13 + 1 Ways to Fix Your Mental Health in 2024

[@gerimanchester]

I am 93 and recovering from a broken hip and broken arm 2 years ago. I walk 1/2 mile a day and feel great. I nearly always have to talk myself into exercising. Often it’s difficult to get going but the battle is at the point of taking the first step. Once I start I always finish and I feel so much better. 🎉

[@PattyDalmau]

Good for you 🥳 👏👏👏

[@deejewell4831]

OMG Im feeling so old and ugly, and useless at 74. And avoiding hip, knee, and a few other surgical repairs... ❤ I just cannot figure out how to get through it

[@lindarullo1447]

@@deejewell4831 My mom used too say...Growing Old is not for sissys....shes right on that one.

[@amber40494]

Life is a gift. I often just sit and veg out in a depressed state, but even one small accomplishment is making à différence. Thanks Dr. Eilers!!

[@lpfx777]

Awesome ❤🎉

[@stevendaniel8126]

This man is a Gold Mine of mental health.... I can listen to him over and over. So valuable.

[@claudiat.2662]

I think because he actually struggles with mental health, he truly UNDERSTANDS. I am already seeing improvements in my life because of his advice

[@rswalters64]

I just stumbled onto him and that is my immediate response as well. He's amazing!

[@anncostello5894]

Couldn't agree more. So many tools.

[@thesunlightcaller1548]

Amen and Amen👍👍

[@Jezz_Mcfly]

If most of us simply do what's advised here - our lives will change dramatically. (Certainly for myself anyway).

[@ripple_on_the_ocean]

Three months ago I could hardly get out of bed. Started super slow, things are improving now. At first I committed to one meal a day and 10 minutes of walking. Concentrating on improving sleep, which makes a massive difference. "Why We Sleep" by Mathew Walker (mentioned in this video) is so great and so helpful!

[@littlewillowlinda]

I’m watching this rn from bed after spending all day here. Thanks for giving me hope

[@ripple_on_the_ocean]

@@littlewillowlinda start super small and celebrate every victory (being able to get out of bed even to the couch). Focus on the things that will improve your mood/energy/attention and start there. (For me it was/is diet, exercise and most importantly sleep.) Good luck to you!

[@vickykent353]

@littlewillowlinda There's hope, lots of hope, so long as you're still breathing. Could you get a copy of "Why We Sleep" as suggested by @ripple_on_the_ocean above who said it was very helpful? Perhaps set up a plan as they did? Perhaps talk to each other? I know that's hard and that a phone can weigh 500 pounds, but it's doable. Have you tried setting one goal for yourself? This could be your first if @ripple_on_the_ocean were to agree. You might want to run that by Dr. Scott first as he is trained but even better, he has lived this predicament. The hard part will be putting your plan into action. Once you do, you'll be on your way and feel a strong sense of accomplishment. Once you've taken the first step, that could motivate you to keep going. 🙏💗 Good luck with your journey. I've been in your position, too.

[@sacredpaw]

Matthew Walker is great, you can find many informative interviews with him here on KZbin.

[@ripple_on_the_ocean]

@@sacredpaw awesome thanks for the heads up! I can't shut up about his book since I read it. I need some new content to annoy my friends with haha

[@adamrosefire]

Bonus reason - be careful who you listen to. 1 - do not pick up your phone unless it is for a very specific reason 2 - don’t buy anything you don’t need. 3 - just one caffeinated beverage per day within four hours of waking up. 4 - eat three meals per day. 5 - have a maximum of one alcoholic drink per week. 6 - 5 to 10 minutes of stretching and mobility work every day. 7 - regular exercise 3 to 5 times per week, of about 20 to 30 minutes every time. 8 - go out on a special ‘date’ once a week, whether it is with yourself, a significant other, or family. 9 - read one nonfiction book every month. 10 - take five minutes at the end of the day to do a victory journal, where you list all of your wins. 11 - schedule important self-care activities into your phone. Don’t leave them to memory. 12 - look at a list of important reminders every day, first thing in the morning. I believe I got them all, but perhaps I condensed two into one. I think these are fantastic recommendations, and exercise alone for me is such a huge one.

[@nancydoak3285]

Thank you!

[@vanessaseatang2941]

Amazing! Thanks for your summary

[@tahrey]

