Am I Too Old to Wear That? || Frank Talk About Aging Out of Styles

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I’m not too old to wear anything, I’m 64. I’m happy about my figure and I have good legs, even the skin, thanks to my two Grandma’s “great legs DNA” and me keeping my weight to a healthy one, 125 lbs. I wear short skirts/dresses or shorts almost every day, why not? I’m not too crazy about my wrinkled arms, it’s from aging-related collagen loss, not “lack of toning/exercise” and genes, some women get this more than others, or earlier or later than others. But, that doesn’t stop me from wearing sleeveless tops when I need or want to. We can’t help aging, so why should we feel ashamed? Men don’t!

[@normakeith4472]

What a beautifully positive post. Thank you!❤

[@lidijazivanovic2810]

You are right on point! If you feel good in your clothes- wear them with a smile 😃

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Absolutely. Thanks for sharing, Kimberly. 😊

[@marshabarnhart8826]

Its castor oil that thickens eyelashes and eyebrows...do the research

[@jojo-tl5ei]

Agree with you that we should wear what we want. As to why we avoid it, probably to avoid exposing ourselves to judgment or feeling unattractive.

[@4lb280]

I think that we should wear what makes us happy, not what makes others happy.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Absolutely. 💯

[@edennis8578]

For me, it's some of both. I only wear clothes because it would shock other people if I didn't. 😊 I wear dark colors for serious occasions, light, happy colors for family get togethers, and generally I wear what's appropriate. So, yes, I wear what I think will please other people, to a point. But if they want to take away my pink, heaven help them!

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

If you love it, feel confident and beautiful in, wear it! Other people who criticize don’t deserve our attention.

[@valiaudet3415]

Who is looking at what people wear. On the street, most people are in a world of their own, on a phone why would they be interested in who wears what . Some may see you for a second. Where whatever you want and be confident in your choices.

[@katherinerichardson1767]

Since I have retired, I am doing difference activities than I use to do when I was working. I have outfits that suit my new life now. Thank you for your support in regard to what can be worn at our age. You are a real help in not just sharing clothing hacks but the positive attitude you project. ❤

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Love that! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. 💜

[@pamsunderland6095]

I asked you over 3 years ago if i was too old for pale blue denim jacket. You said Gosh no! I am still wearing it at nearly 69 and love it.

[@edennis8578]

Depending on your personal style, I don't see a denim jacket as an age thing. If your style has changed and you no longer have as casual a style, then I can see it, but if your style is still natural and casual, I don't think it can look wrong.

[@johnpope8887]

I agree with your previous video about dressing modern rather than youthful and this video reinforces that principle. keeping outfits simple and classy means you can wear anything that makes you feel confident and smart love all your ideas kay many thanks

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for sharing!! 🥰

[@ConnieWinkleman]

I just asked myself that yesterday. I had bought a pair of Levi wide leg jeans a year ago and questioned myself if I was too old to wear them. I just turned 66 in May. So, I ironed them, yes, I like to iron, always have. I don’t care much for steamers, they stress me out, lol! Anyway, at the last minute I ironed a back up pair of jeans. After my shower I put them on with a plain Banana Republic Factory V neck t-shirt and their white sneakers. I did my minimal make up, my hair and added a small pearl and gold chain necklace, small pearl earrings and small pearl and gold bracelets. I rocked that look. My other jeans are waiting for me to wear today and I’m questioning if I should wear them with a tank top or button down shirt. I actually braved it this week and wore a tank top for the first time in years out in public. I was not only proud of myself but also felt good in it.

[@karenmiller5745]

I love to iron too! Always have!!!!!!!!!! I iron my husband's clothes, my clothes and the grandchildren's when they stay with us!

[@ConnieWinkleman]

@@karenmiller5745 One of our chores as a kid was having to iron clothes. My husband even irons his clothes and he didn’t used to before we got married. Plus, in my opinion, steaming takes longer than ironing.

[@annabeltheduchessofdessert7700]

That sounds like a great classic outfit! I’d pair it with a leather jacket in cooler weather. The tank or button down would both be great with jeans. I love wideleg jeans! I’m the same age you are.

[@Anagrams458]

Ha, I also turned 66 in May and also have a pair of wide legged jeans that I like to wear when I'm in the mood for that look. Go us!!

[@annabeltheduchessofdessert7700]

@@Anagrams458yay, go us!!!

[@gardenhappy4]

Sage advice Kay. As I have aged (retired), I have noticed how little anyone cares what I wear. It doesn't matter much in any real way so it is a great time to wear what truly suits you, including items like bows, ruffles, and bold prints.

