Are you THE ONE or Just Someone?

[@tanishawallace5968]

I was in a relationship from 2005-2019 with a promise of marriage. He broke up with me to be with someone else and married her within there 1st year of marriage. I was confused and heartbroken. I lost so many years. Please listen to me! Know when to move on. Know your worth.

[@lovergirl________]

I hope u have healed ❤

[@I_Am_NiiTA]

Don’t worry. He’ll regret it

[@justwannabeme5388]

​@@I_Am_NiiTAStop saying stuff like that. It's delusional. If he regretted it or cared, he wouldn't of done it. I know you're trying to make her feel better but that's not the way. It's okay to be rejected but she's giving a teaching that we should receive the lesson from. Men know who they want and it doesn't take years to know who he wants to get married. Your time is your time and have to claim your time at all times. For the lady who wrote the post. I pray you get healed and enjoy life. Connect with the man who cherishes and respects your time❤

[@lf3554]

Future faking is real actions only not words sorry this happened. Just don't let no one play with you like that again.

[@valarieford1778]

I gave to much. He got his Karma the next relationship he told me. Today I don't give much. You help when they are down . When they make it and forget you.

[@Keiaradise]

Unpopular opinion but if you’ve had a baby with a man and he’s not your husband, you already lost…. Please eradicate this baby mamma/daddy culture

[@urbanflight820]

This is a popular opinion. Ladies just aren't taking heed.

[@Keiaradise]

@@urbanflight820 revise** popular opinion 😂

[@VerleanHurd]

If youve had sex before marriage you've already lost.

[@biscaynesupercars]

🎯🎯🎯

[@charmaineespeut4627]

They sacrifice their body, freedom, and health for a man who won't even commit. That is so embarrassing.

[@Atim-q6q]

She’s not serious… And she’s not tired yet.

[@paigenicholespeaks6172]

Facts to both. He's still her boyfriend. That's how we know she's just talking

[@VerleanHurd]

Exactly. She don't have a ring, because she hasn't demanded a ring. Men do what we women allow. Men know who they can and can't play with. It begins and ends with us, ladies.

[@woryenehbenson4702]

That part

[@Atim-q6q]

@@paigenicholespeaks6172 she’s still there talking lol

[@Atim-q6q]

@@VerleanHurd Exactly

[@thehypergamousjourney]

15:30 “Ladies, men don’t respond to our emotionalism. They respond to our actions and they respond to our absence.” Gold.

[@kuug6060]

The whole truth!

[@nerlyferistin6361]

Your boyfriend is holding you back from your future husband.

[@OpulentAristocrat]

‼️‼️‼️🎯

[@miahlove1753]

Preach

[@ShekaGolden]

She’s holding herself back.

[@yasminogbu8929]

👏👏👏

[@cookie4uc]

She is still sitting there. LEARN TO DETACH. These men will drop you for a woman they’ve just met. FLEE for the love of god!

[@crystalwaters513]

“if he proposes i’m going to say no” but she says nothing about leaving, like girl you’re a loser

[@cookiesandpie4837]

Facts

[@cookie4uc]

@@crystalwaters513 exactly. We must put ourselves first. It’s like she’s sitting on a shelf….BABY HE IS NOT TAKING YOU OFF THE SHELF. He doesn’t like her. It’s infuriating 👹

[@crystalwaters513]

@@cookie4uc exactly!! if a man says “in one year if we’re still together i want to marry you and try for a baby” and then a year passes and he says “maybe in 3 years” and then 3 years goes by and he says “maybe 5” he’s TELLING YOU TO YOUR FACE that you are not the one! he knows he doesn’t want you, and she should know by now. she’s settled for being a baby mama as if she can’t leave him and find a man who will marry her, it’s ridiculous.

[@merlene_k]

I don't even see what's so special that she's so attached to. He's a liar and they're going 50/50.

[@nkanyezinadine]

Venting on social media is like telling the whole world how you sell yourself short to a man amongst many men.

[@Pinkpanda811]

Yeah it really is loser energy, and I hate that for us.

[@pineapple997]

And embarrassing yourself as a woman while at it.

[@lisalynch2349]

Yeah it's sad so now you're telling the world your business!! Make it make sense 🤦🏽🤷🏾

[@TheAshMcG]

Revealing dirty secrets is never a bad thing. We are as sick as our secrets, Her testimony may save another younger woman from repeating her mistakes.

