Real talk about getting your life together in your 30s

[@DorianDevelops]

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[@somewhereright3160]

I heard a lot of suspicious things about Better Help, e.g. them selling sensitive health information to big companies like facebook and their therapists not neccessarily having the appropiate education. Yet, I see many KZbinrs which I respect promoting them. Did BH improve on all of those things or did you actually not know these issues?

[@walterlaussen5990]

Thank you for sharing this video it really helped me learn more about life and learn there is no age limit on when you have to be successful in life. Your video also explained being successful is being able to do what makes you happy, that hit hard in realizing true success. Thank and God bless.

[@marc-alainmiller8453]

I agree, I don't think you can put an age on when you're supposed to have 'made it'. Everyone is on their own journey of growth. I'm 33 with only 16k to my name, with a 17k student loan I haven't been able to touch yet in over 10 years, and in that time I've moved twice, laid off 5 times, esp. during covid, been a server, bartender, electrician, roofer, rancher, sales rep etc. in between trying to forge my career in post production. When I was in my 20's I lacked ambition and belief in myself, and at times was a high-functioning alcoholic, but all these jobs and skills I've acquired along the way have reinforced my confidence in myself for my 30s. Hell it wasn't even until I was around 28-30 that I actually got better at talking to women. Once I turned 30, doors started really opening up for me in my main career. I'm just glad I don't have to pay child support or going through a divorce during it all. I kiss the ground every day.

[@thecoolclub127]

Man this is a beautiful story, I am really touched because I resonate with what you saying.

[@oliveskyboy]

Love stories like these. Im 32, almost the exact same amount of money and student debt. Worked in about 9 different industries. Lived in 8 different states, been to 28 countries....now Im back home trying to figure it out. All this to say.....how did you like ranching??

[@MP-ut6eb]

Love it

[@Traveler89_89]

I’m in the same boat or at least have experienced similar

[@better_call_sagar]

It's 2024 guys... 30s is the new 20s

[@TheBigJohny]

But only for us men

[@better_call_sagar]

Why do you feel that way?​@@TheBigJohny

[@phizzy123]

@@better_call_sagarignore him lol it’s prob red pill nonsense

[@jacksonvalad8012]

I completely agree!

[@bestfootforward4586]

If 30's are the new 20's and 40's are the new 30's, does that mean 40's are the new 20's?

[@Alphacheesehunter]

Success fornme is quiet. The more under the radar and zen my existence, the better. No showy cars, no fancy parties, no large friend groups, etc. Just my lass, my cat, and myself. Easy to manage, low stress, good vibes at last. When I was chasing success as most people view it, my life was miserable. Now, I switched to working nights, got a cdl, and make good enough money to get by and save a bit. I'm not wealthy, don't try to make waves, honestly don't have to try and network as much, and my life is ABSOLUTELY better. One thing I can't have is a kid, though, my salmon don't swim straight. That's something I'm at peace with, honestly. If either my wife or myself want kids (she's not that fertile either) we'll adopt. But for now, we're good. Heck, we're even taking classes for things we enjoy now. Just because. Find your success within yourself.

[@EpicWisdom89]

Man! your content is topnotch!! you deserve millions of followers Dorian 🙏🏻

[@Sleep-yg2wu]

Getting life together at 26 and it's painful

[@jacksonvalad8012]

Just keep working!

[@vish5465]

it get easier... just keep doing it

[@CMO__]

you are ahead of the curve, no sweat dude.

[@LocalLialec]

hey man i really appreciate you uploading videos like these. they're always nice to listen to as i reflect on my own life

[@nKarje]

32 and addicted to the internet, porn, gaming. Also vape weed regularly. This gives me some hope since you were also 32.

[@diceydaze]

thanks for the no-bullshitting style content. I really appreciate...

[@jmbrjmbr2397]

I love you so much. You are a big reason of my motivation and hard work. I really, really needed that positivity. You are a great person, thank you. I wish the best for you and your family.

[@thecollectorgulam9769]

Its ok to start over in your 30s. I dont see any problem with that

[@ScorpiusXVI]

As a fan and someone who is a part of the discord. Not smoking pot all day is definitely easier regardless of how good people say it is.

[@danilomorais2324]

Thank you man for this one.... I am 29 and to be honest haven't accomplished much ... all the time I think I'm kind of a looser .. and the thing is, I want to do better but keep thinking is too late and all this bullshit . Anyway thanks for your perspective. helps a lot.

