How to Find TRUE LOVE with JAY SHETTY

LOVE is the most POWERFUL EMOTION in the world.
Today I'm talking about it with the one and only, JAY SHETTY. Who says LOVE is a CHOICE.
This week, Jay DEFINES LOVE, explaining why the best way to love someone involves liking their PERSONALITY, mutually RESPECTING each other's VALUES, and helping them achieve their GOALS.
You'll learn how to love OTHERS better, but more importantly how YOU CAN LET MORE LOVE IN!
Jay also has deep insights on…
Overcoming the ongoing challenges of COMPARING, COMPLAINING, and CRITICIZING your partner.
Why people sometimes GROW APART over time.
The 4 QUESTIONS you should ask to maintain a loving relationship.
The difference between an INTIMATE LOVING relationship and a FRIENDLY LOVING relationship.
The right way to think about “THE ONE” that comes into your life.
3 WAYS to meet the right people when you’re LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO LOVE.
Your GIFT and GAP EXPECTATIONS in a loving relationship.
The difference between LUST and LOVE and how you’re impacted by each one.
Losing SEXUAL ATTRACTION and how that affects the ways you love someone.
Defining the 4 LEVELS OF INTIMACY.
Why LOVE NEVER DIES, but what happens when other parts of your relationship do.
What you can do to salvage a relationship that’s on LIFE SUPPORT.
Be sure to listen with your HEAD and your HEART as Jay unlocks answers to questions about your most important relationships.
I guarantee you… You’re going to LOVE this week’s episode.
Make sure to WATCH/LISTEN to it and SHARE it with someone YOU LOVE ❤️
If you want to go even deeper on the nature of love, pick up Jay’s new book, 8 RULES OF LOVE, HOW TO FIND IT, KEEP IT, AND LET IT GO…an insightful read that demystifies what love is and what you can do to love others in RICHER and more NURTURING ways.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro
03:04 What is love?
09:00 Strategies to better connect with your partner
17:39 Distinguishing love from friendship
21:51 The notion of looking for love
25:01 Looking for someone who completes you
29:33 Lust vs. love
32:40 What to do when the physical attraction is gone
37:16 Why time alone is important
45:17 What to do when a relationship is almost over
48:24 Why you keep on attracting the same people
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[@the.bonsai.samurai]

Amazing conversation between 2 real men who are not afraid of being vulnerable! ❤💪🙏

[@EdMylettShow]

Vulnerability is so important! 🙏🏽

[@annabarlow9050]

My husband and I are listening and learning Started dating 1996 Married 2000 I told him today “ have you seen those dead plants on peoples patios and you think to yourself water the damn thing or get a new one?” And my husband said yes and I said I feel like a dead plant inside your apartment that you’re walking around

[@michaelle102]

I love when these two come together and speak with so much wisdom 🤍

[@EdMylettShow]

Appreciate the love!

[@HIMOTHYDFW]

Omg… 😮‍💨 Ed next year can you run an ad during the Super Bowl to your page lol You got the money bro. More people need to see these interviews 🙏🏽

[@jennifergullett9630]

I couldn’t wait for this show this morning! The two people that have helped me on my wellness journey in the same room together. Brilliant!!

[@EdMylettShow]

I am so grateful to hear the impact we have made in your life Jennifer! 🙏🏽

[@rohanbapat8840]

me too haha. both of them are my mentors .

[@loladee3998]

34:40 Having physical proximity, and still have emotional distance with a significant other is such real thing, and it resonates with me. Thanks, Ed, for bringing Jay Shetty back. Love the episode.

[@yinshum5493]

I love the theme of this podcast especially discussed by the two distinguished loving human being-Ed and Jay. Thank you for spreading love in this most needed time. Life is about love. Love is why we are here for. We have divine love in the air and all around us. We have human love that bonds us together. Love makes our life meaningful. Love transcends limitation. Let’s pray in every situation, we’ll be able to love so that peace can reign and lives can be changed😍

[@fossmountainfilm]

Well over 733K people have found what they LOVE.... The Ed Mylett team and the amazing messages they bring to the world. This show should be a part of Psych 101 in high school.

