6 Reasons Your Depression Isn’t Getting Better

[@FrizzyArt8]

I've accepted the idea that my chronic depression is a terminal illness. A 'cancer' of thought and mood, if you will. I will fight it the best I can for as long as I can. I've been on multiple medications which debilitated me with their side effects and drove my suicidal ideations through the roof. I refuse medication now for this reason. I get plenty of rest. I started running, walking, and hitting the gym. I left an extremely unhealthy marriage. I've sought counseling and perused the internet and You tube for information and guidance. I eat healthy. These actions have helped me lose weight and correct my hypertension and diabetes. I recently participated in my first half marathon. I'm jumping through all the right hoops. I do feel better than I ever have but I still have periods of time where my mood plummets and I can't get out of bed. I don't want to die from this but I know my thought process during these episodes is skewed I fear that my bad thoughts will drive choices of behavior during these episodes and I will lose the battle against this disease. It's a frustrating and overwhelming situation. One day I simply won't have the energy to stay on top of this anymore. It just is what it is.

[@grat2010]

I felt this. Thank you for writing this. From my heart to yours, I wish you more good days than bad, courage to live through the worst days.

[@Pinhead-qo4en]

your sentences at the end sound like #5

[@FrizzyArt8]

@@grat2010 Thank you. Same to you. I tell myself every day. “Chin up, shoulders back, forward movement.”

[@FrizzyArt8]

@@Pinhead-qo4en Thank you. I will relisten to it with an open mind.

[@MisterWilliamss]

@FrizzyArt8 See my post on nutrition elsewhere in the comments and see if there's any benefit for you

[@peishancraken]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@socialworkgroupa5256]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@chrisbenoit5044]

Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."

[@ejmabrothers6743]

I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?

[@socialworkgroupa5256]

Is he on instagram?

[@chrisbenoit5044]

Steve_porss1 is the man

[@Goodmorningyouall]

I’ve been depressed all my life. It’s started at 13 or so. I have simply forgot what does feel like to be happy

[@downtostandup]

You're not alone. Same here. With this channels help, I've just come to realize I'm always going be broke and I have to learn how to manage my brain. It's help to internalize and flat out view myself as handicapped in a way. It's helped me come to terms with who I am.

[@marikathure1495]

Yes, you are not alone. My depression started also in my teens... Happy, what is that?

[@1337LXD]

Nope depression isn't that bad it's like an add-on, honestly if you only have depression you are lucky people usually get a combination of depression plus something more serious.

[@jillwonders9562]

My major depression started when I was 9 years old. I have managed to make it to 55 so far! Recently, I was at a 12-step gathering and I felt weird. I thought I might be having a heart problem so I told someone just in case I was, so someone would know what was going on. I continued to feel strange and was trying to figure it out. I realized I wasn't having any heart symptoms. I felt happy! I didn't even know what it was! I felt happy for a few days. It will come back. I'm not as depressed as I used to be. As for the heart problem, I will be having bypass surgery sometime next week. Last August when I had an angina attack I was way too depressed to do it. They fixed my heart with stents, so I had some time to deal with the idea and get ready. Last time it was an emergency, this time it isn't. I can deal with these things by keeping my faith. My husband died last January and I just wasn't ready to deal with physical pain. I was still dealing with emotional pain. I felt like I couldn't handle both at the same time. We can stay strong with faith and medical treatment.💙❤‍🩹

[@jillwonders9562]

Add on PTSD, heart attack, surviving cancer, lupus, pleurisy, car accident, anemia, tachycardia, palpitations and brain fog.🧠🐸 Major depression would kill me faster than most of that, and even if depression was the only thing I had, I would not be lucky. It still can kill me just as fast even if I did not have anything else.

[@NationalPK]

Social anxiety -> loneliness -> generalized anxiety/depression

[@saharafradi]

Spiritual awaikening

[@helenag.9386]

Getting up in the mornings instead of lying there in misery helps. But it's hard.

[@shubhransh_23]

"But it helps"

[@ChristiColonel]

Some days are easier than others Just do it, don't think about it. We make it harder than it has to be.

[@chaserofthelight484]

One content maker does this thing counting to 5... then just do it, she says it tricks your brain. 1 2 3 4 5 immediately get up. I have got to where I don't lay there and think dark thoughts, if my minds starts that shit I cuss it and immediately get up. Your brain can be your worst enemy, I learned that from being a recovering addict. Now it don't always work, but it is better, I do feel a little more in control at times. Our brain is wired as to what we think the more it thinks that, just like the algorithm. Makes me feel pretty good sometimes to tell that voice to go F itself.

