Dr. Umar Johnson DESTROYS Black Men For Refusing To Be Step Dads For Black WOMEN

hi

[@edwardhatfield7284]

As a 44 year old black man myself, I'm gonna make an unpopular statement. I didn't create all black women's problems nor did they create mine. Flat out.

[@mikenagol69]

Well said…

[@yardleyhbk]

Facts...I don't expect single mothers or bw to solve my problems.

[@Tony_Tucka]

Facts. And they can't improve my problems and I can't improve some of their problems . Some women, dont want help raising there kids it's a double edge sword

[@evagrace6847]

People are responsible for the choices they make in life; regardless of age , face, and gender. Where we are now in life, is the result of the choices we made, in the past, that has put us in the position that we are in right now.

[@riddickj16]

That’s only unpopular depending on who’s you’re talking to

[@tonymcguir7392]

And I'm sick and tired of responsible men being called to "step up", while biological fathers get a pass. Where's your smoke for them Dr. Umar?

[@houseofhas9355]

That's too much logic bro. That doesn't sell books or send him money.

[@bisquit48]

He's projecting

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

I’m sick of Umar telling responsible men to step up for kids that aren’t theirs when Umar isn’t married to neither of his baby mamas nor married to a single mom like he’s pushing on BM who are single and possibly childless to do.

[@marcustaylor6492]

It’s easier to pander to women’s delusions

[@spitflamez]

The only man in the Bible I saw take someone else’s child was Joseph and an Angel had to tell him to do it because he was about to shake Mary! If God tells you to do, ok but this non Married guy telling dudes to simp out is RIDICULOUS!

[@TheWatcherSupreme72]

How is Umar going to tell black men to be step fathers and he didn’t want to MARRY EITHER ONE OF HIS OWN BABY MAMAS!!! 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@righteousdivine7]

BOOM!!! 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯

[@nicholesdad2136]

He probably has some lame-assed canned response to that already in the chamber.

[@GoatHolyfield]

Boy that just crazy

[@JpacB77]

Literally facts that’s why I don’t take him seriously. We give him too much attention.

[@ouknow1446]

@@nicholesdad2136 I'd like to hear it and hear from the b* stards he made.

[@sagittarianprince3133]

We as black men need to stop letting clowns that talk to talk and don't walk the walk speak for us like dr. Umar Johnson The Stepfather initiative is dead we are not responsible for the men that these women choose to have kids by

[@deerick3109]

Dr Umar doesn’t understand that those days are over. You are not responsible for people who are not your blood and even your own blood relatives have limitations. With the direction the country and economy is going people can’t afford to take on liabilities and dead weight.

[@Brothapocalypse]

Agreed. They like to yell and complain about brothas but offer no roadmap or provide and actual example of what they expect brothas to do.

[@antoniolewis552]

Preach

[@DiscoFinalBoss]

I don’t see him setting any examples. He sure does like to hear the sound of his own voice.

[@v1nigra3]

He need to get those donations from gullible women one way or another

[@blacksilverchair3315]

Black men, you are worthy. Do not settle for anything dusty. You deserve the best of everything in this life. Do not become legally entangled with single moms. Let them go to the men the made kids with. Dr Umar is only trying to secure his 💰💰

[@eman3414]

Exactly

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

bro is pulling a derreck jackson while looking like obese jackson LMAO even

[@Brothapocalypse]

Correct. Me personally, my kids are grown, so my legacy is already secure. That means I have some time to reach back and help. But younger brothas who are trying to secure their family and legacy simply should not feel obligated to do anything other than his mission.

[@blacksilverchair3315]

@@Brothapocalypse do so at your own risk. It's your life bro.

[@nonapplicable3055]

We don't deserve everything. We go earn it

[@NobleSoy]

Why isn’t he telling these women to save themselves for marriage?

[@Al-Ghaibb]

It is easy to breed and difficult for them to “Manifest” a marriage to Pookie.

[@blacksilverchair3315]

Lol. Umar is telling them what they want to hear because they are his primary donors.

[@zerotolerance2026]

Because marriage to BM is not beneficial to BW.

[@keithdavid1544]

He should be using that same rhetoric towards the black fathers who have kids with black women. Let us brothers who don't have kids have options

[@Brothapocalypse]

Exactly. That's why he'll never be taken seriously. His arguments never come with balance and stoicism.

[@dexkato7329]

Russell Wilson approves of Dr. Umar Johnson's message 110%!

[@FaithandNova]

Or Future could just do his job smh

[@monotheisticMoor]

Being a step-father is a choice. Dr Umar is trying to “force” men into that role. It’s a big difference.

[@lordsinister707]

​@FaithandNova that's the problem though. Future never had any intention of doing his job from the start and she knew it. You can only stay so much to a man or a woman before you have to realize that they are never going to change. Future has proven himself to be a walking red-flag yet there are still women who deal with him.

[@jboymontel1]

Don't forget Boyce aka "Moist" Watkins 😅😅😅😅

[@bobby12348]

@@jboymontel1 really but he can buy and sell you😂🎁

[@seejayrobinson447]

I once asked a woman why she was not with her baby's father her reply was I don't want nobody telling me how to raise MY CHILD.

[@houseofhas9355]

😂😂😂 facts. I have heard this. Also they say getting pregnant is more important to them than rules of marriage

[@manher4335]

Ironically enough. That often turns the kid into "I don't want no adult, mama or not, telling me what to do or right from wrong. I'm a corrupted little bastard with no discipline and I love it".

[@GoatHolyfield]

More proof that single motherhood is a choice

[@nicholesdad2136]

​@@houseofhas9355Hmmm, and I wonder why black women are the least married?

[@DD-ky2pi]

Notice how they always refer to children as “theirs” as if the dad had no say so in helping create the kids ?

[@anyname2597]

A man who argues with a woman will argue with a brick wall. The greatest example of wisdom in most situations is separation and silence.

