Easier Ways For the Elderly to Clean Themselves After Toileting

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Read the full guide at: www.grayingwithgrace.com/elderly-clean-after-bowel-movement/

[@jeanfederici5730]

😅🎉

[@Lorrainecats]

Agree. Lived it

[@marciawaters7885]

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[@lyndavonkanel8603]

I bought a bidet from Amazon for about $35, installed myself and have never looked back. I love It! I carry a portable bidet in my handbag and use it when I'm away from home.

[@mariekatherine5238]

😂Never looked back!

[@lyndavonkanel8603]

@mariekatherine5238 Oh, that IS funny! I wasn't thinking literally when I wrote that familiar line. Now I am!

[@martaaltheide5146]

Retired nurse of 40 years. Worked in nursing homes 4 years. Skin on elderly is thin and prone to chafing or bleeding from wiping to remove feces. And the concentrated urine in the dehydrated is very difficult to remove the odor from diaper area. We used a non rinse spray cleanser and I insisted on warm water ( in bath basin) with soft washcloths ( oh, how much resistance from nurse assistants!) but this technique was the best way ( and of course clean clothes and sheets/ protective pads under patient, every time. Long term care facilities are known for unpleasant odors. But, a great nurse manager or Director of facility won’t tolerate poor care. His/ Her pay depends on it

[@Julia-xf5ps]

I’m so sorry you work with idiots! Bless yiu.. 😊

[@SpeakTruthBeKind]

Thank you for caring for your people and training the others.❤

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I’m glad to hear that! I remember visiting someone when I was a child, probably around the late 50’s or 60, and the smell made me gag!

[@alexandraday3685]

​@@Tinyteacher1111how old are you? I don't think most 50s 60s smell they usually shower every day and do laundry. Teenager Boys smell the most

[@Tinyteacher1111]

@@alexandraday3685 69. I’m not sure what you mean, but I taught high school for 40 years, and the boys’ locker room smelled down the hall! I think my mom and grandma took me to a hospital where my great-grandmother or someone like that, was. I’m not sure. I was too young, but I sure remember the smell.

[@valerief1231]

Very helpful information for anyone that has a sudden on set of disability. Some of these options can benefit women during pregnancy. I am a care giver, and one of my clients is morbidly obese and struggled with cleaning himself after a bowl movement. We opted for the shower wand. Had grab bars mounted in his shower, and purchased a bariatric shower chair. Hi uses the chair to stabilize himself while rinsing off. As to the first comment about ‘water alone isn’t good enough’ there is some truth to it, but not to that degree. The difficulty in removing feces because it’s stuck to their skin, comes not with people that defecate in the toilet, then use water alone, but this pertains mostly to patients that are wearing adult diapers. If the feces is stuck to the skin, it’s because it’s been there, most likely while the patient is in bed, laying on it, or sitting in it. If it’s there for a little while, just like a baby, it’s going to take wiping and cleansers. I am grateful videos like this exist. Sometimes when trying to convince a patient to try something different, and they are skeptical, I validate the idea by sharing KZbin videos, this one will be very helpful. I find it helps them realize that this isn’t weird, they aren’t the only one experiencing this issue, it’s normal, and nothing to be embarrassed about.

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Thanks for your validation and kind words. This is an unfortunate but necessary part of life for many disabled people and older adults. So, the best thing to do is find a viable, workable solution like you and your client did!

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I never thought there would be videos on this, but now I find it interesting what people do, and the care they take.

[@reneemarielong6798]

I am obese myself and it is impossible to reach around my body to wipe myself. When using wash clothes after a BM: Be sure there is a thick toilet seat cover; stand up, close the seat cover; place a nice warm soapy cloth on the seat; grasp the sides of your bum, spreading the cheeks, and sit down; wiggle a bit to rub your skin and anus on the cloth. Repeat the action with a wet rinse cloth to wipe any soap away; and repeat the action again with a dry cloth to dry your bum. Seems like a lot of fuss and bother, but well worth the clean comfort when you return to social/public seating in fress dry clothes. If you try this even once, you'll be hooked. The dry cloth sit down is great after using a bidet.

[@SarahBearah2023]

My son is disabled. I use either a warm washcloth or wet wipes or just TP depending uoon the type & level of mess. Baking soda water spray bottle is another idea. Rose oil smells wonderful apply with a paper towel or clean cloth rag. Very relaxing. ❤

[@ElianaGaristo]

Thanks for your comments. Congrats on your hard work as a care giver. Blessings,

[@oldegoatee8450]

As an 80+ year old, I can attest that this advice is solid! I would also suggest getting a higher toilet which is much easier on hips and knees. They are not expensive, but need to be installed by a plumber. But SO worth it!

[@merryhunt9153]

I didn't have to get a higher toilet. I simply went to Amazon and ordered a thicker seat, which was easily installed (no plumber).

[@charlenemack7040]

For $45 I bought a thing that you put on top of your toilet bowl and added 4 1/2 inches in height. It’s absolutely wonderful. No plumber needed. There are many different kinds on the Internet.

[@IMOO1896]

Instead of changing my whole toilet, I got an extended height sewt, makes a big difference.

[@carolhill564]

Or a riser seat

[@helenfisler-parker9005]

You can get a plastic elevated seat that you just screw on. It's great, safe and covered by insurance.

[@rubenlenger9065]

An interesting and instructive video for elderly people. But why the background noise? Many old folks have hearing loss and the "music" makes understanding difficult.

[@PM-gx2bp]

I must be deaf. I can’t hear the background music.

[@deborahburroughs8905]

@@PM-gx2bpyour deaf. Drove me to turn it off!

[@eoharrison7499]

I'm not elderly yet (I'm definitely middle aged, although my body disagrees and acts older than my parents who are in their 80s thanks to being terminal and being in a double lung transplant program from a bad immune system), but some of the sounds DID hurt my ears (hard of hearing) which made me turn the volume down and watch it with the closed captioning on!

[@MJ-hl1kk]

I generally HATE background so-called 'music'. They're mostly so loud, tasteless, distracting and deafening. I fully agree, they should be banned. Luckily, the music here was very soft and I did not notice at all. Maybe I have learned to become a little deaf. You are definitely more sensitive than I.

