Don't be harmless: how to command respect

[@cristianobiondi5761]

Like Jordan Peterson said: "You should not be weak, you should be a monster and then learn how to control it"

[@rohitpaniker8462]

Just like Mulingerbrother says, you should have heart of Buddha and hands of Monster

[@XxowendanxX]

Don't be too nice, she'll despise you in the end. Think you're weak. Nor do you need to be a tyrant.

[@dcikaruga]

It's amazing with all this rationale, reason and logic people can exhibit, and yet, deep inside, we're still like many other animals out there.

[@LifeQuest-b2m]

One example of this is carrying oneself well. If you walk with deliberation, eyes aware, you are not a target for criminals. They look for prey, the harmless.

[@raymondtendau2749]

A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control. -Dr. Jordan Peterson

[@cosmictreason2242]

Wow the presentation has dramatically improved over the years

[@silverchairsg]

Narnia has an interesting bit about this. “Aslan is a lion- the Lion, the great Lion." [Mr Beaver said] "Ooh" said Susan. "I'd thought he was a man. Is he-quite safe? I shall feel rather nervous about meeting a lion." "Safe?" said Mr Beaver. "Who said anything about safe? 'Course he isn't safe. But he's good. He's the King, I tell you.”

[@SisiTsoi]

Love your direct and precise message for people please like me! Please do more

[@psychacks]

Thanks for the love, Sisi. I definitely intend to put out more content. So keep coming back and help spread the message.

[@Alexander-dt8sk]

As my old chief would say: I'd rather be feared, than loved. NO ONE messed with him.

[@thenattygorilla]

"If you want peace, prepare for war"

[@PharmacyTechLabs]

I'm just very blunt with people. Since most people are not used to this. It throws them off and they lose power. Honestly, at my age the amount of judgement and rudeness. I get from other adults is mind blowing.

[@gentnextdoor]

You can be blunt and kind

[@exnihilonihilfit6316]

@@gentnextdoor Honesty is the greatest (and rarest) kindness. Those who can't appreciate it (without 10 minutes of preliminaries and apologies in advance) are uneducated losеrs. It's good to get rejected by such people.

[@Ahatcho21]

@@exnihilonihilfit6316 Bluntness also comes with a certain rudeness. If we can control that a bit then its okay.

[@arcburn6340]

It's strange. I have the opposite experience. People are mostly polite with me. It seems that only extremely stupid people are rude or careless around me. It's rare

[@Brenda-ny1gw]

It cause you're black

[@donnacasserly7630]

I love your practical nuggets of wisdom! Thank you! 😀

[@bublok]

Woah, an old Doc's video! Such a contrast with who he is now, i.e. speech, etc :)

[@rem898maxamillion]

It's a huge problem when someone with authority can not see reality for what it is but sees everything based on their limited level of perception.

[@FsnGoldandSilver]

I think there are several forms of respect. What you’re describing is respect through fear. It’s important for workplace relationships between boss and subordinate. However there is respect through admiration where one is so impressed with a person’s accomplishments that they show. There’s respect for status ie respect your elders. Using fear to motivate us often a sign of weakness. If you’re strong enough and powerful enough people realize it’s in their best interest to follow you. Ie Steve Jobs and Elon Musk. Respect for their purpose outweighs their fear of these larger than life -personalities.

[@monkeyboyalcoholic]

I think it's simply human nature that the respect you are describing fades over time. Respect for one's purpose places an impossible demand on someone. People are human, they fail and make mistakes, and struggle sometimes. The notion that a partner will care for you only when you succeed is frankly very discouraging. More importantly, Bill Gates, and Jeff Bezos are tough acts to follow in terms of purpose driven lives. This didn't stop their partners from discarding them.

[@stephanie7572]

Nope. You are not getting what Dr. Taraban is saying. He is saying develop the side of yourself that is tough, can cause harm if it wants to, and don't be afraid to show that side at appropriate times.

