The ADHD You Don't See: The Truth About Women's Struggles

[@DrTraceyMarks]

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[@madlenj.4644]

very intrestingesspecially the part for women with inattentiv unorgnised part.Two questions: 1. Does a woman have to had these symptoms from early childhood on? From which age on? For example: always tidy up the room until age 12/13 then only her and there and as grown always less and now only cleaing the floors from dust and hairs, but piles of stuff everywhere. 2. What does the progesterone- serum level do to the dopamine levels in the brain? And does it matter if its supplied exogenously or bodyown (as long as its of course bioidentical)?

[@guriacosmica]

Perfect. I'm listening to everything in my language, Portuguese. Thank you for that. Greetings 😍👏🏽🇧🇷

[@MoonlitWaterLillies]

Thank you so much for this video as well as the skills training playlist! 🥰

[@peggyerickson2549]

@@DrTraceyMarks 1 problem at a time

[@cmst6408]

Thanks I wonder if do videos are on finding good providers and what to prep to be good patients?

[@brendalong3852]

You left out the cultural differences between boys and girls. My brother and I had pretty much similar symptoms. He got treatment: I got shamed and spankings. I learned to mask and, even though I thought I was crazy, I learned to organize and find my way through. Finally, in my 60s I found a doctor who look beyond my femaleness and I finally got treatment.

[@SlayerMoon17]

Same. My behavior was heavily policed and punished. 😢

[@gabriellahsdancingheart8808]

😢

[@SailBale007]

Ditto…and I’m 60

[@brendalong3852]

@@SlayerMoon17 Did you get tired of hearing "Good girls don't act like that" or words to that effect?

[@SlayerMoon17]

@@brendalong3852 That was the message for sure.

[@CJandEllie]

I'm female, never diagnosed. I have always had these symptoms. But I was written off as bored, nervous, anxious, and of course "you take things personally."

[@ElectorNiklas]

As a guy, before I got diagnosed, the same was true for me. Weirdly (the right) ADHD meds tend to lower my anxiety. Hope you can find the reason for your symptoms

[@liliannadarkflame]

girl same!

[@mayflowerpdx5706]

SAME!

[@bcpr9812]

​@@ElectorNiklasnot weird at all, it makes sense to a lot of ADHDers. Struggling to figure out why you can't function at "adulting" like other people do, and being treated as lazy, incompetent, weird, unhygienic, etc, since childhood (ugh, and the bullying) is very stressful and a blow to a person's self-worth and self-esteem, which fuels that anxiety.

[@BRISTACKZ9]

the you take things personally…….i heard that from my dad all my fking life

[@kikijewell2967]

I've seen in the classroom how diagnosis is "distributed." Boys are diagnosed for the benefit of those around them while girls need a diagnosis more for their own wellbeing. A spaced out girl looks like a model student. (Quiet boys too.) Dark skinned boys are overlooked because of racism, and dark skinned girls are overlooked as a combo of both. There needs to be awareness. Seen this in the classroom with children with similar behavior get treated differently by staff, doctors, and family. Heartbreaking.

[@azlizzie]

My last year teaching there was a young man who often spaced out and admitted he struggled to do things without me being right there. I feel bad that I was too burned out myself to help him get proper support.

[@Hairitage2023]

I had a nurse practitioner to tell me, “you look pretty normal to me.” That really pained me, but this video and some comments have given voice/words to what I’m/have been experiencing for many years now.

[@Hairitage2023]

Very informative and helpful content!!

[@cerissabrown3487]

Facts 💯 spaced out kids are considered model students That’s the most truth and saddest thing to hear

[@anneliesececi418]

How true! Although lately, if it does not impact academic scores, it might not be addressed at school at all😢

[@CJandEllie]

I bump into things, have no spacial awareness, fidget, cant sleep, can't focus, get lost easily, react to loud things, can't handle change, lose things, highly anxious, can't organize, never had a plan for life rather have been swept up by a current I don't control. I wish my parents had treated this instead of getting mad when I didn't perform. I'm starting to think this wasn't my choice, it was my brain. I wish someone had taken my stuff seriously instead of writing me off as just a lazy, disorganized, disinterested kid with no clear path. Now I'm a confused adult. Am I to blame or am I wired differently?

[@MelloYello277]

You put my thoughts into words

[@victoriabaker4400]

A lot of girls get written off instead of anyone actually looking into why. That's partly because of sexism in our culture that still says it matters less if girls don't achieve. I'm nearing 70 now, and all I can say is that, it's better to take assessment and start getting help now, rather than waste any more additional time. Don't let the fact that you haven't been able to get help before now become an obstacle to getting help now. Being a terrible procrastinator and only in the last few years ever got real help for ADHD, I urge you not to wait. And I know procrastination can feel like a terrible weight on the body and the mind, almost like "you're supposed to" not do the thing you wanted to do. But that's the trap. Some of it is learning some thought management techniques, but you need help to learn how to do that. Wishing you the best.

[@wt4855]

You’ve described my world to a T! I don’t even know what it’s like to feel normal!

[@TinaSotis]

You described my life.

[@mollyo3558]

@@wt4855There is no normal.

[@dreamparlor3611]

"One persons productivity ritual is another's cage. instead of mindlessly adopting other's habits, be mindful of the ones that serve YOU well." ~Adam Grant

[@FaeryMoon555]

Is it OK with you if I share this quote

[@dreamparlor3611]

@@FaeryMoon555 go for it ^-^

[@yousername16]

I'm glad that the difference between womens health and mens health gets slowly but surely more attention. It's scary that there are still so many people out there thinking women have the same symptoms like men when it comes to a heart attack.

[@spctvl03]

It's barely been 100 years since female anatomy was required teaching at medical schools in the US... like zero female models or texts were ever used.

[@JohnGeorge-pw2xo]

I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.

[@canerbakar-jv2si]

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[@MorrisBasar-jm9lc]

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[@DonnDenisse]

YES sure of mycologist Predroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.

[@NasDaily_11]

I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.

[@Owemruther-hk4zn]

Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google

[@sonyagarcia9977]

I was diagnosed late in my 30’s with ADHD. I thought I was losing my mind so I went to speak with a psychiatrist. He had me tested and sure enough I have ADHD. I am now medicated and feel so much better. My work has improved and I can finally sleep through the night!

[@edie4321]

Wow, what did they put you on. Adderall worked for me until it went generic. Then it worked against me. I no longer mess with drugs. They ruined my life.

[@EdithCasines]

@@sonyagarcia9977 what kind of medication is that?

[@EdithCasines]

@@sonyagarcia9977 my psychiatrist! Doesn't want to do anything! And I'm going to her, for 14 years! and I took antidepressant! For 14 years! I think that did something to my brain!

[@hotjanuary]

What medication were you prescribed to be able to sleep?

[@edie4321]

@@hotjanuary, That's another problem I faced, as I was prescribed Klonopin, and that is hell to come off of. It's been over seven years, and I'm still not right.

[@patriciaannvines4536]

We need one of these for autism. Differences that lead to girls and women not getting diagnosed til they have high support needs. Scoring as autistic in all the tests but the examiner just chopping it up to mood disorder personality disorder they don't have test results in a test for.