[@j.d.552]

This was an highly educated comment!!!!

[@I_Love_my_adblock4408]

🙋🏾‍♂️ Jeremiah 51:45 My people, go ye out of the midst of her, and deliver ye every man his soul from the fierce anger of the Lord Revelation 18:4 And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues Ecclesiasticus 25:16 “I had rather dwell with a lion and a dragon, than to keep house with a wicked woman.” King James Version (KJV) Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

[@a.wilkerson2nd334]

Facts

[@evagrace6847]

...... so why bother?..LOL

[@RmonK2000]

Yet men act surprised why women initiating 70% of divorces😂😂🤦‍♀️

[@TheDCGuitar13]

Man can’t even be there for the kids he got and is lecturing people without kids… ain’t this some shit?…

[@rdoliver2965]

😅 I mean just shut up right😊

[@gspida25]

Facts🤣

[@cmack3795]

People are jokes nowadays

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

Ain’t this some sh*t

[@heruking4391]

I said the same thing bro. At this point anyone listening to anything Umar says should be completely ignored.

[@thelovejoyshow568]

He's basically saying that the 'Women can choose whomever they please and if it doesn't work out for them, then you as a man should be willing to take up the burden". Got it 🤡

[@manher4335]

The keyword. Burden. The hell with that.

[@nicholesdad2136]

😂😂😂😂

[@travonlove83190]

And noticed how he says it's our fault for their poor choices 😂

[@imeldangadzania5212]

I’m originally from the Congo, and it always surprises me when I hear my African American sister cry about not being able to find a good man. and for some crazy reasons always end up with multiple out of wedlock kids. He knows not to bring this garage In Africa or with African men.

[@SharkOrDie]

Tell will always say they got Tricked but when you meet the man who allegedly Tricked them he’s a full blown Bum!

[@carlosmark9840]

Africa got its own issues

[@imeldangadzania5212]

@@carlosmark9840 yes dear. However this is not one of them. Our have what we call shame. Besides having multiple children out of wedlock by different men is no badge of honor like it’s in the African American community especially. You’ll be shamed daily for bringing shame to your family name.

[@johnlawful2272]

@@imeldangadzania5212 what about the really poor areas

[@imeldangadzania5212]

@@johnlawful2272 the father is still present and women still have respect for culture and traditions. No bastards with multiple fathers.

[@nottodayimbusy7146]

His money must be running low

[@VernonTalks101]

😂

[@freeworld2275]

🤣🤣

[@raymondleggs5508]

And that school will never be built

[@Braylon1997]

So why do I, as a young black man, have to play step daddy to another man’s offspring? That’s like playing a PS4 game with someone else’s save file.

[@blacksilverchair3315]

You don't have to and you shouldn't. This isn't the 80s and 90s anymore.

[@IWearACrown]

You don’t “have”to do anything. Although if you choose to get involved with a single mother, love and mold her child in a positive direction. If not, leave her be.

[@DariusJones]

And we all know we can’t do that.

[@TrusttheJourney33]

Don’t man, it’s useless and causes you time, energy, resources and NO respect.

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

@@IWearACrowntbh most single mothers don’t want you molding her kids, they want you to financially support the child but she feels that child is hers alone so the way the child is raised is based on how she wants the child to be raise, not how you want him to be…

[@stronginthewind]

I had a mentor growing up that took several black boys from the hood under his wing. He used to take us camping, fishing, taught us to fix things and more. Oftentimes using his own money or organizing fundraisers. He kept at least 20 boys from south central LA from going down the wrong path. Although he was respected by the community, many of the single mothers of the boys still had a pookie and ray ray boyfriend around. I never understood as a kid, how these mothers wanted their sons with the mentor but when the sons get home, mom got a pookie at the house. It sent the wrong message to the boys and it diminished the overall impact of the mentor. The only answer is to stop procreating with Pookie. That's it that's all. Because these bw will take advantage of the good bm in NJ who are willing to take two fatherless boys under his wing. It'll be a free baby sitter while she with Pookie.

[@Brothapocalypse]

Good observation. I'm from LA and experienced similar good brothas in the neighborhood. Of course, they already had families so they carved out time for those brothas from single mom households (I'm from a 2 parent household but still hung out with these guys as they are my friends)

[@cperkins5050]

Well said, there is a Pookie epidemic. I am 100% down with being a mentor. However, we need our women to give up Pookies. It is a never ending cycle until they down.

[@PBLightning145]

​@@cperkins5050L

[@anonymousvip1665]

It's almost like everyone expects Black men to accept anything and every woman, whatever her issues are, or baggage is, but at the same time we are supposed to be super-ninjas that are held accountable for every action we do, are held to super-high impossible standards, we even have to be accountable for women's poor choices in men, and now we are expected to be accountable for another man's children!!! Dr Umar is starting to sound like a super-simpanzie!!! I say fck women's respect, it doesn't exist, you will not be appreciated by her or her children, don't take care of any man's kids, let her go and get child support from the father, the system is set up for her to do so, no excuses...

[@calebhenderson6507]

It a Slaves mentality they want us to keep. Black men are expected to get what is leftover. Black men are only ones expected to call women queen when they are not. They are the most likely to be step-dads. And the only ones that are suppose to "handle" women. Notice no other race will put up with that crap like black men were programmed to.

[@robsawyer8034]

Bingo - their kids by other dudes is their problem. Being a simp only discredits decent women that are worthy of being wives.

[@TheDarkNinja7]

Steve Harvey and Derrick Jaxn are his role models.

[@MrBronx61]

@anonymousvip1665 - Thank you!

[@okosuntom2808]

Instead of trying to guilt trip men and making them step dads while not hold those men who refuse to take care of their biological kids accountable.Holding deadbeat dads accountable will be more reasonable than trying to force men to be step dads for children that are not theirs.

