Don’t Rush Me to Forgive

[@mariethomas58]

We usually do more damage to ourselves when we pretend to be ok.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Please say it

[@jesuisleconqueror]

Wow 👏🏾

[@valeriebillings7248]

Agree

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

most definitely

[@valed5464]

Verrrry well said as usual my sister 🎉 im a older woman who has finally figured out after decades of trying to work it out with those who NEVER valued me that it's time to move on 😢 forgive ( in ur own time of course) and keep it movin!! It is what it is, I'm ready to LIVE LIFE❤ theyve stolen too much already, plzz dont give them any more of ur power

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yesss!!!!! On your own time!!!

[@valed5464]

Tyuuu for the deep treasures u continually bring to those of us who desperately need it ❤

[@Kitu74]

I've recently broke free from the negative energy ..that I allowed people to impose on my Sprit and as I Iook back.. I say to myself.. how could you have allowed that ?..Now I'm in the process of forgiving myself..nurturing myself to becoming whole and giving myself the love and encouragement..that I use to give to others..throught this journey..I've discovered..I'm my greatest currency..Peace

[@NattyByNature-]

Everyone says forgive but no one give workable steps. I pray every night to forgive my relatives for how they’ve treated me and the things they’ve said behind my back. It hasn’t come yet but hopefully it will because I need peace.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Absolutely! Take the time you need to forgive FOR Real!!!

[@amonioda]

I’m going through the same with my mom and sister. This video gave me a lot to think about. Is it possible to forgive folks and still not want to be around them? It’s the emotional immaturity and verbal abuse that I can’t stand to be around anymore.

[@NattyByNature-]

@@amonioda of course. Forgive doesn’t mean to reconcile. That’s the false narrative we’ve been fed. I love my mother and sisters but I’ll never share myself with them again. There’s no malice or ill will because if I can help from a far o will but I don’t want them in my life.

[@NattyByNature-]

@@amonioda same exact for me with my mother and sisters and I refuse to let them keep gaslighting me.

[@amonioda]

@@NattyByNature- i appreciate you so much for this 💕 thank you! Here’s to protecting our energy! 🥂

[@freemanhakeem3151]

That was deep ❤ they dont understand that the heart has to be Aligned with that decision you definitely can not force it. 😢

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yesssss

[@preparingpeople4success542]

Yes, beautiful! Suffering is when you still want to be attached to the situation or relationship when the value of the relationship has changed, and acceptance is truly a process. The stages of grief is denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance....Love your energy ❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

All of this! The last sentence sums in up completely

[@juliamitchell2845]

Thank you Lisa. I have been dealing with forgiveness, asking God to help me……. then I open my iPad and hear your powerful words! Thank you again. 🥰

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness!!!! On time ❤️❤️❤️

[@Thatqueenzo333]

I needed this! I have struggled and fought to be heard when I say that I need time to process things that require forgiveness! Being forced to do it now bc “God says we should” and while I know that’s true I know that God is graceful enough to know it takes time and my personal timetable doesn’t look anything like the next persons. Thank you for this❤️❤️❤️

[@SeasonedDialogue]

“God is graceful enough to know it takes time” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@madaven818]

God was speaking through you today. I appreciate you, i appreciate your message 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you and you’re welcome

[@QueenRoni28]

Thank you 😊

[@stefan1dis]

Thank you my sister for this awesome discussion on a topic that keeps us on emotional and spiritual handicaps not allow us to fully walk in fullest and glory of our lives. I don’t desire to be handicap in this way anymore.❌♿️🙏🏿🥰

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You better say it!!!!

[@dawnellis7217]

True words you can be unforgiving for a while then pick your self up and dust your self off for give keep it moving so you can reap the rewards by forgiving and not holding on it stops you in your tracks

[@SeasonedDialogue]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@chr85168]

God knows timing. This video came to me when I have been needing encouragement on my healing journey. It is hard enough to forgive without people pressuring us to, that’s just not right. Thank you for holding space for that and for the deeper hurts that we may go through.❤

[@tanyacooper7243]

I forgive, but my soul and spirit must take time to agree and become aligned with my decision.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Absolutely ❤️

[@Bri4r3a1]

Forgiveness is the opus of free will. Bc in and of itself … it is a choice. And maybe that’s why free will has been one of the hardest things for humans to bear

[@karik726]

I’m working on letting go this Lent season. When really it’s hand in hand with forgiveness

[@missjones8123]

Your perspective always mirrors mine i wanna send this video to all my family members that preach forgiveness without even thinking!