Well, I'm already trying the first one, but that makes me consider utilitising the zeroth one, because, well, ADHD. I can get a notification of a message I need to respond to, which gets me to actually pick the phone up, but there'll be something else in the queue ahead of it that I forgot about or postponed earlier and only realise about again when I pick it up, and then, boom, it's thirty minutes later, I've gone down a rabbit hole with that, and I've forgotten what I grabbed the phone for and have to have a moment explaining that out loud to someone so my brain will actually reprocess back to the correct spot and I can do the actual thing then put it down after. Like literally happened yesterday evening whilst I was at my mother's and the message was something relevant to a conversation we were actually having... not sure if I'd have figured it out without relying on the unread-message repeat alarm utility I have installed. Certainly there's no games etc on there, I use it as a communication and information retrieval device (maps, googling things, etc) and camera and that's it, maybe very occasionally a music player. But the communication apps alone can eat a lot of time if I get pulled into a conversation. Also it's quite infantilising and dismissive to call what I'm doing there as "nothing". It's about all the socialisation I get most days. Life is fairly lonely outside of a few hours on the weekend. Or I'm actually learning stuff. Etc. It sounds like the infuriating flippant judgement of a generation-gapped parent who doesn't care to actually find out what their kid is doing or interested in. I'm not reading celebrity gossip blogs. And even if I was, that's something, just not anything good. I was doing "nothing", I'd be staring at a blank screen. Likewise the third one, I'm simply not functional without sufficient stimulants in my system, and I can't get a prescription at this time. I know the caffiene is a bad idea, but it's all I've got as I can't stomach soda-style energy drinks. I've tried cutting it out. Didn't go well. It's bad enough that I've had to cut the sugar because of borderline type 2 diabetes ... had to increase the coffee strength to compensate. Second, define "need", especially as I'm out of work and operating to a very limited budget anyway, I ain't collecting anime figurines over here; ditto, what's a special date count as in the Eighth? Seeing family for dinner and a bit of time with the nephews, or something more extravagant (again, where's the money come from, as going to the cinema for one particular film that I was determined not to miss was a stretch)? What's an important reminder for the Twelvth, if you're someone with serious trouble decision-making over wheat vs chaff? My to-do lists end up filling entire printer-page size lined-notebook pages, in two columns with other stuff jammed in the margins when I remember it later. Fourth, Fifth and Seventh happen reasonably regularly, so eh. Ninth, I thought we were supposed to be getting out of the endless reading hole? Most of what I'd be interested in, nonfiction, right now, would be in the same self help arena, or basically a podcast transcript about some real-life thing, which I may as well listen to whilst, say, doing the laundry, or trying to get to sleep, instead of losing time to by consuming it in visual form. Eleventh, I'll refer you to the First again. Very bad at scheduling whether electronically or on paper, but that IS a good way to have me looking at my phone again, at exactly the worst time, unless it's a reminder for something in the afternoon that goes off in the morning and tells me to put a timed alarm on my watch. Probably I should get a smart speaker of some kind, which can bug me with verbal reminders, but, quite honestly, to hell with that idea, on a privacy basis. I have a friend who has somehow hacked theirs to be free of all the spyware ... I ain't got time (or, again, money) for that. Ironic bootstrapping problem perhaps? Besides it's just one more electronic nanny that I'll end up telling to F off whilst jamming a pillow over my head, or desperately trying to finish some other task before its own deadline. Probably could work on the Sixth as I guess I don't make an _organised_ go of that, more unknotting muscles when they get tense, and it's a bit of an issue. Maybe the Tenth too, on better days, so long as, say, "walked to the shops and made an appointment I've had a request letter for at the doctor, including picking up a sample tube" would count. Though that only took thirty seconds. So, like ... I guess this is meant for depressed neurotypical people and probably not aimed at folks like myself, or am I misinterpreting something? (mind that all this was written paused after the first point was read through... and yes, it's not like it's a new concept, just presented differently, or that I know it's a bad idea, and even that I should be carrying on with what I sat down to do at the computer right now instead of commenting - I only pulled up YT for some background sound whilst going through a whole load of pre-shred archive document scanning and intended to play music instead - but it's actually keeping that idea in mind *at the same time as* what I'm trying to do, when monotropism takes hold... and I'm wondering if the rest of them will provoke the same reaction when they're verbalised) edit: _restarts the playback_ oh OK we weren't even finished with the first point. Watched a bit further before re-pausing in something between distress and disgust. We're actually now about a third of the way into the video and still on point 1, and it's become an excuse for bragging about all the things he's done, which isn't going to make the rest of us feel any better, especially if what's happening is the free time we get is at the end of a day of hard work and we're too wrecked to actually do that much more. I'm not a doctor, I'm pretty low on the career tree (OK, more like, for various reasons I've never even really got beyond swinging off the lowest branch, including with a recent attempt at changing direction), I don't have anything I can run outpatient clinics for or whatever. And that itself is just _doing extra work..._ which is often kind of WHY I'm burned out. I also therefore don't exactly have a large home, I don't have any space (or money) to build a home gym, and if I did, the downstairs neighbours would complain. Woo, thanks for making me feel even worse about my life than I already did, doc. Perhaps an example of what someone in the same kind of hole as those you're trying to help, and what simpler and more humble - but, for a lot of us, still seemingly out of reach - things they did once they found the extra time might be better, rather than holding all that crap over our heads. Plus, well, if you've made it to doctor, you're probably far more functional in daily NT-world modern life than everyone in my segment, so you're starting from higher on the ladder anyway. ...So yeah, I'm out, I'm going to spend the remaining 24 minutes that would have been blown on this video actually playing background music and getting some more of my old documents digitised. NVM the time spent writing this of course 9_9

[@whitelilycalla]

Thank you!! It was helpful to look through the list instead of wasting time by listening on the phone 😉😉👌

[@junegagnon6506]

Thank-you for writing this all down? I thought to myself oh I should have been writing all of this down and will have to listen again. Which would be just fine of course. So thanks again for thinking to do this!!!😁

[@raheelsiddiquei1230]

This is the most real guy i ever seen on KZbin so far

[@bobhope5114]

He's mediocre and meandering at best...try Anthony De Mello Vernon Howard and especially Albert Ellis.

[@mi39471]

@@bobhope5114 There's someone for everyone. But I do like his format because it feels like a session with a therapist. I don't think this would necessarily be better if it were edited to retain the interest of fifteen-year-olds.

[@denabaldwin3935]

I've learned more about myself in the last 2 days, than the 30 years!

[@Sauci4Lyfe]

Is absolutely one of few

[@twistoffate4791]

That's why I keep coming back. No other channel feels like therapy home.

[@asdfghjk749]

Your podcast is like having a best friend who gently roasts you because they love you

[@kayligo]

#1 Limiting screen time/phone discipline is my main issue. I feel addicted to it.

[@kimfontaine7453]

Agreed, the time I spend on stupidly astounds me…..yet nothing I do seems help reduce it long term. Might have to buy a phone vault !

[@oldcrow6990]

Same here. It's scary.

[@MultiKatieBee]

It's become a huge problem for me, too.