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

coz he himself has 2 baby mamas lol Alpha fucks beta bucks but unfortunately beta's not bucking hard enough hence the moralizing stand lol Never trust anyone who tells you to do it for the greater good only trust those who tell you to good for you as a person that also with skepticism

[@heruking4391]

You mean like holding Umar accountable?... Who isn't with the mothers of his own children .Is that what you mean ?🤔

[@prettyboyswagg18181]

@@heruking4391Exactly his Dumbass Umar Dumb Not even Married 😂😂😂

[@malik5531]

Not only that the women that don’t practice safe sex and not use any forms of birth control

[@vincemack2042]

The issue with that is one group of men is responsible and the other is typically irresponsible. So getting a responsible man to be responsible is easier than getting an irresponsible one to be responsible.

[@MCC876]

Go ahead Dr. Umar and marry that women with them kids. Make sure you read that book about being a stepdad. Chapter 1: Learn how to apologize to your wife after you disciplined her kid. Chapter 2: Learn how to budget when the baby daddy stops paying child support. Chapter 3: How to keep money in your pocket to buy all them kids McDonald’s. Chapter 4: Learn how to handle the situation when she takes her kid to the baby daddy and spends a little too much time there. Many other chapters.

[@Brothapocalypse]

😂😂I like this

[@MrLigersPride]

Chapter 5: If the Baby daddy is in jail you will be indirectly putting monies on his book, subtitle; don't complain when you find out.

[@devanashford9923]

Chapter 4 is the main reason I can't put myself in that type of situation 😅😅

[@craigtrusty3496]

Chapter 6: You’re not my dad

[@Marcthegaurdian]

So Umar wants us to partner with a bad restaurant owner, invest our money and time, but we can't question our business partner, employees and take all the risk if it fails.

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

yes

[@nicholesdad2136]

Good analogy.

[@nikeshamorrow9444]

No, he want black men to mentor, start programs, work with young black men.

[@Marcthegaurdian]

@@nikeshamorrow9444 when he opens his school first.

[@stevelumumbashabazzz5087]

@@nikeshamorrow9444your father should be your first mentor

[@Faithandseekerofchrist]

This is coming from a woman. Men should not be responsible for kids that are not theirs. Dating a single mother is pretty much a liability for the most part. Don't get me wrong I heard stories where children love their stepdad more than their real father. But for the most part it is a thankless and unappreciative job, where they have one more mouth to feed, the child would be the first priority (that is great and all but they shouldn't be dating if they want to put their child first), you can't discipline the child when they act out and when you do, you'll hear the words you're not my dad, also there are also a lot of scenarios when the single mother puts her dating life before her child/children (getting someone to constantly babysit them while they're living it up), the single mother ends up bitter towards the BD or they are in a on-and-off relationship with their BD and they end up cheating on you with them. Most men do not want to be in a relationship with a single mom because of those reasons and many more reasons. For the most part they do not benefit men and they have every right to decide not to date you because you have kids. If a woman has standards, then a guy is allowed to have standards as well.

[@nonapplicable3055]

Thank you for keeping it all the way real. It's one thing if he asked to raise money for an existing foundation, but he expects us to take time out. I'm 29, I work 60+ hours a week. I don't have kids of my own yet, because Im trying to build the largest nest egg I can and build myself up to where I can choose to commit from a place of abundance. I'm planning my future, but I'm supposed to just forget all of that and settle when I'm nearing the finish line? I don't get his line of thinking.

[@Faithandseekerofchrist]

@@nonapplicable3055 you are really not missing out with these single mothers. All these feminists they are Queens and that they are all 10's. But if that was the case that would mean all women are average, they wouldn't be Reckless and they would all be in relationships and marriages. Most cases it is the women who initiate divorces and then the guy not only loses a lot of what he works for but he also loses his children. Once you have children, your value in the dating Market decreases and especially when you're 30 and over. I'm not saying that it's going to be completely impossible for them to date but it's not going to be like what it once was when they were young and before they had kids. Maybe a lot of times a guy would pump and dump them like a gas station like many men before him did but to marry her, most guys just wouldn't do it. I wish I could say that dating, let alone marrying a single mom has a happy ending like in rare cases it does but the majority of the time it's more of a liability.

[@mansamusa2012]

Thank you 🙏🏿 so much sister! As a single brother in my forties no kids I can’t date single mother. It’s too much stress

[@trainelavalais6280]

Thank for stating the TRUTH!! I am not taking care of a child THAT IS NOT MINE!!

[@rogerblewett5595]

Agreed 💯 and respect to you sista for keeping it real

[@acediamond7524]

Hang on… these women are strong independent don’t need no man, but it’s a man’s fault if they do not be step-fathers to a strong independent woman’s mistakes… I think I’ll pass 💯%

[@nicholesdad2136]

😂Me too!

[@soundsaboutright---]

The boys need you, not the women. Do you know what a mentor is? It doesn't require sleeping with someone. You don't have to be active in the community if you dont want to but it gets old that yall always think someone is trying to get you to be in a relationship

[@mikedunmore5238]

What Dr Umar says looks good on paper 😂 In real life it’s a different story

[@blacksilverchair3315]

Exactly. He's grifting as usual.

[@jakemccoy]

It’s more like, it sounds good because he is yelling so confidently. If you read his speech literally written on cold paper, it would be a terrible read.

[@number3stunner118]

@@jakemccoy A lot of sentences would appear three times in a row 😆

[@righteousdivine7]

💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯

[@righteousdivine7]

@@blacksilverchair3315 you mean...SIMPING

[@HARwinsOUTagain]

Easier to leave the community. Go where you are appreciated!

[@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT]

As you should

[@PBLightning145]

No

[@PBLightning145]

​@@ALUCARDTWILLIGHTno

[@soniapinkney1342]

Then go ! But the men that choose to stay please be better fathers or stepfathers … The community needs you so much .. ❤️🔥👍🏾🙏🏽

[@HARwinsOUTagain]

@@soniapinkney1342 lady…it’s 11 months later. Lmao

[@phillipharris9845]

As a stepfather I will say this....if I had to do it again I would not.

