Don’t Crush Sheria Mattis’s Crush | Lesbian Dating Show | We’re Having Gay Sex Podcast

[@chelseamarionable]

Black listener here 🙋🏾‍♀️ and this episode has me dying 😂 love that Sheria didn’t code switch and Ashley you pointing out the reason for Maddie’s discomfort silence was spot on lol

[@jein8171]

me too 😂😂 the whole thing was so true and funny

[@ashgavs]

Thank you for saying this. I feel like my white listeners/audience members can get so uncomfortable around race! But they are kind and do want to be activists. You gotta stop being uncomfortable first!

[@CHINESE_PRIDE]

@@ashgavs Has the show ever broached the subject of the upcoming "Rainbow Revolution" in China? Now that the lockdowns are over, the LGBTQ community is refusing to stay underground and are meeting severe backlash from the CCP; above and beyond the normal oppression and tyranny. During the Chinese New Year, there are marches planned for every major city. Shanghai, Shenzhen, Chengdu, Henen, Beijing, etc. CCP members are even getting outed and doxxed on China's social media platforms, like Weibo. Things are getting WILD!

[@brin.576]

facts. this ep had me rollinggg 😂 more realness! we see you ashley. keep inviting all voices. 😌

[@deliri0um]

this is honestly my favourite episode I was laughing on the bus and everyone was looking at me

[@kateo5846]

Just a reminder to put Kate's laugh on the soundboard 🥺💕

[@sofimunoz1190]

I Will love to see Jessica Keelgren-fozard as a guest. She is a mother, stylish person and a advocate of Cronic Phatigue and disabilities. She and her wife are super sweet. 🥰

[@thelizardthatkatyaburnt4743]

yess!!!!

[@Blue-pb7kz]

I love the energy of her videos with Stevie Boebi, I feel like her on this pod would be similar vibes!

[@Jenny_796]

YESS. This is almost strange to me that she hasn’t been here already, but also I remember that she was not that comfortable talking about her sex life in her own q n’a so. I know people talk about all kinds of things here and no one forced guests to overshare but maybe that’s not how it looks from the outside.

[@lizhyink5636]

@@Jenny_796 yeah. Fair point.

[@lizhyink5636]

@@Blue-pb7kz Yeah, the friends team up for " Sweet Aunt, Spicy Aunt" themed Q and A episodes. Each of them have Ehler's Danlos Syndrome, too. ( Understood, you probably know that, already.) As noted elsewhere, ( ^ Jenny G), Jessica and her wife, Claude, might be more private. - Not to assume Stevie and her wife, Josie, are not, or to say that this show here would pressure someone beyond their limit. I appreciate the conscious effort to respect people and their boundaries on, "We're Having Gay Sex".

[@meredithcarter2775]

As a proud member of bottom nation, I can confirm that Maddie is the funniest person alive and this is the greatest chart-topping podcast of all time.

[@hurricanecatrina9548]

Can’t wait for the wedding of Ashley and Main Main Gavin ✨💙🏳️‍🌈

[@bluepurplepink]

I lost it when Sheria explained hotteps lmao. I fucking love Sheria, she is so damn funny

[@meelane]

41:32 Ashley's reaction to watching her friends not be able to comprehend that they are loveable people is like more then enough proof for anyone that she really is a kind person who cares about the people around her. (at least i assume. i don't know her) like there is this blink of disbelief she does that just hit me so hard.

[@hurricanecatrina9548]

“YOURE not who I’ve grown old with in my head!!” I’ve literally haven’t heard anything more relatable. Get out of my head Maddie😭

[@bethanynelson6257]

This trio is PREPOSTEROUS HHAHA definitely one of my fav episodes

[@hey_im_shanae2294]

as a black listener, this episode had me CRACKING UP

[@evolutionofshyanne5917]

Same lol

[@2nd3rd1st]

Stop no, you gotta care for your skin more, don't skimp on the cocoa butter

[@spicy_clam]

the hall monitor IS the funniest person alive. thank you ash for bringing them into our lives ♥️

[@fantasticlady1343]

The convo on hotep-ery was hilarious 💀

[@3lolo377]

It’s a really funny and special experience being a regular international listener and being lovingly shouted out by Ashley every week about the text list 😂

