My First Gay Experience

[@andrewjackson5805]

Ben I waited until I was safe but it took 47 years in the closet to be safe. Now I'm in a nursing home but happier than ever

[@tommyparrott4172]

I just found your channel and subscribed. Really enjoying your content and vibe so far. I can identify so much with what you talk about regarding coming out. I am almost 40 and grew up in a pretty conservative family, but my parents and brother have been very accepting and I think always had a feeling that I'm gay. Sadly both my parents have passed away within the last 7 years... my mom in 2017 and my dad last year. I feel like the security and acceptance that they gave me is now something that has been lost with them and I don't feel like I can be as authentic with my family that is still living. I don't mean to make this reply so depressing, but watching your video just brought up a lot for me and it feels good to get this off my chest. I have yet to have my first in-person sexual experience with another guy, but like a lot of the things that have happened in my life, it will when the time is right. Thanks for reading. 🙂

[@piusmurray6378]

I am very glad that you said that you have found it possible to be Christian and gay. I am incardinated in an independent Catholic denomination, called the American Catholic Church in the United States, which is very open to the lgbtq+ community. We have gay priests like me, encourage participation in the sacramental life of the church, and perform gay weddings. Good for you! Hope you find a life full of love!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks for commenting. Glad there are more people out there that still believe in God and aren’t ashamed of being gay as well.

[@scarbluff]

I can identify with so much of this -- the needless self-doubt and the cautious forays forward. I'm glad there are reasonable voices like yours out there. Screaming and waving banners doesn't help individuals much; straightforward talks like yours do.

[@DonG191]

I am Protestant and I am gay. I learnt to accept my sexuality many years ago. If you can't accept your sexuality, you will feel guilty of your sexuality and live in denial.

[@TheMalcomT]

Just clicked on this randomly and was like wow, are you the most sincere and kind hearted man ever. Gave me the "feel's".

[@DrummondCulture]

Awe that’s really sweet of you to say!

[@booboolou8505]

Same here, stumbled across your channel. Really admire your honesty and I can tell you are such a kind soul.

[@yndalecioisaachinojosa4985]

You seem so honest in your narrative. You’re so sweet.

[@DrummondCulture]

I try to be as open with you all as I can be. I feel like it helps others who might be in a similar situation feel less alone.

[@corinsaleh2129]

Don't ever be afraid just enjoy the moment... Yup first times can be very very intimidating. Just be who you are and be happy.

[@michaelhoward487]

It's a shame that fear, guilt and shame imposed by society and religion can inflict such pain and sorrow on young people who are just trying to discover and embrace their humanity.

[@Stephenrsm7600]

Interesting, you sounded so very sincere in your video today. Thank you for sharing your first time with a guy. Love hearing more about you and getting to know more about you. Did you ever do the IF 1&2 videos???? Please let me know.

[@calebem8360]

I like that you are just being real and you, thank you for sharing this story. ☺️

[@_eric_5123]

No religion should interfere with who you love. Listen to your heart.

[@shaunstapleton3197]

I can understand how it must have felt with that friend staying with you; I get annoyed a little when people are in my space too, with their things. I can also understand what it might feel like to want to hide your journal when there are people around also, as there might be a chance they would want to look at it. I hope to watch more of your videos!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks for taking the time to watch my channel. Love getting feed back from the people watching my stuff

[@shaunstapleton3197]

You're welcome. Glad I could provide the feedback.

[@andrewjackson5805]

Longwood is where my grandmother and aunt went to school Ben.

[@upsupeter]

It’s a lovely story should not be ashamed of your first experience if we were all that honest I think our fist time was not that brilliant.

[@mcoppola]

I'm really liking your channel. You seem very genuine and funny. I admire your courage for being so open to the world. One can only imagine what's in those journals that you haven't mentioned already in a video 🤔🤣

[@davidlp6510]

The Galaxy S7 was the one that would explode for no reason, correct?

[@DrummondCulture]

No it was the Galaxy Note 7 that was recalled for the battery issues. The Galaxy S7 was perfectly fine.

[@ifsaica]

You're so cute. Being scared at first is normal, don't fret. Cuddling at first us nice and really calms things....what do you do? Job?

[@skyliner7333]

Beautiful sweet story.

[@DRthistle]

I also get sentimental about losing clothes to wear. This much more interesting than most coming out stories. Sex is important ..sorry you had to wait so long. Life is short. A moral of your story could be Fear less, Love more and don't be afraid to experiment.

[@joeyxoxox7915]

They make blue Jean patches that you can fix them and you can still wear them since they are your favorite jeans.

[@DrummondCulture]

They are long gone now. Lol

[@michaelmilligan7099]

Low rise boot from American Eagle very similar to Tyler at Buckle!!!

[@paulbrighton8206]

Bring them back to American Eagle. I brought back two pairs of khakis that were ripped at the back pocket, and they took them back and gave me new ones. :)

[@DrummondCulture]

They were a couple years old. I don’t think they’d take them back at that point.

[@paulbrighton8206]

Drummond Culture I have to tell you, they didn’t ask me a single question about how old they were. Next time! Love your video BTW.

[@bonnetlid]

I wish I could give you a hug.

[@brucedanton3669]

You seem very nice may I say-may I wish you well-thank you.

[@jameskantor0459]

If 1&2 does sound interesting

[@billd3356]

What a beautiful guy. The view from here is pretty good too. :)

[@tinalapoint9294]

Your sweet, be blessed 🙋‍♀️❤️👍🙏🌸🌷

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you Tina 😇😇😇

[@jameskantor0459]

It is ok to be single .

