Dry Hating: The Negative Friendship Bond!

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[@suzannescorner199]

If your female friend doesn't feel just as happy as you when you succeed at something, she ain't no friend. If she's gossiping about people's failures she'll also do the same to you.

[@shantelbaleena6154]

I can't count how many times I've experienced happiness and or sadness this year alone and the other person is just like ok annnn!. I've dropped so many people this year its crazy

[@suzannescorner199]

@@shantelbaleena6154 Isn't a wonderful and freeing experience to let go of the people that kept you down ?? It leaves more room for people who have a good heart and the brains that go with it 🌱!

[@shantelbaleena6154]

@@suzannescorner199 its stated with in my own family my mother and grandmother. So sad.

[@bplatonova]

Yep, if you talk about them, it's only a matter of time

[@bplatonova]

@@shantelbaleena6154 🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ most were church people

[@omowhanre]

It secretly makes me happy that no one knows your true identity. I love that you're winning at the youtube game and still have your privacy. It makes my heart soar. Thanks Ms Chloe

[@monicajoao5031]

some of us arent so lucky

[@raneesroom]

Facts. It’s giving “Lady Whistledown” and I love it!!

[@Berlanciamyrtil]

Yes.

[@ChildfreeLT]

And this is why I keep my circle very small. I rather have 4 quarters then 100 pennies. Edit: WOW!! Thank you for all the likes 😍😍

[@DeeCee84]

A word!!

[@tararobinson6023]

Love it...4 quarters...not 100 pennies💖

[@amateurastronomer9752]

Love the analogy!

[@divineshine4482]

Amen

[@dhylton21]

Well said.

[@chinwude_]

I've also noticed if you are a woman that doesn't sleep around, other women have this perception of you as if you're stuck up. Lol weird right? I see having high standards in general makes some women jealous.

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Soooo true

[@ninawestlake5005]

Bravo!

[@rrg8570]

I second that👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@brittneylamar9864]

I agree....People think you are weird if you are not ready or willing to have sex at a certain age. I caught all kind of flack for it. I was never insecure about it though....I just had no idea how judged I would be for my decision when it randomly came up in conversation. People also judge me because I don't like alcohol🤷Love yourself because no matter what somebody somewhere will judge you no matter what your lifestyle.

[@user-km5pv5vz8u]

THIS CONMENT IS WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR. & to think I was crazy for thinking this

[@MariaFerrerCurves]

2020 has been the year that I have let go of unfulfilling friendships that no longer served me. Even if that means friendships that were 10+years. I was sick of being sent ShadeRoom gossip, Wendy Williams Video Clips and Lipstick Alley threads belittling people. Enough was enough. I no longer wanted to affiliate with people who vibrate so low. I’ve lost 25 lbs (still working on my journey) and have achieved all my financial goals. Living my best life and so proud I got rid of the toxic energy.

[@christicapital]

Good for you!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@MariaFerrerCurves]

Hopeful yessss! I used to be an open book...telling all my business to my “friends” and sharing all my feelings and thoughts. Now? Shoot no one knows anything about my life and I’m keeping it that way!

[@MariaFerrerCurves]

Hopeful aww I’m sorry that happened to you hun but I’m sure it was a blessing for a new opportunity for you! Biggest lesson I learned is to move in silence! The most powerful person is in the cut hidden, the weakest person is out thriving off of attention. No more letting them know your next move ☺️

[@SagRising19]

Congratulations!!!!!

[@MariaFerrerCurves]

just1desi right?! This one particular friend would text me and say “Did you see Wendy Williams today?” And I would say “no I don’t even know what time it comes on, I can’t remember the last time I actually turned my tv on...been so busy with my clients and managing my business!” That’s when I knew we just weren’t cut from the same cloth. Here I am up at 5am working towards my goals and dreams not even taking a lunch break and here you are on the couch eating chips still in your pajamas watching pointless tv. We not the same boo, you gotta go 😎

[@honestlyonnie]

Another thing I’ve come to learn about jealousy... “ We might not use our words to tear you down, because that would be too obvious, but we definitely won’t say anything to lift you up.” - Know and Love yourselves first Ladies ❤️

[@msthang5366]

TRUTH

[@alisha55555]

My family is like this sadly, despite me being a supportive person in general. They will act like they didn’t hear things I said, etc. Sad

[@theaccessoryparadise]

Wow truth

[@t.jackson1039]

Facts!

[@chellysjourney6851]

This hit me because ive noticed that from a particular person and thought to myself like after i tell this person something that im going thru they never try to uplift me!!!

[@shonalucille]

“Having a good friend means becoming a best friend to yourself 1st” I felt that.

[@mytyjones6199]

Okkkkk

[@BriaBarrows]

Yup

[@JM-qg9bo]

I agree

[@persistentbliss]

THIIIIIIS❤

[@humilis42]

This!! I keep to myself now. Some women I’ve met have totally exhausted me. I just don’t get it and I’m done trying to figure it out. I enjoy peace and I find that when I am not really dealing with other females. It’s my sad reality at this time. Too much pettiness and draining of good positive energy comes from being surrounded by a lot of women. I’ll pass.

[@candylove49]

I had to cut off a “cousin/friend”, because of her sly, negative, jealous remarks about me. Since I’ve leveled up, became more open-minded, airy, flirty and fun she would make negative comments about me. “Why do you have to dress like that?”, “You don’t have to dress like that” “You don’t have to wear makeup” etc. I’m was sooo done ✅ with the negativity!

[@PrettyBeigeJazz]

Same!!! My cousin and I were really close and she seems to like negativity now. She brags about cussing ppl out and making them feel some kind of way. She's even been rude to me a time or two and I'm not interested in being around ppl like that - so draining.

[@ThreeLittleBirdsssss]

Lol been there. Like why you care girl. Let meeee be a hoe (if flirting, and dating around, not sleeping, and keeping up w my looks is being a hoe) LET ME BE A HOE. Why does it bother you??

[@candylove49]

Jazz Good on you! Protect your energy and your spirit. Surround yourself with positivity and love.

[@ashwlove321]

My sister

[@alonevera9622]

always felt like this during college and sometimes when i'm going out with friends. idk why but it always felt like i can't pose or take pictures and be sunny and happy because they'd be the one to judge me first more than the people around :(

[@Speechiegirl1]

Ladies, I always felt bad because I never could consistently find a good circle of friends. I always felt like it would turn into competition. This video makes me feel better about that.