[@kimberlyberlin4999]

Such a well thought out presentation Kay. You hit the nail right on the head. It's not that we're too old to wear something, it's that we've out grown it.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I do avoid a lot of those little-girlish details like ruffles, flounces, puffed shoulders, Peter Pan collars, etc. I need sophisticated clothing and I love classic tailored items in 100% natural fibers and materials, and in feminine, mostly light, neutrals and colors. I like classic prints, too, like dots, stripes, checks and tartan and a few very carefully selected floral/foliage prints. I avoid shopping at those mature brands, the use a lot of old-ladyish styles like big long shirts and cardigans, tunic tops, skinny jeans and 3/4-sleeves. The too-bright colors and novelty prints aren’t modern and the prints and accessories are scaled for much bigger women, I’m petite and slender. I do buy the occasional item at Talbot’s, usually basics, so long as they’re not so long as to be unflattering (not every item comes in Petite, unfortunately). I always show my waist by tucking in all my tops or wearing waist-length ones. Those long tops hanging down to the thighs are the most aging thing ever, especially in florals. Don’t hide or tent your female shape, show it, it’s beautiful at any age or weight!

[@sharonstratton1987]

I’m 72 and I’ve never asked myself if I was too old to wear something. I shop in all the departments juniors, maternity, plus size and men’s

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

👍🏻

[@laurielenig9939]

@Sharon, you sound awesome!💖

[@dianecyment1715]

This is such a relevant video. Four years ago I asked myself the question, "Am I too old to wear shorts?" I was 63 years old. I Googled that question and it was then I was brought to a KZbin influencer (my first). Well here I am four years later and I am rocking shorts, mostly the Bermuda silhouette. I wear them more often now because I live in Scottsdale, AZ where it is scorching hot. My main concern was my imperfections on my legs, you know the varicose veins, etc. I am more confident now and it doesn't bother me any longer. You have also made a difference in this respect for me, Kay. Thank you so much. Loved this video.

[@BedaKantarjian]

I live in Florida, also a hot climate, and can't imagine not wearing shorts. For modesty most of the body must be covered, but not legs. At 86 I sometimes wear a pair my son calls Daisy Dukes. Put on a nice Tee and long necklace and earrings and nobody seems to notice my legs--which are still not that bad. (Thank you, Mother, for the good genes.)

[@g.flesch9731]

​@@BedaKantarjiancongrats on wearing shorts in that real hot climate. You are never too old for shorts in heat. Do senior guys wear shorts in the heat? YES.

[@paulwade4322]

Sally Hanson's leg make-up products are wonderful and stay in place in hot weather. They make veins and spots disappear!

[@kham7571]

Agree. Try Sally Hansen leg products.

[@nelly8592]

Before turning 40 I've asked myself whether I should stopp wearing shorts because I thought they were not appropriate any longer, although I had slim long legs and were proud of them. Now I'm 64 and what should I say? I never stopped! I've still slim long legs I am still proud of, even if they are not perfect (some little blue veins). But I don't care. I love also wearing shorts with nude tights, in my country it's possible even sometimes in summer. And it looks to me better and more put together than bare legs. 😊

[@janetstraw191]

I agree that ‘age’ isn’t necessarily the predominant factor. It’s more due to many intangibles: Mainly your personality, how you carry yourself, and your attitude. The ‘vibe’ you give off. 🥰

[@DebDebbiesWorld]

I'm under 50 (45) and I wear most of the things on that list you read off at the beginning LOL What I think is most important (for what its worth), is to wear quality clothes that FIT PROPERLY. Be it a bikini or a blazer. Too big- makes you look bigger. Too small - makes you look bigger. But properly fitting... no matter the item or style... will flatter your figure the BEST.

[@janismcbroom6821]

@@DebDebbiesWorld Tailoring is so important!!

[@diannhoward9903]

I was so unsure of myself when I retired 2 years ago; what to wear and how to spend my days. I also lost all my hair with cancer treatments. Talk about loss of confidence! I’ve decided now that I can wear whatever makes me feel good about myself and whether it’s shorts, jeans or athletic wear I do it. Still like looking modern and put together though. Great video Kay!

[@zedmcwilton699]

Brilliant advice and so encouraging. You always look young and vibrant, which gives us over a certain age something to aspire to.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Ahh, that’s very kind. Thanks so much for watching. 😊

[@janeChilders-q7o]

I absolutely love your new hairstyle! It is very attractive on you.

[@joanneberry5390]

Thank you, Kay! I needed that! I just lost a bunch of weight, and have the fun (yet challenging) task of buying a lot of new things. This age question has popped up in the fitting room over and over! My rule is, take your teen granddaughter with you when you shop, she’ll be honest with her opinions and you’ll look great! I’m 74 and love feeling great again!