[@TheBrookeAshley]

‼️‼️‼️

[@bbgirl800]

The fact that she said" I'll say no" instead of " I'm leaving now" is delulu

[@thesovereignwoman6418]

This should be pinned

[@mwright0428]

I noticed that too

[@AyeishaN0Curry]

She was venting. Nothing to see here

[@beautiful8853]

💯

[@butm5125]

It's not even the right kind of delulu, and I hate that for her 😒 😑 like girl leaveeeeee

[@elizabethgatling1271]

"Why are you STAYING if you are going to say no ?"

[@kiarasodivine]

That makes sense. The best thing to do is leave at this point.

[@1bluegreen2]

Definition of playing herself

[@PineapplesCoconut]

She thinks saying no is hurting him but she hurting herself.

[@reneedennis2011]

Yup.

[@tamarawilliams1197]

How is she going to say no to a proposal that is never going to be made?...I was so confused

[@kiarasodivine]

She really is by continuing to wait. I hope she learns to love herself and put herself first.

[@ktokie338]

Either way she looses. She loses if she says yes or no but I feel like saying no would be the best option for her self respect and dignity. She can also find a better man.

[@AbiaSaloise]

It looks like she is still waiting on him, she needs to choose herself.

[@sheilahawkins8861]

He's not going to propose dear.

[@VerleanHurd]

Nope.

[@user-u7u8b]

And honestly, why would he? He has the best of both worlds, practically single and a free babysitter and regular segggs. The girl has lost this battle, time to move on.

[@MedusssssaChristo]

Why do you type sex that way?

[@sheilahawkins8861]

@@user-u7u8b She is a beautiful fool

[@theladykat2601]

He might propose to shut her up and then she will be a lifelong "fiancee".

[@quinnterry2834]

She did "wifely" duties without being a wife. Men only understand actions, and they are only as faithful as their options. Sorry babe!

[@VerleanHurd]

No lies detected.

[@Sheya404]

This .. listen ladies and it’s coming from a man!!!

[@fayetk7423]

She's not going anywhere, she's still moving the goal post, "if he proposes I'm going to say No", "unless he pulls out all the stops I'm going to say No", "if he doesn't propose before July I'm going to say No". She's still not tired of this man playing in her face.

[@urbanflight820]

She doesn't take her own self seriously.

[@crystalwaters513]

i knew she wasn’t tired because she made the video venting. a woman who was actually going to leave, would’ve posted a story about how she left, not what she’s going to do. it’s giving she’s trying to publicly shame him into proposing

[@fayetk7423]

@@crystalwaters513 Right? That's exactly what she's doing.

[@nataliejo336]

She’s not going anywhere. She knows it, he knows it.

[@mac9683]

I feel like anything over 2 years of dating is a placeholder situation

[@tamarawilliams1197]

Anything over one year...please go back and watch ALL of Chloe's videos

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

I think it depends on the age. I don't think it applies so much for people under 23; people are still trying to get themselves together around that age and it takes a few years to do that.

[@user-u7u8b]

It's a hostage situation😢

[@ZNMelowLeloNeka]

I'm from South Africa, within a year the guy should have gone home to state his intentions and started to pay the brideprice

[@roma5809]

2 years is too long. 1 year is enough. Especially for women 22 and up. Your 20s are your best years. Do not waste it in a 2+ year relationship with an indecisive man who’s using you for sex and domestic labor.

[@operationprisonlink]

No LETS BE HONEST WOMEN- Her man doesn’t think she is the one .. Men don’t take that long for the woman they want …

[@VerleanHurd]

You hit the nail on the head. His next gf will get a rig in less than six months.

[@THEIDLESHOW]

Exactly! Girl has to move on! Who knows what opportunities she’s passing on by being committed to this foolishness.

[@graciouslyloved10]

Ladies lets learn to detach...Have a certain time personally less than two years....

[@fayetk7423]

Exactly. She is talking about her bf's timeline as if she doesn't have one herself. 🤔

[@KevonnieElaine]

@@fayetk7423right. That’s what I said “girl you don’t have your own?”

[@all4Dorian]

Exactly! I had my ring in one year smh omg. Do not stick around with these guys

[@keptbygrace6221]

@@all4Dorian Me too! Ultimatums do work and we're going on 18 years. 😄 Don't let these guys waste your time, ladies. They know pretty quickly if they want to marry you or not.

[@Black-Butterfly-B1]

Exactly, 💯

[@ndgostardust645]

He didn’t take her to the wedding??! Girl 🚩🚩🚩 Leave or let him be your boyfriend in peace.

[@VerleanHurd]

Exactly, you get no sympathy here.