[@Irene-ls5wf]

Having a good circle of friends can exist. In order to make friends, you must yourself be friendly. The method and standards by which we vet men to find genuine ones can be adjusted to vet women. Have standards and a goal of what you want the friendship to look like. And remember that, we all humans and a work in progress, so extend the same grace you give yourself to others. And not all competition is bad, there are healthy ones. For instance, seeing my friends advance and level up, inspires and motivates me to not settle and be complacent.

[@nneenaa3447]

Same here!!!!

[@darcyliliana4907]

Speechiegirl1 girl felt felt

[@Bliss-kt1hg]

me too omg

[@briana14333]

Same here. I have rolled solo since college and my life has been much more peaceful. And I've gotten to know myself so much better!

[@nessawithsmiles]

“She wants your lane and she wants your life” that is so real! I’ve dealt with this and it is DRAINING. I was at an event with her and throughout the night multiple men came up to us and asked for *my* number. She kept asking me “do you know him? Why did he want your number? What did he say to you? Interesting..” - I guess she expected them to come up to her instead of myself? Idk it was weird. But I cut that friendship off. Some friends really think you are in entanglement with them.

[@veeedgee]

Not entanglement Sis!

[@Speechiegirl1]

Has no one ever hit on her before? Lol why would she not know why the men want your number?

[@myriamwilliams]

Brice Vanderwoodsan yes big time gossipers the difference is they don’t don’t it as openly as women .Best believe they Talk a LOT

[@velvetstorm4563]

Here y'all go with this entanglement word 🤣

[@stephsteph1338]

@O Love That is true, them "dry haters" do try to "entangle" themselves into your life. They be trying to ride on your coattails. Lol!

[@relanaallen5513]

Chics are definitely a trip. Decades long so called friendships. Thats why its best to kick it mostly solo.

[@nashonharris7805]

Facts

[@stephsteph1338]

Yes, decades long dry hating....and then they have the nerve to try and copy your style and your personality, on top of everything else. Smh.

[@vfree4579]

@@stephsteph1338 and I thought it was just me or something I was doing wow. What is this thing with women we need women but we can't get along with each other what is this?

[@SagRising19]

I agree

[@stephsteph1338]

@@vfree4579 It's sad we have to experience dry hating. This is just my opinion....but the way this society is set up, it breeds jealousy and competition amongst women.

[@peacejoy8454]

My circle is so small it’s a dot. Learning to be my own best friend was the best decision I have ever made. I refuse to be the covert hater. I am starting to believe some women have bigger egos than men. Excellent video!!

[@TheJournalingSoul]

This should be Chloe's next topic... Being your own best friend.

[@peacejoy8454]

The Journaling Soul I agree! Great suggestion!!

[@nh55871]

Can’t handle women like that. It’s very childish. I don’t mind a little laugh privately here and there but not right in front of the person. So childish . Very common in the black community

[@Mizzshron82]

I’m trying to get there. Although i do have a circle of friends i only talk to 2 on a consistent basis. But lately I’ve been riding solo.

[@anitadavenport7209]

Wow, I use that phrase too. You got to know who makes the cut, and who to cut

[@SS-cu8se]

I have cut off what I call "Surface level" friendships, the kind where history is what bonds you together but the truth is y'all haven't been REAL friends for a long time. All I had to ask myself was, in my time of need, can I call them? And if someone gossips about me or talks badly about me, will they say anything? Or will they join in? That's all you gotta ask yourself to know if people are FOR YOU or JUST there. In the era of social media, our "connection" to these "friends" is literally just watching their lives online. If I don't talk to you in real life, I don't want to watch your life in real life, ya dig?

[@msthomas_222]

🙌🏾

[@tamarastone141]

That's truth right there.. I totally agree

[@tanzaniathomas8493]

This right here is the one!

[@evae5854]

Heard you girl. People think I’m weird for that. If I don’t talk to you in real life..I don’t care to know or watch your life. Wth? I’m big on time. Down to the second.

[@Toozip09]

💯💯💯

[@pop8612]

I learn to stay away from friends who complain about being single. Every conversation is about either an evil ex or how she can’t find a man. Even if you try to change the tropic the conversation goes back to negativity of being single. I had stop hanging out some people because they carry too much negative energy.

[@JWartsy]

Complainers in general ❌

[@monicajoao5031]

those kind of women are usually extremely stuck up boring and judgemental thats why they remain single

[@alonevera9622]

i complain about being single, because my friends make fun of me when we talk about men. our ideas about relationships are different, and they think it is funny that i have "standards". they literally told me "you're single because you don't entertain men" ofc i do entertain men, but if they're acting dusty should i pursue? no. i'd rather be single.

[@peacejoy8454]

If you were entangled with a group of negative, complaining, gossiping women chances are you were broken too. When you become conscious, you can’t even tolerate being around that energy for very long. You are what you entertain and that’s the inner work realizing they are only reflecting back to you the lessons you need to learn and wounds that need to be healed. Your higher self is looking for corrective relationships & experiences. Relationships are the university of YOU.

[@XailensWorld]

Wow very insightful

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

Well said! It reminds me of the quote, 'There are no friends, there are no enemies, only teachers'.

[@peacejoy8454]

Amanda's Painting Lessons Yes! If you don’t learn the lessons, the teacher will show up again & again with a different face and name.

[@JWartsy]

🙌🏽

[@whoisshi7907]

Couldn’t wait to use entangled in a sentence huh? Lol

[@Laquia]

I can't be friends with hurt people. Don't get me wrong, I'm not opposed to being friends with people who have problems because we all have them. I just refuse to be friends with people who use their problems to hurt other people who DON'T want problems..

[@myishaj7436]

This hypergamous walk can be lonely sometimes..Often come across those who love you til you outgrow the box they placed you in. So revealing....

[@pronouncethet]

I can’t stand the talking behind one another’s back.

[@humilis42]

Pronounce the T Exactly, I have instantly lost respect for people who do that. Especially when they are talking about someone that’s very kind and sweet. I just avoid catty women all together. Besides eagles don’t fly in groups. They fly solo and because they fly at such a high altitude, the only other bird they encounter is another eagle. I don’t have time for pigeons.

[@kynathomas4809]

@@humilis42 💯♥️♥️♥️

[@genesis-o8r]

I agree too

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes! If you have something to say to your friend say it to them not everyone in your group

[@BriaBarrows]

It’s the worst. Once I realize you are a drama type chick, I’m out.

[@thefashionintrovert8446]

My own two sisters stopped talking to me because I decided to pursue my dream of living abroad and havent had to come back home since. I visited last year and you could just see the disdain and resentment towards me and one of them even BLOCKED me on IG because they can't stand to see me doing so well and happy with my provider boyfriend. It breaks my mothers heart.

