Dressing for confidence and joy | Stasia Savasuk | TEDxPortsmouth

[@SB-gq7fp]

This is why kids are literally the best thing ever. you never know who you're raising and how they'll change you and the world

[@karolinamackowiak6418]

It seems like her daughter taught her more about life, than she have tried to teach her daughter. And thank gods for that, if the daughter did not have her own mind about things, mother would unknowingly hurt her. Please trust your daughters from time to time. They might be little, but they are never small.

[@fleurishwisdom9544]

kids are sometimes like Angels..they send us signs and a beautiful wisdom.

[@dionysiapapadatou3996]

Totally agree!!!

[@carlafrancisco590]

"I can run faster and jump higher". I don't think I will ever look at cloths the same way. This message is so powerful as it touches self-esteem at it's deepest levels. Really a great talk and example for all of us. Thank you and your daughter xx

[@phyliciajoykloes]

Same for me. I love you took this saying from her speech. So good.

[@pabitranmohansahoo935]

Super

[@julieburke9278]

I cried like a baby when your beautiful daughter stood up at the end. Amazing TED talk, Stasia!

[@helenavuckovic5242]

Me toooo!!! ♡

[@dnd1007]

Girl, same!

[@Changeworld408]

so beautifull, yr daughter can be proud of you as you are proud of her. Yr daughter is so vibrant and authentic and beautifull. You rock

[@Thyluvaly]

Oh my goodness I got me crying ur daughter is an inspiration

[@michellepietrafitta3935]

Haha me too. Wow.

[@svvvvaaa]

Hey, it is been some 4 months since I watched this Talk. Since then, I have developed a closer relation with myself than ever before. I used to be shy, and actually did not have the guts to dress up the way I felt like. Now days I can express myself so much more by dressing up the way I really want to and feel so relaxed also. Although it might not be 'socially accepted' to wear some of the clothes I do, whatever, if I feel like putting something on I will. Also my wardrobe is filled with only the clothes that I really love. It feels so good to have only clothes that you really love.. This talk had a big impact on my life in a positive way, and gave me the foundations to really get into touch with the inner me by dressing up the way I feel good to and not to feel shame about it. Such a great person and talk, thanks

[@cherishlove956]

I am so proud of you

[@prettyhamburger6462]

That's really awesome:)))

[@isabt4]

Your reaction is beautiful! Way to go! ❤️

[@nnylasoR]

(3 years later, but …) I wanted to tell you that I appreciate your comment so much. I hope you are well these days. ✊♥️

[@naughtscrossstitches]

I just turned 30 ... my favourite pair of jeans I found this year are hot pink. I put them on and they make me feel happy! I just dyed my hair purple. I'm an accountant and I'm tired of being put into a style box and I want to be colourful. I want to be bright. When I am I'm happier.

[@videofan1010]

Turning 30 tomorrow!

[@marewaltwms1]

Way to go!!!!!!!!

[@kmom9070]

I can relate. Sometimes my hair is salt and pepper. sometimes it is shades of pink..sometimes it is blue! Sometimes it is shades of blues...no matter what it fits me!

[@alinaarkhipova5793]

Hope it is harmonized)

[@loldrinkacid]

So cute, live your best life!

[@NatalieBass209]

This was so inspiring. I was clothes shopping with my boyfriend and had a passing thought while looking in the men’s department: “these clothes are so cool, I wish I was a man so I could wear them.” This talk made me realise that there is no reason for me NOT to wear them. Thank you for bringing this to light

[@eunice.happyyoga]

The lovely lady sitting beside her daughter is so genuinely happy and supportive. Very touching and wise talk.

[@k.l.8804]

I'm an academic & feel the pressure to dress very casually to be taken seriously. But what I want to wear is that precise pink dress!!! So much joy! :-D

[@Chinni_C888]

Self-expression is so important. We need to look, talk and act according to our true nature. So sad how many parents try to destroy exactly that in their own kids.

[@rebeccahinson1511]

I'm a vegan, tree hugging, holistic health coach, artist, surfer and self proclaimed "refined hippie" who's always loved fashion. I don't dress how people think or expect me to dress. This was such an inspirational and wonderful talk!

