Don't Be Like These People...

[@ghostpie396]

For the first story: Leave him. There’s no reason for that kind of disrespect. Tampons are EXPENSIVE, and he threw away two whole boxes? And that’s not abuse, that’s confronting a problem. Maybe it wasn’t the BEST way to confront it, but it sure as hell isnt abuse

[@marytichelaar7225]

I totally agree with you!

[@ghostpie396]

@@marytichelaar7225 thanks! I hate it when people confuse confrontation (which is healthy) with abuse (which is DEFINITELY not healthy). It’s nice to know there are people who know the difference :)

[@Someone-or8tp]

sometimes I look at comments about these stories and am like "why are you suggesting divorce over something like this? the entire point of a marriage is to work through your issues together", but this is definitely the early signs of abuse and I completely agree that they should break up. he's choosing now to reveal his guilt-trippy nature because he's been in it for the long con. Op needs to cut her losses and disappear before the marriage gets messy and she's tied to him by finances or something else. It's only two months in, she shouldn't have to waste anymore time on that twat. His issue with her is so stupid too. "we should take each other discomfort into consideration", she did mate. And she decided it didn't fucking matter. Grow up. Having tampons in doesn't affect you in the slightest. Why are you arguing about this again? "you verbally abused and insulted me" the fact he's jumping straight to abuse shows he's projecting onto her. He knows what he's gonna do later and he's trying to manipulate her by immediately accusing her of the thing he knows will hurt her. he knows she's not being abusive and he knows she doesn't want to be, so he's using it to hurt her and push her to do what he wants. OP, RUN.

[@ghostpie396]

@@Someone-or8tp i usually don’t jump to divorce either, but i personally witnessed domestic abuse between a friend and her partner, and so when people say stuff like that to their partners, it hurts to see a potentially harmful relationship to continue :( (friend is safe now btw)

[@morgandouglas6014]

I agree. The woman needs to give him an ultimatum: he starts cleaning up his act, stops throwing away the tampons, and reimburses her for all the tampons he disposed of without her knowledge or consent, or he gets kicked out of the house and she files for divorce.

[@tinapay6208]

If a guy says he " puts up " with what you necessarily needs...leave him and never comes back...that's a freaking huge red sign he is an a$$hole and he will never change his views about it and a woman should always cater to his needs first and the woman have to forget about her own needs. 🙄😑

[@kaitlynbennett4348]

The first one I'd divorce him pretty quick. He "put up" with you, throws away tampons and complains about em. Last time I check, you men dont bleed through your peepee's every month and I'd tell him to pay the money back for them. Period stuff is EXPENSIVE!!!

[@phoenix5719]

The first story: I think the husband was insecure that she has to shove up an object down there. Probably even if she uses menstrual cup she will get the same reaction from her husband. SOME men has this weird belief that shoving anything up down there will make a woman impure (self pleasure kind of a thing), many young women are discouraged from using it since they believe that it will take away the virginity. Lol, imagine being so fragile that a tampon is making him insecure I - ☠️

[@kyutibunni]

TAMPONS DONT EVEN FEEL GOOD IDK WHY THEY THINK SUCH A THING WILL GIVE PLEASURE ITS A DRY PIECE OF COTTON 😭💀

[@gwendolynsnyder463]

Uhm, I don't use tampons because they hurt me, so I guess I might run into an idiot like this, unfortunately...

[@spinasoul]

I heard that too! Masculine fragility

[@idioticbagel2833]

dudes jealous of a tampon 💀

[@goofyrat2938]

@@idioticbagel2833 bro knows he’s pathetic when he starts competing with an effin tampon 💀

[@MariaV0071]

First story: husband is an insecure guy who thinks his thing is the only thing to enter her front. Second story: good for the girl for showing the guy her disability. And her posey should have cheered for her. Thurs story: you can still wish somebody a happy birthday even though you have a surprise party planned for them. Not ok

[@Someone-or8tp]

As much as I hate how the guys in story 2 didn't cheer her on, I do see to some extent why they'd be upset. Some people hate confrontation and would rather allow people to push them around than get into a fight about it. I imagine that if OP's group were those types of people, they'd be really upset. But really, it's not fair to be embarrassed by OP in that situation. They should've been on her side. Doesn't matter if YOU don't like confrontation. Stop being a coward and support the person you care about who doesn't want to be pushed around anymore. Get a grip on yourselves. Honestly, I understand people-pleasers, but people with no spines like that I just can't stand. Grow up. That's someone you care about. Support them instead of worrying about the opinions of strangers. I hate being looked at. I hate public areas. I hate standing out in a crowd. But if I was in that situation, I'd know full well that it's not about me or my discomfort. It's about someone else who is finally taking a stand. And I'd put aside my personal feelings to stand with them. Others need to learn how to be like that. It may be hard for people, but if it's for someone else you ought to get used to it, regardless of what you're comfortable with. Learn and grow. People are constantly evolving and if you stay like that then you're literally no better than the person harassing OP for standing around and doing nothing then subtly shaming them afterwards.

[@gokuwasthebesthokage9875]

for the first story I was literally thinking the same. Like he must be really small to be insecure of a tampon

[@Mari-wm2ll]

@@Someone-or8tp can you pls tell me what op means? I've been seeing it in a lot of comments but idk

[@idk-sq3zp]

@@Mari-wm2ll it means original person

[@Mari-wm2ll]

@@idk-sq3zp ohh thank you how do you use it tho? is it like the mc or smth?

