Dressing for Sensory Sensitivities

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Timestamps:
Intro 00:00-02:05
Show & Tell 02:05-22:57
Wrap up 22:58-25:06

[@herb_rolls3929]

Thank you so much for this! I used to waste hundreds of dollars buying clothes and them not being sustainable for my life. I couldn't wear most of the clothes I owned because they made me so anxious. It's taken 25 years to finally start being able to tell when something is ACTUALLY comfortable and I will wear it. You should never have to "tough it out" when wearing your own clothes, they should make you feel better or at least not cause you discomfort.

[@kariquitecontrary7186]

I was recently diagnosed. So i decided clothing would be the first change I make, seeing as it doesn't affect anyone else. I'm slowly buying enough overalls to wear every day. I love them sooooo much. I never have to pull my pants up, and they don't squeeze my stomach. I highly recommend Duluth, they often have sales. And they have the strechy straps too!!

[@neon.neutral]

I have a pair of Duluth overalls but I'm struggling knowing how to style them ...

[@Sophia-gw6bv]

Love this topic, thank you!! 💖 I’m autistic with a fashion special interest so here are my holy grail clothing items and tips to balance comfort and style: - Uniqlo heat tech. My favorites are the ballet cut long sleeve tops and the trousers. These really help me regulate my temperature and provide a layer of protection against tougher fabrics. Also the heat tech stockings have allowed me to wear dresses again 😅 Some of the styles are more compressive then others but luckily they have easy returns. - Negative Underwear bras. These are amazing and the only bras I wear now. They have sizes for sizes DD plus with a small band size which is a godsend. - Birkenstocks! I have an all black leather pair for summer and an all black fleece pair for cooler months. I think that the classic 2 strap in mono colors can look stylish. Don’t do the rugged, it’s horrible. - Ditch jeans for linen, tencel, and cotton pants with an elastic waist. They look way more classy than jeans and are way comfier. Uniqlo has some good options. If you do want to wear jeans, opt for non-stretchy styles that have a couple extra inches at the waist. It gives a cool laidback look and is pretty comfy. I know everyone’s sensitivities/preferences/budgets are different, just wanted to share what I found worked for me after many years of searching. Let me know if you are looking for a particular item in a particular price range and I’ll do my best to provide more custom recos. Eventually my goal is to start my own brand of sustainable sensory-friendly and gender-neutral clothing :)

[@Alice_Walker]

Awesome. I'm currently on the hunt for new bras after my stockpile of my perfect bra that got discontinued well before COVID is reaching the end of its lifespan 😩 I had looked at Negative but will definitely give one a go now. Appreciate the recommendation! 💜

[@LexAnnalyn]

I watch this while trying to decide whether my worn-out leggings are too scratchy today (they’ve pilled in the inner thigh area-the part of my legs that gets most annoyed with my clothes). Mom asked for my Christmas list, and “comfy clothes that aren’t pajamas” is a whole category. This is a recurring theme for me as someone who has neither the money nor the energy to buy her own clothes. Shopping in person? Takes lots of energy, and I need someone along to help with decisions. Shopping online? I can’t feel the fabric or try the clothes on, and I know I won’t return things.

[@Kagomai15]

Hello are you me????

[@LunaR2017]

And me! Wow! 🤔

[@kaedama.]

Size/fit preferences for individual clothing items is so important for me, too! It would be nice to just be able to go with some sort of standardized sizing but that just isn’t realistic… The calculated size up or down can make or break a favorite piece! Comfort is key, and shopping is complicated. 🤗😅

[@mermaidblossom7793]

Clothes have always been one of my biggest problems, especially bras. I now prefer to wear corsets. It feels like I'm wearing nothing and I can't feel the other layers of clothing against my skin.

[@noblethoughts4500]

Where do you get your corsets?

[@Catlily5]

Interesting. I hate bras maybe I should look into a corset or two.

[@God-Was-Bored]

Part of my sensory issues involves not having my midriff exposed. Idk how you can stand it!!! haha

[@micivalantincic8227]

Omg same!!!!

[@JamieJenkins2001]

I'm that way with my legs. I can't stand fabric on my thighs, but a raincoat (which is uncomfortable for most people) is comfort wear for me. So I look ridiculous walking around wearing this shiny green raincoat as a dress, freezing my legs in January and sweating so much I stink in July. But it's the only thing I can wear and be happy

[@maimtubeTV]

omg, this just recently started bothering me. growing up, i used to put almost all of my spoons into getting dressed and putting on makeup in the morning, but once i started having more responsibilities i just broke. all i can wear now are t-shirts, hoodies, and sweatpants, unless what i'm doing is extremely undemanding. which sucks bc i love fashion! but i just dont feel good in my clothes anymore because of my sensory issues. most if not all of my crop tops, jeans, jackets, etc... can't handle it anymore. and especially the outfit planning and having to put together an outfit and changing multiple times. just so exhausting.

