This conversation got to me 🥹. This has been a hard week.

Dad has forgotten that I’m his son many times in the past. But this time it hit a little harder. The lost connection has become harder to bridge and for the first time I can see a time coming where I am a total stranger.

[@debbieniswonger1321]

My 90 year old mama doesn’t recognize me as her daughter anymore. She’s always asking why “Debra” doesn’t come visit her when I’m sitting with her. The first time I realized she didn’t know me, I went home and cried. Just this week she put her hands around my face in a loving motion and said, “I love you mama “. It’s been about 7 years now since our journey with dementia started and every day is a new adventure. My 92 year old daddy takes care of her in their home. Next month they will celebrate 75 years of marriage. Your videos of you and your dad are precious. ❤️

[@redsteddi]

😢God bless you 🙏

[@rgillette1205]

I'm so sorry

[@Eiliyah107]

❤❤❤

[@daniellack3559]

That is remarkable that your 92 yr old dad is taking care of your mom..I hope he gets help and relief

[@AnnaD25]

Hugs💕

[@loadventureslife5090]

My grandfather ask me once who in the hell are you. I said I’m your grandson. He said where’s your wife. I said I’m not married. He said boy u better get u a wife. So I did. Lol😂. God bless y’all.

[@CincysBillDozer]

Man its so hard to watch parents grow old

[@shellylavigne5913]

UTI infections so common and dehydration. Both contribute to confusion. A urine sample can show😢

[@jimmiepatrum]

@@shellylavigne5913 I agree. My own mother had a urinary tract infection while she had dementia. She had no pain, but a urine sample showed that she had the UTI. Indeed, it can cause confusion as some UTIs lead to dehydration. Diane

[@jday1413]

It’s hard for sure but aging is a gift. I lost my mom when I was 18. I’m 22 now and wish I could have seen her grow old.

[@leonardolupini3484]

Very hard indeed

[@sarahjane8949]

@@jday1413so sorry .... I have a few friends that lost their mind too 🙏🏻🤗❤️

[@suspense14]

DAN GET SOMEONE TO COME IN DURING THE DAYS AND TAKE A BREAK, GET HELP AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF I am looking at you slowly deteriorating right before our eyes. You're a very good son but you should take some time out to take care of yourself, get out to the gym and enjoy life and your wife because you all look burnt out. Pop is never going to get better but just move to another stage and get worse so brace yourself. Get an Aide for a few hours for the day and try live.

[@momminator98]

Yes I had to convince my mother that she needed help with her mom. I worked in a dementia care facility and it took so many people to provide all the care the patients needed. One or two adults can't do it alone.

[@judywright4241]

I have a good friend whose mom went downhill quickly, she believed she was being held by ‘strangers’ (her only daughter) and kept calling the police ‘to be rescued.’ The police actually threatened my friend, that they’d start fining her ‘if you can’t control your mother.’ It would take a cousin and my friend’s daughter to get together to help watch her mom. It was costing them all their health battling this little old lady who fought them all as her ‘kidnappers.’ Damn disease.

[@dee5105]

agreed....dan tries too hard....he does great, but needs to back off

[@nancyadamson286]

I am so happy that someone else has noticed Dan's changes as we travel with him down his Dad's road. An excellent observation. Will Dan listen? Perhaps he and Danielle have social activities that we are not privy. Hope so.

[@MadeleineGardner-s9v]

Easier said than done. As a caregiver, you feel responsible. Then there's the fear that something bad will happen when you're gone, as well as the 'guilt for having fun or even relaxing'. You constantly feel that you have to be 'on'. Dan is amazing and someone I can identify with completely.

[@trapperbob8812]

Dan you are the best son a man could ever ask for . Sending prayers for your Dad.

[@lorismith5369]

And prayers for Dan 🙏

[@serinawagner8480]

🫂❤️🙏🏻💪Dan🇨🇦🇨🇦

[@serinawagner8480]

Dan needs a t-shirt 'IM YOUR SON!

[@donnanurmi5936]

Oh Dan this must be so hard to see your dad go through this. He obviously was a kind man and a great dad.

[@ayasha89games66]

​@@serinawagner8480 that's an awesome idea. He can also stimulate his dad's mind by asking him to read it aloud

[@gringoenespanol]

I do like how once he clears up who he is and who you are, he gets right down to business and wants to know what's for lunch

[@BeMoreAwareGodWatches]

Me too. 😂

[@LooklikeStevieN]

"I'm 92 ?"...and the smile and chuckle...it gets me every time...🙂

[@tamarawaite1981]

Me too😊

[@ExpThenAndNow]

Same!

