I am blown away by a synchronicity here that when I am having a panic attack, all I have to do now to make it stop is say, "no trauma brain" and that is the name of the video
@Rose196952 жыл бұрын
"Wildly loved"...This is actually a good way of describing traumatic childhoods--wildflowes, jungle vines, wild boar, venomous snake, a rescuing Tarzan sometimes, refreshing waters, but be careful of gators...
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
I didn't think of it that way, but yes, I agree! I love the term "wildly unmothered" which i saw in the book Mother Hunger and I thought it was so relatable too, using "wild" to describe uncontrolled love.
@MegaFunkified2 жыл бұрын
That’s what I first thought of as well.
@thadmatson4754 Жыл бұрын
Where the wild things are. Be sure to eat your dinner!!! 😮
@SweetandSassyRedhead Жыл бұрын
Last week I was written up at work. The perfectionist in my was horrified. I went into fight or flight mode, ready to walk away from this job as I have done in my career when really stressed. My thoughts so quickly went to I can't take care of myself, I am at the age my mother had a nervous breakdown, I am worthless, I should just take a bottle of sleeping pills, and on and on. I recovered and came up with a plan for myself. This journey is so challenging. Thank you for your videos.
@kristinagerson9831 Жыл бұрын
I have followed many therapists in person and on KZbin. I found your work the most helpful. Thank you so much! Thanks for being so open and honest.
@ReeseBose-db8tj9 ай бұрын
Same here. She has gobs of depth.
@sxfnlc2 жыл бұрын
You are the first person I’ve heard who has been able to describe this condition to the T.
@ehill12292 жыл бұрын
This is so on-target for where I am right now. I DO have trauma brain and I DO need to know I am worthy / lovable.
@dawnmckinney36652 жыл бұрын
I was praying 🙏 and God sent me to your channel!
@dieresis92 жыл бұрын
I remember facing danger, feeling small, and suddenly realizing, wow, I’ve had this same reaction since I was little - what’s going on? As you say, it took a while to figure out, but it did open the door to feeling wildly loved (and simply accepting that gift).
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
I love this - thank you for sharing and thank you for being here!!:)
@vasantipunchoo3699 Жыл бұрын
Numbing .that s exactly the word .just.the brain body connection is off .cant even cry whereas ive cried so much in the hope and despair of wanting to change things that hurt me
@Kunjesvari2 жыл бұрын
Thankyou sister, just discovered your channel. Love your use of breathwork. Hope you've fully recovered from the respiratory thing! I just got super sick and realized it was because I let my boundaries down around a (NPD?) guy who I was letting get physically and psychically manipulative with me. It's amazing how "porus ego boundaries" show up as autoimmune conditions (I was diagnosed with Crohn's at age 12 with a borderline mom). Even after 10 years of realizing I was cptsd and doing the healing work, I still let the guy in... Because we had been friends for 10 years. But really he was just not intimate enough with me until now to show me what a predator he really is as it got more romantic. I'm so disgusted I missed so many red flags. I am really battling the 'I'm so stupid' inner critic over this 'failed connection'. Thanks for shining light on the dark corners. Mercury direct trine Pluto this week means we get to communicate our new healthy boundaries more effectively.
@tiablasangoriti83472 жыл бұрын
This video stopped in my tracks. I identify with 98% of what was shared. That's an A in my book. I'll follow your work for years to come. It gets me back to Vagal.😃 Dr Kim keep doing what you do. It is tremendously healing, insightful and nurishing. Your calm warm voice tone is really helpful to those of us who have experienced repeated violent trauma since early childhood Your research is a gift to us. It's right up there with the likes of: Dr Susan Forward, PhD Dr Alice Miller, PhD Dr Joni's Webb, PsyD Dr Karol Darsa, PsyD You all are GREAT!😁🤗
@allwellandgood85472 жыл бұрын
I can relate to so much of this Dr Sage! So beautifully put. My mother left our family when I was 8 for an alcoholic and our dad was emotionally unavailable and life was unpredictable, lonely and full of anxiety, centred around a sense that my feelings were not important. Then another great sense of loss when my dad passed away in my late teens. Its taken me 40 years to even have an awareness of what this has done to my nervous system and how it has impacted my life and decisions. I'm so glad to have found your channel to help me on my journey, I watch your videos every day. This Wildly loved series sound great. Thank you so much and I'm glad you are feeling better. With love from UK ❤
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing here, I am so sorry you had such a painfully difficult childhood filled with so much loss. I am sending you so much love and healing on your journey, and I'm so happy you are here. Thank you for the well wishes too!!💜🙏💜
@allwellandgood85472 жыл бұрын
@@DrKimSage thank you so much 🙏💖
@strengthtostrength5572 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Kim going through a divorce from narc husband my brain is gone into overdrive shattered .
