♡

[@nandamaharjan2985]

Your every words are influential, and your presence is warm and comforting.

[@elsyalvarezr]

Thanks for this Dominique! we at times forget about our repertoire

[@pattiadkins2736]

The right words are spoken today from a kind, intelligent and loving woman. Thank you for all you share with all of us.

[@carmenmichaelian8307]

I have practiced self love and confidence for a long time. I grew up with a controlling mother and it was always about her. When I went on my own I knew I had to work on a lot to let go of her and how I was treated. I am a strong and confident woman because I believe in myself. It made a big difference in my life in so many ways. Thank you for this video and all that you do.

[@mrsnoah78able]

One more thing. : ) I tell my coaching clients, "Whether you think you can or you think you can't --- you're right!"

[@dominiquesachsetv]

Exactly!

[@anjac5086]

Thoughts becomes things. What you think as a person makes a blueprint in your brain. So choose for positive words. It really helps to grow (anja from belgium)

[@siriornchayanonda1400]

@@dominiquesachsetv _%___

[@jeanneritchie7863]

That is a Henry Ford quote, and it’s so true.

[@brooklily7150]

@@jeanneritchie7863 exactly.

[@nekeavalentine8717]

I LOVE you! You’re like the sister I never had. You’re the absolute best KZbinr I’ve found who’s also a creative like myself and a Christian. You’re really well-balanced with both the natural and the spiritual and I really appreciate that. I’m so happy I found you. Thank you for sharing from your heart 😘

[@kirina9674]

Dear Dominique, this is exactly what I should do next. Your video reached me just in the right time. I'm 46 and feel something outstanding is about to happen after this prophetic video. One of my thoughts/dreams to get in touch with you despite of millions people have the same in their minds. But somehow I could feel that it will happen because I literally feel this with my body and soul. That's how I can describe this. I got many talents and a special child raising alone. Let God multiply His Glory by using us 🙏

[@BB-oy1vb]

Dominique, this was one of the best videos about building self confidence I've ever seen 👏 I feel much better just by listening to you. As you said: " hearing those words" makes you think and do some changes. Especially when you hear that from someone whom you adore! Thank you very much for this very informative video! God bless you Dominique ❤

[@farida6521]

Dear Dominique, Your video is just what I needed! I am having a hard time at the moment but your words have done me good and I will take some things to heart and want to put them into practice! From the bottom of my heart, thank you!

[@chicanica64]

Thanks, Dominique! 😍Filling our cup through scripture reading and spending time at His feet.

[@dianarader1254]

I think this has been the best video that I've watched on your channel. (and so timely) I have been a stay at home mom for nearly 30 years. Just this last year, I took a temporary job to get my feet wet. A lot of people that I interacted with at my job somehow felt threatened by me or that I was somehow competition. I didn't in the least feel flattered by this as I'm so new going back into the work force and just trying to feel confident in my own skin and in what I'm doing. I'm not really sure why we do this to each other. It would have been so helpful for people to say, "wow you are really brave trying to do this at this point in your life." I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement that there are a few things I can do to boost how I'm feeling inside. I've always struggled with self confidence. I'm glad there are some nice teachers like you out there.

[@valodimopoulou8865]

Self care and communication with God helps me so much..Taking care of myself externally and internally are so important. I appreciate so much that I wake up every morning and can move and do things that to most of us are basics and we don't even think of. Thank you God 🙏

[@darcymarkey2349]

Sent this to my daughter who has taken a job from Washington to San Antonio she is excited and a little afraid. Perfect advice❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@elizabethcasey3219]

Thank you for posting this video. After working from home since March 2020, and now preparing to return to the office, I feel like I'm lacking in self confidence for some reason. I guess after working in yoga pants and not wearing makeup, I feel like I've forgotten how to get myself ready and out the door on a daily basis. Time to start brushing up on self confidence and people skills!

[@christinebourlioufas1336]

I'm sure a lot of people feel this way

[@rosaliefunk1629]

Dominique, I just sent this video to my 19 year old granddaughter. Your advice is timeless. Thank you.