[@CentaurPress]

Same. I never thought it would happen to me. The shorts are rotting my mind 😮

[@TCGill]

@@CentaurPressshorts are the worst. I have many clients and acquaintances that get hooked on these. One short that looks interesting, turns into “1+ hour later “ 😂 What’s frustrates me is @KZbin don’t allow you to switch that crap off from showing up

[@melissakeller2644]

Your tips are helping. It’s obvious you’ve been in this position. Previously, I haven’t taken action. Now, I’m brushing my teeth and showering every day. That’s huge for me! Thank you.

[@Sauci4Lyfe]

@@melissakeller2644 I totally understand, I just gave up! I still don’t understand why I don’t wash the dishes and make my kitchen look like it used to!

[@ΓΕΩΡΓΙΑΚΟΛΛΙΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-ι4χ]

Hope the best for you

[@debbysimon120]

I am going to SERIOUSLY START these exercises! I'm in so much misery. I just want to be happy again! My life used to be so good and happy, with my horses and my friends, and my art! I hate OKLAHOMA! I am a native Californian, and I miss my home.

[@HLPiepgrass]

I hope you’re doing okay. Wishing you a good day and week.🎉

[@lindarullo1447]

Must be different...like a fish out of water.....I live in Big Sur , Calif . And we do have Our problems...but fully understand where your coming from .

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

😢

[@perrycoffey5410]

God im soo sorry you live in oklahoma out of all places

[@deerinheadlights100]

Hating random stuff is bad for you.

[@terryg4415]

Funny, I’m information-seeking right now! Action is definitely harder.

[@Dackel1972]

The point you are making in this video is SO important and hit me on the head. I do NOT lack knowledge on what to do to live a better life.What I'm lacking is implementation and nothing else.

[@Dackel1972]

To take this one step further: although I've watched > 100 videos on your channel and Huberman's and diary of a CEO and many others that have provided me with all the input I need to improve things, I still seem to think I'd rather watch 20 more videos dealing with the same questions rather than putting any effort into implementing step one. Maybe you could make a video (if you haven't already) stressing that nothing is going to improve in your life unless you put some effort in (which will be a pain and not necessarily give you an immediate short term benefit) rather than going for the comfortable way, such as hoping that the next video you watch on youtube will change your life just by watching it.

[@magdalenewegner8597]

The Same Here, as with "Dackel 1972" (previous commenter ; and Thank You, Dear Dackel 😊) .... BUT, - I - have Another, likely More Menacing thief of my New motivation; Morbid grief Knocks Me Back Against the wall behind me, stealing away Every Speck of Splendid Determination I have managed to muster up!!!!! Then I Deflate like a Tight Balloon as I try to move on a task I Want To Do. Because it's Then I remember that my husband (45years) is NOT With Me & Won't Be Returning. He's been buried for the last 8 years ... unforseen suicide. We were Both Independent Individuals, with Both individual Interests AND Joint Interests. We 'worked' our daily lives & routines Successfully & Blissfully Together. Like trapeze Artists!!! It was 'Our Recipe' for such a Long, Wonderful marriage. I 'wilt & fold' before I ever stand up to move forward. And withdraw to 'safe place' in my room. Where I cry and 'remember' that he's GONE, for the Rest of My Life. ....... ☹️😰😱😖🤧 . ???????????? (bless you, Every One. ) .... M.

[@heatherbruce1668]

Same ...

[@FindMeOnABeach]

WOW, Dr. Scott!! You totally nailed me with that "never getting past the learning phase to the doing phase"! THIS is what I've got to learn to do.

[@slenderman8170]

Or do to learn in this case :)

[@kerryarseneau9588]

Me too!

[@okcarter2404]

Me, too!!! ❤

[@raven4090]

Same here

[@searchtech]

THANK YOU THANK YOU! This is me! My home is a mess because, 1. I work overnights 6 days a week. I just want to lay in bed on my phone when I get home. For HOURS! I am going to spend 2 hours at least picking up and cleaning. I have so much stress coming home to a messed up home. THANK YOU!❤

[@heatherbruce1668]

Take pictures..it might help you see your victory! 🎉🎉🎉

[@DiamondMind630]

Check out Jordan Peterson clean your room it’s really good.

[@kathleenbigsmoke-mitchell4898]

I like that plan for the phone 😊 i remember what life was like before cell phones

[@tahrey]

So do I. We just found other ways to waste our time, often even more insular or damaging than social media use is. TV binging. Alcoholism. So on and so forth. It's not like we were all hyper productive and/or creative powerhouses before Facebook came along, and there's still plenty enough of those people in the world even now. Some of them only even have those outlets or ability to work because of the selfsame technology.

[@BubblGrl]

I’m not the first person to comment on this but what you said about earning your own respect hit really hard. I have implemented many of those strategies and definitely felt the benefits…but earning my own respect seems like the unreachable dream. Maybe that one goes beyond depression and anxiety for me. The best thing I have going for me is that I rarely give up trying to improve things for myself …and if I do it’s just to give myself time to regroup…so I guess time will tell.

[@SageGuy1806]

why is that when I always listen to your videos, it feels like you know what I am going through and feels like I have a new friend being kind to me? I have a very fucked up life right now and your monthly videos reminds me that this is not my end of the line. Thank you so much.

[@AngelaKhatri-sp4rs]

Thank you for saying that filling your car with gas gave you anxiety. Doing everyday things like getting gas, grocery shopping, and driving are legit challenging for me. I never imagined anyone else knew what that could be like. I recently found your channel and want to say thank you for your inspiring content!

[@sandraalegria3439]

It's hard to go shopping for anything.I have to run out of everything, I just don't know what to eat. I have no desire to chase anything. I just wait ,practicing being dead. I have reasons to be happy , but inside I'm dying of sadness. Thank you for being in this space,I feel so alone.