[@Ideophagous]

By definition, power => the capacity to do harm in some shape or form. "Harm" does not necessarily mean physical harm or active psychological abuse. A person you admire can harm you simply by ignoring you or not giving you any time or attention, so you feel rejected and unworthy. They can also choose to manipulate you for their own ends by exploiting your admiration. What would make them more worthy of respect is the knowledge that they have the capacity to do that, but choose not to.

[@cy9141]

Theres an idea during a period in Roman history known as Pax Romana, a period of relative stability and peace throughout the region. This peace was only through the war machine of the Roman Army. Without that, the region would plunge into warfare as it had centuries prior. All peace comes through war, or in the case of individuals, the potential to cause harm. Only in peace do men have the option to even want to be more loved than feared.

[@goulet268]

I think going for the fear based respect actualy gives a whole lot if power to the person you're trying to gain respect from..... if that person builds stronger self confidence (which we should all want for our "subordinates" so they can become a better and better part of the team everyday) he or she can easily grow out of the fear that he/she gets from you... I for one don't care at all if my boss slacks me, girlfriend goes away, because I feel confident I can find another job, another partner or I can easily survive without both for a while... I think competence based respect is much better for human interpersonnal relations. If someone falls for fear based respect, he/she actualy signals that they are not that self confident that they could go by without you.... I would much prefer someone that is self confident and respects me because he/she feels I'm worth to be part of the team.

[@donnacasserly7630]

Thanks!

[@psychacks]

Thanks, Donna. I appreciate your support!

[@Brlitzkreig]

Wow I'm so glad you have a better sound system!

[@AnRodz]

I haven't seen the video and I know I already like it. That's how much I trust, you, J. And starting to listening talking about fear, it's obviously and immediately clear you're again on point. Thx.

[@knivgaffelskje]

Is it fear, or is it awe? I respect the forces of nature that manifest in a huge storm I see on the horizon. I might not fear it, but I feel awe, and I respect it.

[@seancooper5140]

I respect you enough that I listened twice before responding, but I don't fear you and I think this one was a miss (possibly by semantics/delivery rather than content, but I'm not sure) I cannot say I have ever felt what I associate as respect with anyone I have ever feared, although if you mean by respect something akin to "aware that caution and situational awareness are necessary when dealing with" then fine, but any cooperation, compliance, or support to such a person is situationally limited and transitory, and if they fail, I feel it as no loss. On the other hand, I had great respect for my grandparents, and strive to incorporate the positive things I remember of them into my life. I do not fear them, and to the extent that I ever did it was less that I feared them than that I feared my own failure to live up to their model (for my own sake, because I suspect I could have totally failed and they would have still accepted *me* while pushing me to get back up and do better). True respect is built on a desire to emulate rather than fear IMO. Having said all that, I agree that not everyone sees things the way I do, and there are certainly gaps in my understanding on this topic. For example, I have spent most of my life trying to be an unassailably benevolent harmless rock that makes things around me better, and I've had to learn the hard way how much people take advantage of that to my detriment (and I'm still discerning unsuccessfully how to maintain solid boundaries and inspire the respect of others without compromising beneficence, so there's definitely a gap in my practice). Interested in hearing your take on the above thoughts, either in response or in another video. Cheers

[@robertiniguez1701]

Thanks man! You're hurting me but helping me. In a good way. ( In response to all your videos)

[@ritadoran5039]

I liked this video its about how we use our strengths for good and i think in life although good to have a gentle kind nature you also have to be tough so life and bad people dont take advantage of you truly Life is survival of the Fittest

[@psychacks]

Kindness is good, but it's not always the best strategy...

[@sevenheaven19]

Your talk reminds of the dialouge of Schindler's list, and that is:Power - is when we have every justification to kill, and we don't- by Oscar schindler. Thank you Dr. Taraban, I learn so much from you

[@SuperMBARutgers2013]

Well said. Also, your power disuades other people's offense.

[@vishaldoiphode2785]

Nice video The base of respect is fear but exception is respect for mother where base is love by heart. No one can replace mother

[@psychacks]

That's an interesting point. I think in such cases the fear may be associated with losing access to the positive emotion. We fear disappointing those that love us not because we fear an angry reprisal, but a withdrawal of affection.