[@i.l.746]

To those brave enough to end these type of bonds, I offer the suggestion to mourn the end of these relationships. Most likely, they lasted long, you sowed many emotional seeds and you may have many or some good memories. Not all negative friends are malicious. Some are simply moving from an unhealed space. Mourn, move on and know you deserve so much better ❤️ #manifestthatshit

[@shavvanie]

Love this comment

[@dammmnnnkaytreezy__9914]

Great comment ❤️

[@briana14333]

best comment❤︎

[@angeleern9750]

I agree. I defend a friend of mine who clearly has done some questionable things to me. I don’t think she’s being malicious. I can tell she’s just not confident in who she is. I hope she gets there. I support her, but keep her at a distance until she gets there.

[@persistentbliss]

Beautiful advice...in mourning myself, the weight is lifting.

[@patricej8896]

What's also important is our need to check ourselves and see if we don't exhibit such traits. Yes I do sometimes feel jealous of my friends, buuuut I celebrate their wins genuinely. Mine will come. Lusting after what isn't yours is only going to block your blessings on the way. Besides we already have to deal with the patriachy and dusties, let's not fight amongst ourselves.

[@lightskinned-onpurposedos168]

Jealousy is a sickness. I’ve never had one jealous bone in my body. You really should pray about that. You should never be jealous of any woman. Period.

[@patricej8896]

@@lightskinned-onpurposedos168 The purpose of me mentioning that is to be honest. Good for you if you never had a jealous bone in your body. It doesn't negate my point.

[@amcglockton2]

Your introspection is a step in the right direction! Too many people lack this, to the point that I’m beginning to feel like it’s a genuine skill. I’ve been guilty of blocking my own blessings whew. I had to ask myself ‘if you keep having issues with life are you gonna keep blaming the outside forces or will you wonder what you’re doing to attract these unfavorable conditions?’. Had to stop looking at what I can’t control and focus on what I can. That last sentence is so true, sisterhood is still incredibly important and powerful. No, you don’t need a lot of friends but you should still have some, most people aren’t meant to be solitary; we *NEED* connection.

[@patricej8896]

@Leïla G agreed when put in that light. Thanks 😊

[@NBean90]

Very true! I see a lot of women who self sabotage all the time, every time they come up they automatically think everyone wants their life, or feels as if they need to be in their friends business, and then put on a victim face of “everyone’s hating”. It’s simply not true. Be your own friend first, and check yourself first and foremost.

[@M_Monroe]

Story time! I was friends with a young lady for over 40 years. I was a true friend to this young lady, I was there when she got used and abused by the drug dealers she loved with a passion, held her hand while she cried over garbage 🗑 men, was there through thick and thin. She moved to another state and we still kept in touch but what I realized was we didn't really talk or speak unless I initiated it. She would come to New York and I'd never know....not even a call to say, I'm coming home lets hang, now she was always the light skin pretty girl and I was the darker skined side kick because when I leveled up in the looks and femininity department she changed, when I visited her she saw the change and let me tell you....its wasn't a good visit, men of all races, creeds and colors were vying for my attention, as long as I was the less attractive side kick she was fine, made me really look back over our "friendship" and laugh at how naive I truly was. I changed my number and went on with life and new eyes. The upside is I now can see these devilish people for who they truly are....no second thoughts just moving along with no apology or explanation....girl bye.

[@divineshine4482]

I'm happy for you

[@kynathomas4809]

One sided friend ship's! Been there and done that.

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

So sad you were a true friend to her that is so so rare.

[@Lozie82]

Yes girl… bye!

[@90stype20]

@@prettybrwneyez7757 Same

[@camsteph67]

Common Enemies.... Perpetually Single.... Drinking Buddies..... Gossip Hens.... Count on you to Fail....Pretenders 😳 She covered it!

[@camsteph67]

I’m guessing the men she calls dusties do these same things 💆🏾‍♀️

[@GoldSkye]

@@camsteph67 yes! because they're feminine.

[@FemmeinBloom]

I need Chloe to speak on Narcissistic “Friends” cause honey... whew! They’re beyond detrimental! I got a frienimy ( that’s apart of my friend group) who’s covertly been jealous, contemptuous, manipulative & smearing my name, for years. I always knew something wasn’t “right” with her but it was only after, I began to heal myself through therapy & mature in spiritual discernment, that I was able to see the villain behind the mask. Completely shattered my belief, in Black Sisterhood. My Mother used to always say “You gotta watch that one, she has an envious eye towards you” and 14 years later, now look lol Word to the wise, always listen to Mama, she be knowing!

[@sistabigbone5822]

FemmeInBloom ok

[@jasminecaviar]

Wow I went through the exact same thing. This would be a great topic!

[@stacygreen9861]

I can’t totally relate.

[@kynathomas4809]

It's so refreshing to hear that someone understands what they are really dealing with. If someone doesn't know anything about narcissism they will NEVER know what exactly your dealing with. I had someone around me that I couldn't seem to get away from. I soon learned that she was borderline personality disordered person / malignant narcissist. She ticked ALL the boxes of someone with this disorder and would change faces immediately around new people. She threw a fit one day at work and went into a complete rage in front of our co -workers. I made sure I didn't ever speak a word to her again. It was humiliating but I handled myself professionally and now she's latched on to someone else. I will not warn the new woman because she already has her in her snare. I'm sure my name has been dragged already.

[@FemmeinBloom]

Kyna Thomas Oh honey, I know your pain all too well! Don’t it cut deeper when the abuse comes from a “Sista”??.... Like, I can comprehend men being shitty and abusive but with women, it always left me with deeper scars. The sad part is that, thanks to social media, the term narcissism has become this tokenized term, that’s thrown at every unfavorable behavior, when in actually it’s a real life personality disorder. NPD is the only disease that destroys the victims, more than the person afflicted with it 😒

[@stellank7931]

I've notice my life has been much better when I've been friends with hypergamus or women in higher circles with emotional content.

[@stellank7931]

@Blue Eyes it can either be at work, spiritual places, gyms or educational courses or clubs/leisure or going to nice bars and clubs in ladies toilets...its nice to support, compliment each other and network xx

[@BriaBarrows]

It’s much better

[@soulspirationgoddess]

I’ve always wondered why I never had a really good female friend. I’ve had women around me but I felt like I was the person that they needed for advice, an ear etc. where are the wise, like minded and confident women we can actually be companions with?

[@MrsGiggsxx]

I relate to this 100%

[@soulspirationgoddess]

Victoria Olamide it’s wild right? I know this video says to be weary but I believe that we all deserve a really good trustworthy gal pal. I wish that upon all women!

[@allartismental9319]

Absolutely! Omg!