[@msherry5]

I think somebody must be teaching KZbin creators that they must have background music. It's almost always distracting for me.

[@naomichannon4456]

Install a Bidet - you will thank yourself. Best thing as you age for helping you stay clean and fresh. It has been a major blessing for me as I take care of my 94 year old FIL.

[@tamkid70]

The answer, won't go without ever again best thing I've bought!! Mine has a dryer too

[@amyboleszny543]

We have one in our en suite and also a bum gun in the other toilet which my husband uses. We had an Asian lady own the unit before we bought it and she installed the hygiene devices.

[@naomichannon4456]

@@tamkid70 yes, mine has a dryer as well, heated seat and temperature from hot to cold. All the bells and whistles!

[@Tinyteacher1111]

That’s what one of my boyfriends says. I’m 69, and he’s 67.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

@@amyboleszny543I have to look up bum gun!

[@artandacarter9364]

This is an embarrassing subject for a lot of people at any age. As a nurse, I've seen this over & over. Thank you for sharing this information! 😊

[@nancyadams9228]

I have been that personal care person for many. It is all in a distracting conversation. Dignity! Thank you!

[@rae0521]

Right across from the toilet is my bathtub which has a wide sill and a vertical grab bar attached to it. This enables me to use the tub as a bidet. I place a washcloth on the wide sill (for comfort) then sit on the cloth with my "exit" hanging into the tub area. I use the handheld shower device to clean the area. I pat myself dry then rinse the tub thoroughly. This arrangement works well for me, takes only a minute... and costs nothing. PS - another plus is that I can use WARM water if I wish.

[@oldegoatee8450]

Wow! Thank you for this advice. Beats having to get undressed all the way, just to clean one area! Anxious to try that out.

[@rae0521]

@@oldegoatee8450 I'm able to set my handheld shower to a single stream as well as control the power of that stream. This is an extremely comfortable way to clean my butt without a lot of hassle. PS - To dry thoroughly I use a small hairdryer on warm setting. Towels only get me "damp dry."

[@Lunafalls]

That's a smart set-up!

[@msherry5]

You have got this figured out!

[@rae0521]

@@msherry5 Sure works well for me. Just make sure you don't lose your balance and fall backwards into the tub. I wouldn't even try it without one of those grab bars attached to the tub to aid in sitting down, getting up, and balance.

[@ahill4642]

This is a really informative and caring video to put out. Nice.

[@marygillette4938]

Seven years ago I fell down some stairs and broke both ankles. I remembered back when I had a caesarean section and the hospital sent me home with a " Personal Spray Bottle", and was thankful to have one, and a donated commode. Since my home was built in 1927 and doorway to the bathroom was to narrow for my wheelchair. I'm healed now and still use a personal spray bottle

[@northernbettygirl]

that's an awesome idea Mary! Works like a bidet for those, like me, who can't afford that bathroom commode attachment.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Is that like toilet paper spray?

[@irishphilly]

A little off topic: Fell & Broke both ankles? Ohmygosh. 7 years ago or now: You get Respect. That you thought of your C-section & Spray Bottle---mmm-hmm, THAT pretty much says it all. Thanks for info.

[@maryworthington1160]

A friend of mine had MS. After urinating , she was not able to dry herself. She said a hair dryer worked for her.

[@marybirtle8609]

Where can ‘personal sprays’ be bought please?

[@jpridie]

Good video I’ve used a bidet that I got from Costco years ago and now I’m recovering from hip surgery it has come in very useful. After a bowel movement I turn the spray on and wiggle my bum around till I think it’s cleaned about 1 minute and then let it drip dry another minute then stand up and check with a half baby wipe to make sure I’m clean it works wonders.

[@luv2bbq]

Bidets are life changing. They do such an amazing job. Just had spinal fusion and this thing saved me. Easy peasy and only paid $15 on Amazon. Caught it on sale but normally only like $22

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience!

[@BeanCounter86]

I came to say the same thing. Bidets can cost a lot less than $500 and are indeed life changing.

[@ghostladydarkling3250]

Luv2bbq, good luck on your recovery, I had spinal surgery in Jan.

[@sheilasmith5056]

May I ask what brand you got for that price? I desperately need one but want the cheapest one possible that gets the job done.

[@janehyden1652]

i have one and would never go without one. ive got polyarthritis and my joints dont work well--hard for my hand to go back but somehow i manage.

[@susananderson9619]

Im 65, have severe full body osteoarthritis.. I had moved in with a friend a couple years ago and discovered she had a simple budet attachment on the toilet. Thats when O discovered the utter joy if bidetsand the cleansing ability. I eventually moved out a couple years later . I bought a portable bidet. I niw live in my mini van and depend on wet wipes,that bidet, And fast food bathrooms for alot of my hygiene.

[@Julia-xf5ps]

Yes!! Good for you😄

[@marydesiree2638]

Sad

[@northernbettygirl]

Susan, it's got to be difficult ambulating in that mini van in your condition. And fast food restaurant bathrooms are nasty with germs. I'm 61, have OA bone/on/bone hips w/severe muscle atrophy, so I can empathize. I wish you all the best girlfriend🥹🙏🏼

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Wow! You’re brave! I wish they had an agency where they could hook up single older people with each other to share houses!

[@VickyCooksalot]

I'm 59 and I don't think I could survive living in my van. If you really don't have any assets but your van perhaps this channel can refer you to some place that can help you.

[@1953lili]

Spent time in Japan in 1999 and the Toto with all the bells and whistles was for me Love at first use. I bought a wand to hold the TP but it didn’t let the paper drop into the toilet so they haven’t perfected that yet. During the pandemic I carried 90% alcohol in a spray bottle to wipe off the toilet seat and would spray water on the TP to clean my lady parts. I am 71 now and utilize adult wipes which I dispose of in a small covered waste basket next to my toilet. Still fondly remember that Toto toilet that was a dream come true for a lady with hemorrhoids.