[@RockDove5212]

You're right Vishal. True love is unconditional.

[@NeilTruick]

I disagree. In some cases, a mother can choose to withhold their love and affection in order to maintain control of her child or to increase their dependence on her. Just because you have the ability to give birth doesn't automatically make you a mother.

[@vishaldoiphode2785]

@@NeilTruick bro, this world is full of selfish people. God can leave you alone after some time in adversity but mother will never leave you in adverse situations. Mothers love is selfless and unconditional

[@Jeniffer61867]

@@vishaldoiphode2785 you're very naive and have no clue what's going on in the world. Have you heard of emotionally unavailable mothers? I think they don't teach you this in India.

[@matthewhunter6421]

The old Jordan Peterson message, glad to see it embraced by others in the profession

[@psyience3213]

You’re harmless

[@alexademiestan854]

I really appreciate the viewpoint, and I also still feel unsure of how to “cultivate that side of [myself] that has the potential to create real harm to others and use it beneficially.” Can anyone answer this with an example?

[@FailAdjustWin]

Train in martial arts and become a disciplined fighter

[@applesnicolle5144]

Yes - as General Patton said: I’d rather be feared, than loved

[@terencehennegan1439]

Everyone loves rabbits but have little respect, everyone loves tigers but they command respect ✊

[@applesnicolle5144]

@@terencehennegan1439 / Yes!

[@terencehennegan1439]

Great video 👍

[@Mary-t2p6p]

I agree with you in principle and I like the blended colors on your shirt. However any true criminal who knows people far better than any training you have acquired will tell you when it comes to people, ‘Watch out for the quiet ones.’

[@Wizebagger]

Great work! The pink shirt definitely commands respect. I'm terrified.

[@rayrwyr]

I respect Einstein due to his genius but I do not fear him.

[@kunalkeshri9017]

thats not respect thats admiration both sounds similar but are different things

[@apollo3340]

@@kunalkeshri9017 this video confuses fear for respect. they feel similar but are different things.

[@erikmurray3661]

So glad you said this it's very true and useful.

[@chansachipampata5942]

I’d like to challenge this idea. I’ve had mangers that I repeated and that I feared, and the reasons are completely different. Respect is a personal choice one makes based on their upbringing, background, social influence, etc. Fear is imposed This is even more pronounced in relationships as respect can quickly be withdrawn

[@Leoo117]

Fear does not equal respect. If someone is treating you well only because they are afraid of you in some capacity, they are not respecting you. They are FEARING you. A person that truly respects you is going to respect you at ALL times, even at your weakest and most vulnerable. It's toxic to yourself to hang around those that have to fear you in order to treat you correctly. This way, it's not a paradox.

[@seetsamolapo5600]

Ah we've got an idealist

[@ladilaja6451]

I disagree. My thought is this: when you are weak and vulnerable, a person will only continue to respect you if they value the continuation of your relationship and FEAR that if they mistreated you in your current state, you could end the relationship, which would cause them harm.

[@andreiboambes3356]

That kind of respect is ideal. And, as all ideals, almost non existent in real life. Second, somebody might respect you, but, in the absence of some kind of fear towards you, he'll not make outward display of that respect, therefore you'll never know about is existence, therefore it's of no use for you.

[@mjmulenga3]

There's positive kinda of fear as well. You fear to displease the person because of how much you value their opinion and their happiness. So yes, all respect is based on fear.

[@Obiamajoyisrmd]

Your still dealing with and discussing the juvenile concept of fear. Not a mature adult concept of it. That’s why your interpretation is off.

[@alinkuri4429]

Thank you for this message.

[@psychacks]

Thanks for watching, Ali. Keep coming back.

[@romeobodeodo]

I respect accomplishment. It has nothing to do with what someone can hold over me. I do not respect people who use fear to make me do something or feel something. Responding as a result of coercion is not respect.