[@hugbloom2664]

Making a capsule wardrobe has helped me with these issues. Doesn't have to be a small wardrobe, it's more about all the items being carefully chosen and working well with each other so fewer decisions to put an outfit together. I love it. Takes time to develop a capsule wardrobe but can be done gradually, there's really no rules.

[@ashmac87]

Ugh, I feel this! I'm burnt out.

[@bubbiccino]

Yes 👏👏 Sensory sensitivities and the nightmare of strangling/cutting/itchy clothing! I definitely worry about sizing up/down for comfort as I look for clothes. As a kid, I got hand-me-downs all the time and compromised with whatever felt comfortable. It was tough fighting parents on trying to not get triggered and have meltdowns whenever winter came/during special events that required dress up. Fashion is such an important statement to who I am, but I can’t compromise on tactile sensitivities. I try to find something in between…and sometimes (rarely- but sometimes) I put up with the discomfort/pain…especially if there’s nothing better at the moment. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@Kagomai15]

I had the same battles growing up omg I was trying on clothes from my aunt's and my late grandmother's closets and my aunt couldn't understand why I had to do so many tests before I decided I liked or disliked things. I was like, "I gotta put them to the test. You don't just buy shoes (especially heels) because they're cute in your size, you walk around in them, do spins."

[@bubbiccino]

@@Kagomai15 omg i hated new shoes!! The back of my heel always had blisters/wounds from that 😑 And yeah, no matter how good something looked…if it was a sensory nightmare, I couldn’t put up with it no matter how I tried.

[@CocoKitty19]

Hi ! what a useful video, thank you so much. Also, I loooove your jumpers and cardigans

[@bubbiccino]

I have a similar wardrobe! And the strangulation 🙄 omg, so much of that in childhood- complete nightmare! I had so many meltdowns trying to advocate for my own sensory needs 😑

[@acemarvel1564]

As someone who has suffered the Innate consequences of being born with level 1 autism, i've always felt it to be a curse, i've had no real friend in my life my parents originally first thought i would be a burden and my sibling wouldn't even look at me, but you know what? Maybe i'm growing more thankful of this cold isolation, most people now are just horrible and spiteful to us weirdos, and when thats not happening they treat us like a weak and helpless child. After all this time i've been wanting and crying for friends or any connection at all I'm now just asking myself, is it even worth it? So far the answer to that is leaning heavily towards no

[@acemarvel1564]

@Bryyun I never exactly said i wanted any of it

[@MouthwashTyphoon]

Hopefully you can find your tribe amongst your fellow weirdos 💜

[@acemarvel1564]

@@MouthwashTyphoon It depends on what "weirdos" you mean When the school thought i needed their help to connect with others i ended up in the same club with the "special" kids

[@etcwhatever]

Im tired of people. "Normal" people. I need to get the ASD asessment done. Actually im looking forward to join the activities of an autistic advocacy organization in my country...maybe i could make a couple of ND friends. I wonder.

[@Kagomai15]

Please find other weirdos to be friends with, be choosy, assert boundaries, but friends are so important and healing to have when they're actually good for you. Not trying to be preachy it just broke my heart to read this. People can be so horrible but they can be so good, and I'm sorry you've only experienced the former.

[@RambleMaven]

Lately I’ve been wearing a lot of oversized tie dye T-Shirts from this company called The Mountain. Their shirts are made of 100% cotton and are so comfortable! Even the tag is made of a really soft cotton that doesn’t irritate my neck. The shirt is sturdy and well made and not flimsy like a lot of fabric these days. I like having it on because it gives me the a bit of warmth and comfort while still sort of feeling like I have nothing on ☺️ lol I hate how weighted clothes can make me feel sometimes.

[@TanayaSinead]

I have found my people! As a woman especially, being fashionable is such a big part of our lives, but right now I don't have the energy to even partake in it. It does make me feel so low in my self-esteem as someone who used to take great pride in their appearance, but I noticed even at that time in my life I couldn't wait to take the clothes off and change into something comfy (which I'm aware atypical women feel also), but having your clothing contribute to your anxiety and potentially causing an anxiety attack or making you feel slightly uncomfortable, I think, is an important distinction to make. I'm now at a point in my life where I'm fed up with looking like I put no effort into my appearance (I don't truthfully, as I'm too drained to do so), but I also don't want to sacrifice my comfort for fashion anymore, so I'm on the hunt to find that balance, and I can't thank you enough for this video. It's given me some ideas on what to look for going forward as our sensory sensitivities are very similar.