[@Kev1972]

This year I'm focusing and taking care of my mental health by what I call the holy trinity... My mind, body and soul. Eating brain food, exercising by following KZbin videos and finally giving thanks by going to church and strengthing my soul.

[@NikkiaSings]

🗣️💯🙏🏽

[@debbiejacobson3953]

Love it

[@kathydillon-y6t]

Amen!!!!​@@NikkiaSings

[@joseywales1150]

let the church say Aaaaaamen!!

[@claudiat.2662]

I will borrow and follow your plan 😅

[@BrendaNeedle]

I do absolutely nothing with my day. Having said that: I' m a mom with 3 grown daughters, and they don't live near me. I am a retired Nurse, raised 6 children, went to church every week with my kids. ( They were in Sunday School) I've done volunteer work. I babysat my Grandson while my daughter was in school full time( my daughter lived closer to me at that time) I'm 72yrs old. You know what I do all day: I play the piano, play guitar, read, play with my cat. I deserve this time to myself.; after everything I'v accomplished.

[@RoseTheOver70MakeupArtist]

I am 75 I don't think I have ever 75 years on this Earth Heard anyone speak as perfect as this man does dear heaven we are literally blessed to have him on KZbin everything he says is true I now dwindle away laying in bed most of the day arthritis ulcerative colitis bones hurting everything just watching my videos but this man has made everything in life seem possible he is so intellectual that is unbelievable his family is just blessed and he has blessed all of us with his knowledge I sent this video to myself to watch every morning hoping to God it will help me some in my later years of life I used to be extremely athletic now bed vegetable got to implement some of the things this man has said in my life God bless him and his family because he is certainly blessed us by getting on KZbin and helping millions of people anyone that listens to him has to be helped by his words he is just wonderful 💯 a blessing❤

[@djilyaz]

A bit dramatic?

[@keloreilly7017]

You are so right about info seeking. I think I’m the Queen of information overload. Time to take action…period. Thank you!

[@lotuspoints]

Physical activity and fitness are saviours! ❤ the emotions are in the body, they need to move and exit

[@jaynemcdowall497]

If I had a single friend, that would help. I am 53, professional and can enjoy things as well as laugh at random sh**, but, never have I had the luxury of having a good friend.

[@KRIS-gr5hn]

I am an information hoarder and it's a thing that does stop you from taking action and moving forward. Thanks Dr Scott... you just make sense.

[@sinclaire5479]

I originally did 3 meals a day, and dealt with alot of brain fog just general lethargy, i have since dropped to one maybe two meals eith intermittent fasting and my brain fog is completely gone. I haven't changed what i eat as i am incredibly mindful already about what i eat but changing the frequency helped immensely

[@Yolduranduran]

I started a cross fit 3x per week and it is helping me fell so much better physically and mentally. I feel like I have a chance to change my world 🌎

[@missyme2673]

Guilty of all of these points.. and I can barely get out of bed

[@shineon_7660]

Same! I usually find the advice on this channel to be within reach of attainability but man, this video is making me feel terrible about myself

[@grimsqueaker5333]

If all you can do is sit up in bed, do only that. From another of Dr Scott's videos: You have thrive days and survive days. On thrive days, when you are not completely drained by the end of the day, you can aim to do a little more so your future self can thank you for that. On survive days you do what you are capable of, so you can have a future self. ❤

[@missyme2673]

@grimsqueaker5333 Thank you for reaching out to me with your helpful advice, you're absolutely right. I've kind have broken the cycle somewhat, due to an emergency trip to the hospital where I spent 3 weeks, it's got me eating a little too, something that I couldn't do before. I'm determined not to go back to my old ways as even though I've only been back home 24 hours, I had shower, immediately, make up a fresh bed, disinfect and tidy my hospital stuff away etc, and I've been feeling much better for it. I'm really proud of myself for breaking that vicious cycle and like you say, I am going to have bad days ahead but at least I can remind myself that I can do this. Thanks again, I really appreciate you taking the time to care. Warm wishes xx

[@ravireddyism]

@@missyme2673go for Keto diet . I had gone through terrible episodes but since started keto diet I’am improving a lot .

[@yarayara5694]

Thank you so much. Thank you for your authenticity and the motivation. I want to add 'dancing' to your suggestions of workout. It lifts my spirit immensely, and it doesn't matter if it looks good or stupid, nobody is watching me. I just let my body move the way it wants, hopping around, stretching, shaking. It's kind of an intuitive form of movement, and most of the times I do it without any music. But dancing to uplifting music is great as well, even if the first moments may feel somewhat awkward 😄

[@jadeybabes33]

Fantastic ideas thank you. A really important one for me is celebrating the small victories each day - I am a person who tends to be critically hard on myself so this is something I'm definitely trying to work on.

[@barbm7409]

Super glad I found this channel. Love your humility and real doable advice. Thank you.

[@marianneellman1139]

I read on here in these comments, but can't find it again. Today you saved me. You said "Some days you thrive,& and some days are survival" Thank you❤

[@ttf4now]

I’ve been battling depression and anxiety since I was 11 years old. At times, I saw improvement and other times, I felt a deep sense of deepening depression and gut wrenching anxiety. I didn’t know where it was coming from but now I know that deep seated traumas were never fully resolved.

[@ravireddyism]

How old are you now ?? Me too since 15 yrd now I’am 38. Highs and lows in my journey. Hope I could pull it off coz I had shown resilience before KZbin resources and now I’am experienced and have KZbin resources like Dr Scott, which will help my fight less challenging.

[@TheJodzilla]

Earning my own respect, that was powerful for me, thank you. I tend to look outward for reward, validation, etc, but you are so right. I need to earn my own respect by doing, not doing, things that propel me towards greatness, my definition of greatness.