[@larrycheek3588]

Be harmless as doves but wise as serpents

[@natesamadhi33]

But still strong as an elephant

[@jayman8974]

Wow this one was heavy!

[@kingkumite9829]

I hear what your saying but respect is not making people fear you it's making people understand your boundaries if someone fears you they will hate you and we don't want that especially from our love ones

[@stephanie7572]

Sometimes you have to make people fear you. Don't worry about if they will then hate you. Life is not always a popularity contest.

[@kittitaskid]

Good one, thanks. I've heard this before as "showing the sword"

[@mnalneagl7423]

Note so sure you're right about respect... fear, as you've indicated is a reacton, which, can be, in the minds of some recipients of fear, commanded or inspired. Respect, however, is an earned choice. "admiration felt or shown for someone or something that you believe has good ideas or qualities" - Cambridge Dictionary "Is it better to be feared or respected... and, I say: is it too much to ask for both?" Tony Stark Clearly, many people see a distinct differnce there.

[@shyamalidasgupta671]

Wonderful ❤

[@zengardens2025]

very good analysis

[@fionad6338]

I think what i hrar is don"t be a dpormat And that works in many scenarios. Just speakimg up for yourself It doesn't work necessarily w family. If a daighter in law holds key to how often a person sees granchildren in that instance i would be a rabbit or a mouse or whatever bc eventually the girls will grow ul Seeing them is more important than exercising my rights for respect. But someday..

[@psychacks]

This is a good point. Marsha Linehan writes on the three priorities of human interaction: task effectiveness, interpersonal harmony, and self-respect. Sometimes it's more important to prioritize harmony over self-respect. Just be careful. Do that long enough and you may find yourself in a rather unpleasant situation.

[@midasredblade236]

my god, didnt expect the 'beware the superman' argument HERE of all places

[@FailAdjustWin]

There is no respect unless there is a hint of fear involved

[@oladeleoyelakin882]

You are making me re-evaluate all what I seems to hold dear as Truths! (Convince me that you are not from this planet?!).

[@ileanamota]

It's an interesting perspective ✨️

[@chicotedelaacera7937]

I disagree with this one. If you ONLY base your power in this fearful respect, you create resentment and as soon as the other person can leave he/she will. Respect is also and preferably should be based mostly on competency and actions that create admiration. Example in point: I "respected" my old boss because he had a lot of power over me and made me feel very little, but as soon as six months in I was looking for another job.

[@guavacupcake]

what are some examples of qualities that are no harmless but have potential for being used for good?

[@carlosmegana]

I see you, Dr. Peterson.

[@bulletinvid]

Thx, OT!

[@Mikaeel84]

Jordan Peterson has said this many times also.

[@RockDove5212]

I'd rather have love than respect. A mother's love contradicts this theory. True respect is based in love, not fear. The Bible says in love there is no fear, only trust . If I have to be potentially harmful to gain respect I'm not interested in respect from that person. Love commands respect on it's own.

[@psychacks]

"When all has been heard, the conclusion of the matter is this: Fear God and keep his commandments, because this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed to judgment, along with every hidden thing, whether good or evil." Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

[@RockDove5212]

@@psychacks yes that's GOD...but I'm not God in my relationships! Don't confuse God's relationship with us with our relationships with each other. We rightly fear almighty God but we must not get confused and try to apply fear to our human relationships. Do we think we are God and have the right to be feared? I understand the video and I'd love to use these tactics to gain more power in my relationships but I can't. The devil would love me to use fear to gain control, respect, power in my relationships with others, but the Bible says, "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because the one who fears is not made perfect in Love." 1 John 4:18 We should love each other not seek our own ends through fear and control

[@larrycheek3588]

No one loves another they do not respect in some way.. :/

[@lincolnlane6763]

What is your advice for women in the workplace with bully bosses who play mind games? They have positional power, it's not easy to find a balance when you can be fired easily. They do whatever they want with no consequences from their higher-ups. People just end up quitting or causing an increasingly toxic workplace because they can't "hiss" back and especially can't "bite" back! It's easy to say just find a new job, but how am I winning if I am forced to leave a job I wanted to keep just because I have no power over my boss or company? They could care less when people leave and will bully people more when those people hiss back.