[@soulspirationgoddess]

M. J.P. Right? Women thrive on sisterhood. No one understands us like we understand each other! That’s something we can manifest through our personal actions I believe, is a good, genuine friend! 💕

[@soulspirationgoddess]

Emunah • YHWH's Creation same! I couldn’t even imagine having that many now. Sounds like a headache to us! Lol

[@fcruz7679]

I recently lost a really good friend. A few months ago I leveled up, got a great job, lost weight, and improved my look overall. I brought a provider type around my friends at a dinner party. He was super into me, very attentive and affectionate towards me throughout the night. Ever since that day I don’t get invited anywhere and my friend doesn’t even call just to keep in touch. I’m grateful for my level up. Helped me weed out the haters

[@joyceadena]

Soo wonderful

[@TheDroShow]

sis you didn't lose anything "great". you dodged a bullet. amen

[@Blaquebarbgamer]

Congrats on your successful, screw her.

[@priyaplease6180]

A yogi once told me “Women will never get ahead as long as we bring each other down.” Love yourselves ladies. 🌸

[@vampiresuckssaysme12]

I know all about this... Been there with friends who always downplay your looks/efforts, never compliment, make you feel bad for your blessings, being jealous you get attention/have positive relationships, always saying "why not me" instead of "congrats" --My "friends" were doing nothing to better themselves and dragging me down along with them so they can feel better. I cut off all my "friends" in 2020. I've realised everythings going right for me.... when I was telling these women my business they were so jealous they would manifest negativity and things would fall apart for me. No one knows my business apart from me now, making my own decisions instead of asking the "group chat" like a teenager. I will only be making friends with other high value women full of self love from now on.

[@poochein]

Yes I had to walk away from a girl who I considered family. She was brought up to look down on me because I didn't have a dad in my life. She would tell me I wasn't smart, I should stick to art. She would make fun of my style and my music choice. Really make me feel below myself. She lied and said she got a scholarship to attend a particular high school. Come to find out she lied and ended up coming to mine. In which she made my life a constant hell for 2 years. Then I went off to uni and I cut her and her family off. Best decision I ever made. She still watches my "boring" life on Snapchat and I find it funny that she has an interest in my life when I no longer have an interest in her or her existence. This video really highlighted the blessing I had in seeing her negativity and ditching that toxic relationship.

[@Vv-fl2rm]

So proud of you for growing in your self esteem and sitting that B and her brew out of your life ❤️❤️❤️

[@candylove49]

Good! Block her on snapchat lol

[@YellaRoseBliss]

When I first lost weight and became more feminine, the first thing I noticed was my “friends” no longer wanted to be around me Lol..Then there’s the people that wanted to be my friend just because I lost weight and looked good 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@gifty2595]

I was literally praying and asking God to separate me from being around low vibrational frenemies. God please answer this and keep them AWAY

[@fluffypinkglitterwingz8082]

I definitely have been around women who have tried to hang out with me and steal my style and my swag. It was scary and creepy to me.... They would try to talk like me, act like me, do the things that I do. It was creepy. I really do believe that the main and only reason why they wanted to hang out with me was because they wanted to see how I was and try to steal who I was.

[@key_aria3475]

Going through this now

[@fluffypinkglitterwingz8082]

@@key_aria3475 😱 what happened?

[@IndigoCosmic]

Same. Its weird.

[@EbonyCurley-jd2ln]

Going through this and it is weird I've just find this clip

[@danicah6410]

This is so true. I let go of all of my "friends" a couple of years ago and they all keep trying to come back in. Some women really feel that it's okay to gossip about each other. It's so crazy. I had one friend recording me in the club, and a guy that I didn't know tell me about it. Another "friend" only hung out with me because she felt like she was better than me. After I let go of these people my life changed for the better. I asked God to expose the fakes and now I'm friendless. Remember, God might not have blessed you yet because of the people around you. He won't give you anything just for you to be used, especially if you have a good heart. Hope everyone here finds their tribe. Let the bitter bitches go, so you can glow!

[@b.alexisbeauty5013]

I legit had a fake friend who literally would ask me how do I do what I do, and how do I easily get people to provide and want to do things for me. She started wear her nails like mine, she tried getting her hair done like mine, and even tried wearing makeup like me...... it was quite pathetic and I had to tell her not only is it by how I carry myself, but I’m also just a genuine person. I’m a kind soul, I’m very smart, I can hold up an intellectual conversation, I accept compliments like.... I’m just me. She was very jealous, bitter and narcissistic. We were going to ALWAYS get different results. I cut her off, because she got extremely nasty and bitter with me and even stole a part of my designer sunglasses smh. Also, the person she was trying to scam and use for money and connections many years ago, is now my loving and doting fiancée 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@susie6208]

Omg I feel like I’m reading my own story about my cousin!! She asked me the same thing & how I get my boyfriend to pay for everything. She is terribly selfish & I had to cut her off. Those type of women is what men hate & call gold diggers. 🙌🏽

[@susie6208]

Blue Eyes I enjoy my boyfriend genuinely. I love men in general and I’m very intuned with my feelings & express them gently and it’s always received well. He loves how feminine I am. She dresses very feminine but is short tempered, rude, sassy and think it’s cute. That’s the difference

[@AdelleRamcharan]

I knew I was no longer on the same wavelength as my childhood friend when we agreed to spend a weekend at a popular mountain getaway to relax and reconnect. We both agreed that we were going to have SO MUCH FUN!!!! We decided to go out the night we arrived. In the hotel room that evening, I turned around with some tea and a book of constellations in my hand. She was holding condoms and weed.

[@sungoddess8883]

😩 eww 😂. I love your videos BTW💕.

[@AdelleRamcharan]

@@sungoddess8883 I know 😩 Thank you! I'm a huge fan of Chloe!

[@schmaelepaulection1431]

I don't mean to laugh but DAAAANNNGGG! 😂😂😂

[@LaporshaXO]

It would have been a perfect pairing minus the condoms. The stars and weed, such a vibe. I also enjoy hanging with people who don’t smoke but enjoy deep conversations. Also fun!

[@alisha55555]

Lol!!

[@natashaallen1687]

Being a good friend to yourself first is also important because you’ll know your worth, and when you know your worth, you won’t be desperate for friends to the point that you settle for friendships with low value women.

[@Ashley-rl7db]

Even married friends can fit this narrative. Someone mentioned in the comment some people are operating from unhealed places. Some friendships are trauma bonds. All you can do is encourage them to heal and you grow into the better woman for yourself.

