Don’t let anything control the speed of healing your trauma

[@MorganSolo]

Wanted to take a break from shooting in my cramped studio, but the dogs must have knew the camera was on, so enjoy them acting crazy in the background as we talk about finding that "sweet spot" when it comes to the speed of healing trauma, and how we can't let outside voices or past mistakes dictate our pace.

[@amiek9269]

I’m going to send this to my son. He try’s to rescue me from AZ, rather than homeless I stay in the only place I can stay which is beyond filthy. I can’t cook as there is no fridge etc., when I go to my sons in CA I’m expected to instantly change from my deep depression and PTSD, plus childhood trauma. It’s never fast enough for him. I just get to a place where I’m not drinking 12 beers a day and smoking ciggs like a chimney like I do when I’m in AZ. WITHIN days I’m so close….. down to 4 beers and 10 ciggs instead of 40 and BAM he sends me back to AZ. To the filth. Sets my mental state back to zero. I can’t explain what you just explained in this video. I’m to damaged from 6 years old till now at 60 in April. I just can’t ever find the words. At this point he’s given up on me, which robs me of my two precious grandchildren who adore me. 6 and 3. The 6 yo FTs me crying G’Ma I miss you please come back. I was so close to healing and caring about my health and well being. It just wasn’t quick enough for my son and his wife. I was literally one or two weeks away. I even had Drs appts to get on the meds I needed, again. Back in purgatory in AZ and want to give up on life. I’m just not brave enough to die. Thx for this video. Feel free to read or quote from this comment to the public if you care to. I’ll try to stay strong and keep you updated. Luv you and Stephi. 💕

[@52Paulis]

AmieK, Your post brought tears to my eyes. I'm damaged from 13 to now 65. I've finally got to one slow step forward at a time from many years of rushing one step forward and three steps back or one step forward and two steps back. The key is that you don't give up on yourself. One small step forward for you. Baby steps at your own pace. Remember old wounds are very deep, and they can reopen at the worst times. Be well.

[@amiek9269]

@@52Paulis thank you so much. You’re so right about one step forward and three steps back. It’s so exhausting. I wish my family understood. They just don’t because it’s so hard to put into words. Good luck to you as well. 💕

[@carebare996]

"it's never fast enough for him" Your son has 2 small children who truly do not need to be exposed to your addiction issues and trauma- and blaming your son and his wife for not putting up with your problems is not a good mindset to have. He has not robbed you of your grandchildren- your addiction has done that, and perhaps some actions that you have not included here. I'm sorry about your lifelong trauma but you have to realize you probably exposed your own son to that while he was growing up, and now he is protecting his own family. He can love you and want the best for you but it is not his responsibility to try to make you better- you have to do that for yourself but do not blame him and his family for not providing more.

[@amiek9269]

@@carebare996 I hear what you’re saying but you are wrong, without knowing my life and my son situation. I’m sorry for the trauma you suffered growing up. May God Bless you (and I) both with more understanding and without judgement.

[@ksmith7402]

So proud of you for being a voice (and heart) opening up about healing publicly. You are seen, loved and supported! 💚🙏 thanks for doing the hard, good work Morgan!

[@kimsparks7871]

You are a wise person. Sending you strength. Really enjoyed this talk.

[@52Paulis]

Love the dogs. Time is the key. When I was young I healed from physical injuries super fast and the world thought I healed from trauma just as fast because I buried it and hid it well. Later those old traumas bubbled to the surface and nearly ended me. Many times I tried to fix them quickly and it usually made things worse. Today my physical injuries take forever to heal and they get worse if I push too hard. I use some of those pains to remind me that for both my mental and physical health slow and steady wins the race. Thank you for this Morgan.

[@livingwithlacey3052]

Very well said! Everyone is on their own journey in this life. Everyone is on their own pursuit to happiness and that is something we each have to find within ourselves. You are so wise and so strong, Much love ❤

[@catloverKD]

I'm so glad you found a therapist that works for you. It's easier to help others because we have distance and objectivity. We know they deserve grace because they're human, but we don't because we know too much about ourselves that we think disqualifies us from the same. You did the best you could to survive and carry something too heavy, you aren't a bad person. I think I've mostly healed, but there are still pieces of it in there and once in a while, they'll show up. I probably need to go back to my own therapist to check in, or find a new one since she may be on the verge of retiring.