[@JohnSmith-gz5pm]

WHO CHOSE THE FATHER?! 🤔 MOTHERHOOD IS A CHOICE! STOP CHOOSING AND GLORIFYING THUGS OVER HARD WORKING MEN!

[@quietstorm1897]

So you are a supporter of Cyn G because she says the same as you.

[@JohnSmith-gz5pm]

@@quietstorm1897 Cynthia G chose to get pregnant by a dusty beta male coon! Not just any dusty. Her baby daddy, Robert “Dusty” Perkins! He’s the dustiest dusty that ever dusted! She’s a hypocrite to her own message. The problem is she blames everything on black men without holding black women accountable for their part in the destruction of the black community. Thugs only exist because BW keep F#%*ING them! This is why so many black men want to be thugs while in other communities, its the intellectuals such as doctors, lawyers and engineers that are celebrated, not the criminals, felons and gang members like in black communities. The black community is ass backwards, where up is down and down is up. Where good is bad and bad is good.

[@soundsaboutright---]

It legit sounds like you're saying bw should abort black males. This stuff is mind blowing.

[@gunznroses]

POINT, BLANK AND PERIOD

[@gunznroses]

@@quietstorm1897didn’t Cyn G use to date pookie and ray rays????? Now she hates pookie n ray rays. Real clown shit.

[@sauceboss354]

Umar Johnson on the behalf of childless single black men please take all the the babymamas of the so called community.

[@RogueHero]

As a 33 yr old blk man , im not helping these strags. These are the same women who will happily push out a baby by a good man taking care of them and then break up with the guy shortly afterwards to live the city girl lifestyle. It not only happened to me but to tons of other guys i know , i think i speak for all black men when i say this but i am done !!!, them 304s better try to smooth things over with they baby daddies before its too late.

[@nicholesdad2136]

Agreed!

[@mr.g5480]

I’ve been saying this for the longest . Our women should only see our actions at this point. Once they realize our low tolerance for disrespect and us not dating them , they’ll understand soon enough. No more talking

[@theoriginal668]

Yep bruthas are already taking actions

[@neon_one_neo3317]

Sysbm

[@JRich71]

Facts

[@evagrace6847]

The problem is that we continue to have race hustlers like Steve Harvey, Dr. Umar Johnson, Derrick Jaxn, Tyler Perry, and others like them pandering to us black women by telling us what we want to hear instead of telling us what we need to hear. Black men like Kevin Samuels are entitled to tell us black women what we need to hear just as much as Shahrazad Ali have been telling us black women what we need to hear for the past 30+ years, because we both, black men & black women need each other to build and maintain a strong black family to where we can maintain a strong black community.

[@quietstorm1897]

Y'all have been talking for years I honestly don't think they care.

[@Rucker1980]

Why do you listen to a guy who's actions never line up

[@kingstrong5351]

Dudes like Dr. Umar try to destroy the spirits of young Black Men with issues their not responsible for. Men like Kevin Samuels uplifted the spirits of young Black Men by telling them to only be accountable for themselves and the ones under their covering. This is why Blk Women hated KS, because he put the accountability of women directly where it belongs, With The Women. Stop letting old ninjas who are less successful than try to tell you what your doing wrong.

[@dman221]

I am an old Ninja and I don't think young black men should save these 304s. Phuck them and their Bastards Children. Now that Old School advice....

[@jbazley001]

I can't disagree more. I got my own kids to focus on. That single woman ain't doing $hit for me, so what's the incentive. I can mentor them, but not raise them

[@soundsaboutright---]

It's even more weird to hear people with kids think like this. Your kids have to occupy the same space as these fatherless males that we know don't have good outcomes. If you have daughters, these will be the mates available to her smh

[@LocLyfeLiving.On.Code.]

That's Dr. Umar's entire point is black boys need black men to mentor them so that all boys get manhood training.

[@bluewave3417]

Dr. Umar got it messed up. As a man you shouldn't be aiming for the respect of Black women as a whole. You need the respect of the woman you are committed to and vice versa. That's it. My wife and I share the same values. So we can work together. Black men as a whole can't pick up the baton on fatherless Black boys because there's often a lack of shared values between certain men and women. As someone who has worked with youth my entire life I know. You can't have much impact on a child when their parent's values are diametrically opposed to yours. I know. I've tried. All it leads to is confusion and arguments with the child's parent.

[@angryheretic]

Great comment

[@eatshityoutube3271]

This right here. They say that takes a village comment, but that only works in a village where the people have like minded values. You cant do that with kids who go home to basically unlearn anything you taught them. The primary responsibility for that childs mentoring comes from his or her parents and whatever community they put around their child.

[@abuabunorelation399]

I’ve seen black men raise other men’s children and the mothers were still horrible examples of what women should be in a relationship

[@speedracer1984]

I got one better. I’ve seen decent, upstanding black men raise other men’s children only to have the mom divorce the man after the kids got grown. F&ck that.

[@nicholesdad2136]

​@@tommygunn2782I think it is those guys that Umar Johnson is hoping will acquiesce.

[@eatshityoutube3271]

@@speedracer1984those be the worse ones, after hes done everything and you leave him or the ones where the kids father comes back around and suddenly they act like you aint been there all this time smh

[@speedracer1984]

@@eatshityoutube3271 It is sad 💩. Don’t get me started on BM who’ve raised stepdaughters and funded their weddings only to have the biological father walk her down the aisle.

[@TreasureA11Gold]

I completely disagree with Dr. Umar I went to HBCU and black women raised by single mothers will always choose the same men they complain about and their daughters will do the same no matter how successful those women are. Black men saving black boys is a longer shot than black women choosing good men over the men they know are not going to be there for them.