[@peggyerickson2549]

Agreed about 1 for autism spectrum. I'm supposedly on spectrum, yet I'm forgetful & misplace things daily. Also, I'm pushing 60.

[@jharris3354]

Same happened to me for ADD. They treated me like I had low self esteem because I admitted I was struggling. My self esteem is pretty OK. People judge us unfairly.

[@lulubelle8631]

I agree completely. I've experienced the same judgment

[@bcpr9812]

​@@peggyerickson2549you could be autistic with ADHD. Some people are both.

[@HydrogenTwoO]

There's a book-Women and Girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder: Understanding Life Experiences from Early Childhood to Old Age-that my ASD diagnoser read. It's sad because the info is out there, but many people aren't updated.

[@RosieNP73]

Newly diagnosed 51 year-old psychiatric nurse practitioner here. Great video! Especially more likely to be missed if you have individuals with higher intelligence or kids with good grades. Work with two psychiatrist who told me they weren’t even diagnosed until residency.

[@edie4321]

All the diagnosis does it get you drugs. I sure wouldn't want children taking these nasty drugs. Life long addicts, they'll become. Oh, yeah, that's their goal. Maybe if a treatment that worked was applied., I would want an early diagnosis.

[@merryjane7558]

@@edie4321 Same with getting tested for diabetes. All that does is gets you drugs. It doesn't cure the problem. /s.

[@MandaPanda254]

​@@edie4321 a diagnosis provides so much more than medication. Alot of people with ADHD don't want medication. The understanding and compassion within one's self from a diagnosis can be life changing, and life saving. And helps identify avenues of support

[@Sarahburrowes]

@@edie4321 Stimulant medication for children and teens with ADHD reduces the chance of substance use disorders and teenage pregnancy. ADHD medication is significantly more effective in treating ADHD than antidepressants are for treating depression and anxiety. It also significantly reduces car accidents.

[@attorneycarissa]

I'm high functioning (attorney) but anxiety & depression plagued me. It wasn't until my son was diagnosed that I realized I might have it. It wasn't until I was 50 that I went to a psychiatrist and got diagnosed. Medication has changed my life.

[@Gengarisspooky]

I have severe adhd all of my life and had just got diagnosed and treated. It’s a very difficult life losing jobs and relationships

[@user-wm2tw]

@@Gengarisspooky yes. It changes your life’s trajectory. Marriage, relationships, education, self esteem, everything is affected x

[@edie4321]

And now you don't?? The diagnosis solved it all. The drugs only help long enough to get you addicted. Then the solution becomes your problem.

[@zoeolsson5683]

+1

[@mightyobserver12]

Please help me

[@edie4321]

@@mightyobserver12 , Start by accepting yourself and your issues. These things are caused by trauma, and we are all traumatized, and many of us struggle along with you.

[@freelanceangel8962]

As a 40 year old woman with ADHD, I'm so so relieved to see it's being TALKED ABOUT. Reviewing my childhood years and behavioral issues in school, it's so painfully obvious how ADHD affected those years, but now that I have severe anxiety acting as a "coping mechanism" to deal with what ADHD does, it's honestly worse.

[@unstoppablewildflower]

Since kindergarten I would get notes on all my report cards “daydreams” “does not pay attention” etc… adulthood and 15 years of therapy later and I’m just figuring this out for myself.

[@Prettypryde]

This was me too. Well, still am. Daydream constantly. There’s rarely a time where I’m present. I’m always imagining being somewhere else with different people doing something different.

[@unstoppablewildflower]

@@Prettypryde So many imaginings to be had!!! ✨

[@taraelizabethdensley9475]

Goodness! I can vaguely remember report cards. Daydreams, could try harder, things like that. Classes I didn't like, homework always got done at the last minute 😂

[@user7-o9w]

I have had severe ADHD since childhood and I am low functioning. It is by far the worst thing anyone can suffer from. It ruined a lot of my relationships and friendships. To this day it really hurts me inside thinking of when my former partners always asking me during our conversations, “Are you even listening?” I would get distracted so easily, and people would dismiss me as being very insensitive.

[@CG-lf8st]

I agree, one of the hardest things about my ADHD is when it comes off as looking like an inconsiderate asshole. Having your behaviours and intentions misunderstood constantly is painful

[@user7-o9w]

@@CG-lf8st I have been labeled a “narcissist” because people would think I am dismissive of people’s thoughts and feelings, when really my mind is always drifting off getting easily distracted. It’s like my brain is like a wild animal which I can’t control.

[@Gengarisspooky]

Me too

[@juliancintron1998]

Schizophrenia is on a whole another level

[@Lexi_Con]

Fwiw, my ex BF of 8+ yrs has a similar type of ADD & won't look me in the eyes, seemed like a good listener but rarely gave feedback, smiled, or laughed at my jokes, seemed disinterested unless it was abt HIM, never gave me a compliment, & it took yrs before he opened up abt thgs that bring closeness & bonding in a relationship. Won't seek treatment bc he's "high functioning" (despite memory & disorganization issues). When he was treated for anxiety our relationship improved during that time, but his Dismissive Avoidant behavior counteracted the good. I've studied psychology & narcissism in particular but don't think he truly is one, just seems very selfish & lacks empathy. Fwiw, it's very difficult for the partner, esp when help is available. No validation, little connection, consideration or respect, & other signs of neglect is not healthy love & has damaged my self confidence, not to mention wasted YEARS of my life when I could've met a potential life partner. I love him but too little too late at 50+. To clarify, I'm sure his issues are much more than ADHD but shared details in case anyone identifes w those symptoms & has more insight. Fwiw, I know it's difficult bc I have ADD due to a TBI at age 17. Treated for depression but never diagnosed/treated for ADD symptoms til late 30's. AFTER my career ended & eventually lost other jobs (bc of tardiness, not skills or work ethic). Very frustrating & I sympathize w all types. Have you sought treatment? Rx meds vary w each person but worth a try. If one doesn't work you can ask for a different kind. I can't function w/o them. Lots more research & info available thx to YT - Daniel Amen, Russell Barkley, Ned Hallowell... Best wishes!

[@jharris3354]

A psychiatrist refused to treat my ADD because I wasnt failing my college classes YET. I scored very high on the screening test. It is well known, and has been for a while, that not treating ADD causes permanant damage to intelligence (and i should know), and yes, i had to retake classes. Dr Marks is great and im not here to dissagree with her, but ADD "not being obvious" in women isnt the biggest part of the problem. The biggest part of the problem is mysogeny. The more i talk to people and read stuff, the more typical i believe my experience to be. Why didnt I know I had ADD earlier? Why do boys get diagnosed? Because if boys are failing, the fact that they might have an excuse is considered. If a girl is failing it is because she is bad. Lazy. Spoiled. Dramatic. We get called all the nasty names. If we try to explain ourselves or ask for help, we are interrupted, and told that we are "making excuses" or "being a smart a$$" or something. Dispite the fact that ADD can be seen in an MRI (because it it REAL) most psychologists and psychiatrists do not believe how much women with ADD struggle. If you try to tell them the grim realities, they will assume your attitude is the problem. They will say something "encouraging" some and smile in a self-satisfied way. The deafness, and self rightousness is truely... evil. Yeah, im calling them evil and i do mean it. Because if they had even considered the fact that I was sane and honest, not some crazy dramatic pity-party person, they could have helped, but instead they invalidated and belittled me. They tried to treat me for low self esteem for effs sake, which if you know me, is hilarious. I eventually found some professionals with listening and thinking skills. I wanted a therapist with knowledge of what ADD is like and strategies around its handicaps, but in leui of that, a smart person who believed me was a good thing.