[@jessarie98]

Honestly I don't get it when people think they have to ignore someone's birthday just because there's a surprise later. You can still wish them a happy birthday throughout the day. Wtf is with some people?

[@rosepetunia1829]

I agree. It’s not like as soon as you tell someone “Happy Birthday!” They’re immediately gonna think “Omg you’re throwing me a surprise party aren’t you??!!!!” They will just be Happy and probably say “Thank you”

[@prome4994]

I personally don't agree. Same thing happened to me few years ago and when they surprised me I was very happy almost with tears of joy. And as the story even if they were upset they could just tell their family instead of walking off. Imagine planning a surprise party for months and then the person walks off without saying anything. Yeah I will also call them jerk

[@aarushikishore1417]

see, not everyone is the same, okay? i totally get it. if i was in their place, i would have felt so emotional and happy and appreciated the efforts.

[@aarushikishore1417]

what i mean is that it is understandable some people think that, because some people act accordingly. it is only rare that it goes wrong.

[@lunarialoonatic]

I never understood that troupe. I have seen stories and movies where they ignore the character then surprise them. I always thought that was so douchey. They could have at least said happy birthday and wished them a warm day before surprising them. You can be nice and still surprise them

[@graceho7479]

From personal experience: feeling like nobody remembered your birthday is miserable. It’s one of the worst feelings in the world. Not only do you feel disappointed and like nobody cares about you, you also feel guilty and selfish for feeling like you deserve the attention.

[@신sANdhAniTIzer리야]

Yea like last year only two people wished me for my bday that too at the end of the day I felt so bad and disappointed that no one remembered my bday but I couldn't just say "I'm mad at y'all bcoz u forgot my birthday" Bcoz that sounds like I want attention but I don't want attention I want recognition I want to feel known and remembered Then on my bday as no one wished me throughout the day I decided to post a hbd to a kpop idol who shares their bday with me and at the end of the post I wrote " And hbd to me too" Then some random really sweet people on the internet took out sometime of their day to wish me That small gesture made me feel happy Lol it was a whole therapy session

[@Iceydovefrost]

Accurate. Its why I hate my birthday😥

[@princessofhell4639]

Same here. This year my 2 supposed best friends didn't come to my bday at the cinema cus they didn't wanna rewatch spiderman. Funny thing is we spent ages organising it so they could watch something else but then one went to watch that film another day so said she no long wanted to come. They both said they'd give me a gift but then neither did. It's a horrible feeling. Especially considering practically no one remembered my bday on the actual day.

[@LIA-52]

And here's my personal experience: I forgot my own birthday at least twice in the last decade (aka my 20s). Point is, even *I* forget my birthday sometimes, so I don't expect others to remember it.

[@Yer_blue_angel]

My own best friend didn’t even remember mine. It hurt. I always get my friends stuff but I’ve never gotten anything in return

[@Raihana73024]

to the 1st story, its not his choice. its not his body, he's not the one bleeding everywhere. i'd tell him to take the ring back, if he hates literally everything you do and he's controlling almost every part of your life, leave.

[@rosepetunia1829]

*Period.*

[@Raihana73024]

@@rosepetunia1829 period indeed U^U

[@veenieeenie]

In the second story: not all the disabilities are visible. That man only showed how horrible he was and jugde her for the way she look. If someone look good, doesn't mean they are actually healthy-

[@yurikokaneshiro]

I agree. That man judges things by the way they look, and thats a horrible thing to do when it comes to people with a disability. That guy is a major AH and OPs relatives lack common sense.

[@ohdarn1970]

Bro. Why don't you just put your opinions of the stories in one comment..

[@valerieb8541]

I have both disabilities. I'm in a wheelchair but I also have Autism and I have health issues that make me disabled. And brain and spinal tumors are why I'm in a wheelchair. I hate that people only accept the wheelchair part. Before when I could walk people refused to understand I was still disabled.

[@veenieeenie]

@@valerieb8541 oh man, if i remember well you also said you have 2 types of cancer and 6 autoimmune diseases with one kidney and one lung, it seems that is so hard for you :(

[@valerieb8541]

@@veenieeenie Yeah. Unfortunately health issues run on my dad's side of family. I just do the best I can. I'm thankful everyday I have.

[@cruxal216]

Some people need a huge slice of humble pie. Especially the husband who threw out his wife’s tampons like wtf is wrong with him and he needs to be hooked up to a period simulator to know how it feels. I don’t think the wife went too far it’s her damn body why tf is it his business that his wife is using tampons.

[@Me-nv2id]

If she does all yardwork too, like she said, tampons would be easier, pads would get crumpled up and leak. I guarentee you he just wants her to be 'tight', 100%.

[@Someone-or8tp]

@@Me-nv2id and it's dumb because they don't even affect that. some guys don't understand how vaginas work fr fr

[@Lacxin]

@@Me-nv2id Yeah, the second that story was done I was like "This is 1000% some misogynistic sh¡t"

[@aarushikishore1417]

exactly. why the heck does it matter to the husband what she wears

[@avebear3516]

1st story: his discomfort? His he the one sitting in a pile of bloods for a week with stabbing cramp pains and everything else that comes with a period? No

[@veenieeenie]

I'm the third story: wanting to surprise someone doesn't mean you have to ignore her and be a jerk. They only needed to say happy birthday not admit all the surprise. You can give someone a surprise and be nice, to make them even more happy. God.