[@stefano8936]

When depression is just realism, one doesn't really want to get out of it, it would just be faking. The only solution would be to fix what makes us depressed. But that's not always possible.

[@Maddy-j6t]

This. This a thousand times. Depression doesn't lie. Depression uncovers the ultimate truth.

[@adamborowicz7209]

nope, depression is in your head, not in the world

[@NationalPK]

@@Maddy-j6tthere is a lot more that the depressed get wrong than right, and in the instances where they are right, they feel completely hopeless, which is a pathological reaction.. unmerited

[@scorpionzi3428]

No. Depression comes from lack of genuine unconditional love towards us and there is only one who can fix that, that is - Jesus Christ our lord God

[@cliffkonkle3467]

I think it's in both the head and the world. ​@@adamborowicz7209

[@PaleOpal21]

I don't even try anymore. My soul died years ago.

[@peggymerritt9019]

❤❤❤You are so Brave to keep carrying on. You make me want to hang on. If you can hold on, so can I. ❤

[@scorpionzi3428]

I highly recommend going to Jesus. Trust me, he will help

[@PaleOpal21]

​@@peggymerritt9019 Thanks ❤

[@lynncasey4372]

​@scorpionzi3428 Many of us have been traumatized by the church. I'm glad it worked for you. For many its not an option.

[@rongike]

your soul is eternal.

[@integralstanley]

Good Things 1. Healthy body/mind 2. Healthy relationship with ourself. 3. Healthy relationship with others. 4 Practicing joyful things. 5. Don't obsess with our unhappiness. 6. Don't obsess with the problems of the world.

[@lenas5613]

Thank you for this topic, Scott. I'm 76. My physical health has taken a hit in the past few years...since the pandemic. I'm diagnosed with Parkinsons disease a year ago. Self care is a major challenge. I've cut out caffeine and alcohol....but my patterns of self abuse and negative self talk continue. My social skills have deteriorated. My therapist identified me as a parentified child. I'm going to begin with a new therapist soon. I do relate to a few of these types. Thank you for your insights.

[@lishmahlishmah]

Hi. Have you ever listened to dr Jay Reid and dr Rebecca Mandeville? Or dr Lindsay Gibson? They helped me a lot, and still helps a lot. Maybe, the video lessons (for free) by one of those 3 professionals fits for you. I don't know really, but your post makes me think at their work. I was a parentified little girl too _and_ scapegoated daughter as well. Wishing you the best, from Italy (with my poor English)

[@kimsnyder5456]

I find it frustrating that in this country we shame and blame the people who suffer from insomnia. However there has been studies done across the pond that found that a number of people who have suffered chronic child abuse have damaged lymphatic systems. So many people cannot sleep because the very system that controls it was harmed by what was done to them. For over a decade I did everything I was told I needed to do to sleep and it did not work. I just wish that the blame and shame would stop because it is just another layer of abuse put on us.

[@magic8269]

You probably meant limbic system not lymphatic system. Cheers!

[@pizzapattycakes]

I’ve never before wished I lived in Iowa until today. I’m grateful for this information, particularly the “what to do about it “ parts.

[@wokejoke8179]

Thanks for this video... ❤ hugs to everyone going through depression hope we get out of it...

[@roslynsims3029]

@@wokejoke8179 hugs to you too ❤️

[@eo1742]

Can you discuss when a person lives with Real Medical treated Chronic Pain for years… what can be tried to eliminate the feelings of abandonment when indeed all are gone due to years of becoming unable to participate in usual activities. What kind of internal talk can someone suffering on and off unpredictable paralyzing PAIN can have to battle their day to day reality?

[@muzerhythm2242]

Good suggestion!😊 You're not alone❤ and I can relate at one point in my life when I had endometriosis. So unpredictable and painful...even going grocery shopping I would stop in an aisle in pain and people wanted to call an ambulance, and plead with them to not do that...just want to get some food. The one way I socialized was joining very active online groups that fit my interest: For me I love art and joined a Photoshop group sharing techniques to create effects. So many in the group were at home with a disability, or had toddlers and were not able to go out to socialize as much as they like. Hang in there, sending hugs.❤❤

[@peggymerritt9019]