[@sydsinternet]

I’ve noticed that the process of getting diagnosed is so word-of-mouth about your experiences as a child. Because I WASN’T struggling in school or hated by my teachers as a child and actually did very well and loved by my teachers - it’s hard to find mental health professionals who look at the whole context of my life and who can see that my high performance in my younger years was mainly driven by fear of consequences by my caretakers and the chronic issues with inattentiveness throughout the last few years comes from being in a place for the first time in my life where it’s up to me to manage it all. There’s other people who have told me that unless your grades or work is suffering externally/noticeably, professionals don’t take you too seriously, which is messed up. Because I’m literally afraid to fail, but it’s so hard not to given the challenges. Finally got the help I needed, but the system and care around this needs to change 100%.

[@soonlet4977]

Different path but same conclusion. I was heavily dismissed due to misogyny. I cannot get a word out without needing to spell out and explain those words like they're children only to not be believed anyway. And like @sydsinternet mentioned, I need the word of mouth experience as a child when I have a set of different issues with that. Yet the barrier remains for these separate issues. It's actually insane how the science is there but I'm held up by the unawareness of these professionals who cannot give up their ego (also met a lot who likes to mention their years of experience on the job, unprompted) just because their patient slightly disagrees.

[@amandagetz9660]

This is SO true. It was this experience growing up, presenting very much “boy” symptoms as a little girl, that led to insane amounts of rejection, punishment, belittling, invalidation, everything you listed. As an adult at 21 I was diagnosed with ADHD, but since I’ve also been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I strongly believe the unfair treatment I endured since childhood because of my undiagnosed and ignored ADHD was a strong factor in me developing BPD. Both are complicated disorders and a lot of other factors happened in my life that led to them, but I cannot ignore the link I see between them in my personal experience. I am so glad more people are speaking out about this issue.

[@user-wm2tw]

@@jharris3354 I know 100 % what you are saying. I can relate. Are you in college still? If so I can offer you some insight as to what to expect and how to get thru university with this condition. First thing you must do is change your doctor. A compassionate doctor is a must. Second join add support group and/or depression support group as needed. They are offered for free by most major healthcare providers. Support groups proved insight into what it is and how best to live with it/manage it. Hope that helps.

[@annaburns2865]

ADHD, Autism, depression, fibromyalgia, etc. I’m living with so many disabilities that people assume just aren’t theee because they can’t see them. It’s so frustrating when people expect me to function at full capacity like they do because they are 100% healthy. It’s even worse when they get mad at me because I can’t.

[@peggyliu8381]

I was diagnosed with autism and adhd this year at age 29. I suffered all my life not knowing why I seemed so different. Thank you for making this video. It’s great to see more mental health professionals speak up about how symptoms present differently in women.

[@terryg4415]

It’s only taken 70 years to find this out. I’m glad there is more awareness of this now so women can be properly diagnosed. I don’t think any of my several therapists between my late 20s and my early 50s considered this possibility. 😢

[@drmeredithdavis1987]

I was diagnosed at 45 because I couldn’t complete my dissertation. It took ten years. Once diagnosed and on medication I lost 50 pounds and was able to write my dissertation (217 pp) in less than three months. 5:29 Finding out regardless of age is never too late. It has forever changed my life and I’m grateful.

[@cucumberwhale]

Thank you, this has been the best description of all my struggles as a woman with ADHD, diagnosed at 30. I feel so seen I'm crying.

[@jacksruss]

I have had difficulty focusing on goals and tasks throughout life, feeling low energy, and sad about life circumstances. I got distracted in school and still find it a challenge to pay attention in conversations, meetings, while reading, or watching a show. It takes me a while to get through tasks. I tend to juggle many things at once. It took me 5 years to complete a 2 year degree while I was raising a child and supporting aging parents. My father told me 40 years ago while we were watching a 20/20 episode on ADHD that he thought I had it since I would start and leave courses and projects before completing them. Many of us struggle and find ways to get through life without a diagnosis of ADHD when we could have lived a more thriving and abundant life with greater joy had we gotten assessed and treated earlier in life. Thank God, there is more information, insight, newer therapies and treatments, and less stigma about ADHD and other mental conditions than 40 years ago. It is never too late to improve one's life by seeking help. Dr. Tracey, thank you for shedding light on ADHD and other health issues. 5:39

[@MsDeeVee]

I am very angry that my former health professionals did not detect that I may have adhd. I had to push through and specifically pay to get a diagnosis through a private clinic (with 3K of fees!!!!) because I did not want to wait 2-3 years in the public system in Quebec (Canada). Nobody saw or recognized the symptoms. I have just been diagnosed at 59. I have the mixed type, with both hyperactivity and inattentiveness. Now getting treatment with medication and therapy. I probably wasted decades because of the misogynistic bias prevailing in the medical system until recently. Words cannot describe how mad I am about this.

[@deecee7042]

What meds worked well for you

[@ameleh61]

@MsDeeVee hey sister! I got my diagnosis 2 years ago at age 60. We have a lot to be angry about. I so wish my parents were alive to know this. Do you like to read/listen to books about this? I don't know you, but can I recommend one? I read 17 books on this when I first got diagnosed, and I only recommend one: ADHD 2.0. Dr Hallowell has it himself, and the book has his attitude about life. The authors recognize the downsides, but also the good sides. It's not too late to develop those, if you have not already. But yeah, damn, what would life have been if we had known? How many times have you said to yourself OMG THIS TOO??

[@InHisSservice]

look for time blindness, rejection sensitivity, t-rex arms while sleeping (especially with increased anxiety), clumsiness, and unusual concern about use of time (staying busy because low energy makes it excrutiating to wait)

[@jackih9682]

I was recently tested for ADHD and was told I don’t have it. I don’t agree with their assessment. I have most of the symptoms, but because I didn’t cause or get in trouble in school as a child they say I don’t have it. It’s so frustrating.

[@EdithCasines]

@@jackih9682 when my problem is, I can never learn! All my life I was called stupid, idiot, moron! All kinds of insulting names! And my father used to hit me in the head, with his fist! And that made things worse! Had a lot of vaccines in my head! Many accidents

[@EdithCasines]

I meant to say injuries in my head!

[@lorithompson3497]

Find another Dr. it sucks, but keep going till u know for sure. I have been mis diagnosed by several therapist’s and regular drs. Finally the 3rd natural dr started testing and suggesting testing. Helped a lot for my depression

[@siddni_]

Same! The person doing the evaluation was talking with me for40 minutes and said I have quite many characterics of ADHD, but I cannot have it since I have masters degree. I don't agree with him. Looking for second opinion.