[@rosepetunia1829]

Exactly!! You can still say “Happy birthday!!” And be nice without ruining the surprise. Also it was THEIR birthday!! So if they didn’t want to come they didn’t have to. I feel so bad for them.

[@Pandie2828]

Yeah the party is the surprise not the fact that it's their birthday

[@aarushikishore1417]

no the thing is that then the person would feel like people have forgotten their birthday. but later on they will realise that not only do people remember the person's birthday, but also planned a surprise. it actually feels better for certain people. when you just surprise, it often doesnt feel as special comparatively. it does feel special, but not as special as it would according to the plan narrated in the passage.

[@misteriosa5932]

@@aarushikishore1417 i have to say, why play a game of change, about someone reaction, like that? Tbh, for me, it has bad idea writen all over it

[@aarushikishore1417]

@@misteriosa5932 maybe. i dont know honestly, will have to experience it myself

[@jiminigotyesjam1370]

"He threw my tampon box out, I'm gonna throw him out" LMAO I love you 🤣

[@MelanieCravens]

I bet that the husband in the first story subconsciously feels like his wife is getting her jollies by using tampons and is feeling like she is replacing him.

[@zainabtanweer2910]

Same so stupid to think 😒😒

[@ashleylarocque4500]

Lol so stupid but that's what crossed my mind too.

[@rosepetunia1829]

I thought that too lol. Either way, she should leave him.

[@MusketeerGweneth]

I thought that too but I honestly also thought that he was just being a controlling misogynist pig. It's too bad she's already married to him; Leaving him will be more complicated than just grabbing her stuff and going somewhere else while he's at work or something.

[@lillywolf4687]

That was what I was thinking. Not all men understand how periods work. And I can see how a lack of knowledge on tampons might lead to feeling a bit insecure.

[@im_just_vidu]

I've had birthdays where everyone forgot about it and no one wished me happy birthday. So I can understand how miserable you feel when no one remembers you on your day. So even if you're planning for a suprise, just wish happy birthday beforehand. It doesn't ruin the surprise. Maybe it somehow make someone's day.

[@lillywolf4687]

Exactly. And it DOES make someone’s day when you remember. There was a time I told all my friends the day before that it was going to be my birthday. Only 1 person remembered, and they weren’t part of my original group of friends that I told.

[@niki-nz2lp]

honestly, i feel like if you ignore someone their entire birthday instead of saying hbd for a surprise, it makes it more obvious ESPECIALLY when you were talking about it the day before and saying hbd will make it less obvious and miserable.

[@KaityNerd]

The husband in the first story is MASSIVELY manipulative and controlling and ONE HUNDRED PERCENT GASSLIGHTING her!!! He knows exactly what he’s doing and he’s doing it on purpose.

[@autisticdancer]

The last story sounds a lot like one of those cartoon stock episodes where a character has a birthday and the other characters pretend to forget, so the character whose birthday it is either becomes angry or sad that their friends forgot only to find out that their friends were planning a surprise party the whole time.

[@veenieeenie]

In the first story: how?!?!?¡ how the tampons make you- oh my God. I don't understand... tampons are easier to wear and causes less mess

[@arlo-1083]

U can space each comment apart in 1 comment 😭

[@rivstarlightt]

@@arlo-1083 fr tho 😭

[@hamham1498]

@@arlo-1083 like fr lmao

[@marytichelaar7225]

Honestly I use pads myself, but I don't see a problem with tampons.

[@rivstarlightt]

@@marytichelaar7225 ikr- like has their own preferences, and how does her using tampons effect the husband 😭

[@chaeyoungsstrawberryfarm3327]

For the birthday story, they should’ve just said sorry and if she’s okay. Apologize and have her come home, give her the party she deserves and don’t do that in the future:)

[@dylancastellanos87]

Agreed. Also, I've never understood why people pretend that they've forgotten something just to surprise someone. If birthdays, anniversaries and such are important to someone, what's the point of making that person upset by ignoring them and pretending not to remember the important date? Insulting the person certainly doesn't make things better, either.

[@masha_elr3058]

@@dylancastellanos87 and it hurts even more when actually no one remembers.. I've had this happen to me on my 20's birthday, my family doesn't usually celebrate birthdays, not even cakes, but a simple happy birthday is enough to feel remembered.. We have this family grouo chat and we congratulate each others on everyone's birthdays.. But when mine came around, and it was my 20's, I was very excited since I left the teenage years and felt that 20 is a special milestone

[@masha_elr3058]

@@dylancastellanos87 but then no one said anything in the group chat, and I already don't have highschool friends due to past bullying.. But just no one remembered, not even my parents.. I was very upset that I actually cried that day.. Even when I told my parents, do you remember... It's my birthday, their reaction was: yeah great, good for you

[@masha_elr3058]

@@dylancastellanos87 it felt terrible not getting any attention, even tho all the rest of the members they do give them attention on theirs.. So I did end up crying on my 20's BD I felt ghosted

[@dylancastellanos87]

@@masha_elr3058 I am sorry that all of this happened to you. I know it felt horrible. It makes no sense to me when people brush someone off like this. I don't know when your next birthday is, but 🎶Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday dear Masha_elr. Happy birthday to you!🎶 Here's to many more. And I honestly hope that for all your future birthdays, you're wished a happy birthday, and receive lots of love and lots of gifts. 🎂🎁🎈

[@InWinds]

I saw that tampon story get passed around on Twitter, haha. Everyone was angry at it and rightfully so

[@elenarodriguez602]

It always bothered me in TV shows where people would pretend to forget someone's birthday only to surprise them at the end of the episode. It never seemed right to me, and it always made me feel a little sick.

