Lust, Love & Masturbation (some thoughts)

[@strengthcamp]

I have a feeling (and it has been my experience) that over time the practice of detaching from an idea eventually frees you from it. When you see it objectively you come to realize how useless it might be or how little is may support the "stronger you"... then it is just dropped, no forcing is needed... it just falls away. Thanks!

[@onlyb6854]

YO ELLIOTT - STRENGTH CAMP You Truly Woke Man💯

[@ktcarl]

Sex without love is an empty experience. Of course, as empty experiences go, it's one of the best.

[@deepanshugupta5767]

🤣🤣

[@PinacoladaMatthew]

Woody Allen.. lol

[@MaryamAli-fi3re]

im in my process of quitting masturbation

[@isaiahsolis8456]

Maryam Ali were you successful man?

[@Uzi487]

@@isaiahsolis8456 i guess we'll never know

[@nightidiot]

Come on, we're all wankers, only idiots fall in love to porn.

[@DisgustinglyAdorable]

There are a lot of good ideas in tantra about porn and masturbation, in that masturbation can be meditative and get you in tune with your body, but the problem of porn is that it takes you out of your body and makes sex more about visual stimulation than a body process. I can say from experience that when I put porn aside sex becomes much more intense and embodied for me.

[@baronessax2114]

Your videos are refreshing. Its a spiritual experience to hear you speak. Thank you for your insight.

[@robinclees]

After you discharge should you add it to your protein shake?

[@ShiiroToDie]

robinclees wtf

[@tigerfan7349]

Lol

[@keithbarrow6085]

Yes

[@bigbaaladon]

SAVAGE

[@XRP212]

One polish guy told me it whats they do in polish jails, eat there own skeet

[@serenadesilhout]

I'll just let you know from experience, real women are 10 times more satisfying than any amount of porn.

[@lightweightbaby7959]

Yeah, BUT the Problem is there ain’t no women that wants me, or I believe most people who watching this.

[@Ainttrippin]

Nah sometimes pork is better. You can do it on your pace and time. No need to please anyone else but yourself.

[@alihasnain5042]

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[@breatheeasily4013]

@@lightweightbaby7959 How do you know? Do you talk ALL with them? YOu are just assuming, dont do assumptions. You might find a girlfriend

[@Leopar525]

@@Ainttrippin don’t eat pork. Find other pleasures

[@closetogrowth]

Most people would say a wank is a wank but I feel like we're not most people.

[@teejay3698]

Nick Milliner we here are different

[@strengthcamp]

I often get this mixed up, but here is how I remember it... to see myself OBJECTively it must be detached, without feeling or emotion, like I am an OBEJCT. To see myself SUBJECTively I have to see myself as being SUBJECTED to my feelings, perspective, emotions, etc.

[@walterelliothayes]

Joseph Gordon-Levitt just did a movie about this very topic. "Don Jon". About a guy addicted to porn and started to have unrealistic expectations for the women in his life. I highly recommend it. Great view. Looking forward to watching others.

[@thersten]

that was awesome. it truly makes me want to stop accessing imagery of all sorts bc It is difficult to detach from.

[@jasperpaws24]

You are very intelligent Mr. Elliot!!

[@mconcepcion752]

Damn, this has happened to me. Becoming attached to an unrealistic view of a women I could no longer be with.

[@saif5512]

watch don jon guys...its based on dis topic

[@TheValerieGomez]

There needs to be a female version of you on KZbin!

[@OlinScharm95]

Its called PewDiePie

[@alexandernikolic6907]

***** Darude-Sandstorm

[@adnanahmed215]

+Olin Scharm the hate is strong everywhere. I hope Elliot hulse makes a video on what hating others can do to yourself so you uneducated people get a paradgim shift.

[@OlinScharm95]

+Adnaan Ahmed Hahaha I dont hate him, I'm just saying that he is feminine in comparison to Elliot... If you see that as an insult then you're a sexist

[@OlinScharm95]

+La Verga En La Que Te Sientas Nice nickname pinche pendejo mamahuevos 😂

[@HunterGatherer2012]

This guy deserve more subscibers, He always seems to know what he is talking about wether that be in weight training or advice and he does a damn good job of explaining it.