[@starstargazer410]

He never forgets Danielle....

[@amymusick5455]

'Never gets old (no pun intended!).

[@LynnLamont]

I can identify with that. I feel 16, well maybe 20 but here I am at 72 & I can't believe it. When did that happen? 😮

[@MaryBNarayan-wu3wq]

It’s ok- meet him where he is ❤. My mom thinks I’m 8, and I am a family member , my aunty. I leave it at that and smile because I know who I am. The time together means more than the time I spent explaining. Blessings to you both.

[@wendypoore212]

I'm not a doctor but I have known several people with dementia and some things I have gleaned from their family interactions are, 1. Don't ask him if he knows who you are because if he doesn't it could be upsetting to him. He will ask you if he wants know. 2. When he does ask questions, it's better if the answers to questions are "short and sweet". Long, drawn out answers can be hard to process. 3. If there are several things you have to do in a day, i.e. go for a walk, have lunch, go to the dentist, get a frosty...don't overwhelm him with all the details all at once. As much as you want your dad to know who you are, telling him repeatedly won't help the memory stick. You are doing a wonderful job caring for your dad and it's okay if he doesn't remember who you are because you know who you are to him and you know who he is to you. You can remember for him...sometimes that has to be enough.

[@kcmcnut]

You took the words out of my mouth. My Father passed away 3 years ago from Alzheimer’s. In the end he was rather non verbal and didn’t remember many things. But it is ok. Drilling him every morning to remember is not necessary. It is ok if they don’t understand everything. It can be peaceful for them not to have to figure everything out and not feel bad because they don’t have all the answers. It is ok.

[@brendafiler2711]

Agreed

[@rogerwilco4736]

Thank you for relating your experience Perhaps Dan is reading too much into the present situation and it's making Ed more confused, maybe a little more patience is required

[@karengellner1489]

Totally agree. Don’t complicate things by trying to go into depth answers - keep it simple. Just try to reassure.

[@ThePossumone]

Yes very true Same for someone with schizophrenia or mental illness

[@naturegirl5681]

Don’t feel bad. My mom just passed from Alzheimer’s dementia and I can tell you from experience this is part of it. They revert to when they were younger and he will start talking more about his parents and will ask to go home thinking his parents are waiting on him.

[@unfocused1]

I saw this progression with my mother. One thing that helped was a photo album with simple labels of who people are... I had a page showing age progression for her, myself, her parents... I had a picture of her parents' headstone in another album for the days that she'd worry about them. I'd reassure her (it was imp. for her) that they were safe in heaven and she'd eventually see them. My point is that the long conversations trying to sort these things out were too much for both of us. The photo album was both informative and comforting-- and also could be used when I wasn't available. Additionally, you might want to put up a small grouping of labeled pix in your father's room. (Hugs to all of you... I know it's heartbreaking.)

[@LindaErker]

Excellent advice.

[@jenofthejungle3023]

That is a fascinating idea.

[@Smurfyis730]

Yes and play music from their days. Whatever songs he used to listen to or his favorite bands. Music helps so much.

[@msherry5]

I created a photo book for my mom, too, just like you described. It helped sometimes.

[@foxybyproxy]

does seem like too much....my mom is starting to lose her faculties and there is no convo she will have with me about things changing. i just dont know what im gunna do...but go around and around seems like it's irritating you more than your pop...do you see a therapist at all?

[@BerryBerry1465]

Dan, your Dad is fortunate to have family. Not everyone does. I wish there was family near me. ❤

[@cheyennehunter3087]

It gets harder at times. Try not to take it personally. My mom used to tell my dad to get that woman out of the house yet I was her first born child. Remember the past days. He can't help it.

[@susanlewis9351]

My mom and I were extremely close. After living with us 25 yrs, she had to go in a nursing home to control her pain. Thank goodness I knew 2 of the nurses there and we went everyday for almost a year so she got good care. She started to think I was my sister, and they didn't get along and weren't close for years. She did visit a few times a week. Her attitude towards me changed and she started to be very nasty to me. I even showed her my license, but she still wouldn't believe me. It broke my heart, but she couldn't help it

[@garlandfraley734]