[@maryl8753]

Oh yes those Japanese toilets are heaven😊

[@lindarossi-b9d]

my elderly saggy bottom partner always had tire tracks on his undies. after I told him it's easier to wipe a 'grape' than a raisin and pull his cheeks further apart when he sat on the throne, no more tire tracks. with much laughter, he told me it was so much easier to clean himself that way as his cheeks were held apart making the 'target' easier to get to. it's what I always do now that I too have a saggy bottom. I also use a water bottle that runners use, filled with warm water for rinsing my lady parts at the front. it has a flip top nozzle making it easier to aim,, patting with a dry wash cloth - in an apartment from the 80's & can't modify the toilet. the faucet water is bad due to the area we live in & those old pipes so I have a brita & use that water to really get clean. just found this graying with grace channel & now I'll subscribe. very helpful - thanks

[@JoyceBowersox]

Good info!

[@jonrutherford6852]

This video is a welome step in the right direction. How much easier life would be, not just for older people but for everyone, if society could get over being embarrassed by processes that are a natural and essential part of life for every one of us. Good work.

[@Haupialani]

I'll be 67 next month but I'm not at the point where I need assistance just yet. That being said, I recently retired and take a shower every other day. To keep myself fresh and clean I use a portable bidet. I use a drop of Vagasil intimate wash into the bidet and add warm water. It's so refreshing and I feel so clean.

[@elizabethpalamatam9609]

Thank you for discussing this subject

[@lulumoon6942]

Accident or debilitating illness can make this you, too. Thank you. 🙏

[@Questor-ky2fv]

Bidets and shower heads don't wipe, so some mess will still be left behind. They are also hard to aim accurately, more so if you have health issues. They will also get you and your immediate surroundings wet. I've tried the toilet paper wands, and the paper comes out before you can do a good job of wiping yourself. They also didn't reduce the strain on my bad back and bad knees. I use baby wipes, which work great! Although I haven't tried it, a moistened washcloth with just a little bit of very mild soap will also work. Baby soap or a natural type of adult soap would be best. The washcloths will need a container for dirty ones until they can be washed, and it will take a couple of minutes to prep it for use. Baby wipes can be used right out of the pack, and can be thrown away when you are done using them. Just remember, never flush them, even if the package says you can. Those ones don't really fall apart well enough in the toilet to avoid clogging the plumbing., so better safe than sorry.

[@emmsue1053]

For Mom I found woven cotton disposable cloths in a pack (like baby wipes but dry) Better than BWs because they can be made wetter and soapier with baby soap or similar.. You can use like a washcloth then throw away, *do not flush* (keep a separate small lined bin in the bathroom) empty, tie the bag & dispose.. A clean one with some disinfectant on placed in the base allows perhaps a daily empty... Great for going out too, just pop in a purse/pocket. Also good for wiping hands etc.... They *can be washed a few times to save money but are not expensive anyway & the risk of cross contamination might not be worth it.. (not sure if they hold up to a hot longer wash) Ebay, Amazon or the Temu ones are pretty good.

[@rachelhele7827]

@@emmsue1053sorry to say I won’t be putting cloths in my washing machine my clothes go in there. Wet wipes are so much more convenient and disposable in nappy sacks. Just like you would use with a baby. Eating clean food helps no chocolate cake fats crisps makes the job so much harder.

[@patriciabarnhart1886]

I keep a small spray bottle of water with a squirt of gentle handsoap added at each filling. I spray that on my toilet paper to wipe. Far fewer steps involved

[@reneemarielong6798]

When using wash clothes after a BM: Be sure there is a thick toilet seat cover; stand up, close the seat cover; place a nice warm soapy cloth on the seat; grasp the sides of your bum, spreading the cheeks, and sit down; wiggle a bit to rub your skin and anus on the cloth. Repeat the action with a wet rinse cloth to wipe any soap away; and repeat the action again with a dry cloth to dry your bum. Seems like a lot of fuss and bother, but well worth the clean comfort when you return to social/public seating in fress dry clothes. If you try this even once, you'll be hooked. The dry cloth is great after using a bidet.

[@pls5551]

@@emmsue1053 I did an internet search using your description of the product but came up empty. Can you help, please? Thank you.

[@tevaz5001]

I think softer is harder to clean than harder! Anyway I’m so glad I have a bidet.

[@Lunafalls]

Yeah, I think he got that backwards. 🥴

[@terrigodmother]

I agree, Softer makes for "mucky butt" and much wiping.

[@ShirleyDrake-xx2cs]

I agree! Soft stool gets everywhere and sticks like glue! I personally prefer formed stool for easy clean up. We all remember this from when we diapered our little ones. Of course, this situation is often dependent on diet and success will require observation and management. Even diarrhea is easer to clean up after then soft, poorly formed stool. Soft stool often causes problems with evacuation in the elderly because it doesn’t provide enough pressure against the anal walls to allow proper emptying. The worst thing is an impaction with soft stool in the anus area. It’s very painful to remove. I have been a RN since 1978, and have worked many years in hospitals, nursing homes, for home health agencies, and for hospice. For people who are able to go to the toilet alone, or with minimal assistance, I have developed a simple routine. Save a dishwashing liquid bottle, or two. When going to the toilet , fill the bottle with warm water, add a drop of mild soap or shampoo to the bottle. When the job is finished, rinse the area throughly with your solution. Rinse with clean water to remove any soap residue. Use toilet paper, or a soft cloth to dry the area throughly. This method cost nearly nothing and requires no special equipment. One yard of soft flannel cloth will make several 12x12 drying cloths. You can even use old flannel receiving blankets cut into squares for drying cloths. Buy up a few at thrift stores and cut them up. Store the clean cloths in a decorative box on the back of the toilet. Put wet or soiled cloths into a watertight container to await laundering. BTW, this peri bottle method of cleaning also works very well for women while they are having their Period. I used it before bed and other times throughout the day to stay fresh and clean. I am 75 , so thankfully , I don’t have to worry about hygiene during my period anymore. At this stage of life, I have other worries but still find this to be a cheap , effective way to stay fresh and clean whenever problems arise.