[@JQRose]

Oh yes, my 15 year old grand girl tells it like it is! 😊

[@JQRose]

Unfortunately my suitcase was stolen last fall on our tour of New England. I lost my summer tops and shorts, etc. I am not a shopper so i didnt know how to go about replacing my clothes. Nor did i have any desire to look for anything. Thanks to your guidance on these videos I was inspired to buy a few items. I had to re think my style choices and bought different garments to fit the present me. That video was outstanding confirming my feelings exactly about changing inside and outside. You are a classy, warm-hearted woman. Really appreciate your help.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s very kind. Thank you for those encouraging words. 💜

[@mikki3961]

I think your approach is absolutely wonderful! We are changing and growing as we age. I am not the same person I was at 20 and I don't want to be. I decided that I will wear what makes ME feel confident and beautiful. Your advice and care is priceless, thank you!!

[@anitamoss9408]

You are so spot on Kay!! I love this advice. As a 55yr old, lots of changes have occurred in the past 3 yrs. Most everything you mentioned I can relate to. I thank the Lord for you and your words of wisdom for us older ladies. God bless you richly ❤

[@janwynn2731]

This was a great video! I agree with everything you said! I’m petite and 73. I love wearing ruffles and bows and different shades of pink but I have to say feminine tends to be one of my style preferences. I really think it’s more about one’s body shape and style preferences than age. For example I have very unattractive knees and so I stay away from short skirts and shorts because of that. Thank you for your research!💕

[@305Tricia]

I think people focus more on age instead of body type/shape. Our body shape changes. We may not be the same shape we were even as little as a year ago. A 99 year old inverted triangle wearing clothes which flatters a pear shaped body will look unflattering and it won’t have anything to do with her age. I was 5’9” about 3 years ago, but with age, my spine has compressed now and my torso is much shorter, I look very disproportionate now because I have very long legs and now such a short torso due to my spine compression (I’m in my mid 40s and have chronic bone inflammation which is why my spine compressed so quickly and earlier in life) I think age related spine compression is the main culprit why our body shape changes because it directly affects of weight distribution on the torso. Im now having to curate an entire new wardrobe because many of the pieces I had were suitable for my balanced slim built 5’9” frame, now I look frumpy if I wear my high waisted pants that I use to wear regularly 😂 Complimentary colors is also a big factor. Eg Black isn’t for everyone, it dulls the complexion of some people, while it brightens the complexion of others.

[@laurielenig9939]

Thank the Goddess black compliments mine!

[@MZ-arch]

Thank you, Kay. Good discussion. I believe what was missing in that discussion is the awareness about the changes our bodies experience while we age. No body-shaming here but we need to stay aware of the changes in our own body (weight distribution, skin issues, varicose veins, etc.) that affect the way we see ourselves in the mirror. Just only this reason can be why our look from 5 years ago does not look cute on us anymore. "Outgrowing" a look is always our choice. We need to celebrate our chance to age proudly and continue with our everchanging style journey so we can dress confidently through the rest of our lives.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks for sharing. Well put. 💜

[@wolchfam]

I think 70 is the new 40. Seems to me there doesn’t seem to be age related styles quite so much as when I was younger. Although I do see some styles that scream “old lady” at me and I try to avoid those. I do agree with you that a certain style may still look great on an older woman but not for everyone (this applies at any age I believe). Some young women look great in halter tops but not all do. It’s a case by case situation. Love your videos - keep helping us older ladies look our best. I’m 74 and think I’m doing great still and love following fashion advice. Thank you.

[@EdwinaWHeard]

WOW! I love everything you said, Kay because I have often asked myself these questions over the past five years. As I'll be turning 68 in a few months, I have had to rethink some items in my closet. And, I'll be honest and say, there have been times in the past when I have yielded to comments or things I have thought someone out there would say about my outfits and decided not to wear what I really liked or thought looked good on me because of them. So, Your comments about how we should ignore the Fashion Police are priceless to me. I'll be rethinking how I make my fashion decisions from now on. They will be based on my own preferences, not someone else's. Thanks for sharing such wisdom.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Lovely. I’m so glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching. 😊

[@Patty.198]

We DO change in both mind and body! Cute boots I bought only one year ago don’t seem as important. I want more comfort over style (but still stylish-that’s the challenge).