[@mybeloved2431]

some ppl fr need to be humbled

[@BeautyMonster1000]

First guy was obviously jealous that tampons could give that woman more of a thrill than he ever could. Fragile masculinity much? He has such an old fashioned way of thinking. Her body, her choice, end of discussion. If this was a cisgender man, which I assume it was, he doesn't even know anything about the experience of actually dealing with periods every month, so he doesn't get to share his "opinion" about it because it was obviously going to be an uneducated one. Cisgender men may know about periods in general but that doesn't mean they know how they feel and what they're like to go through literally every single month. That dude needs a reality check and he also needs to be single for life... 🙄

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

Totally my thought too! Husband is such a dumb ass!

[@marytichelaar7225]

He really is!

[@saairaaa]

bruh y’all really need to stop making everything about gender and sexuality, obviously the guy is in the wrong. “yeah he’s straight, he doesn’t have a say on this 🤢” or “his biological gender is male so he doesn’t have a say on this 🤢🙄” stuff like this really gets on my nerves. Sure he’s wrong but like

[@mamaimacridminal4947]

@@saairaaa I do agree I guess the correct statement would be "Nobody has a say on her body no matter what gender and whatever whatever".

[@saairaaa]

@@mamaimacridminal4947 yes thank you

[@Aerodil]

First guy throwing away tampons sounds like he's insecure and extremely controlling. Throw that man out, not tampons. Edit: and no, I feel it has nothing to with T.S.S. He seems to be controlling, and because she stood up to him and put her foot down he felt his control was slipping. He sounds like a narssist. He hates a ton of things she already does? Yeah, that's not a good relationship.

[@KayLo_The_Legend]

Yeah, if he was worried about T.S.S. he would have said it, like; "hey I'm worried about you getting Toxic Shock Syndrome," but he just decided to have a tantrum and throw her supplies out and cry when she called him out on his BS Doesn't sound like a considering and caring partner to me smh

[@katpersona982]

@@KayLo_The_Legend Regardless, TSS is not only extremely rare, but it also doesn’t only come from tampons. You can get TSS from using pads as well. Hell, anything that carries around germs on your body can give you TSS, not just period products. I

[@Mikarii__]

First story: My ex did the same thing. Thought it was 'impure' to be using that. It isn't his business, you do what you do. He also said that me attempting a career as an online video game streamer was useless and that i should just give up. After 10 months i said it was enough and im so glad i did!

[@retro3188]

What’s your channel?

[@bianca-pw2bx]

for the birthday one: first of all, i think that if you are going to do one of those surprises, make sure that the type of person you are doing it to will take it well. second, you could just make out like you weren't planning anything special for her bday, then throw the surprise party. she will be happy cuz you at least acknowledged her bday, but she will still get a surprise.

[@qbbi]

(1st Story) The first guy is a biggg red flag. The woman is def in the right. If the woman got mad at the husband for wearing briefs, what would he do? Nothing. It’s not like he can wear panties. Pads are an alternative, but they are the panties in this situation. Tampons make her comfortable, briefs would make him comfortable. Sorry if that was a confusing analogy (2nd Story) The man is definitely wrong but I wanna talk about the friends in this situation. This man (unintentionally I guess) is being ableist and her friends just wanna scurry away like mice? How can somebody be so cowardly? It’s stupid how the friends don’t even want to defend her. (3rd Story) This is even a discussion? Their friends and family made the person feel absolutely horrible, and they expect everting to be fine! I don’t think they realize how hard it is to be neglected for something that’s obviously special to them.

[@moonyfruit]

For the 2nd story, I totally agree! If it was my friend, or sister, etc. I would have cheered for her and gave her a huge pat on the back - AT LEAST. At first, I thought it was just going to be making the gentleman feel embarassed (which is already not her fault in any way), but also for making her entourage feel embarassed? Like.. what? lol

[@musicaltiger6576]

I think the birthday one was valid. Honestly, I've had the same happen (kinda) with no surprise at the end. They, in my opinion, had every right to walk out. Especially after being ignored. If you're gonna surprise them, then just don't mention the party. That doesn't mean you have to completely disregard their birthday. At least let them know you remember

[@valerieb8541]

Besides being in a wheelchair I also have a leg that has no ligaments or kneecap in it from a bad fall. Should have been amputated but as I have severe allergies to what the stump is made of for the leg and the fake leg I didn't. It's messed up bad. I once showed it to a woman with her child and told her child I'm sorry she has such a inconsiderate woman for her mom. And told the child remember never judge people on looks. My friend has an artificial leg and threw it at the person once and scared the crap out of them. I'm in a chair people park in handicap spots all the time. I just ask them nicely if they're disabled? I don't presume. My mom has a colostomy and other health issues people question her all the time. If that were me I'd throw my bag of poop at them and shut them up fast. I have no tolerance for people like that. You can ask and be polite about it. Sounds like the man wasn't even handicapped so why was he going to park there? I'd be applauding and cheering the girl on!!!! Her mother should be proud of her standing up for herself. Not ashamed!!!!! I'd dump the boyfriend if he can't be supportive of her taking a stand and keeping her spot. Too often we are made to feel like we're nothing and deserve the abuse. Non visible disabilities are just as bad and sometimes worse as visible ones! What ever happened to kindness for everyone?