[@reneemarielong6798]

@@ShirleyDrake-xx2cs When using wash clothes after a BM: Be sure there is a thick toilet seat cover; stand up, close the seat cover; place a nice warm soapy cloth on the seat; grasp the sides of your bum, spreading the cheeks, and sit down; wiggle a bit to rub your skin and anus on the cloth. Repeat the action with a wet rinse cloth to wipe any soap away; and repeat the action again with a dry cloth to dry your bum. Seems like a lot of fuss and bother, but well worth the clean comfort when you return to social/public seating in fress dry clothes. If you try this even once, you'll be hooked. The dry cloth is great after using a bidet.

[@ShirleyDrake-xx2cs]

@@reneemarielong6798 good advice!

[@wmgthilgen]

I'm a couple of month past the age of 75, and have had converstation with other slightly older and slightly younger. Whom have the same issue most elder have when it comes to cleaning themselves after going potty, which mean's more directly, going number two. Going number two, envolve's muscle's in which the elderly and sometime considerably younger have less control over. Even when their own body and not their mind is in control of the muscle. Such as the sphinter muscel's and there more than one envolved in the release of waste other than urine. After getting ones self as clean as possible while sitting on the John. An elderly sphinter doesn't operate as sufficent as a considerably younger person or as it did when I was younger. Thus after a few minutes of standing and going about one's other bussiness they may get or be envolved in. The sphinter not operating as it did when one was younger, cause what is referred to as skid mark's in one's underwear; Sometime more than other's. The only remedy was taught to me by one who had been doing it for more than a decade. I started doing as he instructed me, and to this day, which is some 5 year's since the first time. Have no more issue's with skid marks in my underware. Unlike when I was young, were as I could simply sit, get it done, wipe sufficently and get back up and carry on as if nothing happened in just a few minute's. It generally take a elderly person a bit to several bit's longer. Thus in the additional time I have now when using the John for the purpose of releasing number two. I simply take two sheet's of toilet paper still stuck together thus making one longer piece, fold it at the crease in two. Take the bottom 1/4 and fold it upward's towards the middle, and then the top 1/4 and folding it down to the middle, basically touching the other 1/4 in the center; Than folding at the center both in half again ending up with basicall what would appear to be that simular to a tampon, without the string. Placeing it directly over my annus while my butt cheek's are slightly apart, allow;s it to stay as long as I need it to. Sometime hour's go by before I rememeber it's ok now to remove it. And after such, need to wipe the area again of any residual's and there will alway's be residual's. that happened to leak from my old antiquatied sphinter muscle, which then cause's no more skid mark's. Though I do think of when the time come's and I'm declared dead, there are going to be those that wonder, what the hell is that covering his rectum. But then I'll be dead, and thus no way to be embarassed as do the skid mark's do if and when not doing what I've been doing to avoid them.

[@shelleygarcia2042]

Some may think this is TMI, but I love it! Whatever it takes, right? A little secret...I do basically the same thing (although much less exacting) in the summertime. I CANNOT stand the feeling of sweat running into my backside 😅 A few folds of toilet paper or approx 2" of paper towel does the trick every time. All I can say is don't knock before you've tried it 😀

[@carolcole570]

I use 3 sheets of toilet paper hooked together and folded. I usually have a large stack of the folded ones right next to me. Since I am in an older condo, and cognizant of the older plumbing, I typically flush after 4 wipes.

[@tanyaobrien8128]

😊

[@elayned6147]

😊

[@terrigodmother]

I am 77 and I use lightweight pantie liners so if there are "skid marks" I don't have to change my underwear. They are also helpful in case of wetting when laughing or coughing!

[@pauladrennan4223]

My bidet was only about $60, and i installed it myself with a broken thumb. It fits right on the rim, under the seat. It has temperature control and cleans the "undercarriage' so thoroughly! I dry with baby washcloths, which go into their own dedicated waste bin for weekly washing.

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Thanks for sharing how beneficial and easy bidets can be!

[@Carol-ch9wj]

Thank you, I love the baby washcloths to dry with - totally eliminate toilet paper!

[@hy9093]

What brand did you get? I would like one for my elderly mom. Thanks.

[@marilynmonroe6130]

I keep a bottle of witch hazel next to the toilet to moisten folded toilet paper before wiping. Clean, cool, soft, flushable.

[@oldegoatee8450]

Good idea and helpful with hemorrhoids as well.

[@marilynmonroe6130]

@@oldegoatee8450 Exactly🤭

[@charmyers5461]

Very good idea!!

[@mismatmom]

I started doing this as changes were occurring to body during menopause. Never flush wipes in toilet ever.

[@rachelhele7827]

@@mismatmomblocks them. Use nappy sacks and put them in there. Dispose of them in a separate bag.

[@SC-de5to]

Hi I have some tips. As I have suffered with IBS for almost 40 years I tried everything to help and yes wet wipes do help but are phenomenally bad for the environment. I just wet my toilet paper initially so it is semi saturated. I use 2-3 sheets each time until I can see the paper becoming less dirty with faeces. Sometimes it takes many attempts to clean myself up adequately but this is far easier than having a huge pile of dirty wet wipes or cotton cloths to deal with. You can flush the toilet paper regularly whilst you’re cleaning yourself so you don’t clog up the plumbing! Also I find if I have a particularly sore anus then I use some sudocrem on the toilet paper as it soothes the butt hole from the rubbing to get it clean. Please try these simple and cheap alternatives to using wet wipes if you can. It helps save the planet and also won’t cost you as much.

[@monicas2269]

I do exactly the same. My toilet is right next door to my bath so it's easy to moisten the tissue without having to get up.

[@elainebrockhaus649]

I do the same with the addition of a couple pumps (foaming dispenser) of water diluted with a few drops (Just a FEW in the dispenser) of feminine wash soap on a damp bit of toilet paper. I then gently pat dry with a few squares of dry tissue. I find this really helps prevent musty smells as well.

[@jjkatichjjkatich5626]

You're a genious!!! This is such a great and practicle idea. Thank you so much. I can even do this when away from home.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I said in an earlier comment that I make toilet paper sprays and put them on the backs of my toilets.

[@susanlynch6680]

@@Tinyteacher1111 Can you give instructions, or the source of the recipe to make? Thank you.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I saw toilet paper spray and looked it up and made DIY sprays. Even my granddaughter loves it! People ask me to make them for them. Not as great as a bidet, but handy and portable!