[@ontheline3077]

making harm can be used to do good yes

[@xrjx1511]

A bear and a rabbit are pooping in the woods After the bear is done he turns to the rabbit and says "do you have a problem with poop sticking to your fur?" The rabbit looks confused and says "no, I don't have that problem." The bear smiles and says "good" and picks up the rabbit and wipes his butt with him. Lesson, if you appear harmless people will take advantage of you

[@Leo90009]

💪

[@psychacks]

Keep flexing, my brother

[@katejoy5787]

This is incredibly simplistic 😂

[@SydneyValette]

Don’t agree : you respect an artist not because this guy can potentially punch you , you just appreciate the art and the effort put in it . This view is pretty reductive although I agree.

[@ElizabethGeorge-hr6uo]

I like what you are saying but I need more concrete examples of what that means to cultivate power to do harm and choose not to. Like what? I get that one could do martial arts to learn to defend and then not use it, however, what about less obvious power cultivations?

[@trueomen5017]

There is a paradox: If I have a capacity to cause harm just to chose not to do it, then how do other people believe that I can cause harm for them to have a respect for me>? Cause that one time I caused just enough harm, far less than I could have - and instead of respecting me a person just decided to burn the bridge.

[@Jmacdonald2386]

It could be a paradox, there are many things in life that are paradoxical. However, in this case there really is no alternative. The idea of having the “capacity to cause harm” I think is a simplification of the core message. Which I think essentially should say “have the capacity to be capable”. In this way it doesn’t assume physical capabilities, or fighting capabilities necessarily. I believe it refers to being capable in general. Whether that is capable in your thoughts and actions, having the ability to be resolute in your speech and to speak with integrity. Or it could mean being capable as a husband or father, which to me means one simple thing…taking responsibility for someone ahead of yourself. That makes you a “capable and dependable person”. Anyway, that’s how I think of the whole idea. Because the opposite of those things wound be someone that is incapable of being depended on. Or someone that nobody trusts to keep their word because they haven’t built themselves the integrity and character to keep their own word. A person who does something as simple as always keeping their word, we all know someone like that, those types of people are incredibly capable, and looked up to by others to handle whatever life throws at them. The other idea was caring for others, being able to put another person’s needs before our own makes a person incredibly capable, and builds character as well. The opposite of that would be someone that everyone knows will always choose themselves first, the type who never sacrifices, always the first to make everything about them. I guess what I mean is what choice do any of us really have in life but to at least try to not be the opposite of capable. The thought of what that looks like is terrifying

[@patrickrada2923]

@trueomen5017 *"If I have a capacity to cause harm just to chose not to do it, then how do other people believe that I can cause harm for them to have a respect for me>?"* This is only a problem in theory, because in practice it resolves itself sooner or later in various situations. 1. Your supposed "harmlessness" is put to the test by some bully who harasses, threatens or otherwise mistreats you. You defend yourself against him in effective ways, be it with words or physical violence. 2. Your inner willingness to represent or even assert your interests is reflected in your body language, facial expressions, words and actions. 3. Your relationship partner or employer wants you to do something that you don't want to do and/or that you are not contractually obliged to do. They want to impose their will, intimidate you, blackmail you (also emotionally) and *you leave the relationship, never come back and look for and find* a new relationship partner or employer. Now they have the damage.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

Any tips on how to cultivate that dangerous, "harmful" side?

[@SteveJones379]

How?

[@psychacks]

How to not be harmless? Develop your power.

[@SteveJones379]

@@psychacks yes, but how specifically to develop power? Currently having respect problems within family circle, how to develop power? Understand, but how to create a perception of my dangerousness in them?

[@psychacks]

That's a question that's probably too big to answer in a comment. So perhaps I'll make a follow up video on the subject. However, a good rule of thumb is, in any relationship, the one who needs the other less has more power. So, if you're having difficulties with your family, a good first move (if you haven't done so already) is to make yourself as self-sufficient and independent as possible. If you don't "need" your family for anything (i.e., money, love, support), then it becomes more of an "at will" relationship, in which it becomes easier to assert and maintain appropriate boundaries.