[@treal512]

Attachment is a powerful concept I think a lot of people don't understand or realize they're influenced by. Thank you for sharing your ideas on this, Elliot. I think this advice can result in not only the improvement of most people's sex lives, but above all, their awareness.

[@nickshapland9384]

please write a book, i can't believe how good you are examining these things

[@jameshizon4861]

I think that I find always end up finding people online who are responsive like a worker is to a paycheck, often times rebellious. Let's just appreciate Elliot's wisdom, especially as God's word and science and all that goodness.

[@ChatwithMatt]

Everyone can learn something from this guy. Legend.

[@InspirationIsFree]

Just found you and subscribed. Got here from your workout channel. I'm a scientist, play a lot of sports and work out. You are a scientific person and your philosophies are based on that. Your analysis of love, lust, and masturbation I totally agree with. Have you read any buddhist philosophical texts? Your ideas are very much in line with that school of thought - of detachment, transiency, and that nothing is right or wrong. There is just truth and what is happening. Keep doing you Elliott!

[@marcusanderson2978]

Awesome describing and very interesting thinking!

[@comrad1986]

Its very rare that i ever watch video after of video on one channel. You are truly one of a kind bro, there's a genuineness and humility and authority that just exudes in your videos ...keep up the good work.

[@aaz1992]

this was really interesting! I'm in a long-term abstinent relationship, and I've come to understand this similarly. I'm waiting for marriage to become sexual and it's a constant struggle between temptation and restraint. I've been thinking about the issue of lust for a while, and I agree that there is an inevitable instinct to look at someone else sometimes. But keeping that image, as you call it, for longer than even a few seconds, I see as a danger to myself and the relationship

[@eskayp101]

Very solid perspective, Elliot. Took me like 3 years to be able to articulate what you just did in 12 minutes.

[@starlifeforce]

I went from furious pete to empowering my spirit. Thanks brother you're a true blessing you're eyes don't lie.

[@SullivanGabel]

Anyone watching this in 2024? This was my very first video I watched of Yo Elliott! ❤Thank you for sharing and once again, Gratitudes to you Elliott!

[@ssdtrain1]

wow dude,, u make so much sense... i see things differently now,, u have proved to me, that i need to take a new approach on my life,, i used to be an avid body builder,, but through injuries and just plain laziness, i gave up,,but you have truly regenerated a pulse inside me with your knowledge,, your right, i have been very unfair to myself!!,, instead of getting off my lazy ass, ive just fantasized about "what if I", instead of "what can I"...thank u so much for making youtube worth it 2day.

[@BohemianAndy]

You are excellent in clarifying ideas and concepts that confuse us most of the time, Elliot. It's like seeing through a perfect crystal, which used to be a cloudy glass.

[@xibilfc21]

It's amazing how productive and mind-opening talking about sex can be when one talks about it without glorification or inhibitions. Thank you Elliott!

[@wickednwandering]

you need a playlist for all the music in your videos. I love it.

[@WisdomIsPrecious]

Thank you for your post on this topic which is so central to the lives as men. This definitely seems like a topic where people are going to disagree a lot. I'm a little bit surprised you don't side with the Taoist theories that ejaculation is a waste of energy. However, I really shouldn't be surprised, because I am conflicted myself, and I identified with your viewpoint as well as the aforementioned one. Elliott, I hope you continue to ponder this topic, or at least keep it on the back burner.

[@DonMungia]

What the hell was that! I started off searching weightlifting videos and ended up on this video. I am subcribed to elliots videos but didn't know he made this one. So after watching it, I was in awe. There is no other way this can be explained as detailed as this. This was an awseom video. Big props for having this video well prepared.

[@gmartindesign1]

It's very nice to listen to a built guy who has intellect. Respect.

[@Tip345]

@elliott hulse I didn't know about you until I watched this video and now I know you're the real deal. Your wise, intelligent, and just all around well rounded guy... I like it. So many guys our age (teens, 20's, 30's) are looking for a source of wisdom, a mentor. You're that person for me, your wise beyond your years.

[@iRonlMoNKleY]

I was confused at first about where this was all going, but then it made so much sense. Wise words. Thx Elliot.

[@carkemish]

A pernicious practise. Not only does it lead to blindness, it also promotes the growth of hair on the palms of the hands. It is, furthermore, the first step on the road to "reversion"-

[@CiprianIonut]

If I could summarize what you've said is that one should be grateful for what they experience, but not at the expense of the moment, therefore being present is of utmost importance.