[@JamieJenkins2001]

My best friend who is autistic like I am is fairly fashionable and wears a stylish (if slightly seasonally inappropriate for summer and winter) aesthetic. Me, I'm the weird girl who leaves her raincoat on all the time and looks like a little kid wearing it indoors like a dress (I just can't stand fabric on my legs, so I have bare legs in winter, my legs get cold but I'd rather have cold legs than wear pants). People used to make fun of me for wearing a raincoat all the time. I just think raincoats are so pretty and they're so comfortable. I know they make me sweat a lot in summer but the vinyl/PVC material just feels "right" against my skin.

[@TanayaSinead]

@@JamieJenkins2001 I'd say I'm more like you, once I find something that ticks a lot of boxes clothes wise I will wear it everyday like I'm a cartoon character 😅 in fact it's what I'm known for but I know there's many Autistic women that are like your friend who are fashionable, it's important that we remember we're not a monolith and just like neurotypicals we have variety too 😌

[@angrybugg]

this is crazy i never thought about my issues with putting together outfits being tied to my sensory issues. Like i knew my articles of clothing were tied to that, but the outfits as well. i never thought of that!! thanks for this video ❤

[@MeganIsSoSmiley]

Can you do a video about how autism and neurodivergence can influence our diet/fitness? I love how you explain things!

[@Solo.Dissonance]

OMG clothes are one of the biggest triggers for me 💯💯💯

[@ariannaxr]

I'd love to hear your thoughts about exercise in relation to executive dysfunction, difficulty with transitions, exhaustion, sensory nightmares, and - eww - sharing spaces/equipment or - yikes - entering a room full of strangers for group classes... I know exercise would help me and group classes would be less boring than just weight lifting, but there are so many obstacles and I end up going once every blue moon.

[@spaghetto9836]

That's why I exercise at home through an app after everyone's asleep. It's been ≈3 weeks of non-constant workouts & I'm starting to yield results. The apartment I'll move into has a gym area, so maybe I'll also only go there at night...

[@kai.sings.sometimes]

One of the reasons I like running is that it's a repetitive motion and does not have to be done with others. You can also keep the same few paths and choose one that works for your energy levels that day.😊

[@JMSxoxo]

Trust me itll help. Like the others who commented above I think its different for everyone and youll just have to try to learn what you prefer. Before I started working out I felt so horrible I knew I had to take the chance and just try because I was at such a breaking point. I started going to planet fitness late at night when nobody else was there and putting my headphones on and just zoning out felt amazing. That was 4 years ago. Now I found I personally cant work out without music, hate going to the gym when its crowded, and have a hard time doing workouts at home. Getting out of the house and working out does wonders for me, its like a form of really intense stimming for however long and you feel great afterwards 😂

[@Treydemark]

haven’t watched the video yet but either way, i’m super glad that you made this video as someone that has trouble picking the right clothing. my parents always shat on me for that and think i’m poor for choosing to wear the same comfortable clothing

[@flowerboy7810]

Clothes are so hard. I have so many limitations on what I can wear due to sensory sensitivities and chronic pain. Everything needs to be comfortable, made of natural fibers, not too loose or too tight, no jeans, no tight waistbands, plus I wear a men's size extra small which is super hard to find. Also I only wear black. At this point I live in my Uniqlo sweatpants, t shirts, and sweatshirts. Fortunately I rarely have to leave the house, but I feel like I've lost my style and it's hard on my mental health. For anyone else who can't wear jeans but doesn't want to wear sweats out, Uniqlo has jeans called EZ jeans, they're the only jeans I can wear because they feel like sweatpants. I envy people who can wear leggings! They look so comfy.

[@DiamondEyez456]

I love that you gave me this idea regarding the overalls when I can afford to get a pair. My mother threw out my clothes.. even though she promised to box them up. I understand and I spill a lot and hyper aware of staining. I also can’t afford to do more than 1 or 2 loads every 10days. Also I have lived in cozy wear for so long b/c I have IBS etc aka all part of my fibromyalgia as well.

[@ninconnue5609]

After the pandemic started, I hit the end of my tolerance for enduring uncomfortable clothing. (I also realized I've been a high masking undiagnosed autistic person all this time, which explains SO MUCH.) I have always had issues with waistbands and belts and bra straps causing me back pain. People talk about elastic waistbands as comfortable but many of them are just horrible for my sensitive back; It's something about that thin line of pressure on my spine/lower back muscles. Ditto for regular bra straps or even sports bras that compress too much. I've basically given up on bras now and have started wearing camisoles under shirts and fun vests over shirts as an alternative. It still helps disguise any socially unacceptable details, if you get my drift, but is so much more comfortable! Lately I've been remembering some of my favourite comfy clothes from my younger years and thinking about finding similar things now. One wishlist item is a pair of loose corduroy overalls, like I had as a teenager back in the late 90s/early 2000s. They were so delightfully comfy!

