Men only understand action. Go no contact. Be silent, indifferent and distant. However, when they reach out, make sure its serious direct effort to meet. Let him feel and fear the loss!! Theyre usually bluffing.
@91pinklipstick11 ай бұрын
This is what most breakup coaches preach to women. Only respond to significant texts ignore the breadcrumbs
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
@91pinklipstick those no contact videos are so helpful. Thats where I learned this. It works.
@pappico11 ай бұрын
@@91pinklipstick VERY important. Men who reach back via breadcrumbs only want the assets and not you. Those who actually regret leaving will be persistent and sincere to enter your life again.
@tazza65411 ай бұрын
@basicinfo2022 what do you mean by ‘make sure it’s serious direct effort to meet’? How is this done?
@li504310 ай бұрын
@@basicinfo2022Should l let him watch my WhatsApp stories where l post myself going out with friends
@suzyj870811 ай бұрын
Best way to get him feeling like he’s a moron for not choosing you or committing to you, is by him seeing another dude take you out, spend time with you and commit to you. Makes him think like damnnnn she was special and I’m in idiot for letting her go, cause now she’s with someone else. If you wait around for him to act right and give you what you want, and he sees that, that automatically lowers your value. Never make him think you’re waiting around for him or make him think he can have you whenever he wants. Nope. Make him know that if he doesn’t act right, he’s easily replaced.
@porschewalker56529 ай бұрын
🎯
@sheila79098 ай бұрын
Bang on
@bov50205 ай бұрын
No dude you want is gonna care or if he did he will be disgusted.
@laetitia9652Ай бұрын
Yep! This is why women need to have options, women should have options, date at least 3 men at a time get to know them. Women you’re wanting a husband not a user that is not your husband.
@Lipanj92Ай бұрын
@@bov5020 What do you mean? Are you a male?
@Sunny-or8bq11 ай бұрын
Elliot is right on this too. Most men already have someone in line before the breakup. They are thrilled to get rid of you at first. After a few weeks of enjoying the bachelor life he will realize they are not you. The thrill is going away and fast. Then they will start a little contact. Do not answer! You want him to go out. He needs more time to really regret the whole break. The contact will pick up steam with time but do not answer yet. Work on yourself with this time. I went to a therapist and did not answer for almost 11 weeks. She told me it was time. Yes, it worked out in the end. Good luck ladies,
@sonias972211 ай бұрын
When things don't work out with his new one he is back knocking at your door 😂 let him see what being left with _no_ woman feels
@Sunny-or8bq11 ай бұрын
@@sonias9722 Hey, I think you mis understood me. I was not in a short dating situation. We were living together for 5 years. We tend to take people for granted after awhile, especially men. I was not going to have it and left to find my own place. And all men have their little black books from old girlfriends to look up when necessary. LOLOL. I'm not sure if he did or not but I've heard most do. Please follow No Contact. This "for granted business" will stop.
@Sab819010 ай бұрын
Great insight
@TurquoisefireАй бұрын
Please share your story!!!
@k.molloy550321 күн бұрын
@@camryngaines4024 Lol yes who is that therapist? We waiting 😅. I'm going to see a therapist really because I just want to move on really and get back to loving myself again until I feel I'm healed & ready to date again.
@DollHousebeauty019 ай бұрын
Ladies.... No contact is not to get a guy back. It is to set boundaries for yourself. (Not to get him back!!!!!) If he comes back its usually too late, if u respect yourself. Who is waiting 3 months for a man to want them
@maryqc841811 ай бұрын
It took me six months of no contact to get him to come back last time. I caved immediately when he finally got ahold of me and it turned out he treated me the exact same way again. We're in round two now of no contact. At least this time it only took a month vs. six years to see the light. Heartbroken in the dessert, here. I'm moving on and improving all aspects of myself and life. No looking back.