Prayers pop get better...even in the end when daddy didn't know me and couldn't speak words just made sounds as if he was talking he trusted me and I could calm him down. At one point we had to try a medicine for depression, he started crying and was restless and it helped this was when he still knew me. We just do our best at points it helps to accept some things and enjoy the good times could he use hearing ads . You can tell he's an intelligent man I do see a difference in his eyes. I'm sure you're aware but in case urine infection and dehydration case problems. I bet he's always been a character ❤

[@lauriesparza742]

This is a cruel disease for the families and especially those who are struggling to help their parent to remember that they are safe and loved and cared for. It hurts a lot Dan and you just go in your room when you can and cry it out. You’re an awesome son,don’t ever forget that. ❤❤❤❤ Even if he doesn’t know your his son,he knows your name now most times. And always knows Danielle’s name. I am so glad he isn’t combative with you. That is very hard to deal with. Praying that he never goes there.❤

[@catalinaortoljo2821]

Gross. Flirting. Eew.

[@debbie3143]

​@@catalinaortoljo2821Just shut up !!

[@TheAmtwhite]

That wasn’t flirting. That’s a man of his generation being friendly.

[@lindathompson9334]

As he progresses it can be overwhelming to get so much information at once. My husband had dementia, too. You are doing the best for Ed under very difficult circumstances. Thanks for being such a good son.

[@iwanttogotothebeach4233]

Yes. When my Mom would start to spiral asking where she was and saying I want to go home..... I relied on a prayer she memorized as a child and 100% of the time, she was completely calm at the end of reciting it!!! In those moments, we need to advocate for them, help them become grounded again by implementing whatever works. ❤

[@agraham9607]

Sometimes too much info at once gets MORE CONFUSING for dementia people. Keep it simple with less words...look at the expression on Ed's face, he's LOST. Also best not to correct Ed when he says things that are incorrect, try changing the subject instead. Correcting him makes him feel bad about himself, so don't do it. He's having a Bad Day so MORE PATIENCE Less words is the KEY. GOOD LUCK.

[@vickikennedy7358]

I absolutely agree with Agraham. Sometime less is more. Too much info can really confuse him.

[@DavidHBurkart]

​@@agraham9607I think Dan does a great job with Ed and exercises tremendous patience. Much of the way he talks with Ed has more to do with family dynamics and interaction. It is very familiar to Ed and Dan always stays with it until he can close the loop in a way that brings Ed a measure of peace, then asks Ed something along the lines of "What else can I do for ya Pop?", to which Ed almost always replies "When are we gonna eat?" All is right in the Salinger household when Ed is focused on his next meal. It is his reboot. Well done Dan.

[@donasutherland3708]

@@agraham9607 Great advice. As I watch Dan bombard Ed with information and facts, I can imagine Ed becoming more confused and / or agitated. It's understandable that Dan is trying to help comfort Ed and help him understand things, but bombarding Ed with information/facts seems to be counterproductive.

[@janetm.7872]

My 92 year old preacher Dad had dementia but never lost his spiritual ! He didn’t know who I was but he always knew God and Jesus. His last words before he died 4 weeks ago were-Thank You Jesus ! The nurse that was helping me said - That was plain enough ! Was an honor to take care of my Dad at home and watch his spiritual never change!

[@lindacooper3757]

Beautiful testimony ,Janet ! It blessed me Thanks for sharing . When my dad had moderate Alzheimer's, he understood the need for repentance and prayed after me to accept Jesus as Lord . My sister and I baptized him in his pool. His spirit was tender and alert since he cried with gratefulness !

[@NinaChurchill-o9y]

How beautiful! He is where he belongs now.

[@janetm.7872]

@@lindacooper3757 your testimony blessed me ! Thank you for sharing!

[@debrahenderson2049]

Praying for you as you walk this new path, grief, and all the strange facets of it.

[@kelamram]

Praise the Lord ❤

[@gildamolinar5155]

Sorry that you’re going through this Dan. My mom lived with us for 9 years prior to her passing. She never got to the point where she didn’t know who I was, however her anger and lack of conversation broke my heart. She wasn’t the same mama I grew up with. She was a great mom and I have those great memories to hold onto.

[@EsterHorbach-it9tb]

I feel for you. My mum suffered for four years and in the end she didn't know who I was or who and where she was.

[@susanlewis9351]

My mom too! She lived with us for 25 yrs.

[@gildamolinar5155]

@@EsterHorbach-it9tb 😞

[@gildamolinar5155]

@@EsterHorbach-it9tb I’m so sorry.

[@gildamolinar5155]

@@susanlewis9351 I think it’s great that you had the heart to care for her for so many years. Caring for elderly parents is very difficult physically and mentally. At least it was for me, by God’s grace we managed.