[@maryramsbottom5048]

I have a dress I wore to a niece's wedding in 2012 which fits me again and looks really cute and is a small dotted print which also seems modern. It is sleeveless...and I am going to wear it to a friend's daughter's wedding anyway, regardless of the upper arm swing. I have embraced those as part of my heritage and remember lovingly my Mom's upper arms that looked like that. I may lift a weight now and again, but feel no compulsion to do so for this occasion. Yes, love who you are unconditionally, as you do others.

[@maryramsbottom5048]

I forgot to add...I am 72 now.

[@janismcbroom6821]

Such wonderful advice!! I LOVE the idea that we don’t age out of styles but we are continually progressing in our personal style choices and that we don’t have to be stuck in a rut at any point. Your blog and your videos are a blessing to me.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I’m so glad. Thank you. 🥰

[@susanwexler6983]

I have found that if I don't like the music being played in a store, the clothes don't usually fit me. Loud hip-hop? Time to move on!😂

[@laurielenig9939]

😂😂😂

[@nelly2127]

Hi dear Kay, you’re right. And since I have retired (2 years) my way of life has changed. I practice sports, I read books, I cook, I look after my garden, so my outfits are different, even my hair is different , I’m growing my hair out and I tie it back. And I couldn’t have imagined this when I was working. ( A long hair for me😳) I think it’s wonderful to change our minds. I like it. Never say never.😂 XOXO from France.❤

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Beautifully put. Thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts. 💜

[@Scotchirish-SL]

Thank you for your candor about how you view yourself. Boy, can I relate (age 66). I now, however, have a perspective of being somewhat content and grateful for all that comes with aging, since I have been faced with a life threatening illness that almost took my life. I still like looking cute, but not quite as worried about my aging dumpiness and sagging skin. Healthy is the key…and the healthier we look, the better we look, at any age! By the way, you glow, Kay!❤

[@mariecurie7491]

At age 70, I have no time to waste on anything that doesn't make me happy. I have tanned slim legs and love wearing shorts. But the A-line mid length blue denim shorts that I loved so much 5 years ago that I got them also in white, just didn't look right this year. Whether my body has changed or the fabric got tired, doesn't matter: they went in the clothes bank. As will the butter yellow denim shorts that are just a tad too short 🤷‍♀️

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Way to be decisive! 🙌🏻 I love that. 😊

[@allisonangier1631]

Nooooo keep the yellow shorts! Maybe add some crochet trim or a band of tassels or anything playful or feminine?

[@AuntPeggy1019]

I like this very practical and upbeat message. I am sitting here in my golf skirt and polo looking pudgy but my body has changed no matter the diet, exercise. Oh, well. I'd look silly out there in anything else. C'est la vie!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I’m sure you look beautiful! Chin up! 🙌🏻🥰

[@reallifewithrobbie5957]

I think this is my favorite of all your videos. I just turned 58 and aging can be hard as our bodies change. Menopause has been brutal on me and I just don’t feel like myself so what I wear plays a big part in how I feel about myself. I have other health issues so comfort is a big deal, but sometimes I feel like I have to sacrifice fashionable for comfort. Thank you for your gracious wisdom. I think this will be a game changer for me. If I like it, and I feel good in it, and it’s current then I don’t have to worry what others think of me in it. And vice versa, if I don’t feel good in it, then I don’t have to wear it and be ok with that.

[@peggygregory5719]

Such a great video. Just this week I purchased a maxi sundress. The straps were about 1 1/2 inches wide so it was bra friendly. However it still showed a lot of skin. The sales lady gushed about how wonderful I looked in the dress. Hah! The whole time I am looking in the mirror and thinking 'look at your arms Peggy' Yes, my upper arms are not firm, aka flabby. However, I bought the dress. When I tried it on for my daughter her response was, 'Mom it is a really pretty dress. You can get some hand weights and work out and firm your arms and it would be great.' I asked and my daughter answered honestly. I am 70 and knew the hand weight thing was not going to happen! I have decided I am not comfortable showing so much skin these days. Bottom line - if you look in the mirror and are not comfortable with the outfit you have on, don't buy it, don't wear it. You will be miserable. Also with hair length. I have always loved long hair but as I aged I realized that the longer my hair was the more tired I looked. It just dragged my face down (if that makes sense). I could go on and on. Ladies, wear what makes you happy and fuels your confidence. Also. City Beauty is a great brand. I have many of their products. Have a great weekend Kay.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I think we’ve all been there if we’re honest with ourselves. That is exactly how I feel about my hair. I loved having long hair. But each time I start growing it out I feel like it just pulls my face down. I don’t think that’s the case for every woman, but it is for me.

[@CLCAMA]

I agree so much. Unfortunately salespeople tell you it looks fabulous all the time. Sticking to my gut works for me.