[@stevenjoseph7473]

Darn. You reallly are a very wise man, very powerful and articulately done speech here, it really changed my view on a view things in a way. KUDOS Elliot Hulse

[@thedarkmoonman]

The Greek word hamartia (ἁμαρτία) is usually translated as sin in the New Testament. In Classical Greek, it means "to miss the mark" or "to miss the target" which was also used in Old English archery.

[@Fortress333]

Excellent. Yesterday, I found your channel and I have since seen about a dozen or even more videos. Very intelligent stuff on a wide variety of subjects, including depression and suicidal thoughts, which I no doubt can handle a lot better now. Part of growing up. Thanks! Enlightening.

[@davidfrazee4054]

Slavery to fleeting whims. When a person does one thing in the mind while doing another with the body, there is always going to be a consequence. Dissociation of the mind from the body will always have negative consequences(reactions).

[@abrarrashid7968]

Its amazing if we think deeper inside of us and listen to what Elliot says, we can actually relate and learn so much stuff. We should be thankful for you're doing and its helping in so many ways. I just wana say thank you Elliott.

[@campbellah12]

These are very important topics you're addressing here. I appreciate your description of lust as a natural body function, but love how you distinguish the ability to disconnect from that lust. It is nearly impossible not to become aroused in certain situations, but it is totally in your hands how you handle it. For a healthy, flourishing relationship, it is truly important to attach those feelings of lust and ultimately love to the other half of your relationship. Pornography may seem shallow, but the effects it has on one's psyche, connecting that feeling of lust and love to scripted, fake sex can have lasting effects on a person and subsequent relationships.

[@zerkon2]

Elliott You are a fucking blessing to listen to in this "modern" social community! I really love your work.

[@MrERINCase]

WOW!! I just learned a hell of a lot more than I ever did before. Thanks dude.

[@mrbignfit]

Geezo Elliott, have you ever been told that "you're too smart for your own good"? I thought my mind was always working 24/7, you make my mind look like a tricyle in a motorcyle race!

[@joelg04]

Elliot, You really are very wise on many topics and to be able to hear your views on these topics that we can relate to is absolutely amazing. I love how you word your ideas so we can fully understand it. Keep being Amazing man, Love from London.

[@AutumnPrinceProductions]

damnnn. thats a great point. superimposing an idea of this completely unrealistic idea onto ourselves from what we've seen from fantasy land. props bro. thanks

[@xMalicious]

Great video, Elliot. I just ran across a video of yours a minute ago, and now I'm just fascinated. I'll be watching many, many of your videos in in the near future. Thanks for being you, and thanks for sharing!

[@daspinman]

Well said. I think the biggest problem couples have is the super-imposing of unrealistic expectations. Acceptance and mindfulness can be very helpful in this regard. Thanks Elliott!

[@iambuddhalicious]

you have my sub, to hear you speak is to walk with you down a clear path

[@apessk8s88]

Elliot is the Vsauce of Fitness and Personal issues. Awesome info man.

[@KyCuJe]

What a well thought out refutation. Have you ever considered publishing this study in a journal?

[@MrCwill666]

This really made me think hard about some things. I've been watching your videos on and off the last 12 hours today. Thanks Elliott.

[@jugnination]

I just finished reading osho's Intuition. Alot of these ideas i read in the book ! If it wasn't for your video about what books you read?, i would have never read osho ! Thanks Elliot !

[@WaqasAhmed93]

absolutely amazing video man! i don't think there's anyone out there that can talk about something like this in such a serious manner. i was nodding my head the whole way through! mega respect sir! the only time i laughed is when you said 'hard on on' haha! all the best elliot!

[@ApollstarV3]

Why doesnt elliot get a ted talk session. i cant stop watching these videos!

[@martincro3]

Actualy glad to hear someone sharing same mindset on this subject, christian or not.

[@RedAdder]

this is good wisdom. great concepts!

[@xXNINJAXxization]

elliott always finds a way to bring balls into the situation.

[@CheezInspector]

This is good. A point of departure for me: Objectively speaking, pornography actually is hurtful to a lot of people: many actresses are under-aged and/or coerced into it, many actresses come from the illegal "slave trade" business; many of both the actors and actresses have drug addictions that drive them to make the movies (need the money), otherwise they'd be doing something else.

