When redirection fails over and over 🥹

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

Can we all agree how much We Love Grandpa Ed and Appreciate Dan ✌🏿

[@claireklawikowska2332]

Definitely 100%

[@methatlovescats3602]

✌️

[@Libby-j7y]

Yes we can

[@michellemann6362]

Yes 😊

[@isking1715]

Absolutely. Danielle and Mark too. ❤❤❤❤

[@blueeyedlady8973]

Good idea not to tell him each time that Bill has passed. That’s got to be a shock, always, and he grieves every time. Great redirect, Dan.

[@Pondapple]

That's exactly right - grieving anew each time he is reminded. Happened to us too. I decided not to remind him that his brother had died several years previously (and he thought, "Wasn't that nice of him to visit." I was so grateful that he had the nicest memories of his family. When you correct a dementia patient, they will not remember the corrected information.

[@DavidHBurkart]

Well... Uncle Bill is indeed with some of his family

[@karenharris1250]

Always be honest

[@blueeyedlady8973]

@@karenharris1250 Google how to deal with dementia and death of a loved one. It’s not as easy as just “being honest”, honey.

[@karenvaleri5607]

​@@DavidHBurkartAmen!

[@mcomuonobunde-omuono1132]

His car keys, his car, his Bank balance & his brother Bill. These are the things he cannot get out of the loop. But Dan's patience is equal to Ed's persistence. Love & Respect!

[@claudehermineakette9222]

And Marc😅

[@alukaagatha7297]

His wallet too

[@metalmarc777]

And his wife

[@marshacharlebois2840]

For my brother it’s out brother and our parents But he thinks he sees them

[@LadyLatina7022]

And his money.

[@lauraswann5543]

I understand there is no point re-traumatizing your Dad telling him every time he asks, that his brother Bill passed.💖 Dan, thank God your Dad has you, Danielle and Mark.💖

[@teresajeffries3934]

But lying to him and making him believe his loved one is alive is cruel. My mil constantly asks about her parents who's been dead 40 years. Her dr said do not lie to them. Tell them the truth and we do, so many times. It's better than letting her believe they are alive and just won't come see her.

[@PastorIhaza]

​@teresajeffries3934 That's what you were told to do🤔. How did your family respond, with grief each time or peace?

[@WithLoveAshley]

What works for one may not work for all. I believe they said they did used to tell him he passed away. There’s food and bad about both options.

[@nadinewolfe405]

Your voice and tone has softened, not that your voice was sharp, but it’s just different. ❤ soft.

[@KathleenMDaly-jc6hy]

Great job Dan!!!

[@lisagraham1537]

The smile on his face when he was talking about his dog got me 🥹 Grandpa Ed you are an absolute blessing ❤ To all the family who take care of Ed bless you all such a loving caring family ❤

[@glassslippergourmet]

Same

[@mariagraziarosi3079]

I absolutely love this man...

[@Encouraging-messenger]

Dan, thank you for sharing your experience with your father, Ed. When my father was alive he also asked the whereabouts of family, for his keys and wallet, and enjoyed eating and sharing his wisdom. It was a privilege to learn from him, even with his dementia.

[@AttiCarius12]

It is my prayer that every aging soul that suffers from this horrible disease called life, can only find a family as patient and kind as y'alls. It is sooooo comforting to witness elders being cared for like they should be. Thanks Dan and Danielle and family for being such good examples for the rest of us!

[@roselynho7038]

Totally agreed.Amen!🙏🕯️🌹

[@carleinefleurinord426]

@@roselynho7038oh yes that touch me deeply

[@EileenGarcia-o4g]

This was a sad day. Looked like he was confused, poor dad.

[@vovac8915]

Life is not a disease. This is nonsense. It implicates that people should be killed in order to be cured. You're not thinking things through.

[@bluemamba5317]

@@EileenGarcia-o4g It's every day

[@Ldonna87]

I love how you can eventually lead your Dad to a good place.He knows he’s safe and loved with you and your family. What a fantastic family Ed has!

[@youtubehandle-]

Thanks Dan, you're every Father's hope for a son. ❤

[@BB-nz5sk]

Amen!!

[@petunia9436]

Amen to that!!! Ed is in the safety of his family!!!! At least he doesn’t wake up to strange people in nursing homes but he is surrounded by his loving family everyday!! How precious! One day in Heaven - in his right mind- he will thank you for that sacrifice and that you never gave up on him because of the disease!❤ blessings!