[@_Perf]

Honestly, I'm a little jealous of you guys from the "normal" part of the world who still have the opportunity to "get your life together." I'm 33, I have a family, I had a small business near my home, but instead of continuing to develop and improve my life, I, like a lot of my fellow citizens, sitting in a dugout because the fu****g russians decided to attack us, and I'm not sure if I'll wake up tomorrow... Just want to say that do what is important to you and your loved ones while you have the time and opportunity, because everything can change very quickly in the most unexpected way and our time is pretty much limited.

[@danm2756]

Yeah, weird that he'd be on KZbin

[@somewhereright3160]

As far I know Ucraine is not a 3rd world country and still has internet, even during times like this.

[@BeatLeJuiceMusic]

@@gt4032 Dude some guys have been fighting on Ukrainian front for over 20 months. War is not only about sitting in trenches lol. They still have internet over there and he can be on his phone during idle time or resting.

[@SrGwynnbleid]

@@BeatLeJuiceMusic Or he might just be an internet warrior and a nationalist who just hated on the whole people because of some lunatics' actions.

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

9:49 love his "1 star" hotel room😝😝 sorry buddy, no harm ment...😏😏

[@robyn_southafrica]

It honestly amazes me how in a lot of the self-help videos I come across, the men and women have a thing in comparison, a baby on the way that instantaneously forces them to get their sh*t together (and i actually admire that) but with me currently being in a shitty stage of my life, the idea of even getting pregnant would probably send me to my grave 😢🙈 But thanks for this video Dorian, you never fail to say it like it is.. appreciate you!

[@realpain84]

am going to be 40 in august ... subbed!

[@reynardtcloete6959]

My problem is I don't know whát I'm supposed to be doing. For imstance, learning software development. Everybody has something to say about the future of tech because of AI , yara yara... I'm a hard worker but I don't want to waste years learning something just to not have it mean anything. I need solid advice. Solid.

[@kakadu2004]

If you're not disgusted by getting your hands dirty, you can always become an electrician, painter, plumber, any of the professions involved in renovating/building homes and fixing stuff. Nobody wants their hands dirty anymore so these professionals can ask for as much as they like. In my country, the shortage of these people is so horrible that they can charge half a month's salary for a 30 minute job. I would never go for such professions myself, but they're mostly a good way to build a life.

[@lorisfoucart2475]

Defenently give a try at manual jobs, not man labour replacing machines, but thoughtful jobs that require handwork, like a mechanic or a carpenter or something

[@seegybogy3353]

Thank you bro 🙂

[@RockingRebelYell]

31 getting it together after some painful personal stuff it's rough

[@JumpinFatJack]

Im 25 and just got my diploma in November of 2023 . Got dumped on Christmas (this is my first heartbreak) . Doing my A+ certification. Been sober for almost a year now ; honestly feel disgusted with how i was living in regards to all the time i was wasting . Right now i feel like im in a rebirthing stage . Trying to cleanse my spirit. I always feel like im far behind myself ; feel like i cant connect with people . I know ill find some group or someone at some point . Just hope that i can grow into something beautiful in regards to what id like to see in a future partner . also to get out of this self conscious stage im in because i realize how self sabotaging it is and all around selfish it can be . I dont want to be perfect. I just want to be in a position where i can finally say , ' i feel good enough about myself '. If that means studying for my security + , getting certified, joining the airforce for a clearance of some sort - Ill do it and im willing to die to develop into the man i envision myself being ...

[@TheWorldJr]

Thank you bro

[@ELCHDA]

I am not being allowed to get my life together, because my past software engineering profession is no longer needed. Success is mostly external locus of control. Health issues are life ruining in USA and its territories, for example.

[@basteqss8859]

You have to "getting your live together" from the very beginning till the very end - it's never too early and never too late. Believe me ;)

[@QuickRipzz]

Damn youre old AF!!!!! Luv u

[@xpallodoc1147]

You can turn your life around at any age. If you’re old on your deathbed you probably don’t care about turning your life around as you’ve lived your life

[@barayousef8421]

Which is better networking or development ?

[@deekendi191]

Both

[@RatherBeCancelledThanHandled]

Jesus is king

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

🙋🏼‍♂️✝️💒🛐😀

[@paradise745]

That’s a pretty big downgrade from being God

[@amram86]

Thought I had it together until inflation moved the goal post. Now I need to make 30-40% to live the same life.

[@amram86]

More*

[@cosmiccomedy7394]

Fuck same here mate.

[@jonashansen2512]

How did you get out of credit?

[@jacobmoney]

What about 40s....? Or are we late in getting our lives together?