@memorablywonderful11 ай бұрын
With me its exactly the same, no contact, back in contact, no changes, just want to keep everything like it was. Screw him, not again with me. As much as I love him, this is not how a Person should love you back. Stay strong, me too. Doing this together❤
@milenamijatovic148011 ай бұрын
Eliot could do video on this!!!! 🎉 When he comes back and ruin second chance and than come back with attitude on being serious
@JM-bv2mo11 ай бұрын
Argh me too! We broke up last April went 6 months then he reached out. We were “friends” for 5 months. I finally told him that I still have feelings and I can’t do this. He’s like you should someone else or I’m not ready to date even when long distance is an issue and I said I’m moving closer. So, I am like argh fuck dis. I deactivated my social account where he follows me and it’s been 1 week but I’m back in round 2 but this time I’m open to dating other ppl. I love him and want him but this shit is painful. We do need a video on second NC
@maryqc841811 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry. It does suck. I took the BS for six years. Every time I asked for anything, even for him to initiate more, he would just go silent. I'm tired of it. He came back all sweettalk second round. I called him out. Told him he's nothing but a con. I know I don't mean anything to him and never have. Understand, the sweet talk is nothing but a con.
@Zane-zr7ic9 ай бұрын
@@maryqc8418they go silent and then come back like nothing happened so that they still don't have to give you what u asked for thr silent treatment is to make you feel like he's a great catch and loss
@datnursenicky302211 ай бұрын
Best message ever. It's what you do with that time during your no-contact. Ladies go better yourself and be done for real, when his sorry ass comes back let him down and keep it moving no matter what.
@maryqc841811 ай бұрын
Full stop! Testimony!!
@nutritionintuitionbycoachl894611 ай бұрын
I am the one that ended it because he wasnt living up to my standards. he has been texting and i ignore
@NK-ek3kt11 ай бұрын
This is true. My ex left me and our daughter , told me no longer loved me there was someone else. I went no contact and just grieved cried did the usual, and then in my head I knew he will come back - and he did. After watching videos I made sure he paid a price, I said if you wanna be with me you will work at it. And he did
@Mh134448 ай бұрын
Mine too,left me and our 5 children ,said he no longer loved me .I'm in NZ he's in AU..Been a hard journey, but I'm working on me and doing what I need to as a mum.I love my kids and they have me. Glad things worked out for you xx
@thequeenofwitches79435 ай бұрын
I would have never gotten back with him, only allow him to be in his daughter s life, nothing else. That's a betrayal I would never forgive.
@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i6411 ай бұрын
Hey Elliot! Long time no see! You just popped up in my feed after 5 1/2 years. I got married in 2018 after watching you and taking a lot of your advice.😊 I'm still married, but glad to see you're still making your videos. God bless!
@shiekapharr159810 ай бұрын
Elliot is a gift to women ☺️
@joylindadichamounix11 ай бұрын
Men can read our minds. If you are playing aloof but he is all we think about....HE KNOWS! He will not play into the game.
@solimine100711 ай бұрын
Honestly. I'm at the point where I'm just so hurt by everything. I just kind of wanna get over it. I want to be able to let go and move on. The sad part is I know. He's gonna end up missing me and wanting to come back. And when he text me I think i'm just gonna freeze. Part of me almost doesn't want him to come back. I don't think I wanna open myself back up to that again.
@borboletinhaamarela605710 ай бұрын
Here's the thing tho. If I have to come UP with estrategies on How to keep him or bring him back... I'm done. Been with a Guy 3 weeks só intense today He went silent. It is our Day of the week to meet. I am like .. block him.. I don't care.. If He is not sure He is out.. If He has a problem should tell.. If He is silent... Block. I got no time for unsure guys.
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
10:27 this is why its important for women to keep him pursuing because he should always try to make you happy even when he "has you". do you have a video on how to communicate your needs when you meet for the "talk"?
@michellestreeter43685 ай бұрын
Love how he’s so real and natural speaking
@samanthasdollz11 ай бұрын
Abraham broke up with me 😂😂😂
@karaclow253611 ай бұрын
😂😂😂 I laughed way to hard at that!