[@te809]

I just love the way you give your perspective!!! Awesome 💜🙏🏽 Great message

[@yvonnebroadnax2648]

This message was powerful,I am at work while listening to this post,and I can't help but to feel different forms of emotions flowing through my inner man,but if also allowed me to think about the steps that is needed to let go and let Jehovah .... Thank you for this post 🥰

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@presleysamson9764]

This is soul soothing.

[@LisaLisaCJ]

I always felt like we struggle with forgiveness because usually the person that harmed us has not REPENTED, or even shown the bare minimum. We can forbear but I don’t think you can truly forgive without that person without them showing true repentance and sorrow for what they have done. At least the relationship can never be restored fully but that’s my opinion. I have some festering within with some people and mistrust.

[@BobThebuilder-cc4uh]

Omg I love how she broke it down it hit home

[@leemashonbrown5009]

Thank you Lisa, I loved the way you broke forgiveness done to reality. Growing up you were told the importance of forgiveness and felt it should be a right now thing even when your heart didn’t align. I believe we should all make an effort to work on it but even God knows it’s a process. I’m on a healing journey and I believe healing is a lifestyle event. Especially due to the ugliness we can meet in our everyday lives. Thank you for clarity. Understanding that God will forgive us for ANYTHING. But there is one exception and that is we: Have to forgive others. We can’t accept forgiveness and not be willing to forgive.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

The last line….. absolutely on point!

[@audreybeverly1917]

You're right! You're not God but you're definitely an Angel 😇🙏🏽 Thank you so much for that message of love

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness

[@elrnballday]

What I understand is to apply the energy is more draining than to heal and move along. It take work to remain in the trauma as well. We need some tools to make us say I don’t have to sit in this anger or pain … hope this makes since. Oh and you will need to cut off the root of the problem unless you remain in the situation and play your part

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Absolutely ❤️

[@VDCDRE83]

I take this as a clear warning from God with this Message,My mother name is Lisa and my Grandmother name is Marie, and plus my ex just love bomb and gaslighted Me and Made me out to be the bad guy when she did me wrong and narcissistic ways along with separation to push me away without letting me state my point of her vaults only to be separation from her to cheat and then relocate to move out of state with no regard or remorse of any apologies for her sabotage to our relationship,I told her I forgive her for no fault on my account simply for my peace to love and release her,I must move forward, highly appreciate your advice and on time Message May you continue to be blessed 🙏 ❤Lisa Marie

[@mariethomas58]

Lisa Marie always listening from Trinidad. You are very refreshing!!❤❤❤

[@lwg856]

Yes she is very refreshing... very very and may I add one more VERY REFRESHING!❤🌹

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you so very much… so much love

[@godsfav]

Such a groundbreaking message. I found myself in the space of saying nope ....i wont forgive this time and here comes this message. Thank you beautiful. 🎉 Forgivness and the heart has to mesh.. wheww

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yes indeed!!!

[@CreatedSpacespodcast]

Always enjoy your words of wisdom Queen🙏🏽❤️

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you

[@keenahaveyaseena]

it is most definitely a process!

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤❤❤

[@fdoctor79]

Forgiveness like healing can be instantaneous or a process. If you confess it with your mouth it is important to believe it in your heart. That's true forgiveness to me. Tfs

[@SeasonedDialogue]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@shoshanahite3024]

Thank you very much for this beautiful wisdom and very needed right now Abba Yah bless you abundantly

[@_Renee2]

🫶🏾 thank you for being you and sharing your wisdom.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness! So welcome ❤️

[@natalieshaw1897]

Amen, I love the way you break it down. That really help me a lot. So thank you 🙏🏾 ❤

[@tanyajames1355]