[@janedoe5510]

This part is CRAZY

[@notallabouttarot5194]

😂😂😂so right

[@traceydean2803]

That’s what I was thinking when she said she never met the friend.. so you didn’t go to the wedding with him? You’re either a secret or just the baby mama to the friends and family. They don’t even know y’all in a relationship

[@Mac-pluto]

I don’t think she realizes that she’s actually the side chick 🤦‍♂️

[@moniquew3603]

The man did not keep his word, and that would've been enough to walk away. She stayed, had a baby, and so he kept playing in her face. She messed up!

[@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663]

Right ✅️ 😊

[@cyniczen233caines]

She played herself, plain and simple. Going on social media is her putting salt in her own wound.

[@fayetk7423]

Absolutely 💯

[@VerleanHurd]

I'm glad you said she messed up.

[@user-u7u8b]

Putting the cart before the horse is never a good approach. Marry before you carry.

[@ajilariyike]

Men don't like 50_50. They do that when they want to con you.

[@TheQGerard]

The fact she never met buddy’s best friend after all these years is one of the wildest parts.

[@fayetk7423]

Exactly. She wasn't her man's plus 1 at the wedding? Who did her man take to the wedding?

[@HarrietWanjau]

​@@fayetk7423 probably his dream girl.

[@VerleanHurd]

Not really. He's not taking her serious. Why would he introduce her to his bestie?

[@VerleanHurd]

​@@fayetk7423 The woman hes going to eventually marry.

[@Black-Butterfly-B1]

A woman he met at the wedding…

[@antasiashaw8815]

She just needs to leave him and stop watching his friend’s relationship and comparing the two she will never be happy

[@christy3d]

And why keep telling her about this “friend” but she has never met him? And you aren’t doing the same? Sounds a bit antagonistic imo..

[@VerleanHurd]

​@@christy3d Because, he's playing in her face, and she's allowing it. He don't have to do any of those things.

[@kiarasodivine]

That’s true. Comparison is the thief of joy.

[@Ruthforme]

Stop comparing yourself, you will forever be miserable. You have lost all his respect. Why would he respect you now? You’ve given him your womb but he won’t give you his name.🤦🏽‍♀️ SMDH My brother is doing the same thing to his BM, while she’s in my business because I’m engaged. I just don’t date any and everyone. I believe in quality over quantity, so I will wait before I settle. We must respect ourselves ladies.❤

[@kcc09kcc]

One of my older cousins was in a relationship for a very long time! I met her when I was in 2nd grade and they broke up when I was in 10th grade! By the time I got to 12th grade, I got invited to his wedding to another woman! I learned a valuable lesson: Don’t Let No Man Waste YOUR time!

[@keptbygrace6221]

I'm the exact same way. I learn from the experiences of others. One of my (white) classmates in college wanted to get married to her boyfriend. She said if he doesn't propose I'm leaving the country. All of her class projects were about teaching overseas and learning new cultures, etc. That dude proposed within a few weeks and they were married by the end of that year. You have to make them understand that you will move on and if they really want you to stay, they will step up. They've been married over 10 years w/ 3 kids doing well.

[@kiarasodivine]

Big facts! One thing we’ll never get back is our time.

[@fleekfitcaribbeanhip-hopda3197]

Ironic thing is I’ve seen many situations like this where they’ll finally break up and the guy will MEET, PROPOSE 💍 AND MARRY someone ELSE within a year!… You just have to cut your losses and realize when you’re not the one! Before you get too resentful and bitter.

[@sunmoonrising81]

I cut off a male friend for this. Lives with his BM with two kids going 5 years. He just went to a party one night with friends, met this white girl, married her privately in 3 months of knowing her and moved out on his family. I did cuds him out for saying the kids arent his and deny rhem any support. Today he has 2 mixed kids with his wife that are his world while disowning his first two

[@yhudson41]

Facts

[@kiarasodivine]

Exactly.

[@ajh.4131]

@@sunmoonrising81it’ll catch up to him eventually. Hopefully the ex-gf healed properly and the first 2 kids know they’re loved.

[@2davivadiva]

Yuckkkk 🤮

[@holamissmusica]

The fact that she will refuse his proposal but remain as boyfriend and girlfriend is wild and wrong.

[@taniaslam8429]

It doesn't seem like he's going to propose anyway

[@fa9183]

Like she has the choice 🤣

[@lisajk225]

The fact that she had a baby by a man who wouldn't commit to her was reckless!

[@no.6377]

I'm so confused by the reasoning, too. You're gonna say no after venting about how unhappy you are to the whole world? After having a baby with this man? She's coping hard😢

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​@@lisajk225 Exactly. This is so ridiculously common now SMH

[@Camille-st6mz]

He obviously thinks he is the prize. I made you the mother of my first child.... how about I made you the father of my first child. Weird

[@msc8245]

Yep!!! His selfishness, entitlement, manipulation, and abuse, IS SHOWING!!!!!