@AJay-pj2df4 ай бұрын
My ex's name actually IS Abraham!😂❤
@isabelsmith1098 ай бұрын
Last time it was 3 weeks...but... this time i feel it will be longer...it might even be the end. Im just trying to cope tbh 😢
@cosmosprayКүн бұрын
What about early dating stage
@veronicasmith13329 ай бұрын
i needed this today
@NNV33711 ай бұрын
Great video, Elliot 👌💯
@terroristeoverdoz7 ай бұрын
what about if long distance and no social media??
@Desivanilla00711 ай бұрын
What if it has been 4months?
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
No contact is forever if you've been dumped. The dumper should be leading fixing things and reconciling.
@maryqc841811 ай бұрын
The stupid stubborn ones can take a long time..
@creatureofstyle11 ай бұрын
@@basicinfo2022 I was the dumper and when I reached out he breadcrumbed and then ghosted. Refused to talk thing out, so I moved on. No contact works but just remember if the dumper reaches out you need to open the door at least a little bit (assuming you want to get back together with them at some point), or they may think you've permanently closed that door. Since mine ghosted me that's what I'm left to assume
@angelagracehere4 ай бұрын
I’m only seeing the attraction guides, not the no contact guides?
@truthtimetarot11 ай бұрын
Elliot speaking up to a year and over... 😂😂😂 work on your body, your mind, your spirituality.. leave him in the dust with the dusty he left you for
@cussingandcrafts11 ай бұрын
What if he pulled back for the death of a family pet that was there for 24 years? Or if he’s got other personal stuff going on? When I reach out he still replies but he said he self-isolates when depressed. He said I hope you’re not just waiting on me. I asked do you want this connection to be over? He said Not saying that, I just really don’t want to be around people right now and that’s not fair for you. We were talking every single day all day long for a month. Things didn’t show signs of slowing down until he lost his pet. We never had sex but we cuddled and kissed a lot and were very emotionally intimate. Should I not reach out to check on him? I have reached out to him once and he told me he was bawling his eyes out at work and had to go home early. When I offered to listen he ignored my message. For Valentine’s Day I sent him some funny memes and he sent some back. I sent more and he never responded. I’m so confused. 😢
@creatureofstyle11 ай бұрын
Stop reaching out. Mine did this too and now it's been 11 months. Move on with your life. There's always a chance you two could come back together in the future but he's right, don't wait for him, it truly isn't fair to you
@suzyj870811 ай бұрын
Never wait for a man. He already told you “I hope you’re not just waiting on me.” That alone means I don’t want you just don’t know how to tell you.
@cussingandcrafts11 ай бұрын
@creatureofstyle thank you. I cut off contact yesterday morning and I sent him one last message. I said, you know, I really thought we could have something. I hope you find someone someday that's worth not ghosting for.
@cussingandcrafts11 ай бұрын
@suzyj8708 not waiting. I left. I'm having second thoughts about leaving when hes going through something. I really want to reach out and apologize but a part of me feels too prideful for that.
@jaime-leeviney983511 ай бұрын
@@cussingandcraftsDon't reach out, Leave him be. If he wants space? Then give him the whole universe. See if he misses you then.
@Trex71243 ай бұрын
I am done with it. Being told, "friends" but I want more.. "Let me go.." okay, go.. "Oh, someone said this about you and theres another woman." Im busy, You wanna see another woman, I'm gonna block you. I love you , didnt say it was gonna be easy but Im not gonna get dragged down" Blocked.. I got a new resume with new skills, Im busy with a new career.
@kimt816211 ай бұрын
Oh boy. VDay Dance, didn't go and didn't get asked to go? So with my daughter she's moving on. The guy after the dance (who knows who he went with or if he went) is all over her. Now what? I don't know where this stands. We're running out of time. Soon she doesn't hang around that area for about 5 months. I feel he should have asked her to go to the dance? It was too much pressure, and he wasn't nice before the dance. Now he's nice and relaxed?