[@ninconnue5609]

I also find synthetic fabrics have a bad effect on my body chemistry. This may be TMI but synthetics like rayon, viscose, and sometimes polyester just make me stink horribly. Like, they dial up my normal sweat odour to something straight up rotten-smelling, no matter how much deodorant I wear. Not sure why but it's a really noticeable difference compared to wearing more natural materials like cotton or linen. Unfortunately the majority of activewear these days is made of those materials so I don't have a lot of viable options in that category of clothing. 😔

[@Catlily5]

​​Synthetic fabrics make everyone stink more than they normally would.

[@HaizeyWings]

I personally love gymshark seamless leggings because, well... no seams, and the tags are at the ankle where I'm less likely to feel them. They also compress very evenly which I find comforting and calming!

[@CoreenMontagna]

I have a lot of similar skin sensitivity and temp regulation issues as you’ve described. I tried Outdoor Voices after one of your other clothing videos. The exercise dress ended up not being great for me, but I adore the cross back dress and ended up getting it in four different colors, lol. I also recently bought one of the long sleeve cloud knit tops, and I’ve worn it everyday since I got it. Hoping they stock more colors in the future. Other staples of my wardrobe include bodyshaping camisoles with build in bras that I size up so that they are tight to my body but in no way constricting. Additionally, 90% of my life is spent wearing NY&Co boot cut yoga pants in petite. I’m only 5’2” and their petite sizing is perfect for me, and these pants are fantastically comfortable and flattering. I bought like 20 of them, and have at least 10 brand new ones in my closet ready to replace them when they wear out. Which is good, because they haven’t had them in stock in my size in years.

[@bingbongbang45]

i thrifted a simple 100% cashmere crewneck shirt on a whim almost a year ago and it’s easily become my most worn item by far, it just checks every single one of my boxes in a way that makes me pray i can have it for the rest of my lifeeee

[@ashleymartijn9866]

This was so helpful! Thank for sharing, I today was telling my mom that its important for me to feel comfortable and enjoy what i’m wearing, its like a small dopamine hit without that much effort and guaranteed to make me feel good all day.

[@LunaR2017]

I get serotonin from some fuzzy/velvety fabrics and have found myself wearing some inside out because WHY CAN'T THE SOFTER PART BE ON THE INSIDE?! At least no one sees me wfh and I can wear my clothes in the most soothing way.

[@bebehernandez401]

I use to get clothes in a style I aspired to dress like but they're always so uncomfortable that I would wear sweats and big tshirts 99% of the time and if I was going to hang out with friends I would have to wait until the last minute to put everything on and then go and then spend the whole time wanting to go home a change 😭 comfy grandma clothes have changed my life for the better thanks for this video! (The editing was really fun in this 1 too)

[@nian6794]

Idk if im autistic but i relate alot to your videos. Sometimes idk if im gaslighting myself into believing i am though. Cant get tested so I just work around how i feel using your tips and tricks thanks. I dont rlly need a diagnosis i just want to be comfortable.

[@kelliwinkler7918]

Hey friend! Im audhd and I just wanted to say that I've felt that exact same way. Almost 2 years of self-identified and the feeling of imposter syndrome will go away :) professional diagnosis is inaccessible and if you believe then you're autistic, then you've probably been autistic your whole life. The brain does crazy things to keep us alive. Hope u have a great day!

[@JR-pf9in]

I was formally diagnosed with autism in my early 20s, and yet my family and I doubted it for years. I gaslit myself into thinking I wasn't autistic. I was high-masking to the point that most doctors or strangers didn't believe me. 🤦‍♀️ Like Kelli mentioned above, I'm also still struggling with imposter syndrome, even with a formal diagnosis. Diagnosis or not, our truth is our truth. My truth is that trying to live 'normally' through masking has had a detrimental effect on my mind and body, and it's something I am working on changing, which is why I'm trying to get ideas from helpful videos like this. I wish you the best of luck and a Happy New Year 💜💜💜

[@RambleMaven]

Also I think you might enjoy some of Lucy & Yaks clothing!! Especially if you enjoy funky patterns and designs but want things to be comfortable and more sensory friendly :3

[@NovaSchulz-sp6dw]

Thank you so, SO MUCH for this video! The level of detail you went into was immensely helpful. I've been looking for comfy overalls for forever and was overwhelmed by the amount of options. Now I'm just going to try to find the ones you mentioned! If only they came in black 😂

[@georgiapapoutsakis2929]

I was hoping that you could discuss your chronic pain and if it is connected at all to autism. I have chronic pain as well and have many neurodivergent characteristics. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 30 years ago. I also have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, and I think that fatigue and pain can be associated with that. Your channel is a Godsend. I am 61 years old and am just now delving into the neurodivergent traits that have challenged me all of my life.