I'm right there with you, my friend❤. I've asked Dr Scott if he would (or has) covered the topic for those of us who are all alone & unable to care for ourselves due to unrelenting, unbearable physical PAIN😢! I know he would have "tools" in his wonderful magical kit to ease the pain in our souls. Most all of his videos are helpful, at least in helping me understand the so many facets of Depression, making me realize that I'm not Crazy! "JUST" Terribly, Horribly, soul sucking Depressed 😭 ! He has helped me considerably to understand, but in listening to his journey with & through depression - how to cope (which is why he's so "real" & kind), I don't think he has ever had to deal with intense, cruel, vicious & ever lasting Physical PAIN & the worse (for me) Pesonal Abandonment of those whom you believed loved you or at least cared. 💔 Hang on best you can...I still believe in Miracles...I have to... cause there's only one alternative left in that darkest place. Hang on tight, my friend. Maybe a Miracle will come for you❤

[@attheranch873]

This is a huge problem for a lot of people! Good suggestion

[@mmm2121]

I’m doing everything I can to get myself out of depression. I was constantly working out, sleeping well, I took my meds that treat both of my ADHD and MDD, but it just kept getting worse. Now I’m literally in bed all day and can’t bring myself to do basic things like eating. I hate it so much because I know very well that life is short and that I wouldn’t be able to recover every moment I waste doing nothing.

[@RachelColomb-y3n]

I understand. I hope you find something helpful to alleviate your suffering.

[@evadebruijn]

That feeling when you work your a of and it is still living like a zombie in a black cloud, I have no words for it. Cyberhugs to you 🤗🍀✌️

[@muertenegra3444]

same i hope you get better

[@AJManol]

Thats awful😢 Consider vetting who you surround yourself with and what you really need community-wise?

[@Hossheq4w5]

Hi, consider reading books and biographies of people who have ADHD and MDD.

[@marshafowlkes5418]

I’ve lived with major depressive disorder since I was a child. Currently on a cocktail of meds for 11 years after trying lots of meds that didn’t work. Meds help with symptoms so I can experiment and try different things to get out of my comfort zone. Lessening isolation and avoidance behaviors, learning what I like, moving physically, and letting go of unhelpful thoughts, taking action, religion, and accepting what IS are some things I work on. I will never be “normal” and that’s ok. I’m finally on the right track.

[@scorpionzi3428]

Try to get yourself a Bible, I had a su1cide attempt as a child, somehow made it alive, Jesus truly saved me from depression, and fear, and anxieties and much more

[@kt_kroovy1031]

I fell into multiple categories. But the one that was the most uncomfortable to hear was the abusive inner monologue. Since childhood, it was my abusive mother's voice I'd hear, always mocking and insulting Idk when it stopped being her voice and became mine, but "That Voice" has been keeping me down my whole life. I'm in my 50s now and still haven't found a way to silence it or at least minimize it. And whenever I think I've got a rein on it, it comes back with more venom. Then I just give in. It makes me too exhausted to fight back There's an exceptional musician whose music has been helping me cope with this a little better in recent months. His name is Ren and his song "Hi Ren" illustrates the battle with that abusive inner voice in a way that makes me cry every time I watch the video. Not from despair but from the hope that it gives and the relief in knowing that there are others who are fighting the same thing. I can't recommend it highly enough ♥️🦇♥️🦇♥️🦇♥️🦇♥️

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

You are an excellent psychologist, Dr. Eilers.

[@goolie53]

I am fairly new to this channel. It’s been like a lifeline to me. Thank you. Bless you.🙏💛

[@ArcasDevlin]

Generally appreciated, but the best I ever did feel was when I was intermittent fasting... Didn't fix it but did help. (Haven't had the willpower to get back to it.) After about 3 weeks of acclimation, it helped with my brain fog and depression.

[@julian8038]

Thank you for this video.. I fit all 6 and I did a double take when you talked about the effects of not having eaten for 6 hours. I had no idea. But that one really caught my attention. I've got a complex chronic pain/neurological case going on, and flare ups always make my depression intolerable. Kind of a vicious cycle, since the depression then makes it harder to address my health. But that said, I'm working on seeing doctors and getting back into PT again, and it gives me hope to know that I'm doing something good for myself. It's hard, but it's easier to make an appointment than retrain my brain to not self-abuse, and taking care of/advocating for myself should help that anyway.

[@BubblGrl]

#6. Spent my psych session last night talking about my general existentialism and Nihilism right now and how I am opting out of reality in my down time as a coping strategy. “For right now” she said that is fine and is a “skilful choice!”. It’s not depression this time - it is plain existential dread. 😟

[@cakensteak]

Thanks, Scott. You are leading the way for the secular community who care for more than a paycheck.