Lord help me in my Heart to Forgive! I want to forgive and i forgive, help me with this hurt! I want to Obey you! Touch me Where the wounds run deep! I want to Forgive because you are Lord and Messiah! 👑🛐Lord you said when i stand praying if i have anything against anyone, forgive them so that your Father in Heaven may Forgive you your Sins! Help me Lord from the Pain and Trauma that was caused! Only you know! Thank you for meeting us where we are! 👑🛐🙌🏽🥲

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ on your own time

[@amgrand6610]

Thank you my Virgo Sister 🤎

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome🤎

[@kcourtney6826]

My mother recently visited and we had a discussion about forgiviness and "holding grudges" she was referring to an individual we know that doesn't speak to another party because of a conflict that arose, my mother felt this person should forgive and not hold a grudge and I agreed with her while forgivness is important its for the person who was offended not the offending party. Forgiveness does not mean we go back to the way things used to be, because thats not possible, there are consequences for actions and words we say.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

This indeed! So many levels to forgiveness and what it looks like in different situations!

[@femaleanonymous8016]

Been abused all my life, was involved with. A Christian community, they always ptessured me to forgive my abusers/rapist etc immediately. They imoosed so many harsh rules, shaked their head at me if i didnt abide, forced me to drop everything and isolate myself from anyone who was not Christian. It was extremely toxic and stressful, caused my mental health to decline.

[@lvme718]

So grateful I found your channel. Your such a beautiful spirit that I am grateful to help me in my stuck areas in my life at the moment thank you.❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Awww thank you so much

[@KOXSKIN]

Colossians 3:12-13: “As the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Agreed

[@teliabattle1160]

Facts

[@denisehooper8280]

Thank you. I don't know if I have forgiven, but I do know im walking thru my process and hope to get to the final stage of my trauma soon

[@NuNu-kt8fm]

Thank you again omg yet again always on time always a word spoken so true and clear. I love you glad I found you seriously 😢

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You’re so welcome

[@CaribbeanQueen513]

Very well said. Nothing happens before it’s time. Blessings

[@KiidKira]

thank you so much for the message, blessings to you beautiful.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome and thank you ❤️

[@Joan1able]

Thanks peace and blessings lady😊

[@SeasonedDialogue]

The same to you

[@blessedshiningstar5252]

You are a beautiful soul among us ❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

🩷🩷🩷🩷

[@DJChefTony]

Thank you my spiritual sister 👨🏾‍🦲😊in the dot once again, love you 🙏🏽❤️

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤️❤️❤️

[@nettetyson9316]

Thank you very much 🙌🏾 well said 🔥💯💯✅️

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome

[@nettetyson9316]

May God continue to bless you 🙌🏾💯

[@kwamanewoodhouse3191]

This is good and I needed it ❤ thank you.. going thru the process is difficult. 🙏🏾 thank you!

[@ShannonElainee]

I needed to hear this! I believe that’s why I’m suffering with trust issues now. I was quick to forgive thinking things would be better for me but in reality my heart wasn’t ready to forgive. That’s why I’m battling with trusting him. I constantly think the worst about my partner when I’m not with him. Like is he cheating while I’m not around.. deep down I feel like he’s not but it’s the past trauma we went through over powers my thoughts. But Thank you for this!

[@Selftherapybybria]

Love this. Thank you QUEEN!

[@SeasonedDialogue]

So very welcome

[@Lyfestylewidlexxi]

I needed to see this ✨🙏🏾🇯🇲

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤️❤️❤️

[@shakorasykes8583]

I am so grateful for you! ❤

[@LoveAP-fk2cl]

I need you to restock your affirmation cards, ma'am! I intentionally put this in my April budget, and it is sold out. I will keep an eye out for them to return, I can't wait to support you!! 😊😊

[@charisma4200]

OMW thank you for this Lisa🥹🥹🥹💯💯💯

[@kevzbee]

Needed to hear this 🥺🤎

[@lolachlih3136]

I appreciate your words of wisdom ❤❤ it took me along time to forgive and heal myself each time you heal the better you feel,the more your able to forgive thank you for this powerful message!

[@TheMakeupTraveler]

I needed this, my God, my God!!!!