[@RambleMaven]

“Splatter all over me I don’t give a F-“ the way you edited this was hilarious 🤣🤣🤣 like, I know it was to sensor the word but the way you cut away was funny to me 😂😂😂

[@VermisTerrae]

My worst physical sensory sensitivity is heat. I overheat SO easily, to the point where I will take off all my outer layers outside in Winter before I enter a building. The threshold between feeling okay-but-uncomfortable to too-hot-panic-time is so narrow :') In Summer I will only ever wear shorts. In Winter I can't wear sweaters because they're cumbersome to put on and take off frequently, so I opt for flannels and a denim or waxed canvas jacket. I hope to knit myself a cardigan someday soon :) probably not this Winter, though. Belts have also become my personal bane. My jeans are comfortable enough, but the feeling of a belt holding my pants up becomes so uncomfortable and genuinely exhausting over time that I'm now transitioning into wearing vintage style pants with buttons for suspenders. I can't wait to never wear a belt ever again (if I can help it)!! Turns out Edwardian/Progressive Era men's workwear is loose and incredibly comfortable and ends up reading as sorta dapper to the modern eye, despite being traditional working class clothing. Cool stuff :)

[@deadendstreet2484]

omg one of my favourite topics- I was UNBELIEVABLY picky as a child I wouldn’t touch jeans w a ten foot pole- I only wore leggings, t shirt, hoodies. But as I got older I began to feel like I was missing out on self expression so once I finally started shopping for myself and going to the stores completely by myself (aka not driving my family mad for my pickyness) I rediscovered the joys of skirts and dresses!!! And tons of other clothing options and accessories and shoes and boots and now clothes are an interest of mine and I love dressing up :))) but my sensory issues are still WELL and alive but nobody would know now that I’m in charge of what’s going on my body💀 still have a long list of requirements and still wouldn’t touch jeans w a ten foot pole

[@threshasketch2655]

Thank you for this video! I can't stand bras, but have been making myself wear them for part-time seasonal work for years. I'd love to have a better option. Corsets and the sport tops you mentioned sound intriguing.

[@clivematthews95]

I’m sorry you have to deal with so much pain on a regular basis 😢. But, I do love your fashion sense 👌🏾 You definitely know yourself ❤

[@user-sm9tg4rc1n]

Please do a video on exercising and eating healthy with executive functioning difficulties

[@RecreatingBecca]

I've been wearing sports leggings and bras for years now I don't like to wear anything else. I get allodynia with my fibro so these are the things that hurt me the least out of everything.

[@acciobambi]

I’ve stopped wearing jeans over the years bc they were my sensory enemy so I’ve been wearing those black pants / sweats because they don’t bother me and they’re just comfy

[@haizeaa.7064]

I have all of these health conditions too, and you HELPED me a looot ♥ Another advice I have is to buy pregnancy clothes or jeans. I am only able to wear Jeans if I buy them for pregnancy because of my immerse bloating. There are brands that look cute and they are soooooo comfy! >Thank you very much again 🙂

[@Kate__123]

Love this video! I was just diagnosed with ASD and this has brought so much awareness to the issues that I’ve had for a long time. Realizing that I need to dress comfy instead of how I think I need to dress has been so helpful for me. I’ve realized that I need to shop in person now instead of shopping online. I love all the details included in this video because these details add up to make or break a positive experience wearing clothes.

[@thethoughtspot222]

Shopping in person makes such a big difference. You get to actually touch the fabrics and try it on!

[@Kate__123]

I also realized that hoodies are awful compared to crewnecks. I immediately feel claustrophobic and triggered when I put on a hoodie because it’s so much weight around the neck and the hoods are so bulky. The Crewneck you showed looks so nice! I’m off to check out their collection

[@lizzpayne8827]

Omggggg the video I've been waiting for!! ❤🎉

[@cakt15us81]

I literally have to hype myself up to wear jeans. Sometimes I can handle it, sometimes I want to crawl out of skin because it's so constricting. Learning to dress more comfortably to accommodate myself.

[@flyygurl18]

Love the recommendations 😍

[@djungelskog132]

Thank you for this

[@RambleMaven]

Yay! I was waiting for this video 🥰

[@knzay]

Ah you get it. I've also been leaning into athleisure for a comfy, put-together look, but I'm gonna start looking into recreational wear too. Any recs on comfy, sensory wear for corporate baddies who need to dress professional regularly?