[@Ashley-rl7db]

M Lane I totally agree

[@AshtasticAcrobat]

Fully agree and have SEEN this my self

[@loralove6290]

In my experience: fast friends are fake friends. I tend to overlook my intuition when it comes to dealing with women bc I overthink and blah blah blah. However, recently I've been trusting my first instinct like, nope she seems like a chick I can't hang out with. I'll be cordial with her until her true self is revealed. I'm like, yesss I dodged a bullet with that one.

[@try8042]

I had a coworker like that. She didnt like me, I caught her talking about me several times in a negative way, but always wanted to hang with me. I never needed the crowds approval. She couldnt figure that out, so she would always invite me to things. She couldn't understand why I didnt care about her opinion. I know who I am as a woman. In the end her scheming ways left her friendless. Then she tried to come to me for sympathy. Sorry I have nothing for you. Reevaluate your life!

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

God removed a friend that I thought was my sister. It hurt me so much. But to know she’s in the same position as before, I’m glad she cut me off 🙌🏾. Some people are addicted to pain and stagnation. That season is over for me and so is that friendship. I stopped asking why me and started thanking God it was me because now I don’t have to be around the drama or gossip anymore.

[@TheNewFeminine]

Very True. Some people are addicted to ONLY pain and stagnation which will only ruin your femininity. Thank you for your comment.

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Chloe_ omgeeee. You’re welcome!

[@charmaineespeut4627]

I had an ungrateful friend that cut me off because I was late for her birthday party. Didn't even say thank you for the gift I got her that I spent my last on. I was so hurt but I'm happy now. Most of our conversations was about her cheating husband and how she didn't want to have her son (I miss him he was a sweet child).

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Charmaine Espeut the crazy part is that she didn’t even give an explanation. She just changed her number after giving her my time and being a good friend. She rather continue talking to her stagnant friends 🤷🏾‍♀️. That’s how I knew it was God.

[@nessawithsmiles]

I love the note about being your own best friend first! I am learning that loving yourself comes with discipline. Discipline to do the things you dont want to do, but your future self will thank you for doing. Thank you Chloe_!

[@nessawithsmiles]

Lis Hurd definitely 🤎

[@bbgirl800]

Everytime she throws in "which is why you need to subscribe to this channel!" I lol, y'all better subscribe! 😂

[@tts6030]

Same, I love the self promotion! Absolutely deserved.

[@trolleybee5515]

Five years free of the toxic friendship I formed back in college!!!

[@veeedgee]

This is so true. In my early 20s I faced a lot of betrayal & did become my own best friend. Learned to do just about everything on my own & enjoy my own company almost too much! While I am thankful to not have that "friendship dependency" I am becoming more aware & learning not to let that leak over to my hypergamous journey.

[@NaomiMordi]

3:33 Women have egos. I've been saying this for a while, now.

[@sheissuchalady9782]

Huge egos and are highly competitive if you find one genuine friend you’re blessed

[@blackscreen4033]

As the overweight friend.. I can confirm I just was a pawn to them and they seemed quite happy to see me stuck in a rut. Dropped them after I realized they really couldn't care less about me and stopped accepting their invitations. I think about them but I'm mostly sad about how much hurt I collected through the years and why I didn't abandon them sooner.

[@Lozie82]

❤

[@moniquew3603]

So much truth to this video, its unreal! I had to cut off my toxic cousin last year. I realized that she was a covert hater. My husband, my friends, and some family members tried to warn me. I just refused to believe that my cousin would be jealous of me. Dont ignore the signs, because when I look back on the things that she has done and said to me over the years I realized when it was too late.COVERT HATERS love to disappear or get mad with you when positive things are happening in your life. She stopped talking to me when I graduated University, got engaged, didn't come to my wedding, was not there for my baby shower. I mean could go on, but pay attention to how your friends/family treat you when good things are happening for you.

[@NativeNewYorker212]

Damn, this just happened to me last weekend. My group of friends was hanging with a group of males and a nice handsome guy was pursuing me, but I had to leave do we exchanged numbers. The next day the guy was texting me all day. We were really connecting. I told my friend about it and she said don’t talk to him, we slept together the same night we all met. I called him and went off on him and he said “I’m truly sorry that happened because I really like you. Even if we don’t speak anymore, your friend is not your friend. I told her I like you and she kept pushing up on me and told me don’t let me see you talkin to another girl”. Smh... I’m almost done hanging with girls😤

[@patricej8896]

You better off without the both of them sis. They both were equally disgusting 😡

[@NativeNewYorker212]

Patrice J girl! I didn’t even tell her everything he told me, but I got a trick for her ass☺️😈

[@patricej8896]

@@NativeNewYorker212 That's some real nasty shit. Let God and karma get her and him. Cut them loose and make them both jealous by living your best life.

[@misslove7698]

Honey LIG it the trash was already taken out for you. Thank them for revealing themselves

[@bonvivant3704]

Girl join the solo life its amazing, just do associates only!

[@myishaj7436]

Folks definitely study and mimic a feminine woman's moves and opportunities. Just the other day my BBF from highschool out of the blue asked me if any of my exes were still pursuing me. I told her of course they are.. Then she came w a battery of questions. So odd but so revealing. Guess she is dating one of my exes secretly. She still my BFF from afar. Sloppy seconds for her.😂..ijs.. Besides first rule of hypergamy is to never ever be a man's secret.

[@monicajoao5031]

why would you tell the whole world? so they can get in your business and destroy your relationship with their negativity hate and judgements? if you want to be happy keep those things to yourself

[@rozaeallday]

My new motto has become ” I know a lot of people but I have VERY FEW FRIENDS!” It's funny how when you're in your feminine energy and you walk away quietly how much noise they start to make. I do not have to give anyone a reason why I'm choosing to leave this friendship. It's easy to spot women like this by judging the company they keep. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with! If her whole cycle is filled with toxic bitter women, then she's just like them! Don't be fooled by how she acts with you. Femininity is more than a pretty face, make up, and clothes. It's a biological program, it's in our DNA, our brains are wired to be feminine but if you allow yourself to be tainted a pretty face will only get you so far. A lot of women don't know how to be a woman. Energetically you present yourself as a man and it shows in every single way. You repel provided men and attract beta men.

[@ChiChichiwe01]

This comment here is everything 💯 percent sense!

[@urahotmess]

My mom couldn’t understand why I am refusing to give my older brother money for his upcoming bday year. And it’s not even him asking for it. It’s her asking me to do it. I told her no and he needs to start giving me Bday money instead. 😏

[@anikaelizabeth]

@M Lane My mom does that kind of stuff.

[@farida1797]

This sounds way to familiar

[@SagRising19]

Wow!