[@davealemu9967]

True

[@marycreaney173]

It saddens me to hear Ed looking for his brother Bill. Dan does his best to divert the conversation but Ed keeps coming back asking about Bill. I think these two brothers must have been very close and Ed clearly misses Bill. Blessing to you all from, Belfast ❤

[@clairestephens4916]

My Daddy had Alzheimer's and thank goodness he didn't have any loved ones that had passed away that he continually asked about. It was also really easy to redirect my Daddy, just ask him about something from his childhood. He could go on & on talking vivid memories of something that happened in 1947 but had no clue what happened yesterday. My Daddy was born in 1936. 😊

[@321MjC]

@@clairestephens4916 💝💝

[@lorisheheen2198]

Grandpa Ed went way back to 10 year's old looking for his Collie. But....the smile on his face talking about his dog brought him to a happy place in his memory. Dan you handled that very well. Thinking back when my Dad did the same...I used to get flustered. I always tell you Grandpa Ed's a wonderful man. Well today I'd like to say that to you as well. God Bless.🙏❤

[@ElsaInCa]

You have developed so much patience, Dan. You guys can teach a care giver’s class by now.

[@charityogunbo3790]

Totally agree and supported. Put all of these together, and it will be a fabulous video for teaching.

[@debi234]

Everyone has an opinion lol it’s hard enough to take care of someone with dementia without all of the well intentioned suggestions. We should all just be supportive of Danielle, Dan and the family. They have managed to take such great care of their father/grandfather at home so he can have the best end of life experience possible. It warms my heart to see such devotion and compassion from each of you in your own way. Danielle, there are no words that can convey how much I love you for your humanity, not just to grandpa, but to all of us out here watching! Much love and respect, have a wonderful day! ❤❤

[@cynthiafox2541]

I am hoping Andrew appreciates these times with his grandpa!

[@aymenazzedine8885]

He really misses his brother 💔

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Yes almost every day 🥹

[@jamiejohnson3886]

My thoughts & prayers are with your family.....& I hope you know how very much inspiration & insight your videos show to others whose families will face the untold struggles of Alzheimer's, FTLD & Dementia. It is extremely difficult to handle any cognitive disorder but as you are an example of the thousands of families who are choosing to keep their loved ones in their homes. Thank you for giving families a glimpse of what their futures may be. RIP Ramona Hodges, Alzheimer's passed in 2017 & Allen Hodges, Dementia passed in 2019. 💔

[@carolynsears1710]

I love how he smiles talking about his dog!

[@BB-nz5sk]

He still has such manners!!! What a sweet relationship!

[@BeautyMeetsDIY]

He is so amazing! Even though his memory is off, somehow he remembers to compliment others, stay positive and see the good in everybody. Your mind can go but a good heart condition is imbedded in you for life.

[@fzahid]

Dan's little sigh in the beginning says it all , you don't want him to go through the trauma again and again. The smile on his face when remembering his dog though 😊 so so sweet ❤

[@cookiemon4614]

Yes that smile! He was beaming 😊

[@Kodu212]

Dan's sigh is because Dan is exausted from answering that many times a day

[@krystylbrookshire7836]

I just love the relationship you two have. I too am a caregiver and it can take its toll on you but it’s an Honor to care for our parents 💜

[@dsalnorcal1434]

Solidarity bump 🤜

[@gayamaruyama7129]

I really enjoyed listening to your conversation … everybody gets old … hopefully I will be blessed with kids like you -Dan and Mark and also a daughter in law like Danielle! “ I feel normal That’s why I wonder where Bill is “ … - Grandpa Looking for a pet dog he had when he was 8 years old - amazing!

[@koolintimidator]

He sure remembers 1932!!

[@outfromtheshadows]

I can’t begin to imagine how emotionally challenging it is to cope with the day to day issues and watching someone you love dearly slowly losing touch. It must feel absolutely exhausting and so very, very sad. It is a blessing that Ed has such love surrounding him at this vulnerable time in his life. ❤

[@adriennelogan9081]

Yes…Prolonged and persistent grief and loss in real time while also providing care

[@jeanwilkinson989]

Very very sad!!

[@dominic8218]

You did excellent Dan. Brought back memories of me and my own Dad 💚

[@silvanaa7201]

Dad never forget his born year 1932 😇😊😊

[@cloudstrife206]

Dan you do such an amazing job looking after your father. If I was to ever find myself in your situation, I would hope to be half as compassionate and patient as you.

[@rev.karenandersonhardaway]

I lost my Dad in 2018, so these videos bring me comfort. Thank you for sharing. #Born1932

[@janetstonerook4552]

He seems to be confused more deeply now. It makes more sense for Dan just to soothe and divert his attention rather than revisiting his old loses.