[@SheronWest]

Great video Kay. This is the dilemma I’m facing as I will be 70 on Wednesday. I began de-cluttering the clothes in my wardrobe about 9 mths ago as I just wasn’t feeling like the styles I’d been wearing for the past 10 years suited me anymore. No more animal prints or florals. I have some new shirts and jumpers with stripes, but I’m mostly comfortable in solid colours. However… when I see photos of myself in these new clothes, I don’t recognise myself anymore. I’m happy feeling comfortable in my new wardrobe of clothes and ( reluctantly) my older body, so I guess I’m just fitting into a new and different season of my life. Thanks for the thought provoking content and encouragement . I love your new hairstyle. With love from Sheron in Toowoomba. Queensland, Australia. ❤️🌻

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, Sheron. I’m sure many of us are right there with you. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video. 😊

[@g.flesch9731]

I am making the change away from floral prints & obvious animal prints & I personally dislike palm prints for summer. Going for solid colors or as a petite woman small stripes in a top no large horizontal stripes. Still wear shorts in hot, hot humid summer weather. My legs are great.

[@sarahgillilan3316]

I love your new hair cut. I keep meaning to tell you but I think you look so chic. Thank you for todays video!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Than you so much. I’m enjoying it. ☺️

[@allofustyrees8685]

VERY well said! Thank you for this. Nothing is more constant than change.

[@marthasanders7344]

Kay, your advice is consistently spot-on and useful. I am so glad you are doing this work!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you. That is very encouraging. 😊

[@PatriciaGarcia-qg8ec]

THE game changer for me was seeing a color consultant. She spent several hours doing the analysis and educating me on how to wear color. It has made all the difference.

[@DH-bb3nx]

This video has been a revelation and makes so much sense!! It's given me an entirely different way of looking at clothes. Instead of thinking about if it is too young, thinking instead about whether it chimes with the woman I am now. Thank you so much for your insight and your positivity and wisdom about the aging process and reminding us we can age with beauty and grace and still have so much to offer ourselves and the world about us.❤

[@OnPointwithKarenHughes]

Thanks for the reassurance, Kay! You're my favorite influencer.

[@rossrbi]

Love this video! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this timely topic. It will help me when I do my long “put off” closet clean out. I will definitely go with my gut and realize that I truly have changed on the inside, as much as the outside! P.S. I received a last minute invitation to join my son and his gf on a California wine tasting trip last month. Because of you, I had everything I needed to wear and mix and match. And not boasting, but this KY girl looked as well put together and modern as anyone. Thank you, Kay. You make a difference in so many lives. ❤

[@AA-jn3oc]

Your message is spot on that we evolve through the seasons of our life and that styles may no longer reflect who we are. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@PaulineEvans-r5j]

I have asked myself this question too. But I think as a rule if we don’t feel comfortable or think we don’t look good, then don’t wear it. That goes for any age.

[@lucieshultz4734]

I feel like this video was so uplifting. Thank you.

[@flowerpower3618]

Kay, that color is so flattering on you! My mother was the queen of shouldn’ts , and pointing out flaws in others - the original fashion police.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s too bad. But at least you recognize that graciously. And thank you for the sweet compliment. 💜

[@terridelozier7780]

I so agree with your thoughts! We can continue to dress in a way that reflects who we are and how we want to present ourselves to and move through the world.

[@KathyFaye]

Your approach to this subject was so perceptive and accurate, Kay. My weight hasn’t changed but I just don’t feel right wearing clothes I wore even in the last couple of years. Thanks to you, my new understanding of my style is rewarding and much easier. Blessings!

[@catharinacamenisch752]

You are so right - we change and we outgrow certain things. As long as we have fun and are grateful what we have, there will always be amazing things available. Thank you for this video.

[@debbiefulginiti170]

Great nonjudgmental video with lots of good information.

[@marieschmidt9416]

Good topic for a video. Also I notice that I don't get compliments much anymore (age 68 and trim figure) and I used to get them all the time. This is kinda sad for me. I still care about fashion and clothes.

[@dianamay8600]

I bought several dresses all the same style with different prints. I try them on now and they look ok, but they’re not me anymore. They remind me of when I was ill and I associate them with how poorly I was before my surgery. I feel it’s sensible to now let them go. Thank you Kay

[@denisedorsey2889]

You bring up an important point. Any article of clothing that has a negative connotation has no right to be in your closet.

[@annabeltheduchessofdessert7700]

I don’t care for City Beauty so much. I’ve tried a number of their products and they don’t do what they promise. I do think their hand cream is great and see improvements in my hands!

[@chccooperider1377]

I can’t use the products either. The neck and jaw cream caused terrible itching and the lip plumper was very sticky. I like their packaging color scheme though.

