Effective Confrontation | Simon Sinek

Effective confrontation with any other person requires these three things in any order: speaking to your feelings, how a specific behavior of theirs affected that, and the impact that behavior might have in the future.
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Simon is an unshakable optimist who believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon teaches leaders and organizations how to inspire people. With a bold goal to help build a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single day feeling inspired, feel safe at work, and feel fulfilled at the end of the day, Simon is leading a movement to inspire people to do the things that inspire them. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, and Find Your Why. His new book, The Infinite Game, will be released in 2019.
Simon’s WHY: To inspire people to do the things that inspire them so that, together, each of us can change our world for the better.
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[@krishnarajg2778]

"Make it your own......It doesn't have to be mine....." ..... Unbelievably cool..☺️☺️

[@thesuccesscommunity6916]

"The solution that always works best, is empathy and honesty" Having the guts of confronting someone, but with respect and love really makes the difference...

[@fdcox]

I confronted a poor leader like this many years ago. It was VERY effective.

[@SamiAljundi]

First time I hear this, and I really need it in my daily life.

[@parnamsaini4751]

Sami..it is like your morning coffee...you mean?

[@Carlos_Arroyo]

Greetings from Guatemala 🇬🇹 Simón, I admire your talks😍

[@Andreluiz-dp2ho]

Simon is a master that this world needs

[@KristoffDoe]

This "feelings - behaviour - impact" method reminds me the other confrontation/feedback method called "FRED" - facts, results, emotions, demand. For example: "you were late" (F), "others had to pick up your work" (R), "it makes everyone upset" (E), "you must come on time" (D).

[@wsm-4839]

Interesting 🤔... but I think FBI is better than FRED in the sense that the later is more authoritarian and kinda aggressive/attacking, while FBI is more a voiced concern that is more forgiving and allowing room to correct oneself without attacking the person’s ego or feeling demoted 😊

[@MegaCynar]

If you want to create an aggressive workplace this would work. You want to create an opportunity for the person to grow, f.r.e.d essentially backs someone into a corner, usually good to assign blame and create a disengaged worker. I would recommend the approach Simon gives here as it's more of a reflective statement.

[@NiceGamingHU]

This is just simply great

[@kcstorytime4898]

Thank you Simon. I have always believed in identifying the specific action and the specific feeling that the action caused me or the other person to become upset as I knew that was necessary for communication but I have not always successfully created resolution or change as I didn't include the third element which was the impact that behavior might have in the future. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@estebanmolina1665]

I really enjoy listening to Simon's talks, experiences and advice. God bless you

[@carinabayzon1615]

FBI - I just applied it in my own situation and it totally paid off before the day ended. I was dumbfounded by the result. I did not expect it. It was real breakthrough for me. I am super grateful to God for what you do. You're such a blessing to me. Keep it up!

[@hansu7474]

I wish I knew this sooner. It's also very good way to resolve problems in dating.

[@kcstorytime4898]

I agree!

[@vikranttyagiRN]

It also can be very effective to inculcate responsibility in kids

[@amitdahal1698]

Lifetime value must be understood while keeping one’s boss happy

[@Dearzachmink]

This was so good, Simon. Thank you. This led to a productive and empathic conversation with my supervisor this VERY morning. Starting of with telling them how I was feeling really opened up the dialogue between us.

[@vinceellison3675]

Empathy & Honesty - love this. I am stealing this, but think about LOVE = Truth + Grace. Good stuff.

[@Babypinkkkkkkkk]

It sets you free from the pressure of all the things they put you through......

[@toinspirando7591]

I love this!!!

[@Ozmni11]

This is excellent! I needed to hear this.

[@merajusuf]

Your words are amazing sir

[@anastasijapilnikova5732]

Thank You :)

[@zuleigaagulhas9740]

Words are too inadequate to explain the finer feelings💞💞✌

[@JCrash302]

Simon, your words are pure GOLD! Can you do my next interview for me?? Haha! You made such a positive impact in my career that I can't thank you enough!

[@lakshmikishoreadapala1150]

SBi Feedback. Fantastic Simon, as usual. Cheers.

[@lakshmikishoreadapala1150]

SBI or FBI ??

[@kimpen4993]

Lakshmi Kishore Adapala I think it is FBI : Feeling, Behavior, Impact. This is the concept of Non Violent Communication

[@lakshmikishoreadapala1150]

@@kimpen4993 Thanks Kim.

[@xxbakal]

Damn I should have seen this video 6 months ago, so I could have avoided some conflict in the office. But I guess better late than never.

[@aaronchars5709]

Simon : FBI FBI has entered the chat P/S : Simon is one rare kind of intellect the business world so need right now

[@abc111xyz]

Not only the business world - also in politics, governments and personal relationships. He is really a light in our dark world.

[@jimallen8186]

Heard of Operational Level of War? The thing that connects Tactical and Strategic.

[@selfelements8037]

1:55 Effective Confrontation = FBI (feelings, behavior, impact).

[@juniornesh1193]

Thank you 🙌♥️

[@nataschalaros4334]

FBI, never forget this one! 😁

[@gwho]

Once I confronted a fire pokemon with hydro cannon. It was super effective.

[@trimom237]

Phenomenal man!! I never tire of hearing Simon...Simon, will you marry me? 😂🤷💍🤞

[@michellejames4217]

Haha, I was just saying the other day to someone that I have a huge crush on this man

[@cavallopazzo340]

That's great. But how do you do that if you have to mention multiple negative things at once?

[@thierrymalo1882]

CSE Don’t. Start with the most impactful one. Wait for things to get better. Compliment for the progress. And then, present the second one. People need time to grow.

[@ericafernandes3283]

Nice video... and you look cute scratching your forehead ☺

[@namanydv_garud]

wohhh

[@etofok]

is there like a full video anywhere? thanks

[@310guitars]

Where can I find this entire talk????

[@johnchan7191]

I want that too.

[@Ankit-zu2kp]

Simon Sinek - The Infinite game. It's probably in your recommendations.

[@LostSoulAscension]

Question Simon, what do you think about the possibility that the internet and online business has made the front lines of sales a predominantly infinite landscape than finite, essentially flipping the script on it's head? A consistency of infinite attracts a few but dedicated finite.

[@savannahm.laurentian1286]

New to your channel. Need to know. Did you as optimist really change your last name to "cynic?"

[@PedroHernandesC]

FBI, awesome!

[@eheng10]

FBI is same as NVC

[@necforce]

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[@Sailingbill1]

Confrontation skill teaching for a Dutch crowd.....? This will be difficult to have an effective impact. This would require a cultural impact deep to its core. Good luck Simon. I would love to see how it would work.

[@HimanshuSingh-nb4sz]

I am very hurt as I noticed that you tried to provoke me by playing loud music when I was having dinner despite telling you about this before and if you keep doing things like that I will find some other place on rent and will see everyone except you.

[@MassDynamic]

FBI, open the door!

[@Subject1097]

😂 good one

[@judecruze8300]

I like she

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FBI 👌👌

[@dielaughing73]

Female Body Inspector, open up!!