[@lightnindawn7710]

I love you Dr Scott. I love that you are so relatable & you never sound preachy or judgemental & I love the fact that you have been the person you are speaking to & not just rattling off stuff from your textbooks that got you your degree. I can't wait for your book to arrive in my mailbox.

[@darkcrystal4498]

Hard agree! Absolutely love you Dr Scott. You're saving so many of us, thank you for being the one person who's managed to get me up, dressed and feeling a glimmer of hope for the first time in months x

[@MichaelAlbrecht-d7z]

Don't allow your self be used, lied to,avoid caffeine, and don't allow yourself be disrespected.Words of experience folks.

[@klpuhelin2816]

You are amazing! I hope you know that. Last night I lost my sleep and all the catastrophes started to go around in my head again (the last couple of years have been full of sh*t in my life, nobody would believe if I told everything that has gone wrong, it's absolutely ridiculous 😅). And my sleepy head says: I think dr. Scott has a video about catastrophe thinking, find that when you wake up. And when I woke up and looked at my phone there was an announcement about this video. I regard you as my youtube therapist (I have no other kind of therapist). So thank you for doing these videos! ❤ To me nb 1 is absolutely the most important. I spend waaaay too much on my phone. Many times it's because my energy level is too low for anything else, but it doesn't help at all. All the things on my to do -list just piles up to those horrible towers, so I need to stop being on my phone before I've done all the other things. 2. Not a huge problem for me, but this year I have to be even more conscious about this since my income is getting lower. Instead I should get rid of all the clutter I already have. 3.-5. I already do almost like this. No need to change, but maybe improve just a little bit, since the huge coffee mug in the morning and some wine when cooking are the rare enjoyments in my life at the moment. I need to improve my meals though. 6, 7, 10 I already do, but great tips for 10, because it's sometimes so hard. 8. I've tried, but somehow it almost never happens. Now I'll put it in my weekly schedule to try again. It's sooo important to have something interesting in life. 9. To me any book would improve my life. Fictional might be even better in my case since I'm having some kind of burnout. 11-12. I already do a lot of this, cause I couldn't survive my life without old fashioned paper calendar. A small paper tracker is great for those that don't have a certain time. I have it in my calendar. Phone reminders are no good for me, I just click them off without even thinking. Plus I need to be less on my phone, so I don't want to add anything with that. I just wish nobody would need me for a while. I feel like everyone wants something from me (and of course very soon) and it always messes up my own schedule and there's no time and energy to recover and do something for myself or what I've planned. All the time there's something to take care of. And no matter how small a thing, always something goes wrong. If I buy something that I need, at home I'll notice there's something missing or broken in the product. Not a big deal alone, but when this happens all the time... It's like a curse. On the other hand many times there's some luck in our misfortune and the situation could have ended up absolutely horrible, and it didn't, but still the overall feeling is that absolutely everything goes wrong. I think it's not anymore enough to have some luck in the continuous catastrophes. I want them to stop. I've had enough of them already. And I need to put myself first, but no matter how I try I seem to fail in that one. Or maybe I'm just so chronicly stressed that I feel like I fail and it's not really objectively that bad. 🤔 So if I may hope for a subject, I guess it would be chronical stress, and how to deal when everything goes wrong for a long time.

[@michelekurlan2580]

"Temu,Temu, shop like a billionaire"🙈🙉🙊 I def got hoovered in. Nothing but an endless impulse isle. As far as ruminating goes mine is in the morning which is quite typical for people with clinical depression. Really makes a day hard to get started on.

To keep away from the phone is the main thing I really have to work on. Soon 50 and diagnosed with ADD. Single dad with 2 young kids every second week, working from home, having a house with a big garden. I really try to keep up with all shores, but it is not easy. And the phone becomes my escape sometimes, and also like a drug. (my drug is information about everything, and one reason I follow you) But I working every day to be the best person I can, and I feel good about allot of my progress. Not using my diagnose as a "free card" for not doing the things that is hard. More an unddrstanding about where I have to work harder. Really have to value myself more. Because I always put myself last.

[@Cath-rv2ni]

When you said you were so anxious to put gas in your car I nearly cried. That’s me. Learning so much from your videos. Thank you for being willing to share your knowledge. I have hope.

[@therealdeal3672]

Well Dr Scott, you hit me right where I live. On my phone. All of these are very important adjustments and I appreciate this video. Yep you nail it! But you didn't stop there, you gave us great advice on top of prompting the self-reflection.

[@RainbowPyramid]

For me, doing something spiritual every day is important eg short meditation. I also find my mental health is better when I do something creative a few times a week. Sometimes I spend literally 3 minutes sketching something simple or doodling.

[@annadonahue4119]

Oooh! I forgot about doodling! TY!

[@MrTrickster5]

Watching your videos is like watching a better version of myself, someone who got through. Never stop Scott ❤️

[@matthoyle4027]

I’m 60 going thru a bunch of stuff, just like all of you I imagine, this is the second video I have watched of this man, this guy is like something I have never seen, I’m putting all my chips in , as of right now you might have saved my life , because i feel the best I have been in the last 3 years , thank you son you are god sent to us , I appreciate you, just don’t change 🙏🏽😀

[@PamelaWildman-Williams]

SO PRACTICAL! WONDERFUL! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@MoshieJ]

Wow - acknowledging victories sounds so cool - I always ruminate on the bad and scary future scenarios - if I could acknowledge the victories instead that would be a game changer. Thank you for this awesome tip!

[@davidconnor8000]

Ex best friend, of 20 years. Always on the phone. No matter what, or where. Had to inform him that it’s actually rude, and we don’t get face to face talking often at all. Still decides to take calls over dinner and whatever else, and continue to actually engage in conversations, whilst I sit there…. Just giving a look that said it all. Woeful. My phone is in my pocket, on silent, or turned off… I have voicemail !!! And respect

[@rjshannon777]

Yes! My ex is the exact same way. The inconsiderate phone use was a huge problem in our relationship. I've actually considered going back to a flip phone.