[@eatshityoutube3271]

Exactly its a better fix long term too

[@tremoneyv]

Who tf is we?? Doesn’t he have two kids with two women who he’s not married to? Single childless men DID NOT CREATE THIS PROBLEM.

[@6feet5inflorida36]

Dr. Umar Johnson is on the “Black Women send Donations” tour!

[@xskalibur]

Umar can kick rocks with open toe shoes.

[@BlakeWard-mo1vu]

🤣

[@aye927]

😂

[@carlforpresidentanthony4574]

"HELL NO WE WONT GO!" shiiid i aint raising your OOW kids umar!!!

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

Exactly

[@FreeSmoke911]

To my BM if you don’t have kids THEN being a STEP PARENT isn’t a OPTION!!!!

[@travonlove83190]

Exactly I learned my lesson never again

[@Donmecca415]

As a husband, & father of a 2 & 4yo. I am NOT taking care of another man’s child. I was the guy that was called a lame, square & just didn’t make the women moist by my looks or verbal skills. NOW that RayRay didn’t stick around & left her with 2 kids & she got another set of kids with Pookie, in her late 30’s-40’s, now I’m the man of her dreams… f**k outta here! Maybe you should’ve invested in me on day 1.

[@calebhenderson6507]

And you sir have a kings mindset! Because that how these women so damn comfortable in the first place. Black men were the quickest to become step dads and still are. But thank God that is changing because we are done cleaning up pookie and his baby mamas mess. When you stop bailing people out of there stupidity they either sind or swim

[@Donmecca415]

@@calebhenderson6507 pure facts Fam. They made a decision to pick that dude. Hell I’ve seen my own mother & sister make bad men decisions. My sister got pregnant by a guy who was sleeping on his best friends floor just because he was 6’2. Her ex she left the homeless dude for was 5’9 and was finishing up becoming a respiratory at a hospital. Wanted to marry my hood ass sister, but he wanted the homeless dude. Now her ex making 100-170k a year, extremely successful & my sister mad because he’s not giving her a shot. I told her you are 42, overweight, three different baby daddies. Why would he sign up for that.

[@calebhenderson6507]

@Donmecca415 same here! My sister got pregnant and married by a 47 year old pookie with no job... and the crazy part about it is that my mother is always trying to push my nephew on me. His dad even tried to fight me because he dressed like me for career day at school. My nephew came to school in an ocps (Air Force uniforms) for career day, and his dad got angry at me, thinking I was the one who convinced him to do it. I kidd you not ! My whole point is we acknowledge the fact that pookies and Ray Ray are out there.. WE NEVER SAID THAT THEY DIDN'T EXIST! Because pookie and ray are in every community. But they choose to buy into them and give them the highest honor or reproduction without thinking ahead. I may not agree with Cynthia G, but I will quote her when she said, "ITS WHOM THEY REALLY CHOSE."

[@lenks1018]

The prince of pan handerling needs yo go sit down 🙄

[@JRich71]

Great vid, ODJ. Hard to have hope for our community. It seems we may be past the point of repair.

[@danielj9779]

Facts at this point it's every man for himself

[@raymundturner1140]

We are sadly

[@cedadico]

thats not the answer. you going cynthia g on us. we are dying, not repairing means accepting the death of the black comunity. instead we as brothers need to come together and flush out the bad, bad mothers and bad fathers. and rebuild. leaving our race would mean killing our race.

[@eugeneroberts1468]

No, A lot of our women are passed that'd point....... Women's Liberation/ Feminism was designed to,.....(Destroy Families) , baby 🍼 boys, & girls come from men.

[@kshillingford4921]

Yep. No GOD, OUT OF CONTROL WITCHCRAFT, IDOL WORSHIP, and LACK of ANY RESPONSIBILITY. Oh oh oh and LIES after LIES after LIES after LIES. That recipe will ALWAYS equal NOTHING in the short and the long run.

[@primeva7579]

You can't destroy men with common sense and having standards

[@GMSYAKALBAH]

So instead of teaching young ladies to have a husband before you have a child, let's tell childless men to help raise other men's kids wtf.

[@nicholesdad2136]

I know, right?!

[@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT]

Makes perfect sense if you have an IQ of room temperature

[@SharkOrDie]

I’m about to make Black women stop fetishizing Crips, Bloods, Drug Dealers, and Scammers! Wish me luck fellas!

[@cperkins5050]

There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop BW for loving pookies that sell drugs, murder, Rob, steal, or scam. The only men that get more respect than them are athletes and rappers.

[@TheBigbark0341]

Thank God for passports, I sometimes feel sorry for you dudes dealing with these women and their pandering simps.

[@polartang250]

If I have to raise or mentor another man’s son that he was not around to raise or failed to raise to earn “respect” from certain Black Women then to hell with it.

[@Ontheshoulders1]

Tell Umar to show us how it's done. We're not doing it. Hell, why isn't he doing it if it's so important?

[@nicholesdad2136]

Sadly, I can give you only one thumbs up.

[@doncorleone2713]

Umar is a Pookie himself. 2 baby mamas. He probably expects others to raise his kids.

[@CloudSephiroth]

I do agree that we should mentor young men. But definitely not paying their bills or playing step dad.

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

Mentorship means time (time is money) and financial investment. If the mother can barely make ends meet how she ganna pay for that boys power tools to train him, how that mother to pay for sports equipment? Or artistic supplies to explore that kids creative side? The fact of the matter is there is a financial component Umar isn’t directly saying. It’s literally step dad but without exclusive access to the mom or other relationship benefits. Hell… NO

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

only if you get paid for it

[@andrescott7168]

Indeed

[@e69alpha]

@HorizonMediaGaming that part. There's a economic potential in the black community. Black women paying black men to mentor their sons. Hell why stop their pay black men to OPEN A FUCKING SCHOOL

[@dany6781]

@@HorizonMediaGamingell brother then I’m going to have to support your move out the US. I say this because the majority of crime is committed by blk boys. If good bm don’t start to mentor these boys, without the need for used 🐱, then your car, house and maybe life is free game. Not saying other races don’t commit crimes, but our small % has taken over that job full stop! So again, brother get that passport and move. If you don’t you may regret it later. May Allah guide us all Oh and I completely agree that we as women have full autonomy over our bodies. If we get pregnant from bad men it’s our fault. However, if society has to deal with other peoples children and their bad behavior, then society should be able to discipline them.