[@felicitylerouge6498]

Love, "if your relationship begins like a job hire, it can end in a firing." (Paraphrased). Such a great tnterview. Thanks to both of you, Ed and Jay.

[@user-jp6fv8sy2l]

OMG, every day, month, year, Ed resonates so much more with me, it feels like we are growing into the same direction with all humanity. It feels amazing to watch. I just love those interviews 😍

[@julesholden]

Wow. ❤❤❤❤ Happy Valentines 💝

[@EdMylettShow]

A great day to start this Valentines Day!

[@adrianoc1456]

I've always heard find someone you love enough to put up with their flaws, quirks or short comings ... because no matter who you are with, there will be things you aren't so fond of.. but love them enough to accept it

[@HappyLifewithMaria]

"Love is a choice" - yess, the best explanation of it! 💖🙏💖

[@growinggold]

What a lovely person -- Thank you Jay Shetty. Wonderful insights... Thank you!

[@TheWatchCaptain]

My bride and I share our 20th year together this month. I still shake my head everyday. I cant describe it another way. I tell my wife all the time. I must have saved a burning building full of children in a past life to deserve her. I'm humbled daily. For 20 years.: -She supported me through 3 job promotions that physically move our family to 3 different states. -She sat by my side, literally (Scariest time of my life) as I was connected to a dialysis machine keeping me alive. And she wanted to give me a kidney! -4 Children. Enough Said! I could go on for days but I can sum it up here. In the 1970 film Love Story. There's a famous line. "Love means never having to say you're sorry" with all life brings. Knowing unconditional. You got a ride or die in life. Someone who wont leave your side. Even at the END. Love is special. Listen to Jay and go getcha some!🤙#MAXOUT

[@EdMylettShow]

This is so beautiful! I wish you many more!

[@TheWatchCaptain]

@@EdMylettShow Thanks Ed,🤙

[@madiganday127]

I love his adaptation of goal setting to framing it as “growth setting”. You become the person who has the things you want. Key to life sir thank you!

[@carolyngialamas2335]

That was so enlightening! I was thrilled to see how it confirmed what my husband and I have done to stay married almost 30 years now. Jay’s insight will be super helpful for the many people I know that are still searching for their ideal partner. I will be sharing this with them! Thank you! 🙏🏻

[@travisweldmaster7815]

Amen brother

[@EdMylettShow]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@bellavee6226]

“When you like a flower you pluck it, when you love a flower you water it”..🥺 facts!

[@EdMylettShow]

It’s so true!

[@pranzata]

I have to say I normally can’t stand relationship coaches , this is the first one I’ve ever felt truly inspired by

[@embodyamagicallife]

I love tuning into Ed Mylet!! This episode is so great and I learned so much. I love that Jay gave applicable steps into our relationships RIGHT NOW

[@Saul.2910]

Two of my favorite influencers out there. Great way to start the day!

[@EdMylettShow]

Wow, thank you so much!

[@kennethporst4359]

You should look up Tristan Tate then 🤘

[@adrianoc1456]

Deep in my soul just want us all to be okay even when we aren't okay at moments... or we go through phases, transitions or going through things it's eats me up at times Just want this community to evolve, for one sole reason, TO BE PREPARED FOR THE FUTURE... NOT ALL OF US GONNA LAST

[@adrianoc1456]

J is the love doctor ♥️ lmfao 🤣 Its crazy.. Best love podcast and perspective I've ever heard

[@kimwalker4390]

I will apply this to myself and my children. Thank you, I enjoyed this immensely.

[@EdMylettShow]

Yes, we all could give more love!

[@mariacalipari7227]

I haven’t even finished listening and I am blown away. One after the other you are able to explain love sooooo clearly. The match or candle. I’ve had a lot of matches and very few candles.

[@MICHELDILLIONS]

Blessings Thank You Both , enjoy Be Happy 😊🤗💖

[@EdMylettShow]

We are so grateful to share!