[@SteveJones379]

@@psychacks I appreciate your insight. Thank you

[@psychacks]

@Cj Johnson I'll see what I can do...

[@paudkelly5160]

First time, I don't agree with you,, Respect is earned by living a life that others look up to,, not frightening the shit out of them

[@in.edieudonnesworld3167]

There are bad people. They are coming to you. Be ready to conquer them

[@rossjackson2929]

Fear is not the basis of respect. It is an emotion.

[@BigBellyEd]

Ive learned that fear (of consequences is NOT respect or autority

[@YouilAushana]

Some people just want to come along for the ride

[@tedarcher9120]

Don't be harmless, be safe.

[@someguyusa]

Don't be safe. Be good.

[@væder_volk_veter]

The power of vulnerability, sacrifice, perseverance, and beauty... I have a great deal more respect for those who can't harm because they choose not to so strongly. I do not respect those who value having the power to hurt me... that's awful... If you enjoy being bad... it's probably because of those who are good being willing to help those that need it most... so you're given attention for being a brat...

[@Jmacdonald2386]

Of course, most people would agree that we should have more respect for those that choose to be harmless out of their desire to help others and to do right by them. That’s exactly what the basis of the idea comes down to, it’s the person who makes the decision to be a decent, moral human being because it is the right thing to do. However, it’s important to take note of the way that some people will trick you. They may even genuinely and truthfully believe that they really are decent, moral and treating people right because it is the decent thing to do. However, if that person has not done the work throughout their lives to build their own sense of personal integrity, their own sense of values, their own code of ethics, and their own sense of responsibility to put others before themselves, in other words if they didn’t make the effort to become a person of true character. What we end up seeing is that they are incredibly weak minded individuals underneath a facade of doing actions that make them seem decent and caring to others. This type of illusion can go on for decades in some people, believing they are virtuous, decent and that they choose to be that way. The problem is that sometimes incredible hardship or threat to life will affect that person for the first time in their lives which is when we they discover that they were never actually “making the choice” to be decent and harmless. In fact, they were never capable all along of the integrity and morality necessary to do the right thing when it truly counts, which is in the face of hardship. That type of person was basically putting on a show but lacked the ability to truly put others before themselves when times got tough. The world is sadly full of people like this who are absolutely not “choosing” to be decent and to never hurt people because in reality they weren’t actually capable of it at all, the truth always comes out eventually, we see it in modern times with what they call “virtue signaling”. The propensity for a person to constantly talk about how they are charitable, or kind, or helpful to others, or that they empathize with people suffering. All the while, that person doesn’t possess any of those qualities they claim to and instead their actions show a completely opposite, person with integrity, character or virtues.

[@Obiamajoyisrmd]

Your comment makes no sense. If someone CANT harm, then obviously they didn’t CHOOSE not to be that way. I don’t think you’ve thought about this concept much.

[@RockDove5212]

" There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has torment (some versions say punishment) The one who fears is not made perfect in love." 1 John 4:18 if we truly love, and are truly loved, there is no fear present. This is the way we are called to love each other, not to seek power over each other. " Cultivate that side of yourself that has the potential to do real harm to others" you say, this is straight out of Satan's notebook. The advice you give is the thin end of an evil wedge.

[@psychacks]

These are all lovely quotes, but this episode is about respect -- not love. Those are two different things. Like in the Ecclesiastes quote, the basis of respecting the commandments is the fear of divine justice. If God did not have the power to judge, who would obey? Perhaps some would, out of a love of the good. But many others would not. The same is true secularly. Many people respect the laws of society because they fear the consequences of breaking them. This is the basis of social order.

[@tbmavenger71]

You ever read the part in the bible where it says to Fear God, and obey His commandments?

