The difference between protective boundaries and limiting boundaries. | Dr. Henry Cloud

[@aletheamarie1341]

Wow… I was literally just reading Psalm 101 in the Bible this evening… God has been gently addressing this with me about the urgency of protecting who my closest friends are… as someone who enjoys helping others I find it hard to turn people away… however I’ve come to realize that I am called to please God and not called to please man… thank you for your words!

[@candidawojcik6356]

My mother is an injurious/ unsafe person. I am really having a struggle trying to figure out if setting boundaries of being less available to her and setting rules are actually working or if it is time to just walk away and where that line is. The reason for this is because I am seeing certain behaviors return and I feel like I barely survived round 1 and don't think I can get through a round 2. . I am really thankful for my church family who are encouraging and have been trying to help me through it but it is sometimes difficult to discuss because I am unable to when my kids or my father are around as it would not be healthy for them to hear it at this point.

[@gisforme5032]

Don't stop! Keep going, Doc!!!!

[@brightpage1020]

Boundaries are for me. We can leave the room when we observe someone disrespecting us after we politely bring our feelings to their attention and request consideration, if they continue the hurtful behavior or offensive. We can protect ourselves without making a fuss, without even mentioning it. We can give a friendly reminder… and if that doesn’t work, Take your eyes off the hurtful person, physically. Put them on the door to another room or outside. Begin putting distance between you and them without looking at them or mentioning it. No need to have a tirade of your own. You have observed continued and repeated disrespect. So, if you chose to stay locked in the communication cycle or pattern in that moment, then you essentially may be choosing to abuse yourself by staying to take it or try to one up them by dishing out more: Sidestep the disrespect altogether by removing your attention and focus from it. Take your mind, physically walk your brain out towards something more positive or supportive. Go call a friend. Get some fresh air. Relieve yourself. Wash off the negative energy with a bath or some self care… The better care you take of yourself in these moments and protect yourself from retaliating, the better off you’ll be. Sometimes, after a day or night’s worth of reflection without your involvement or control, the other person will realize they may have been out of line and correct themselves or make amends. A little space can do us all some good.

[@error60091]

Excellent.. been wanting to ask how do we know whether the boundary we set is appropriate, and this video helps to answer that... thank you!

[@Grateful4life4time]

Thank you for this, very helpful 🙏

[@lindajumper1513]

Thank you Dr Cloud. I so needed this guidance.

[@bethtaylor9773]

What I needed to hear today. Thanks.

[@sh6460]

Had to listen again, really need this, thank you.

[@godzillamanstreb524]

This is in your top 10 🎉…..thank you 💙🌝

[@ps4ever328]

This is great!

[@bridgeegibson2790]

Thankyou that was very helpful. Your clips are really strengthening me as I grow healthier. The understanding I’m receiving validates me thus giving me more confidence .

[@thehomeschoolingheath6055]

Thank you

[@s.m.5747]

My boundaries are my non negotiable’s and my negotiable’s 😊

[@44esta44]

Ok, that is helpful....but then when you family members who fit some of that.....what is that source you suggested we go to?

[@viktoriavak4117]

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[@debragibbs9347]

‭Genesis 2:25 AMPC‬ [25] And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other's presence. ..."owning" each other's short-fallings...and helping each other grow in the Lord TOGETHER!

[@karavictoria25]

Different levels of spiritually legal infractions: sins, transgressions, iniquities, and abominations. Alexander Pagani helps break it down.

[@Angel-cu5mf]

what's the scripture reference i wonder

[@Kat-zh7ew]

Psalm 101

[@liliherndz5792]

🎉👏🫶🏻👏🎉

[@miriam9775]

where is it in the bible, what you read?

[@ChildoftheLIGHT]

Psalm 101👍🏼

[@miriam9775]

@@ChildoftheLIGHT Thank you!