[@zuzuzuzuuuu]

same haha

[@Dicen_Delirio]

But!! You can still join to get notified when her special drops :D

[@3lolo377]

@@Dicen_Delirio I think I even tried that but I couldn’t enter my European phone number or the zip code (although I agree for the drops I could put in a fake zip cod if it’s only That)

[@HypeerChick]

@@3lolo377 at least she has the email list ❤

[@kaiterinski]

i’m still in the intro but i LOVE the comedy/interrupting format because it feels like hanging out with my buddies!!! and my attention span could NOT keep up if it was just people telling stories with no flavor!! ashley, ur doing amazing, sweaty, i love you

[@8happyperson]

ashley freaking out about being her mom was my favorite

[@raquel8780]

I like comics' podcasts and of them, I'd say you are quite good at assessing when a guest wants to contribute or interject. Even though you interrupt, you acknowledge when someone wants to add something and you come back to that. At least to me, I can see that you try to make everyone feel seen and heard.

[@rosemargriffith]

Is anyone else sensing a vibe between Maddie and Sheria? I can see those two together 🙂

[@nicolecalderon5644]

We NEED Sheria back. Some of the best energy !!

[@kflahart1997]

Ashley, keeping your personal life private is more than ok. There's nothing wrong with protecting yourself and them!! Also as always love the pod, both of them.

[@maanihunt]

i am guilty of skipping through the ads at the beginning (only because i watch every week and know the ads) but whoever put ashley's face warped is a genius. i love seeing her head move side to side as i skipped. well played to the listeners that skips ads hahaha

[@lizhyink5636]

Sheria Mattis is a wonderful guest, and delightfully engaged in ideas with a, "What if.../ Why not?" kind of approach. Her curiosity and clever comments, (" poly-cule"), played well in this conversation.

[@lindsaytoussaint]

Oh my god I DIED at Sheria’s explanation of hoteps 🤣 dragging them brings me so much joy. IYKYK and I’m glad it wasn’t explained too much (If you’ve ever seen a meme of squidward with a kufi, that’s what it’s making fun of.) Anyway I liked her other episode too- so I can’t wait for her podcast 😮

[@pyramidinu9449]

I think Maddie is extremely sharp and funny. Really, really love the dynamic she brings to the show. Also the show is funny AF. I listen to a lot of comedy podcasts (mostly improv), and have done for at least a decade, and for the last year this has easily been my favourite.

[@Princess_0f_Trees]

The conversation near the end about ppl hating on wellness made me think of a quote I love, "it's no measure of good health to be well adjusted to a sick society."

[@ok-es6vd]

Last week I wrote a comment asking if Ashley is using Main Main for sex until she finds the love of her life and now I firmly believe my comment made her realise main main is the love her life (which we all knew) and she’s going to marry her (this is all because of my comment, I’m so proud of myself because my only objective was to trigger her into realising this)

[@ashgavs]

It was all you. Thank you ❤

[@noahalexis3100]

I would love to see you with Ally Beardsley. They are amazing and I am so curious how Ashley and them would riff the shit out of this podcast. I loved this episode, Sheria is so funny. And the day I will receive this text from Ashley Gavin I will feel really special.

[@monesquely]

Please have Sheria do an episode of YHGS! Her reactions and energy are the best. So glad you brought her back!

[@ashgavs]

We did!

[@monesquely]

@@ashgavs Damn! Just realized it's for the $10 tier and I'm only at the $5 tier. I'm gonna need to upgrade!

[@sami-yc3xj]

Sheria is fucking hilarious and this is without a doubt one of the best episodes yet, I was laughing/screaming the whole time… all three of you are hilarious, brilliant, thank you.

[@hustler212]

47:29 "Yeah you kinda Leak noise like a fog horn" ...🤣 Stauuup Maddie... You're so nonchalantly hilarious.

[@circleofleaves2676]

Ashley, I love the format of the pod. The interrupting riffing off each other is where I get some of the best laughs. I'm so glad Maddie is here, and it was rad to see Sheria back for another episode. You are all fire.

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

Ashley, this was a great episode. Laughter is a great medicine. I hope you know how valuable you are to the world. You are a loving heart with a beautiful soul. Thank you. I love you.