[@VerleanHurd]

​@@msc8245 He's doing what she's allowing. She's not victim. Stop it. This is what happens when you don't have standards, rules, and boundaries. Her bad choices. No accountability.

[@chipwanderlust113]

Teenagers get pregnant all the time, one night stands can make a baby. That really doesn't mean anything.

[@yasminogbu8929]

Yep

[@icycici6191]

​@@VerleanHurd Wrong, both people are responsible for co-creating the relationship. If he didn't intend on marrying her, then he is responsible for his actions in the relationship.

[@ClaireHaire]

*If a man does not marry you, he is not worried about another man taking you away from him. It is so simple and she was talking in circles, men know who they can string along. Also, stop thinking men feel guilt like women do. I promise, he will meet someone and wife them up before Christmas, if that's his dream girl.*

[@OpulentAristocrat]

‼️‼️‼️🎯

[@itsmishell]

Ladies don’t lay down with a man off the bat. Don’t give a man a child immediately. Keep a strong mind, and don’t think yourselves less than a man

[@kiarasodivine]

Facts. We are the prize and don’t let them tell you different.

[@kamjohne523]

My question is why would she have a baby 4 years in when he broke his 1 year promise?

[@tamarawilliams1197]

Trying to keep him...thinking a baby will make him want to marry her...

[@kayp9318]

He broke the 3 year promise as well….. she lost her mind

[@sphinxkitty4951]

I wanna see what the boyfriend looks like because there’s no way 😂😂

[@fa9183]

A man's words mean zilch.🤣

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

True. But the first time she messed up is by moving in with him. Call me old fashioned, but shacking up ain't it! 🙅🏿‍♀️

[@itsstillhair6263]

It’s not too late to leave

[@fayetk7423]

It doesn't seem like she's considering leaving.

[@littlelamb7890]

RIGHT!!! LEAVE NOW THEN ! 🤨🤨. Why wait?!?

[@imo.124]

She needs to not get pregnant again!

[@VerleanHurd]

She's not going anywhere.

[@mwright0428]

Right!

[@Aaliyah_M653]

I’ve been engaged twice and they proposed within a year of dating! Their exes were women who stayed with them for over 4 years. Yeah absolutely not and my dad would’ve stepped in for sure! As for myself, I simply got cold feet 😅. Later met my husband through my dad, married 9 years. He’s 37 and I’m 29, pregnant with our first child. We decided to put off children to enjoy our marriage without children. I make $200k and he makes $350k+ …. But since I’m pregnant I’m retiring, he doesn’t believe in women working child or not, but allowed me to work. PS: He said men stay because they’re comfortable. Free sex and free food, until they find their wife. When they meet a woman with real options and she’s a wife, they move fast.

[@tam6011]

Right he doesn’t like her and never did

[@marieporter6631]

May I ask, what do you and your husband do for work at the time to earn high income? Blessings to your growing family.

[@patriciahercules6852]

Don't ever leave your job.Get a babysitter .Men switch up after a while

[@softersideofc.c.5655]

EXACTLY

[@mi3helle707]

❤

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

She has let him restructure the relationship everytime.

[@cassandraabston8311]

Yes, he did not honor anything he told her

[@kameronalexander5245]

Here's the thing... a proposal/engagement does not mean marriage. People be "engaged" for years.😢

[@kiarasodivine]

Facts!

[@gingerhalo123]

Exactly.

[@kaoshi_kutie]

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[@kjerit630]

If you are not living together even after the propsal, it is unlikely the engagement, it will be prolonged. You will end up with a shut up ring if you are cohabiting and been together for more than 2 years.

[@nubieblack886]

I don't know how old she is but she clearly gave him her best years.....

[@Yulondia5225]

You are right, Lady! GAVE it to him bc he definitely didn't EARN IT...

[@Pinkpanda811]

Aww, you think so 😢

[@Yulondia5225]

@@Pinkpanda811 She invested like she was wife already. You never tell a man how to BE A MAN. She gave AWAY her crown.. And Kinged him...

[@Yulondia5225]

@@Pinkpanda811 She only talking about the aesthetics, the proposal/wedding; not the Marriage. She's broken and needs to HEAL.

[@Pinkpanda811]

@Yulondia5225 Good point! A lot of us get caught up in the aesthetics. I've been there.