[@Mrhasbarafree]

You're doing great. He's deteriorating yet you keep doing an amazing job. My mom has dementia and Alzheimer's and these videos are helpful. I also feel less alone in this crazy journey.

[@smariec2021ify]

Thank you Dan for your patience with Grandpa Ed. I know it hurts to see him like this in these moments but your cup will continue to overflow with blessings because you’re an amazing man and son to your father!❤️❤️🙏🙏 0:04

[@ChalNjurshEp]

Amen 🙏🏼 ❤

[@seektruthbefree]

Patience? He constantly reminds him of what he doesn’t remember & focuses on himself far too much. I’ve been a caregiver for years & have studied how to deal with dementia patients. “I’m your son, Dan!” Repeatedly doesn’t help!

[@dizzyfingers7180]

Your videos help me in immeasurable ways. Thank you for sharing.

[@Jackie-plus]

Oh dear Dan - you are such a wonderful son to your dad and you are doing a great job.

[@Tessa-c4o]

😊Dan your father is so so blessed to have you as a son. And you are blessed to be his son. It is so heartwarming the way your leaning into eachother as you journey this path. And an amazing example of how to navigate the rough waters while enjoying the voyage. God Bless you all❤

[@stephenr115]

Dan as a lawyer at one point, I could see respectfully a hallowed almost fearful recognition of sadness in your eyes with the apparent development. I know,if you replayed it, especially with your courtroom experience, you’d see exactly what I’m talking about. I’m with you buddy, and, I’m hopeful that your upcoming trip (I think) in NW will provide some needed relaxation and downtime to allow recognition that things are not necessarily under your control and May you feel love and acknowledgment of all you are doing for Ed. And as Ed aptly points out, “Time marches on.” Let me add; it does so with a loving and caring son and family. Thanks for allowing us to be there for part of the journey. (Ed was flirting I agree.)

[@BeMoreAwareGodWatches]

I love his T-shirt. ❤ I chuckled when he said “crazy” after you talked about Joanne. Your dad is the cutest 92-year-old on the planet. His smile lights up the whole room. 😀😄😁 I’m sorry that you get sad when he can’t remember you’re his son. I know that hurts. 😢

[@JohnLawrence-wf1rj]

May Jesus bless the Salinger family, and the same to you reading this.

[@canelle09]

Amen !🙏🙏

[@cynthiabarnhill4204]

Umm Are you new here? They don't believe in God

[@claudiascott6484]

You also. Thank you 😊

[@debc7341]

@@cynthiabarnhill4204it’s never too late🙏🏻✝️As long as we’re alive.

[@debc7341]

@@cynthiabarnhill4204there is still time as long as we’re alive ✝️🙏🏻

[@sherichamberlin5382]

Thanks for sharing this experience with us. You have def helped many many of us understand and even how to manage this. You are a very loving family. We are all praying for you, your dad, and the whole family!!! ❤

[@EllieBiancaBeauty]

Thanks Dan. Taking care of my mom with vascular dementia and this is so helpful: your love and patience is so encouraging.

[@MamaUnscripted]

My mother also has vascular dementia. I've made this channel for her also. How long ago was she diagnosed?

[@DeborahLandau-gp2fo]

Best wishes for you and family. It's a tough row to hoe. ❤

[@RhondaStevens-t4l]

Your a good son...thanks for doing right by him I'm sure he loves you alot

[@anthonyperona]

I know it can be very disheartening and frustrating, Dan. However, you guys are doing a wonderful job. Watching these videos provide so much therapy themselves for so many. You are making a huge impact in the world! Be encouraged. ❤

[@jeanandlilymacfadden909]

Take joy in each moment you have with your dad! When the video begins, right off the bat, your dad called you by your name, that is fantastic! I noticed another person posed the question of a possible UTI. The elderly are so sensitive, everything effects them that you can't rule anything out when confusion becomes heightened; having dementia can make it tough to get other medical possibilities checked when a person is not themselves. You are a great son, and a wonderful caregiver! We will keep you, Pop, and family lifted in prayer. Always remember that embedded within your father's spirit is the memory of his family; you are imprinted on each other's souls ❤

[@andreatanner9226]

Dan you a good son and it's a blessing that you take care of your dad and not have him thrown into a nursing home ...where he doesn't get enough attention or mistreated by some of these people that work in these nursing homes 😊

[@SharonBrown-yn6fz]