[@southernights]

I have a LUXE Bidet NEO 185 Plus from Amazon. Was less than $60, easy to install. It even flips up for easy cleaning. Works wonderfully and I love that the water is non-heated.

[@CatFromFL]

We have 2 bidets. They spray warm water-and temperature is adjustable. We spray soap water in a plastic bottle . They are awesome.

[@letabranch7459]

I wish my bidet had warm water. My bathroom isn’t installation friendly. But, I’ve gotten use to the cold water. I still love it especially after back surgery.

[@Carol-ch9wj]

@@letabranch7459 It's kinda amazing how quickly one can get used to the cold water. That was a concern of mine but it didn't take long at all.

[@1rahmaan]

It's a healthy habit to spray/splash cold water on the groin. It (allegedly) helps reduce general inflamation and abdominal issues like colitis and cramps etc.

[@elainelily9910]

We got an Omega toilet seat. Actually you keep your old toilet seat and the Omega is a thin hose that fits underneath the seat. It hooks into the shutoff valve by the toilet. It comes with a dial to squirt the water. We can use it in the apartment, no plumbing issues.

[@chetmarcotti4953]

Totally awesome. It probably took some intestinal fortitude to do this video. Seriously thank you.

[@TheFirstManticore]

Having Irritable Bowel Syndrome, I long ago learned to use washcloths after toilet. This came in handy during the 2020 Toilet Paper Shortage. I don't find it necessary to have an airtight receptacle. In fact. leaving them open to the air lets the cloths dry somewhat, making the preventing stink from developing.

[@rachelhele7827]

I’d die if I had cloths air drying in my house. Your better if with wet wipes and water.

[@Catherine-ty8ss]

Take a spray bottle that has a fine mist. Put water and couple drops of lavender in the water. Now you can turn toilet tissue into moist wipes that are flushable. Change out the water every couple of days.

[@SDck5940]

Bidet was my answer. It works for me.

[@lulumoon6942]

Great tips, but I would add that the open front toilet seat allows for better access of certain hygiene tasks, too. 👍

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Never thought of that, but I have both! Thanks!

[@roxiaugustine415]

Especially if you use an elevated portable seat for height! Having more open in front and back is a game changer!

[@Jan-sn5tk]

A lidded container with a little bleach in water is the better way for storing used cloths to clean/dry . Storing dry could cause bacteria to spread and permanent stains. I use this method and wash the cloths every 2nd or 3rd day. They are sanitised clean and never have stains

[@Terry-z8o]

Close to what my mother did for cloth diapers

[@Terry-z8o]

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[@suebolton5]

Here in U.K. there’s a company called cheeky wipes, they do a system with small bamboo wipes and containers, although I brought a taller one from a store as found it easier. They suggest you fill with cold water & use 6 drops of essential oils, tea tree & lavender, worked well although I added half a cup of white vinegar as found in summer they could become musty. Their clean wipes are dampened with water & camomile essential oil (6 drops) & kept in a container to use as & when. I just keep them dry and moisten as & when needed. Dirty ones are washed in machine as normal as you would reusable nappies or sanitary towels. My only issue is keeping them all somewhere out of the way

[@irenegratton2141]

​@@Terry-z8oused to use somthing called Napisan it was brillient

[@debc7341]

I bought a Tushy bidet for under $100. I love it❤

[@gregmilliken9659]

Toilet necessities have always been a challenge. Grampa lived with us or us with him when I was growing up. He was able to take care of most of his own needs, but his abilities deteroated as time went by. I just turned 72, have two types of arthritis and now realize what Gramp was experiencing. I l ove that old guy, I'm thankful that l was Blessed to have gotten to know him. Many people never knew their older family members at all.

[@Christine-j7b]

Mu tip....fill an old washing up liquid bottle with water and use to help wash clean after wiping. I keep a small bar of soap handy and a stack of flannels to dry, my toilet is next to sink so can easily fill my bottle.

[@TheSuzberry]

I bought a bidet for $100 and installed it myself. BTW, I’m a 76 yo female.

[@anakreonsears6733]

You go, girl!

[@girlart9]

I’ve had one installed in 2019. It’s the type that works on water pressure, just like turning on the faucet. No plugging it in. It does not. Matter if the water isn’t heated. Turn the dial have a good rinse. Only use TP to dry yourself off. I feel so fresh afterwards.

[@susanneward7029]

We are so far behind many other developed nations where bidets are the norm. I also installed a bidet attachment to my toilet and wouldn’t ever go back to a bidet-less toilet.

[@PennyMeeker-j8m]

Never heard of this before. So good to know.

[@williamlarochelle6833]

I'm 74 years old and use a wiping method I've used for several decades. Wearing a nitrile exam glove, I wipe the usual way, with toilet paper. The glove allows me to go at the wiping more thoroughly, without fear of getting my hand dirty. When done, I use a baby wipe to finish the job. Then, with the wipe still in my hand, I turn the glove inside out and discard it in the waste basket. Simple and effective--PLUS, no need to wash my hands after. 😊

[@sashabell4700]

Yes, after wearing gloves you do need to wash your hands. Doing personal care years ago, that was a rule. If using a hand sanitizer that was just something to do if no soap and water.

[@williamlarochelle6833]

@sashabell4700 I don't feel the need to do that. Personally, I consider it over the top--like washing your hands AFTER you eat.

[@sashabell4700]

@@williamlarochelle6833 thats fine. But they can cause skin irritation. Even latex free ones. They certainly have irritated by hands. So washing hands and lotion helps avoid this. Like can make your hands bleed, irritated.

[@williamlarochelle6833]

@@sashabell4700 The gloves I use haven't caused me any problem whatsoever.

[@christinedavis5813]

I bought a Bidet from Amazon cost £26 and it is the best thing ever and it as come down to £16 pounds I saw recently called happy Bums easy to install my Builder said as I was having my bath room renovated I love it

[@blazefairchild465]

Is it cold water ? I don’t think I could use one unless it has hot & cold to blend to warm.

[@ghostladydarkling3250]

Blazefairchild, the hand held bidets are great, they hook to the sink faucet so it can be warm water, and it can be switched off so the sink can still be used.