[@blablabarb]

I scroll past all post of women complaining about their horrible husbands/boyfriends because these women aren't going to leave these men. The woman in the clip hasn't even considered leaving her boyfriend. She said, "Oh well, I guess I'll just be a babymomma," and will continue the relationship with him as if that's the only option.

[@VerleanHurd]

To her it is.

[@tamarawilliams1197]

She is speaking from a scarcity mindset...she has low self-esteem

[@tishr9670]

Comparison is the biggest thief of joy. He thinks he can do better. She wasting her time. Bless her heart.

[@fayetk7423]

I don't know what is she doing comparing their situation to the friend's, her focus should be on her aspirations and whether she and her man are on the same page as far as their relationship is concerned. Focus on whether her man's words and actions are aligned, because based on what she shared, that's not the case.

[@VerleanHurd]

He knows he can do better. When they break up. His next gf will become his wife in three to six months after dating.

[@keptbygrace6221]

Right. Because if he really wanted to marry her he would have married her before the baby was born. He doesn't want to marry her and she's not hearing him.

[@kiarasodivine]

So why is he still there? Because he benefits from the situation?

[@Angelic_Allure]

Was looking for this comment. Her BF and his friend are two different kinds of men. And to go deeper, his friends wife might bring out the best in him

[@KrystalisticTheOG]

In the case of that young woman, I sense that a “shut up proposal “ is on its way (10 years down the line). I also believe she will never leave him despite her frustration and “threats.”

[@VerleanHurd]

I think he's going to be the one to leave when he finds his Ms. Right. Someone with standards, rules, and boundaries. Men don't respect what they can control.

[@KrystalisticTheOG]

@@VerleanHurd And you know what, he will move on quickly … marrying the next woman within a 6 month time frame.

[@mwright0428]

Just like Naz and Miguel! They were HS sweethearts and he gave her a shut up ring and wedding…didn’t even last 5 years. It’s never about how a woman looks. It’s always going to be HIS problem when he doesn’t pull the trigger. Our jobs as women is to set the bar and leave it there. Only the strong survive ✊🏾

[@kiarasodivine]

She’s probably afraid to be a single mother. It will make her life harder financially.

[@themalawiandiner180]

Why she even put this on social media? To complete strangers online. Talking about a man she's still dealing with. She should be talking to friends, family, therapist.

[@kiarasodivine]

Yes. They are about to pick her whole life apart. I feel bad for her honestly.

[@kayp9318]

She’s too immature to understand that she’s getting played. Not only is dude wasting her time, he sitting there giving her all the stories on his friend and what he does for his woman. To me, it looks like he’s deliberately trying to upset her and it’s working. She’s sitting up in a car comparing her situation to a friend of her man who she has NEVER MET 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️.

[@921cottoncandy]

Girllllll you said it......THIS!!!! She MUST see this man is PLAYING in her face and seems to enjoy it. Girl LEAVE

[@yourentrepreneurjourney]

Like feeding her this narrative and she's "eating it up". Sad🥺

[@mercedesharrison5550]

Right, I was surprised when she said she never met the friend because then it’s like why is your man telling you all of this?

[@kayp9318]

@@mercedesharrison5550 He literally hates her. She’s giving up everything for free so he’s not going anywhere until he finds the woman he really wants.

[@lightsalt581]

It’s her fault for not having standards. She needs to forgive herself and move on now that she knows better. She see his actions are not lining up with his words.

[@OpulentAristocrat]

‼️‼️‼️🎯

[@nellyismotivated7839]

Happy Father’s Day! I say this because my husband pays most of the bills and he helps me with cleaning, cooking and raising his son. If i had to do most the work and I have to pay half, I would be single! 👋🏿

[@LosAngelesLaura]

🤣💯♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@KevonnieElaine]

Iktr🤣

[@nellyismotivated7839]

@@LosAngelesLaura lmao! ❤️

[@nellyismotivated7839]

@@KevonnieElaine 🤣❤️ FRFR!

[@sheronmechelle8672]

Agreed! I always say, if I have to do MOST or ALL of the work at home, and still clock into a job to earn $$$ to help keep this ship afloat, then WHY ARE YOU HERE???

[@InfamousDW]

Actions over words.

[@VerleanHurd]

Work every time.

[@Trinitytruth7]

“Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn’t want you.” Old sage, wisdom. Did he sign the birth certificate? If he dies tomorrow, will your child get survivor’s benefits? Will you wait around until your child has to share resources with other kids?

[@Thankgot]

Women are comparative and competitive in nature as Chloe says. The below the surface resentment is real.

