Managing Negativity Bias Using Your Core Values (Values Pie Chart)

[@LauraMonk9]

Our brains, like all organs, are not wired to make us happy. Our brains are only wired to keep us safe and alive. It does that by constantly scanning for threats and danger. It could care less if we are happy. It’s our soul/awareness that cares about being happy. We have to consciously and actively work at being happy.

[@DrScottEilers]

This is 100% correct

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I do wonder what to do w/ that information. It sounds like it could be the key to something. I definitely had a series of events that triggered a spiral of anxiety which was worse and longer than its ever been.

[@Ultralined]

Wow, this is helpful❤️

[@costelinha1867]

I other words, human beings are defective creatures that in no way shape or form could ever be created by an intelligent life form. Because you'd have to be EXTREMELY DUMB TO MAKE A LIVING BEING LIKE THAT! And what if you're an atheist, I DON'T EVEN BELIEVE THERE IS SUCH A THING AS A SOUL! SO OF CORUSE THE DESIRE TO BE HAPPY COMES FROM THE BRAIN! The brain wants us to be happy, but it's horribly designed to do so.

[@HeidiTeman]

"Brains are dumb"...I couldn't agree more. Thank you for the values pie chart visualization!

[@DrScottEilers]

Glad it helps!

[@miguellle]

It's a lot of work to have a brain😂😂😂 I love your sense of humor as well as professionalism! Thank you for your work Dr Scott🙏🏻

[@DrScottEilers]

Hardest thing we are asked to do ❤️

[@KittyBeats85]

Wow! I love the Values Pie Chart. It so clearly creates a visual of what matters to me and what doesn't. I'm constantly battling with my brain on whether I'm doing enough for my family and friends or if I'm doing a good enough job. This is a tangible tool I can use to show my brain that "Yes, I am good enough and doing enough. I'm checking all my boxes!" Thank you so much for sharing! The illustrations about the dinner plate and misaligned vehicle were also powerful too. Can definitely relate.

[@DrScottEilers]

Glad it was helpful!

[@rhonmc2782]

PLEASE READ DR SCOTT if possible. I just wanted to thank you for this vid (and the others). You speak of your initial thoughts about how well you did podcasts and vids as you were only starting out in bringing your passion for helping those with mental health to social media platform. I want you to realise 100% that what YOU are giving us hardcore cases is spot on and the best to be accessed. Please don't change your style and keep provoking us to do better. I should know as i have treatment resistant Agitated Major Depressive Disorder (for over 20 years). Meds don't work. I've done ECT, TMS (both sides of brain), DBT full day weekly for a year, too many hospitalisations to count (well over 25 extended stays), other outpatient programs CBT, ACT, Support Groups & others . I literally have enough books, workbooks, notes etc to pass as a psychilogist (just kidding but it feels like it). BUT I have never put myself first and hence at 70 I feel like I'm back literally at the start. Oh yes, i have a gazillion youtube vids in folders too, still searching for the Holy Grail. MY POINT IS i have really been around the traps and seen just about everything UNTIL i found you 2 weeks ago. IF you ever second guess yourself, please read this and KNOW that what you are providing beats EVERYTHING I've tried hands down!! Yes, you rightly mention things I've heard before but each vid puts a different slant on it, mentions ones not heard of before (because it's YOUR personal experience and we can relate) and leave out some of the easy stuff. In other words, you really nut out the important stuff to us end-of-the-liners in well put points without all the waffle other add and your honesty / casual conversation but obvious caring manner makes us sit up, take notice and even go try again. If you've read any of my other posts, they were "I have no time left at 70, what's the use, I'm in a very deep hole in living conditions etc etc. I've just got out of bed for the first time in 2 days to get some food and this vid accidentally flipped on when my hand knocked the phone screen. So I listen (again) and realise I MUST see one every day. As I sit here, I have the stirrings of trying again. Hope they keep on but remembering it's not the end for bad days to still hopen. I'm sorry I ramble so much. I can't seem to master the short to the point the young one's do. Maybe I'm trying too hard to impress on you just HOW MUCH your work is valued. Don't change a thing please although note your podcast interview = like a fire side chat with Chris was so raw, unabridged and unscripted it was the best thing since sliced bread. When Chris sometimes slowed a little or was thinking what or how to say something, you didn't jump in and try to keep things on track and timewise. Others would have. It made Chris' information so much more valuable to us and the way you summarised sections really solidified into our brains making it easier to remember. So as an oldie who's see it all and still lives a life if pain and suffering except maybe 1 day a fortnight when I enjoy just being able to feel numd and if I'm REALLY lucky, a smile, I want to reassure you that you ARE THE BEST. You WILL be HUGE in media and famous. It's selfish I know to hope you don't get so big you lose sight of how we love what you are doing now and how much we treasure having you "talk the talk" we need to hear and see the man who has struggled like us giving hope. Thank you ⚘️ P.s. now all you need to do is run similar channell for the elderly for I can't find anthing or anyone focusing on that. Unfortunately we are overlooked and "it's just how old people are" and "they can't change" and too hard basket. I believe the stigma of mental health in elderly (especially those of us who are neither young nor old enough to not understand). We are standing on the precipice of giving up trying. I don't expect you'll read this but I feel a bit more optimistic now ❤