[@adrianoc1456]

SHARED EXPERIENCES IS A GOOD PERSPECTIVE.. BRILLIANT 👏 BE PRESENT FOR THOSE SHARED EXPERIENCES

[@miss65divinepointer]

Wow I REALLY LOVE THAT! That is listening, being present and it Will transform to something else. Because when We listen, everything might not take our attention at the very moment, but listen to “that” “that” and “that, different times, different people or to a discussion or different shares in a small community like a zoom meeting or alive, suddenly dots are being put together and we get this aha moments “OMG” I just realized this and this insight puts us in alignment because we just experienced being in a transition from one frequency to a higher frequency and gained new wisdom and higher consciousness. We are here to be listeners, because we receive different messages hidden within. The fun, exploring part is to be that detective 🕵️‍♀️ inside and feel the happy alignment when the transition occur. Thank You for this quote. I want to share it in my book, if it’s fine with you, with our without your name ❤️🌹💝🎖️MISS65

[@XStyles6]

Love The Power of One More ALSO LOVED Think Like A Monk

[@EdMylettShow]

Both are amazing books brother, so glad they help you!

[@bridgetlozano7313]

This was good currently single and my big take away was how you present yourself. This was great! 💕

[@zacharylane8762]

As someone who grew up without a father having values and discipline is so hard. Causing me to make horrible decisions growing up. And now at 31 i feel lost but hungry for growth and to be at peace. Thank you for interviews like this. It really helps keep my head up and staying on the path. God bless all who reach and help those in need.

[@rezareza1195]

I love your energy Ed! You are a real inspiration to me🤝

[@EdMylettShow]

I appreciate that!

[@johnrogers7156]

❤❤ what a podcast and interview between two of my favorites with such compassion for other human beings. Thank you both for taking the time to share your experiences, wisdom awareness with the rest of us. I am grateful for both of you.✝️🙏

[@amnakhan2610]

Great work 👍

[@adrianoc1456]

Whatever was off with J is no longer, there's been a shift the past couple of months... good work fella I've grown to appreciate you, truly God bless

[@sharolgarcia4768]

Wow! This is soo good! Very clear ways of loving .

[@EdMylettShow]

We could all stand to gain clarity!

[@imyourvenus5480]

Thank You for this Ed, this is so much needed. Sometimes people don't Understand the meaning of Love. They think love is Only doing nice things for you. ❤️

[@EdMylettShow]

This is so true, love is so much more!

[@parist2732]

I think many other people can hear me when I say this, but I think you and Jay just helped save a relationship of mine. My mum has been enduring some emotionally tough moments lately, and it feels like she's hiding it... but you beautiful people shared things that could really strengthen our lives 🙏

[@EdMylettShow]

I’m so sorry to hear, sending love! Happy to have shared this episode and grateful you gained something from it!

[@parist2732]

@Ed Mylett thank you brother 🙏 since then we've both become quite close now and regularly have conversations about important things that we wouldn't have otherwise. So grateful to all the heart you put into your work 🙏

[@jessealvarado6939]

Happy valentine's day to the world with love from the Alvarado's💝

[@elizabethbronson1126]

"WoW" !!! I love this because I am experiencing this now as I come to know my husband better and truly feeling like he is my best friend!

[@saramiller4394]

This is the most amazing convo! Thank you, both!!

[@kimmie7263]

Thank you so much Ed! I believe that Love comes from God. It should never be difficult or a task. Mutual respect and trust are vital.

[@MorganLittleRealEstate]

I knew I would love this episode before I even clicked on it. Two of my favs!

[@jeffchisholm7091]

Truly amazing these two!! Thank you so much!!

[@jessealvarado6939]

That is really cool Ed and congratulations as well brother. We were together for ten years before we got married, that is awesome to hear from ya. We love hearing love stories and what a great example you have given your kids and we strive to do the same for ours👊🙏💝😎

[@Morethanthenumberspod]

Wow was just watching the first interview you guys did together. Always 🔥🔥

[@laurastissi9523]

This is so awesome. I'm so happy I listened to it and learned a. Lot especially reflecting on my relationship with my deceased husband. Fascinating and am sharing with others. Thank you guys

[@tashanna9365]

Love the realness of the conversation. I really liked the plane analogy. We need to learn to have those tough conversations and actively listen to our partners, friends, and family.

[@EdMylettShow]

Yes 100%!

[@kathleenteaman9531]

Jay is the best!