[@NenengTarigan]

Dan sounds full with love and attention when talking to his dad. Maybe 1 out of a million sons doing that to their parents. His parents must had raised their children in a most loving environment in the past. ❤

[@leesashriber5097]

I cannot imagine how hard this is for your family. You have so much love, compassion and kindness. Grandpa Ed is so blessed to have you all. ❤️🙏❤️

[@tammylouasksdearsubswtf7955]

❤❤ everytime he says 1932 I smile ear to ear... bless his sweet soul & those of you that love and care for him,I'm sending big cyber hugs and prayers for you,, Thank you for sharing him & your journey with us...

[@lisalister8002]

He never forgets that date!

[@aebglenda27]

Hahahhahah me too😂

[@kwerk2011]

Everytime Ed says "I'm 91?" I automatically say "Born 1932" in Ed's voice. Got to even admit to a little disappointment whenever he just smiles and nods in response instead of saying it with me!

[@lilianflynn1876]

​@@lisalister80021932!

[@darciereed9595]

😢❤😊 Dan...you are such a blessing to your Dad.

[@collette2990]

You are doing wonderfully Dan. I’ve been through 3. My grandma and her 2 sisters. Growing up in Hawaii, we (cousins, aunties, uncles, siblings) we’re always at each others houses daily. I’m seeing Ed here taking a pretty big decline now. Not recognizing any family member more and more. It’s individual of course. But, the stages are pretty on cue. Panic, fear, paranoia and lashing out is very common. Hearing sounds that are not there (which doesn’t include his tinnitus). It’s all part of it. You guys keep your chin up. I know heartbreaking but, so proud of you Dan and your family for bringing awareness to the world. Thank you for sharing the journey, we all love and support you Dan. ❤

[@pauldutram2668]

I love this man, sorry to see him slipping away. God bless you for treating him with so much dignity.

[@hts1443]

I understand Dan completely. Sometimes it's easier just to go along instead of trying to explain the facts. Love Grampa Ed and the whole family ❤

[@dbrice71]

My mom in the late stages of dementia could recall her childhood like nobody's business.

[@Sincerity028]

That is part of the stages, I worked as a care provider as home aide, assisted living, and few yrs in a nursing home, it is very common they reflect from their past and feel they are living in the moment as well. It’s very tough, but bless all loved ones whom take care of another loved one while going through this difficult journey.

[@jcgurl3773]

Dan, God bless you. I caregive for my 80 year father, redirection can be so exhausting and requires patience. Good job staying patient!!! ❤

[@ecvfamilytube]

I’m really glad you make these videos. We are about to start down this process of care with my elderly grandma and I am learning very fast this isn’t easy. You and your family are so compassionate and kind and doing such a good job giving your dad a nice life.

[@joyful_tanya]

Patience is key. If you get impatient, take a break and come back. I think you are beautiful person going to care for your elderly family member. ❤

[@urmama9845]

You are great. Grandpa is a lucky man

[@stellagrau8871]

This is maddening.He is blessed to have Dan and Danielle.

[@LittleFrenchHen]

I love how his face lit up when he recalled his childhood dog, the collie. Ed's face beamed with smiles!

[@mihiretmamo8808]

Awww he asks about his brother a lot of times ..i think they had a great bond with brother

[@NancyCronk]

His love for his brother is so deep.

[@JazMa5504]

Sending virtual Hugs to Grandpa. You can see how much he Loved his Collie. Thank You Dan, Danielle and rest of your family for your Love and Patience towards Grandpa. God Bless you ALL

[@karenmartin4221]

His face just lit up when they talked about Acey!🥲

[@lallavillamil2221]

Grandpa Ed felt normal, and he is really a great man at 91yrs old God bless all Salinger family ❤

[@OluOgbobine]

Thanks guys, constantly engaging, and having discussions with Grandpa is so therapeutic and joyful.