[@patriciajump9511]

Wow, handheld bidets and peri bottles! I never knew!

[@selftaopath]

In Asia a butt washer is typical. It's the same item used at kitchen sinks to rinse off dishes. It's easy to install/ cheap/ and efficient.

[@annem.parent8580]

I have a My Buddy toilet Tissue wand works well for me. I have short arms and have 4 lowest vertebrae are fused together. I have learned how to use My Buddy. It took a bit to learn just how much to use and I am getting better at it and it uses less toilet paper too.

[@JM-vh7oc]

I use a makeshift portable bidet by using squeeze bottles from Dollar Tree that look like what restaurants have for ketchup / mustard. Works great - and only $1.25

[@flapkatt6094]

LOL, YES YOU'RE ACTUALLY RIGHT 😅

[@OB17358]

The hospital where I worked offered Vaseline intensive care lotion. A thin coat of this on peri area after cleaning, (esp with diarrhea or soft stool) made cleaning this area much easier the next time. It also provided a protective barrier.

[@irenegratton2141]

Thank you.i use that body lotion never thought of that area .I've got piles they seem to make sitting down hurt but in the perinel area x

[@mrs.bissonnette7498]

There are inexpensive bidet attachments without all the bells and whistles such as BioBidet’s, some for less than 50 bucks. No electricity nor warm water. Can be installed without plumber, but we hired one anyway. They get the job done. Have been using one since before the pandemic when a big warehouse store had them online for $39. I can recommend. * In the past I used toileting tongs (simply like the old fashioned all metal hot dog tongs but the handles of mine were coated with yellow). If going this route be sure household members and attendants know what these are and not to put them in the kitchen.

[@charmyers5461]

I have a strange question. How did you hook up the water? Is it hooked up or the water back of the toilet?

[@jmb-cm7mr]

I have a Bio Bidet it has a heated seat cold and warm water and a dryer and a bowl light for night time bathroom runs. i paid $300 but it is worth every penny i paid for it.

[@g-bgcg]

You buy an add on bidet for less than $100 called “Tushy”. I love ours as it does the job for disabled folks. It’s worth every penny and easy to install.

[@pauladrennan4223]

I have the Luxe 320 bidet. So easy to install! I can't believe how clean it leaves you!

[@northernbettygirl]

thanks for the tip! I'll look into it😊

[@virginiacheuvront2766]

How do you dry yourself?

[@amyboleszny543]

@@virginiacheuvront2766 mine has a blow dry function.

[@sheriek2777]

Another Tushy fan here❣️

[@alineguillot1692]

Another suggestion is a sinus rinse plastic squeeze bottle. It directs the spray upward when held vertically. I keep one next to my toilet and use from the front.that way I am "wiping" front to back. Buy a two pack at Costco. Neil Med brand. Walgreens has single pack.

[@vsee2207]

I think the best tip of the day!

[@sheriek2777]

I never thought of That! And just happen to have an unopened 2 pack from Costco! Thank you ❣️

[@marydesiree2638]

You do not have to be old or disabled to use possibly a cleaner way to clean after toileting. The use of water helps ensure all soiling is removed.

[@Formicola]

Indeed. It simply makes sense.

[@maryannpiccirilli454]

Bidets are a godsend! We have them on both our high toilets and love them! We even travel with a travel one on our trips!

[@Formicola]

We have a bidet hose. It can be attached, quickly without the need for a plumber, to the tank of the loo (the hose generally has installation instructions), and it requires no batteries, electricity etc. It's the best thing, we find, because we can wash our bits while still sitting on the loo, and then dry ourselves with only a tiny bit of loo paper. When travelling our outside our home I use a folding plastic pouch, such as those that contain refills for liquid soap, as a portable bidet. It's folded in my pocket, occupying almost no space, at all times and then I unfold it and fill it with water for use. I think that washing one's bits after going to the loo is ideal. It's cleaner, it's gentler on the skin and it uses hardly any loo paper (whose manufacture uses loads of water).

[@marthapentecost99]

Can you givr a brand name gor you gadget?

[@MJ-hl1kk]

Such a good public service, this video. We all have dear ones who have grown old, which is all the reason one needs to pay attention. But never to forget that we ourselves are on our way there. Diet is of foremost importance, because firstly, it will give us improved strength and dexterity and secondly, the stools themselves will be more comfortable to pass and will demand less fussing to clean up after. Thank you!

[@Darrelas]

A $1.00 bamboo back scratcher, cut to length, works for me with tissue wrapped on curved end which removes easily. It is portable about 6 to 8 inches long.

[@jpridie]

I’ve had a Costco bidet since inc they first sold them and used it ever since really cheap less than 100 bucks but had to easily install it myself I really like it.

[@ittybittykittymama7582]

I bought a very small, flip top trash can with a box of liners. When it becomes full, just tie the pull strings and drop the bag in the outside trash can. It beats a one-ton ball of wipes such as clogged up the sewer in England!

[@melissarmt7330]

I had children in the 80's and in military hospitals. They gave us peri bottles for cleansing and I always found them to be efficient. I bought bidet sprayers for the American toilets in our house and they are perfect if there's no room to install a bidet.

[@kristinb5121]

The toilet tissue wands are great, even the travel variety. I would suggest having one on hand if you ever get back-aches. Having a dedicated small brush for cleaning the wand thoroughly is very helpful.

[@maureenkidd6629]

Softer bowel movements are NOT easier to clean up.

[@lynnebattaglia-triggs1042]

You are absolutely correct! I have tried bidet and it doesn’t clean after soft, unformed stools, which many post-intestinal surgery or IBS patients have, multiple times a day. Must wipe first, somehow. And must dry afterwards!

[@kristyduncan8415]

Very true,

[@kristyduncan8415]

⁠I haven’t used a bidet but I would imagine the cold water is uncomfortable

[@kristyduncan8415]

Gloves are a must too

[@zazita7333]

@@kristyduncan8415 You can get bidets that warm the water. I live in a cool climate area and don't really use the heating function .

[@DJ-1999.]