Remember too there r some good homes around People have to visit often and make sure their loved ones r being treats ok. Put a camera in the room once in awhile and see

[@WdawgSmith]

Man I can’t imagine what it must be like for the vast majority of good nursing home workers who care about people to read comments like this It’s like the world has come to this conclusion that everyone who works in a nursing home is some sort of terrible person Without any evidence other than media reporting which is why obviously going to try to make everything horrible Just like in anything There are a few bad nursing home workers and a LOT of good ones There are also really bad family members who take care of their loved ones at home So Dan is certainly a great great great caregiver No doubt about that But there are others who are not

[@msherry5]

The stigma against assisted living facilities or nursing homes can be damaging, though. Sometimes family just can't give the care that's needed all the way to the end of life. But once they move into a facility, our job as family is not finished. It's important to spend as much time with them as you can, & make sure the staff know you're paying attention. In my mom's last days, one CNA decided she was not going to give my mom the meds that had been prescribed by hospice. The only way I knew this is that I had been sitting by my mom's bed, where she lay unconscious, for over 4 hours & no meds had come. She was getting agitated so I went to find a staff member to find out what was happening. The staff all knew me & trusted me. We were a team. That particular CNA never came back to that facility again.

[@marymiller873]

Your dad is so lovely. He's very calm and gently spoken. That's the impression I get from what you post. I love him ❤️

[@nunyabisniss1179]

We love you, Dan. You really are the one that has brought love, light and laughter to this harsh reality. Most of us understand your pain. You're so freaking human. Much love and respect for you, Dan. ❤

[@laurelwilson8076]

Amen! Very well said ❤

[@lindamorales-e9n]

Dan I am sorry you are going thru this. Thank you for sharing this. My husband has Alzheimer’s. No one understands how hard and scary this is until it happens to you. You have inspired me to keep fighting along side of my husband.

[@iwanttogotothebeach4233]

I went through all of this with my Mom and Dad for 11 years!!! I hate to tell you, but this is the natural progression and it will get worse. 😢 This is why reducing any stress at all is so critical! Nobody can loose their patience ( believe me it is near impossible) because they internalize it and it all goes toward making them insecure and anxious and then...it spirals. This is why too, activities like puzzles, books, art, coloring is so important to keep them engaged and distracted so they dont keep thinking, where am I??? Eliminating ALL unnecessary doctor visits, surgeries....it all is so upsetting and anxiety inducing even if they appear fine and, and the recovery from it takes longer. Again, I have so much experience with this. 🙏🏻 for you all!!! I love how you always end with him being calmer. It was the hardest thing I ever did, nobody knows until you have done it!!

[@LoraKonnerth]

That's awesome I am really happy that you take care of your dad not a lot of people don't do that I really don't just so happy that you do this thank you for being so thoughtful 😊😊😊❤️❤️❤️

[@terid2401]

Hang in there Dan!

[@rosemarie7999]

Paps you're amazing. Dan & family, thank you for the videos, your patience and tolerance and love for pa is beyond. It also encourages us how to cope should our loved ones in this situation. Thank you

[@queencaraMEL40]

Your dad & my dad was born 6 days apart...My dads birthday is March 20th, 1932 & I lost him in 2003 & miss him so much, I was such a daddies girl....His twin brother is still here & we are very close....I love the relationship between you & your dad 💙💙

[@elainemcdonnell7449]

Your doing a fantastic job looking after your lovely dad xx

[@cmbOz7]

I was surprised when Dr. Salinger knew who his mother is. This illness can be so cunning. Thank you for being beautiful humans Dan & Danielle! The world stands to learn so much from you.

[@joanneconger2541]

Aww Dan it's so sad to watch our parents get older you are fantastic with him I give you so much credit God bless you and your dad and family for 92, I Think HES DOING AMAZING!❤

[@judywiggins5092]

You have my thoughts and prayers Dan. You're an awesome son.

[@dsalnorcal1434]

❤️💜

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Thank you so much

[@loralala9814]

Yah-Keep your head up Dan! ❤That's what my dad did-take me to go get ice cream after the dentist.smh lol❤You got this!!

[@jeanhuttner6664]

Your doing a wonderful job loving and taking care of your dad praying for you. ❤

[@Millionairemommie]

Dan I’m a caregiver and I had to take care of my mom also you are doing a good job keep up the good work

[@lorismith5369]

Prayers up for ALL of you 🙏🤗

[@nebraskaluke2444]

Dan, you rock. You inspire me. Dear God, I pray for Ed. Please bring him the peace that surpasses our understanding. Amen.