[@luisaa.7906]

Brilliant, amazing ✨ thank you Ed and Jay

[@EdMylettShow]

Always a pleasure to share!

[@cindeetucker6977]

What a great Valentines gift to self by listening to this podcast. Love doesn’t die. Love both of these great humans the power of one more and power of love♥️♥️

[@cindeetucker6977]

Shared this in my FB feed ❤

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you for the support!

[@Aliyah_Coach]

Thank you Ed and Jay !!!! I love both of you!!! So many Gems 💎 in that conversation ❤ Love and relationships is the most important topic in a world where empathy and compassion have become rarities and an elbow mentality reigns. Podcasts like yours are so much needed! Thank you 🙏🏼 love you ♥️ (And happy Valentine’s Day btw 😉💝)

[@EdMylettShow]

Wow thank you milo for supporting us I appreciate this so much!

[@mackenziethompson6769]

This was amazing and exactly what I needed to hear. I kind of just gave up on everything. What he said about self love was so powerful. I'm going to have to watch this a few more times for sure. Thank you Ed and Jay. You are 2 of my favorite people! 💜

[@raynetteilg143]

so profound. Thank you Ed and Jay!

[@eijaananda9698]

Simply the best discussion, I learned a lot today❤. Thank you, this was a true Valentine's gift.

[@lilas6825]

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!

[@Jeff-wj7px]

Woke up to this, thank you 🙏🏼

[@JGG1999]

Loved this, Ed ❤ thank you!!

[@nataliapaulino771]

This is the best videos on love I've ever heard. Thank you 💜

[@shamshadtarmohamed153]

God bless you too

[@brianwyant960]

This is so good I love the 4 levels of intimacy and growing back together. Powerful and Thank You!

[@capricornak8382]

Omgoodness! This was mind blowing for me! I love both of you!

[@lifestyleREI]

Beautiful episode! Two of my favorite people here! I'd love to hear more advice from Jay on how he communicates with his wife with their different personalities because my wife and I are similar and I'd love to improve my communication. :)

[@miriammandel1968]

This is GOLD! 🎉Thank you!!

[@_byrvh]

Thank you for this beautiful conversation!

[@gurleenkaur8704]

This was the most incredible podcast i needed at this moment. Thank you guys and thank you universe for putting ed and jay on this planet. 🤝🏻🌹 more love and respect! God bless.

[@standingbearhealing5265]

Another great conversation!!! Thank you! I learn so much from you and your guests! ❤

[@laurakaalekahi793]

You guys are both amazing humans! This was incredible! ❤

[@relaxwithme__]

I’m taking away so much from this podcast and using it! God bless both you both! 🔥

[@ding1306]

Simply AMAZING!!!! Thanks to both of you and to all of your combined purpose in life ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Lupelifts-lm2zn]

Really grateful for this interview. Took away so much!

[@EdMylettShow]

Love hearing this, thank you for the support!

[@Lupelifts-lm2zn]

@@EdMylettShow this was a gift for sure ✨✨

[@selvarajan4331]

Awesome advice...thanks guys!

[@adrianoc1456]

If J hasn't done it already, needs to do seminars on this love stuff Best groomed on this topic 👏

[@adrianoc1456]

Verbalize expectations, establish roles and critique rituals routines as time goes on .. evolve over time

[@jeffdunham-exceed2023]

What a dynamic duo! This was packed with information that hit me directly in the forehead. Because of a cataclysmic event in my life, I've been on a painful path, of finally, unboxing deep childhood traumas and and understanding of a severe case of ADHD, that had me bound to my habitual past. Feeling that there was no way that I could ever break free was again just something my mind was telling me. Not what reality truly was. Our minds can be our biggest asset, but can also hold us back so strongly in the past, our body and mind don't like change. Sometimes it feels like it's easier to swim in the cesspool of your past than make a change. All this hard work is paying off, emotionally the evolution has been incredible, I'm able to go to places that I never thought possible, most importantly, I have for the first time in my life, given myself compassion and forgiveness and become deeply vulnerable with my family and friends. Unfortunately, even after all of this it appears to have cost me my marriage. I'm not sure that we're emotional equals any longer but we have a 22 month old baby that we both love dearly and for many years we had the most amazing relationship. I wish I had been able to understand and process this information sooner. ❤

[@marymcracknell3583]

Ed just found your podcast and im hooked. What amazing yopics mu friend. This one should resonate with so many and it should be mandatory for all of us in a relationship or looking for a relationship. BRAVO ED! Keep up with the fascinating topics. Share this podcast friends you will be so educated on many topics. THANKS ED........