[@bethb5915]

​@@siddni_- ugh, I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. That guy has no clue! Look up the term "twice exceptional" or "2e". It's a term used for (usually) kids who are very smart and have ADHD. Congratulations on your masters, that's a lot of work, ADHD or not. I've heard of MDs who have ADHD, so having it doesn't preclude someone from achieving, just makes it that much harder to achieve!

[@genevabecker8441]

Tracy, thank you SO much for your videos. I'm 71 and have finally been diagnosised. EVERYTHING in my life has now been explained...it is freeing to have the diagnosis. I only wish I had had the time and money to have been diagnosised earlier. It certainly would have made life easier for me and everyone around me...

[@SpanishHag]

1,5 yrs ago I was diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD. Life is hard, but at least now I can focus on acceptance.

[@ΚάποιοςΑγνωστος-χ1ξ]

I’m a 43 year old man and this is exactly what happened to me too. I didn’t have the hyperactivity on the “outside” but only on the inside. As a child I wasn’t aloud to express that part as I would be met with repercussions. It’s only 3 months ago that I tried ADHD medication. Unfortunately living with untreated ADHD for 43 years had its toll on me. ACE, CPTSD, anxiety disorder, chronic depression, PTSD, panic attacks, nervous breakdown, all of this made me almost non functional and living on a disability income at the moment.

[@avril.227]

I hope it gets better for you. You deserve a wonderful life

[@ΚάποιοςΑγνωστος-χ1ξ]

@@avril.227 Wao, thank you very much! Those are very kind words and wishes to a stranger. May you continue to be guided by kindness and understanding.❤

[@faith2691]

I know a lot of mums getting diagnosed after trying to help their children. So we've struggled half our lives (you're just depressed) with no help, and now we're trying to help our children as single(mostly) mums. While severely burned out and needing support ourselves. And we're looked down on for not also holding full time jobs! 😅 I'm not punting fingers. It just sux.

[@bondiggitti]

Dayum. This hits close

[@luulips]

Yep. 👍🏽

[@paragoncumulus6636]

My daughter was recently diagnosed and I thought it was incorrect because all her symptoms were things i experience and I certainly don't have ADHD. But after looking into it, I'm now sure I do. I've been managing depression and social anxiety my entire adult life. My mind whirls with ideas and plans that I can just never seem to follow through on. I start on a project or goal I'm incredibly excited about and then suddenly lose all enthusiasm or become overwhelmed by self-doubt. Rinse and repeat, over and over. I feel like such a failure. Although I have managed to do well academically, I feel incapable of holding down a 9-5 full-time job and avoid relationships beyond my family because they are too exhausting and my social anxiety is terrible.

[@airi75089]

This is SO SO SO SO important. I was not diagnosed until last year when my counselor of over 4 years put the pieces together and I was so stunned because I just did not know that ADHD could look like THIS and i think SOOOOO many people are unaware as well, which is sad. It is so great seeing you discuss it on a platform like this, so thanks so much! Also seeing you list all of the symptoms again for women is so wild because they all apply so much to me that hearing how these are ACTUAL issues related to ADHD and not me just being lazy. Please keep up the good work on this! On the topic of gendered discussions about mental health, it would nice to see you put out a video regarding mental health of transgender individuals cause I think that is something not often touched on on platforms such as your own! Much love! 💕🥰

[@TheDriftdog]

This just upsets me so much. I’m now 47 years old, I was ok at school, college, the first time was ok but I never got accepted for 2nd year because they said I was too immature, I got jobs but nothing career worthy. I’ve felt different my whole adult life, always late then had kids and I became glaringly obvious that I was not organised much but I could handle it just about. As the kids have progressed through school it’s become harder to keep house, I struggle to plan days out, getting shopping for the week etc. After finding out my younger brother was diagnosed ADHD I sought a diagnosis or myself. I got to tell the psychiatrist 1 thing from my long list & he said no, you’re just anxious & that was me diagnosed with GAD. I don’t disagree I am anxious, I am depressed I am undiagnosed ADHD (I’ve even considered bi-polar) I have an autistic son that we’re awaiting assessment for ADHD for, I worry my daughter is undiagnosed but we’re starting the process of treating her OCD (which I’m certain I caused with my scattyness), my husband is nonexistent emotionally & in managing the house, kids etc (he’s like a pen friend you give certain life updates to), my elderly parents are extremely unwell & my sister has been recently diagnosed with terminal breast cancer, so I have a lot going on but what would help is to have a psychiatrist actually listen & take an appropriate amount of time to diagnose me. I was undergoing “therapy” with I think a psychologist in training but it got to the point where keeping the diary she wanted me to keep was causing so much anxiety that I’ve stopped attending. I’m just so lucky that my kids are understanding

[@biondna7984]

Thank you for this video. I was diagnosed at 47, and lived with labels like "space cadette" and "weirdo." I got good enough grades with not much effort, but never fit in anywhere, and struggled to stick with anything. My conspicuous daydreaming got me violently shaken by my first grade teacher, in the days when teachers did what they wanted. She gave me closed head injuries, which lead to antisocial behavior and hallucinations. I got diagnosed two weeks after my younger son, as I was studying ADHD to figure HIM and HIS DAD out! As ever, those of us with this particular neurological set-up don't perceive our own issues. Two years after the diagnosis, I was able to quit 29 years of heavy drinking, and have stayed alcohol free 21 years. I'm currently studying the theories that ADHD for some of us is generated not hereditarily but from ongoing childhood traumas like neglect, physical abuse, parental addiction, etc. I had all of that. The more I learn, the easier life gets. Thanks again.

[@Quackzine]

Well done quitting drinking!

[@EdithCasines]

@@biondna7984 you are lucky, I wish I had good grades! I struggled! Mathematics I never passed! Teachers felt bad for me! And the past me at the grades that got very low marks! It was torture for me! And the abuse from teachers telling me I'm stupid and retarded! And my daughter also think I'm crazy! My two daughters! You believe this I have no one to turn!🥲

[@leilatimeful]

I think another telling symptom is what seems like memory problems. You can’t remember where you put things, even though you had them in your hand seconds ago. Even when you don’t get “distracted” during a conversation, you sometimes can’t remember what someone just said. And so on. When I was diagnosed, I wasn’t there to get tested for ADHD. I went because I thought I had some sort of neurological memory problem. One of my friends had even nicknamed me “goldfish” because my memory is so bad. Turns out, it’s because of ADHD and often stems from one of two things: I get distracted and then snap back in without ever realizing I’d been distracted, or I’m paying attention but immediately afterward a different thought pops up and replaces the previous one before it can be put into my memory.

[@genevalawrence801]

Oh, I relate to this! I can’t talk and keep up with my phone and my keys at the same time. (I once lost my car keys and then found them in the refrigerator.) I’ve worried that my memory issues when it comes to the placement of objects are age-related. And then I recall that, nope, this has been me my entire life.

[@sharonzoepke8417]

Loll...I hear you....Have you ever looked for your phone while talking to someone....on your phone.....