[@AJ-jw6yp]

Wait! What does she mean "HE" goes to HIS friend's wedding? Honey. If you're in a relationship, that should be YOUR friend as well... GIRL, that is not your man. Better be careful he wasn't the one that got married! She gave him all of her power! It is not too late to leave. He is living his best life, he has a child, saves on bills, doesn't pay child support, s.ex on demand, a maid, and a chef. All while living his best single life. Because honey, when he is away from her, HE IS every bit a single man. I wish her the best, but this will not end well for her. *Also. When I met my husband, he called me "wifey." I stopped that immediately and literally said "Oh sweety, I'm no ones wifey until I walk down the aisle. Ladies, its ok to challenge a manwhen it comes to your worth

[@cyniczen233caines]

These most recent seasons of "Divorce Court," the majority of women are baby mamas, 2, 3, 4 times over by one man, been together for 5,6,7+ years and now all of a sudden they want a ring. You didn't require it after the first child, but you kept having his children, thinking that by doing that, it would make you more valuable to him. If he passes and you 2 are not married at the time, in the eyes of the law,( in most states) you're a baby mama. You have no legal protection. Marry before you carry.

[@monicag918]

What incentive does he have to marry her? She’s given him a home, 5 years of his life and a child. She’s still saying “if”. If she wants marriage she won’t find it with him. She’s in denial that she’s settling and denying her worth. And even posting this with proposal ideas hoping he gets the hint. Poor thing.

[@organicskincarenyc6920]

She should be happy he never married her. She's free to move on.

[@yasminogbu8929]

👏👏👏

[@bunnybabe]

People will do everything but leave an unhappy situation 😪

[@ebony_momlife]

So true ladies, men will waste your time and years by blocking your true blessing. I am greatful i grew up with both good and toxic men so I learned early what to look out for and I dogged a major waste and and a month later met my now husi and was married 3 mths later fast forward we are married 7yrs. People know exactly what they are doing or not doing don't fall for the tricks. Listen to what is said and not said and lead with logic, not emotions. 🥂🍸 happy Sunday and happy fathers day to all the great fathers.

[@VerleanHurd]

Yes, and have standards, rules, and boundaries. Those things keep down a lot of the bs.

[@MSSHARIII]

💯💯💯

[@melt3713]

She's trying to bully him into giving her a ring.

[@urbanflight820]

Girl, STAND UP!!!! Making yourself feel better on camera by saying "I'd say no" is pitiful. She doesn't believe that herself. Ma'am, keep on being a placeholder. We don't need to hear about it.

[@urbanflight820]

And who did her BD take to the wedding? It's odd that she didn't attend. Hmmmm.

[@janellewalton7376]

She’s not going to leave because she more concerned about saying no to a mediocre proposal… she’s also convincing herself by saying “ to each their own” try not to make herself look bad. The lack of accountability “he said after one year, after 3 years, after the baby, after 5 years” she MUST take responsibility for staying with a liar. I feel sorry for her; at the same time she needs to get them standards up.

[@lisalynch2349]

Thank you Chloe!! This is definitely a Placeholder story... As they say people will treat you how you allow them to treat you.. Love yourself and have boundaries!!

[@tq325]

The last video clip was everything! No need to force a thing! Live your life with positivity and in the present, and everything that you desire will be yours!!!!!!!!!!!

[@caroliinec]

She's staying to say no because it's the only control of the relationship she has left. He controlled everything else. The baby, not proposing, not getting married. She thinks saying no is how she'll get her power and control back. The real power is in leaving. 👏

[@go_off_Sis]

She’s a work mule, building him up to be a provider -for the one that he REALLY wants 🥴

[@itsvivi55]

Unliking the video so I can like it again

[@Dottiebonds]

Look at it like a “lease payment “ should have made you RUN!!

[@Essence1130]

I thought the same thing.

[@charmaineespeut4627]

NEVER,NEVER,NEVER,NEVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER give a BABY to a BOY FRIEND. Give them 2-3 max to propose. Don't love him more than he loves you. Never be a ride or die. PUT yourself first. The more we give, the more they take and the less the respect you.

[@quess2k]

The moral of this story is “Beloved it’s time look inward, make a new decision to choose you”‼️

[@MelaniaRose]

Sometimes it’s a sign not to marry a man. It works both ways, there’s always a man out here that can give her what she wants. Match the same energy with these men and always have a exit plan

[@kiarasodivine]

Exactly. I’m working on my exit plan right now.

[@TrinaFoxx]

Exactly 💯 they always make it seem like the woman loses. She wins too. She gets to go out and do better as welll. Now she has better standards for her self.