[@monikasolymos2396]

Who shall we fear of? If you have the fear of God in your heart, which is a good kind of fear, I would rather call it respect, you have nothing to fear of, because you have God at your back. Your only fear should be, loosing it. If you loose it, you can fear of everything, especially the definite death, the death of the soul. This is why Saint Paul says:"Do not be afraid of those, who can kill your body, fear of those who can kill your body and soul aswell". Because if the soul goes astray, the body goes astray with it. You can only serve one master.

[@jorgefigueroa2231]

Is fear truly the basis for respect? I respect Martin Luther King, but I don't fear him. Where does fear fit into that equation?

[@gilsamige8129]

It means that you admire the guy and don't necessarily respect.

[@dend1]

​​​​​@@gilsamige8129 That was the issue during that time period. People admired MLK, but respected Malcolm X.

[@Nando_lifts2021]

So all these people(myself included) putting up ice baths, workouts that also help motivate others are lowering their self esteem?

[@ozramblue117]

Rabbits have created plenty of problems for farmers. The harmless are harmful in numbers.

[@stephencaron3047]

I'm hearing me a little Jordan Peterson right now but hey way to sum it up in a few minutes

[@ivrz]

I respect many people I am not afraid of

[@raginald7mars408]

all Psycho Paths master this

[@1951kvk]

I wouldn't want the type of respect you are describing.

[@burt2800]

This one smells a lot of Jordan Peterson, me likey

[@urbanfarmandfish9800]

No, I agree with the about 90% of everything you’ve ever said I absolutely disagree with this one. I’ve been teaching the difference between commanding respect and demanding respect, half my life, and you got this absolutely wrong possibility of violence is demanding respect which doesn’t always work fearlessness encourage in the face of dangerous Creates respect in all aspects of life

[@edwhite2255]

Could you provide some more real life examples of this rather than fictional superhero’s?

[@Reflectionmaterial]

Does not seem to make sense. You have all these followers and clients who respect you and listen to what you have to say. Yet I doubt most fear you or that you could cause harm to them. Also when you have been in an accident and unable to leave your bed it means nobody would respect you anymore as you are in no position to harm them.

[@BeautiHacks]

1:05 🫶…wink….wink.

[@jeannieneuser5316]

Omg, you listen to Jordan Peterson?! He talks about this, too!!

[@psychacks]

Of course. Jordan Peterson is brilliant and a master teacher.

[@LadyRabiaAbdulHakim]

I really enjoy your videos a lot more than Jordan Peterson actually because he rambles on at times. Your explanations are very simple and to the point. So beneficial. 🙏🏽 👍

[@psychacks]

@@LadyRabiaAbdulHakim Wow -- that's quite a compliment!

[@reneedavis7248]

Sounds like something Jordan Peterson would say.

[@ontheline3077]

fear is a base for respect YES

[@billyb4790]

Rabbits are harmless? Bro, have you ever watched Watership Down?? 🙀🙀🙀🤣🤣🤣😉😉😉

[@JohnSmith-ct5jd]

"Command" respect? More loads of crap. There are hierarchies in every relationship and social setting. People, you had better understand where you stand in relation to others before you try and "command" respect, or you just might end up fired from your job, or punched in the face.

[@tomiiide]

Rabbits create plenty value tho. 😂

[@theyoungone5034]

hey, did anyone ever tell you that you resemble professor from money heist ?

[@nikeisagreekgoddess4135]

This is a whole bunch of nothing coming from a guy trying to fill the void Peterson left when he turned right-wing nuts. It's hilarious to not list A SINGLE actionable item in the whole video. To be fair, Peterson hasn't either.

[@bansivadan4463]

very poor choice of words and skipped a lot of important stuff in order to keep the video short could have done a better job at it given how much content of yours i have already watched think about it not all people listening to you are psychologist and dont have the lens to view the world through it btw this video if anything is not "harmless"

[@murielbrown3013]

All a bit Jordan Peterson this one.

[@davehasenford3985]

This guy just screams beta

[@martinm.1967]

Jordan Peterson says the same.

[@raymondtendau2749]

A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control. -Dr. Jordan Peterson