[@krohme8005]

1st) Not his decision. If he can't give her an actual reason why he dislikes tampons, then he needs to grow up. Tampons and period supplies in general are really expensive. Does he not realize that this cost money too? 2) It sounds tiring to deal with a-holes like that guy. Not all disabilities are visible. And they weren't being rude either, if anything it was rude of him to storm up to op and lecture them about youth blah blah blah. It sounds like he was trying to make them feel bad for something that wasn't their fault, and got mad when it blew up in his face. And their friends didn't even try to defend them, but got their undies in a twist when they defended themselves? Under the guise of "you made a scene, that's bad" wth 3) It was their birthday. And they didn't say shit about it, or mention it at all? Then they have the gall to call op the asshole? What nerve. Just because there's a big surprise coming doesn't mean that you don't have to do the common courtesy of wishing them a simple "happy birthday". They ignored it the entire day and made them feel neglected on their birthday, then expect them to be happy they remembered at all? Dude. A person is entitled to their feelings, thoughts and opinions whether they like it or not. These guys also need to grow up. They seem like they want to be rewarded for remembering that it was their birthday at all tf

[@redhadoken3172]

Him: “ew tampons inside you?! Why would anything ever go inside you?”

[@sangonomiyakokomi5764]

he's probably so fragile that he's threatened by tampons lol Some dudes apparently have a belief that shoving anything down there makes a woman impure, even if its just hygiene products like tampons

[@michelleanais7037]

For the third or fourth story I think. People should realize the human beings' emotions don't just fade away that easily. I too would feel upset if my friends and family was ignoring me on my birthday. People should normalize being upset, especially for that reason, not everyone can just cheer up that quickly. Sometimes it's just a silly prank, although sometime it can really hurt someone. Therefore, just make sure you know the person enough before you do this, so you don't accidentally hurt someone in your life. (I feel like I just wrote an inspirational essay, or something.)

[@angel-nv7jk]

Everyone was in the wrong for ignoring the person on their birthday The audacity of being upset because you ignored them the whole day is just pathetic

[@datsmia1179]

What a coincidence for the last story, its also my birthday today at least she won't feel miserable if their family and friends actually said happy bday instead of ignoring her. Its not gonna ruin the surprise at the end since it is a surprise after all.

[@queefanator]

the husband thinks he can step in when he isn’t the one having a monthly cycle, throw him in the trash, dump him, divorce, wtvr get rid of him.

[@thirtyonepigeons9539]

The first one…I feel like the dude was just weirded out when thinking that his wife puts something in her private area during her time of the month. Because I’ve heard, very rarely and long ago btw, how some people think that you’re losing your virginity or being gross/inappropriate for wearing tampons. In their minds, pads are better because they’re more modest or something like that. I don’t hear everyone around me saying this now but I did hear about this like once in the early stages of my first few periods.

[@tiffanyhaddox7499]

Am I the only one that got the vibe that the guy in the first story was jealous that the tampons were bigger than he was in the pants department?

[@Abyssal2808]

This right here. Very true, I bet he is sad with his tiny you know.

[@cloverenbeerin137]

Me: *sees the thumbnail* Bruh. It's not his choice. If she's comfortable with it, then that's her business. I don't like them either, they feel weird, but I'm not gonna be like, "I don't like them. Throw them away."

[@marytichelaar7225]

Exactly, I use pads not tampons. But it doesn't mean that I'm going to throw them away!

[@gryffinclaw]

In the first story, the fact that the husband says he hates almost everything she does was already a freaking red flag. And he had no right, absolutely no right, to throw her tampons away. I don't think he complained about the tampons because he is somehow uncomfortable with them but rather he wanted to control her. By getting to decide what she wears during her period and what she doesn't, he's merely trying to be controlling towards her. Moreover, when he almost teared up and even claimed she verbally abused him, he was in fact emotionally manipulating her. Frankly, he's the abuser in this relationship. The wife should just divorce him immediately.

[@gentherandom]

Honestly the people in the birthday story needs a good talking to, they had good intentions but someone should tell them it's not much of a birthday if the entire day except for maybe two hours is terrible, I feel bad for both the people throwing the party and the birthday person.

[@paristaylour]

i never understood the concept of pretending to forget someone's birthday for a surprise its jus messed up and would make them upset throughout the whole day

[@elenas3571]

2:33 the reason men hate tampons is because they think it’s “arousing” but there is nothing sexual about using tampons! No uterus no opinion! Don’t let anyone tell you what blood sponge you should or shouldn’t use! Do what works best for you.

[@rebeccacardy6070]

LOVE THAT! No uterus no opinion....I need that in a bumper sticker!!!!

[@fksi342]

the first guy is a lost cause lmao she should dump him

[@PrincepsFailed]

About the birthday story, I've always hated surprises. I mean, acting all silent and stone-cold, then making you feel like an outcast just so that people can make you feel happy all of a sudden is downright stupid. I never liked those ideas.