[@ladya1252]

I had to drop a 16 year friendship because of this. I wanted to go to college out of state and figure out what I really wanted to do with my life outside of my home town. I thought she would be happy for me but she was so upset. We haven’t been friends ever since. Never let anyone stop you from becoming your best self.

[@natashashere]

I had the pretender in my circle. She tried and failed once she blew her cover by flirting with my fiancé in my face! He look at her like the clown she is and i called her out. She’s now lurking as a Facebook “friend”. Lurk on hun 😄

[@cocomocha]

I do not care to have friends female friends are draining and drama filled I am okay

[@mildhoney2092]

That’s a fact!!!! They may start out good but then boom switch on yah!

[@DynamicallyDC]

No lies told Chloe!! 🙌🏾 Having a good friend, is being a good friend to yourself first. 💯

[@BriaBarrows]

I feel happier when I keep my relationship to my self. It’s just best this way. Even if you are friends. Watch what you share

[@wilmatouw4397]

two days ago, I said goodbye forever to a covert hater after 23 years. I feel relieved, no letting my selfrespect and selftrust be undermined by her anymore.

[@Nokss87]

Most women have these friendships I thought it was normal woman behavior, hence I don't bother much trying to build friendships with women.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

I prefer to have male friends or associates, they're easier to get along with

[@dalcox3250]

Don't believe the hype. Women need sister friends. Men are never a great substitute. Just find great friends, not frenemies.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

@@dalcox3250 I'm not saying women can't find genuine friends but I'm very particular who I let into my personal space & call a friend, confidant or an associate.

[@relanaallen5513]

💯💯💯

[@Lovely_Diva]

@@sophisticatedmm3632 Amen me too!!!!!!!

[@sunnydaze80]

Letting go of toxic friends this year and looking to build a new circle of friends. For too long, I've them talk bad about me behind my back so they can feel better about themselves. Like, they talk bad about me, but somehow are jealous of me, even though they have more "success" than me. It's weird.

[@monicajoao5031]

ive let these people go years ago they just recently pop back up and idk how to make them go away again cause i genuinely dont want to be friends...

[@tarlishajaebsnrn8430]

I’ve been friends with this girl for over 10 years and she tries to compete with me in everything I do. When I applied for a job and told her about it she went apply for the exact same job at the same facility and when i would start training she would be in training also. When I went back to nursing school she tried her best to get in. When I tell her about something good I’ve done or have going on she cuts me off and start talking about something she has done.. I’m so over it!

[@key_aria3475]

My friend is like this

[@charmaineespeut4627]

My mom is nearly 50 years old and she cut her childhood (I'm talking elementary school) friend off because her friend did voodoo curse on her. They always had issues but that was the straw that broke the camel's back.

[@schmaelepaulection1431]

Wooooowwwww, 😮 It really be the ones closest to you. But I can relate. I've had people in my own family (Father's side) do witch craft to see me fail. The joke's on them though b/c I serve a mighty God and my success has been confirmed and promised 🙌🏾

[@theseventhhathor859]

@@jjblack4905 lol thats what people think.

[@charmaineespeut4627]

@@schmaelepaulection1431 With a strong faith in God NOTHING/NOBODY can hurt you.

[@mattieliljoe4108]

@@theseventhhathor859 girl you telling the truth. I knew a woman who was jealous of me because I met a white man who spoiled me rotten . This so-called friend was praying bad luck on me and she even threw some type of nasty water in my face. I couldn't believe she could stoop so low. She is still an unhappy mammie still working like a mule to provide for her dusty. smh

[@theseventhhathor859]

@@mattieliljoe4108 people are crazy like that. Reflect that mess right back. And yes voodoo does work and it doesn't matter what a person believe in. It depends on who's in the right or wrong or knowledge obtained. Don't be fooled folks even witches calls on Jesus and micheal...The woman was in the wrong for trying to curse you for no reason/out of jeleousy. Stay away from those type of negative woman and stay positive.

[@m.s.5966]

I got out of a negative clique recently. One night I just S-N-A-P-P-E-D. Turns out I had been holding in months and months of covert mistreatment from girls who dubbed themselves my "best friends". Even after explicitly telling them they bullied me, I got a half-baked apology along the lines of "'I'm sorry if what I did made you feel that way" or "We shouldn't have teased you so much". Do not bother trying to "fix" a friendship like you would a relationship with a man. It is NOT your business to psychoanalyse how to fix your friendships or figure out their behavior. Sometimes they do not mistreat you out of jealousy, but simply because they are S-T-U-P-I-D and completely unwilling to hear criticism to be more educated on our world. If you don't get out ASAP, you risk going crazy like me and lashing out as a form of psychic self-preservation. Of course I'm not proud of how things ended, but I still get the peace my Mind, Body and Soul needed. Fortunately for me, I do not care that they need a group of low-value women to gang up against me - all puffed up to feel big. Me walking away and standing alone is proof enough I can and will go further in life. It is proof enough that I am and will continue to do the inner work and reflection to materialise my potential. All the other women they hate on got the relationship with the guys they liked or have the bodies they want. Now, I am on the same list

[@m.s.5966]

@@SH-vj2ce Glad we're in this together, Shernice! There's a reason why women like us gather in channels like Chloe_'s. I'm doing the same and choosing to be my own BFF too!

[@TheDroShow]

girl you are SPEAKING. I'm not explaining myself anymore, I'm not confronting, I'm walking away. Even when you confront nicely you are still met with lies, gas lighting, and in my case NO apologies. I'm no longer the strong friend, the therapist friend, etc. Other people's inner turmoil is their issue & I refuse to keep hanging around in hopes it MIGHT get better. Imo even that is a covert way people never change because their friends are still around & that's a signal of some sort for them to not do their own inner healing. I love your point about walking away being proof you can stand alone and go further in life and doing the inner work! I have come to realize a lot of people use their friends as crutches (see my above comment) & need to lean on them for support & validation. This is how so many toxic friendships go on for so long too.

[@m.s.5966]

@@TheDroShow PREACH! I've been thinking the same thing with that friend group I (stormed) walked away from! I noticed they're the types of people who expect that BS "Ride or Die" friendship. They're people who really believe you can talk anything and everything out...toxic as a poison river. People should have the right to walk away from anything. Why are they even so mad about it when they have a whole clique of yes-girls willing to stroke their egos? Because they're fragile and refuse to grow!

[@Teekayy23]

Unadulterated self love is key ladies . Create a full life for yourself that you are happy with. Like attracts like. Let other people be like cherries on top of your already amazing sundae

[@robynjaye659]

Those pretenders are dangerous, iv come across more than a few on my life

[@427skies]

I had to stop telling my friend some stuff about a guy I am seeing because I felt a weird vibe about it...