[@Alice_Walker]

Corporate wear is such an expensive struggle, I have to be in the office 5 days a week, our dress code is quite conservative and I'm not at all a "girly" person so frilly necks/sleeves and floral patterns aren't for me. I have settled on having multiple of these "Grace" pants in black and have been repurchasing them for years, they aren't perfect (I wish the waist was a smidgen higher and after about a year they get faded) but they are comfortable because the fabric is dense, smooth and stretchy. They look smart and my phone/lanyard fits in the pocket. I can mostly forget about having them on. I also keep a pair in one size up for days my period bloating is bad. I just wear flat Chelsea boots with them and have about ten dark coloured oversized button up shirts. Mostly silk or tencel because I like the drape and they're not hot or too clingy. It's taken me like five years though to get that collection of shirts together. My first few years of having to buy corporate wear was horrible. Essentially I have a uniform now which cuts so much mental load out of my life. Same pants and boots, whatever shirt is closest to hand. A couple of soft knits for winter for when the office is chilly and a huge hooded overcoat for my commute. I've really had to hunt, save and invest in my shirts and knits. I'm still searching for a blazer I don't need to rip off .4 seconds after the fancy meetings are over 😅 www.forevernew.com.au/grace-7-8th-slim-pants-257723?colour=black

[@lotta9849]

Love this! Let us know when u find more!!!

[@AlexLouiseWest]

Thank you.

[@aaliyah3430]

top 3 clothing items personally are flared leggings (not tight around my shins so its not constricting but tight around my thighs for comfort plus they make an outfit actually look like an outfit) zip up oversized hoodies so my neck and collarbones area can be exposed (i hate regular t shirt collars) and loose long sleeves, or at least 3/4 sleeve. allowing myself to "diy" clothes helps (cutting collar off, slitting the middle of a hoodie collar). had a discouraging convo with a friend recently, and maybe it wasn't malicious but she told me that I have to step out of my comfort zone with clothing :/ i think ive worn flared leggings for 95% of the year, and the comment threw me off because her brother is audhd as well. i wish i had both the energy and not the sesnory issues because i love looking cute :(

[@angelamarie7614]

I hate wearing blue jeans, or when certain fabrics cause skin irritation. If you live in the north, you have layer up it’s just difficult

[@zoethepsychic]

This video came at the perfect time! Thank you so much! I have so many clothes that STRESS me out and cause me so much anxiety and have been wanting to redo my wardrobe with my sensory issues in mind. You really helped.

[@ALICEVLOG168]

love the cat corset. Thanks for your vids Irene

[@ezmurphy5528]

Attention to detail is always on the top of my resume skills list, thank you so much for doing this!!

[@martajajackson1836]

Thank you for this video ❤ I love you❤ ❤❤

[@GinkgoTree123]

Thank you again for making another wonderful and helpful video.

[@Angela-vu7vo]

I love this video omg I just wish it was uploaded before black friday LOL but adding these to my wishlist

[@nonxbunnary]

I have the exact same overalls from REI! literally my go-to no matter what, highly recommend!!

[@aliaelborai]

Would love more fashion content like this

[@GinkgoTree123]

Oversized sweatshirts for the win, and buying the same item multiple times if it’s affordable to do so. I know my style, and I don’t diverge from it. I’m investing in quality pieces I can wear for a long time to come so hopefully, I won’t have to think much at all about outfit planning or what I wear because past me has already done it for future me. (Besides basics like tees, shoes, socks and under wear)

[@jmaessen3531]

LOVE your clothing videos because im a late ID'd autistic and finally listening to the ways my body wants clothes to feel and its changing everything. Show and tells are thr best! Thank you Irene! 🫶🏻

[@burns_o_matic]

I care so much about all of these details! This video was really helpful to me, especially your thoughts on sizing, because I tend to just buy my size, but then certain items don't fit/feel right and I end up not wearing them. Also, it's sooooo hard to find stuff that serves that need for comfort, while still managing to look cute. Thank you!

[@LunaR2017]

I am a neurodivergent adult. This week I was having a conversation with my mother asking if she had any clothing-related sensory issues and if she saw any signs of mine when I was little. Online I found some tips, intended for children but still fairly helpful, although there are some reddit people that have discussed different qualms. I felt a little better, and a little less strange (although I will never stop feeling strange- but that could also be my imposter syndrome. Also please do not think I see anyone as strange for their own way of being) I appreciate your detailed way of speaking and thinking. I always enjoy your videos that I watch, and this was so very helpful right when I'm in the thick of it. Have a good day 😊 Oh P.S. Crew neck collars, even when loose, when they just barely touch the top of my sternum I feel -- I can't explain it. This week I cut all of the collars off most of my sweatshirts. Mom said she used to cut the tags out of my clothes and my MR(it was the dx at the time) sister's because we both were bothered by them. We also think my aversion to anything resting in the middle of my collarbone is why dresses were a nightmare for me when I was little. Starting about high school I gradually wore them again but none had huge, lovingly embroidered-by-mom collars. And also I do not wear necklaces that touch there. Yes- I edited my response multiple times, I apologize

[@thiccletics]

I always check Poshmark and Mercari!!! Yessssss

[@AfroTae]

Honestly even in my comfort clothes if I’m not desensitized by going outside and wearing my clothes regularly I will itch/be very uncomfortable if there’s clothes on my legs. Which is why I LOVE the summer for outfits because I can get away with wearing little to no clothes.