[@Ashley--L]

I love emotional ("soft") Ashley! Also, I enjoyed a lot the talk about relationship patterns! Great episode!!!

[@kiram.3619]

Aaaah! The face swirl in the pre-video part (right at the beginning) really freaked me out for a moment. Nothing is normal or stale here and i love it🥰

[@juliamissgoolia2030]

SO I WAS JUST MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS and working in another tab while listening passively to this, and I heard, "I'm gonna marry this person", and my mouth DROPPED open and I came back to rewind, like..."WHAT???"!!!!!!!

[@juliamissgoolia2030]

Sheria is soooooo gorgeous WHAT

[@JuMixBoox]

I have not gotten past the intro, but I wanted to take a moment to tell you that your are doing great with this podcast. I recently watched another gay comedy podcast because I wanted to see a specific guest and I was very uncomfortable because I'm used to your high standards. They were interrupting after every sentence to make jokes that sometimes just felt awful (like interrupting a story about someone sleeping with an adult as a child to steal their ID to become a stripper with "Yas queen, work" to the person that happened to's face). Granted, I am very sensitive around these things and if I had known the hosts better it might have felt more comfortable, but I just wanted to tell you that this podcast is definitely safe for me and feels good to listen to and that's really hard to achieve.

[@SpaceyD]

Yes this!

[@SourPatch420]

I have been binge watching this podcast on yt and haven't been offended yet. I don't have any queer community so this is my new happy place.

[@chanelmeanor682]

I hate running with a firey passion but I tried the row machine...and that's my jam. I learned that it works out 85% of your muscles WHILE YOU SIT! I have zero problems working out now. I stretch for like 30 minutes, maybe lift some weights and then hop on the rowing machine. Maybe its just finding the right thing.

[@popcorn1304]

This was great! Loved the guest. The hotel price and Ashley calling out the white discomfort was amazing 😂😂

[@Blue-pb7kz]

I'm someone who's super uncomfortable interrupting people and it often makes me feel uncomfortable (just cause i moved to a country - as a really shy kid - where the norm was to interrupt/talk over people a lot more than I was used to, which meant I ended up never ever finishing a sentence, then got blamed for not talking enough), but not in this podcast! I've noticed since I started listening that whenever there's a point that was going to be made, you always make sure to circle back to it, and everyone gets to say their piece in the end, and it all seems very balanced that way!

[@brokebackblazin]

love love LOVED Sheria on the pod! the dynamic here is fantastic, she is absolutely stunning and her energy is such a light! 😍

[@moodymullet]

Oh yeah don’t change the way y’all talk to each other! It’s an amazing podcast and I just started listening a month ago. Love y’all

[@gabriellagreer-benedict9476]

Omg!!! Ashley’s epiphany that she is her mom 👌🏾hilarious!!!!

[@emilymons11]

Maddie is looking 🔥😍 (respectfully)

[@circleofleaves2676]

right? 😍

[@bonappetit173]

This pod is so good. It cheers me up whenever I'm having a hard day!

[@AxlTheo]

This pod always makes me feel better after a long day at work!

[@TimdeVisser86]

Honestly I was just ill and the slow morphing in the beginning was really making me feel like I was hallucinating.

[@deliri0um]

wow I was listening to these podcasts and i had a completely different picture of everyone in my head lmao..

[@lesliea7663]

Love Ashley's colored outfit! The color combination truly reflects the pod well. Absolutely love it.

[@intheclosetwithamigoodheart]

Maddie IS A GENIUS!

[@axelle5609]

I thought I was tripping watching the picture during the first part 😂

[@Christina-Claire]

We spent the whole day trying to get a butterfly out of a classroom. As soon as it got out eaten by bird passing by. 😂

[@randomripoff123]

got to this ep late but i often scroll down and browse the comments during ad reads, so when i scrolled back up this time and saw your face had distorted i didn't know what was happening so thought i was dying for a second. lol