This is a very helpful video. It would seem for the most part the bidet or portable bidet would be the simplest and most efficient way for seniors and the elderly to continue their own hygiene. I wish I had thought of it for my 88 year old mom. She struggled with the bathroom buddy (wand) occasionally, but it did give her some independence, which she was fierce about keeping as long and as much as possible! I think these were some great suggestions! I must say I did get a bit of a giggle @2:50 where it listed "useful during periods." I realize some women have periods later in life, but for some reason it gave me a laugh! ☺

[@heinrichellis5199]

This person suffereg wit IBS FOR ALMOST 40 YEARS..I DO IT YOUR WAY FOR MANY YEARS..THE BEST AND CHEAP AS YOU SAY..

[@lisabrooks844]

Thank you for this information.

[@PonchoNugen]

Bidet is the 8th wonders of our life . I have it installed in my house , my son/daughter house at least 10 years ago . Just flushed it as often as needed and you don’t have to see. ‘It’ anymore. Btw, I recommend to all of my friends and all of them got hooked

[@montanateri6889]

For water conscious folks: It takes 37 gallons of water to make one roll of toilet paper. Bidets are better hygiene and less water. Also.... butt sweat is the smelliest part of your body. You get to clean all with a bidet. Much better. Personally, I used 'TP until covid hit. I had one roll of TP. Went to 3 stores, NO TP anywhere. So I bought a simple squirt bottle with a tilted spout as I refused to be forced to pay the price that scalpers wanted. Now I have a rechargeable battery one, its wonderful. 4 years (?) later and the only TP I have is for company. I am glad to know I'm much cleaner without it.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

No way! That much water?! Now I feel like I need to get one!

[@roxiaugustine415]

Lume deodorant really works extremely well on all sorts of odors. Wash well then apply. A little goes a long way, so it's not as expensive as it first seems. The cream tube lasts longer than the stick forms in my experience. Mando is the more 'manly' scents, lume has florals, tangerine, coconut, cucumber mint, and unscented.

[@stayfocused1041]

@@roxiaugustine415 If you have a healthy diet and detox regularly, you do not smell at all

[@sjbutler2330]

When covid hit and not much toilet paper tone had, I went to the dollar store where there was tons of white serviette napkins. Whole pkg for $1.25. I bought lots! And I always have a dinner napkin as well!

[@rachelhele7827]

@@stayfocused1041eating red meat is not good for the body. Fish or chicken breast and salad veggies clean food. I’ve been using water since I was a child along with bathroom tissue now I use bathroom tissue and wet wipes a lot and then shower. You have to clean inside your bottom with wet wipes to be really clean. Just on the outside doesn’t work. I hear so many people say they have an itchy bottom because wiping just with paper doesn’t work.

[@mildredechevarria8527]

❤ Thank you very good information to know as I am getting older.

[@GrayingWithGrace]

You are so welcome!

[@eileenrice8775]

Get a tushy. Best thing we’ve purchased. It attaches easily to your toilet and makes cleaning after yourself and washing a breeze.

[@tekawolf8254]

Thanks for the video. I got alot of info to pass on to a friend.

[@kenthompson6539]

I find puting shaving foam on first then wipe off with toilet paper is better than wet wipes.

[@geoffreyfulton-ko1fu]

I get a piece of wood say from adopt handle. Wrap toilet paper or rag round one end dip in water stand bend over forward. Place wood behind back wipe forward. Cleans well.

[@arianegenest1013]

Merci beaucoup. Informations très pertinentes. Ça va m'aider dans mon travail.

[@Miss.C.]

I stopped getting fissures when I got bidet. $70 bidet toilet seat with soft close for the win.

[@rachelhele7827]

I’ve never had them use paper then wet wipes then shower you have to clean inside your butt for it to work properly.

[@randyweber6576]

I just actually step into my shower and take the hose from the shower nozzle and use that to clean up. Doing that I don't have to worry about shortages of toilet paper and I get extremely clean.

[@rondini2]

I installed a bidet attachment to my existing toilet. No warm water connection needed, as the water is not that cold until it has been running a bit. We use just a small bit of TP to dry off the water. I’ve found that having to use a regular toilet when outside the home is now annoying. I wish I had done this sooner, but wasn’t aware that you could add it to an existing one. Do get the dual nozzle one tho, as it is more effective for women after a number 1

[@Formicola]

Yes! We installed a bidet hose on our loo. Going to a public loo that has no undercarriage-washing possibilities is tiresome. We use those pouches in which refills for liquid soap, cream etc (it could be washing-up liquid, shower soap, laundry soap etc) are often sold. I cut off the top, wash it out, fold it in half and always have it in my pocket. Then when I'm in a loo that has no bidet, I open it, fill it with water and use it for washing after going to the loo. That way, only a tiny amount of paper is necessary for drying afterwards. Whenever we go to Japan where almost every loo is a washlet, I think 'thank heavens: I don't have to fill my loo bottle before queuing up for the loo'.

[@SoberOKMoments]

Very useful straightforward information. Thank you.

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Glad it was helpful!

[@highbany]

Very useful video,explains well

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Thanks a lot

[@Roy-littlebear]

I have been using a washcloth, then washing it out in the sink with soap. Should I use a fresh one each time?

[@valerie75459]

Hand held bidets, also known as "bum guns" are used by every member of our household. People's first reaction is usually negative, but everyone I know who has tried it even once is sold on it immediately. Inexpensive and easy to install.

[@patakel]

Good tips. Just one point about bidets. My urologist told me bidets can very easily cause urinary tract infections in women because the water force can be strong enough to push feces into the urethra.

[@patryciapfaff5255]

this is true as i get them all the time now and I am very clean about myself I also have the Tushy bidet. but I think I have to adjust the spray, so that could be the problem. I will have my husband fix it.

[@chaimomma9198]

Costco wipes are cheaper and buying no rinse cleansing foam also helps with the wipes. Another alternative to showering is a collapsible sitz bath that sits over the toilet and has holes for the water to drain towards the back and into the toilet. I like buying an Epsom salt for hemmroids to add to the bath and take my entire pants and socks off and have a bath towel ready. Tudca is also helpful for constipation and digestive issues.