[@ameleh61]

@@sharonzoepke8417 More than once. More than twice, tbh.

[@lizzylu01]

I go through this daily. It's a constant struggle. People think I'm careless and lazy.

[@raisinbran531]

I’m 23 and just got my diagnosis it would have been helpful to know as a child.

[@zbatzb]

Same, only I’m in my 60s! 😊

[@lilmissebbz116]

Boy, this is like a mirror. Listening to this video as an adult is crazy because as I have been discovering how my ADHD affects me as an adult is completely different. I am trying to start meds but have a hard time remaining consistent because I lose them frequently and it becomes overwhelming. I feel a bit overwhelmed and stuck in a loop but looking at videos like these make me feel less different. I feel lazy at times and like I don't fully balance out the responsibilities I have and it is overwhelming. I think I honestly suffer from ADHD burnout and I don't want to be burned out emotionally anymore. Managing adult responsibilities can be too much for me due to feeling as if I am stuck in a permanent cycle of debt and money mismanagement that make the rest of my life insurmountable. But I am trying actively to change all of this without asking for help but I know at some point, I'll need it to truly release it.

[@user-wm2tw]

What meds you’ve found to be more effective for your ADHD?

[@vanesasteves6922]

You're doing the best you can, living like this is very hard. Do try to ask for help tho, we all need community

[@user7-o9w]

@@vanesasteves6922 My reply to you on the other thread got deleted for some reason and I didn’t say anything bad.

[@user7-o9w]

@@vanesasteves6922 what I tried to say was that ADHD has ruined every aspect of my life; from relationships to jobs and my social life. Much of my depression and anxiety is attributed to my ADHD. I am low functioning severe, in which no amount of therapy and medication can help me. I see no hope for my future, especially that I’m getting older and it’s getting more and more severe.

[@EdithCasines]

@@lilmissebbz116 it's not laziness! It's being overwhelmed! That's what happens to me! I get very afraid! All the time! I have to force myself! It's not laziness! Because I don't have a lazy bone in my body! I was a hard worker all my life!

[@Smartielew]

Can we just talk about how amazing Jaden’s animation has a reach on the adhd community even before her adhd video came out? I loved seeing her videos in this video, kinda sad her channel wasn’t referenced in the description though her content was used.

[@y0LAs_]

I'm a man and I recognize myself 100% in the symptoms for women's ADHD. And not the symptoms for men you mentioned. Although when I was younger I had some of the male symptoms mentioned

[@bethb5915]

Ya, it's not really "women's" or "men's" ADHD. It's more that most girls/women have the inattentive type of ADHD, and most boys/men have the hyperactive type of ADHD. It can definitely happen that men have the inattentive type like you do and women have the hyperactive type.

[@sharonzoepke8417]

I am 60 and have only recently realised I have had ADHD my entire life. Menopause has definitely enhanced my anxiety, noise sensitivity, disorganisation, and feelings of being overwhelmed by daily tasks. I have always felt as though I don't fit in, struggled at work to get along with colleagues, and with my personal relationship. It feels as though I have wasted so much time being trapped in a mind that I still don't understand.

[@t.terrell7037]

Yup I agree

[@juliej5917]

At 53 I was diagnosed when a college friend suggested I get tested. Elementary school report cards ALWAYS mentioned day dreaming. Married at 19 (😢), my ex husband was ALWAYS berating me for things: lazy, not finishing anything. I’ve never finished a conversation, and luckily I have a good sense of humor. Looking forward to the Skills Training. Thank you. ❤️💔❤️

[@djinn5658]

This is my exact life story? Even the age, the marriage and the beatings.

[@megapiglatin2574]

Aww maaan! I am really NOT looking forward to menopause…hormonal changes in my cycle already make my ADHD symptoms worse-my anxiety goes through the friggin’ roof for example-and my mom struggled with menopause for OVER 10 YEARS! 😨

[@markmuthai6374]

You'll be okay

[@markmuthai6374]

Thank you Doc

[@therookerybookery]

Same, I'm hoping with more studies and awareness, there will be more help available by then, fingers crossed

[@megapiglatin2574]

@@therookerybookery Yes!! 🙌

[@bethb5915]

​@@therookerybookery - those of us dealing with it now are pushing for that to happen. Look up recent interviews with Dr Lisa Mosconi, a celebrated neuroscientist looking at the role of hormones (mainly estrogen) in women's brains. She had to fight against many prejudices and biases to get her groundbreaking research done. She's leading the way.

[@TinaSotis]

I have late diagnosed ADHD. it's a devastating condition. Also too sensitive to meds. 68 years old and really starting to understand what my life could have been had I not had this. Trying meditation - guided meditation, which seems to help some, but I have no sense of purpose or focus. It's heartbreaking.

[@wt4855]

@@TinaSotis Me Too. It’s debilitating

[@avril.227]

I feel you on the meds. I’m at a very low dose and exercise has helped with inattentive ADD, and I try not to take the meds lately. Sometimes inattentive types need stimulants but get overstimulated as well 🤷🏼‍♀️ open to suggestions.

[@luulips]

Thanks for your input. I’m 66 and finally think I know what’s been going on with me my whole life. I need to get tested next I think.

[@glendaeades6003]

I was FINALLY diagnosed at 52!! Everyone always called me hairbrained, or a BRAT! It never dawned on me that I ever had ADHD, until I went to a psychologist and she sent me to their psychiatrist who immediately diagnosed me with ADD. The H had long gone. lol I felt SO VENDICATED by it!!

[@sabineuhlig5128]

I have been diagnosed with full-blown ADHD in 2021 at the age of 37. My doctor literally said “Seems you don’t have ADHD, you ARE ADHD!” Changed my diet in 2023. One year in I have close to zero symptoms of ADHD, no meds needed anymore.

[@chicalertng]

Please, can you share what your diet change consisted of? Thank you

[@sabineuhlig5128]

@@chicalertngsure! I went carnivore!

[@SlayerMoon17]

I was diagnosed in my 30’s, it was hiding behind the ptsd. This was a major game changer.

[@missbearlockholmes]

It's awful. I was a smart kid, and a very good student. Everyone expected me to do so well. But I was always disorganized. I fell apart when I got to college, and never really recovered. I graduated, but never really launched. I am now 48, and watching the children of my cousins surpass me in life. Also, I never can keep up with my chores, my car is a mess, and I just can never seem to get my shyt together. For a black woman, this is the worst, because how you keep your home and car is very important. I feel constantly judged by family, and coworkers. I was diagnosed a few years ago, but my psychologist did not want to medicate. I have tried to learn some life skills with my therapist. It also helped when I got a less demanding job, and had time to think. I am still recovering, and will probably be recovering from all this until the day I die. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@sarahs.9678]

I can relate as a mom and homemaker as well. ❤️

[@batya7]

Great presentation. I was diagnosed af 65. Explains a lot, but hard to make changes at this point in life. Something to grow on, I suppose. Happy to learn that it's not laziness or being stupid, though. 😅

[@KarlaEharris]

Thank you so much for talking about this! I was diagnosed in my early 30's and have struggled with PPMD and experienced peripardum depression. Now I'm beginning to feel the emotional challenges of peri menopause which can be overwhelming to typical women but with my history feels even more so. I would love to hear more about managing all these factors. Thank you again, so much!