[@kayssoutherncharm]

God bless his heart. You an your wife are so good to him an yall take such good of him God bless yall

[@ericawebb96]

Grandpa Ed has the most patient care loving family. It’s amazing to hear him ask for family and his pet dog, he may forget a lot of things but his heart remembers everything!!❤❤

[@321MjC]

He may forget a lot of things, but his heart remembers them all. 😭😭😭 So beautiful, && SO TRUE💝

[@Pelesfyre]

I feel like im listening to "who's on first" when Ed and Dan are having a conversation sometimes 😂 Gotta love this family! ❤

[@onelove1968]

Dan, I would imagine that you've probably seen this picture already ... yesterday I watched the film 'The Father' featuring Anthony Hopkins. Hopkins plays 80 year old Anthony, who's grip on reality is unravelling. What is deeply striking about The Father is that, without obvious first-person camera tricks it puts us inside Anthony's head. We see and don't see what he sees and doesn't see. This special film warmly embraces real life, through loving reflection upon the vibrant human condition; heart-breaking and uncompromisingly poignant - a movie that nestles in the truth of our own lives. I highly recommend watching this film. It's a work of genius that is almost operatic from humor, to drama, to pain, to horror and finally to tears.

[@catherinesecord3399]

I can so relate to my experience with my dad. He kept forgetting he owned his house for over 40 years, thinking he was in a hotel, wanting to check out . The shock everytime we told him he owned this house was similar to how your dad is shocked to hear he is 91. He would forget me or my brother from time to time. The constant questions repeated over and over can be exhausting at times. you both show so much patience with your father. I was always known as a very patient person but i admit i lost my cool from time to time. Its not an easy situation but you both are doiing such a great job, you're both such an inspiration for anyone on this journey. Take Care!! xoxoxo

[@furrysfriend5150]

Now whenever i am stressed with my work, i check for Grandpa's updates. It's become almost my routine to check up with Grandpa; what's going on and how he is going ❤ etc .. love you Grandma. Thanks Dan!

[@GeeBee..]

Ditto ❤

[@KayVaughn-x8p]

Nothing warms my heart more than when dan sit gpa right beside him an visits w him..comforts an just spends time w him. Dan is adorable for his patience. !! Awesome dan!

[@judywiggins5092]

Bless you and your family!

[@sincerelytee3029]

Dan: “I’m 55” Grandpa: “so” 🤣🤣 so casually gotta love him bless his heart!

[@LuvTadnDixie]

It's probably very tiring having to answer the same questions, specifically the one about Bill. It probably causes a bit of anxiety for Dan . . . having to think quickly and decide in that moment if he should lie to him (which you have to do a lot of times with Dementia patients, comes with the territory) or do you tell the truth. It's hard and it's exhausting. One of the saddest moments was Dan witnessing his father going outside calling for his brother Bill. That moment got to me too. Keep up the good work, Dan. You're doing amazing! It's hard, I know. God bless you and your Dad.

[@Lwaite999]

That was so beautiful when dan asked his dad "do you know who i am?" And your father replied "you're my son!" 🥹💗 So beautiful

[@kathrynbailey7174]

Good morning grandpa and Dan

[@jbirdie30]

The big smile when he's remembering Acey 🥰

[@lcritter]

I really like how you are handling things Dan. So kind and gentle.

[@janegriffiths7733]

Love canny pops,when you ask him a question he comes back with a question for you, hence distracting you, I know that you know what's going on but is cute to see,I am starting to go through what you have been going through with my partner,love your informative videos,love to you and your family

[@EGT-kf2hu]

I can't stop watching Ed. I think he's a brilliant man. He's really wise. I love his attitude towards life

[@karenhouser4123]

I've begun to see comments from people that are saying they see grandpa Ed declining. Please dont do that. The ones who are with Grandpa. Dan, Danielle, and Mark are the ones who know him best. If he's changing, they are very awear of it. I think it's unkind to give armchair opinions of Grandpa Ed's mental state of mind , and if YOU think he's not doing well. Dan, Danielle and Mark are living this with him, taking wonderful care of him and know 1st hand how he's doing. Let's just be supportive of the family❤

[@peta2206]

The whole world knows he was born in 1932😂

[@rosajohnson5212]

I love how Doc repeatedly speaks prosperity, success and positive things into every family member. You're doing great, Dan.

[@deniseowen3987]

Can you tell us about his love for brother Bill? He seems to have a lot of concern for him.

[@earledaniels4539]

Eds smile was priceless when he was talking about the dog he had as a boy

[@KiaraGramin]

This entire family makes my day 💙 I’ve watched Grandpa’s reels so much that I know words lmao

[@sayleebocook6293]

Dan your doing good.

[@evageronimo5078]

Dad is very lucky to have a loving and caring family who looks after him during his old age most especially he has memory problem. Thanks Dan for not telling dad that uncle Bill has passed. You saved him from heartache. God bless you all.

[@bernadetteavetria6474]

Surely Grandpa ed loves brother bill❤

[@isking1715]

The smile when Ed was talking about his Collie, he was picturing the dog in his head. Beautiful.❤

[@mariagraziarosi3079]

Amazing human being...