[@Rust-g7y]

This man he advertised his product and protect the environment Use the elderly for doing that

[@happy5811]

Amazing, Saroandy! Terrific sharing. Continued success. God bless.

[@Skyhawk72265]

Mine was $100 I love it ❤

[@maureenwhite5632]

Can you talk about bidets and how it can help the elderly and which ones are better. Many thanks.

[@rachelhele7827]

As I was raised in a Muslim household we used toilet paper and water afterwards. Now I use toilet paper wet wipes two at a time and clean right inside and I use several wipes and in the bathroom for at least 10 minutes throughly cleaning myself and I have never ever had marks in my underwear. I’ll shower afterwards as well. When using water you need gallons of water not just a little bottle. I’m 59 this year.

[@peterk4134]

The Italians and French had it solved long ago, a bidet and a toilet in a bathroom are common fixtures. As for me in Us and at 83, I can still manage sitting astride on the edge of the tub and the other foot resting on the opposite edge. I am so used to showering the butt that I do not feel cleansed otherwise.

[@hankbeckleshimer5541]

I used to use hankies but there was a surplus of soft cotton masks during covid so now I use them. You have to wash your hands anyway so i wash them then and hang them by the ear piece. I only use them when peeing but they save a lot and are nice and soft. Usually I dampen them first.

[@janetjennings7324]

Thank you!

[@Dave-vg4wt]

Well done thank you ,!,

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Our pleasure!

[@ruthdanielson919]

Kleenx tissues work well. A layer of three, no folding required so minimizes the risk of contamination as with TP,minimizing the risk of infection. Just more expensive than TP.

[@margareth1504]

I hear that even tissues do not disintegrate like toilet paper does and may not be suitable for flushing. You can test this by placing a few clean tissues in a bowl of water to see if they break up into pieces or stay in one sheet which can be caught up inside the plumbing pipes, and build up to a blockage eventually. Might be worth checking up on.

[@t0mn8r35]

Very useful thank you!

[@Ddrhl]

Basically, get the bidet adapter for your current toilet. I did. Now I need longer seat bolts and a thicker stopper under the toilet seat, so the seat won't break due to its elevation because of the insert of the bidet attachment. Off to the store...

[@GrayingWithGrace]

Every brand's installation is different but you are doing the right thing to make sure there you have a stable connection. I have personally used and recommend the Bemis bidet attachments. They have a low profile mounting system and some even work with raised toilet seats. Learn more about them here: www.grayingwithgrace.com/best-bidet-for-elderly/

[@dianediliberto1876]

Great video. Thank you.

[@Sheena3745]

Bidets are not just for the elderly. I got my solution after I was older, but so wish I had it when I was still menstruating. To clarify... bidets come in many forms. The electronic ones can go for $500 (or even more). Those blow warm air to dry you up & may have other features like remote control, air fresheners, etc. Japan makes fabulous models. Cheaper non-electric versions can be as cheap as $50, but only connect to cold water (same source as the toilet). Others a bit more expensive can connect to the water source for the faucets. How you mix the hot & cold to get warm water varies. I live in an apartment & couldn't get approval for the installation of one of the hot/cold, ones so I got a handheld one. Not a bottle (although I have one of those for travel or the office), but a kind of mini-shower handheld bidet that has a short hose & connects to the sink's faucet (no tools/plumber needed). You adjust the water manually to your favorite temperature, then close the bypass so the water goes to the handheld bidet. The wand has its own control for use. I still use TP to dry off, but that's easy to replace w/small towels if you want to go off TP altogether. The bidet I bought (& rec) is the Aquaus 360 Hand Held Bidet for Faucet, currently on Amazon for about $60. It was cheaper for me pre-COVID, but I'm glad it's become popular. My best purchase ever. There are other brands & models, but beware of those w/the kind of handle you usually see on a kitchen sink. Those tend to break a lot. The Aquaus uses a lever instead of a spring hold. Mine has been on daily use for years w/o problem. Hndheld bidets have the advantage over even the fancy electronic ones that you can wash them yourself (I do after every use), you control the temperature, & they can be used to rinse the toilet. My only caveat would be to be careful w/the water pressure or you may give yourself an enema. Otherwise, enjoy!

[@ElianaGaristo]

@GrayingWithGrace, thank you for your helpful videos. I live in São Paulo, Brazil and I would like to know, if you please, names of ecommerce websites to buy those Portable Bides. I am still independent, thank God, but I will share with family and friends about this useful product. I have not been travelling since the Pandemic. In the past, I used a kind of oilcan with curved beak - "Almotolia" in Portuguese, in my trips. It was very helpful during the monthly period and after the bowl movement. It is very common in São Paulo to have the so called hygienic douche next to the toilet/sanitar in the apartments. Again, thank you for your Channel. Keep doing the great work in helping people.Stay safe. Best, from São Paulo, Brazil.

[@VickyCooksalot]

When I had my kids they sent me home with a special water bottle. And I have even used regular spray bottles. Last year my son bought us a bidet. Love the thing. Getting my husband trained in maintaining it is the hardest part. 😅

[@junebuxton1750]

Where can you buy somr of thease products, for cleaning the bottom

[@200Nora]

I am almost 70, and happy that I still have the flexibility and stamina of a much younger person. However, for number two, I use moistened eco and no fragrance wipes because they do a better job. Also since changing my diet to a more carnivore and almost eliminating all excess carbs/sugars things coming out from my body do not leave too much of a trace, which makes it a lot easier and less expensive. I use less toilet paper and mostly to lightly pat dry after pee. While I wash my hands I let things air dry for a couple of minutes, which is better for that sensitive skin. This works for my present situation; however, always check with dr for dietary changes. I do not have a tendency to become constipated and I drink plenty of water. The majority of elderly avoid drinking water; this is my experience as a nurse. I have been thinking on a bidet for a while too. I may need one in the future, but so far so good on that department. Good advice given!

[@rachelhele7827]

Meat especially red meat is smelly in the bathroom better to have vegetables salad fruit and chicken and fish. Game changer I promise you.

[@normaortega4654]

Bidets that are easily attached to your existing toilet are sold inexpensively at Costco. Starting at about $150.00. It also great after labor and delivery of a baby. 👍 😉