[@kayeratliff9799]

Great video. I find myself asking does this look to old on me!! Some of the items I had when I worked did! I don't want to look to "old" either.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks so much for watching, Kaye. 😊

[@KimFales]

It's always a good idea to be thoughtful about any new purchases, at any age. The items we wear set the 1st impression to anyone who sees us, and it should be in sync with how we feel in our own skin. Great video with honest and heartfelt advice ❤!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Absolutely! I completely agree. Thanks so much for sharing. 🥰

[@marcialane8235]

Spot on with this topic! My 62 year old self has had to say no to a lot of this years looks with the super short ruffled sleeves as they look ridiculous on me and accentuate the fattest parts of my arms ( I’m not fat but my upper arms don’t look like even my arms at even 40)…that being said I do see some older women in the ruffled sleeves and look fabulous!

[@evesmith2218]

Love the new hair ! Looks cute and sassy !

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you!! ☺️

[@sharontesar3548]

I have just semi-retired from our family business. Now I am working from home. I love it, however all the beautiful clothes and jewelry I have are no longer being used. My wardrobe has completely changed to a much more casual look. I appreciate your honest assessment of aging and changing circumstances surrounding all of our lives which affect the clothes we wear. My clothing has always been more tailored and business orientated. I love your blouse, by the way….ordered one from McLaughlin!

[@gigigirl1023]

I learned a trick. If you’re unsure of any outfit :::: Take a photo of yourself in the dressing room to see if it looks good for your body type; color or style.

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

So true how this works

[@laurielenig9939]

@gigigirl...thank you so much. I've never thought of this! You techy young ones!!

[@karenmiller5745]

Thank you for this video. I would like to share my thoughts with you. I just turned 60 in April. Your body definitely changes shape as you age no matter how many steps you take a day. LOL But this is ok you just have to adjust your wardrobe. I am meticulous about taking care of my clothing thinking I will be able to wear this for years to come. WRONG! I will try something on and it's too tight in the waist or the arms now. I am the same weight for 20 years but your actually body shape shifts. I struggle with my mid-section not being flat and tight anymore and that is something I have to accept and address accordingly to my fashion choices now. I also think mini dresses are off the table for older women unless you are small and petite. If you dress age appropriately it actually makes you look younger. I am classic/preppy style and I stick to neutral colors such as white, navy (my favorite), cream, and black. Now I do wear other colors occasionally too. But I agree as you age it is a challenge to dress to feel your best. I love your videos and clothes choices. I have bought several of your dress choices. I think Ann Taylor, Talbots, JCrew, Landsend, Macys, Nordstrom, Lily Pulitzer, Rhoback, Vineyard Vines, JJill and Garnet Hill are great stores to shop for women our age. You can still look current and fresh even when you are 60. I never want to look old and frumpy! LOL Have a great weekend!

[@tl2940]

Another thing I have noticed as I have gotten older is that clothes that are not well made don’t look as nice as they used to on me. Now I purchase fewer higher quality clothing and find that I am much happier with them long term.

[@Leslie-vz3dr]

I'm curious to learn more details about color. What colors are more for younger women, or do you mean color trends and avoiding wearing colors that are no longer popular?

[@nikiifrank5289]

Thank you for tackling this question and answering it so very well. By the way, I’m 74 and I’ve been enjoying so much your daily blog and your videos for a few years now. I also enjoy your daily devotional. Thank you so much for all you do. Getting old is definitely not for sissies, but you do take some of the trauma out of it! 😉

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Hahaha! We’re in this together! 🙌🏻

[@carolinesaunders8603]

Hi Kay, another fabulous video! I sometimes pull out something I used to wear a lot and realise it's not fashionable any more and I feel dated in it. It's not my age it's just I've moved with the times!🤗 Thank you for everything you do! Caroline

[@dawnjeffersramstad8401]

Kaye, well said. When you released this two weeks ago, I was in a huge life transition--I retired. My kids were here, I had to ready my office for my successor including downsizing my professional library, and a love-filled retirement party. I saved this to "watch later." Last Monday I realized I do not have enough summer tops for two, but I had two weeks worth of summer office dresses. I am too old for that many dresses. Doesn't mean I am too old for dresses, but as a seamstress I checked my stash for tops fabric! Thanks again. 🎉

[@tceller08]

What a great video! Your advice is spot on. One of my moms friends loved her mini skirts, long hair and bright red cowboy boots, and wore them with confidence right up until she passed in her 80’s. #goals

[@sandylynch6676]

Feeling comfortable in your clothes is important If you dont Dont wear it !!😊 We all have good points and not so good ones They change too So its a challenge !! Great video KAY ❤

[@vzeimen]

Totally agree on your thoughts with this, also am loving your new haircut. So cute!