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

Excellent video! I'm so glad you brought up the hormonal factor. I think this is definitely missing in mental health conversations. I try to remember to tell my female clients to track their hormonal cycle so that they can track how their mental health conditions are affected throughout the month. Thanks Tracey!

[@smarti1144]

Diagnosed in two countries as an adult. It is just gratifying to be validated.

[@RavenMistwolf]

I’m a 32 y/o woman and only got diagnosed with ADHD a couple months ago. As a kid, I was obsessively organized when it came to school because I was terrified of getting in trouble, but my bedroom was an absolute wreck. I learned to mask all my symptoms and no one ever figured it out. Unfortunately that didn’t turn out well in the long run and led to a lot of mental and physical health issues that have made me disabled. I wonder what it would’ve been like to have someone notice and treat my symptoms when I was young. Parents, please try to be open and nonjudgmental with your children so they won’t hide their struggles from you and can receive any help they need.

[@thismomof5]

😩 I was diagnosed at 2! I’m glad my mom decided against medication, but nothing else was done. Granted, this was in the 80’s and there wasn’t as much information. Fast forward to me being a 40 something, and my life is a wreck. I’m struggling with so many things and even just getting out of bed is overwhelming. Then I feel guilty because of my lack of discipline and a down on myself. It’s made even trickier because to everyone else it simply looks like I’m lazy or am making excuses. Trying to explain how I feel or what I’m experiencing falls on deaf ears too as not many seem to understand. I also have CPTSD, OCD, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. The reckless behavior is something I display as well. I speed without meaning to and make decisions that haunt me because they could’ve had serious outcomes. It’s a heavy load to bear up under (especially given stigma or misunderstanding). Looking for my light at the end of the tunnel and trying to change my outlook. But recognition really is a big thing.

[@user-wm2tw]

Look into Effexor and adderall . Support and education classes also help because you will have better insight into this disorder and how to develop habits to have more normal life. It will never go away but developing behavior skills will happen a lot.

[@edie4321]

I was just asking what good an early diagnosis is. Because putting a child on drugs, just makes a life long addict. Be grateful that you don't have an addiction too.

[@KazLee-p9y]

@@edie4321not a nice thing to say 😡😡😡

[@edie4321]

@@KazLee-p9y, Why? No malice was intended. Their parent made a very good decision. Those drugs are addictive. Not becoming addicted IS something to be grateful for. I guess you go untouched.

[@edie4321]

@@KazLee-p9y Have you ever come off of Adderall, or any other psychiatric medicine? Those things mess you up.

[@natashyas4149]

Big changes with menopause. Very good info. Ty

[@sayusayme7729]

Undiagnosed and misdiagnosed my entire life. Not till my 40. Thank you

[@misty919100]

I was diagnosed in kindergarten. I had a lot of the classic symptoms like boys do. Hitting menopause has really derailed my life with organizational difficulty, memory issues, and emotional dysregulation. There seems to be less research and answers for this stage but I finally told my doctors I wanted hormone replacement therapy and it has helped some.

[@tashialund332]

Between always having fidgeting issues and attention issues and then add a TBI onto it makea my brain just a blast to deal with on a daily basis.

[@Gengarisspooky]

Omg Jaiden animation’s video on adhd is in this video 🎉🎉

[@ParisLeShea]

I LOVE your videos on ADHD. Thank you for shining a light on this condition that is incredibly underdiagnosed, especially among BIPOC women.

[@jeniel93]

Thank you for this explainer! Always appreciative when videos like this come out and of your content. I hope you give credit to some of the animators in the future. Using Jaiden Animations as well as other artists can be unethical if no permission was given or credit passed on.

[@amandakesterson224]

My ADHD was TERRIBLE in my pregnancy which had a domino effect of other issues. I was miserable. I will never have another child from my body again. Its not worth the toll it took on me.

[@Petlover97]

This makes me so sad because I was treated as a kid after my child psych had suspected it (&also because at that time the antidepressant medicines we were trying weren’t really helping “in the way that they should’ve”) Anyway he gave us adderall and while I don’t remember too much of it, I do remember the very first time I took it I cried, I went and told my mom how for the first time in my life I was able to think clearly, how perfectly organized everything was. I was going on and on about how clear and easy it was to think for the very first time in all of my life, that day I realized what I was actually missing and why it seemed so easy to everyone else, because without it I was at a disadvantage, we are not on equal playing fields. However when I became an adult I had to get a different doctor and after a few years with her and my primary going back-and-forth with each one pointing at the other person saying you need to find out why I was the way I was and why the meds weren’t really helping me the way they should (they were basically saying it wasn’t their job, it was the other person’s job aka not physical so I need to go to mental and so then we went and played this game of seesaw, like yes maybe we need some more whiplash that’ll help us find out the answer) *smh* Well we did a while of that and then I turned 21 when she had to redo my paperwork (since it’s highly controlled they have to do papers saying how/ why I can have it) well she didn’t think I needed it and decided to cut it, she told me that it was only a Band-Aid, I don’t need it and she didn’t want to continue to enable me, so she decided to cut it. That truly was the end of it all because after that I only went so much farther down. Everything got worse and worse and after a few years of us trying to deal with that she slowly stopped knowing what to do with me, she wanted me to get another opinion and didn’t wanna hold me back so she dropped me. I’ve had two other doctors since then and that hoesntly probably just made it much worse, however I think that the worst thing by far was that medicine being taken like it was for the first time in my life I was actually doing good, I was consistently progressing like it was a thing and I was doing it, I was almost there and looking at the light at the end of the tunnel (me being a functional adult) The hardest thing was after that day that I knew it was all over because from there it wasn’t gonna ever be like there was no way I could keep up, I just had to sit there and allow it because it was gonna happen whether I wanted it to or not because I couldn’t keep up, I couldn’t hold it together, and it all just came crashing down in front of me. I couldn’t compete with that. I could never compare to her. Her and I aren’t the same (or we are, but no one can see that *so they don’t care* all they see now is that I’m just lazy lol like that is the one thing, the only difference to other people, like the only thing they can see different is that because I don’t try, and I mean she did call it a bandaid, right?) Its been years and I’m still broken &CONFUSED over all of that but if anyone has any thoughts or ideas on what the heck she meant with that whole bandaid thing please do let me know *fr it haunts me lol*

[@eringaffney8330]

bandaid thing - sounds like the doctor thought the meds you were taking were just “glazing over” or masking a deeper issue. like she thought there was something deeper that wasn’t being addressed completely. and the meds were just covering it up but not actually fixing it. maybe her heart was in the right place? and she wanted to get to the bottom of things? but sounds like she didn’t really believe you had adhd or didn’t have enough knowledge of it. i’m sorry that all happened to you! maybe you can find a new doc who’s more knowledgeable about adhd? i’ve also heard rhodiola is a Godsend for adhd symptoms… i’m about to order some myself and try it out because i don’t wanna be on stimulants.