[@BarbGleason]

God bless you for all you are doing! These videos are priceless. Wish we had done this with our dad who went thru the same things. And agreed UTI possible always.

[@thelmawarren8828]

Dan, u do such a great job with ur dad. I wish all elderly people had someone to care for them like u do for dad.❤❤

[@marygoodsell3602]

Dan, I have been watching for only a few months, but I see a change in your dad. My husband passed very suddenly one year ago, but he had alzheimers and I thought he had between 6 months and a year more, so his passing quickly stunned me. I looked back on the pictures and his slipping was apparent in the pictures. The changes are hard to accept but that's the way it is. Stay kind and caring, wishing you two the best.❤❤❤

[@Abbie-UK]

Poor Pop , having a bad week , Dan do you think he could have a bladder infection ? or sadly could just be a natural decline . Your doing Great Dan xxx hugs to you all xx

[@violetteviolette3337]

UTIs really mess with older people. A real possibility. He sounds a lot more foggy. 🤔

[@marywellnitz8744]

Yes, UTI's definitely can cause confusion in the elderly , even if they don't have dementia. And if they do, it can really kick the confusion up into a whole new level. It's important to always be aware of an elderly person's urinary tract health.

[@Pisti846]

Yup, and dehydration, with my mother I picked up on it and would get her to the hospital. I got so good at catching it the doctor complemented me on catching it so early.

[@Cherish..2]

And dehydration is so common in facilities for elderly ​@@Pisti846

[@janl.7205]

​@@marywellnitz8744 This is true. Happened to my 88 year old father who did not have dementia.😢

[@Whoever68]

This is the hardest part for family when their loved one has dementia. Because we are fully aware and can recall many many fond memories but the dementia person cannot remember who we are or cannot recall any of those memories we share, it’s upsetting for us. You’re not alone Dan, this is part of this awful disease. There is a reason it’s call the long goodbye. 😢

[@hermithollow2024]

I’m so sorry that you’ve had a rough week. Please hang in there. Even if his mind doesn’t recognize you, surely his heart does. ❤

[@Minipoppy-r5k]

Don't take it to heart Dan. you have given your dad so much joy and love that many elderly people sadly never have the opportunity to experience.. With the challengers your pop has .When their memory completely goes its like losing them before they have passed .The people watching care for your dad but also care for you and your big heart Dan Stay strong ❤😊

[@lori5216]

He's slipping 🥺 It's harder on the care giver than the patient

[@MamaUnscripted]

My mother has vascular dementia and it actually upsets me most when she tells me "my brain is not here anymore".

[@skyclad89]

I'm so sorry, That's very scary 😮😢​@@MamaUnscripted

[@reganlanz6911]

Would pictures help?

[@robfair8118]

You do very well in your relationship with your Dad! YOu are a very strong man!

[@SherryYT-ot2tu]

Dan, I want to thank you for sharing all that you do with your father. So many of us are in various stages of this same thing with one of our parents. You are helping me deal with my father and your interactions with Ed also help me foresee what to expect as the future of this condition progresses with my Dad. Watching their memory of us fade hurts our soul and can feel like losing them before they are really gone. Just know your emotional generosity is appreciated by so many of us.❣

[@loriarmstrong1908]

You are amazing. I’m going through the same thing, you give me strength to get understand this horrible struggle.

[@WesNoStress]

This touches me so deep as I’m experiencing the same with my mom and she’s only 69

[@cmbOz7]

🙏💜

[@keepingthefaith2973]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@lindacooper3757]

Oh no so sorry to hear that So young

[@canelle09]

Sending you ❤🙏🙏

[@rainbow3649]

Aaaww 69! This damn disease is getting very impudent and arrogant these lately! So sorry. I'm 64 and this doesn't even make sense at all.

[@MAGAEATSBOOGERS1]

Granpa always has the most sincere look on his face, And always says (I am 92?) the same way. The Worlds Best Grandpa.

[@blanchefischer5471]

Dan, my mom is Turnieng 93 this month ...She is very bad dimentia..gave birth to 11 children and does recognize none of us, at first it worried us, but we have gotten used to it .Please dont despair, its the illnes 😢

[@MamaUnscripted]

I was very upset at first with my mother's dementia. But now we just make cute videos and try to make sure she smiles. Sometimes she recognizes me, other times she thinks I'm her friend or her sister or just someone.

[@toddjcollins88]

You are teaching me to be a better person. You have so much patience. Any words of wisdom to help me be more like you would be appreciated.