[@shadybrown1719]

What about the friends that u were genuine with and as soon as they get into a committed relationship they drop you

[@alonevera9622]

yes and suddenly think you're "different" bcs you're not dating anyone oof 💀

[@BriaBarrows]

This happens but it’s very foolish lol because a man isn’t everything. Although I do believe in keeping your relationship private

[@CrochetStudent36]

I agree these people exist BUT, as I've matured I've also learned the importance of a good Sister Cicle! Those women will find YOU! The people that leave aren't supposed to be there so wish them the best & live your life!

[@MsKaren-tb1lx]

I've recently confirmed a negative friendship bond with a former co-worker who I liked and tried to remain in contact with her, always talked about positive things and leveling up. I hadn't seen her for a while, so she asked for a pic to put in her contacts. I felt it was weird and haterish so I sent an extra cute pic and the girl went ballistic "Who do you think you are! You trying to be Hollywood now" etc etc. So I had all evidence needed🕵 I politely confirmed the hate with her, sent my best wishes in life, then CUT HER OFF! she said Gurl... I was just playing. Well no ma'am I'm not going to "play" like that. So beautiful BWomen, when you see it, call it out (or not) but certainly run fast🙅🏾

[@milesmorales5271]

She might have been hyping you up. It’s possible you may have misinterpreted the situation. But idk, it’s your experience, not mine.

[@risscaybaby13]

I just cut off all my high school friends, to petty and underlying haters. I rather be a loner and only have networking friends for our businesses

[@alwaysasweety]

I knew she was a negative friend/ frenemy when she tried to tell me to give a dusty a chance.

[@BriaBarrows]

This is why you keep your relationship private. And pray that your friend finds this. But distancing yourself is a good thing. You don’t needs them negative types

[@dorcaswg5726]

Yup genuine friendships never start from negativity at all it will be doomed From the start. Also women who revolve their entire lives around men especially dusty men are a no. I often say that I have a lot of acquaintances but few genuine friends for a reason.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

This video is soo true, I've seen this shit soo much on my job, when I was in HS & college. Ladies keep you female friends/ associates to a minimum

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

@@AprilHarmony9 Precisely I prefer male friends & associates

[@schatzi7124]

I was in an abusive relationship for more than a decade. When I finally left the abuser, all but 2 of my friends stopped speaking to me. One of them even told me I would take him back. These women even became friends with the woman this man was cheating on me with. My mother always told me they weren’t my friends.

[@Lozie82]

Damn. Hugs ❤

[@AlyssaHarrisMusic]

Another great video Chloe. Miserable people are drawn to you when your self esteem is low. Could you please do a video about toxic family that hinder your level up. Thanks!

[@key_aria3475]

I need that video

[@BaublesOfDelight]

Absolutely appreciate this! Was in a friendship for about 7 years and in the last 2 of them I experienced almost all of the above. Those final two years was when I began dating, got engaged and then married 🤔 I didnt understand it. But not long thereafter, I began to reflect and realized how she had viewed me the whole time. The MOST confusing part; she herself is married to a great guy and they have 2 children. They look like the model family. But I also started to see that she's the one people tend to step lightly with or keep at arms length. Its unsettling to think what possibly drives jealousy, even when a person appears to "have it all".

[@Monaedeezy]

I wonder that too.

[@BaublesOfDelight]

@@p_tiffanii I absolutely love that! "Happy people make people happy". That's one to live by. And you're right, joy comes from within. That's why the opposite is true that "hurt people" hurt people. Thanks so much, good insights!

[@CutieonDuty15]

I’m going through this right now. It’s time to cut ties

[@CutieonDuty15]

Butterfly Queen Right on time. If it’s not helping me it’s hurting me.

[@aprilanderson3689]

Omg!!! Chloe you always come through with the jewels my daughter is 7 years old and i already see it in these young girls that are very jealous and competitive already and I'm definitely already hipping my daughter to the game and i also dealt with this kind of stuff all my life i have dropped and disconnected myself from a lot of negative females in my life i hope i definitely will be able to save a lot of your videos as my daughter gets much older much love to you🥰

[@kellijasper5912]

My daughter who is eleven and recently had an issue with a "friend." She was making sly remarks about my daughter's preference for dresses. Joking with her in mean- spirited fashion. Thr final straw was when she started trying to spread rumors. It didn't work and now is being shunned by the same people she was lying to.

[@ajohonly3721]

It’s been a year since I decided to my own best friend and oh my lord the blessings are coming my way amazing af.

[@Itsonlyvibes]

I walk away all of the time. I’m highly sensitive so I can’t entertain energy that lacks positivity

[@mogetit5999]

When you become your own best friend and genuinely love yourself, it’s easy to spot a fake friend and a no good man. I began to truly love myself a year ago and now that baby daddy is in the picture 4 years later, the Creator has given me the discernment to keep it moving.

[@HopelessWanderer2]

You know you’ve made the right decision when your whole spirit feels lighter. Ended a near 10 year friendship after the slow realization I needed to arm myself mentally to just “hang out” with them.

[@jetlerouge007xxo4]

So true!!! So called “ friends” dropped like flies when I started my level up journey in 2016...

[@shani97y75]

To me I laugh when I go on ig and see #girlstrip with 10 woman on a exotic island together pretending to be best friends lol. I realized that if ur friendship circle is so big like that then most likely u only have really 2 out of 10 real genuine friends. I also notice that when woman have large bridal parties, most of those women in ur bridal party arent really genuinely happy for u. When my cousin got married I saw it first hand how having over 10 best friends can go left!

[@TheDroShow]

LISTEN! Now I hate to stereotype and put everyone in the same box, but I'm realizing this more and more. I went on a girls trip with a few and felt the jealousy and competition, not even 10. Folks better be careful who they go out of town with, especially in a foreign country. And I'll say this: a friend to all is a friend to none.

[@redvelvetcakeYUM]

The Listener. The kind of woman who is always listening m, but, reluctant to share. Always ears up and mouths zipped. When you ask them about themselves they are always masterfully vague. Had to the learn the hardest lesson that the most dangerous person in my life was the one I couldn’t see a mile away. Meekness and quite behavior can be covertly sinister!