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry you are going through an experience that i know is so very painful and truly shattering. Sending you love and healing and so happy you are here. It's so easy to lose sight of ourselves and our value in divorcing a narc and it can be relentless. Please take very good care of yourself.💜🙏💜🙏
@sxfnlc2 жыл бұрын
Can the damage be repaired? That’s my question. I have disassociation issues and my memory has been greatly affected. I don’t remember who I am at times and that gets scary.
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely believe we can heal so many of our wounds. I do believe that we can't completely eliminate our adaptations, (I always say some things are a management issue first and foremost, rather than never having the experiences again) but through things like therapy, self work, relational support, nervous system calming, etc - we can have some tools at our disposal when we feel triggered, and even if we can't get a hold of it sometimes and it overtakes us, we can learn how to get back to a safe place and start over. I am so sorry you've struggled so much, and I am sending you healing support wishes today:)
@mysticlisa369 Жыл бұрын
My brain 🧠 is still behaving as though it’s still living in a war zone, wondering when the next bomb is going to drop! Four years free from the most dangerous narcissists. It’s as close to Heaven as I’ve ever come. 💯
@juliesmith4539 Жыл бұрын
My brain feels like it didn't work when I was younger I only had memory I have remembered everything from my childhood and still do my body is still in survival mode even as an adult so alone when I was a child I have all what you have discribed thank you for your support we all need help with cptsd
@SweetandSassyRedhead Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your videos. They are hepful.
@sstrawberrylove2 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr Kim, I'm so excited for this series! For me, my childhood trauma resulted in spiralling into various eating disorders. I'm currently looking for a new therapist and I have to say it's SO difficult to find a trauma-informed practice. I had a conversation over the phone with a few therapists and some wouldn't even ask what brought me to them in the first place and said they 'treat everything'! Having access to your content in the interim is invaluable! I definitely relate to having trauma brain - something I've noticed is I struggle to call someone out on their bs because growing up my parents never encouraged critical thinking or took me seriously and as a result I tend to assume whatever someone is saying must be right and true, whereas my opinion is probably flawed. It's only in hindsight when I can notice it. So definitely resonate with the idea of carrying that childhood, traumatised way of thinking into adult life. Thank you for creating this new series for us!
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your experience - it's so unethical to "treat everything" not to mention impossible! I am so sorry! Have you tried just searching for EMDR therapists? At a minimum they should have a lot more trauma informed experience - if you go to the emdria.org website - it might provide more resources. I am so grateful you are here - please always remember how worthy you are and to continue cultivating and listening to your inner voice.💜💜🙏
@lindaflora19692 жыл бұрын
Here to learn more, grew up in a violent emotionally challenging environment plus with a mother that was critically ill a number of times. 61 now, wonder how much time I have left to experience being wildly loved (self).
@todddanforth88536 ай бұрын
I need to be re-fathered, not re-mothered!!!
@daniellecharming2 жыл бұрын
Love the Wildly Loved name!!
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!💜🙏
@Kevdug692 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@angieolsson81752 жыл бұрын
I definitely have trauma brain. Love the video 🙂
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
Thank you and so happy you're here with me!🙏🙏
@cattlekate2 жыл бұрын
Great video, thanks!
@DrKimSage2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!🙏💜
@vasantipunchoo3699 Жыл бұрын
Is that the left side of the brain .this is where i feel the emptiness or the burning feeling etc etc .