[@KT-qj9mp]

Brilliant advice. I do a lot of the negative, non productive things you've mentioned. I am recently widowed and life has been really difficult adjusting to life alone. Having chronic depression and anxiety has just made everything 10 times worse! 😢

[@MrMwalswor]

I’ve only discovered your channel recently, but it’s really resonated with me. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s truly helpful.

[@MM-wj4dh]

Great information all in one video! I am also adding to the notes app to read every single day: why I want to implement these changes in my life and how my life will be better as a result. Sometimes I lose track of that and it just seems like more things I “should” be doing.

[@danielafraser4811]

Thank you so much for what you are doing. Following you is really helping me with my battles. You are providing a lifeline ❤

[@GildaLewarne]

Thank you..your videos are really of help for me..sending blessings to you 🙏 ❤

[@dinaharjehausen8505]

Omg! I found you a month ago and just listening to you for the first time gave me hope,I started going to the gym but then I went backwards, my 85 yr.old mom lives with me,even though she has no limitations,she just stays in bed and it brings me back down,wish I could have you as as my doctor,it's so depressing,I was always active but it's taken a toll on me😥

[@Jupefires]

I hate my phone. I am not getting anything accomplished. I have been trying to get off of it. I resell and I have to check for notifications. This phone sucks me in over and over with nonsense and vaporizes hours out of my day every day. I think this will help me tremendously.

[@_bluephoenix_]

I've been implementing "incidental excercise" and started my list with just making my bed and doing the dishes, then getting dressed. To have a cuppa and then go into the bedroom with the bed looking nice, boosts my self esteem and I'm more inclined to dress nicer and look forward to getting into bed that night. I make vacuuming and laundry, tidying etc my exercise routine with squats, stretches etc and have the satisfaction of a tidy place too! I'm definitely getting stuck in the "stasis/in-between" moments. I start seeking instant gratification and that only has me feeling disappointed in myself. I also am trying to stay mindful and not keep trying to digest too much self help strategies or getting stuck in "analysis paralysis" that perpetuates the feeling of "nothing is changing externally for me". it's like I know I have grown but, I can't find the right opportunities to implement or, I'm now waiting for the world to catch up and reflect the work I've done.

[@annadonahue4119]

Meditate... Maybe don't be waiting for external approval of your personal progress...

[@LizB55]

I’ve been caught up in the exploration of separating thoughts and beliefs from reality. Seeing a thought and emotional reaction as a byproduct of my body’s nervous system responding to a familiar pathway (belief), and that’s where depression takes hold. If I respect the emotion at the time but hold lightly to the thoughts before and after, my ‘story’ loses its power to drown me. What is my higher truth of who I am regardless of these feelings and reactions. This works a lot of the time and then suddenly it doesn’t. I can’t even identify the belief or origin of the thought. There’s just despair and freeze response and deep deep sadness. That’s just my egoic mind (I tell myself) that is fearful of change, is more comfortable with what it knows. Whilst this is not wrong, I’m seeing that there is a balance here and these tips for helping myself ARE building new pathways. I’m a physical, emotional and spiritual lump of existence. All of it needs to be looked at. Thank you 🙏

[@annadonahue4119]

You are a soul having an experience in physical form 😉🌟

[@EdithBrown-v2d]

Dr Scott you are the first Dr, Provider or who ever makes some common sense I can follow and really help me.. You have already helped me. Thanks.

[@probablypoetic8759]

This is a great list! My current phone goal was/is to stop looking at it 1 hour before bed. I finally did that last night, and I actually got almost 7 hours of sleep! I don't know if the phone thing was the only reason or if I was just finally so exhausted, but it felt really good. I can manage most of these, I think. 🤞Thanks, Dr. Scott.😊

[@margaretmuoio2638]

Thank you for making me feel positive about getting out of depression. It's been my companion all of my life, I'm 68. What you talk about is spot on and helpful to wanting to change. Again thank you.

[@Chispa831]

The knowledge you impart is so much more useful than what I get from my therapist. Most of the time I feel like you are the teacher and they are just a 'paid friend'. Thank you.

[@monkeymind3917]

I’m so excited to have come by you. You’re the most real, down to earth, non-bullshit, awesome wise person I’ve heard on KZbin. Like wow. Thank you

[@paulflint6254]

Did 6 miles walking never felt so good. Was hard but worth it. Eating healthy and not drinking booze, 5 months now

[@grassrootstexas]

Got pen in hand! God I hope I'm important enough to myself to save

[@ashutosh108]

01:59 -1. Be careful about endless information seeking. 04:09 0. Be very careful who you listen to. 07:00 1. Do not pick up your phone unless you have a specific reason for doing so. Put it down when you have completed the task that you picked it up for. 11:30 2. Do not buy anything you do not need. 13:59 3. Limit yourself to 1 caffeinated beverage per day within the first four hours of your day. 15:50 4. Try to eat three meals a day: breakfast, lunch and dinner. 16:50 5. Limit yourself to a maximum of one alcoholic beverage per week. 20:04 6. Work in some kind of stretching or mobility work (5-10 min a day tops). 21:37 7. Doing some regular prescribed physical activity in addition to the mobility or stretching 3-5 days a week (long-term goal: 20-30 minutes a day). 24:18 8. Try to plan something special for yourself/a date/family outing once a week. 27:12 9. Try to read one non-fiction book per month, 12 books per year. 29:53 10. Try to, at the end of every day, to take five minutes to just do a quick victory journal. 32:50 11. For things that you are going to be doing at the same time of day consistently (meals, workout, etc), put them in your calendar as a recurring appointment, set your phone up to notify you. 34:11 12. For things that are harder to schedule, general lifestyle changes that you want to commit to, get some kind of notes app on your phone, write them in there and look at it every single morning (optionally put their screenshot on the lockscreen). 34:58 13. Remember that you are constantly writing your own autobiography.