[@mrsdrhux]

So glad I watched this video. I actually searched the words and saw familiar face I trust..after what can only be described as a pivotal lifte changing moment in December just gone , I decided I need to focus on my family not my job. 18 years in a job where I wasn’t appreciated and I took a leap of faith, with no self confidence. Got myself a new job , on a path where I want to be, helping people. I will have weekends off and most of all I have done myself proud and took on the advice my mother gave me a thousand times. Wish I had the courage to have done it before she suddenly passed. 2 months ago, but I can’t change that. Just look forward . Thanks again Dominique xx

[@estherann7407]

I grew up in a very harsh environment but have learned to overcome the negative tape recorder my mother repeatedly instilled in us kids. Her favorite lines were, "you're not worth the salt in your tears" and "you'll never amount to a hill of beans". That's a horrible thing to say to your child...or anyone! I know now, I'm a child of the Most High God and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! Thank you Dominique for helping so many overcome life's issues and pointing us in the right direction to gain confidence to become who we really are.

[@patriciamclaughlin5115]

I am taking on board what you say! I think as we get older we can easily lose our confidence. We all have our insecurities but you know what doesn't kill you makes you stronger ....and hopefully a wee bit more confident! ❤

[@vkngwmn6636]

We, 40+ ladies, should have life experience that should make us reassured in our personal confidence to be in our power! Everyone wavers at times but know we are sage at this time of our lives. I never felt sexier, more beautiful and smarter than when I arrived at 40. I'm now 55 and have the same feelings about myself now more than ever.

[@classyladyangie31]

This was a breath of fresh air!! I needed to hear this. Thank you, Dominique! As always you look beautiful. You are such a lovely lady. You inspire us all! Blessings to you and yours. 💖

[@mellalynnholmes9841]

Thank you for helping a 61 year old be healthy, look my best and take time for me! Your videos are so helpful and I cannot wait for Thursdays. I have a question though would you do a video on vacation makeup? I have a tendency to take EVERYTHING with me which is not practical!! The must haves, the not necessary items I can leave at home, etc.? Thank you!!

[@karigranger3120]

Amazing discussion Dominique!! If you get tired of the news biz please use your heartfelt ,caring advice to become a motivational speaker.Young ,as well as mature women need someone like you to share content like this.Thank you so much!!

[@clairetremblay3023]

Your hair & makeup are gorgeous! Beautiful and distinguished. It's always a plaseaure to listen to your suggestions. Au revoir.

[@dresser6135]

Yes, I really like the short hair...really pretty.

[@donnaqueen5399]

I have not even watched this yet, but know I am going to just love it. I am one of those people who lacks self confidence. Thank you Dominique!

[@Suad3266]

PEACE within self is exactly what we all need. one of the essential keys

[@Diannesplace]

She deserves to be blessed! What a champion of love, giving, wisdom, positivity and beauty! Thank you!💕

[@marywarren1742]

One of your best videos yet! It’s good to be reminded that positive affirmations have powerful impact on our self esteem. Thank you.

[@carriehunt6196]

Thank you so much for this!!! My husband cheated on me on and off for 20 years of our marriage and I have been so hard on myself! I needed this more than you know!! Love you so much Dominique!!

[@skoolie_life3261]

My dad cheated on my mom after 37 years of marriage. She suspects it wasn’t the first time. It took her about 5-6 years to bounce back. Now, 7 years later, she’s almost back to herself on a full-time basis. She was with him from age 16, so that also added to the pain and breakage of trust. Give yourself time, and remember, it wasn’t your fault!! You are worthy of loyalty and trust. Sending love and healing your way ❤

[@carriehunt6196]

@@skoolie_life3261 thank you so much for this! 🥰

[@elizabethcolman7370]

How can you not LOVE this lady?

[@ollerpops]

I’ve followed you since day one, and I can and have watched you and your channel grow to almost 1.5 million subscribers in only a couple years, well earned Dominique!

[@melindagenitempo2359]

I am so glad I discovered your channel. This video really resonated with me. One year ago last April , I was done. The pain and hurt overcame me. I almost lost my family my job myself. I was diagnosed with borderline personally disorder. Divine intervention happened somehow I enrolled in intensive outpatient therapy and went hard core DBT or dialectical behavioral therapy. My life outlook relationships have been transformed I thought myself how to love myself from the inside out. Just as I love others from the inside out. It's been a tough lonely and scary journey but I won't quit. Thank you for your words of wisdom and great ideas to help me stay my course. God Bless

[@Alice-oe4kd]

Your point about goals has really struck me. It has been very much on my mine lately, especially after this last year when I feel I have just been spinning my wheels. I will be 73 at the end of the month. Thoughts about what may lay ahead and what do I want for this time have been on my mind. Do I want to set specific goals? How long should the timeline for these goals be? Do I really want to make any major changes in my life at this point. My life is good - Thank God!

