Duncan Trussell: "Accept Yourself Exactly As You Are"

[@pittamaker2950]

"Life hasn't been easy for you, so give yourself a fucking break" it really hit me

[@yeah2089]

Ari did a good job of forcing duncan to defend his point of view, and Duncan did an amazing job of addressing Ari’s points

[@aussiejubes]

About 5 years ago my therapist told me I have no compassion for myself & I had to start showing myself loads of it everyday forever. I had never even heard of that concept. It was the simplest & most profoundly life changing thing I've ever been told in therapy. My life literally changed by huge degrees overnight because I didn't even know that was a thing before. Suddenly I started treating myself like a human being, not a flogging post & wow my mind opened. Self compassion is essential. I don't think we see ourselves as fully human until we have it.

[@tylermacdonald8924]

The mind is full of paradoxes. Beating yourself to improve is like screaming at someone to soothe them.

[@tristarperfecta1061]

Duncan trying to expalin this to Ari is like me explaining covid to my dog.

[@CortneyHindman]

It's a little painful

[@Capitalisst]

Don't be mean.

[@toleball19]

😂

[@HBCrigs]

Two beings who don't know true unity trying to point at the one in eachother until universal heat death fizzles out the question

[@SergieRachmaninoff]

Seriously, Duncan has helped me through so damn much this past month or so.

[@BlackandWhitecustoms]

Duncan didnt help you but your decision to listen and reapond to him did. You are the dricer of your experiwnce and are very more powerful than you realize.

[@JohnSchaeferUNIVERSE]

You're not alone my brother❤

[@roberthuber2770]

I truly think Duncan is an enlightened being

[@VIAOV]

He was a direct student of Chogyam Trungpa I believe, a Buddhist master who held two lineages. That and he passed through so many tough stages of his life and had so much experience from psychedelics. The stars aligned for this one!

[@tristarperfecta1061]

​@Augoeidez well said. I've always loved Duncan and as I listen to this, I realize how far I have come. Nonduality has been my focus for years and I feel like I have several graduations towards it daily. I hope to meet him one day and tell him about how I named my dog Love and have done meditations with him that have led to me getting in touch with a darkness in me that I was terrified to view. My dog being named Love and being an adorable little black and white dog makes me think about Love all every day. I wake up to Love hugging me. The more I love my dog I love myself and the more I love myself, the less i am trapped in my own thoughts and I can spend my energy helping other people feel more loved.

[@marcoduvall4404]

Mooji is good too ​@@mikogale

[@marcoduvall4404]

​@@tristarperfecta1061♾️

[@lcbryant78]

He’s a bodhisattva

[@DepthStrider222]

Duncan legitimately changed how I perceive myself and the world.

[@AmanitaPLUS]

I saw him live and it was like God walked into the room. I couldn't thank him enough. Or at all he was on stage

[@OldLadyMapleSeed]

I was so fucking judgmental all through elementary and middle school, and when I figured this out it was the biggest relief. I literally hated myself so much that I tricked myself into thinking I didn’t like other people, when I wanted to love everyone for every little thing. I was like, okay, let’s actively look for beauty in other people and examine our reaction to their flaws to see if we actually care or we can forgive and accept them, and suddenly I seemed like less of a stupid piece of shit. Thank fucking god

[@MontuckyGirl75]

This information about loving ourselves in the face of trauma has been present in our DNA since the dawn of human kind. There is nothing new under the sun. The compulsion to put ourselves first and to submit to our parents/society/deity have been in an eternal conflict and will continue to be so, that's the human condition. Duncan sounded pretty defeated after Ari kept on with his sarcastic and condescending manner. It's like Ari didn't hear a word Duncan said and also didn't want to let it sink in. Duncan shines as a genuine person, he's trying to show Ari how to be genuine. Ari has some pretty deep attachment issues to sort through, it's pretty evident.

[@94djeep]

"I started realizing "it" was everything, the uni-verse. Undifferentiated goo. This lovely mess of nonsense, I am. Nothing. Nobody. Fully embodied. Then I remembered. Re-member. I chose to be here. I can choose to leave. I create self. I choose where self ends. Other begins. Failure is an illusion. Grow through the opportunities. Then i wonder. Who am I? What do I love? What is my own way? Where did I leave my boat? And again. I remember. I left it with a friend. Hidden in relationship. Words and their counterparts. Shared between illusions of self and other. So i guess if you read this. Thanks for sharing in the song. You left an I here. Loving awareness is never gone. Duncan draws on a beautiful lineage of great teachers. Rather than words they leave their teachings in the hearts of others. The presence of Loving Awareness. Perhaps thats why it always gets through eventually. "And suddenly I find myself falling deeply in love with the universe and its hard as hell to talk about.." (RAM)

[@benonaru]

i cannot believe no one read this

[@benonaru]

except for me.

[@94djeep]

Nobody always reads what I write. It's delightful. Thank you for being.