[@gspida25]

I can never take the shit he says seriously

[@rudygoofysrh]

As a man who grew up without a father in my home you sometimes feel clueless about manhood, I’m only successful because I learned that it was ok to ask for help from complete strangers about how to be a man who is Black, successful and legit. I’ve seen a lot of other young Black men without a father in their homes and the gangsters and gangs happily mentored until their demise because their negative influences were thrilled with showing them their way to live. I’m glad to be successful to positive Black male mentors who didn’t mind sharing their manly information and expertise with me. Thank God for Old School Black and White men who took a young brother under their wings to learn how to win the right way as a man.

[@charity1041]

No most only want to help if they are fucking your mother. Most don’t do it from the kindness of their hearts

[@lllewis2506]

😂umar contradicted himself he praised these single black women and condemned them in the next sentence for spoiled kids and not raising them right...nobody scolded him 🤦🏾‍♂️👀..

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

that is how politicians do

[@lllewis2506]

@@RazorRamonMachismo 😂 so true

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

@@lllewis2506 Well time to misanthrope

[@MasseurDavis]

Some men don't want to be a father, or raise another man's child, avoid the situation. If a woman knows he's a baby daddy to several children , she should have common sense not to be another number.

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

Some?? None do lol

[@beezelsub]

BW deliberately choose men who have multiple baby mommas

[@mr.culturefreedom2073]

At this point, Umar is a whole 🤡.

[@dawgfart1]

If you want to hear a black man that cares about black men's issues and is fighting back against the ignorance of Umar's blackman blaming spree, go listen to "Angry Mans" post against this stupidity.👊🏾

[@john_carter8243]

i'm already a step-dad for other people's kids cause... I PAY TAXES

[@cmack3795]

Thats another fact

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

bro too based but it is true hence commence the neet dom and be on unemployement in mom's basement if possible forever The world ain't worth it

[@GoatHolyfield]

Say it louder for the single mothers in the back 👏

[@NobleSoy]

It’s unnatural to be a step parent. You’ll always have that underlying force in your heart trying to love them because their not your biological kids. Blood is thick. I have been situations where I seen the Step kids ignored because the biological siblings come first.

[@SomeCrow-rq5dz]

We should encourage black men to be mentors and not stepfathers. We can help young black men without having to marry their moms.

[@Jerel93]

But I know guys who feel their homeboys are like their biological brothers, How is that situation is natural but raising and loving a child who is not your biological child is unnatural?

[@senviel]

​@Jerel93 genetic legacy matters. Building a bond with peers in the same generation is not the same as building a bond with the younger generation. In order for Dr. Umar's ideal to work you need at least 1 generation of men that don't care about having a genetic legacy of their own.

[@nonapplicable3055]

@@Jerel93 Because biologically men are supposed to have their own kids before using resources on another man child. I believe the term is called being cucked.

[@NobleSoy]

@@Jerel93 did you really just compare the two?? 🤣🤣😂

[@cryomancer2381]

That dude is wholely crazy if he thinks cleaning up irresponsible peoples mess will get you respect... all that teachs them is that they can continue to make bad choices and someone else will clean it up..

[@tpayne12no]

They see Brothers as garbage men, and nothing else. I've been one of those mentors before, only to drop the kids off at home While she and Pookie are sitting on the porch smoking a blunt. No thanks.

[@cryomancer2381]

@tpayne12no 💯... I spent 5 years coaching football in areas like that to try and give those kids something other then the streets... and their parents would drop them off and never be there to pick then up ... they just saw it as a free babysitter so they could do whatever... and no matter how much I poured into those kids it was undone by their mothers and pookie when they went home.. I wasted 5 years of my life

[@tpayne12no]

@@cryomancer2381 Damn, you know what? The free babysitting was the part that stuck the most with me. That's all I really was.

[@sonnyqsoul]

Choosing to help raise someone else's kids is a choice, not an obligation. And this is coming from a guy who has chosen to be a dad to two kids who aren't my own and whose mothers I am not in relationships with. If a guy isn't built that way, there's no benefits for him to raise someone else's kids if he's not gonna reap the benefits of a relationship with their mothers. Hell, at a minimum, sex. He's using his time, energy, and resources on someone else's kids when he has no kids of his own or when he has a family of his own he is there for. If the kid is a friend of his kids, that is a different story, because you want to make sure your kids are friends with the right kinda people. But otherwise, he's gotta be built a certain way to be a big brother or mentor or godfather or even a stepfather.

[@charity1041]

It is a benefit. To make the next generation better which helps society.

[@sonnyqsoul]

@@charity1041 again, there's no benefit for a guy who isn't built like that. You're talking about community, but the community starts with the individual, and it doesn't benefit him as an individual, and we live in a world in which the individual comes first. So what reason would most guys have to help raise someone else's kids when he doesn't get any benefits from it?

[@divineroadrunner]

@@charity1041 What would help society even more is if they stayed inside their little section 8 refugees and stopped reproducing so we can start over, they are BEYOND repair

[@charity1041]

@@sonnyqsoul to help the next generation of children who will be taking care of you, maybe wiping your ass in the nursing home

[@HorizonMediaGaming]

@@charity1041 then why isn’t he telling BW to pay BM whom they aren’t dating to mentor their children so she can financially invest in her kids rather than demanding BM do it for free? It sounds like this is only beneficial to the “next generation” and the Black woman who will likely eventually supported by her kids. Essentially the Bm gains nothing but the kid and mother gain everything? Nah pay for the change you wish to see sis, nothing in this world is free INCLUDING BM!