[@dr983]

As a former special education teacher and mother of an adult ADD son I found this video to one of the very best ADHD videos I’ve ever seen and covers male and females.

[@wolfdreams2000]

Hey! I resemble that! 😊 Seriously tho, I'm a 63yr old woman who has finally been diagnosed with adhd (combined type) and asd within this year. It's so relieving to know that it's not just the laziness I've heard most of my life. Thank you, Dr

[@Kanooodledoodle]

I am so happy to have found your channel. I'm a woman was 42 when I was diagnosed.It's been such a long, looong struggle & I'm tired. Your videos are so helpful. The non-stimulants as well. Thank you SO MUCH!

[@tonyasargent57]

The difficult part is it costs a lot of money to get a diagnosis. And if you struggled your whole life with keeping a job and a roof over your head you might not be able to get diagnosed or even have health insurance😢

[@Bluespira]

Now that I'm 40, looking back many things make more sense as far as why I struggled with what I did knowing how ADHD affects everything, but now that I am aware of all this I have never felt so isolated. I do not have anyone left to really connect with and feel safe to share my struggles with, and I guess I never did.

[@mooglerific]

thank you so much for talking about this. I was diagnosed when I was 29 and spent all of my 20s wracking my brain and fumbling through life because I was misdiagnosed with - you guessed it - depression and anxiety. No one bothered to dig deeper and realize I had a host of different conditions: autism, ADHD, and bipolar II. My ADHD symptoms are the most obvious however, and yet I was still repeatedly misdiagnosed until I sought a second opinion from another doctor and was very firm with my suspicions that this was not mere depression or anxiety. I reached a point in my life where trying to focus on my college assignments was nearly impossible and it felt as though I was consistently trying to fight against my own mind. staying organized was a struggle and I didn’t have friends during my childhood because of my impulsivity and tendency to hyperfixate on things other people found ‘weird’. What kind of depression and anxiety do that? No wonder I wasn’t getting better, no one was treating the root cause of these symptoms. Two years after being diagnosed with ADHD, I was diagnosed with bipolar. So that explained why my ADHD meds did NOTHING to control my cyclical emotional imbalances and atrocious sleep patterns. LOL. Women/AFAB people honestly have to work double just for an accurate diagnosis and it is SO frustrating. It shouldn’t be this hard for us but it constantly is.

[@емоладьи]

Thank you for talking about this!

[@whatever-kt6tn]

Thank you so much for making this. You have no idea how deeply this 5 minute video touched me. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 26. I'm 40 now and have only been regularly medicated for it the past couple years. Everything you covered in this video resonated with me: the feeling "different" and never understanding why, the chronic disorganization and time management issues, the underachievement and difficulty maintaining regular employment, suffering additional mental health issues (namely depression and generalized and social anxiety). I am learning to be content with where I am in life right now, but it hurts to think of what my life might have been if I'd been a little white boy instead of a little dark-skinned black girl. Maybe the adults in my life would have seen my struggles for what they were, instead of accusing me of having an "attitude problem" and refusing to "apply myself." Over the years I have come to learn and understand so much of all of this for myself, but still--to hear it from an outside source, that it was never an issue of me being lazy or lacking willpower, accusations that haunted me throughout my childhood and adulthood--it's something I know logically, but hearing you acknowledge that hit me on an unexpected emotional level. Again, thank you so much, Dr. Marks.

[@2_blAck]

I got diagnosed at age 27 and I love it now in my 50’s😂 I don’t listen to people and stay detached from everything around me💗

[@poweruprez9646]

Hi Dr. Marks. Great video! I have not been dx'd with ADHD and am currently 42 yo man. Thing is, I've had all these complaints (symptoms) all my life, they're just the ones you described as the female version of ADHD. Which could be why every time I asked my mother if I could have it, she would tell me 'no! Look at your cousin, that's what ADHD looks like'.

[@sarahs.9678]

Makes sense. I’m sorry your concerns were dismissed!

[@Sandra-ic7kc]

I had my daughter tested in middle school, everything was negative. She had a rough time in her first year of college which forced her to seek a second evaluation, and it showed all the typical signs of. With help she was able to obtain a Masters degree. Many sad years we had with her😢

[@megan5867]

I think what's interesting is my son who is high functioning Autism. He almost falls more into the girls list of symptoms. The ADHD is definitely there. Now, I found later that I'm also on the spectrum, but not really sure if ADHD fits me, or if it's the Autism, or the legit CPTSD from a traumatic childhood in an abusive household. It all gets so tricky. I think regardless, therapy is pretty necessary for all of us.

[@bethb5915]

It's challenging to figure out since so many of the symptoms overlap. Blessings to you ❤

[@flalalala2]

Thank you so much. This makes since why my anxiety medication doesn't work. I'm currently suffering at my job and I'm trying to get help.

[@annieothername]

Diagnosed in 2021. In the dumps right now because I had a great time with a new relationship, but they lost a prized possession when riding home with me. I can’t shake the guilt attached to forgetting items, not being able to help them much in finding it, and knowing it could possibly be lost forever because I didn’t plug into my mask of hyper vigilance to double check and handle the needs of all those around me. The guilt from masking through ADHD and emotional regulation difficulties is a legitimate downer, that can drain my energy and delay my ability to go through my day or not carry shame in the relationship from this point on. I’m being careful by allowing myself to cry through the stress, and saying what I’m feeling out loud, but it’s important to remember management of symptoms won’t ever stop the symptoms. It’s a legitimate condition that cannot be “fixed”

[@EdithCasines]

I am a senior citizen! And I have been struggling with ADHD all my life! As a child, I remember I could never learn no matter how hard I would study! But at the time they didn't know about it! I like to know how can I find out in today's world?! my daughter tell me that I don't have such a thing! Because they didn't go through now I feel like I'm getting dementia. what I went through all my life, abuse suffering mental torture! Please help me! Now I feel like I'm

[@user7-o9w]

@@EdithCasines I have made many attempts at taking my own life because my ADHD had ruined my friendships and relationships. I have struggled with loneliness and depression as a result. Every shortcoming in my life is attributed to my ADHD, my lack of focus and the anxiety that comes along with it. I have even lost jobs and many great opportunities. Now my future is in limbo because this disability is really hindering my ability to make any progress in my life. I feel very hopeless and checking out of life right now seems to be the only option I have.

[@Thewritingelf]

Go get diagnosed as best as you can. Your daughter is not a doctor is she ? Then how could she know ?

[@EdithCasines]

@@Thewritingelf thank you so much! But they think they are very smart! But also they had a good life! And they were not abused like I was! Thank you for responding so quick! Thank you!☺️

[@ArmyScoutMom]

Edith, have her watch this video with you PLEASE 🙏

[@EdithCasines]

@@Thewritingelf who can diagnose my problem! tell me where to go, please! Thank you🙏

[@NicoTNN]

Glad to hear, I just requested to get adhd medication after being off for many years. during the meeting, I was worried about being diagnosed for depression instead because i answered no to questions like do you have a problem with being still. Like im an older woman, how stupid would i look at work not being able to stay seated. Now i do struggle with focusing, but as an adult my behavior will not match a 4 year boy. I know how to conduct myself. At least one doctor recognizes this, thank you

[@corienvandermerwe6887]

Hi Dr Tracey, I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (35 y.o F), Previously misdiagnosed as Bipolar 2. I also suspect that I have autism. Could you do a video on how autism and ADHD could manifest? This would really help.