[@christy3d]

Yeah he strung her along and wasted 5 years of her youth…but….. she allowed it because his words didn’t match his actions…learn our lessons, set standards, AND move on…

[@amberd5318]

Wait...he told her "you had my FIRST kid"??? Soooo...ummmm...Girl, please hear what's underneath that statement.

[@Itcouldallbesosimple45]

Thank you. If many of us were taught this information from the beginning we wouldn't end up in these frustrating relationships thinking they're going somewhere that they cannot because they're not set up to do so.

[@Nyahkimmy]

I refused to have a baby before marriage, and didn't sleep with my now husband for the first year+ that we were together. Now my husband uses me as an example to his younger sisters. Don't play wife when you're just a girlfriend.

[@pop8612]

She never met the friend so she didn’t go to the friend’s wedding or the pre-wedding events. Who did the boyfriend take to the wedding? I have no doubt she’s being used a placeholder.😢

[@VerleanHurd]

He went to the wedding with his future wife.

[@stellapk24]

@@VerleanHurd😅😂😂

[@KevonnieElaine]

No no no all the way around 🤦🏽‍♀️! Girl!! What was YOUR timeline? Why not leave after a year?? “Idk care about 50/50.” You SHOULD!! My God!

[@shieldoffaith7099]

If you are not the one for a man. He is not the one for you. ❤ Thank Chloe

[@322Mermaid]

A man will waste your time if you not careful. Before i married my husband i had an ex i dated before and we got a place together. Then he ghosted me out the blue...i found out when i came home from work. I moved out and didnt seek him. My husband married me two yrs into our relationship. If a man wants to marry he will do so amd do it in soon time. It doesn't take years or a 50/50 drag out paying bills

[@janedoe5510]

Plot twist...what if The boyfriend is the Married Provider Husband "friend" in his other life, he's actually talking about himself as the friend for 6years that she's never met.

[@notallabouttarot5194]

You know what? This maybe true. And men tells on themselves. It doesn’t make sense any other way. And if that’s the case… this man is dangerous. Master manipulator.

[@veeedgee]

💔

[@schokococoa575]

Even worse😮 if that’s reality, he’s basically been bragging to her about all the good stuff he does for the other woman and child and that’s if he’s actually like that to the other woman. Talk about crazy

[@Angelic_Allure]

Ooo it wouldn't be the first time someone lived a double life

[@alziecastillo8424]

When you go into a relationship without a plan, you cannot expect the outcome to end in your favor because you failed to execute. He thinks you're good enough to be his baby mama because you allowed it. I learned apart of the level up is accountability. Men don't care about hints, threats, or even loyalty, they only respect standards, and we as ladies need to remember we hold the power! I know she thought making this video was a flex...baby girl it really wasn't

[@Trinitytruth7]

If a man is telling you about all the things his best dude is doing with his woman that he KNOWS you want from him, PLEASE take that as a full hint that he doesn’t want you and he is pushing you to tell him that you want out. Then he can blame you for the decline of the relationship and he will likely be married within a year or two to be even more vindictive and hateful.

[@kayp9318]

HELLO!!! I literally just said he’s deliberately trying to upset her and it’s working…

[@notallabouttarot5194]

I said this too. If a man doesn’t want you…sometimes he’ll push you to sabotage the relationship. She maybe too clingy and he wants out. She’s not getting the memo. It’s like he’s trying to make her see that there’s other men out there that’s better for her than him. Like a song that was written: I can’t wait till you get back with him who sees you for who you really are. Because you can do better than me.

[@Kapreeluxe]

It hurts but you gotta walk away 😢 and have faith it gets better.

[@cpproduction325]

Lease payment🤔Girl your mistake was breeding with him.

[@Carma2010]

Lol that took me out. Lease Payment!

[@comkver]

Rent to own? Lol, absolutely not. Walk

[@porichechannel]

8:02 😂 girl you still want it.

[@stilljocelyn_]

Right cuz she has it all planned out in her head.

[@ajh.4131]

It’s so embarrassing to see people venting/recording themselves on social media. Also comparing your relationship to someone else's. So cringe!! You know your family and friends will eventually see it. Strangers on the internet too! And it can never be deleted. Just because you can say anything doesn’t mean you should 🤦🏾‍♀️ Get a journal and/or a therapist.

[@reinaafricana6423]

It’s sad. I agree. Men are very clear with their actions and reveal their intentions about you in their statements, back handed jokes, and comments. He knew he wasn’t going to take this relationship seriously from the beginning. Having a man’s child before marriage will most likely guarantee not getting married. Her only option is to end the relationship and raise their child as a single parent. Once she has regained her self-esteem and respect, she may attract the right man who will love both she and her child in the way that they deserve. She won’t get that from this man. Nope.