[@adrianoc1456]

Flower analogy is wonderful

[@lancecabral138]

Thank you for your content! 🎉

[@EdMylettShow]

My pleasure!

[@rohanbapat8840]

amazing interview ed . i always love when you guys come together hahaha

[@rammz2750]

Whoa! This is a diamond! Resonate with not knowing Parents. Discovered my mum sadly through speakers at her burial few years ago though we had a great relationship. But could have supported her better should I have known her. Helped me to see people around me with fresh eyes.

[@mupetabobo9906]

"If a relationship starts like an interview, it will end in firing"... guys, that got me!!! Learning something new everyday, thank you 👏👏

[@mupetabobo9906]

@EdMylett453 You replied! I'm chuffed 😊

[@angelr.ricado3647]

Can’t believe this Ed doesn’t have over a million subs. 😮😢

[@MichaelSpratley-lc1dj]

This is really good stuff. Love it. Thanks Ed.

[@ashleighkotter4386]

Super super dope! Thank you so much for this. It is answers, it is muses, it is inspiring and helpful. Grateful for this insight and y’all! ❤

[@EdMylettShow]

So glad you were able to gain something from todays episode!

[@boyfloyddesosemerdzhiev9928]

SO GOOD ED...YOU KNOW HOW TO OPEN SPACE AROUND YOUR GUESTS TO FLOURISH AND GIVE THEIR MAX OUT OPINION, UNLIKE SOME OTHERS. THANKS..,

[@cremarie8757]

Great conversation by real men 🙏🏻❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@elizabethbronson1126]

I already made a comment, but .... "WoW" just WoW!!!!

[@MichaelStrachanowski]

So good input into the love ocean. It's better to swim together. I am learning a lot from both of you.

[@alienlifeform7490]

Thank you both. Subscribed!! : )

[@shaunaandvalentinmirosh5798]

❤️ beautiful guest, beautiful interview

[@mrs.rmmagbanua2221]

2 of my idols BRAVO

[@karimnanji4163]

Awesome..thank you I pray for all the happiness in the world for you and yours

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you, you too!

[@nataliel809]

Love ur videos ✨️💯

[@adrianoc1456]

This podcast lightened me up

[@DJTFLO]

My relationship ended because her curiosity would never die 😮‍💨 and what do we get as men? Pushed out of the household, made to look like a deadbeat, 90% of our time with our kids taken away. Both society and the government incentivise single motherhood through social media attention, child support and government subsidies. We are so quick to let a families get broken apart and have someone else step in just so because we want to. No need to fix issues or communicate when you have unlimited options and a built in excuse of needing to put yourself first and be happy in order to be a good parent. We are breaking homes like hotcakes because we can't address our own issues or because we saw our own vices and desires as something that we could not sacrifice and it's because quite frankly the perceived importance of the family unit has gone down. It breaks my heart because it's all by design and everyone falls into the trap.

[@adrianoc1456]

Familiarity is a great word 👌

[@LetzzzK]

Great interview. Thank you Ed and Jay. I have a question: the more I heal, the less emotional ups and downs I feel. Do you guys go through the same or am I just getting numb to everything? Asif everywhere I look, I only see plenty of unhealthy relationships and people trying to "convert" me, because "everyone does it" or "it's normal". Sometimes hard to keep track of what you want in a relationship when everything around you stimulates you to have unhealthy dynamics.

[@dannyusa]

Amazing !!!

[@randybowes4992]

You have to do whatever it takes to keep your relationship and your love for each other growing and thriving. #maxout #ONEMORE

[@EdMylettShow]

#MAXOUT #ONEMORE

[@evelyndejesus9178]

Wow amazing video definitely hit home

[@ydrjuliolara9601]

God is Love. If it doesn’t come from God everything else is counterfeit.

[@EdMylettShow]

🙌🏽🙏🏽