[@anthonynelson4015]

This N word here, still not holding accountable the man she chose to be her children's father

[@mrafroman4937]

But he won’t tell them to wait until they get married to have kids. Because it doesn’t fit his narrative. They said their bodies their choices but can’t control who put their seed in them.

[@ganesannarayanan5128]

“If the father is not in the home, the boy will find a father in the streets. I saw it in my generation and every generation before me, and every one ever since. If the streets raise you, then the judge becomes your mother and prison becomes your home.” - Denzel Washington.

[@emceeslo]

You know what Kevin Samuels would say about this one. He wouldn't be having it and neither will I. I don't make up for choosing Pookie, Ray Ray, and Tyrone to be their baby daddies.

[@antares3097]

Well guess I'm destroyed ' because i ain't never ever about to be a stepdaddie...

[@primetime8717]

Other cultures teach there daughters, don't become single mothers. You don't see too many Asian, Arab, or Indian step fathers.

[@thinktankindi2664]

No man should ever be able to say to another man, "Your wife is my babies mama". Get your own family men.

[@houseofhas9355]

Bingo.

[@ouknow1446]

He can still hit it on Mother's day, her birthday, your birthday, holidays and when you are gone from the house.

[@TheBlwigg]

He needs to lead by example!

[@goldenstateswarriorsbandwa4842]

Blk Single mothers run them donations - dr umar

[@rdoliver2965]

It’s our human nature as in the animal kingdom to raise our own. It’s to preserve our progeny. Women leave the relationship 8 times out of 10. We are seeing too much masculinity and the lack of fit, friendly, feminine and agreeableness in our women. It’s hard for some of us men finding a good woman that’s not damaged that we can share our wealth with. It’s really no fun having accumulated all this wealth without a good mate to share it with.

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

have tons of ashwagandha that will help you numb your emotions and be a full blown hedonist this world is not worth it

[@Cyber-Rain]

@@RazorRamonMachismo ashwagandha got me mellowed out.

[@rdoliver2965]

What do your foreign words mean?

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

@@rdoliver2965 Ashwagandha is a supplement that helps with anxiety but also tends to numb emotions and prolly make you feel less which helps in being stoic also everything is going to trash why not be as much of a hedonist and have as much of fun as possible coz nothing matters anymore or prolly go to a third world country with a good paying remote job and get better return on investment in relationship with local women

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

@@Cyber-Rain I hope all genz and gen alpha become like patrick bateman's and fuck shit up

[@markwint605]

I don't want to sound selfish but me not having children I don't feel it's my responsibility to take care of other people's kids.

[@Mmm_Feminist_tears]

They can keep their respect, the only kids I'm raising are my own. Ask Pookie to help

[@cperkins5050]

Pookie does nothing but mischief and has 100% respect. Tough to sacrifice yourself for someone that does nothing and is idolized.

[@GoatHolyfield]

If I wanted a black woman respect I would just become a criminal

[@DD-ky2pi]

Exactly. F their respect, & F that simp umar..

[@LIVEFRMNYC]

Which two non biological sons under the age of 18 is Dr Umar taking care of? Don't preach unless you show by example.

[@ELcoyote576]

Why raise another mans seed? That child already has a father, If you chose poorly, Deal with the consequences, No one told you to lay up with no protection.

[@MrChiCity3]

Its sad to see so many brothas not understand the message. Its not about raising children thats not yours. Its about taking back your blocks & community. Its not hard. I been on it since I was a teenager. All Love to my Brothas!🔥💯❤️

[@brooklyngemini3410]

U go take back them blocks from them demons these slores raised up

[@charity1041]

Thank you. Someone who gets it

[@v1nigra3]

Still the same thing 🤢

[@LarennPBel]

I agree w u

[@johnlawful2272]

You gonna take them blocks back from bd's and gd's

[@brirob00]

As Public Enemy stated, "Don't Believe the Hype"! 😎

[@MrKg954]

Nah bro bro I got two littles of my own that wear me out every damn day, I can’t save someone else’s kid at the moment 😂

[@arnarnie6844]

“WHAT DA????” - Jesse Lee Peterson voice.🤔🤨🤨😮‍💨

[@LonokeCountyResearch501]

Amazing 🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

[@evagrace6847]

The key term here is "Mutual Respect." We can't expect our black men to give us their utmost respect and then decide if they are worthy to receive the same utmost respect from us. It doesn't work that way. Respect goes both ways. It is earned, not given. You have to give respect in order to receive it. That's how it works. It's all in treating people the same way you want people to treat you because people will treat you the same way you treat them. We as black women must respect our black men the same way we expect black men to respect us.

[@Jason-nosaJ]

A King raises his own Kingdom not the family of another. How about saving yourself for marriage? How about only having kids you can afford? How about knowing how to cook and clean before motherhood?

[@PillzBerry27]

Now you agree on Dr. Umar Johnson's rhetoric. Black men and women need to take accountability for thier actions. Men protect your seed women value your worth. I have no problem helping a black boy but I am not responsible raising him. So Oshay please stop the flip flopping.

[@blackandproud83]

This is what I meant when I said that the problem with the pro-black community is it’s too matriarchal minded and the manosphere is too 🦝 minded. We as black men have to know to sustain a healthy medium of understanding how a society works in terms of families/what men want and the importance of being loyal to your community

[@jameskent8165]

Really that simple. I agree. Everything is better with balance.

[@blacksilverchair3315]

At this point there is no society. The women want to be men and the men are raised like women. To your tents Oh Israel.

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

Well anime it is then Most black men like anime and kung fu already lesss goo

[@nonapplicable3055]

Blackness and black culture will follow wherever prominent black men go outside of the states. The fact of the matter is no one needs to save these black women. We simply will wait for their time to pass and give the next generation of women a chance to learn from their mistakes. If the women don't change, your point is moot. The best men of any dying culture will simply migrate for a better chance at life.