[@TeeheeWipeOut]

People, masturbation got his benefits but to much can hurt you if you become addicted to that . Its bullshit that they keep telling you " Don't do it ! It will blind you " n shit I 100% agree whit Elliot and his knowledge

[@fdota]

this man speaks so much truth it amazes me. Mr Hulse, sir, you are a genius and I thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us.

[@SuperGusi1]

to add to your thoughts.every desire,passion,lust call it what you will is good for us.Its when it controls us to the point of harming oneself or another that it becomes a sin or evil.

[@turkshine4384]

Spoken very diligently, one of the most challenging issue of our time for male adults, thanks for your articulate brainstorming. It made a shit ton of sense to me. Respect!

[@Ravnegutten]

Cool videos on a plethora of subjects. You sir, are a gentleman and a scholar. Greetings from Norway ^^

[@etiquetteeagle3253]

thank you El! becoming a stronger and better version of my self, both physically and spiritually through watching your vids! keep up the great work! thank you very much

[@bryanero]

thanks for the advice elliott. you're like the big brother i never had

[@virtuousdesi]

Thank you for sharing! As a follower of Christ i see such a taboo in Christianity concerning masturbation and sex period. Especially in these days where sexual confusion is increasing we need an open appreciation of what God has created in sexuality and in the man and woman.

[@aidanbailey6337]

One cannot necessarily be "a follower of Christ" and disregard lust, masturbation, and sex outside of marriage as being a sin. Yes, acknowledge their presence, see the beauty, but if one continuously turns to look and flicks that image, that impulse, back on, lust has taken root, it has taken hold, and immorality may follow in greater forms than an internal turmoil. www.desiringgod.org/sermons/battling-the-unbelief-of-lust Be aware that I may not respond to any replies or remarks.

[@virtuousdesi]

Aidan Bailey Thanks for the comment! It is a perfect illustration of what I was talking about: many Christians simply cannot talk about the beauty of the human sex drive without harping on the sins of it. Notice my statement was about masturbation and sex in general specifically the desire for it. God did NOT make us to be asexual (look it up). Mr. Bailey, please provide where in Yahweh's Word does he condemn masturbation?? For the curious out there ITS NOT IN THE BIBLE. ALSO the Torah does not outright say sex outside of marriage is the sin, it does say that if a man find a virgin which is not engaged to another man and lie with her he needs to pay the father her dowry because he humbled her (in other words he broke her hyman, spilling blood and therefore entered into a blood covenant with her, deep huh?). So Yahweh wants us to engage in sexual relations within a covenant relationship of marriage that is eternal. Just like the blood covenant of Jesus is eternal with us. Sex is supposed to be spiritual. Now, I did not even mention lust or pornography as both those things lead to degradation of sex and not the beauty of it. I was trying to express the beauty of it. I HOPE THAT ALL THE NON-CHRISTIANS READING THIS can gain some insight and I do apologize for mixed messages. UGH...no wonder people just forget all together. Praise be to Yahweh anyhow!!

[@aidanbailey6337]

Desiree C 2+2=4: that statement illustrates that immutable truths can be ascertained without directly citing Scripture. Building upon that, I can logically say that masturbation is sinful because the very nature of it entices, requires, and flames lust, which is a sin (www.godvine.com/bible/category/lust). Therefore, masturbation and lust is a sin. With that established, pornography can easily be shown to be sinful in nature and intent. Now, when it comes to marriage and sex (which I have heard is pretty fantastic, lol), the following Scripture supports sex outside of marriage being sinful: www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+7%3A1-7&version=NIV It should also be noted that the Mosaic Law, "the Torah," was done away with the New Covenant laid down by Jesus and then the God ordained word written by the apostles, Paul, and the few others like Jude. Be aware that I may not respond to any replies or remarks. Also, because these internet discussions can go on and on and on, I limit myself to three responses, and this is my second response. And my tone throughout this response is nothing but calm, relaxed, and invested.