[@dianepowell8812]

Love this…appreciate all your videos. Your my new life coach so I should say thank you ❤️🙏❤️

[@cindysmaha8873]

This is why I love watching your channel! You speak truth with wisdom and grace. I think of myself as having self-confidence but listening to your 5 techniques, I am in need of a booster shot! Thank you so much for your channel. I do appreciate you!! Peace and Love ☮❤

[@cindysmaha8873]

I was thinking if you could do a video on what makeup brushes you are using. There are so many out there to choose from with different types for the same application. So maybe a back to basics on what brush to use for what application and why. I know you did a tools tutorial several years ago. Thank you!!

[@lilianeyemenidjian9865]

Happy birthday Dominique. Many many more happy and blessed.

[@karenguikema7607]

Dominique Thank you I really needed to hear this today. God bless 💕

[@torie5425]

This video has (once again) come along at the most appropriate time. I am a 57 year old empty nester. I want to become a health coach (helping women through menopause and aging). I know that I need to start a web sight and blogging. This feels very overwhelming to me. I was discussing this with a good friend this morning. She suggested taking 15 minutes a day to write (anything the comes into my head). Also, possibly taking a writing course at the local junior college. Thank you again for this video...You look as gorgeous as ever.

[@kristymarie6065]

You can do it!!

[@juliescherman113]

Dominique- This is fantastic! You are so inspiring. Thank you for doing this video!!!!

[@jam20230]

Dear Dominique, if you will start a class on poise, posture, speaking, elegance, I would sign up immediately. You are the right person to teach ladies how to carry themselves. There are so many coaches on KZbin but I dont see anyone who comes close to a natural poise and classiness that you possess.

[@aprilcockfield7676]

Thank you,self care is what I must focus on

[@chrisgriffiths3629]

I love this content Dominique . I find a lot is mind over matter . I had a job where I stood up and talked to large groups of people every week and it didnt mean I was super confident but I remember if I woke up lacking in confidence and not wanting to mix or put myself out there, I used to change my mind set saying to myself today I am going to be fantastic at work and love mixing with everyone and have a great day and it worked !! Also my tip to speak to a large group was to chat as though your having a conversation with a friend and your delivery will be relaxed and chilled , if your uptight it does not flow and people feel uncomfortable xxx

[@Grapesforbananas]

And I love writing positive and I write daily writing prompts about my true self, thank you, Mrs. Sachse

[@janfromseattle]

I’d love to recommend a book by Shad Helmstetter entitled “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself.” Positive self-talk is so important! It’s a wonderful guide filled with techniques and ways in which to uplift yourself! Thanks so much for sharing.

[@rhondawirkes4580]

Yes! I was just going to say the same. Great book - this video reminded me that I should read it again.

[@sharonsnider9452]

I have read to of his books and I think they are great

[@SmoocherBean]

I’ll be seeking out the book. Thanks for mentioning!

[@jeancraig646]

Build self confidence has made me rise again. There is hope for us women who feel derailed. And tired of the world. You have been my mentor for putting me back on track and putting a spring in my step. I am so grateful to you for that. You are amazing at life coaching Us ladies. Thank you so much Jean (Ireland)

[@islandnative8084]

I was so amazed by your advice.. I'm loving your pointers and notes on how to change myself and love myself better for the good. Your voice is soothing to a point where it helps me to really think about myself and figure out how I can boost my self esteem or confidence to be a better person.

[@monicapatton1405]

Self confidence'trust in ourselves. Yes, it certainly is but I had never thought of it in those terms before. That really resonates with me. Thank you for sharing.

[@tikisandikib8864]

Dominique, thank you so much for this! It is exactly the boost I needed today & I appreciate it so very much! Thank you for being a shining light in the world

[@mariaconde_businessandbliss]

I LOVE this! Thank you! So many can benefit from this! (speaking as a certified confidence coach). Last year I had a professional CV(resume) prepared for myself for a board position I was applying for. It was so empowering. She interviewed me for 2 hours and put my 30+ years of achievements into a document. I would have never been able to do that myself (maybe in a journal but not for a public document!)