[@katt_ylva]

💯

[@Su11]

I think the same thing this man just wants to help easier to trust someone who isn't all about the money that's why I listen & try what he says

[@jamesn7305]

Never heard of behavioral anhedonia before. That's exactly what I'm doing to myself because it's safe and a habit

[@karenb.siegel4519]

I am in my 60s, and I am now trying to start over with my life. Any one else out there who is facing ithis successfully? I feel my age separates myself from others experiences who are younger than me. I am a cautionary tale. Take care before your life slips away from you.

[@josephbaker5965]

I can relate don’t compare to others. You still have a lot to offer 👍

[@nataliemcgowan3425]

Since I turned perimenopausal I've been a wreck. Panic attacks, sweats and can't leave my home at times. I feel soooo lonely. My therapist said that too I turn into Little Natalie when I get scared. 😢❤

[@JillPalmer-ek8gn]

Oh my gosh, me too ! Peri 😮

[@thestace7777]

Great information, thanks Dr. Eilers! It seems to me that after working 32 years as an autoworker -working long hours six days a week because I needed to that I never had time to do anything that I might like to do. Now, after having to retire do to the years of stress that lead to severe anxiety/depression/panic disorder and burnout I find it really really difficult to even think of anything that could/would possibly bring me joy.

[@DantePsychology]

Overview of the reasons stated for chronic depression (with a bit of clinical language thrown in and relevant modalities of therapy that relate to the change mechanisms): 1) Those with an unhealthy body that cannot sustain a healthy brain. -Address via improved sleep and exercise and removal of all non-prescription drugs (Any behavioural therapy) 1.5) Those who don't eat enough or eat too much. This is because without calories you will withdraw energy from the brain, similar if you eat too much, to digest this you drain energy from the brain towards digestion. -Fix by regulating food intake 2) Those with very negative self-talk and abusive relationship with self -Address with cognitive defusion (ACT) or thought challenging (CBT) 3) Those with a lack of felt connection, people who put up walls and keeps people at a distance. -Embracing vulnerability and engaging with people vulnerably 4) Those without any enjoyable/valuable activities -Values guided/joy guided behavioural activation (ACT/CBT) 5) Those with hyper focus on chasing happiness -Accept that happiness is transient, engage more in the present moment without constantly trying to "hold onto" moments of happiness (ACT). 6) Those overwhelmed by external factors (the world, politics, etc). -Analyse zones of control, focus on what is within your realm of control and try to not invest your emotional care into things outside of that realm (CBT). From personal clinical experience I would also say: Those with other other undiagnosed or undaddressed issues (often ADHD, Autism, PTSD, and thyroid issues) often struggle with "chronic depression/anxiety" because there's a cause to those problems that hasn't been dealt with.

[@attheranch873]

You left out EFT, it takes trauma out of the nervous system. It’s commonly called tapping. You can learn to do it on yourself for free on KZbin.

[@emiliamarquez9640]

I also heard that resistant treatment depression has a lot to do with a deregulated nervous system

[@peggymerritt9019]

1-4. Van Morrison sang exactly how I have felt past 15yrs. STRANDED - "I'm Stranded at the Edge of the World - It's a World I don't know- Got NO where to go - Feel like I'm Stranded & I'm STUCK between that 'Ole DEVIL & the Deep Blue Sea. Nobody's gonna tell me, tell me what, what time it is. Everyday, everyday - Hustle, hustle time. Everyday, everyway, One More, One More Mountain to Climb - It's Leaving Me STRANDED in My Own Little Island - With My Eyes Wide Open - BUT I'M FEELING STRANDED" (My emphasis)... Dr Scott, what categories am I? Being all alone & Stranded so very long & not a single lifeboat in sight.😢

[@turquoisetoile-universalethics]

I've been to them all and I was so dissatisfied with them that I developed my own mental wellness process. And it's free. All free.

[@bipashachakraborty7632]

I just am determined that I won't let go of myself, that mindset keep me alive this long, I don’t try to fight my severe depression anymore, I am dead inside, I have no hope, no desire or anything from life anymore, I just simply live, by living I mean I just breath in and breath out, nothing more.