[@YoniNoPhony]

Thank you for this video. Ram Dass helped me love myself and I truly do now!! ❤🙏

[@TeachMeHow2Douglas]

Damn Duncan, I'm really digging this insight.

[@abramfedorov4483]

You love the potential of yourself. You don't wish anything for or from yourself, you simply let yourself grow into what you can be.

[@edtx82]

Thank you for this. Some of the most succinct messages here, which must be difficult 😂❤ At some point I asked God to use me for his will, when I pray that's always what I ask for- seems like He's asking me to trust him. The process is difficult- healing deep wounds in myself in order to do His will. I confuse intimacy and lust- part of my family and many other families traumas. I did avoid these "air pockets"- they are traumas that need to be healed to do the work. That's where the mercurial energy comes into play- creating low self worth for not allowing me to move how I need to do the work. You talked about all this here- I was missing it. The energy around the "work" was huge this weekend. Again, thank you ❤❤❤

[@secularpilgrim1372]

How can you not love Duncan?

[@CaféLunatico]

F*cking shit, Duncan is like a fucking therapist to me

[@winnnerchickendinner]

Everyone needs to hear this. Fuck.

[@MFJoneser]

Ily Duncan señor

[@dirtyhiggins5484]

It is hard for me to accept Ari. I love him as a fellow human being, but he really rubs me the wrong way.

[@ashlynwells1318]

The way this man Ari Keeps interrupting with his BS is so annoying tbh he contributed nothing to this conversation

[@Violet-y2r]

I thought that too when I first watched it because I was projecting but now I enjoy his questions cuz he is asking what I’m wondering as someone who struggles with self compassion but everybody has their own opinion

[@tjm1061]

So true

[@drakedavis5790]

What ep is this from?

[@nickinskeep]

Just lost a romantic partner as a direct result of beating myself up. This shits real. Time to start this crazy process, and I'm so grateful Duncan is out here as guide

[@cameronwiley2406]

Love man

[@Susan-ol4ys]

Wonderful ❤

[@jocsanabdala9456]

One of the two Christian commandments is loving your neighbor as yourself. Meaning that the same love you have for others, you should have for yourself. How do you love your neighbors? Forgive them 77x7 times, show them kindness, show them gentleness, show them self control, weep when they weep, rejoice when they rejoice. Now, do that to yourself.

[@Capitalisst]

Man, I want... To? I think? Should I? What if I'm shit? MAYBE I'm not... Shit. What am I? What's this thing I should love "as it is" ? Thanks Duncan you're making me ask what I believe is... Important.

[@brentloy131]

I’m sorry but Ari is very annoying in this

[@luckylotusx]

i think they were high in this podcast so explains it lol

[@joey_yangyin]

@@luckylotusx lol

[@StarmenRock]

@@luckylotusx Ari is annoying sober too. Even sleeping

[@vishnu2407]

Accept him too

[@littlewigglemonster7691]

​@@luckylotusxhe's just incredibly depressed and he refuses change. I'm in the same mind set I see where his mind is.. he is challenging his thoughts which makes him expand more, which is why this convo exists to begin with.

[@HBCrigs]

What happens if this time, the last thinking being to exist knows they are the way, and then dies and then sprouts into the infinite being of space

[@losttribeartcollective6391]

Who are you interviewing?

[@MrBlackey666]

Ari shafir

[@ronjakatariina]

Dude just explained the theory behind Vipassana meditation in such everyday terms

[@kateapple1]

I think people who tell you to just be yourself are bullshit. NO ONE wants you to be yourself. Not even you. What if myself is a serial killer, what if myself is a complete asshole, what if, myself is made up of more parts than just one thing. How can you tell someone to be themselves when that is more than one thing?

[@chromaticHermit]

But you're not any of those things. No body is one thing or another, purely we are just the essence of consciousness shot into a body, and now we're having an experience until we die. Whatever traits and behaviors we pick up is a mix between learned and genetics. But underneath that, it really is just pure experiencing the world we were put into. Do with that as you'd like. Honestly, being an asshole or serial killer isn't anyone's "true self", they're ailments to a fucked up childhood or weird genetic brain problem. No body comes into the world lusting for blood or wanting to hurt. Usually people hurt because they've been hurt or they don't know any better.

[@phishpondering8962]

The only kind of unconventional love that really exist is between a man and his pets. Because the pets love unconventionally. Take time to really ponder on this. The amount of love that a man feels for a woman is much more than what a woman feels for the man. Sounds messed up but there is a hierarchy or something like that with love.

[@namegoeshere197]

yea we should stop living in the future. Becuse the future never arrives!

[@Smoke_DMT]

Digital Antidepressants 🎉

[@yodafat]

gay

[@onyxrain2362]

Me letting six days go by playing world of Warcraft… 😂🥲

[@plookngo67]

if you are a degenerate be a total degenerate be mindful of the 1 million for your legal defense

[@StarmenRock]

I seriously hope you're joking