[@heatherbruce1668]

Thank you!

[@anngant7673]

Best Dr to discuss😀 concrete steps to improve specific situations in life rather than just theory to forget it when off the video Great job

[@theresaohalloranjohnson84]

Thank you. I definitely heard an accurate definition of my procrastinations…indeed it’s how I found you. I’m always looking, not doing. But I put the screen limit on my phone. And I’m feeling better about picking a thing-walking to concentrate on. Thank you.

[@suzannesharpeOUCH]

Excellent point about my phone. Aside from when I’m listening to videos during dish washing etc. I do waste time watching inconsequential videos on, say, birds hatching! It’s not like I’m denying my obsession with scrolling - I do that too. And I know these are time wasters. So today I will leave my phone alone unless I functionally need it. Thank you for the push!

[@kattfranklin6933]

Dr. Ellis, Thank you so much. Three of your tips hit me😮. So many ideas make sense, and I am going to pay attention to how much I waste. God bless you ❤️ 🙏

[@rhianndarroch4228]

You were right as always 😢 sorry having a hard time, very greatful for your videos though thank. ❤Dr Scott

[@marmaniac]

I’m amazed how precise your descriptions of what I feel and how on point your answers to the questions I keep asking myself are! You’re like my big wise brother from the other side of the world! I’m really glad one of your videos was recommended to me a couple months ago! Thank you!

[@johnayala5551]

Totally relatable. I thank God for this channel.

[@melissakeller2644]

Amen. I believe God led me here, too.

[@beckery2]

I just found you today and you are so correct about the info collecting. I'm done with it. I'm 3 videos in with you and I love how you explain things so simply .

[@christinabasri5114]

I'm in depth of depressive episode since mid Sept

[@AndoverIT]

Another great video! with great advice. As you said, it's simple and we already know it but it is then actioning it. How about a video on ways to start taking action when your brain is screaming no?

[@vickykent353]

That's a great topic. I've gotten a little better about doing that but have a long way to go. I may have already suggested that to Dr. Scott.

[@jeanroth159]

Earning your own respect...spot on! Great tips Dr.Scott, i cant stress enough how important physical excersize is for me,i started yoga about 5 months ago and the natural high i get after a session is so cool, my mind as well as my body feels ready to take on the day. Now to work on sleep,thats a hard one,late nights are so peaceful when everyone else is asleep but yes ,i get it that it is so needed for many reasons.Thank you for sharing your experiences, wisdom and taking time out of your busy day to help others like myself,much appreciated ♡.

[@Roger_Ramjet]

Concise. Articulate. Inspirational. Thank you!

[@vanyabecerra6430]

Ty! Your advice is practical and down to earth, and you present it in a non judgmental manner, I’m putting your suggestions into practice, I am very thankful ☺️

[@anisekohl4745]

Excellent suggestions, thankyou. I would just like to make one suggestion though and that is to do the lists and reminders on paper instead of the phone. Phones contribute to mental health issues because the EMFs being emitted are very harmful- it is radiation. Also as you mentioned, they encourage time loss and they have been proven to be addictive. Writing also stimulates parts of the brain that key pad use doesn't, which can only improve brain health generally. The brain also processes information differently from books and paper as opposed to that received from backlit screens- learning, recall etc is deeper from the former.

[@rjshannon777]

Yes. I completely agree.

[@Carl_Frank]

Some things you say at 35:48 sound particularly familiar. I will admit that I have been very risk-avoidant, and even effort-avoidant in a lot of places. I would do the things I knew I could do well, or reasonably well, but resisted new things, skills I felt intimidated to learn, or things I thought would frustrate me. It really hit when I noticed that even in video games I would put off tackling challenges that I thought were going to be frustratingly difficult for my meager gaming skills. When I realized that I do that even in a game, where there is no real possible consequence except getting annoyed, I really had to look in the mirror. I realized it was my reaction that I wanted to avoid: that feeling I got when trying hard and failing at something. It's just a feeling, but it was something I had trained myself I didn't want. I blew it up into something bigger than it was. This goes for many areas of life. I am by no means over that risk-aversion mindset just because I am aware that I have it, but at least it is a step in the right direction. Now to actually convince myself to relish those moments of discomfort and struggle in real life, rather than fearing them. I have, on some level, been aware of this tendency of mine for a long time, and I am not young, but it is amazing how a habitual attitude can become ingrained, even when one knows it is a detriment to their life.

[@philipholding]

4th reason. Avoidance due to denial and social stigma, or the perception of social stigma. ' Me, anxious, never'!

[@Shaqofalltrades]

Sir, I’ve commented a lot on your videos and it was one of the first steps to stepping out of my anxiety. I’ve always been anxious about mundane things, but you encourage me to want to be better for myself. I appreciate that you give out this advice for free! You’ve been one of the best therapist on KZbin for me, personally. I’m so thankful to have found your channel.

[@battywitchychick]

Thank you for sharing your experience with depression. It is helpful for me to hear from people who understand what I am feeling and the emotions that I battle with constantly

[@julieharris5960]

I SO appreciate your honesty and genuine concern for mental health. So many issues you mentioned deeply resonate with me. I've been in a rut so long, I can't even remember the last time I had something to look forward to. Thank you for making these videos. I've been gaining valuable lessons and just wanted to thank you. Thank you for sharing your own anxiety stories- I've got plenty too!