[@MustardSeedish]

Thank you so much! I'm 50 and I was still in search for my style. Recently I received dresses. I normally don't wear dresses. I put them on and I never felt better. I felt pretty, flirty, and alive. As she was talking, I flashed back as a child spinning in a flowy dress, free and whimsical. Here I sit in jeans and a flannel, not that there anything wrong with that, but it's not me. Wow. Powerful talk.

[@Lygjugujkh9876]

She is so lucky to have a mother like you.

[@pujajha1992]

i didn't thought that i would cry in a speech about dressing. The way she linked the feeling of dressing up with inner identity was awesome. we dress up and ask others for opinion , do we dress for others? this video made me realize that i shud dress up to be in congruence with the inner self , not to please others.thanx a lot .and i feel so proud for u for making ur daughter so confident and beautiful .xoxo

[@Carriedabout]

This talk made me bawl my eyes out, turn around and laugh hysterically, and then pull the clothes out of my closet! Thank you!

[@sarahfinney8689]

One of the best TEDx Talks I've ever seen. So inspirational and moving and a much needed message in today's society where people are judged by how they look on the outside - paradigm shift to being congruent with what is on the inside! Love it!

[@velvetindigonight]

Absolutely. xx

[@17thUnicorn]

Yes!!

[@TaraRoddenRobinson]

I had tears in my eyes all the way through your incredible talk. Get ready to be a celebrity, Stasia, because it’s coming for you! The world needs your message. God speed, sweetie!

[@hasarawadumesthri]

Hat's off to this lady!!!!!This is the first TED talk that made me cry and that much emotional.

[@livingdiystyle]

She is such an amazing mom and speaker! I hope she has great success with her Style School.

[@upasnasaurabh1805]

may this world find more people like u who can celebrate thier uniqueness

[@tashadvastyles]

She's spot on with the message of dressing to suit your inner self, not what society says you should wear. I've been home from work for about 2 months (due to business shutdown during pandemic) & majority of this time I've dressed up at home & even to run small errands. I find that I feel more confident, motivated & optimistic than I do just walking around in lounge wear. So yes, ladies put on some clothes, a little lipstick/eyeliner/mascara & whatever else makes you feel great that day.

[@chrisbudge4542]

Thank you for giving me permission to be myself and not feel that I have to dress down for others. More than that its the little part of me that feels that im not worthy. Life is too short to care what others think. Ill try to be present and mindful of my outer self now too. ❤️

[@kathy2888]

I’ve been doing the same! Dressing down to school, everyday, to work and I think it stems from the same feeling of not being worthy when I like to put on my pretty clothes..!!

[@josephinekromer2827]

I'm a vegan, hippie, alternative healing, stay at home mama who wears full 50s fashion down to hair, makeup and heels 😊 makes me happy

[@lass1198]

I watched this and thought I'm a vegan, hippie, stay at home mum and runner but secretly dream of wearing a pretty summer dress, makeup and heels.

[@josephinekromer2827]

@@lass1198 do it ❤️😊

[@andanssas]

@@lass1198 "dance as if no one is watching" or better yet, dance as if you didn't care about if anyone is watching.

[@orsolyatoth7440]

Love this!

[@cashopa]

Sounds fun!

[@souhailaseck5543]

My tears went down when her girl stand up what a cheerleader mom so much love and lessons thank u

[@brendamaldonado4678]

THIS IS THE BEST TED TALK I HAVE EVER LISTENED TO. WOW.

[@花梧栢]

I love your daughter, her smile is so pure and makes me cry. Thank you for this great talk, it's definitely a gift.

[@2legit2Kwit]

Tears at the end.... what a wonderful mother for advocating for her daughter to be her best self!!!!! I love this!!!! Best ted talk ever

[@lorrainemarcketta489]

I watched this TED Talk over a year ago. I just watched it again and found myself tearing up, with a lump in my throat, filled with admiration for Stasia and Raisa. So inspirational!

[@musibatty]

What an inspiring message! I cried the whole way through. You and Raissa are two wise women that have come to open our eyes and hearts to what is true for all of us: we each are who we are and only we know what feels right to us. Thank you, Stasia for showing up as the brave bold sparkle that you are. Your brilliance has set us all on fire!