[@aarushikishore1417]

See, for the third one, they were just planning a birthday the whole day, you know. Because they think that that difference makes someone emotional, you know. I think it just went wrong. The thing is the family thought that if they ignore the person, the person would lose hope. Then if they suddenly wish, the person would suddenly feel very touched and happy because they had lost hope. The person would realise that it was all just a plan and actually everyone remembered and feel emotional. They would feel extra special, because their family and friends put extra efforts to make the day special. Or at least that was the way it was supposed to go like. But it didn't happen like that. The person instead felt really upset, thinking that half their day was wasted. It is understandable. When you are already sad, it is hard to make you happy. It just went wrong. But what I didn't like was that the family and friends shouldn't have called the person mean or rude. They should have instead apologised or coddled and explained that they didn't mean it like that.

[@minim3494]

First guy is actually abusive. It's controlling behaviour designed to make her feel that she has to accept even his most insane requests 'for a quiet life'. Ironically, she will never have peace if she stays with this manipulator.

[@psyche_therainsilk]

For the first one: I would’ve slapped him across the face, and told him I wanted a divorce. I know that might sound like I’m overreacting, but he sounds *really* controlling. This is *my* body. *Not* yours. Let. Me. Do. What. I. Want. With. It. Also, the money you just wasted sir, I would’ve made him pay for all of that 😠

[@sangonomiyakokomi5764]

the first one is a big red flag, he's very obviously controlling and that could lead to an abusive relationship

[@chaeyoungsstrawberryfarm3327]

For the second story I would’ve been encouraging her to tell him off, hyping her up when she took her leg off (bad bitch move honestly) and I would’ve probs yelled at him too. She needs a better group:(

[@animated_finn]

In the Last Story: I have NO idea how you can not see what you’re doing to someone when you ignore them?? ESPECIALLY on their birthday? And then they have the AUDACITY to say they’re selfish for walking out? No. Not ok.

[@yurikokaneshiro]

Hi Ellen! Glad you posted :D

[@Kyutie.]

:D

[@Oh_can_I_be_your_Bibilly_Hills]

First story : Just throw the husband away, keep the tampons, especially she said that she have medical conditions. Even she didn't have one, the husband literally didn't have the right since she is the one that bleeding for every month, not him .

[@titlihasan2577]

I fell like the 3rd story is a side effect of those stupid cliche Movies that presents things like that. Drowning in the water then right after going on a date type thing.

[@amyrivers4093]

I have a disability card for parking as I'm terminally ill and have no help or family. It literally makes the difference as to whether I go somewhere normally the supermarket or doctors appointments. I have to use a walker as I don't have the strength to pushnmyself in my wheelchair. My elderly parents would push my wheelchair but they both passed away in the last 18months. I often get people come up to me to tell me to get out of the carpark and I just point to my mobility card. I've had people yell at me and call me names, it really upsets me because I would love to be well, to be able to carry on teaching primary school and being a foster Mum. My illness wasn't caused by anything I did. It makes me cry sometimes.

[@PurpleRose8725]

1. Only thing I can think of is if his sister, mom, or someone close died or got super sick from TSS. I can see him being terrified for her, but she will never see that if he never says anything.

[@weirdlycurlyplantstem8231]

I think the husband from the first story is one of those men who thinks using tampons has some sort of... well I don't want to say it but if you know, you know.

[@samsauce9999]

"He threw my tampon box out?" "I'm gonna throw him out "

[@pancakes5915]

First story: Ryan: You insulted and verbally abused me... Wife: Well you went and picked the wrong week to throw away my tampons, didn't you!

[@immarypoppinsyall7235]

My husband recently shouted at me for buying the wrong flavour of toothpaste for our son. Like full on shout. Next, he refused to help brush his teeth just because it wasn't mint flavour and at this time my son was in a full tantrum from the shouting. I tried to explain that it was all that the shop had for that age group but he refused to listen. Was I wrong for calling him ignorant?

[@DisneyFan1]

Definitely, not wrong! You also have full responsibilty of your son and have equal rights to decide best for him.

[@TigerLily12345]

First one: he thinks his manhood is the only thing that should go up there. 🙄 Second one: If I was one of her group I’d be so amused and laughing my head off. Third one: I understand the concept of a surprise birthday party but at the same time I don’t think OP was the AH over it. They really should have planned it better.

[@Someone-kf8xe]

DISCOMFORT?!!! THAT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, ARE YOU ALSO GONNA STOP HER FROM TAKING A SHIT WHEN SHE NEEDS TOO???? NAW IF I WAS HER I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN A DIVORCE RIGHT THEN AND THERE, IDK How she puts up with him when she said this has happened before but he just "tolerates" her

[@valerieb8541]

For the birthday party I'd be upset too. There's no reason not to wish happy birthday. It doesn't give surprise away. I wouldn't walk out though. I'd explain how upset I was but be glad they remembered. And would enjoy the party. Sure they put a lot into it. Not fair to slap them in their face. So I can see both sides in this story. The first story if she wants to wear pads who cares? I'm allergic to tampons and most pads so use what I can, if some guy said no must do what he wants, then there is the door!!!! He should give a valid reason if not then who cares if he doesn't like it.