[@nataliemcgowan3425]

Every time I get on my feet a bit something traumatic happens. Then I shut down, isolate, do just what I have to do. Im argumentative and my partner she makes me feel worse by invalidating my feelings, being passive aggressive and telling me I'm overreacting. I wish I wasn't here tonight.x😢

[@naomistarlight6178]

It's terrible to have negative or invalidating people in your life and you deserve better ❤

[@nataliemcgowan3425]

@@naomistarlight6178 thank you soooo much. I think I've just lost confidence now. Although I really appreciate your kind words.❤️

[@Karlien68]

I wish I good buy good connections 😊 It seems that even if in essence I am a social person and really want connection, people don't seem to want to connect deeply. I have a friend or 2 but everybody is so busy that I don't see them often. I lack hugs and somebody really seeing and caring about me. 56 years old and tired of the battle, tired of the loneliness and lack of joy 😢

[@nataliemcgowan3425]

I'm on lots of medication I still feel crap. Although the Valium calms me. I've physical problems too which makes things harder.😢😢 Hugssss to everyone.❤

[@JacobS5005]

1 minute in and he hit so many of the points off my journey. I know this video is for me

[@bobesfanchi]

I have anxiety which then causes my depression bc i am low functioning. Strated from grade 1. Now i am 39... Woot woot... Haven't really had an adult life.

[@newme666]

this guy has a lot of knowladge, please take note of every word❤

[@jeankipper6954]

I really like the comment to the effect that depression, by whatever description, is a NORMAL reaction to what has gone on, what is going on.

[@LucidPlaysGamez]

I’m almost 29 and I’ve had depression for 9 years now and I’ve been on antidepressants for 4 months

[@norainbowswithoutrain]

This is really insightful! I’d resigned myself to living this way sometimes because I thought I’d tried everything so this gives me hope that I haven’t tried everything and there is always hope!

[@tiroas]

My depression came from a toxic job which caused me stress and lead to burn out, causing arguments between me and my girlfriend to you later left me. I am detached and don't find joy

[@TheLuckySmith]

Wow!! This is like the best depression video I’ve ever come across.

[@leslieburleson1550]

I am so thankful that you are sharing this wisdom. Often depression is just treated with medication , which I’ve always been a huge proponent of . Two of my adult children suffer from treatment resistant depression. In my quest to find ways to help them I’ve found depression needs to be treated from multiple angles. Consistency is really important , and creating good feelings and thoughts for yourself . It’s a simplistic sounding concept , but it’s actually really important to create a foundation of goodness and it starts with self compassion ❤

[@neildobbs7278]

So much wisdom and well articulated. Thanks Scott

[@maasoomahabdul8872]

Thank you so much. Highly appreciate. Your videos are really more practical, comprehensive and different from all other psychologists on KZbin. It feels like you actually UNDERSTAND the problem and the solution having had the first hand experience and professional expertise. Sending love and prayers to your way.😊😊😊

[@Underachiever_Files]

Appreciate it, Doc. Thank you, and have a good week.

[@dans2788]

I think its common that when these problems are described they come across as manageable issues of thought & behavior, the reality is they are automatic, deeply engrained behaviors, hard to expose and even harder to change.

[@Fenry93]

This video really changed my way of thinking. Love your videos, but this one was spot on for me

[@ptone4119]

Thank you for addressing this topic Dr Eilers. I've been referred to as experiencing "treatment resistant depression". Watching this video I identified with 5 of the 6 reasons you identified but, surprisingly for the first time, realised that by addressing one of those reasons it has the potential to address the others ones. While this won't "cure" me, with the support of a trusted psychologist, it has the potential to make life manageable for me. Thank you again.

[@mohavetd7211]

If I understand this correctly - in short form, you're saying: Get out of bed whether or not you want to, get quality sleep, or identify why you aren't sleeping well, like sleep apnea, poor environment, etc. Make sure to eat a balanced diet, not too much or too little. Stop beating yourself up about your mistakes and fight back against the evil gremlin in your mind that wishes to amplify those negative thoughts. Cut out substances like caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, etc. Don't obsess over happiness because it'll simply do the opposite and make you unhappy, and exercise enough, Even if that's just going for a walk every second day. Of course, what you said has a lot more nuance, but is that the jist of it? If so, I guess I must start trying to internalize that. Thanks. Let me know if anything needs to be corrected based on what I said.

[@stephanieh930]

A great way to narrow down what in the world I should concentrate on, thank you! More than one of these reasons applies to me and I'm now wondering if some (or all) of them are working together to cause chaos in my life.

[@agnosticpreacher6911]

Good video, thanks for being so concise. Liked the point of behavioral anhedonia and will definitely be mindful of it now.