[@emilyhaggard4420]

I love how passionate you are about your mission. I believe that you are a gifted and genuine person. You certainly make your message easier for the average person to understand. PS: I’m a 69 year old woman is is still working at “getting my s___ together.” Thanks.😊

[@balorprice]

Scott, this video and your channel are vastly underrated. Probably the best thing I've seen taking a big overview of MH for years. Of course I knew all this stuff previously, but putting it all together in a way that actually appears possible to carry out, totally invaluable. Also, your reasoning is so spot on, the only reason I was able to get into regular exercise (which ahem for some reason I'm not doing at the moment) was to avoid all the standard gym and Strava jargon. Fuck getting stronger and fitter, I just want to make sure I feel energised and don't get back pain in my desk job. Also, that 1/4 cup of coffee at midnight thing blew my mind. Bravo

[@nross3250]

Thanks for this very important list. I relate to you a lot. As a seasonal worker I have learned the hard way that I need a lot of stimulation and purpose and can’t just chill out and relax for five months in the off season. But realizing this has brought so much more fullness to my life. I have another tip for reducing stress and increasing leisure time. I used to come home from work every day and scroll my phone on the couch until dinner time. Then my weekend would be filled with chores and errands and it felt like I was always working. Now I maximize my work day and try to fit all my chores into the week and make my weekends a chore free zone where I can focus on meeting my other needs for rest, socializing, etc. not everyone will have the ability to do that but it’s been a huge game changer for my quality of life and mental health

[@RainbowPyramid]

Yep, my business coach told me that I was a terrible business woman because I am "too involved" with my children. He said "you can either be a good mother or a good business woman, but not both". This has had me second guessing myself for years. When I work on my business now I feel like I am a neglectful mother. When I spend time with my children, I feel like I am neglecting my business and my clients.

[@PamelaWildman-Williams]

The most practical help I’ve heard - trying to stay with it 👍❤️

[@DrLar]

Dr Scott, I like how you make your videos relatable by sharing your experiences. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@MoshieJ]

Change your identity in your own eyes! Love it!

[@healthraven]

It’s tough to pull the mind into another thing you know you need to do or want to do but don’t feel like doing especially when you spend most of your day doing something you don’t want to do.

[@photo80sjeff84]

All these.👍 can't stress enough on weightlifting men/women that do not do this, please try, it was a game changer for me, 4 days a week keeps depression at bay and or easier to deal with, sometimes snap out ot it.👍❤ 🏋‍♂️🏋🏋‍♀️

[@judyantonetti2186]

That was SO helpful! I thought at first like you said,it’s stuff I’ve already heard, but it really made sense. I can’t grasp it all in one sitting. I’ll have to go back & listen again. But for this listen, I picked up telling yourself 5 good things you did that day. I am going to do that! Thank you!

[@ebishrimpy9366]

I was forced into this lifestyle after discovering I had familial high cholesterol, high BP and a large inborn arachnoid cyst in my head. I became very anxious for myself, but instead of giving me meds my I.M. doctor advised me to daily exercise moderately, eat the right foods and avoid highly processed foods and empty calories, sleep 7-9 hours a day, and avoid feeding my anxiety with caffeine and information overload online. I was anxious enough for my health and life that I did everything the doc said religiously, and it improved a great many more things than my health. I have a better state of mind now and life and relationships with people around me became more pleasant and enjoyable. All after doing what we all should be doing anyway!

[@ravireddyism]

May I ask you how old are you ?how long did it take to be on track ?The reason why I’am asking is sometimes the age plays a crucial role in our recovery process because of our hormones. That said it should not stop anyone no matter their age is to try to become better version of themselves. Please reply

[@ebishrimpy9366]

@@ravireddyism i'm 33 and have been at it for 2 years. My mental/emotional state and high BP improved only a month in. My familial high cholesterol is very slowly improving while without meds, but my doc says since I am relatively young and not obese, I should avoid becoming dependent on meds this early and focus on natural means. ---Though now he says I might have to take statins for a while because its been too slow to improve and needs helping along. The lifestyle changes made me very physically fit and feel 10+ years younger, and my mind is in a very good place. Mental health-wise, lifestyle 100% helped me right away

[@ravireddyism]

Well you are lucky in the sense the repair work started at a very young age and age and your will power is what pulled you off the hook . Did you take any medications for depression and anxiety? Or just the life style modifications. Please don’t stop because it’s not over yet .

[@1chumley1]

I like it. I believe that it's better to read a good self help book 10 times than 10 self help books.

[@PamelaWildman-Williams]

I really would love 15-20 minute vids and slower as it feels intense rather than relaxed. I’ve just found this gentleman and there are no similarities in our lives at all. However, I was so impressed about being frozen. I think he has sooooo much insight and has such helpful things to share but difficult to stay that long. ❤️

[@heatherwiner2883]

Thank you Dr. Scott. It is so good to hear from someone who has actually experienced the horrible anxiety and low self -esteem I experience daily. Unless you know how it feels it is hard to treat others with the same issues.

[@bertmiranda8103]

Amen!!! I can't tell you how much better life got when I walked away from social media. Life is sooooo much better w/o FB.

[@abigailboyd2534]

I have fallen into information seeking instead of taking the plunge on a couple things. That has not been me in the past. I’m using the excuse that it is too technical and I don’t understand even the initial things to get started. All of that is true but I’ve kind of lost the risk taker in that area. Every day I say go for it, stop it. When I have just gone for anything, it’s always been awesome, exciting and successful. So, now that I’m typing this and openly sharing this, I need to get on the stick and do it. I have been regretting this behavior. Actions ,not intentions. Thank you.

[@la_princesse_des_beauxarts]

I’m SO happy I found your channel today-thank you!! ❤

[@OzdenGuney]

The information overload is so real❤ thank you

[@deborahbutcher9061]

Thank you. Excellent sound advise. That's what I love about your channel.

[@glendahughes3386]

Thanks for sharing. I needed a framework to help me stay on track.