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Ladies she wasted her youth/time, beauty and femininity. 2-year limit, learn to set boundaries.

[@JukuduB]

💥Dont hold anybody down but yourself. Dont have anyone's back but yours. These 50/50 men take care of themselves. So should you, LEAVE! 💥

[@Girlfriendsandmimosas]

Im so thankful for this channel. Life changing feminine information. Thank you Chloe ❤

[@zero1188]

One thing i will say is you shouldnt look and compare other people’s relationships to yours. Everyone different and you dont know everyone elses relationship

[@VerleanHurd]

Say it louder.

[@kiarasodivine]

Exactly! You only know what they tell you and best believe they not telling you everything!

[@veeyanaweva]

Like you said, we need to feel it in our intuition. if you know he’s not the one because he don’t treat you like he knows you’re the one, walk away. he’s either gotta step up or step aside but us as women need to be strong and walk if it’s not a mutually nuturing relationship

[@unlisted333]

Ladies! You DON’T have to be a GIRLFRIEND first to become a WIFE! STOP dating one man at a time! You’re over investing before the man is remotely invested.

[@Parfumchloe]

True 👏🏾

[@mi3helle707]

Please explain this to me. 😅

[@kjerit630]

​@@mi3helle707Watch the Universe Guru here on KZbin. She talks about this explicitly. Her video "the Girlfriend Trap", is a gem. I saved that video incase I forget the important concepts when you are about to😮 fall for the lie...

[@mimilewis7418]

If there is no clarity in a relationship, that's a red flag 🚩🚩 to move to a relationship that meets ALL of YOUR goals. She's beautiful, and she can start over after some emotional healing 🙏🏾

[@rhulani934]

She needs the lesson, praying she learns and looks inward for validation and security❤

[@truettadevil]

She hasn't even met his friend and wasn't his date for the wedding... but she's been with him for 6 years 🤔 It's giving he's married 🫣

[@cindychelsea784]

Why would he buy the cow when he’s getting the milk for free? Homegirl played herself .. time to take ur losses and move on cuz that man ain’t proposing.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

I'm not sure what she thought she was doing by bringing this debacle to social media, but all she did was embarrass herself. She came on to talk about him, but all her actions said more about her than it does about him. We need to bring "being a lady" back to society, because all these women airing out their dirty laundry for millions of strangers ain't it. If you're really that mad about it, just leave without making any public announcements. 🙅🏿‍♀️💅🏿

[@bekkah7618]

Well said, “ladies, men don’t respond to our emotionalism they respond to our actions and they respond to our absence” 👏👏

[@laruelynch1354]

Everything I’m hearing is on HER!! You should have left long ago and NEVER had a baby before marriage!!! You ma’am could have avoided ALL of this!!

[@tamarareed2901]

He knew the first day. All that one year, then three years. He basically told you the truth. You didn’t believe him. Leave now while you can. 🏃‍♀️

[@woryenehbenson4702]

Saying everything but leaving

[@ashleyjones2137]

Exactly!

[@demoisellejoli91]

Like please leave us alone😂

[@chikFromMTL]

Thank you for this teaching 🙌🏾

[@Hairitage2023]

Allowing yourself to be impregnated knowing how much you wanted the ring 💍 then you need counseling ma’am. This is a totally sad and pitiful display of foolishness!!

[@MissShauntae]

She stays and will become a bitter Betty that will always complain about sticking around with a dusty

[@demoisellejoli91]

I'm just confused as to what are we as the public supposed to do with this information? Does she want us to beat him up😂

[@Ang-wu2bt]

Lol rite😂

[@kaylove4507]

Lol lol

[@Ms.J.]

The fact that she keeps saying "if he asks" tells me she still has hope that he one day he will ask her to marry him.Gurl, he's not! Hope shouldn't be alive bc he ready told you that your relationship is a lease. Lease means you're on borrowed time. Take your pride and dignity and leave.

[@cpproduction325]

Comedian clowned couple in front row because they’ve been dating 22 yrs.

[@selinakyle2368]

Yeah I know that comedian 😂😂😂

[@kiarasodivine]

Which comedian is this?

[@charmaineespeut4627]

Lol 😆 🤣 😂

[@DD-kv5uu]

22years is insane!!!😳😳

[@adaoratheexplorer1252]

He hasn't proposed because she's not who he really wants. He's keeping her around until he "finds" that person.

[@trafficcontrol2420]

It's so hard to walk away but sometimes that is the right answer.