[@randomripoff123]

okay this was a fucking great episode i was cackling the whole time, i LOVE sheria, i hope to see her back soon! ALSO re: the whole thing abt our brains being rigged against us IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY. it's true with EVERYTHING. and then in addition my disabilities do that, too. i am stuck in a spiraling hamster wheel of impossible/inaccessible solutions and treatments. lol it's basically like oh i should do A to help w this mental illness thing and disability thing oh but uh. doing A actually worsens this other disability thing, which worsens this other mental illness thing. well at least i can do B, right? to help w those things? maybe balance it? nope, B actually worsens these other mental illnesses and disabilities...fuck. goddamnit. okay but what about--nope. C's off the table, too. FUCK. so i'm basically playing whack-a-mole. like i recently got up to sit at my desk more and do some more work and creative stuff which helps my mental health and gives me more energy. but it wrecks my back and neck bc of EDS, no matter what i do. which means i'm in constant pain. to solve that pain, i have to accommodate in other ways--which usually means triggering other disorders and transferring that EDS pain somewhere else in the body. lol it literally went: neck/shoulder, back, tailbone, hips, feet and ankles, hands and fingers, and now we're back to my back and neck/shoulder. lol and it immobilizes me and prevents me from doing things that help. and when i have energy to exercise, the ways i can exercise are REALLY limited bc of some issues i have, but i always end up triggering my EDS. i can't even do PT bc it triggered some NEW issues w an autoimmune thing. lol it's REALLY annoying and frustrating, as i'm sure you know w your ongoing hip pain. fucking sucks, bro. and like as a stupid smaller example: anxiety upsets my stomach. which triggers digestive issues i have. which makes me feel sick. which makes me anxious bc i have phobias around that stuff. which makes me feel more sick. which makes me feel more anxious. and on and on and on. lol

[@tris5602]

Sheria's Ashley impersonation 💀💀💀

[@princessbablaschmabladingd7451]

Sheria is a riot!!

[@dorle7881]

This episode had me laughing SOOO MUCH. Thank you Ashley for this amazing podcast

[@emiliap617]

Sheria’s hilarious Would also love to see eman el husseini back on the pod!!!

[@JennySieck]

Bingo on the aloofness conversation...

[@ihatemickiegee]

Little Women is actually just the name of a book about all of ashley’s smalltime heartbreaks

[@elizabethbrown5289]

Congrats Maddie. I'm glad you got help! ❤️ We love having our hall monitor.

[@elizabethbrown5289]

Also thank uou for helping normalize mental health and getting support when needed.

[@kiranrao621]

the chaos in this is so much fun

[@schwesterino1111]

funniest guest ever

[@maribytheocean]

I love it when POCs are on the pod ❤

[@hannarutcarlsson6342]

This episode was a masterpiece

[@Lesbiel]

ashley you better not hide that plaque behind you!!! display it loud & proud!!

[@elliliveswhere]

Brilliant episode, loved every bit of it! Sheria is so incredibly relatable 🥰

[@gryranfelt5473]

This episode was one of my favorites ever. The energy was just through the fucking roof

[@lonnieloupaints]

Sheria might be my favorite reoccurring pod guest

[@NurseNat23]

Glad to hear you are also taking a break when you can! Love your content! Keep doing you boo 🙌🏽😊

[@oliviamay4315]

Please come to Little Rock, Arkansas. Everyone is gay here. I legitimately don’t know a single heterosexual and we need more stuff to do so I think your tickets would sell really well here.

[@dreamngo4it943]

Definitely one of the best episodes so far! A great trio!

[@internalfugue16]

gonna have to rewatch this one to let it all sink in, so good.

[@emerson1998]

I'm losing my mind at this episode, my favourite yet

[@phoebeats]

i did notice that i had wanted to hear more of what angel had to say a couple times in the episode before this but the riffs with Hannah Berner (and her excellent ally questions) were really engaging and it kinda gave me as a listener a break from wanting to drain a life story out a podcast guest and instead just enjoy some friends in a hilarious conversation about their lives as a group..as a loyal listener thank you for staying true to your vision of your podcast, your talents and your work p.s. forgot to mention that i needed to come back to life after dying from laughing nonstop to the point that i have chiseled abs now and i didn't need a heater anymore because of all the body heat that was generated

[@laine80]

My face always hurts from laughing when watching you, but today was the best! 😂

[@jehoqz]

@ashleygavins face & watching the wheels in motion over the ‘Failed Animal Release’ video bit had me right with her. Sure it’s nature but who searches that ish out to cheer them up?! Haven’t caught the pod in a min since @kate left … not sure on this host. LOVED THIS GUEST 🫶🏼

[@wanderingphotomagician]

When you started listening to the podcast trying to find connection & explore your place in the queer world, & realize it might be the ‘crazy black femme’. Who knew?! 😂😂😂

[@adablablabla]

I`ve never seen anything more relateble...