[@attheranch873]

My interests and hobbies ARE my core values!

[@Hannah-y2z]

wow, I don't really know how to communicate this in a short comment, but discovering your channel has changed the way I think so much, I actually have hope for the future now and I've started making small and meaningful changes. I wish I had access to all of this knowledge several years ago, it would have saved me from a lot of suffering, I just haven't had things explained to me so well before.

[@isabelmorel2225]

according to how helpful your channel is (to me anyway!) you should have hundreds of millions of subscribers!

[@DrScottEilers]

It’s growing incredibly fast. I’m sure it will get to whatever level it deserves eventually 😁 thanks!

[@PURPOSEFULYOGA]

This is how my life needs to look to feel good and productive❤thanks so much

[@Crysta1986]

I have done core value activities before. Most recently in a partial hospitalization program in March. I still don't really know though. My #1 value I came up with was stability. This is because I've never had it, but its all I want. My core value has always been family, but I feel miserable trying to support them. I want less chaos and more stability. I just want a peaceful enviornment of my own. I genuinely don't believe its possible.

[@amasterofone]

What a simple and immediately applicable tool to be able to help evaluate what might be going wrong when you feel stuck/off/out of alignment. Fantastic. I'm creating mine right now and i ho estly think this could help. Thank you.

[@DrScottEilers]

Glad it was helpful!

[@claireclaire0166]

You are so phenomenal Scott. Reaching every part of me and helping me so very much. I know you talk about the perfectionist thing like it’s not that great to be perfectionist, but most very successful people are perfectionist types. I found this out by watching certain biographies about great people. For example, great directors of movies… they shoot and re-shoot scenes over and over again to get it exactly right… you are really awesome… and I agree keeping things small and simple is best. If you try to do to many things nothing gets enough attention. And you can drive yourself to have to many pots on the stove, lol so to speak. Great work and keep it up. You have already helped me to feel so much better because you validate my feelings in so many ways. Thank you.😊

[@suerossiter2029]

I just stumbled upon you today. I watched one video, which led me to watch 3 more. I’m currently watching your video on how brains are negativity biased. This is blowing my mind (no pun intended.) i suffer from undiagnosed OCD, as well as the non-ceasing negative thoughts you describe here. It’s extremely difficult to deal with on a daily basis. Having you validate some of my issues immediately made me feel hopeful. I just always thought it was “my brain.” Thank you for giving me hope that maybe I can get out of my negative, frustrating thoughts.