[@timetravelingpenguin]

Just to clarify she used tampons and he didn't like it not pads

[@valerieb8541]

@@timetravelingpenguin thanks was a typo realized after.

[@markcollins2666]

Birthdays...I am married, with a daughter. Birthdays are a big, big deal where we live, (NOT THE US), and so a birthday boy or girl gets bombarded with birthday hugs and kisses, with many prizes, and surprises, all day. The point being, you are a key member, you are loved, Why would anyone plot to play with the feelings of a key person in life, for fun?!?

[@rebeccashores2306]

3:28 he’s probably one of the ones who thinks it “makes you loose.” Yeah. Leave

[@michaelkurtz1967]

Need to remind the first guy that he married an adult, and as an adult you will make the appropriate decisions suitable for you about your femine hygiene. Remind him that it is wasteful and disrespectful to throw away your personal items. Set up boundaries that you expect to live by in the marriage. Demands seems irrational.

[@Sailorsecretindistress]

Don't be like these people Bully and be unkind to customers Abusing children at school using your words or hands Verbal abusing insulting Citizens

[@rishiii8t814]

Okay, but does anyone remember the birthday situation story happening to Smurfette in the Smurf movie, and she literally breaks down crying?? You’d think if I could get a grasp on that as a kid, they could as adults? (It’s not totally comparable, but you get the point)

[@faekapira]

story #1: the red flag has been raised on the tallest flag pole. leave him now, especially since he hates so much stuff she does and says he has to "put up" with it and plays the victim role. story #2: very brave and strong woman, sad that she had to encounter such a giant asshole. also, her friend group shouldn't have said it was embarrassing. story #3: still wish them a happy birthday, it won't give away your surprise.. it just shows that you remembered and that you're a good friend

[@kristalparsons5473]

When HE starts bleeding out once a month, then HE can decide how to handle it. Till then, he should keep his 'opinions' to himself and leave your PERSONAL items ALONE.

[@robynsalaver4069]

What is with men wanting to control women's bodies? None of them know what we go through. As for the last story, I wouldn't have even gone home. I would've taken myself to a movie or dinner. What they did was awful.

[@no.8650]

For the tampon one many people in the reddit replies were saying that they thought that Ryan was didn't like them because he thought that she got turned on by them or some shit

[@fairy_candy]

Hmm for the last story I do think that for a surprise, the whole point is to pretend and keep secret, so I guess it might be okay in some cases not to say anything until the actual surprise since it is a surprise. But they didn't have to be rude about it afterwards. Why did the friends and family feel the need to blow up the person's phone and tell them that they were being an asshole? It was their birthday and they felt upset because they thought no one remembered or they were being ignored. Just leave them be jeez

[@nineplustentwentyone26]

For the story regarding the birthday- I don't think a surprise is a bad idea, acknowledging that it is their birthday here and there would be fine... but to almost completely ignore them for the majority of the day? Come on... the highlight is definitely the party but remember that it is a birthDAY, not a birthNIGHT. The celebration should be throughout the entire day, not just packed into a few hours...

[@Stitcheroo2]

Ok the birthday one, like I get both sides, like I get they were upset and I get that the family and friends wanted to surprise him. But ignoring someone???? Like, no hate, but if I was gonna surprise someone for their birthday, I would have like talked to them but don't bring up the birthday and THEN surprise them later....anyone else?

[@traumainducing3529]

Thanks for making my day so much better with your uploads!!! Ilu

[@YourLocalTrash_Panda]

The first one sounds like he had a problem with anything going inside lmao this dude 😂😂😂

[@nancyomalley6286]

Regarding the OP with the prosthetic leg. Even if she just told him about her condition, he wouldn't have believed her. Taking off the leg WAS necessary for that male Karen, who was only pissed because he was proven wrong

[@lillywolf4687]

1st Story: That couple needs to go marriage counseling. (The husband needs it.) Though divorce seems like the easy way out, it if the husband is having a hard time explaining himself I think that should be acknowledged and not ignored. Even if the reasons are crappy reasons. (There might be a communication issue.) I don’t think the wife is at fault, she’s taking care of herself. And if that isn’t understood, it needs to be addressed.

[@midnightsarrow160]

For the birthday one This crap don't work the same it does on tv and shows and movies and books like-- "Oh everyone forgot my bday" *opens door* "Surprise!" "Oh you guys remembered?? Aw ty" is what I think they were expecting

[@lilmissary]

For the first one, he has no point, it's her body, and her comfort, he's being a jerk

[@helpfulDeathgod]

First story: He literally does not have a say, and that's some gaslighting bullshit. He's allowed to be mad at her for making him uncomfortable but she's not allowed to be mad at him for crossing her boundaries. Also!? Uncomfortable about what she's doing to her own body??????? What!? Getting married does not mean you own your partner's body.