[@virtuousdesi]

Aidan Bailey Hmmm, your response says a lot about you, I'll leave it at that. Since you clearly have figured out all there is to understand about human sexuality it might make others wonder why you watched this video in the first place...Notice that Jesus never debated with non-believers or those who did not understand the Torah (Jesus, the Word made flesh was referring to the Torah; the apostles you mentioned had not yet put pen to paper). When people believe different than you, its not due to ignorance or being "unlearned" it is because they have experienced life from a different angle than you have. The better you understand that the better you will be able to reach the lost. (Matthew 10:16) God Bless

[@virtuousdesi]

Aidan Bailey Basically my point is, of course I don't agree with everything in the video, it's just there was 0 point in me spitting out those things at this venue, trying to "preach at people", I believe in making positive connections about the common human experience that bring people to together, because the truth is, no one cares what you think if they don't respect you. And if they don't respect you, they won't respect your God.

[@krisvellsuarez]

you're like a teacher man.. you are very clever talking. Congrats.

[@Mypreworkoutiswiskey]

"You've subjected her to the slavery of your own imagination." That's so true and awesome.

[@pjgmorgan]

Another top notch video from Elliott Hulse!

[@johnndamascene]

So much truth in this Elliot. Keep it up man

[@dankdude92]

man thanks this is exactly what i needed to hear right now.

[@SquishySounds]

The outro song really complements your very strong points

[@Strapoudokoloarxidi]

be blessed Elliott!! Keep up the good work bro! Great vid as always! Lot of wisdom, knowledge, and sympathy!!!

[@alexanderkiely231]

Elliot, you are so articulate and well balanced, total inspiration. Keep it up man!

[@j3ffn4v4rr0]

Elliott, thanks for putting this out there. I'm really digging watching your vids, and had to comment on this one. Our society is really polarized about sexuality....you either hear "sex is dirty/wrong" or "do whatever you want, sexual freedom, fuck yeah!" But there's a third way, where without making anything "wrong" you simply apply discipline to get to a higher level.

[@kangill12]

I matured way more in last 6 months after watching Elliott's videos. All I can say is thanks !!

[@JackBrilla]

Lol I had to watch this, my boy Elliott knows how to break stuff down to make sure everyone understands. This dude has high intellects

[@KeikoMushi]

Pretty cool stuff, Elliot. A balanced look at the subject.

[@fv.d.l7134]

subbed to your channel. You're a wise man! Thnx for sharing your knowledge.

[@gochera832]

Makes sense and has given me something to think about. thanks for sharing the video man.

[@Kubiak04]

Currently fixing my mind as well and detaching from pornography after a year long stint of missing the point.. Gearing up now for the discipline it takes to only gratify my needs when only necessary

[@Cypher402]

WOW. Mind = blown. I'm so glad I found this channel...

[@SolitaryAnnihilation]

keep at it man, ur thoughts are exceptional

[@rohan22051991]

Man You are dropping words of wisdom here and there...Keep it up ellliot

[@MICHAELWILLIAMS-yn9fd]

elliott your the guy!!! thank you for the jewels your dropping for the young and old men, get it up bro.

[@Rythm123]

God bless you , i needed to hear this. Awesome that you somewhat quoted the Bible! i have never thought about this topic that way. very helpful!

[@jonrivera]

Everyone has different preferences in which they are to be enlightened. Personally I found this video to be very much worth my time.

[@mj3791]

Finally I found soemone incredibly smart on youtube, and what's even more surprising, the comments seem to make sense as well! Subbed! (y)

[@TrueDominguez]

question is, what is your registration of discharge?? i could start thinking a different thought, or just run outside. energy is discharged instead of me having to bust.

[@pavman42]

Very good analysis. This is so accurate. This is why we shouldn't rely on images (whether graven or mental). These things are illusory and are distorted by our internal processes as the image is not reality but we often internalize it and mentally believe it to be.

[@PnkAssDecepticon]

ELIOT IS VERY EDUCATED

[@Nimzowitz]

Good stuff! I just realized how complex the sexuality is, and how we can easily go wrong in so many ways. It's also a very important part of life.

[@Feroian]

True, although i believe he is so much better at what he is currently, doing.. being a coach.. Helping people out! Good job Elliott, I believe you're a world class role model to plenty of people out there.

[@jasperpaws24]

Good insight about subjective and objective thoughts!!

[@VOGGBROTHERS]

Wow Great video! Your channel and your workouttips are just great and useful. keep up the great work! :D