[@SeasonedDialogue]

🩷🩷🩷

[@SacredDiamond999]

Thank soo much for this beautiful message

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome

[@christelarmstrong9598]

Thank u sister bless great knowledge

[@Mamajane059]

Thank you 💐💕

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome

[@grizeldagrootboom6005]

Love you sis from South Africa 🌍❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

So much love!

[@darahbahtyah3581]

I NEED HELP!! I'm SO desperate to heal but I don't know where to start. I've NEVER been this broken. I NEED HELP!

[@sharonlee604]

Blessings! I want to applaud you for being brave enough to acknowledge that you need help. That is your starting point! I personally recommend therapy. Therapy will help you to heal. You deserve to be the best version of yourself💖!

[@darahbahtyah3581]

@@sharonlee604 I want and need therapy. Unfortunately I don't have insurance and the free resources for vouchers in my area are closed. I've just been grasping at straws, I do have someone in my life that has some experience in this area but I don't want to dump on her all the time. I truly appreciate you taking the time to encourage me!!

[@itsmeveronicaveronica]

❤❤ Journaling can go a long way. I’m also starting my journey towards “somatic release.” So far I’ve learned that healing is mental (knowledge and therapy), spiritual and physical (your body stores emotional memories)

[@darahbahtyah3581]

@@itsmeveronicaveronica This hurt happened on 12/11/2023 at 3:34pm... Since then I've filled 2 1/2 journals with my thoughts, feelings and emotions. I need help navigating through these things. Thank you for your encouragement!! ❤️

[@itsmeveronicaveronica]

@@darahbahtyah3581 I hear you, I see you. I'm so sorry for your hurt ❤ I believe for you that you'll find that healing and freedom. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

[@NezterBedford]

You're a beautiful woman of spirit, mind & soul. Keep holding on to your peace for sustainability. I'm still musing on your teachings of self love. As long as we do it together as people. Yes, Love God... then secondly love self... in order to love others. Forgive them Father for they know not what they do. Forgiveness is clean moral, only but under sincere acknowledgement from those who ask forgiveness. As too, I ask Lisa, to forgive me for once debating her sincere sharing of "self love." Understanding each other keeps peace to dwell among us.

[@geeadjoaadowa2402]

Greetings from Accra 🇬🇭 Love love the ring… I have a similar one!!😍 Forgiving is definitely a journey!! It works tho!!!⚡️☮️🤎

[@SeasonedDialogue]

It does ❤️❤️

[@geeadjoaadowa2402]

@@SeasonedDialogue Have you visited Africa before ?🌍

[@priscillacartagena2774]

I needed this. ❤

[@starshine7005]

Loved this 📖🙌🏽💓

[@missminnie1493]

Thank you so much for this Ms. Lisa

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome!

[@khalilahkashiff5286]

Thank you❤

[@Luv4ou]

🖤 so well put together .

[@Dj_Cali_G]

Some things can just NEVER be forgiven. And THATS OK. Peace love and blessings sis.

[@unknownteddykdf]

Thank you.

[@heidimetz7698]

Interesting read for you might be the book 'body keeps the score' about trauma

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Very good book 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@mith5271]

❤❤❤thank you, beautiful. This message is so needed in my life.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You’re so welcome

[@dawngoundon7218]

Wow thankyou ❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You're welcome 😊

[@Express2BU]

❤ 5:06 deeply

[@aliciahartline4870]

Thank you

[@moochnhowzn]

I wish this was around 2 months ago to show my lovely partner of 23 years. She was so sweet but internally lost and broken. She was aggressively raped for years as a child and left confused and the only person who showed her love was her father who died when she was 13 . We have been together since she was 17 and I have loved her and been by her side since but even though we were extremely cuddly and loving when we were together (which was a lot of the time ) she was easily distracted by people when she was out in the world and attracted to the wrong people. This led to her taking drugs and alcohol to soothe her depression but it came at a high cost which led to a repeat of her younger self reliving her sexual abuse conditioning. This has been destroying me over the years and a brain injury I received from an accident didn’t help my ability to help. I spent alot of time and emotional energy trying to help her through and although she loved my voice and touch she was so lost and also hated herself from what she had done to me out of her pain and addictions so eventually she took her life while being trapped inside an alcoholic depression. I am so lost right now and wanted to die to be with her (which she was aware of my devotion and love). Being so attached for so long as we spent nearly all of our time together and I couldn’t ever imagine being without her or with anyone else . I can’t go out in public because it makes no sense to me and seems empty and uncomfortable. I have lost a huge part of my life and myself and feel I failed her. She had become so good at deception and hiding her medication and alcohol that she was in the bedroom 10 feet away from me in the lounge room when she passed away. I tried to resuscitate her but it wasn’t enough. Damaged children become broken adults just struggling to survive and to find a reason for living? Even when being loved deeply and daily its like filling up a bucket with a hole in it and watching the love drain away. I’m to lost to know what to say so I will stop . ❤