@izdark87333 ай бұрын
10:41
@CATZ1LLA11 ай бұрын
Why is it that to get a guy, you have to have the X factor of being sweet, dependable, loyal, etc. But then if this helps you get the guy, he eventually takes all of the X factors you had for granted, which makes a guy lose interest in you, to eventually break up with you. Then to make him regret losing you, you have to have X factor again but this time, no contact. 🙄😮💨 Oy vey. Might as well just stay single.
@caroliner190111 ай бұрын
Yes mine (15 months together - we’re both older, divorcees with adult children) said at the breakup (yesterday morning) that I was beautiful, sexy, intelligent, funny, creative etc etc, he loved our time together, the fun times, travel, adventures etc same goals same dreams but ‘ “going through difficult time right now and need to be on my own - I can’t give you a relationship right now’ it’s true his world has spiralled out of control (anxiety over new business that’s not working, bills, house repairs) for him over recent months - whilst my life is still stable and if anything things for me on the up. Part of me thinks it’s the crisis he’s going through- part of me wonders if I wasn’t the one - part of me thinks he’s an idiot and for that reason I should move on. So hard to know what to think. But Elliott has said so many times that if a guy is into you won’t want to risk losing you. Is that true though when they’ve got a lot of new big worries going on - can a guy break up with ‘the one’? And if his life was more stable - he wouldn’t have wanted to split up?
@Nikkiijean4 ай бұрын
@@caroliner1901I think he can break up with the one - people can make the wrong choice and even subconsciously be self sabotaging with negative beliefs of success about themselves ( self-fulfilling negative prophecies) but if that’s the case- do what Elliot and all the experts say : Be content to give him the space he’s asked for and let him watch you moving forward whilst he remains where he’s at. If he cares enough to make the effort, he’ll catch up to you. That’s when yo let them know that “ fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice , shame on me”… That you will not leave the door open a second time should they decide to leave again.
@basshunter901811 ай бұрын
wot if its been 2 years?!!! and im not kidding!!!
@steph610911 ай бұрын
Find another one
@izdark87333 ай бұрын
8:38
@izdark87333 ай бұрын
10:02
@Antoinette1427311 ай бұрын
What happens if you socially bump into each other in first two weeks? Advice? Interact or ignore him?
@KereolaPatunia11 ай бұрын
Be polite, not friendly. Smile, say hi, and then be on your way.
@IM2bfree6 ай бұрын
I wonder, 🤔do you get the same reaction from an emotionally unavailable man ?? I’ve always held my power and this is the first time this has EVER happened to me but I’m the one who walked away because he hasn’t been able to commit to anyone. He wants to play chicken, let’s play chicken because I’d cut my fingers off before being the one to reach out first, and besides, I’m great at multi-tasking,lol..😉
@kimasp748215 күн бұрын
He WILL accidentally call his adult kids by your name...roflmao
@marycan534411 ай бұрын
3 months over I decided not to reach out eveb when he kept the doors open . 4th month going on. N I'm hating him every passing day My only thing z I'm done with this shit
@basicinfo202211 ай бұрын
No contact is powerful.
@basshunter901811 ай бұрын
still holding out for that reaching out text for 2 years - and now valentines been and gone....
@karaclow253611 ай бұрын
Its all too much. Just let their a$$e$ go. I didn't used to be able to say that but thank God I finally can!
@porschewalker56529 ай бұрын
🎯
@shraddhachougule636411 ай бұрын
Hi
@AD-hh6dd11 ай бұрын
I had a boyfriend in HS named Abraham lol
@karaclow253611 ай бұрын
OMG 🤣 still laughing ‼️
@karaclow253611 ай бұрын
Abraham??? Wtf Elliott 🤣
@MissSarahGM11 ай бұрын
So Elliott, the guy can only appreciate your value once you are lost? And should we reopen the door only when they state clear apology and intentions?