[@gps2tech]

Every word you said hits me right on the nail; I was holding back tears as you spoke. Lacking self confidence is the one thing my husband and I talk about and express how it has hindered our lives and wish we could get a do over for the past 45 years. As much as we have worked to overcome these type of obstacles, it is still a daily challenge because of those negative voices we hear and our childhood. You are so correct in changing the people around you in order to grow and overcome familiar negative thoughts. I taught my daughter from an early age to make friends with people who are more intelligent and had a higher socioeconomic level than herself so she could grow and have more positive and far reaching life experiences, and she did., but all the while being friendly to everyone. Her childhood was the very opposite of mine and my husband's. Our friends and co-workers are such a blessing to us, as they lift us up and we lift them up. Thank you so much for this, there is such kindness and sincerity in your voice.

[@di8797]

I am glad I listened to you and your words; it helped me nurture myself and I have texted to my young daughter…

[@karireyes6710]

Great advice! I try to be confident 90% of the time, but we all have "those days"! Thank you always for your channel!

[@terrythompson8590]

suggestion: what do you think about doing a video on how to manage our minds, for those of us who tend to worry too much, techniques to live in the 'now' to keep our minds in the 'present'. do you have any techniques for that?

[@marybakalish7683]

I love listening to you. It feels so good knowing all the traits you’ve mentioned being confident and setting your goals. Life is too short and we have to enjoy and keep discovering new things that’s good for us as women. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kathyjohares7430]

Looking amazing as always!!

[@kriswoods4159]

This is phenomenal! Such great advice, laid out in a clear, concise plan. Thank you!

[@lisah1507]

Thank you for this! I am speaking at my mother’s funeral service tomorrow. My mother was a difficult parent throughout my life but I found a way to gather happy thoughts and share them with those that will be present. It will be a first but I need to get out of my comfort zone and take risks. I know it will be special. ❤️

[@PeachesSkinCare]

Dominique 🌺 I think this is lovely. Every day I speak to clients that feel so less than and have such low self esteem. I think social media and marketing,to women especially, plays a huge roll. Images that are filtered or not real and we think we must not be beautiful Because we have a grey hair or a beautiful wrinkle. Wabi Sabi embracing the imperfections of life in ourselves and in aging.. a gift! I know we teach beauty abbot differently, however we teach so much of the same … you can be everything you want to be and we are here to lift you up!! I was not raised in a loving home, however I am a very loving momma and wife and I am grateful for leaning what a child needs. I am who I am from where I come from. This was lovely. Thank you Danielle and blessings to everyone here. YOU ARE ENOUGH🙌🏻🧡🍑Lisa

[@catherinearciniegas9481]

Thank you Dominique, this was a great and informative video, I enjoyed it a lot.... words I try not to use are I can´t, I´m scared, I think fear plays a big role in how confident you are or not, I know as I have got into my middle years I have grown more self confident because I care less what people think about me, not that I don´t care about people because I do very much, I know I´m a kind loving caring human being who cares about others and I believe that God will always help me in my goals , I feel that if you take care of your self in all aspects of your life your confidence grows because you look better you feel better and so you do better, thank you again very nice video you are truly an inspiration to many of us xx

[@christianarathmer7163]

Bad songs, no dancing! Best words,That I picked from this Video! Thank you very much!

[@elsanunes3582]

Every time i try to be a better person hearing this it motivates me .your a wonderful person Dominique.

[@atrevino3082]

Thank you for this video! I'm 40+ and feel as if I'm in the process of reinventing myself (careerwise) while nurturing my relationship with my kids & spouse. Because I do not have a 4 yrs degree, my confidence at work can waine a bit. However, I do my best to stay well informed regarding industry news & make it known to everyone my goal is to move up within the company. I fortunate to find many are willing to help. For those who are similar situations, just tell yourself what you would tell a best friend- "DON'T GIVE UP- YOU'VE GOT THIS!"

[@liliamiramontes2378]

Dominique you are such a professional in everything you do. I admire your many talents as a journalist, beauty consultant, life coach, mother and daughter. Your message is always well thought out, well organized and delivered impeccably! I look forward every week to your videos. A very sincere thank you for all your dedicated work!