[@ivnoormann7151]

This is when you throw the divorce papers seriously tampons is what is going to end your marriage

[@immystery3946]

For the third story I would've just walked to my room without a word and ate my cake while watching youtube, then when someone or maybe everyone came to check on me I would tell them "you ignored me today on my birthday the one day a year when it's all about me, you did not wish me a happy birthday, and I felt terrible all day because of it. Do you think this party makes up for that, the fact no one acknowledged my day. It's a birthday we celebrate a birthday all day, not just a few hours at the end of the day, if literally one of you wished me happy birthday I would be with you celebrating, but nobody did so I will stay here, you can tell everyone to leave." Then just before they left id say "saying happy birthday won't give away a surprise party, but not saying happy birthday sure will ruin it" then take another bite of cake, possibly ignore everyone for a few days, then do the exact same thing to them by not acknowledging their birthdays until the very end of the day where id text happy birthday right before going bed, but I'm petty like that so

[@flamelily2086]

When I started my periods there were no fancy pads. I had to use a belt with hooks at the back and front and thick pads with loops at each end. They were bulky and uncomfortable. Tampons were available but my mother thought that a 12 year old was too young to use tampons. As soon as I was 16 I started using tampons. I used tampons from the age of 16 until I was 50 and I never had any sign of toxic shock syndrome. OP's bf has no right to tell OP that she can't use tampons! He doesn't have periods and doesn't need to use pads.

[@chaotix_kaida]

3:04 : me anytime I'm in an argument

[@barbatinustesnul6098]

I HAVENT WATCHED U IN SO LONG IM SO GLAD I FOUND YOU

[@jasminepuma8975]

Small story: ( Literally a couple sentence story ) I was on my period in 5th grade, my mom showed up at recess and told me i forgot my pads at home. I went home early and the only person not laughing was the teacher 😭-

[@reneenevermore2771]

The woman with the crazy tampon man is psychotic. He just doesnt want something else inside his wife’s body. She has said she is so much more comfortable using them than pads and he believes his annoyance at it comes first before her comfort. Eff him. Yes, throw the whole husband away in the trash can with the tampons he hates so much.

[@adoubleu7593]

The tampon hating guy said 'taking discomfort into consideration' but does not even consider the fact that the wife is uncomfortable with using pads smh ✋🙄

[@chezperky]

Last story: they literally did even talk to the person. No even a hint about remembering. They were so sad that they got themselves something. Acknowledge then surprise

[@khayrahsteward587]

Her husband doesn't want her to wear tampons because he think of them like sex toys and she is getting pleasure from them unlike pads that you sit on uncomfortably I personally don't wear tampons because of the idea of having something sit inside me is uncomfortable but you can still get TSS from pads and all period products

[@Vibes4Life536]

One with the amputee, they are not wrong at all. The group with her doesn’t have to go through what she does all the time. She needs to shut out people who aren’t going to stick up for her and help her when she’s in need.

[@theblueheart199]

Okay, so am I the only one who gets more excited the day before their birthday than actually on the birthday

[@axel6640]

My story is once me and my family were riding electric bike on a rocky trail, I fell over on gravel and the bike fell on top of my leg. I was find, just some scrapes and bruises. I got up teary eyed and rode to the rest stop and my brother yells at me for falling saying is was ashamed for being in a group with me. Some people called us the accident group and it made me mad. One why did the people care two I was the one who fell. I was so mad. I started crying. Was I overreacting?

[@VanessaRodriguez-qk8vs]

absolutely not i mean unless he wants to carry her uterus for her then a man has no right to have any opinion on tampon usage. you have no right to throw away someone elses property

[@itactuallyperks5273]

Birthday story : I have heard this before where people doing a surprise plan to be quiet at first - but it is a big r i s k to the recipient. Some ppl may even jump under a train - not even joking!!

[@TR_wsr1]

0:48 Honestly, same Ellen, same.

[@ChickenRamen1]

Tampons are expensive 😭😭 WHYYY

[@carolinecupcake9446]

It is not the husband's business what product his partner uses on their period. Everyone is different and different products work out for different people. Pads might work out for some, while for example tampons or period cups might work out better for others. If tampons is what works out for them and is most comfortable for them they should use it. Not what the husband wants them to use because he is "uncomfortable" with them using tampons. Who cares as long as the partner is comfortable and does not bleed through their clothes? People who have periods have to pay for these products themselves and it is expensive. It is really disrespectful to throw things he had not even paid for (and things that was his partners things to begin with). And then she did not have products to deal with the next one. What did he want her to do? Go and buy new products while bleeding through her clothes? He is not the one bleeding so he has no say. If he can't handle that his partner has periods he maybe should be single for the rest of his life or considering dating people who do not experience periods.

[@chardajaf]

1) Not once did hear anything about him explaining WHY he didn't like the thought of you using tampons over pads. And even then, if tampons make your periods that much better and soothes the rides that much more, he needs to understand that and get over it. I've never heard of a man say that they would rather their female S/O use a certain period product over another. Bottom line, regardless of situations and/or different positions for different people, YOUR body belongs to YOU! 2) Did he really think she would magically know that he wanted that spot? No one's a mind reader, get over it. Also, did he really not look in the window to check for the blue card? That alone should've made stopped him in his tracks. And her group are so inconsiderate for not taking her side. Y'ALL got embarrassed because a crowd was forming bc a grown man made as ass outta himself and she defended herself? Y'all pathetic for that. 3)I can see it from both sides. The BP (birthday person) really felt ignored all day. Not once did they get a 'Happy Birthday' that could've prevented them from even getting a cake for themselves let alone walking out. For everyone else, I believe they wanted to emotionally prepare BP for the surprise and make it that much more amazing when the time came. However, for them to call BP an asshole for feeling they way they did is just wrong. They would feel the same way if they went through it.