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Todd I did not have this patience when he first arrived. It was extremely hard in the beginning but you learn intrinsically to have patience because it makes your daily life easier (more survivable). I still lose it badly from time to time so don’t beat yourself up. My advice. Fake it till you make it. You will be surprised how fast you can adjust.

[@toddjcollins88]

@@dsalnorcal1434 Thank you. God bless.

[@helenhernandez5604]

ED IS SO GOOD AT THE DOCTORS!AND WOW HE HAS HIS OWN TEETH!🥰💜👏👍

[@TimGibson-y3t]

God bless you for all you do for him and blessings to your family

[@OraliaGuzman-s2w]

Prayer for your dad and you. You have to have lots of patience when caring for someone. Bless you

[@taraschmidheini4674]

You bring me so much joy Dan. 🤗

[@cherylmiller8430]

Praying you and Dr. Ed through this very hard time. Much love to you all.❤

[@evaaube4195]

Dan, you're doing amazing. Your Dad is so blessed to have you as his caregiver. I've been there with my Mom, and I know the implications. It's rough. At the end of the day, doing your best IS the best thing.

[@BettyKoehler-zg5sv]

I’ve been a caretaker for my mother, father in law, and husband in the their twilight years, and it is not an easy walk you are on, Dan and Danielle. Know you are doing the very best for Ed. Try not to take anything personally….even if it is hard to hear. Bless you both…and bless Ed, too. Love from Pennsylvania 💕🌷🐻😅

[@PAPACREDIT]

Dan your videos are such a blessing to us. We lost my mom over covid with dementia. She went to the hospital, went nuts, and never survived. Mom was never this far but your videos also give me that connection, with some of the stuff he says.

[@shawnmaestas6700]

So sorry Dan.

[@tammybahmanziari1263]

Hang in there! You are doing a fantastic job and helping so many people. it is hard when they keep forgetting who you are.

[@belisasantos3998]

It amazes me how he always remembers Danielle what a special bond. God bless you Dan for taking care of grandpa and bless Danielle 🙌 🙏 ❤️

[@sherrydawson6253]

Oh my so heart breaking to watch your Dad go through this. But you do a great job in orienting him. That's so important. Hat off to. U and Danilian ❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@sandiemom8888]

It could be a UTI. When elderly ppl get UTI they get mixed up. G9d Blessyou all ❤❤

[@killianyinstitut]

Also I believe Dad had general anesthesia recently and it takes longer to get those meds out of your system as we age. Blessings to you Dan!

[@musicmaker4him901]

Yes, I saw a lot of that when I worked with the elderly as a CNA. It really surprised me how much more confused my patients were when they had a UTI.

[@theBradleyjourney]

My dad gets worse with a UTI also

[@Kat-Astrophe79]

​@@killianyinstitut is that a true fact? Like that's scary to know. I'm almost half grandpa's age and it scares me to know what you've said.

[@KenIvywood]

Bless his heart 💔

[@dbdcrafts6542]

Thank you. It's amazing to me that he always know who Danielle is.

[@kimgould6399]

That's a guy thing. Lol

[@jimmiepatrum]

My mother in law had Alzheimer's. As the disease progressed, she began thinking her son (my husband) was her brother. But she never, ever forgot who I was. So it does happen. Such a sad disease. Diane

[@ronnie-lynn]

I think maybe because Danielle is Ed’s second wife’s daughter, (so she is Ed’s step daughter) he had his last son with Danielle’s mother. So Danielle & Josh are half siblings. So I think that might help him remember her. She’s been in the picture much longer than she has been married to Dan. (From my limited understanding) ❤

[@linda755ll]

​​@@ronnie-lynn Danielle is Janice's daughter and Josh's stepsister??? I never heard that before. Not sure if I believe it. Can someone please confirm or deny this for me??

[@kcmcnut]

@@ronnie-lynn Danielle is Dan’s wife

[@ValorieBeigetone]

Sorry your having a bad week! Pray it gets better. Sadness growing in your eyes makes my heartbreak for you. Keep up the great work Your Awesome ❤

[@patriciabarnhart1886]

Yes, a bladder infection will do that…..takes folks right out of their head in moments.

[@cynthiabarnhill4204]

What's that got to do with his dementia?!?!?

[@marysmith5544]

​@@cynthiabarnhill4204 a UTI is a very common cause of rapid mental confusion in elderly whether or not they have dementia.