[@SpaceyD]

Psychotropic medication and meditation have literally saved my life 🙌

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Had one of the worst Mondays but this cheered me up as always thank u Ashley love and appreciate this and u so much ❤️ 🏳️‍🌈

[@kennyjac]

I forgot to post my cropped Bottom Nation shirt in the Discord!! I saw Ashley in Irvine and she complimented the crop and I felt like such a fashion icon 😂 💁

[@LilThreat88]

I'm glad Maddie is feeling better! Great pod

[@anthonyandrogyny3932]

Just me double checking I’m the biggest Alex fan in the KZbin comments as well. Mission success

[@marblejernkerns]

Why do I never learn to turn my volume down before starting the pod lmao

[@yolier]

This was really one of the greatest episodes ever. And I say this as a white man 😂 Love you 💜

[@whatnowwithkayden]

Loved listening to how important exercise and meditation is, I would recommend the wim hof method for improving meditation, exercise and chronic pain!!

[@eza3381]

Don't think I can get on the text list from fucking scotland but my god if you get a show in L.A in april like fuck me up cos I will be there.

[@FZ-bk9kh]

Congratulations on 150 pods! 🎊🎉

[@Lolajoy27]

Chaotic episode, loved it!

[@w4wumbo257]

You all are so hilarious!...Bottom Nation Tees are sold out aww

[@ForbiddenFractal]

love you all, Thank you for being You

[@nathanmoranx2105]

I'm having a good day and this episode is so good. Each of the trio contributes so well in their own way. I thoroughly enjoyed!

[@daneckabargas6690]

This was such a great episode, love the guests as always

[@amelieleclerc1467]

This was an amazing episode !

[@RioRav]

So I'm laughing my ass of at this episode because I'm fully gay now but I was still entertaining dating cis-men at some point and as soon as they heard I was nonbinary they were ALL asking me if I want to peg them so can't relate 😂

[@ninaandsimone3854]

you should bring on Ethel Cain on the show once that would be legendaryyy

[@ladykaede91]

Amazing episode! I loved every minute of it! ❤

[@ninaandsimone3854]

You should totally do Laura Jane Grace next omg

[@annarobbiewilcox6347]

ashley’s rly got the dogs out this whole episode

[@RioRav]

Also as an autistic person I would like to say that the things that work for neurotypicals dont work the same for us so don't feel the pressure to take advice for neurotypicals abt mental health and don't feel bad when it doesn't work for you; its not meant to work for us. We work almost completely opposite to them, our bodies produce melatonin in the day for example. Don't force yourself to go out and talk to people, feel free to limit your socializing, pets are great and mainly online friendships can be enough, you need to know what works for you and separate it from trying to fit into neurotypical view of normalised socializing. Drugs dont usually work for us the same way either so yeah they can be a negative experience or take a lot of trying to find something that works. Nature does work so a walk is good if you have nature but in a city it might not be good for you, its best to time it to the early morning when its more quiet if you can. Exercise can be difficult for sensitivities and thats okay. Slow gentle exercise like stretching and yoga, maybe swimming if you can handle it sensory wise. Dancing is great. Daily dance breaks are so good for you. And your same-foods are ok! The most important thing is that youre eating ❤

[@RioRav]

Talk therapy (CBT) also is not always great for autistics who are already too in their heads analyzing and overtly self-aware and many autistics feel ABA is torture/basically conversion therapy and common consensus is that DBT is ABA for adults so those therapies can be harmful with ideas to "fix" austistic people and induce more masking which is unhealthy for us in the long run, but some individuals find DBT useful so idk. I'd think its best to try different art therapies that can bring out of the head mode into the body and enjoyment of free expression and offer some relief and joy amidst stress similar to stimming and special interests.

[@RioRav]

I also have positive experiences about daily gratefulness-practice in general and meditation but I know its not good for everyone like if you (also) have adhd walking meditation might be a better fit!