[@akinatsukana]

This makes so much sense. I’ve been wondering what’s wrong with me and it never occurred me. It could possibly be ADHD but I suffered from a lot of those symptoms and it makes a lot more sense than depression.

[@denzilsequeira8598]

Hi Dr. Marks. Greetings from Goa, India. Your videos are superb !!! My son has been diagnosed with Bipolar 2 and he's currently extremely depressed. He's also suffering from Binge eating disorder and has put on a huge amount of weight. What medication would you suggest for Bipolar 2 with BED ? Looking forward to hearing from you. Best Regards ~ Denzil Sequeira

[@AmberOthyme]

I’m happy to see a collab with Jaiden. Did she animate this for you or is this from one of her videos? I don’t see a link to her content and I know it takes time to animate.

[@CG-lf8st]

Thanks Dr Marks for this video! I am female with ADHD, inattentive type, diagnosed at 15. It's a pretty disabling condition. It's great that female ADHD is being diagnosed so much more, but now so many of my friends are being diagnosed in their late 20s/early 30s and I'm getting sick of them all grieving for this idealised imagining of how different/better their lives could have been if they were diagnosed early. In reality, diagnosis didn't help at all in my case. Back then, 15 years ago when I was diagnosed, there was so much stigma that you were really better off keeping it a secret anyway, and there weren't great resources for support. I'm still struggling after all this time and have failed to thrive even more than many of my late diagnosis friends. I feel like a bit of a reality check is needed with them sometimes as they are making themselves miserable imagining unrealistic possibilities that will now never come to be anyway.

[@bellyfulochelly4222]

Thanks for this perspective. I'm nearly 50 and I had been falling into the trap of wondering how much better my life would have been had I been diagnosed earlier. Your opinion is super valuable in this discussion. Hope things get better for you. And me. And all of us. :)

[@user7-o9w]

@@CG-lf8st I’ve struggled with ADHD since I was a child, haven’t been diagnosed until I got older. It is truly a major hindrance in my life. I am severe and low functioning, so I’m always behind on many things. It feels like my brain is a wild animal that I cannot control.

[@user-wm2tw]

What medications for ADHD inattentive you found to be effective?

[@vanesasteves6922]

I think you may be underestimating how important it is for neurodivergent folks to know that they have problems, but they're not the problem. The negative self talk and blame takes years to solidify and years to untangle. I'm sorry you didn't have support, I hope you have it now and can share your experience with your friends, so they can let go of "what could have been" with rose colored glasses ❤

[@robinmarks5638]

Another wonderful informative video! Thank you!

[@BethRockNRoll]

Hi! I wonder how ADHD and C-PTSD symptoms might overlap, sometimes even leading to misdiagnosis. I've been through complex trauma and now share many of ADHD symptoms myself, but not all of them. Nevertheless I struggle with time management, focus, emotional regulation and hormonal fluctuations as well, and I'd truly appreciate it if you made a video about this topic.

[@labicheceviche]

I would love to see a video about psychedelics and microdosing in ADHD

[@AJK278]

I am 59 and have just been diagnosed with ADHD

[@parklady4233]

I diagnosed myself at 40 years old. Depressed all my life because I couldn’t do what other girls could.

[@Luna1917a]

I was diagnosed during Covid in my 40s life changing with meds. ❤ video

[@amysinger2201]

GR8! Video Dr Tracy

[@D2J8]

Bravo for the diversity of the animations! 👏🏾🙏🏾

[@corylcreates]

I'd love a video on combined type ADHD. Just because one type is more common in one sex doesn't mean that's always the case. I'm wondering if I have ADHD, but even though I'm female, I fit more of the hyperactive presentation.

[@AntjeDebus]

Diagnosed at 54. The doctor doing the test even apologized to me, saying: you are among the generation of femals who was lost, and we now know how much you all suffered. Thanks, doc, very much appreciated. You are in a completely different class. PS: thank you Dr. Marks for including German in your auto audio thing - it will help educate my fellow females who do not understand the native soundtrack. Myself however annoyed as I can't switch this off on my mobile. And, having worked for Americans, I listen to English videos only: the knowledge in the English speaking realm is 10 years ahead of the mainstream. In fact two days before my diagnosis I received my order from an online pharmacy, and the marketing leaflet stated: most all ADHD'ers outgrow it. Hell no! 🤯 See, the neglect is real 😤

[@jambalie]

I wasn't diagnosed until my late 40s. Being medicated has changed my life.

[@sarahs.9678]

What do you take and what’s the schedule like for taking it?

[@sevenember3332]

Part of the reason why girls with the hyperactive trait were less diagnosed was the pressure to be “ladylike”. It wasn’t ladylike to bounce or jitter around or throw yourself at the furniture at full speed like my younger (male) cousin did openly. I conformed to expectation and did those things when noone was around. I was tested multiple times and the results were negative, once because the neuropsych said, “she paid too much attention”. Well, what we were doing was interesting! If he has filmed me during the paper test alone, he would have seen the struggle it was to complete. After that, I would suggest the testing standard should include leaving the person alone in a room with little stimulation while being filmed and see what they do.

[@Vashtibucket]

I’m not sure if having this info makes me feel better or worse. I mourn the life I could’ve had. So much potential wasted.

[@Teffi_Club]

Don't mourn, please. You cannot change the past, but you can improve your now.

[@Vashtibucket]

@@Teffi_Clubthank you for the kind words

[@chelsrench3376]

Yes!! Finally people are advocating for women on this. Also really appreciate that you’re talking about the impact fluctuating hormones can have. 👏

[@melodieneil712]

Thank you Dr Marks…again. You have helped me understand what is going on for me, and understand that it is real. I’ve been able to take what I learn from your channel to articulate to my Dr. what happens for me so she can help me. I appreciate you and your service to all of us.

[@CallieCatCuddles]

I was a few months short of being half a century when I was finally diagnosed with ADD! And almost a quarter century later, I'm still learning new information about it! In the beginning, I read Sari Solden's book, Adult Women with ADD, and it not only made my life so much more understandable but greatly helped me in so many ways. I'm so grateful for every bit of additional information as each new piece fills in the jigsaw puzzle picture that is my life. Thank you for what you do with your videos.

[@HeavenlyPresley-Tonya]

My Psychiatrist thinks I have ADHD My oldest son was diagnosed age 4 so its a Huge possibility I have BPD and CPTSD & Bipolar I just went through 2 months of Paranoia and I cry all the time - fun times Thanks Dr Marks

[@mrace2712]

I have had ADHD since I was a child and I still struggle to this day...I have many things I need to work on...sigh let's stick together yall WE WILL MAKE IT 🙏🏾

[@ireok4316]

Wonderful doctor❤