[@casscass230]

I’m wondering if this also applies to emotional abuse… I feel like it’s also a form of “violation”.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Hey love! I want to understand the question … are you asking is forgiveness emotional abuse?

[@casscass230]

@@SeasonedDialogue Hi🤗 I’m asking if the counsel applies to emotional abuse. There’s so much therapy and inner work to be done when you grew up in a toxic/demeaning environment. It almost feels like you’ve been “violated” or deprived of your innocence, goodness and almost driven to madness. Recovering from that takes time and effort to unlearn certain things. You also have to reparent yourself but in the process there’s so much anger and resentment involved… it’s overwhelming.

[@GravityDefierforLife]

I needed this so bad!!

[@SeasonedDialogue]

❤️❤️❤️

[@shesoundoff]

Thank you so much for this content. Can I ask what camera you use for your videos?

[@Mpuleng]

Forgiveness is likened to peeling an onion. There's layers to this process !

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yes indeed

[@TOSORIO-q8h]

Omg, I just got done talking about this. About my family members that are fake Christians. SMH they do not practice what they preach at all. But they stay doing Bible study and preaching to others to do what they are not doing.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness ❤️

[@JahsunKindredSound]

I Agree 👍 💯 4 sure LUV ❤️ ALONE ❤RASTAFORI

[@misterjahi]

"we are all here to learn."-

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yessss

[@audryross]

Truly no one is God. What a serendipity this is considering that I've been on a path lately learning and understanding that 🤍 Forgiveness is for yourself and not for the other person.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

I absolutely agree

[@BePresentlyMindful]

❤❤❤

[@missjones8123]

Also forgiveness doesnt mean we need to accept that person back in our lives!!!

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Very true!

[@dolcifioricakes]

❤

[@VmakesItEasy]

Im having a hard time forgiving myself.

[@missjones8123]

Sorry my 3rd comment lol, i need someone to break down forgiveness for me because it just feel like your saying what you did to me was ok or im excusingvyou of your wtong doing, etc and that just doesn't sit right with me.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

I absolutely understand. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you condone or approve of their actions. Instead, it means you choose to release feelings of anger and resentment, freeing yourself from the burden of holding onto negative emotions. Forgiveness is about accepting what happened and moving forward without letting the past dictate your present or future. It's a way to prioritize your own well-being and emotional healing, rather than allowing bitterness to consume you. I hope this helps love ❤️

[@Honicoco]

Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. I can love you from afar and in prayer.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yesssssss

[@Thefittestartist]

I’m married and miserable I’m not happy he is a narcissist! Yesterday he threw a frying pan at me cause I gave his grandma that’s dead (rip) a compliment stating “your grandma was good to you and a good grandma, why is your mom not the same with her 1st grand child our child”he got upset threw a frying pan at me and said stop talking about my grandma! I’m going Monday to get a divorce and my point is I CAN NOT FOR GIVE HIM FOR THAT! I just want out

[@macadon041]

1st

[@bongez07]

Hi Lisa Are you married?

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Yes

[@bongez07]

Okay. Unlucky me, I could have been first in line if you were still available...

[@Reemo3]

Get over yourself and out your ego

[@UgonmaUko]

Beautifully said ❤️‍🩹👏🏾 forgiveness is a journey and destination at the same time. The key sustaining the process is patience! Patience for yourself and patience for others! 💕

[@justabookwormhere5940]

Thank you for this video, I'm literally crying because I finally feel understood and my emotions are actually valid❤‍🩹.

[@allpraisestoallah9582]

❤❤❤