[@bless1019]

I feel normal. Awwww. I enjoy watching him.

[@pjmoody]

Poor Ed.

[@PCTLadyPuterTutor]

I think that's a good idea to tell grandpa that Bill is with his family instead of putting him through the sorrow of discovering that Bill has passed.

[@kaylariggs5188]

Any time you ask him how he feels he never says good, if always, "normal" 🤷🏼‍♂️ Lol I always found that so interesting!

[@juliewilson3237]

I go through a flood of emotions watching Grandpa. Sad , happy and slightly exhausted on your behalf 😮. You are doing the right thing to try to redirect the difficult conversations but your Dad has a stubborn streak lol 😆 . Keep up the hard work, your doing a great job 😊!!

[@shur7318]

Nicely done Dan pointing out to pops what’s in the moment( room with cats ) and acknowledging pops childhood pet nice redirection to a happy place

[@wendiepate5983]

Grandpa Ed always says feel normal ,never fine or good . I find that interesting

[@lucyr8884]

Grandpa is very exhausted today. I hope he gets a good nights sleep 😴 tonight. ♥️♥️

[@veronicaboyd3696]

Hi Dan, I’m seeing you, Ed and Andrew from your yesterday podcast where Ed is looking for and you’re both talking about his first dog, a collie. You’re pointing out your “shepherd “ who is over by Andrew who is eating pizza. I’m howling with laughter😂as you quickly assert that the dog is actually with the pizza . You didn’t slow your cadence as you spoke but it was hilarious as you pointed out that the dog was actually focused on the pizza, not Andrew!!

[@michaelmishaw]

Thank you for sharing your life with your Dad with us. For those of us going through the same thing with a parent, it makes us feel not so alone.

[@desertsunset8025]

I love him so much. This is so precious and makes my day to see him smile every time he looks at the cats and dog . 🐕

[@littlestepperspreschool3278]

I stopped sharing deaths in the family with my dad. I just didn't have the heart to do it anymore.

[@margaretjackson7729]

That’s the first time I heard Dan almost ask, NOT AGAIN DAD-Where’s his brother bill… I must say, your patience held up a longgggggggg time!!! This situation takes a lot out of a person… Taking care of others takes a lot of time… And patience…

[@paulabrown6840]

You are really wonderful with your dad Dan! Bless your whole family! 🥰

[@kedressguest9387]

Bless him , such a gentle man he is ❤

[@Heatherfether]

So so so so patient with him ❤ I adore your family ❤️

[@frann.8879]

Hi Dan….your display of patience during this interaction/redirection is amazing!…Incredible how he remembers the collie, but not what happened to Bill…..I went through a similar situation with my grandmother-she also had dementia….it’s not an easy road. I commend all of your efforts-you and your family are doing a super job!😁😁❤️❤️

[@kedressguest9387]

He recon Andrew is very smart and very nice boy❤

[@timriungu6338]

He Blessed Andrew ✔️🙏🏾

[@gulshanyusufzai9230]

I like how you kept on bringing it back to him instead of giving him sad news again and again. Grandpa is so sweet and strong. He is lucky to have you, Dan.

[@susanking9379]

Dan you are amazing with your Dad, God bless you and Ed. He bought tears to my eyes with this video.

[@darlapremeaux7006]

Good morning to you Ed and Dan and Danielle hope yall have a blessed day love ❤️ yall

[@stefaniemarieS]

I love it when grandpa smiles❤ He was so happy when Dan mentioned AC.

[@UKGBManny]

Awwww the little sigh from Dan speaks volumes you can tell questions about Bill upset Dan also. My grandad had dementia towards the end of his life i wish i knew what i know now thanks to Dan. 💙💙

[@blvcccrevm]

02:17 - The Doc Got Me In Stitches 😂😭

[@ambreflores1740]

Ed touches my heart daily ❤ great job Dan

[@bethhutchins5657]

I hate to tell you this Dan and Danielle yall gonna have a 100 collies delivered to your door step 😅

[@mensahbernadette256]

He is tired, and he is getting confused. Hang in there. Tomorrow is another day. God bless you all.❤❤❤

[@DeniseSterling-k5u]

It just seems to me like he accepts Bill being passed away rather than not knowing where he is. Just my opinion based on seeing his reactions... He seems to ask more questions when you say you don't know where he is. But then again I'm sure you don't want to see him grieved by saying he's passed. Such a hard thing.