[@Nethanel773]

Thank you, Dr. Eilers, as always for your insights. The way you summarize certain issues and address them in their contexts helps to simplify my own issues with depression. Operative word here is 'demystify.' Even if it's long term or chronic, these kinds of insights and reminders help demystify depression. Thanks and blessings.

[@ChristiColonel]

Trigger warning! For me, I had to accept the past can't change it:don't repeat mistakes,learn from it. The future, anxiety "what if it is horrible?" I replaced it with *what if it is okay!?" It's the present! I need to be content with the present. Stop feeling sorry for myself and get off of my ass. I am better than I was yesterday. Dealing with the here and now, appreciate the present. This has helped immensely.

[@Catfluff521]

I’m 58 and the last 8 years of my life have been pure hell. I think I’ve just had too many losses and I’m done. There’s not one thing I feel like doing except time traveling to the past when my life was fuller and my loved ones alive. It’s hard because I am dragging my husband down with me by not meeting my responsibilities. Exhausting in every way.

[@theresaparodi6027]

I’m wondering if there has been a discussion about anger? Are some types of depression anger turned inward?

[@roslynsims3029]

I entered into therapy recently for anger and depression and my therapist is doing alot of compassionate mind based theory with me and also using The Drama Triangle both of which have been quite helpful. There are plenty online resources on both if you want to have a look and see if they can help in any way. 🙂

[@rapho8539]

Yes.

[@steves8626]

Great vid Doc. Thank you 🙏

[@ghoste_girll]

I resonate a lot and you are right, hormonal meds triggered my depression it spiraled me down into a rabbit hole of a void. I wasnt like this before until 2022 and now its a behavior I developed. My depression just turned into a routine and i havent took very good care of myself regarding sleep and diet. I find i dont feel as motivated and overthink so much about the future. I stay home a lot besides school and it only gives me more time to sink in my mind, i hope i can get myself a job soon so i can avoid getting worse, its a terrible state but i hope i can be who i once was again

[@Wiggywoo1977]

Thank you for your gold advice and information as always.

[@christine9965]

Hi Doc. Love all of your videos. They are truly helpful and I appreciate them. I just purchased your book on audio. Please consider narrating the next book yourself. I'm so used to hearing your voice and it has become very comforting. What a disappointment to hear another voice. I bet I'm not the only one.

[@BillysFingers]

6:38 ... i've had major depressive disorder and ASD since childhood, and i can relate to most of these points particularly this one.... struggling to connect to those around me.

[@SmiledocMA]

Dr. Scott, you hslave a lot of good videos, but this one is amongst the best. Thsnk you

[@joanaiverson9276]

Even when I get better sleep I rarely get any deep and REM sleep. I use a Fitbit tracker. I don't know how to get this better.

[@karenpeart5997]

Fit bits are an enemy to the brain ,makes us hyper focused on everything physical etc My depression anxiety has never been so bad since wearing the damm thing ,now it's become an addictive device

[@iOldManBlood]

i gave up years ago and juat stop caring.. cause i dont have the money and my state doesnt care about helping people with issues.

[@rosebud5887]

Thank you so much for this video ❤

[@veronicaladd5821]

Quite right, I have done only these things, no point in engaging in any thing because it doesn't make a any thing for the better, l only feel laughing at the negative side, like black humour, you are absolutely right.

[@donnelly5757]

I've come to the conclusion that I will always have some degree of depression due to several career setbacks, having no friends, not having achieved societal default milestones, debt, and getting older. Probably the best I can do is either get a remote job that lets me work from overseas and or get a permanent position at my current role or find a similar role that will allow me enough financial freedom to do a lot of traveling and get away from my current environment.

[@sallymae59]

Spot.on! Thank you so much. ❤

[@HereToSuffer247]

my depression started at the age of 16 when I fully realized that I'm on a planet the runs on stupidity and a cycle of death after I accidentally ran one of my kittens over at night getting pizza for my alcoholic father. Nothing in life could ever make a kitten die horribly. Stuck constantly wanting life to be good but i just cant see how its the worst gift you can give someone.