[@bethc8932]

If you asked me before I watched this, I would tell you there is a zero percent chance of me tearing up multiple times during a TED talk about style. But here we are. What a beautifully delivered, passionate talk about who we are and how we show up in the world.

[@sanjayjogdand9102]

Yes ,there is stuff in your saying.i am 64 and on my own I realized this recently, and soon I am going to implement this,thanks ,you confirmed my realization is true !!

[@kickitlikekirra]

I severed myself from the idea of style in a similar way, and am only now coming around to embrace clothing as a reflection of who and how I am - of course this "just so happens" to be aligning with my realization and understanding of who I am. Great speech. I am inspired! I'm digging back into my closet with a renewed intention and energy!

[@mre2039]

One of the best speeches and mothers I've ever heard. Loved it.

[@LittleDropsofWonderful]

One of the best TED talks I’ve ever seen! Thank you xx

[@jayjay1971100]

I appreciate that you were introspective enough to see your real child...a rather remarkable child. I m so glad you are able to enjoy the unique ride you have been given.

[@fleurishwisdom9544]

Such a beautiful Mother-Daughter relationship. i'm not a mother yet, and you teach me a great lesson. Thak you

[@glockgrandma2517]

Love love loved this talk! I made myself some floral skirts and wore them every day during the summer. I’ve always had my own style yet like the speaker I hid out for a couple decades. Since listening to Joe Dispenza I’ve learned I can create myself to be anyone I want and I’ve discovered I want to be the best me possible. I started Miracle Morning again, started Keto again and am developing my inside out congruency as Ms Savasuk spoke of. I love how life brings all these magical nuggets of beauty and truth together! ❤️🌸❤️🌸❤️

[@Maggie-wz6ez]

im crying in a packed starbucks with happy tears for this mama

[@natibet7546]

Incredible how you can see your own flaws while trying your momma-job the best way you can. it is refreshing to see a mother that can own up on these things. your dauther seems to be such a smart kid!

[@jeanmichelo9800]

Not what I was expecting but that's just the point isn't it. A beautiful, real life, in practise reminder, to know our values and live them. You've given your daughter the head start in knowing and living her purpose. ~Thank you Stasia and your beautiful daughter Raissa.

[@mojisolashabi]

Best TEDx Talk I've seen in a while.

[@thandalashandumbatheni1157]

I sensed this intense energy among these family members, you guys are blessed with uniqueness and livelihood. Thank you Stasia & daughter, husband and granny.

[@nmawar2]

Perfect way to know ones inside to show outside... Breaking boundaries .at best

[@GrasshopperRDG]

I am a Ted Talk Fanatic and This, By Far, IS* one of the the most POWERFUL Conveys of SELF-ACCEPTANCE...{IMPACTFULLY} I've Ever Watched!!! I'll NEVER Forget It!

[@stelladonnelly2832]

I quite agree, I've watched a few talks but this gets to the basis of things - it's not really about the outer looks but the real you showing through. Love it.

[@architectMd]

Dressing for confidence and joy, by Stasia Savasuk ! Absolutely stunning, logical and convincing! Thundering goes the claps in excitement from the thrilling audiences! God Almighty Bless!

[@n.d8001]

Bless this lady her work her family

[@sambulate]

I'm going through something similar now, and have spent years struggling with Part A of the equation--not even close to done yet! But it's nice to know there is someone out there who gets it, and who is spreading such an empowering message. From the comments, it looks as if most folks feel the same way, and are just as grateful. Do let your kid know that there's a lady on KZbin who gave her a standing ovation--and who's super jealous of her tie!

[@ssavasuk]

I'll be sure to let her know! xo

[@dawnfrederick3540]

Tell your daughter I wore an "artist's tie" on my job interview with a slick, cream colored wool pencil skirt suit. I still have the job 38 years later. I had leather artist ties, wool ties with chiffon blouses. I wore a wool tie on my 30th birthday at my party. I wore these ties for 10 years with my high heel pumps. "Nobody could tell me nothin'"

[@TxHoneyBee]

WoW! What industry do you work in?