[@rachelkivarkis1801]

Thank you Kay, and good morning. What a beautiful, informative and bonus video. God bless you, for all the enlightenment and encouragement. 🥰🙏👍❤️✝️🌟💫🌺🌸✨🌼

[@nataschajudson7509]

Thank you, Kay, for all your informative and encouraging videos. You are a blessing! ❤

[@CathyAllen-uo6qz]

Thank you for explaining that concept, Kay- you are absolutely right! Just as a teen doesn't wear what she did at 5, we progress in what we look/feel best in. Regarding colors as we mature, can you go a little more into this? Colors to be careful of as they are thought to be more juvenile?

[@marysouthard804]

I personally wear long flowing skirts and 3/4 length sleeves or short sleeves in summer to stay cool as I am not willing to subject anyone to the visual truth of my 65 year old body. Fortunately I have worn sunscreen daily since my 20's, so my face is in good shape for my age. This reveals that I'm not happy about the changes in my body, but I try to look nice and keep some features to myself.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks so much for sharing. 💕

[@monicamellows2946]

I absolutely love your new hair style it makes you look fantastic.

[@annyoung1092]

Kay, that lilac color is stunning in you! Love this content. Almost 63 and need your consulting!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you. I just can’t get enough of this color lately. 💜

[@debra5515]

So glad you did this video. I ask myself this question almost every day. I can see where it might not be just my age, but my style and taste in clothes has changed. Thanks!

[@stellacollins3114]

I’ve been changing my style recently, nothing to do with what I think I should or shouldn’t wear at my age (62) but I have changed how I see myself and how I want to look , my rules my style , I wear what I want , brilliant video 👍

[@GabySchäfer-l3d]

Very well put! As we get older ...body changes...but every woman is so different. What suits ones might not go for another ones. Even when we're younger. But at the same time we and our lives change Things like colours or fabrics don't have an age limit. But we ourselves can definitely see if something looks odd . I sometimes ask my husband in the shop, if he's around. He can see right away if it suits me or not

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Good idea. Those closest to us and can often help us with this…if they’re willing to be gracious but honest. 🥰

[@juliejohnson-hunt7134]

Great video Kay! I love the tip about trying things on when we look our best (hair, makeup etc). For me i have to add, not to try on items new or older at the end of the day or before going to bed. I tend to bloat through the day and at the end of the day i can be tired, or bloated, or just not in the right frame of mind. I usually do shopping or closet shopping in the mornings.

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

You make great points. The hardest thing is for some of us to recognize when something no longer suits us. When I was in my 40s I worked with a woman in her mid50s who wore mini skirts almost daily. She was very thin but had been a sun worshipper and the skin on her legs was saggy and hung especially on her inner thighs and knees. I didn’t think it flattered her otherwise beautiful figure. I try to remember that as a benchmark.

[@patticarnevale2360]

Great video. I am 59 and very fit. I find lately people saying I should not work out as much for 'someone my age', I should cover up more etc. I do not wear skimpy clothing, it has never been my thing, I am big boned (an MD once said I was one of the few women he had ever met who could actually say that 🤣) so that style has never looked good on me. I do however wear sleeveless and racerback tops a lot, and so many of my friends my age seem to think that is too young. I also prefer a two piece bathing suit as I have a very short torso and have a hard time finding a one piece that fits my chest (34D) and my torso.

[@DonnaJackson-b8v]

Thank you for the City Beauty link and info about BOGO. I ordered the mascara this morning and I can't wait for it to arrive. I ordered the lip plumper a few weeks ago and it is everything you said it would be. I love your new hairstyle, too. And thanks for being so honest and classy.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I think you’ll love the mascara. Thanks for letting me know that the City Lips delivered, too. Have a great weekend! 🌻

[@suzanschneider6163]

I needed this video. Thank you for the encouragement. I will definitely try your suggestion for when looking in the mirror at an outfit and it doesn’t feel okay: Try finishing the look with shoes, accessories and hair/makeup. Then, if I still feel uncomfortable Ask Why and try to adjust it. If still not comfortable, time to reconsider it! My biggest dilemma when shopping is what I’m still drawn to from when I was 20-30 years old: lace, embroidery, eyelet, large prints, bold color. Now, I tell myself to admire and enjoy those on other people. I still wear pink- it’s one of my best colors.

[@carolalvarez3925]

Good points. I don't feel comfortable in shorts anymore. Using ankle length pants in lightweight fabrics instead. I found some cute T-shirt dresses that are knee length. Using leg makeup helps. For dog walks I wear old capris or joggers..only never as an outfit anywhere else.