[@lastoeck]

Thank you for sharing this. I am extremely hard on myself and not allowing myself any grace or leeway regarding past behaviors. I don't have anyone pushing me to heal faster, but I feel that pressure within, because every day I continue to dwell in the past and let it dictate the present, is a day where I'm not living free of those burdens and being my authentic self.

[@crystalh3248]

I needed this more, then you know! I'm on a ledge right now!! Thank you Morgan!!

[@mrschewyreeves]

You have no idea how much this video has helped me. I'm slowly growing as a person and heal my trauma, and it really does hurt when you're a loved one telling you're not good enough, You're not weird they think you should be. Thank you for this video

[@rohanmullin2566]

Omg this resinated so much because i promote a positive attitude to help others to hide from my pain. It hurts to hear your words but please never stop

[@-laurel]

This is another video of yours that I will listen to a few times over. I have recently started counselling after moving away for college and it has been one of the best and difficult experiences of my life. What you said here really built on what I am working through right now. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences! I look forward to your next video. Hope you have a good weekend Morgan!

[@Dempseyniamh]

I resonate with this massively, I have definitely rushed my healing for others. Soon I will part ways with someone I love so dearly( we planned our break up for when I leave to travel solo) Yet I need to give myself the grace and space to heal alone and give myself my full attention for once in my life. Even if that means walking away from someone I am in love with. Letting go is tough. Thank you for sharing Morgan, you seem like a really nice guy.

[@Sinsearach]

That's really admirable, enjoy the solo travel 🌍

[@Dempseyniamh]

@@Sinsearach Thank you 🥰🥰

[@Sinsearach]

@@Dempseyniamh just curious where abouts you heading? always curious to know where ppl are travelling to, especially solo (I want to in future too 🤞)

[@Dempseyniamh]

@@Sinsearach Headed to Portugal first. To work in a dog shelter and surf 🙂 The possibly the Azores. A group of Islands in the atlantic that belong to Portugal. I only heard about them recently. Have you heard of them ? travelling solo is amazing and scary and all the emotions in between 🙂

[@asner1]

I love your gentle narrative. Your voice is very calming - and words so sensible. I wish you nothing but happiness.

[@misskrystyna5038]

Everyone is dealing with their own things, but life is SO short. It is your choice to be wise or wounded. Don’t focus too much on the past, it is already gone. Live in the now. You can suffer your past or suffer what will happen, neither will help you. You need to handle your own thoughts and emotions. Live in the now. You must be able to make yourself internally a happy blissful person, if you’re not that’s the worst form of slavery.

[@Youcan-s2b]

Thank you so much 😊❤

[@morningstarlux]

Great job. V impressed!

[@DolllyDarkness]

This is great input and your voice is so nice and soothing to listen to. Loved hearing your thoughts and feelings on trauma and healing. I can definitely relate with the points you made. Much support!

[@michetrue-aspoonielife4me389]

You're right, Morgan; everyone's trauma is personal & subjective to them. Only you can navigate the waters of your tangled feelings & face them head on. You have to take those steps at your pace & nobody can push you to go faster. Is it painful? Yes! Will you lose people along the way? Yes. They're going through things themselves by trying to find their sense of self & peace. You can't help them with that, like they can't help you. Like a bird in a cage, who needs to fly free to find their peace. Sending you hugs, love & light! I know you'll overcome everything in your own time. Things, people & situations are placed before you in life as learning lessons. We thank, love the lessons we were taught, then let them go. 🤙✌🤗

[@Brandi.65]

You know a lot of young girls especially. Try to mold into what their boyfriend is. And then another they mold into what they think he wants. Too many people don't be themselves and their individuality. True love is patient 💞💞 great video

[@caitlinburnspeople]

Thank you for posting this. It’s very needed. The line “I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom take it,” came to mind from Alice in wonderland.