[@skyisthelimit3255]

🙏

[@artislotko1858]

cool video

[@Pixelynx]

I legit thought you were like 34 max 😂

[@billcarson818]

Having a bad day today and your words gave me a lot. Reminded me of what matters. Thank you!

[@Eudaimonia239]

Success for me is focusing on something bigger than myself(a career I actually like, solving a problem, my family, god, etc) , that makes me feel fulfilled and give me peace. That doesnt mean money is evil, money is necessary and gives you security, possibilities, health insurance, etc. but material gains and consumism by itself will not sustain you, unless you keep buying bs perpetually.

[@somewhereright3160]

I'm 35 and I just lost my beloved mom to lung cancer by the end of last month. It still feels unreal and it shifted my whole perspective on what is important in life. I would have given away EVERYTHING I own, empty my bank account or even take on debt if that could have saved her life! But you can't buy everything... I'm absolutely heart broken and I need to reassess my life. That just prooves that none of the material successions actually matter. All that matters is the relationship and time you are allowed to spend with loved ones on this beautiful planet.

[@juanmatapatpinoy]

Sorry to hear that dude😢 so heartbreaking 😞

[@I_Lemaire]

I am so sorry for your loss and pray for your protection.

[@thabompala6524]

Sorry to hear that. May God strengthen you as you get THROUGH this. You will get through for sure 🙏

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

pls consider jesus into yer life...😌🙋🏼‍♂️✝️🛐💒

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

also sorry to hear, im in my forties and im greatful to god she is still alive tho she probably not as good mum as your was i dunno,but...😔😔😥😞

[@colivart]

It is never too late to improve your life. You’re going to be 40, 50, 60 etc either way. Do you want your life to be better or worse then?

[@KayderimGameplays]

I"m at the same boat, but somehow even worse. I turned 30 recently but i duo to where i live (northeast, brazil), i can't even get the most basic job because there just aren't any, even though i got my degree in computer science. I never felt so hopeless. At the end of this year, i'm planing on moving to the south, since is a much better region to find jobs, i don't know anyone there, but i simply cannot keep wasting my life in this place, even though my family wants me to be around

[@nile9150]

Try freelancing I'm from third world country there's a lot of unemployment but we do freelance

[@urwrstntmre]

Good luck, man

[@Yo-ey4ue]

Leave

[@xpallodoc1147]

I consider the making of this video sucsessful and that obviously subjective. No matter how low or high you go after 6 months it becomes your normal. Life is about making improvements where you can

[@asembino]

Now go out there and be somebody - Dave Chappelle

[@diemcarl5546]

First, comes a lame joke. I'm pretty sure the bald dude from Brazzers has never been lost in his life, specifically in terms of his occupation. Second, thanks man for sharing with us! Really appreciated 👍 lost in my 35+ here

[@dnlbellfield]

You’re right. There’s always time to change your course.

[@dave_di]

Getting my life together in my 90s. Started my programming journey at 95 and getting my first job making over 100k in my100s. It's never too late **dies**

[@urwrstntmre]

So inspirational 😂

[@ismaelhall3990]

Never too late

[@MainelyElectrons]

Great video, please do not promote better help. They are not a good platform and I can back that up with every interaction my wife and I have ever had with them.

[@KOT_Media_ng]

you just rambled a whole bunch of bs. instead of motivating you just talk ING about ur self

[@carljansson1903]

Check out Khalil Rafati

[@thomasmatchen8956]

thank you

[@Maxim.Nazarenko]

Never too late, but best day was yesterday.

[@andreukattah9428]

Appreciate your story man 🙏

[@okochannell]

I would like to do it as I'll be hitting that age soon... still healing from cptsd and no particular career at all... :(

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

life is not anout "career", but is is about loving jesus and that u seek him and reach for him , he loves u 🛐💒✝️🙋🏼‍♂️😀

[@cacapupu1234]

I’ve been thinking about that video about getting it together in your thirty’s. Glad this popped up in my recommended

[@snxjsnsnjsiwnsjsosjsmmemsjsn]

10:14: what i love about asians is that they understand value of family after being here a long time...

[@fraserr-]

I needed to hear this. Thank you Dorian.

[@BoxStateK]

Saving this video

[@ferndog1461]

Fascinating how I get tech info here & real life struggle of the non- connected , average talented young man trying to desperately adapt to fatherhood.

[@WHOTHAFUCK]

huh?

[@EricMcD15]

Wow, Johnny Sins is really turning his life around