[@michaelmoore2991]

Great story. You're a very amazing person.

[@HotGirlXander]

It always comes down to myspace haha.....

[@geoffreytbh]

Matthew Vines and his KZbin video on "god and the gay christian" and his book of the same title really helped me reconcile my faith and my sexuality. God loves us so much regardless of our sexuality.

[@manchestertart5614]

Shouldn't be a throw away society, there are so many videos on KZbin showing how to repair your jeans,even if you hand sew them. If you don't sew, someone else could do it for you. Then you could donate them if you don't want them anymore. 😘😘

[@crazylow123]

r.i.p his fav Pants ...i like the story i never met someone who own diary i will read it if i was your friend is just the human nature and i'm sure u gone to meet someone

[@kcdoriangray8742]

Really enjoyed your video. I’m glad you reconciled your faith and your sexuality-a persons relationship to however you view the universe is very important to their sense of self. You’re right about the jeans-wasted time trying to fix a crotch rip-only made it worse lol. And your lighting is fine. 😉

[@geoffreytbh]

It's so important. It took me 20 years to reconcile my faith and my sexuality once I did I was able to come out to most people except my parents...biggest moment in my life.

[@ernestlam5632]

Using a Samsung. My second one 1st one still works but didn't want to stay with provider. Quality phones even if they aren't as user friendly as some other phones. They are durable.

[@unknowna8056]

I just had my first sexual experience today and I was very shaken i understand you

[@xemeraldwitchx6142]

I am a samsung person. I keep a journal.... I have to take it everywhere, my mom read my last one, she can't read this much. Too much personal stuff in it, and she is not really okay with the whole "gay" thing..... I am probably meant to be single right now too, I'm only 15, I probably should focus elsewhere.... I am out about everywhere but to my parents, even though my dad "figures"..... Your a cute person btw (not hitting on you) and being scared is perfectly normal, I have yet to have my "total gay experience with a guy I am into more than sexually".. Guess its not easy to find that kind of guy...At least in the "gay world"

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks for the message James. You're growing up in a world that has a lot more acceptance for you than a lot of us have had in the past. So don't let that acceptance go to waste. Stand up for your rights and your ability to love who you want to love. Silence will not get you anywhere. But a strong voice will bring you to place you never thought were possible. That's a lesson I learned in college and continue to learn everyday since then.

[@robertbrolo486]

@@DrummondCulture Bro you are cool Bro on youtube.

[@howardbaker1620]

@@DrummondCulture Well said!!

[@XVisionary978]

I always keep my journal with me, just to get rid of my emotional & personal thoughts. Glad I found your channel while I was looking around on YT. Your lovely personality got yourself a new subscriber! ^-^ Btw I also have a book with If questions, that I was going to make videos with.

[@johni0666]

Jeans can be re seated. (Esp favourites)

[@niveknanorc7316]

and when they get holes they are really comfy, and stylish !!

[@chicomacdonald7843]

Beautiful boy

[@darinprice99]

Hey, you probably don't remember me but anyway, I love watching your videos.

[@michaelmilligan7099]

Guests should be more hospitable.

[@garyg6000]

Great video by a nice, cute guy !

[@jonathansparks7558]

You live in Jerry Falwell country. By chance did you actually attend Liberty Universe????? 😎😎😎😎

[@MichaelSimpsonLegal]

It was nice to come across your video. You are a nice guy with a nice heart. You cover such a wide variety of things in your video and through this, the viewer is able to get to understand you better. I hope that you find your one soon, but remember that when it comes to someone else coming into your life, they will not be you, they have a different up-bringing and environment. That means you have to learn to compromise and accept things for the value of their personage and for a relationship, even at its most early stages. Good luck to you!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks for the advice

[@fahadalvi2389]

I literally thought you were talking to me. you are so sweet and so pure by heart I just want to hug you and say everything will be alright! You’re the most strongest person I’ve ever come across in my life! You’re so cute and its like I just want to know about you more and more ❤️

[@localguy7333]

why do you have that empty box in your video? And you call yourself gay, gays have more style than that. Just kidding.

[@localman12]

That's what I thought too, how non-gay of him.

[@spamvoid78758]

Who says it's empty? Lots of things would fit in that box.

[@drmc3617]

I like Samsung is a good company but I hate google and I will not use Google products where I can avoid it so I am an iPhone user now

[@nickxdangelopersonal]

I love Samsung im using a galaxy s9 to watch this!

[@elliotfryatt4754]

I love Samsung as well!!

[@donaldstorm4959]

Good Vlog!!!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks

[@lopezredone]

Loved this

[@arathperez7528]

Oh buddy you said it. Thx

[@orlycedro6948]

Hug and Love

[@johnbaker8930]

I enjoyed your video. I can so relate to your first experience because the same thing happened to me. I was so embarrassed at the time and didn’t know what to do but over the years,this story has been shared with our closest friends whenever we’re asked how we got together 33 years ago. It just keeps getting better.

[@tttnilai7073]

love u

[@richardh8355]

Your picture is hot ..sir

[@danielpayne5888]

You are so cute

[@angelopetinga]

❤️

[@spencerchow5241]

you are cute！！！

[@josephbaumann292]

I agree.

[@arathperez7528]

Your cute

[@DrummondCulture]

Awe thanks

[@vancenas3470]

You're so handsome,, wishing to meet you personally.

[@L-mo]

nice video, thanks!