[@francescakyanda9182]

I'm autistic with a bigger chest and I hate all the tighter clothing for femmes, so I wear a lot of men's clothes and baggier things for the comfort, huge game changer

[@TheIncisaurMan]

I’m an autistic male and have issues when it comes to tighter clothing aswell. I’m so glad a lot of men’s clothes are usually baggy anyways so it’s not something that’s a big inconvenience or anything. I also can’t stand pairs of underwear that do not have legs. I don’t know how women wear the underwear they do.

[@JamieJenkins2001]

I'm weird in that for me I'm only happy if I'm wearing a raincoat, and a very specific type, the old-fashioned vinyl/PVC kind without any lining. It's ironic, wearing a raincoat all the time would be hell for most people but for me not wearing a raincoat is hell, but casual clothing most people find cozy and comfortable for me feels like pins and needles. I can't stand sleeves except raincoat sleeves and I can't stand wearing pants or anything pants like (I'm very much a dresses and skirts kind of girl, and to be honest, I kind of wear my raincoat as a dress), and the only footwear I like to wear is boots for some reason. So I have bare thighs in winter (and the top half of my calves as well), my legs get snowed on and people think I'm trying to show off my legs by not covering them. I'm actually just trying to be nice to my legs because they can't stand fabric against them, so I'm the "bare legs in winter" girl and living in Massachusetts, it's not easy.

[@musliovci5719]

I LOVE YOU!!!!!! You changed my life beautiful soul😊 you deserve so much for putting your energy into learning your fellow autists as myself these things! Idk i just Got an Big burst of happiness because you have opened me and my parents eyes!!!❤❤❤❤❤ love u girl :)))) have a nice day

[@JMSxoxo]

I never comment but I have to say youre killing it with the video topics! I love how organized they are and how you edit them 😅 we are always the same but opposite in a few ways. Like alot of you guys commenting, I cant stand pants, or leggings. Growing up I loved fashion and being able to express myself through clothes, but due to insecurity and the horror that comes with being *perceived* as a girl I always dimmed myself down and made a conscious effort to try and dress like everyone else (hello masking). Im alot happier now dressing for comfortability and personal choice and style alone.. which means in the fall/winter I wear long skirts, or shorter skirts with tall boots or tights, soft tops and sweaters. Im basically in skirts or dresses all the time if im not wearing athleisure. Athleisure is weird for me though because I dont like the feeling of men staring when I wear leggings in public unless im in the gym, so athleisure for me is mostly sweatpants and skorts, even active dresses. If im wearing leggings its only because its part of a cute feminine work out set and I love the color or pattern. Life gets so much better when you start accomodating your own personal needs. Adulthood sucks in most aspects but the learning to stop giving a sh*t part does not 😂

[@birdie6663]

This has been really helpful!! I have a really hard time finding clothes at I’ll actually wear and that looks good. I often leave the house looking like I rolled out of bed 😂😭

[@smolbattybat296]

Love this! Question, how do you find corsets that are comfortable? Do you avoid or look for specific qualities?

[@violindalola]

I do the same thing. Athlesure has helped me be able to workout and do everyday errands. I feel constricted in so many clothing items.

[@coor0kun]

Would love a follow up on this with business and formal looks! I work in a career where attire and first impressions are important, so I lean towards soft cottons, cashmeres, silks, and rayon, but getting a professional style with comfort is something I have yet to master. Formal parties and weddings already are such a sensory overload, an uncomfortable outfit on top of all that is the absolute worst!! Give me all your recommendations, people!! 😂

[@pear92]

Even as a kid, I HATED jeans. I don’t think soft stretch denim existed back then (born in ‘92), at least not for young children, so jeans always felt so scratchy and uncomfortable. So, I could often be found wearing those lightweight, smooth “swishy” sweatpants to school instead. I’d only wear jeans if I absolutely had to. By high school, either jean fabric got more comfortable, or my tolerance for it got better, because I dressed like a skater kid in skinny jeans all the time lol

[@blakeharvard5841]

Comfortable is good

[@Martina_E]

I’m detail oriented with clothes. I love the Madewell Harlow pants. You may like them. I’m learning about shoes

[@thethoughtspot222]

I got my first madwell jeans two months ago and it changed my life

[@micivalantincic8227]

I find that I love maternity leggings. I was never pregnant and I am child free btw. But a friend gave me a pair and I LOVE them. That is the only way I can also wear jeans -tho I stopped this year I go for black and comfy clothes. Hate all tags and can't stand strong scents (like from washing)

[@Davotheledge]

Right while I was listening to this I put on a tight pair of pants and yelled, 'Faaark!'