[@kerryparker8925]

I love this advice. Great tip on doing your hair, makeup and shoes when seeing if you still like an outfit you once loved. I think this goes with trying on new outfits as well. I’m excited to get city beauty mascara, buy one get one free. It’s the best mascara and doesn’t irritate my sensitive eyes. I stocking up on the lip products as well.

[@jeannfav2921]

What a great video. So well done! I got a lot out of your helpful information 😊

[@rolson1695]

This was a really good listen, Kaye - thank you for giving such a balanced viewpoint. Totally agreed with everything you said! I'm 64 and have such varicosed veined legs, I just don't want to wear shorts, swimsuits or dresses anymore even though I used to LOVE wearing them! Those days are over for me, but it's ok...I'm finding other things I like and feel confident in, and trying not to focus on what I can't wear.

[@rosemarycooper1572]

I am 77 and wear shorts only on holiday, not afraid of sleeveless tops and dresses as the weather gets warmer, even although my arms are a bit saggy, but I can’t help that and I’d rather be cool. I would wear a linen jacket or cardigan in church though and on other occasions where appropriate. I think the worst thing is when older women reveal too much leg or cleavage, not a good look. Thanks for great video Kay.

[@tplayspiano]

I enjoyed your perspective on this subject and found myself nodding my head a lot!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I'm so glad! Thank you for watching today. 🥰

[@teresastevens2084]

Kay, We’ve been away on vacation and I’m just catching up on your video episodes. The words of advice and insight you’ve given here should be published in a booklet! I was taking in every word you spoke, nodding my head or shouting “Yes!” Years ago, a friend and fellow seamstress talked me in to having my “colors” done which was one of the smartest investments in myself I’ve made since earning my Masters in 1980! Not only did this professional Colorist provide me with my “Season” she spent 3 hours with me and I also learned what my “Style Aesthetic” was. These two keys have saved me thousands of dollars both retail shopping for ready-to-wear clothes and in purchasing fabrics for sewing my wardrobe pieces. Not everyone sews, I get that. (I make a small living sewing for those that don’t.) But, my point is, if you take the time to invest in having your colors done and pinpointing where your style aesthetic lies, you will be forever pleased with the choices you make. If you see a jumpsuit in a big, bold floral print on a tiny, petite young woman, and you are a “soft summer” with a “classic romantic” aesthetic, then go shopping for a floral jumpsuit in your color palette! I can’t wear bold, bright colors - they drown out my skin tone - so I search other sources to find the item I want in the colors I know will compliment my skin tone! Kay, you are so knowledgeable in ways to help us build a cohesive, workable wardrobe! Your advice and is so welcoming and appreciated! Sensational episode! ❤ P.S. Thank you, too, for the City Beauty link and coupon offer!

[@jerrigomez5869]

Love this. I thought exactly this a month ago as I was putting on blue nail polish. Do 60 year old grandmothers wear blue nail polish? I decided I really like the color so yes.

[@denisedorsey2889]

Hah! I’m 68 and wear blue nail polish often. I teach high school and my students often compliment me on my nail color. 😊

[@beckybainer9019]

What an interesting topic…you are so spot on! It does feel good to evolve and know I can still look good while being conscience of my choices. Thanks Kay

[@sherrynorte9574]

Love this video! Great advice and reassurances. Age is just a number.

[@CatherinePhillipssapphire]

I really enjoyed your very positive video - I’m 67 living in the tropics in Australia and I often ask myself this exact question. I’m currently on a weight loss journey and investing in a new wardrobe - one thing I realise that making careful curated decisions about my new wardrobe is very important. It’s worth spending a bit more on quality as the things I buy now will probably be my wardrobe for some time. I’m looking for timeless now and not trendy.

[@karolallen5823]

Kay, you always do a great and gracious job of discussing fashion. I’m loving trying modern pieces with some of my classics. I do look at some of my clothes differently now that I’m 68 - often because they just aren’t as flattering as they used to be given my evolving figure/body shape. Yet, I exercise regularly and try to eat well so I look my best. You are truly an inspiration and I always learn something with every video. Thank you!❤️

[@gailfairweather1515]

I'm 58 but I don't feel that old. I really enjoyed this video ❤

[@TheDionysius57]

So true…very present to the current situation…be true to yourself…self awareness is key.

[@annazann7236]

Exactly. It is all about aesthetics. If you dont like what you see, do not expose that part of the body or draw attention elsewhere.

[@anna2mac550]

I love your hair it’s a great style on you ..thank you for your videos 😊