[@hawkes555maine]

I am so grateful to stumble upon your videos. Just hearing that I’m not the only person sitting in this hole after a TBI makes me feel somewhat better. Thanks ❤

[@kalindmhatre]

Thank you very much dr. Scott for making this podcast. It was really insightful. You are a God's messenger. God bless you 🙏

[@jomckee4447]

I love that you drew this pie chart! The messiness of it made me smile as its at the same level of my artistic ability.

[@Mgt44411]

This the absolute best explanation of how the brain works! Your examples are so valuable to making the information crystal clear! How you are able to say - this was my problem and this is how Negativity Bias and Rumination was the cause (14:26 - 14:59) makes this so understandable! I am so grateful to you Dr. Scott! You are helping me change my life!

[@NetflixTopVideos]

Thank you. Will come back to this again, I find I need to do that, something I have discovered from your videos. 😊

[@Heatherinthekitchen]

I just love you Dr. Scott. You crack me up with your comments about the brain. Even if you are not as known as you would like to be, you are known to me and are an answer to my prayers once again. This is exactly what I need. I have never understood why I so easily see the negative and problems. I don't want this to be the case, but it is. I don't even have to try, lol! Thank you for sharing some help and being real about it.

[@Mgt44411]

PS love the pie chart so much! This is such a great tool! 🌟 And you saying how focusing on only what's in your own pie chart brings peace is absolutely right! Thank You! Thank You!

[@santtumakinen8109]

I really appreciate your sincerety about trying to make your life simple by design. It gives me courage, because I've been trying to do the same thing. It's not an easy task, because the surrounding society gives the impression that one should fill every moment with some kind of activity and be interested in a broad variety of topics. I've tried to broaden the "bandwidth" of my life so many times and more often than not it has ended in a minor burnout with feelings of not being enough. Your video gives me courage to try stick to my few core values and interests 🙂. Thank You!

[@jomckee4447]

Thanks!

[@DrScottEilers]

Thank you!

[@heatherjohnson333]

Once again, thank you. 💜

[@greyttimes]

I’ve been struggling for years about defining my values and this is a novel and informative way of not only putting values together but also showing how to use them. the way you tend to see values defined is a word list and then you choose the value words then make goals and then make action steps. that method of defining values never resonated with me. using values as a roadmap for just what to do in a day and how to evaluate your worries and stressors adds an amazing dimension to values. the plate metaphor also reminded me of the food pyramid and maslow’s hierarchy of needs and connecting values to hierarchy of needs dovetails nicely with the emphasis dr. eilers places on health, nutrition, exercise, and sleep hygiene throughout different videos. I think there’s also an element of the increasingly sedentary nature of our lives and how it seems to have a correlatively negative effect on mental health overall as well.

[@drgreat]

As someone who struggles a lot with this issue as well as the methods you mentioned at the beginning of this video, this is insanely helpful.

[@Rizzaknits]

Excellent breakdown. Thank you 🙏

[@DrScottEilers]

I appreciate that!

[@bunny_smith]

That was a very good video. Thanks for presenting a framework for stuff I already intuitively knew. This will be very helpful.

[@christinevandermerwe-gl2sm]

Excellent!!!!

[@integralstanley]

It can be a good idea to mostly focus on our most important values such as health, family, and job.

[@costelinha1867]

If I focus on these values, specially job, that's what will make me kill myself, as I'm already ashamed enough of being 25 and not having my first job yet.

[@kandymich4861]

Brains are weird ones you think you have it figured out it changes on you. It changes because you’ve figured out how to handle and deal with how it’s behaving. That in turn adds an update to itself bringing new things to the forefront. It cycle’s through this over and over…… & over

[@KindSJT]

love your videos...thank you so much❤

[@skyewelbourne6270]

Great episode! Thank you for sharing your tool

[@DrScottEilers]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@NetflixTopVideos]

Again. 😊 I will have to go over and work on the pods I have watched today cos I am not in a good place, even from here I can see they will help me so much. Thank you again. 😊😊😊😊

[@gerimanchester]

Excellent presentation. Your talk is timely for me and will help me clarify my own thoughts and direct my time. Thanks. 0:12

[@laurenmariemills12]

Hi Dr. Scott, thank you! This is very helpful! One thing that would make it even more useful is if you could point me in the direction of a helpful resource here, especially for supplementary values? I can easily find lists of core values but linking them to supplementary values is a bit more difficult. Thank you in advance!