[@etcwhatever]

Yeah neck, back, hip, knees...well all the joints tend to hurt. Ive been diagnosed with ankylosing spondilits and peripheral arthritis and sucks. Basically i had no idea (i tought only elderly people had it) its auto immune. When im worse even my face gets swollen and it annoys me. I dont like tight clothes or rough fabric. I like cotton, soft lycra, satin...and yeah i prefer to size up instead of feeling constricted. I like polyamide for socks and underwear. The thing is so soft. Sorry if its TMI.

[@DiamondEyez456]

May I ask you what medicines you take for your chronic pain, if you don’t mind. Also what do you do for work besides have clients for coaching?

[@aylarose3195]

What are your thoughts on sneakers and concealed shoes? I find that I overheat easy in sneakers and prefer the breathability of sandals but they’re not always a practical option

[@LunaR2017]

I know I'm not who you expected to answer- but I got some hiking sandals from REI that are mostly like tennis shoes but have cut outs. I wear about a women's 8 but they had a girl's size that fit and the girl's version of the woman's shoe enclosed my heel- the women's did not. I don't know if that's a preference for you but my feet overheat in so many shoes but not these. The tops have a drawstring for laces and I find that way faster to put on.

[@Authentistic-ism]

Who else has only black underwear? NO STAINS (at least that's what i tell myself)

[@LuNaLoOn02]

Me too!!

[@EshaBby444]

Thats me with socks LOL all black, boring, same brand 🤣

[@stef8043]

Always Black, underwear and bras 😂

[@Shalom-12]

What color do you have in the overalls? Is it the olive green?

[@AutismSpectrumWorld]

Do a video on christmas and how to deal with big family gatherings. To me it's hell.

[@axica5434]

My biggest problem is always jeans! The feeling of denim is just the worst.

[@isaacmarshall7615]

Does anyone have good recommendations for overalls in the uk? Carhartt were my go to but the quality has dropped in later years

[@thenovicechef1108]

In the past there is a certain types of clothing that I do not really like and my family just said to me bear with it 😭

[@michaezell4607]

For some reason ever since i got my covid vaccine I've been struggling with chronic pain in my extremities which makes just wearing certain articles of clothing difficult. I wonder if it could possibly be related to my ASD?

[@purplegreen67]

where was the cat corset from?

[@maddieg.1003]

I’m having a hard time finding a decent exercise tank. I like the muscle-tank style but I can’t stand the feel of wearing bras or wearing something with a shelf bra. I keep searching for “high neck muscle tank that can be worn with no bra” but I’m not finding anything !! part of my issue is I hate drawing attention to my chest so I just want to flatten it out without having to wear a binder (especially since most binders are crop-top style which is really uncomfortable for me). Does anyone else have this problem?

[@ashmac87]

It's really hard for me to compromise between my love of fashion and my sensory needs and chronic pain. I pretty much live in yoga pants and t-shirts, but sometimes I experiment with goth or punk style. It makes me sad that I can't wear all the awesome accessories that I want to every day. Oh well.

[@Kagomai15]

Corset from where????😊

[@Elianalivinglife]

I have muscly arms and I struggle with the upper arm in hoodies, I always order male hoodies as those for women will not fit my arms. bat fitted shirts works the best for my sensory triggers around my arms. How big is the arm hole in these hoodies?

[@Catlily5]

I hate shirts gripping my arms too tight.

[@Catlily5]

I hate light colored clothes for the same reason. They show too many stains and so they are harder to wash. I have a load of whites that I haven't washed in over a year because I am perfectionistic about putting stain remover on them. I get most of my clothes from thrift stores because I am low income so I just have to try a bunch on. With POTS it is exhausting.

[@haleydropthemike]

I remember in a previous video, you said you hated leggings. What made you change you mind, and how did you find leggings you like? I'm also trying to find clothes that I like that also meet my sensory needs :)

[@thethoughtspot222]

Something about athleta leggings are actually so comfy. It’s soft and sturdy but not thick and restricting. And it helps on days where I need some compression to manage anxiety

[@mlove1257]

I cant find a single bra or bralette that doesnt feel extremely restricting. Anything that puts pressure on my rib area feels like i cant breathe properly..Like even if its the most ”comfortable” sportsbra-I feel like im literally taking smaller breaths. Im so tired and dont know what to do because i dont feel comfortable going braless.

[@LuNaLoOn02]

I bought some leggings with fleece inside i can't stand them. I also wear very very soft clothes and loose fitting. Rough clothes are horrible

[@LunaR2017]

Oh yeah I love fuzzy fabrics but the leggings that say they are fleece-lined, all they do is catch long hair and are only soft one day. I used to wear them under work slacks for extra warmth but was always frustrated.

[@kalyasaify]

I'm so so so damn glad I'm not the only one making science out of clothes. it's sooooo exhausting man 🙄

[@cziegle3794]

Yay first comment and top 10 likes

[@thiccletics]

My detail about LULU I don’t like is the price tag 😂

[@Hello-bs8dn]

I would never wear jeans unless i somehow get stick-thin