[@gleanbs2512]

I’m 25 .. No kids .. Pretty which might be a burden at times.. I became an outcast when my last boyfriend upgraded my life and supported my education he also loved me.. I am looking for friends and new family who have self esteem likes to share accomplishments ready to empower someone else and someone who is ready be good friend.. 🙂 Dallas

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

Wow. Ive always thought about this but i thought i was overthinking. Ive had several negative friendship circles. Covid quarantine really help me evaluate my circle. I’m all clear now . It’s lonely sometimes but it’s for the best

[@krissygreene6279]

I only consider myself to have 1 real friend. We’ve known each other for 15 years. Lately I’m having a hard time deciding if it’s really a friendship with meaning. We talk DAILY, we know each other’s secrets. However, I can count on 1 hand how many times we’ve hung out in person. We grew up in the same area, moved to the same city later in life, but our lives took a different turn. I went to college and was exposed to many different things and that’s where my mindset shifted. She didn’t-and that’s OK. You don’t NEED college to create a good life for yourself. I used to tell her my accomplishments and she would never really congratulate me, so I stopped telling her. It’s to the point now where I feel like I have to downplay my accomplishments just so she won’t feel some type of way. Anytime she does ANYTHING that is a step in the right direction, regardless of what’s going on in my life I make sure she knows I am happy for her. I never get that same energy back and that’s starting to be a problem for me. She has 5 children, 3 of which she’s had in the last 2 years by a dust bucket that she knew less than 6 months before getting pregnant. He has no car-he drives HER car that she pays the note on, yet he keeps tabs on her whenever she’s in it. He lives with her while paying NO bills, doesn’t put food on the table, an alcoholic who has attempted to jump on her a few times while drunk .. doesn’t help with the kids.. She’s basically a single parent with a man laying around. She’s someone who would rather have a piece of man than no man at all. I am no saint. I got into a situation with someone who I thought I knew better than I really did. After everything ended, I realized he was VERY similar to her man. I’d known him for years. He had a degree, car, job, a place, dressed nice, etc, so I never equated him to being a dust bucket. I was wrong. I allowed him to talk me into moving him into my place when his lease was up. We agreed to do 50/50, however, it ended up being 95/5, he was controlling, wanted wifely duties from me but he couldn’t do the bare minimum. I prayed my way out of that situation and vowed to never go back. Since then, I’ve been on a journey of healing and leveling up in my life. Progressing in my career, traveling, learning to love and respect myself, and waiting on the man God has for me before settling down and having children. It's very hard; sometimes I find myself wanting to settle because it seems that’s the way to go these days. However, that one time I settled I saw how bad it was, so I won’t do it regardless of how lonely I get. It’s the complete opposite for my friend. She has total chaos in her life and is very unhappy although she won’t say it. I believe she thinks she is in too deep, or maybe even afraid of being alone, so she stays. Not sure if jealous or hater is the right term, but I think her situation makes it harder for her to be happy for anyone who refuses to settle for her lifestyle. Especially so with me because we did grow up similarly, from the same place and our lives are so different now. The things that I want to do are different, even the conversations that I’m interested in are different. We still talk daily, but our conversations are without substance. There seems to be a disconnect on both ends but because of time invested, we won’t let the friendship go. Simply put, it’s just not fulfilling to me anymore. She is ok with mediocrity, and while I have been there before, I refuse to stay there. The dry conversations and negative energy are sucking me dry. I am trying harder to surround myself with more like-minded people. I have no time to sit around and bring myself down for other people and their lack of wanting better for themselves.

[@krissygreene6279]

@Happy To Be Nappy I completely agree!

[@naomiyehdego6119]

I just lost a big group of friends because of jealousy and dry hating. My current boyfriend (a great man) was friends with all of us and then he fell in love with me and we began a relationship. a few months later they are gossiping lies and rumors about how he treats me bad, when i’ve never once complained. It’s sad actually, their delusion. When i confronted them, they claim that “I can’t see it” and “they care for me”. It’s ridiculous. Then they flirt with him and stalk his social media 😂 clown behavior

[@Brenda-uf8pk]

“If u want a friend group u Have to be your own best friend” love that

[@urnkimshouse]

...also, DO NOT meet a guy with your girlfriend/s around...Hell any woman😳😩💯

[@debbyluxe]

DO NOT your friend could try to get with him 😩

[@zaria_treasuress]

Yesss!!!

[@missraeray]

I’m a cancer ♋️ so when this happens I just cry and go ghost on these friendships . Thought I was alone in this . I feel better knowing other sisters go through it

[@SimplisticallyDigital]

Nail on the head Chloe! This was the story of my 2019. Getting attention from a man. The Frienemy started going after him and told me that she is gonna get him. I was like, ok go ahead. Almost a year later and she is still manless and miserable. I realize that she befriended me to see what the secret sauce was, and when she learned what it was she was successful at sabotaging the friendship that I had with my former male friend. If nothing else, I learned to vet women sooner and to move on from friendships that begin to turn toxic.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

Absolutely Absurd. She's too desperate for a man

[@SimplisticallyDigital]

Michelle McDonald Absolutely!

[@Day_S]

This is so true but triggering for me. I cut off all my negative friendships years ago but I still have some healing to do. You have to be careful who you allow to put negative ideas in your mind. Those things can still affect you years later.

[@reflections4me]

Last week, I had to cut off all my female family members, all of them, except my mom and grandma. I had to do so, for the first time I noticed how negative and self hating, gossipers, tongue twisters, men worshipers even when that men is abusive my female family members are. They are the epidemiology of pick me. With the quarantine it became worse then coronavirus. I had to let them go.

[@TheJournalingSoul]

Same

[@prettybkchick6348]

I think companionship and camaraderie amongst women is beautiful. But it’s definitely not easy to achieve. There really are haters out there in the world. Leave them in the rearview where they belong.

[@cocojuviie1135]

I cut someone off simply because we were on two different types of time with life and I had more negative to say than positive I’d rather walk away than be a fake

[@msp6469]

I actually completely cut off two of my negative friends. Also stopped going certain places with other family members to concentrate on levelling up. I found they would try and guilt trip me into going places where we’d end up drinking alcohol and also guilt trip me to spending money that I didn’t really have. In the end I stopped going out with them and blamed it on eating right, and exercising so they eventually stopped asking me to go to those places. I actually lost 2 stone in the process.

[@Galaxyfriends3]

Ladies the cartoon “Barbie Life in the Dream House” is a documentary because all of this is in it. I’m going to go back and look at the episodes with my daughter and dissect them with her 💫💫

[@LaporshaXO]

Same! That show is gold!

[@mscarmenmonee]

Yesss. The one bitch with the black hair stayed trying to one up Barbie. I loved how barbie always ignored her kept it classy and let ol girl embarrass herself.

[@lavieenrose_marie]

Wow, you know what? This is so true! It really does teach girls at a young age how to deal with the frenemy

[@zaria_treasuress]

Now that you mention it