[@jeffanderson9329]

It’s amazing guys as cool as us , have mental health issues,,great work great information ❤

[@chevyblock550]

I would say I had "treatment resistant" depression up from very early teens until almost 22 years old. Somehow, I was hyperproductive, earning a degree then completing a master's degree and losing 60 lbs from working out and eating. Yet, i was still chronically unhappy. Somehow or another, i was able to convince myself that i had to stop telling my consciousness the same stories over and over again. That i was gonna fail, that i was unworthy of love, that i would be scammed or hurt by someone else again like last time, that this won't end in a good way. Fear spurred my success yet my deepest unhappiness. It FINALLY slowly started to unravel in me and brought out an entirely different, somewhat satirical, but easy person to be around and it reflects on my friend and family.

[@javiceres]

I relate strongly to the last three types and not so strongly to at least two or three more.

[@javiceres]

I’ve had major depression for at least 10 years now and don’t know how come professionals have not explained to me all these issues in depth, but only some of them and I’d say only superficially…

[@javiceres]

How can I trust therapists now? 🙁

[@scorpionzi3428]

@@javiceresyou don’t trust people, trust in Jesus, I had depression for 10 or maybe more years as well, don’t think I even had childhood and he and the Bible literally saved me from it, read the gospels, they literally give you hope and peace

[@javiceres]

@ I’ve tried many times. Didn’t worked for me.

[@scorpionzi3428]

@@javiceres interesting. May I ask some more details? Did you pray alongside for his peace and Holy Spirit?

[@javiceres]

@ Yes, as far as I can remember.

[@earlgrey2130]

I've been like this all my life. Honestly i have kind of given up. I managed to get a job i am content with after 35 years of struggle. I have a couple friends i see once a month or so. I am financially okay and stable. Hell i even have a few hobbies and my own place. What still kills me tough is this feeling of just not living life. I'm surviving. But it all feels so hollow. And i'm really lonely. I get abused over and over again in relationships. I have way to little sex. I'm so starved of love and attention. When it happens every year of so.. THEN i feel alive. It's like having sex and feeling loved is the antidote to everything. It just never lasts. They always figure out i'm kind of insecure and my life isn't as spectacular as they hoped for. And then they leave. And everytime my depression grows a bit deeper afterwards. Because they always take a part of your soul with them..

[@rrivierareject03]

6/6. My best bets most days are to either accept that I won't make it home or that I can survive the day by totally throwing myself into work (when I can find it). In a world where I feel I have to ask permission to exist in space, very little that I do matters, even to myself. Depression is knowing that your life isn't yours at all.

[@marilynanderson7792]

You are my favorite KZbinr in regards to mental health, so I am reaching out to you for some help. Can you share something on PTSD, some of my worse life experiences have happened between November and January, so when the weather starts to turn cold and the days become shorter, I struggle with anxiety and I have some of the same feeling as if I'm in a bad dream, and everything seems darker and not quite real. And I've been struggling with this for over 20 years.

[@SandraDraper-ud3gd]

Wow Ive got almost all of them.

[@newme666]

1-Take good rest. From 22 pm to 8am. No noise, no light, rain sounds.. 2- Move every day. At least 1-2km per day but everyday. 3- healthy food. Less carbohidrates, garbage... and more vegetables and proteins. 4-Stop doing drugs. 5- Use sarcasm and mock your abusive voice to stop believing in it. 6- don't try to fill the void, but FEEL the void. Accept it and know that this feeling will pass and nothing outside you is gonna feed it. Just enjoy observing it until it's gone. 7- Don't try to catch happiness, love and be exited by all your emotions inside of you. 8- Accept what you cannot control, control what you can and know the difference. 9- Open your heart knowing if they hurt you is not about you but them. 10- The main goal is not feeling well but doing activities and achiving it to generate dopamine abd then serotonine comes with it and you will have a healthy rutine to access, it will be your rock to stand there and to come back to anytime your mood is lowing!!! ❤

[@UnrealTransformer]

Two things that have done positive for me: Transcranical Photobiomodulation and the products from ROOT linke clean-slate, zero-in and restore.

[@margarettee1380]

This is brilliant. Absolutely great! (Fight back your inner critic 😂😂 yay) Do something to bring joy every day ❤

[@ZanyCat]

ADHD person here. I can't afford medication, so I use caffeine as a stimulant to keep me focused on work. If something works for you, keep doing it. Keep in mind that everyone is different, and something that is harmful to someone else might be beneficial for you and vice versa.

[@Lizzal1234]

I don't wanna recover from depression and I don't know why.It feels like the happiest moments for me but it is also the time when I cry my heart out I can't explain it but I don't wanna recover from it

[@kaitibezopoulou5845]

Men!!!!! you are very very very good. Absolutely right. Thank you 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@BlueComet4788]

I can't even afford to pay attention anymore, everything just sounds like white noise.