[@samso69]

What a beautiful talk... what a beautiful mother

[@ruchivishwakarma2961]

I wish i could rewind the time and feel this TED talk once again for the first time. Because i really cried alot after this TED ended 😭😭😭😭 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you for saving so many lives TED

[@babss2276]

Great! What a beautiful person inside and outside, what a Wunderful Mum to her cool daughter! Thanks for this speach!

[@AlicyaSimmons]

love this talk - congruency of ourselves is what we are - getting there & staying there - our appearance is important - showing up in our own lives is what life is. Show up!

[@inglesmusica2568]

I did it! I could notice the difference in my life when I changed my dressing style and the way I really wanted to show myself to the others. I do feel more confident.

[@keena0202]

My eyes are burning from holding back tears . Amazing talk

[@visnjapopovic3705]

don't hold them back : ) we release toxins and flow with our emotions when we cry.

[@DustFreeZone]

Stasia, you are an inspiration! Thank you for your beautiful spirit, family, and above all, your VERY IMPORTANT message! Thank you, thank you, thank you, and bless you for the work you do.

[@cindybellota]

Empecé a ver este vídeo con pocas expectativas pero terminé adorándolo. Me hizo pensar en cómo me quiero mostrar y quien soy en realidad. Muchas gracias.

[@kris061000]

Thank you for touching my soul!You are an inspiration! Sending blessings your way!

[@clockwatcher9009]

This is one of the best talks I've watched lately; I'm sharing it with all my family and friends who struggle, like I do, to feel good in the body they are in. Thank you for this.

[@thefaceyogacoach]

Not the usual type of talk I would be attracted to watch, but so glad I did. Stasia's words were profound, and touched me deeply. What an awesome child, truly beautiful.

[@Dayoxy]

Is good to teach a child in the right direction to go. It will make parents proud at the end.

[@lauraandres1182]

Wow beautiful, strong, spiring... such a mother and such a brilliant little girl

[@mariosoler5350]

..& it's important to realize the importance of doing productive, positive & more usefull things..to others & ourselves..& remind ourselves we are one with THE CREATOR OF THIS STORY🙏

[@humbledaughter2219]

For years I’ve been trying to strengthen my interior life, my peace and I’m a much better person for it. Sometimes I dress in many different “styles” but it has never defined me nor captivated me to the point I had to break up with it. Far better to wear whatever on the exterior and practice not letting it affect your interior where you have developed strength and confidence where you true value is. God bless

[@sofiamiranda9917]

This video ment alot to me especially concerning the fact that my parents are very strict when it comes to my clothing attire. I love dressing up for school in skirts, crop tops, and doing my hair but its always as if my parents have something so against it. I like expressing myself because it gives me confidence. When I dress up I feel like I can do anything. I wish my parents understood that I don't do it for the attention of others but because it makes me feel like me.

[@kaitlynclifford2799]

So much perspective! As a teacher, I find this incredibly inspirational and a great tool in how to support our students.

[@moirosalina]

both you and your daughter look gorgeous. Beautiful speech, thank you for sharing your take on this.

[@khulantsendauysh778]

Her speech touch my heart and feed my soul. So proud of your beautiful daughter and you.

[@cressriya4265]

i never thought about it... it changed my complete perception about how do I want to show up in the world

[@ConnieVeilleux]

XThis leaves me breathless and in tears. This is SO powerful!

[@ettoilemagik]

This message is so deep and her talk emotional. That was really great! Her daughter is an example we all should follow.

[@samanthabarnes1681]

Thank you Stasia. One of the best Talks ever. Moving, wise and inspiring.

[@anapaulagomes6567]

AMAZING! That's the only word I can use to describe this talk. Thanks Stasia for sharing your story! Much love to you and your brave daughter! ♥️

[@shoneyluvsAmerica]

OMG. I am just bawling...What a brilliant TED Talk - probably the best I've ever seen. Raissa is a very special & very beautiful young lady. Mama and Daddy deserve major kudos for seeing their daughter for who she was and is. A lot of parents miss it. You are so beautiful, Raissa!