[@blackandproud83]

@@nonapplicable3055I agree with you. I told myself years ago that if I ever get married it would be in the mother continent. I just don’t agree with BM saying that the answer is to automatically date outside of your race and not care about the black community of any sort when the true issue is within the western world

[@DariusJones]

So, as we help these young boys, who is teaching these women about order and peace?

[@cperkins5050]

Absolutely no one. BW are above reproach and refuse the mere thought of accountability.

[@thinktankindi2664]

It's more complicated than how Umar is explaining. Woman have a lot to do with their situation. For one...many choose the wrong type of men...when plentyl of good men are passed over as too nice or lames.

[@taewilliams3978]

Let me guess he wants black men to help fund that school too? He done lost his mind😂

[@RazorRamonMachismo]

grifting be real good

[@bducey]

Thats really what it is. Times have changed and he can't get it done fast enough.

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

BE ALL THAT YOU CAN BE SINGLE MOMMY 🫡

[@lordsinister707]

How much longer do the good and responsible men have to be lambasted with this "step up" mentality? No one should have to take on responsibilities that they don't create or they don't want. If anything it's the safety nets that encourage bad behavior. If we want things to change then people need to feel some consequences for their actions

[@nicholesdad2136]

Exactly.

[@monterospooner1612]

🎯🥃👌🏾

[@man.o.sphere]

No incentive. And bw respect has no value. Oshay i agree. But let’s be honest, woulda coulda shoulda… you have the opportunity and resources to do what Umar says. And as you like to say, “as a pro-black, it’s my calling.” Soooooo when are you gonna show up in one of those neighborhoods and become responsible for kids that are not yours?!

[@nicholesdad2136]

Exactly.

[@tymello501]

I would never be a step-dad, never no way. I have 5 kids, I would never be cooperative with no woman that does not bear or birth my biological seed! I've been married for 28 years, the young boys and girls that have been born out of wedlock it's their biological father's responsibilities to take care of them. It's my responsibility as a father to take care of my biological children. I will never take care of a Another's Man's biological children especially when you have children of your own! When a woman has children when you met her, it is the man's responsibilities that she had children with to take care of the children he had with her! As a true and devoted father you must always think about your children first! You should never put another man kids first, and you should never put another man's kid on same level as your children. Your biological children must come first overall... Dr. Umar is a simp and a sucker for trying to make men be tricks for the toxic BW!

[@theoriginal668]

I wouldn't advise any man to play step dad especially if you have no kids of your own. Dr Umar never talk about how these women choose these dudes to lay down and have kids with and most know the dude is no good

[@beautiful_wonderfullymade]

He said he’s “sick and tired of black men watching black women struggle with our children.” Respectfully, where are those children’s fathers for 1 ? Nobody is responsible for children who aren’t theirs. Why be disciplined with your seed and wait for a suitable partner and marriage just to turn around to have to be responsible for taking care of children who are not yours. I’m sorry, but I have to put the accountability on us for choosing to carry for those who aren’t our husbands. Sorry Dr. Umar you’re wrong with this one!

[@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT]

Right

[@marquesdesade717]

I tried it when I got married and it didn’t work because of my wife.

[@shawn_and_one]

Way too many black women don’t want to follow in a traditional relationship. These type women don’t want marriage and believe that they can be both mother and father. When it works out for them they’re a genius, but when they sons turn out to be bums then it’s the fathers fault. These women In enough cases want to replace us as men.

[@mindelo23]

*Men, in 2023 we are not wasting our time or money cleaning up anyone's mess or taking on other people's burdens. If no one ever told you before let me be the first to tell you, YOU DESERVE BETTER. Hold the line and don't let anyone shame you into accepting less. Only look out for what's best for you and always put yourself first. Other people and the consequences of their choices are not your responsibility.*

[@ALUCARDTWILLIGHT]

Amen

[@kingjdooley8400]

Been there and tried that..When that child's biological father wants to be back in the program, because he doesn't want another man around his child, that step father will get dropped like a bad habit. Umar forgot to point that out

[@mindforgecollective]

This is part of the problem in the Black community, a complete and utter lack of accountability. Black men are starting to realize the extreme difficulty and problems associated with dealing with single mothers and deciding that they would rather not go through it. It's not another man's responsibility nor obligation to step in to something like that. If these woman stopped acting so entitled and actually appreciated a man settling for them and making such a sacrifice, they might get more traction, but let's stop attempting to shame these men for their preferences.

[@soundsaboutright---]

He said be mentors to young boys. That doesn't require dating their mothers

[@nicholesdad2136]

Shouldn't the father's of these children be doing that??

[@soundsaboutright---]

@@nicholesdad2136 "good black men" being mentors has nothing to do with that. Since when is having a dad in your life a prerequisite for mentorship? I bet you think you're a "good guy," but you sound like a ray ray🧐

[@diz0973ify]

Preach

[@JamalJewell]

​@@soundsaboutright--- so go be a mentor then

[@cortezturner2004]

This is facts oshay duke Jackson I’m 19 and say how can u lead someone when u hurting yourself as a man in us💯💯💯

[@deewoo2776]

Everything is based on "CHOICES". Either you make a good choice OR you make a bad choice.

[@PBLightning145]

No

[@rdkirk3834]

With 70% of children being born out of wedlock, the fathers of the other 30% would never be able to take up that slack. The math doesn't math.

[@shaunmorse4089]

He is giving me the vibes of I’m the smartest person in the room, looking down on his own race of people. Talk talk talk is all I hear from him, he might love the smell of his own 💨 farts. He has no solutions

[@bluewave3417]

I said this on the original video. But mentorship will not overcome an 80% out of wedlock rate. Also, I'm married to a Black woman and actively raising my Black children. Has Umar even done that yet? Do that before you want to give a lecture.