[@ketchup143]

great, i have 5 of these. and thinking about them makes all of them feel worse. that's my problem, i have to think my way out of every situation, and that doesn't work.

[@gula_rata]

I live in a culture where absolutely nobody goes to see a therapist or anybody. You deal with it on your own. So my problem is, how do I deal with this problem on my own? That's the conundrum.😔

[@hburke575]

.... super handsome therapist like yourself 😊

[@CarolMartin-e3y]

Can u ever recover from depression? I've had chronic depression for years had a lot of counselling still on med I believe if ur living in dire circumstances no matter what u do doesn't help cause u always have to go bk to awful circumstances if only it was as easy as these professionals make it out

[@rapho8539]

type 5. Hyperanalysing.

[@CarolMartin-e3y]

@rapho8539 what do u mean?

[@rapho8539]

@CarolMartin-e3y its from a movie.

[@KristianSkylstad]

You can't fight depression. You cure depression by quitting the fight.

[@KateHawkeye]

I feel this. Severe depression, passive suicidal ideations, CPTSD, agorophobia, OCD, anxiety all on top of being Autistic. I am beyond blessed to be in a place where I can get ketamine treatment. It's saving my life and helping me to break down the walls I must have built to protect myself. I'm getting off the antidepressants (treatment resistant depression is not fun) and I feel like I am finally alive. I still do treatment (did one yesterday) but I become much more stable with every injection. Of course, I've been learning how to handle all the trauma in the correct ways (the healing on this channel alone!!) and I have an incredible support group. I honestly thought I wouldn't be alive by now. I love your videos. Thank you for helping me learn how to grow. :)

[@BEACHDUDE71]

I have active SI

[@sandan2358]

Treatment resistant MDD - I think I’m going to try TMS. ☹️

[@charlesschauer8927]

Ty

[@naomistarlight6178]

It's not that my depression is some entity apart from me that can't be treated... It's that a psychologist can't give me a meaningful job where ill be treated with respect and dignity and not talked to like a child if I disclose my autism or face unrealistic social pressures if I don't. Don't zap my brain, making me OK with being bullied, ostracized, and denied employment. Zap society's brain and get them to listen to me and hire me, and take what I say as valuable as they would if a taller male-bodied individual said the same thing. Or maybe stop telling us it's our problem for being sad that we're belittled and ostracized.

[@naomistarlight6178]

So I'm a type 5 lol idk what boundary do I draw that stops people from being ableist and sexist to me on the daily lol

[@t-man5196]

What is your MBTI type Scott?

[@attheranch873]

Let’s guess…INxJ?

[@t-man5196]

@@attheranch873 my guess was INTJ or ISTP

[@aidacabezas2153]

Necesitamos subtítulos en español. Please 🤷🙋!!!!

[@Elisabeth-id6lc]

Puedes ver en los ajustes y poner traducción automática. Te da a elegir el idioma. La traducción está buena, y sincronizada.

[@aidacabezas2153]

@Elisabeth-id6lc en serio? Solo puedo elegir la opción de inglés automático. Seguiré intentándolo.

[@mwwhatever]

Yay, I won mental health bingo lol

[@sarinav1000]

😂 Me too 🎉

[@thedharmawitch]

Yep all of the above! Yay!?

[@Su11]

@DrScottEilers something you said Dr. Really hit me hard I actually remember building up a brick wall in my mind I saw myself layer each brick till it was over my head I did this the 1st x at age 13 now I do it when I'm on overload & have no idea what i should do in that situation & I am shut down

[@yasha.hartberg]

So where do we begin if we hit, say, five of the six reasons?

[@DrScottEilers]

I would always start with the physiological. It can change the fastest and it makes everything else easier.

[@ArtemVolkov-px7md]

It seems to me that the two advices about creating potential for a happy feeling everyday and not obsessing about your feelings are kind of contradictory. Although I understand that it was about the extremes of each behavior.

[@snu3877]

I know that my #1 problem is probably isolation, but I don't trust people and am tired of trying. I tried to open up to women at my church about my abusive husband, and was shut down by an older woman who basically thinks my husband walks on water with Jesus. They have NO idea he is a porn addicted heavy drinker who verbally and emotionally abuses me, bordering now on physical. So I suffer in silence. I still do church via Zoom even though in-person meetings resumed a couple years ago. I just can't plaster a smile on my face and pretend everything is okay.