[@thisisntallowed9560]

As a kid there are things that we know, but as we grow up we forget, so thank you for reminding me of what I forgot

[@operationada]

"Just think of the power that you possess underneath everybody's expectations of who they think you should be." BAM!!!

[@dicres1516]

All things bright and beautiful, All creatures great and small, All things wise and wonderful: The Lord God made them all.

[@kristodea8067]

Yes 👍our Lord Jesus made them

[@ningxiabird]

Oh wow I just recognized her teenage daughter sitting in the audience. In the first row at 12:18. That's sweet !

[@gioanman]

incredible speaker! her drive and authentic passion and belief in what she says was so inspiring. Thank you

[@papayamaya05]

Deeply insightful, powerful, and inspiring. You are trifecta of hope for all of us quizzically looking in the mirror and wondering how to transcend the noisy static of fashion and the disservice of its messages. Thank you.

[@GutsAndGall]

Hi Maya! So well said. I so remember you rocking the graphic tees and belts in Style School!

[@jocelynepambrun4895]

I cried cried ...you are wonderful bring such humour..to adversity of how we see things

[@MaryAnglin]

Made me reflect...I haven’t dressed congruently since I was in my 20’s. 40 years! Why, profession, weight gain, budget. I’ve been hiding in sweaters and bland colors. No more!

[@faithterwilliger5717]

Amazing, Stasia! Thank you for being you in the world and being so inspiring.

[@Terradiva]

WORTHY OF A LOVE SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@OliveraK]

This is so incredibly important and yet so easy to neglect. All the big things are simple.

[@rmns987]

There is a strong message for me. I will change the way I dress and grow confident & happy. Impressive TED talk

[@danielleceleste4791]

Crying, crying, crying!!!! So good, Stasia. Excellent delivery!!!💥

[@MentallyBeautifulVlogs]

This has me sobbing on a train back home... in the morning I’ll ask myself that question who am I and how do I want to show up in the world xxx

[@shelovesfrodo]

Stasia, you convey so much confidence and joy! Thank you for your encouragement!

[@stelladonnelly2832]

:How I love this - it is not so much about what you're wearing but being authentic - everyone should hear this, wish I'd come across it sooner. I feel better already and I'm 77.

[@palmamingozzi5736]

Children teach adults. Wonderful.🌻

[@busker153]

Inside out congruence does not exist in a vacuum. In fact, what I am on the inside is not a clear picture one could show in a style magazine; it is actually something quite opaque and undefinable in the strictest sense of the word. Inside, I am a non-conformist who enjoys sneaking in under the radar. My clothing are literally defined by societies "norms" in one way, and a complete flaunting of those rules in another way. Interesting ideas, and I am glad your daughter loves the powerful professional look! I love the incogneto effects of wearing basic, timeless classics that allow me to blend in, but the details and quality of my clothing speak volumes to those who know the difference between Walmart and Wall Street.

[@heididelatierra-yoga]

I love this tedX talk and Stasia very much!! Listening again to this amazing and inspirational message!

[@hamun1964]

Thank you....To you and your family for being the gift and vessel that you are. Well done!!

[@sumaiyashabih8415]

Your daughter is SO SO beautiful and inspiring, Stasia!!

[@tatjanadjacic1562]

WOW! What a woman!!! 😍🤗What a mother!!!

[@dollysarkar3282]

Rewatching after about 3 years, I was trying to figure myself out then and knew my appearance is important part of it. I have gone through lot of major changes in life in this period and I remember now what powerful message this woman has for us:)

[@Chhabra_Shivani]

This is one of the most powerful Ted talks. I’m sure I’m going to come here again and again, sharing it with as many people as I can. :)

[@jovonrenee]

So powerful! Thank you for sharing your message with the world! ❤❤❤

[@Sophia-yo9rp]

Thank you so much. Thank you to your daughter. I needed this guidance. 🌼.

[@magdalenakomorowska6964]

This is brilliant. Great woman with great daughter :)

[@cintiacanpers]

Simply amazing!!!! One of the most inspiring TEDs I’ve ever seen!!! Congratulations and thank you!