[@goldismoney5899]

My brain wants to kill me. I am in a fight with it every day. So far I am winning. Seriously, we are all going to die and nothing will mean anything then. Ultimately, life is truly meaningless. See how cruel my brain is?

[@evadebruijn]

Values let alone living according to them are like an unknown foteign language to me, would not know where to start. I have a hard time discerning my wante from my needs and I want contradictory things all the dmn time. At home? Cabin fever. Out and about? Want to be home. Crazy restless existence. I do know I find having meaningful strong close connections very important but due to cptsd and needing a lot of alone time to unwind and recharge I have an atrophied social muscle, in other words, I've been in hermit mode for so long it has made me socially inept and friendless.

[@InfinitePisces]

I looked at a list of values and almost cried. I know what I would like my values to be, but my life is so miserable I don’t know how hopefulness and joy could be my core values

[@katherineprice96]

You’re amazing!

[@divinereference]

The only problem I have with your prison cell analogy is that when I keep checking/trying the heartbreaking letdown of still no pleasure is sometimes worse than the No pleasure, if that makes any sense. The effort that continues to not pay off will send me in a 2 hour sobbing spree of frustration or worse. I begin to dread trying in fear of that happening. Even when I truly will practically trick my brain into believing I will feel pleasure, it still doesn’t come, that letdown causes me to not want to keep trying because I can’t tolerate the disappointment. I still appreciate your suggestions though & thank you.

[@divinereference]

This comment is supposed to be under the anhedonia video! Ugh not the best with technology

[@paularowe1574]

What a great tool! Thanks for sharing!

[@DrScottEilers]

Thanks for watching!

[@Mgt44411]

PS you have a wonderful sense of humor ie: (18:53) "brains are a little bit dumb sometimes" ...this made me laugh 😂 and thanks to you, I'm understanding thungs in a whole new way!

[@felicitygrace5113]

Such a great video! Thank you!!!

[@DrScottEilers]

You are so welcome!

[@stevec404]

Add cPTSD trauma-caused default to failure...and get ready for a very rough ride!

[@bethabrand]

Very helpful!

[@LauraMonk9]

The brain also hates emotion. It would like to get rid of all emotions. This is why it ruminates to try to get over or past the emotions. It’s as if the heart and head don’t agree.

[@PixelMotionHD]

Unfortunately there is no thing for people without any values in life or any purpose.

[@stellamaggard3669]

Very,interesting. I don't know how I could make my life any simpler?

[@DrScottEilers]

I don’t know your life so I can’t say. Maybe you’ve already done everything you can in this area!

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Sometimes it's too simple, like if you're home disabled, and that can be part of the problem.

[@MARCIA.ZZZZZZ]

I just want to cry. I forced myself to go out to the library today. I'm glad I did but it's not good enough. Ii have to forceysel to wash the dishes and clean and organize because we r moving but I'm frozen. Can't you come up with a magic wand?

[@lannguyen-pu1db]

What if the stuffs you chose as "core value" is 100% detrimental to you? For example, what if your family and your spiritual sources are essentially toxic, narcissistic, and abusive? How can you align yourself to your core value then?

[@pamlucas7694]

He s better than the shrink s I ve seen

[@rebeckaa2854]

I dont have many things to write down in my chart..😢

[@Shishizurui]

This made me realize I have no core values lol- how does this happen to someone who's nearly 40? lol

[@PsyPhi25]

Interesting. What if you discover that you have NO core values?