[@cherylbastow1379]

You're missing another other symptoms that go with it at this moment he still just experiencing declining dementia ​@@marysmith5544

[@PennyKiser-sp5sk]

Yes, Absolutely. My mother got UTI, she would be ome real confused and be out of it until she was treated with antibiotics. Ask your Dr. It's true 😮😮

[@debrasolliday1346]

That is very true!

[@maxinereynolds7491]

Hi Dan! So nice of you to be a caregiver for dad! It's not an easy feat. I was the caregiver for my mom. If he seems overly confused on any given day you can rule out UTI as there are silent UTI's that can cause more confusion seeing he also has memory issues.

[@juanitahood4012]

Dan, you are doing a wonderful job with your dad. I do have a suggestion. Something that worked with my mom. I found at times we gave her too much information and it seemed to confuse her more so we tried to distract her to switch her thoughts. Like a light switch sometimes it worked and she was good again. Like I said I’m not telling you what to do. I’m just saying this seemed to work with mom. You are a wonderful son and so patient.

[@pgmauriello93]

You are doing an amazing job with your dad. It’s has to be hard but keep your chin up because he really loves and needs you.😊

[@mimi-lu-np]

Memory loss in a loved one is a painful journey for each and everyone….blessed you both are for the love between you and years of memories you will hold precious Dan!

[@brem8918]

Every time I watch this channel, I feel inspired as I assist my mother with similar issues.

[@barbm7175]

It's a natural decline that I have seen many times in my nursing career. It's always hard on the family.

[@gramnenew6196]

Yes. It’s been very sad to see these videos this week.

[@jerneysangel9713]

Dan, you are doing great. Hang in there. My mom just passed a few weeks ago, these times are so hard to deal with. You are doing such a good job and you're a wonderful son

[@anniejohnson-jz1rg]

God bless you all. You take such good care of your Dad with so much patience.🙏🙏

[@eileenwheeler9379]

Hang in there, Dan! Prayers to you and your family

[@donnawoods8039]

My mom went through this with Alzheimer's. I feel your sorrow. However, he doesn't seems as bad as she did. She couldn't walk anymore was bed ridden. He's just getting a little more forgetful it seems.

[@teresae3470]

Alzheimer’s and Dimentia are 2 different things

[@crystalvigil412]

I love watching u with ur dad I think u are doing a great job. Keep up the good work

[@EveryCloud9999]

Ed sure knows how to interact with the Ladies. You’re doing amazing Dan. Bless you all!

[@agnescgarnett3257]

Prayers for you and your Dad. God bless you

[@Jwatty461]

Be grateful for every moment because when your loved ones pass, it’s permanent. That was very difficult for me when my grandmother died. It’s hard to imagine when you still have them in the physical world. Also, don’t leave his side until he takes his last breath. I missed that with my grandmother and I felt very guilty for a long time. It’s hard to talk about, but it’s necessary for strong familial relationships because they mean so much ❤

[@stephendacey8761]

My 91-year old father just passed away last Saturday (august 10th). He was in Hospice for the final month of his life. He did not want to go to Hospice, but it was for his own good. In Hospice they can really take care of you with pain medications and make life a little easier. He was able to get a bed that reclines (like those in hospitals). I took care of him for a few months before it was impossible and he ended up in an assisted Living Facility. In the beginning he didn't love it there, but he ended up really enjoying his stay there towards the end. The facility loved my father, let him keep his dog and the staff took her for walks and fed her, and had social events like cookouts, etc. Their was entertainment to on weekends that he liked. It was better than being stuck in his house being bored. So, the wake and funeral were this weekend and know it's only memories for here to eternity.

[@edgenominees4436]

Thank you, Dan. As you are caring for your dad at old age, so shall you be cared for, too, in your old age. Amen 🙏

[@MrGonemadtm]

You are a great Son.🎉🎉 This must be emotionally draining. But your doing a great job keep up the excellent work. ❤

[@jakahou1972]

I really admire your patience with your dad. Keep up good work with him. God bless you.

[@janebannon7427]

Dan I have the very same with my husband he has dementia since 2015. I feel for you It’s going to become worse eventually, good luck , good wishes to you and your family

[@teddielester4098]

Watching this video made me cry because Grandpa Ed was having a bad day you are an amazing Son Dan and you,Danielle take great care of Grandpa sending prayers and love to all of your family from Virginia

[@poupy132]

Stay strong Dan. You are doing great

[@donnataylor980]

Y'all are something else😂 you sure do explain things well to your dad❤ he would be lost without you❤😊❤