[@pammym190]

You did great Morgan!! I’m glad you found a therapist that works… believe me.. it’s the same with physical therapists for me!😡 ✌️

[@indieannajonesing]

thank you for saying that over and over and over again like a mantra

[@Katie_Jo_21]

Been learning some of the same lessons in the midst of great grief since 2020. It is really hard to love people through it, tbh, when boundaries were crossed and folks think that they know you and your and life yet did not ask you know? Making one way statements is not knowing another. You can not check up on friends and family via social media only, because that is not the real them. I repeat, you can not use social media primarily to check up on real life friends or family in a authentic way. (Cause I know my friends in the comments may need to hear this too) So the anger. It is great. 😡 But as I post less and less and stand for myself more and more. I feel stronger and feel like I have a better start to continue to stitch up myself. Cause, we never really heal enough to pull out the stitches. And that is because we are human. To expect being healed fully they are basically asking me to set aside my humanity for their comfort. There is no entirely end result in trauma or grief. And that is not cool. But the great news is that we are survivors and have the blessing and grace to keep living and adapting to have a better life and joy. Sometimes all we need is for someone to show up without expectations.

[@tahoesnowlion]

As always, great words of wisdom.

[@markbeauchamp2053]

As you age, your outlook actually improves because you begin to realize that your life is yours and DILLIGAF applies. We all make mistakes but, at 65, I can tell you that most of them never really mattered to the degree that we have assigned to them. We are all messed up in the head to some degree but this decreases with the wisdom gained through aging. (My personal experience).

[@MichiaMakes]

Healing and grieving are not items on a checklist you can check off and be about your merry life. It’s a process. Just learning HOW it works for YOU is a process. I’m not sure how or why, but 40 seems to be a magical change in life when we stop judging our process and accept it’s how we need to do the work.

[@beyondthereef4096]

great message, morgan🕊️

[@kathrinefeinstein2595]

I Love this talk. I totally get where you come from. I think i need to find a therapist as well

[@sneakyprawn131]

I keep seeing people comment you and Stephi broke up 🥺 please put my mind at ease and tell me you didn't, you're both so lovely 😩💜

[@MorganSolo]

We have both mutually decided that our lives our on different paths and we are splitting. No hate, drama or bs. It's just what's best for both of us at this current time.

[@sneakyprawn131]

@@MorganSolo Dude so sorry for asking, I had too many gins and shouldn't be in your guys business! Love you both, you're great people. And that doesn't change. Thx for even replying. Hope you're both OK. BTW this was a good video for healing. thank you 💜

[@darbonixmaximus338]

I dunno if anyone else needed this but I did for sure

[@darbonixmaximus338]

now I'm crying... very well said

[@sxcredjones4034]

This made me really think about my decisions in life

[@Brandi.65]

Morgan hang in there 💞🤗 we love 🤗🤗🤗 you

[@Herzeleid1985]

My latest therapist wouldn’t let me talk down to myself either. I’m incredibly hard on myself.

[@frankie7978]

thank you, I needed to hear that.

[@drcracinggarage8047]

Well said Morgan

[@biancahand7266]

Things change.

[@jessicadiane049]

You really help me, thank you

[@Brandi.65]

It took me yrs. To heal from the trama. I had with my EX. Husband. But I healed thank God!

[@jane2145]

I needed this advice thank you :))

[@QueenVampB]

Never been able to find a therapist that works good with me since I was 9 and I'm 26 now I just deal with shit myself

[@amybranham2674]

Hello morgan how is your cf going mines feels like I don't have it anymore, but now my MS has got to me, I have gotten really fat on this I started at 150 n now I am 215..but I AM HEALTHY..TAKE CARE HOW ARE YOU N STEPH DOING?

[@dollyrocker40]

you have a really nice voice :) faye London uk :)

[@hondafreedom9329]

I like your video. I feel stuck.

[@sadie4me2]

Hi Morgan, why does the room look empty? Hope all is well.

[@MorganSolo]

Cause still haven't found something to take the spot the Christmas tree was in. It's basically became the dog corner now.