[@moniquemckenna6795]

I so often read “a reason, a season, a lifetime. It truly puts into perspective when a situation with someone changes and we wonder why. Sometime someone is there for a reason, to help, or a season just to help us when we need it for a season and last of all a lifetime they are there for the long haul. I have turned to this many times when I ask why? If you look it up it will explain it in more detail. Thank you for this empowering talk. 😘

[@amandaprinsloo2418]

Hey,dominique thank for this video,im so grateful that i find your youtube channal.sometimes we need to hear that you are special and that you need to do something for your self ,i dont think you realize how much you mean to so much woman out there. You touches my hard😭be blessed🤗🌷

[@pamwysocki8834]

I have been watching your channel for the past year mainly for beauty content which has been wonderful. However, today this video on self confidence was incredibly well thought out and put together. It is my favorite of everything you have done that I had the pleasure of viewing!!! Thank you, Thank you and God Bless!

[@debrakirkley4590]

I love that, bad songs no dancing. It really says it all when we somehow only remember the bad things and the good things people say to us fall to the side. Thank you, again for a wonderful video. You're an amazing woman. ♥️

[@SPahina]

Knowing your triggers with tools are important , more importantly for me is my meditation time and time spent prayer. It’s having that moment with God that empowers me daily. Putting on the armor I need for each day. I’m enjoying your channel more and more. Thanks so much

[@christinaburrill5809]

Thank you so much, your words really touched my heart and I started tearing up when you were talking about the lord. I will start to work on myself more. thank you for your inspiration.

[@sharonworyn1911]

Each day for the last 3 days I have been given the message about the power of our words when I was reading something or listening to something. I begin each day with a list of powerful affirmations but I just added some declarations about a specific situation I am facing. I say those whenever the negative thoughts attack and believe in faith for the things I am hoping for. Life and death are in the power of the tongue.

[@nathalievallee3734]

Dominique, this is my favorite of all. Spoken from the heart, genuine and, your eyes speak the truth. Wow! You are one good soul and sharing these tips, that I can draw and put in a frame, reminded me of what I do for myself, my family and others. All of what I do has given me the chance to live a happy life and to continue my purpose. I am happy and everyone around me is happy even through tough times, not all is dark and looking at things positively even if it is hard has made life so easier (we all have our problems). Thank you for this video and thank God I found you just a couple of months ago. You are a special human being. Bless you xx

[@virginiamercun9597]

I have to thank you and this community of women. I have asked myself this question in the last few weeks puzzled by why I don't. When you started talking especially giving the definition of self confidence, it hit home. I didn't realize that I don't trust myself in some aspects. Thank you for helping to break this down so I can look at this one piece at a time. I'm keeping this too to watch again. Working through these steps will help me where this may come from and how to change it with a goal. It's calming when you explain in your comforting and gentle way. The thoughts aspire better. Spending time with yourself as you talked about is really key to this too. When you look good, you feel good, and you perform better. This is a lightbulb moment for me. Thank you so much.

[@laurenpatten716]

Loved this! Thank you. Point 5 that you talk about - ‘Do for others’ is actually compassion. Compassion is the next step on from showing empathy, compassion is actually empathy plus an action. Showing compassion for others and ourselves releases endorphins that make us feel good which has a lot of benefits.

[@sweetpea1797]

I just went to get coffee and stood behind a lady that exuded confidence in her own unique way that I found amusing and admiring at the same time. This lady said what was on her mind, asked questions no matter how silly she sounded, and she did not seem to care who heard what she had to say. Would I take notes? Not really. Her way wouldn’t suit my personality, but I was inspired as I watched and listened to what some may perceive as weird, flighty, or unaware. But, as I observed her interactions it didn’t take long to realize she was none of those things. She clearly didn’t know how to order, but she knew what she wanted and wasn’t afraid to ask for it. She didn’t look around to see who was listening or looking at her, nor did she even glance my way as I stood 6 feet away behind her. The barista was the only person she needed to talk to and he gave her his attention as she commanded. She got her questions answered and a free splash of liquid sugar that she wasn’t sure she had to pay for! Lol I would have loved to tell her I learned something from her, but I don’t think I needed to, and it just made my day!

[@annehedlund7333]

What a wonderful comment from you! Sometimes it is strange how we react to people around us who are different than what we think they might be such as an older lady having the confidence to get what she wants instead of being meek and scared. I always feel I look so old and shabby in my comfy jeans that I will get sent out of the store, haha I won't go! I am worth it.

[@arthurg7339]

You are such an intelligent and lovely person. Great respect for your remarkable videos.